WEBVTT 1 00:00:06.320 --> 00:00:09.119 Welcome back to Vanity Farah. My name is Chris Farrah, 2 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:12.199 and today we are talking Nine to Day Fiance, Season twelve, 3 00:00:12.279 --> 00:00:15.679 episode thirteen. Do I Stay or Do I Go? It's 4 00:00:15.720 --> 00:00:19.839 part two, My babes, Hello, welcome back. I'm so excited 5 00:00:19.879 --> 00:00:23.800 to finish this episode. Let's talk about Thomas and Paula. 6 00:00:24.399 --> 00:00:29.559 So listen, we've had, you know, very mundane issues with 7 00:00:29.640 --> 00:00:32.039 them if you really think about what they've given us. 8 00:00:32.119 --> 00:00:36.359 It's too small of dining table, too small of closet. 9 00:00:36.719 --> 00:00:42.039 He doesn't like smells, she doesn't like meat, she likes miniatures. 10 00:00:42.920 --> 00:00:46.439 Then there was suddenly this huge storyline of like his family. 11 00:00:47.039 --> 00:00:52.960 But now we're back, and I think the problem that 12 00:00:53.039 --> 00:00:57.000 arises in this episode to me feels and I don't 13 00:00:57.000 --> 00:01:01.679 mean to be a broken record fake. Well let's get 14 00:01:01.679 --> 00:01:04.680 into it, okay, So we are cake tasting. You know, 15 00:01:04.719 --> 00:01:07.879 we got to see Katie and Josh's cake taste even 16 00:01:07.879 --> 00:01:10.079 though they didn't have a venue yet. Now are aunt 17 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:13.359 to Thomas and obviously Palace cake tasting, and you know 18 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:18.519 they are going full Californian honey, full California the one 19 00:01:18.599 --> 00:01:21.159 on one to the four or five because they're doing 20 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:24.280 a vegan and gluten free tasting Listen. I'm used to that. 21 00:01:25.079 --> 00:01:28.079 It's not crazy, but you know, here we are. She's vegan, 22 00:01:28.200 --> 00:01:34.640 he's gluten free. It's interesting. He seems he is a 23 00:01:34.640 --> 00:01:39.200 particular cat, isn't he? You know what's interesting? And I 24 00:01:39.239 --> 00:01:43.920 said this about the smell thing? Is that are you? 25 00:01:43.959 --> 00:01:46.040 So you do have it? A vergin? Oh? Sorry, a 26 00:01:46.120 --> 00:01:51.040 version two smells like sensorly they make you upset and 27 00:01:51.120 --> 00:01:53.920 like they you know, overwhelm you and you can't seem 28 00:01:54.120 --> 00:01:59.719 to think straight, and like, that's what's happening or you 29 00:01:59.719 --> 00:02:02.599 you are allergic to it and then you break out 30 00:02:02.599 --> 00:02:05.640 into hives and stuff. And if there are physical reactions 31 00:02:05.680 --> 00:02:08.759 like hives or throat swelling or whatnot, you got to 32 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:16.759 take allergy shots. I'm assuming that's just it's it doesn't 33 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:22.840 like seem like an honest to god problem. I would 34 00:02:22.840 --> 00:02:26.639 really need the producers to lead us into a doctor's 35 00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:29.479 office and then literally have an allergist be like, yeah, 36 00:02:29.479 --> 00:02:33.919 Thomas has smell anesia. Yeah, I know, a very rare 37 00:02:34.000 --> 00:02:36.919 case of smell anesia. And when he smells things it 38 00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:40.479 is a problem we all should worry about. No, Yeah, 39 00:02:40.560 --> 00:02:42.560 he's the kind of person that we have to change 40 00:02:42.560 --> 00:02:45.599 our entire lives because there is no treatment for him 41 00:02:45.639 --> 00:02:51.400 to get. So we collectively humankind has to stop wearing 42 00:02:51.400 --> 00:02:56.680 smells for this man anyway. So she guess what spray 43 00:02:56.719 --> 00:03:00.240 deodoran again? Uh, because she needs to, you know, not 44 00:03:00.479 --> 00:03:02.400 a sweat too much. I guess all over the place, 45 00:03:02.439 --> 00:03:05.360 and it's the aerosol kind. And so the morning of 46 00:03:05.520 --> 00:03:08.960 she sprayed her you know, secret, honey, aerosol. I don't 47 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:11.319 want to saying aerosol, that's what it is. And he 48 00:03:11.360 --> 00:03:13.800 got upset because he could smell it, and he like, 49 00:03:14.520 --> 00:03:16.840 she said, I'm sorry, but the way she said I'm 50 00:03:16.840 --> 00:03:20.199 sorry was very much like, oh, I'm sorry, Okay, I'm sorry, 51 00:03:20.240 --> 00:03:23.639 I sprayed my deodorant. Yeah, I'm sorry. I have to 52 00:03:23.680 --> 00:03:28.199 wear I wear deodorant. I'm sorry a little bit. She 53 00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:31.479 has our sarcastic kind of tone. Her cone is condescending, surely, 54 00:03:31.759 --> 00:03:33.879 but I'm not saying mine, isn't you know. It's like 55 00:03:33.960 --> 00:03:37.199 she won't say what she really wants to say, which 56 00:03:37.240 --> 00:03:40.680 is like, hey, Thomas, why don't we compromise. I won't 57 00:03:40.759 --> 00:03:44.120 wear that one like small, cheap smelling perfume you hate, 58 00:03:44.199 --> 00:03:47.159 But at the same time, like I'm gonna wear deodorant 59 00:03:47.599 --> 00:03:51.759 unless you want to right now take me to CBS 60 00:03:52.120 --> 00:03:57.400 and buy me a brand new product wardrobe unless you 61 00:03:57.439 --> 00:03:59.479 want to spend three hours right now, get your skin 62 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:02.520 app that you have to like. This is what I 63 00:04:02.560 --> 00:04:04.840 have to do, Chris Vera. You have to scan all 64 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:07.199 the products and see if you're allergic to the ingredients. 65 00:04:07.199 --> 00:04:09.199 And there's an app that likes scans for that will go. 66 00:04:09.599 --> 00:04:13.360 We'll get like, you know, all the deodorance, You'll scan it, 67 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:16.759 and if I can wear it, you'll buy it for me. 68 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:21.519 Because you're creating this, I just I don't you know, 69 00:04:21.560 --> 00:04:24.160 he's whatever coupless so but at the same time they're 70 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:27.519 doing something lighthearted, which is of course cake tasting. And 71 00:04:28.240 --> 00:04:32.800 we have such interesting conversation as frosting versus icing. Some 72 00:04:32.839 --> 00:04:35.720 people say frosting some people in the other parts of 73 00:04:35.720 --> 00:04:40.519 the country safe icing. I can't believe there's not more 74 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:43.399 interesting stuff like he why haven't we gone out with 75 00:04:43.439 --> 00:04:48.079 his friends in Long Beach to like some LBC bars, 76 00:04:48.120 --> 00:04:50.319 and seeing how he is with people and how she 77 00:04:50.519 --> 00:04:53.079 is with people, Like why haven't we gone out and 78 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:56.040 like done fun things? Why are we always like in 79 00:04:56.079 --> 00:05:01.839 his apartment or just like complaining about things. Okay, So basically, 80 00:05:01.959 --> 00:05:05.160 at this point, instead of being like, your allergy and 81 00:05:05.160 --> 00:05:07.079 your smell shit is really annoying, and you're not picking 82 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:08.439 up that. I don't want to deal with it with 83 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:12.360 my condescending tone, she suddenly turns a pivot that I 84 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:15.560 feel like is unnatural to her storyline, which is that 85 00:05:16.319 --> 00:05:20.839 she obviously getting married and she wants her family to come, 86 00:05:20.879 --> 00:05:23.920 and she's expecting that all eight of her family to come. 87 00:05:24.079 --> 00:05:26.839 Not only that, but she's truly expecting them all to 88 00:05:26.839 --> 00:05:29.839 be able to stay for free in his apartment. Now 89 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:33.279 we've already known that she hates his apartment. There's no 90 00:05:33.279 --> 00:05:35.920 dinning room table, there's hardly any closet space like we've 91 00:05:35.920 --> 00:05:38.240 been seeing that. So I don't understand a world in 92 00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:40.800 which this person who's been like in my country, I 93 00:05:40.839 --> 00:05:42.879 had more space, and in my country, you know, like 94 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:44.519 I lived better, and I just want to be able 95 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:45.879 to live the way I did in my country. Here 96 00:05:45.920 --> 00:05:50.160 like that mind frame to suddenly be like, all eight 97 00:05:50.199 --> 00:05:53.279 people are going to stay in this one bedroom and 98 00:05:53.319 --> 00:05:56.399 I'm not asking your permission, I'm announcing it because it's 99 00:05:56.439 --> 00:06:03.879 our apartment. There's just like not that's not a logical thing. 100 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:07.959 Let me say this. Of course, there are certain people 101 00:06:08.000 --> 00:06:10.079 that for sure, like a one bedroom is home for 102 00:06:10.240 --> 00:06:12.600 eight people. Okay, God bless, God bless it's the case 103 00:06:12.680 --> 00:06:16.199 for some. But I'm just saying for Paula's storyline where 104 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:17.879 she's like a boss ass bitch that has like a 105 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:20.920 you know, tattoo parlor and all these things. One other 106 00:06:20.959 --> 00:06:23.279 thing is that we're gonna get into this, like Pala 107 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:26.879 is very codependent from Thomas. She has never cut the 108 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:29.439 ubilical course. She you know, hangs out with her family 109 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:33.920 all the time. Interesting that in episode thirteen, why haven't 110 00:06:33.959 --> 00:06:40.279 we seen her calling, texting, facetiving her family? How come 111 00:06:40.360 --> 00:06:42.399 no one's like checking in on her and being like 112 00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:44.519 every day, being like, well, how is he treating you now? 113 00:06:44.600 --> 00:06:47.199 And I'm like, why not set that up? Suddenly now 114 00:06:47.240 --> 00:06:49.319 she's just gonna announce and demand that eight people live 115 00:06:49.319 --> 00:06:51.279 in this really small one bedroom apartment that wasn't good 116 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:53.240 enough for her, And suddenly she's just gonna assume that 117 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:55.439 everyone's gonna live there. And now she's gonna be like, 118 00:06:55.720 --> 00:06:58.560 so you're gonna have to allow all the smells. You're 119 00:06:58.600 --> 00:07:02.079 not gonna tell my family shit, they're gonna spray honey 120 00:07:02.680 --> 00:07:08.439 everything everywhere. They come with bottles of Colonne. They're Colonne salesmen. 121 00:07:09.680 --> 00:07:13.199 Remember Charlie, Red Blue, White Charlie. They come with it. 122 00:07:13.240 --> 00:07:17.680 They spray it all. Gina Ta Trey zor Opium Shallamar, 123 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:22.279 all the goods, all the smelliest, muskiest smells from the 124 00:07:22.360 --> 00:07:25.120 nineteen eighties. They come with them. They're gonna spray everywhere. 125 00:07:25.480 --> 00:07:28.279 I hope you're okay. We even got a little bit 126 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:37.480 of Stacy and Darcy's favorite Angel. Is it Angel or Alien? 127 00:07:37.639 --> 00:07:42.959 Maybe it's Alien. I think there's two perfumes anyway, Okay, 128 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:46.480 So we're like, okay, so you're setting us up for 129 00:07:46.560 --> 00:07:51.040 this situation, which means even if like how much money 130 00:07:51.079 --> 00:07:52.839 does Thomas have and how much money does Pala have, 131 00:07:53.000 --> 00:07:54.720 And why wouldn't they be able to just get an 132 00:07:54.759 --> 00:08:00.160 apartment or sorry, a hotel room for their family, right, 133 00:08:00.240 --> 00:08:02.240 Like that doesn't make sense. She's like, I justn't really 134 00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:03.399 want to be with them, a wake up in the 135 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:05.600 morning with them. Okay, Well, then you should rent an 136 00:08:05.600 --> 00:08:09.839 airb and B with two bedrooms and you go hang 137 00:08:09.879 --> 00:08:12.560 out with them and you get to experience a dining 138 00:08:12.639 --> 00:08:15.000 room table just like those gays have that live in 139 00:08:15.040 --> 00:08:19.279 the same building. How are the only social interactions that 140 00:08:19.319 --> 00:08:22.079 we've had with Thomas and Palla and anyone else besides 141 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:26.199 his family just those two lovely well interior decorating gaze? 142 00:08:30.319 --> 00:08:32.440 Are they coming to the wedding? Also? Okay, good bless? 143 00:08:32.440 --> 00:08:35.159 And also can they just can we? Why don't you 144 00:08:35.279 --> 00:08:37.960 have them go visit one of their like fabulous friends 145 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:40.480 and try and run out their apartment? Okay, god bless. 146 00:08:41.399 --> 00:08:43.000 You know, here's the thing. I don't mean to like 147 00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:45.919 be so combative about this, but it's just it feels 148 00:08:45.960 --> 00:08:50.960 so like cheap. I hate feeling cheap. Doesn't feel real. 149 00:08:51.120 --> 00:08:54.559 That's what's annoying to me about it. I'm okay, so 150 00:08:54.879 --> 00:08:58.840 let's sorry. Let's move on to Mallory. So Mallory and Rashi. 151 00:08:59.000 --> 00:09:02.039 Honey has gone back to where she needs to go 152 00:09:02.120 --> 00:09:04.320 to have some like alone time, and she's horse groom 153 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:07.519 and Honey with her friend Lynn, who is her riding instructor, 154 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:11.240 and she's like, I've always loved horses, you know, they're 155 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:13.960 really healing. I like just like calming my mind and 156 00:09:14.039 --> 00:09:16.320 just focusing on you know, like being with them and 157 00:09:16.360 --> 00:09:19.759 the one and too. I don't know, I as I said, 158 00:09:19.799 --> 00:09:22.960 horse wrote for like, let's just say six months in 159 00:09:23.000 --> 00:09:24.799 the COVID when I was trying to do things, and 160 00:09:24.840 --> 00:09:28.320 it is really really lovely and the best part. There's 161 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:30.679 two good parts about horse riding. A it is fun 162 00:09:30.720 --> 00:09:33.399 to like clean them. I like brushing them. I don't 163 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:35.960 like doing all of the like you know, different grooming 164 00:09:36.000 --> 00:09:38.080 techniques you think I would, but like no, I only 165 00:09:38.120 --> 00:09:41.159 want to like try and like pluck the stuff from 166 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:44.639 their hooves or whatever. But I love brushing a horse truly, 167 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:47.919 and they love it and I understand that with them, 168 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:50.559 and so it's a fun thing. And also the one 169 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:52.799 time you can like canter or trollop or whatever it 170 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:54.279 is with them, when you're like a debt dat debt 171 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:56.200 da dert, when your butt's going out of the saddle 172 00:09:56.240 --> 00:09:58.799 in the exact same rhythm, for sure, that's great. The 173 00:09:58.919 --> 00:10:02.039 other thing about horse riding is the amount of thigh 174 00:10:02.240 --> 00:10:04.519 and core strength and butt strength you have to have 175 00:10:04.600 --> 00:10:08.279 to do that well is so much more than you 176 00:10:08.279 --> 00:10:11.279 think it is. So when I was watching Mallory do that, 177 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:14.360 I was like, girl, get it, honey. Yes, we cut 178 00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:16.480 to him. He's also releasing the way that he likes 179 00:10:16.519 --> 00:10:20.240 to release. This is, which is woodworking. I find this charming. 180 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:22.440 He's very good with his hands, honey. He likes to saw, 181 00:10:22.519 --> 00:10:28.440 he likes to you know, screw you saw what I 182 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:31.879 did there? Halfway, I'm like, is Merca watching this with Edward? 183 00:10:31.919 --> 00:10:33.600 And Mercell watching him do this? And like, I bet 184 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:36.240 that motherfucker can make offense. I bet he can fix 185 00:10:36.279 --> 00:10:39.759 a fence, but he knows how to do it, she said, 186 00:10:39.799 --> 00:10:41.440 Looking at Edward. She's like, why did't I get someone 187 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:43.600 from Turkey? And I'm just kidding, horrible joke. And I 188 00:10:43.639 --> 00:10:45.840 like Edward a lot. But here we are. He's cooking. 189 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:49.039 He's cooking, he's fixing, he's doing something. He's making something 190 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:50.639 looks like a weird chair. I don't know what it's 191 00:10:50.679 --> 00:10:53.200 gonna be, honey, but he know a throne for the 192 00:10:53.399 --> 00:10:56.320 castle in which he's never gonna be king of. She's queen, Okay, 193 00:10:56.360 --> 00:10:59.559 she owns it, so that's why. But we get a 194 00:10:59.600 --> 00:11:01.559 great scene, which I've been waiting for. You know, I 195 00:11:01.600 --> 00:11:03.840 love a FaceTime scene from a family, even if it's 196 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:05.879 just going to be recounting what has already happened. I 197 00:11:06.000 --> 00:11:09.279 like to see people's reactions. Okay, So his brother calls him. 198 00:11:09.279 --> 00:11:11.720 One of his hot brothers okay and calls him on 199 00:11:11.759 --> 00:11:15.240 FaceTime and they talk and he says he is overwhelmed because, 200 00:11:15.240 --> 00:11:17.720 you know, obviously last episode they talked about what they're 201 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:20.440 she would actually want to have a baby, and she 202 00:11:20.480 --> 00:11:22.240 brought up the fact that she's had a lot of trauma, 203 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:24.799 and he brought up the fact that he never knew 204 00:11:24.799 --> 00:11:27.519 this about her. He knew that she had trauma, but 205 00:11:27.519 --> 00:11:30.559 that he wasn't aware of her feelings about not wanting 206 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:33.559 to have a baby, and he really wants one. Guess what, 207 00:11:34.799 --> 00:11:38.120 here's a culture that wants babies. He wants his parents 208 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:40.159 to see the babies. He wants his brothers and sisters 209 00:11:40.159 --> 00:11:42.440 to know his babies. He wants babies and nieces and 210 00:11:42.480 --> 00:11:47.759 nephews and cousins all that situation. So the brother's like, 211 00:11:47.799 --> 00:11:54.080 why did she tell you that before? And he's like, yeah, yeah, 212 00:11:54.919 --> 00:11:58.240 why didn't you tell me that before? So then they 213 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:02.799 go into her venue, you know, because obviously we have 214 00:12:02.879 --> 00:12:05.480 to start making plans. We are picking cakes, we are 215 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:08.799 getting last things about the dresses, we're getting the venues hopefully. 216 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:12.159 So this venue is Soup's Cute And there are two 217 00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:16.000 employees that come to what looks like kind of plantation 218 00:12:16.080 --> 00:12:18.440 and I'm not quite sure, but whatever. We meet them, 219 00:12:18.480 --> 00:12:22.240 Garrett and Alexandra, and she's wearing one of those classic 220 00:12:22.320 --> 00:12:25.039 like Frankies prairie dresses that all the girls have, where 221 00:12:25.080 --> 00:12:28.679 there's like a smock situation empire waste and like, you know, 222 00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:30.559 a fitted waist at the same time, you know, I'm 223 00:12:30.600 --> 00:12:34.720 talking about at every girl. All the girls had them 224 00:12:34.799 --> 00:12:37.080 last year. I feel like they're coming out of them now. 225 00:12:37.799 --> 00:12:40.480 So this venue has a lot of different on sites 226 00:12:40.559 --> 00:12:42.399 for the actual wedding. You can do one in the front, 227 00:12:42.440 --> 00:12:44.639 but it's real big, and so the back has like 228 00:12:44.679 --> 00:12:46.879 an enchanted garden and they walk around and they're like, okay, 229 00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:50.120 let's pick a site. And Mallory sees this beautiful fountain 230 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:51.960 and she's like, we do the fountain. They're like yeah, 231 00:12:52.360 --> 00:12:55.240 they're like great, great rash rashiet. What do you think 232 00:12:55.279 --> 00:13:00.559 of the fountain? He's like, well, Lucy, So, just like 233 00:13:00.600 --> 00:13:02.960 in the chapel with Meadow and Debbie, the people that 234 00:13:02.960 --> 00:13:05.240 are showing them around sends tension and then have to 235 00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:09.840 be like, okay, well why don't we leave exit stage left? 236 00:13:10.120 --> 00:13:13.519 You guys talk on camera. We've done our bit. Hopefully 237 00:13:13.559 --> 00:13:18.960 we're getting paid like fifty bucks for this, so he 238 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:20.720 doesn't feel like he's, you know, his heart to see 239 00:13:20.759 --> 00:13:26.320 her for this venue showing because he's really upset about 240 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:33.320 the kids. He really wants kids. He's like, my family, 241 00:13:33.440 --> 00:13:35.320 I talked to them, thinks it's crazy that you just 242 00:13:35.399 --> 00:13:39.000 talked about it now. And she's like, well, I just 243 00:13:39.639 --> 00:13:42.399 wanted to pick the right time when we were alone 244 00:13:42.759 --> 00:13:44.600 and I was comfortable, and I was like, that was 245 00:13:44.639 --> 00:13:50.919 the right time. You've girl, you've been coming to Turkey 246 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:53.960 by yourself. You could have easily had this conversation like 247 00:13:54.000 --> 00:13:58.519 pre him coming to America. It's always so funny when 248 00:13:58.519 --> 00:13:59.960 people are like, yeah, I wanted to wait to see 249 00:14:00.039 --> 00:14:02.399 you in real life when it's like a long distance relationship. 250 00:14:02.679 --> 00:14:04.559 I guess it's because in my mind, it's like, what 251 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:07.840 are you doing if not talking? Like you don't see 252 00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:10.399 each other for like months on end. All you do 253 00:14:10.519 --> 00:14:12.840 is talk in a FaceTime? What do you do to 254 00:14:12.879 --> 00:14:16.240 fill that space and communication? If not to be like, well, 255 00:14:16.320 --> 00:14:20.279 let's talk about the things. Do you want kids? What's 256 00:14:20.279 --> 00:14:24.120 your religious life? Like? How important is that to you? 257 00:14:25.519 --> 00:14:28.600 Is your mom really intense? Do you listen to every 258 00:14:28.600 --> 00:14:37.120 word she says, or your dad anyway. So I feel 259 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:41.519 like Mallori's I guess excuse for that was self serving, 260 00:14:42.639 --> 00:14:44.919 because often when someone has a secret or something they 261 00:14:44.919 --> 00:14:46.240 don't want to share, they're like, well, I does you 262 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:48.320 need to wait to the right time. But the right 263 00:14:48.399 --> 00:14:51.919 time for them is when they feel comfortable sharing something 264 00:14:51.960 --> 00:14:55.720 they feel uncomfortable sharing. But that has nothing to do 265 00:14:56.279 --> 00:15:01.039 with time and space for the other person. Time is 266 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:04.720 such a subjective thing. I was waiting for the right 267 00:15:04.879 --> 00:15:11.320 time for you. Time exists for an individual and for 268 00:15:12.399 --> 00:15:17.440 the world at large, and then also for individually other people. 269 00:15:20.120 --> 00:15:21.360 I don't know. I think it's such a cop out. 270 00:15:21.399 --> 00:15:24.320 We don't talk about it linguistically. Okay, So he just 271 00:15:24.320 --> 00:15:26.279 starts crying. He's like, I just don't feel like you 272 00:15:26.320 --> 00:15:28.960 love me because you want to have a prenup with me. 273 00:15:29.039 --> 00:15:31.200 You don't care about that. You don't care about like 274 00:15:31.799 --> 00:15:34.519 having a child with me, and like seeing my face 275 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:37.720 on a little baby's face. You don't want to make 276 00:15:37.759 --> 00:15:39.879 little versions of me. You don't think I'm good enough 277 00:15:39.879 --> 00:15:42.720 to make little versions of me. That's what it feels like, 278 00:15:42.720 --> 00:15:45.320 like you don't respect my family enough or me enough 279 00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:47.200 to know that we have to like keep this hot 280 00:15:47.240 --> 00:15:52.480 bloodline going, so let's like get to it. I've been 281 00:15:52.519 --> 00:15:56.360 wanting to make babies, you know, and she's sort of like, wow, 282 00:15:56.399 --> 00:15:59.480 he's really quick to throw this away. And I want 283 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:06.320 to be like, well, I think that we have an 284 00:16:06.320 --> 00:16:11.919 idea of what our lives feel like they should go, 285 00:16:12.279 --> 00:16:14.399 and then we have to be open to the unexpected. 286 00:16:14.480 --> 00:16:16.600 But you know, when you're like making these decisions like 287 00:16:16.639 --> 00:16:18.080 where you're going to go to college or what are 288 00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:19.799 you going to study, there has to be something that 289 00:16:19.840 --> 00:16:23.840 you have like a guiding light for I certainly don't 290 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:25.840 think kids are the end all be all. I have none, 291 00:16:25.960 --> 00:16:29.240 But at the same time, it's like that is one 292 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:33.720 of those things like where do you want to live, 293 00:16:33.960 --> 00:16:35.559 do you want to have kids, what does it look like? 294 00:16:35.600 --> 00:16:36.919 Do you want to be by your family? Like there's 295 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:39.360 just certain things that, like, you know, you get to choose, 296 00:16:40.480 --> 00:16:41.879 and it would be nice to be like I just 297 00:16:41.879 --> 00:16:44.720 fall in love with someone and whatever happens happens. But 298 00:16:45.919 --> 00:16:49.120 if you but if you truly live like that, and 299 00:16:49.200 --> 00:16:52.960 you don't like honor the things you've wanted or needed 300 00:16:53.039 --> 00:16:55.440 or thought you wanted, or at least reflect on them, 301 00:16:55.480 --> 00:16:57.240 then you know, five years down the line when you're 302 00:16:57.240 --> 00:16:59.240 married and this person don't be wanting to have kids, 303 00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:01.039 and every time you hang out with kids, you're like, 304 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:04.359 you know, hearts palpitating out of your chest. You're gonna 305 00:17:04.359 --> 00:17:09.599 have resentment. So what good does it do? You know? 306 00:17:09.640 --> 00:17:11.680 I don't know. It just says, yeah, it's a very 307 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:15.720 personal choice. Would they say personal choice? All right, my babes, 308 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:18.920 Let's move on to Shaye and Annabelle. Honey, this was 309 00:17:18.960 --> 00:17:25.440 a big one. This was a big one, and I 310 00:17:25.559 --> 00:17:29.559 hate to say that it also felt convoluted, Like the 311 00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:34.079 way in which I want Alison and annabel to come 312 00:17:34.119 --> 00:17:37.359 together is I want it to be like a more 313 00:17:37.640 --> 00:17:42.680 organic way that happens like in real time. It does 314 00:17:42.759 --> 00:17:46.160 feel like the producers this episode of the season were like, Okay, 315 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:51.599 we know we have certain adversaries like Brandy and Rash. 316 00:17:51.839 --> 00:17:54.799 We know we have certain adversaries like Annabelle and we 317 00:17:54.880 --> 00:18:00.599 have Alison. So around episode thirteen twelve, start to have 318 00:18:00.680 --> 00:18:03.480 them come together through some means so that you know, 319 00:18:03.519 --> 00:18:06.039 we can like move the story, Laine. So obviously Brandy, 320 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:09.960 you know, takes Rash aside for the premup conversation, and 321 00:18:09.960 --> 00:18:12.240 then Rash is like he's a good guy. So now 322 00:18:12.279 --> 00:18:16.079 we have a situation where Annabel has no friends and 323 00:18:16.200 --> 00:18:19.240 certainly hasn't met anyone worth talking about. Literally is only 324 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:22.319 we've seen talk to Angie, talk to Alison, and that 325 00:18:22.359 --> 00:18:24.279 one couple that owns the bar, maybe or maybe not 326 00:18:24.359 --> 00:18:26.960 with shit. So then they have she has to get 327 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:29.319 a veil. She already bought her wedding dress online. It 328 00:18:29.359 --> 00:18:31.920 was two hundred dollars and it looks great, and I 329 00:18:31.920 --> 00:18:34.400 thought it was so like, I was happy for Annabel 330 00:18:34.519 --> 00:18:36.680 because you know, I think it'd be kind of a weird, 331 00:18:36.720 --> 00:18:39.359 shittier thing for her to come out and be like, well, 332 00:18:39.400 --> 00:18:40.960 you know, you've been married a couple of times. I've 333 00:18:40.960 --> 00:18:43.480 been married a couple of times. Please drop ten k 334 00:18:43.720 --> 00:18:47.440 on Panina Tornay. You're flying me out to Kleinfelds. I 335 00:18:47.480 --> 00:18:49.960 have a hook up. Her name is Marisa, and they're 336 00:18:50.000 --> 00:18:52.599 not giving me a discount. That's what I want, that's 337 00:18:52.599 --> 00:18:54.359 what I deserve. If you want to marry me, buy 338 00:18:54.440 --> 00:18:58.480 me Panina Tornay unlined. So no, but she gets a 339 00:18:58.519 --> 00:19:02.799 two hundred dollars lay dress. It's really lovely, beautiful. She 340 00:19:02.880 --> 00:19:05.480 goes to this lovely southern shop. The girl that's the 341 00:19:05.519 --> 00:19:09.640 sales associate has a very high voice, Allison saying absolutely nothing. 342 00:19:09.680 --> 00:19:12.200 Now I'm a ride there. Shaye picks up Allison and 343 00:19:12.319 --> 00:19:14.559 Alison goes to town in the back of the car 344 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:16.759 and starts to be like, I don't know why I'm here, 345 00:19:17.119 --> 00:19:20.480 and we're kind of like us too, babe. She's like, 346 00:19:20.519 --> 00:19:22.400 why is this is this wedding even happening? And she's like, 347 00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:24.480 why would you say that? Of course it is. She's like, well, 348 00:19:25.160 --> 00:19:26.559 I don't want it to so I guess I wonder 349 00:19:26.559 --> 00:19:28.480 why would still happen if me? The queen says no. 350 00:19:28.559 --> 00:19:30.920 We're like, okay, Alison, God bless, we don't know why 351 00:19:30.960 --> 00:19:33.640 you're here, though. She's like, I just don't like Annabelle. 352 00:19:33.720 --> 00:19:36.400 She's a bitch. She's always a bitch. She like disrespected 353 00:19:36.440 --> 00:19:38.839 my church, my God, my Jesus, and you don't do 354 00:19:38.880 --> 00:19:41.519 that around Alison. We're like, fuck you, Alison, shut up, 355 00:19:41.960 --> 00:19:48.720 and annabel says nothing, says not one thing sits there. 356 00:19:49.119 --> 00:19:51.880 I mean she I don't know through this, some sort 357 00:19:51.880 --> 00:20:00.759 of restraint that I've never known I'll never know, says nothing. Oh, 358 00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:02.880 I have missed a whole part. So that's the part 359 00:20:02.920 --> 00:20:05.160 that I wanted to talk about now. Of course, before 360 00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:07.640 they go veil shopping, there was a whole situation where 361 00:20:08.039 --> 00:20:10.359 you know, Annabel's making Shade do the working out and 362 00:20:10.400 --> 00:20:12.200 like the smoothies drinking. So there's a lot of like 363 00:20:12.559 --> 00:20:14.880 zoomba he's doing, and by a lot of zoomba, he 364 00:20:14.960 --> 00:20:17.279 starts to do a couple movements, maybe have a grape vine, 365 00:20:17.599 --> 00:20:20.240 and gets upset. It's because Shye knows that those deer 366 00:20:20.279 --> 00:20:23.200 heads are right behind him, judging him, being like, motherfucker, 367 00:20:23.240 --> 00:20:25.400 you thought that you got us. You thought that you 368 00:20:25.440 --> 00:20:27.640 would because you shot us and put our heads on 369 00:20:27.680 --> 00:20:30.480 the wall. Now we get to be here permanently and 370 00:20:30.519 --> 00:20:34.119 watch the fuckery you're doing a grape vine in zoomba. 371 00:20:34.680 --> 00:20:38.400 So he says he sare and we're like no, okay, 372 00:20:38.559 --> 00:20:40.480 and he's like because you didn't live me stretch and 373 00:20:40.519 --> 00:20:43.680 we're like, oh right, buddy. So then yeah, she's like, 374 00:20:43.720 --> 00:20:46.680 I know it makes you feel better. Bathtime scrubby dub 375 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:50.839 dub and that tubby tub tub honey rabbit ducky, you're 376 00:20:51.039 --> 00:20:56.119 the um you make bath time lots of fun. Okay, 377 00:20:57.319 --> 00:21:01.079 that was my first song of the day and I'm 378 00:21:01.079 --> 00:21:04.720 still wearing that laud mic. So yeah, you know, that 379 00:21:04.839 --> 00:21:07.640 is her diet regime is, and I get it. I 380 00:21:07.640 --> 00:21:12.599 think it's a good one. Workouts and neutral bullets, smoothies. Now, 381 00:21:12.599 --> 00:21:14.440 I don't know if she's putting half a banana in it. 382 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:16.480 I don't know if she's putting some protein in it. 383 00:21:16.519 --> 00:21:18.799 I want to know what her recipe is. Though it 384 00:21:18.839 --> 00:21:24.799 looks white, creamy, so it looks vanilla. I hazard that 385 00:21:24.839 --> 00:21:27.000 she could just like stuff, just have some kale and 386 00:21:27.000 --> 00:21:28.960 spinach in there, and just put a bunch of yummy things. 387 00:21:28.960 --> 00:21:31.519 You don't even taste the veggies, but it'll just, you know, 388 00:21:31.599 --> 00:21:34.480 make it look like there's something worthwhile. It doesn't look 389 00:21:34.480 --> 00:21:38.359 like an ice cream milkshake. So basically now is when 390 00:21:38.400 --> 00:21:42.880 I'm so sorry. Is when they decide they have to 391 00:21:42.920 --> 00:21:45.079 go bail shopping and Shaye's like, well, you might as 392 00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:47.359 well bring Allison because you guys got to get you know, 393 00:21:48.279 --> 00:21:51.079 your ship's aligned or whatever, and Annabel doesn't say anything. 394 00:21:51.079 --> 00:21:52.359 And then of course we get in the car when 395 00:21:52.400 --> 00:21:54.519 Alison gets picked up and Allison is like she's a bitch, 396 00:21:54.559 --> 00:21:57.720 and Annabel is like, I'm not saying anything. We're like, wow, 397 00:21:57.960 --> 00:22:02.599 a lot of strength there. He's just like, well, I 398 00:22:02.759 --> 00:22:06.359 picked you up, and we're you know, we guys, you 399 00:22:06.400 --> 00:22:08.720 gotta get over this bridge. You gotta nip this in 400 00:22:08.759 --> 00:22:11.119 the butt and try and make amends. She's like, she 401 00:22:11.160 --> 00:22:13.359