1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: It was a life changing moment for me, identifying that 2 00:00:02,879 --> 00:00:06,440 I was one hundred percent, without a doubt, addicted to creativity. 3 00:00:06,679 --> 00:00:10,800 I was putting in anywhere between fourteen and seventeen hours 4 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:15,560 a day into my radio career. Why well, it wasn't 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:17,640 because I was trying to stay away from my home life. No, 6 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:20,480 I wanted to get back to my family. It's because 7 00:00:20,519 --> 00:00:23,839 I needed to be creative and that was my outlet. 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:28,559 I am addicted to creativity, and I am not alone. 9 00:00:29,079 --> 00:00:31,480 Unplugged because we will always say yes to creativity. Totally 10 00:00:31,519 --> 00:00:33,799 uncut because we all make mistakes, so turn it into 11 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:37,479 a tool. This is Arrow unplugged. It's nothing new. I 12 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:40,399 like going to really weird places. I do. I just 13 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:43,840 love to do research and then share it. Maybe it's 14 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:45,920 the radio guy in me. Or how about that little 15 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,640 kid who sat in his bedroom in Billing's, Montana with 16 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,000 a mister microphone and said, I don't want to be 17 00:00:51,039 --> 00:00:53,399 a normal radio disc jockey. I just want to be 18 00:00:53,439 --> 00:00:57,320 a freak at this stuff. My latest research the classic 19 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:02,320 television show Bachelor Father that's on Antenna TV. They asked 20 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:07,319 the question, when did HI replace Hello? I sat up straight, 21 00:01:07,439 --> 00:01:10,400 really honestly identa wan, whoa, whoa, whoa. I never thought 22 00:01:10,439 --> 00:01:16,359 of that. When did saying hi replace hello? The change 23 00:01:16,439 --> 00:01:21,159 came at the introduction of the telephone. In fact, Alexander 24 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:25,200 Graham urged everybody to not say hi on this new 25 00:01:25,239 --> 00:01:30,400 communications device. He says, try saying hello. But let's go 26 00:01:30,439 --> 00:01:34,319 deeper than this. Here in the South, there is the 27 00:01:34,359 --> 00:01:37,879 occasional hello and yeah. Every now and then you'll hear hi. 28 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:41,280 But here in the South, it's the everyday thing to 29 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,159 hear hey, which was a culture shock thing for me 30 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,280 when I moved from Montana to North Carolina in nineteen 31 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:51,680 eighty five. I when someone said hey, that didn't mean high. 32 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:56,840 It was being called to the attention of There's no 33 00:01:56,959 --> 00:02:02,159 pinpointed time as to when hey came from being high, 34 00:02:02,439 --> 00:02:05,400 but experts say it became a national way to greet 35 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:07,560 others in the early nineteen ninetyes. So look at me 36 00:02:07,959 --> 00:02:10,400 right there in the South in nineteen eighty five, we 37 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:14,319 were practicing hey way before the rest of the world 38 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,520 caught up. So do we really want to dive into this? 39 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:20,199 Do we want to say so? When did people start 40 00:02:20,199 --> 00:02:24,280 saying yo or yup? Now? I think all we do 41 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,400 is we fist bump. And you know who gets the 42 00:02:27,439 --> 00:02:30,840 credit for the fist bump, President Obama. He was the 43 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:32,960 one that did it. A national television did the fist bump, 44 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:38,879 and they said, whoop. The whole world changed. Do the research. Hey, Sarah, 45 00:02:38,879 --> 00:02:40,960 this is the daily mess, the chronological walk through in 46 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:45,000 everyday world. I am a daily writer. Stuff like this, Man, 47 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,960 I love it because I know it's a conversation starter 48 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:51,479 in your life. It's that one thing that you can 49 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,080 say I didn't know, or for a moment you might 50 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:55,960 just take your mind off from the crud that's going 51 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:57,520 on around us and you can go, you know, I 52 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:01,080 feel better for hearing that this is the daily mass. 53 00:03:01,319 --> 00:03:04,560 We're going to hit a really super hardcore subject here today. 54 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,280 We go from saying hi and hey, end's up to 55 00:03:08,319 --> 00:03:12,719 is getting burned out? Part of getting older. For decades, 56 00:03:13,039 --> 00:03:15,439 you get into a mode of reaching out and into 57 00:03:15,479 --> 00:03:21,120 things that's always connected to everybody else's expectations, and all 58 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,639 of a sudden, one day you go, I'm done. I'm 59 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:29,000 burned out. I love writing daily because truth on a 60 00:03:29,039 --> 00:03:33,759 page is a physical act of releasing energy. Every single 61 00:03:33,879 --> 00:03:38,599 one of us face burnout quicker today because opportunity is 62 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:42,080 constantly growing around each and every one of us. When 63 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:45,680 people tell me that they hate change, I love going 64 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:49,159 into their story to study how often they make decisions 65 00:03:49,319 --> 00:03:53,080 to do something different, which leads to them admitting I 66 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:57,080 was just getting burned out. You know, I've got another question. 67 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:01,360 Were you getting burned out because you've shut down on 68 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:06,680 learning new things? It's the same grind day in and 69 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,319 day out, mainly because we feel secure by doing the 70 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:15,919 same thing. Then we get burned out. You know. Change 71 00:04:16,199 --> 00:04:20,000 it invites uncertainty. When's the payoff going to happen? Will 72 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,480 there be a payoff? I don't want to be this 73 00:04:22,519 --> 00:04:27,360 person anymore. And then here it comes, I'm burned out? 74 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:34,839 Oh what an ill? Feeling burned out is then connected 75 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,399 to Oh, I've got to go get another power drink. 76 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:39,759 I got to get some of that energy inside of me. 77 00:04:39,879 --> 00:04:42,920 Gatorade with their new power drink with two hundred milligrams 78 00:04:42,959 --> 00:04:47,000 of caffeine. That'll get you out of that burnout stage. 79 00:04:48,079 --> 00:04:50,360 What's it going to do with that heart though? You 80 00:04:50,399 --> 00:04:52,079 have to think about things like that, because I will 81 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:55,600 always say that my heart attack was connected to the 82 00:04:55,639 --> 00:04:58,399 power drinks. I had a case underneath my control board 83 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:00,319 and man, I was downing those things left and right. 84 00:05:00,399 --> 00:05:04,519 I was not playing a smart game at all. But 85 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,600 be careful when it comes to burnout. I do a 86 00:05:07,639 --> 00:05:11,959 defrag journal. When I start feeling burned out, I do 87 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:14,720 I whip out that book and I start asking myself 88 00:05:14,759 --> 00:05:16,920 some questions. What is it that you're truly feeling here? 89 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,759 Is it you're burned out? Or are you bored? Are 90 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:22,759 are you learning new tricks of the trade? Do you 91 00:05:22,959 --> 00:05:26,240 want to learn? Why don't you want to learn? And 92 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,120 I think one of the main reasons why, when it 93 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:31,160 comes to being in the business world, a decision maker's 94 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:36,319 position doesn't give me inspiration because those above the decision 95 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:40,360 makers are really beating the hell out of them post 96 00:05:40,399 --> 00:05:44,519 COVID nineteen. The way that they have to stay at 97 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:48,040 work when the people below them aren't showing up for work. 98 00:05:48,079 --> 00:05:50,000 I mean, somebody's got to be there, right. You can't 99 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,079 just close down the shop. You got to put in 100 00:05:52,399 --> 00:05:55,680 twelve to fourteen hours a day. And we've talked about this, 101 00:05:56,279 --> 00:06:00,199 We've talked about how I really put myself into every 102 00:06:00,199 --> 00:06:03,600 single job that I did and had nothing to really 103 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:06,839 show for it. What was the payoff? I wasn't getting 104 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,199 any sleep, family time? What was that my neighbors? Oh 105 00:06:10,199 --> 00:06:12,879 my god, how did they get so old so quickly? 106 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:18,160 Because I was doing that. I was putting everything that 107 00:06:18,199 --> 00:06:22,360 I had into that, and then I got burned out. 108 00:06:23,079 --> 00:06:24,600 There's something that I want you to do a little 109 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,639 bit of research on. And I can't be the only 110 00:06:26,639 --> 00:06:29,279 one who came up with this term, but I call 111 00:06:29,319 --> 00:06:33,360 it career suicide. Career suicide is that when you get 112 00:06:33,399 --> 00:06:37,639 so burned out, you start doing stupid stuff to get caught, 113 00:06:38,079 --> 00:06:40,319 and then when you get caught, you expect them to 114 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:45,319 terminate you. Career suicide. Have you gone through that? What 115 00:06:45,519 --> 00:06:49,639 was the repercussions of such a situation? Because burnout is 116 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:53,800 very real, especially today with so many choices and or 117 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,800 too many expectations, and you're going, I can't do it all. 118 00:06:58,639 --> 00:07:01,240 And when they keep pounding you the way that they 119 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:04,000 do because you have to hit a certain number, man, 120 00:07:04,399 --> 00:07:06,759 I will never forget because I just wanted to do 121 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:09,120 a real person's job. I've been in radio my entire life. 122 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,720 I've never had a real job. I just wanted to 123 00:07:12,759 --> 00:07:15,639 do a real person's job, mainly because Micro does it. 124 00:07:15,759 --> 00:07:18,920 Mike Row is a major inspiration in my life, so 125 00:07:18,959 --> 00:07:21,959 I wanted to go to FedEx to get a job. 126 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:24,639 They wanted to hire me, and they go, well, you 127 00:07:24,759 --> 00:07:27,480 have to be able to move one thousand or more 128 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:30,680 pieces of mail in an hour. Can you do that? 129 00:07:31,519 --> 00:07:35,120 I don't know. I've never done it before, and I 130 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:38,560 wouldn't put myself in that situation. And the reason why 131 00:07:38,959 --> 00:07:42,600 was because I didn't want to learn new tricks. I 132 00:07:42,639 --> 00:07:45,319 didn't know how. So I've spent the past two and 133 00:07:45,319 --> 00:07:49,720 a half years doing real people jobs and I'm learning that. 134 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:53,680 My God, there is a lot of sacrificing taking place, 135 00:07:54,279 --> 00:08:00,160 and it's too easy to get burned out. D frage 136 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:06,920 a daily written journal, meditation, frequency music, you can do this. 137 00:08:07,319 --> 00:08:09,800 It's easy to get into a burnout stage because it's 138 00:08:09,839 --> 00:08:12,079 easy to convince yourself I ain't doing it. I just 139 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:16,160 ain't doing it. I'm burned out, I'm aerl And that's 140 00:08:16,199 --> 00:08:16,959 the daily mess.