WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.040 --> 00:00:19.000 Cancel high canclage. It's not sorry. 2 00:00:19.320 --> 00:00:22.359 What's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? 3 00:00:22.800 --> 00:00:25.160 If you're hearing this episode, then you are meant to 4 00:00:25.160 --> 00:00:28.920 be here, So keep listening on that Bitch Is Positive podcast. 5 00:00:29.039 --> 00:00:33.000 Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, We're gonna cry, 6 00:00:33.640 --> 00:00:37.119 but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered 7 00:00:37.200 --> 00:00:41.880 positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. 8 00:00:42.359 --> 00:00:45.840 On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so 9 00:00:45.880 --> 00:00:48.920 we can fully step into exactly who we came here 10 00:00:49.039 --> 00:00:53.039 to be. Today, we're going to be discussing dating apps. 11 00:00:53.119 --> 00:00:55.960 I recently posted about getting off dating apps, and I've 12 00:00:55.960 --> 00:01:00.399 gotten so many responses of you beautiful positive bitches wanting 13 00:01:00.439 --> 00:01:03.759 me to describe and put into words what's actually going 14 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:06.040 on in the subtle, energetic field. 15 00:01:06.319 --> 00:01:07.719 So that is what we're going to do. 16 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:11.079 I'm also going to be discussing false idols, because I 17 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:13.840 think that really ties in with dating apps. We're going 18 00:01:13.879 --> 00:01:17.560 to be talking about attracting love, divine timing, and so 19 00:01:17.920 --> 00:01:21.760 much more. 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We have 57 00:03:12.960 --> 00:03:15.599 about a month and a few days left of twenty 58 00:03:15.639 --> 00:03:18.319 twenty four. If you want to walk into twenty twenty five, 59 00:03:18.680 --> 00:03:21.960 new energy, new you, new reality, you know what to do. 60 00:03:22.199 --> 00:03:26.120 GM me look at these courses. It's go time. Of course, 61 00:03:26.280 --> 00:03:29.680 we cannot just end the year without anything happening in 62 00:03:29.719 --> 00:03:32.759 the sky, because that would be too boring. Oh my god, 63 00:03:33.159 --> 00:03:35.599 So what do we have going on? Well, starting on 64 00:03:35.800 --> 00:03:39.360 November twenty fifth, we have mercury retrograde. Let's just take 65 00:03:39.400 --> 00:03:43.039 a moment to have the astrological weather report. Can we 66 00:03:43.120 --> 00:03:44.000 if that's okay with you? 67 00:03:44.080 --> 00:03:44.400 Thank you? 68 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:48.800 So till December fifteenth, we have mercury in retrograde. What 69 00:03:48.840 --> 00:03:53.000 does that actually mean? It's just an optical illusion where 70 00:03:53.199 --> 00:03:56.879 mercury appears to move backward in its orbit, and it 71 00:03:56.919 --> 00:03:59.919 happens three to four times a year. What is the 72 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:03.240 mean for us? Of course it affects us as above 73 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:06.520 so below the law of correspondence. What happens during mercury 74 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:11.599 retrograde is it's a really amazing time to reflect. And 75 00:04:11.639 --> 00:04:14.439 that's why we're reflecting today. This is what we're meant 76 00:04:14.479 --> 00:04:18.959 to be doing during a mercury retrograde. It appears that 77 00:04:19.000 --> 00:04:24.199 things from our past tend to pop back up. Patterns, habits, people, exes, 78 00:04:24.879 --> 00:04:30.399 things that we need to reconsider, reanalyze and decide. How 79 00:04:30.439 --> 00:04:32.600 do I want to move forward with this? Did I 80 00:04:32.680 --> 00:04:36.040 make the best decision I could have made for myself 81 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:38.399 at that time? And how do I want to show 82 00:04:38.480 --> 00:04:40.000 up now? How do I want to show up? I 83 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:42.680 want to show up as her ha ha, I am 84 00:04:42.720 --> 00:04:44.680 pointing to my book. If you can't see, if you're 85 00:04:44.680 --> 00:04:47.199 not watching on YouTube, A lot of people just love 86 00:04:47.399 --> 00:04:51.480 to fear monger during a mercury retrograde. I personally love 87 00:04:51.519 --> 00:04:55.000 mercury retrogrades because every time one of them happens, I 88 00:04:55.120 --> 00:04:58.680 happen to have an amazing transformation. Why because I know 89 00:04:58.839 --> 00:05:02.519 how to use that energy and transmute it to my advantage. Again, 90 00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:04.480 this is why you want to take the Art of 91 00:05:04.519 --> 00:05:06.120 Alchemy course so you can learn. 92 00:05:05.959 --> 00:05:06.879 How to do this too. 93 00:05:07.720 --> 00:05:11.600 It's just a boost of energy, and it's allowing you 94 00:05:11.720 --> 00:05:15.519 to clean the slate, to refocus, to reenergize, and to 95 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.600 re examine how you're showing up in the world. It's 96 00:05:19.600 --> 00:05:22.240 a beautiful time to be alive. Do not be afraid 97 00:05:22.279 --> 00:05:25.879 of it. Use the energy to really get clear about 98 00:05:25.920 --> 00:05:29.639 how you want to move forward in dating, in relationships, 99 00:05:29.680 --> 00:05:32.319 in your home life, in your career. How are you 100 00:05:32.399 --> 00:05:35.160 feeling with what you've built thus far this year, and 101 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:38.079 how do you want to move forward in twenty twenty five. 102 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:41.360 It's actually the perfect time for mercury retrograde, right at 103 00:05:41.360 --> 00:05:44.279 the end of the year, so we can re examine, reanalyze, 104 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:47.360 and then refocus our energy in a way that's going 105 00:05:47.439 --> 00:05:50.800 to work for us rather than deplete us. So how beautiful, 106 00:05:51.079 --> 00:05:53.920 as per usual, everything is working out for us and 107 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:54.959 not happening to us. 108 00:05:55.120 --> 00:05:57.360 Ooh, it's a good day to be alive. 109 00:05:58.040 --> 00:06:02.079 Okay, let's really get into today's episode now. I've had 110 00:06:02.199 --> 00:06:05.279 so many people reach out to me regarding dating apps 111 00:06:05.360 --> 00:06:08.519 saying the exact same thing that I was saying, that 112 00:06:08.720 --> 00:06:10.480 it's pretty. 113 00:06:10.199 --> 00:06:14.839 Much soul crushing. Oops, we after. 114 00:06:14.720 --> 00:06:17.839 Owned and then we found out that it's soul crushing. 115 00:06:18.639 --> 00:06:22.439 The more you know, Welcome to my channel. I do 116 00:06:22.680 --> 00:06:25.439 just want to say disclaimer. My ex that I was 117 00:06:25.439 --> 00:06:27.600 with for seven years, I met on a dating app. 118 00:06:27.800 --> 00:06:30.240 So many people meet on dating apps and get married 119 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:32.680 and they're beautiful and they work out. I have people 120 00:06:32.720 --> 00:06:34.879 in my family who've met on dating apps and they've 121 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:38.800 met amazing people. Dating apps can and do work for people. 122 00:06:39.399 --> 00:06:42.319 They in themselves are not bad nor good. It's just 123 00:06:42.360 --> 00:06:45.279 a tool. And I do believe that the divine if 124 00:06:45.279 --> 00:06:47.079 it's the right season at the right time, and your 125 00:06:47.120 --> 00:06:49.959 person is ready and you're ready, I do believe the 126 00:06:50.079 --> 00:06:52.519 dating apps is a tool that the divine will use 127 00:06:52.560 --> 00:06:54.079 to connect you and your person. 128 00:06:54.720 --> 00:06:55.639 They are not bad. 129 00:06:56.240 --> 00:07:01.319 However, this season of my life is not resonant with 130 00:07:01.399 --> 00:07:03.360 the dating apps, and that is what I want to 131 00:07:03.399 --> 00:07:06.439 talk about with you. I actually don't think I'll ever 132 00:07:06.480 --> 00:07:08.959 go on a dating app. Ever, again, I don't want 133 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:12.800 to use that as a bridge to connect with my 134 00:07:12.959 --> 00:07:15.680 person because of all the things that. 135 00:07:15.680 --> 00:07:16.319 It comes with. 136 00:07:16.639 --> 00:07:19.800 Just because I'm talking about dating apps and I'm saying 137 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:22.480 I don't want to use them doesn't mean you should 138 00:07:22.480 --> 00:07:26.319 just delete your dating apps. You need to learn to 139 00:07:26.399 --> 00:07:30.160 trust your own body's wisdom. You hear me speak, you 140 00:07:30.199 --> 00:07:32.319 take it with a grain of salt. You hear me speak. 141 00:07:32.360 --> 00:07:35.120 It either resonates with you or it does not. I 142 00:07:35.160 --> 00:07:37.920 am not the ruler of your life. You are, so 143 00:07:38.079 --> 00:07:40.800 you need to feel into your body. Does this feel 144 00:07:40.839 --> 00:07:44.160 constrictive or does it feel like I am able to expand? 145 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:48.800 You gotta start to listen to your body and what 146 00:07:48.959 --> 00:07:52.800 it's telling you, because your body is sending you messages. 147 00:07:52.879 --> 00:07:56.399 Twenty four seven. What I found with the dating apps 148 00:07:56.519 --> 00:08:00.240 is it simply was not an equal, energetic exchange, and 149 00:08:00.399 --> 00:08:04.079 a lot of it did not feel genuine. I literally 150 00:08:04.199 --> 00:08:06.759 had a man straight up tell me, this is a 151 00:08:06.759 --> 00:08:08.600 man also who is not dumb. 152 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:10.240 He is in therapy. 153 00:08:10.720 --> 00:08:15.759 He understands a lot of the psychology behind dating apps 154 00:08:15.759 --> 00:08:18.959 and himself and the world at large. He told me 155 00:08:19.079 --> 00:08:22.000 to my face that at this point he was using 156 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:26.279 dating apps just for validation, for ego hits, for a 157 00:08:26.319 --> 00:08:32.200 boost of dopamine. And to me, that feels too flimsy. 158 00:08:32.279 --> 00:08:34.639 It does not feel like a solid foundation. 159 00:08:35.039 --> 00:08:37.200 I'm kind of shocked. Anyone's even why are you telling 160 00:08:37.240 --> 00:08:37.480 me this? 161 00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:40.720 I will say I have an effect on people where 162 00:08:40.720 --> 00:08:42.440 they just spill all their secrets. 163 00:08:42.600 --> 00:08:43.759 But uh yeah, I was. 164 00:08:43.759 --> 00:08:47.519 Like, that's a weird thing to tell me, as I'm 165 00:08:47.559 --> 00:08:49.240 someone you've met through the dating apps. 166 00:08:49.279 --> 00:08:51.919 But okay, I'll ride, I'll drop it down, Thank you 167 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:52.519 so much. 168 00:08:52.639 --> 00:08:58.519 Anyway, Uh, I think that the dating apps allow a 169 00:08:58.519 --> 00:09:01.960 lot of men and women and I'm sure to bounce 170 00:09:02.039 --> 00:09:05.360 from one person to another and just get cheap dopamine. 171 00:09:05.399 --> 00:09:09.440 Cheap dopamine, cheap dopamine. Oh, this person liked me dopamine. Oh, 172 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.120 this person liked me dopamine. And I think that blocks 173 00:09:13.240 --> 00:09:16.639 us from forming genuine connections because the dating apps are 174 00:09:16.679 --> 00:09:20.679 becoming a video game, it's becoming Instagram, it's becoming just 175 00:09:20.759 --> 00:09:26.039 dopamine hit after dopamine hit, and instead of people forging true, real, deep, 176 00:09:26.159 --> 00:09:29.720 genuine connections, they are getting addicted to the dopamine hit. 177 00:09:29.759 --> 00:09:31.480 And that is not allowing. 178 00:09:31.080 --> 00:09:35.799 For flourishing to happen in a lot of these circumstances. 179 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:41.039 I started to just feel grossed out from all of this. 180 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:43.399 I started to feel grossed out because I could feel 181 00:09:43.440 --> 00:09:46.399 the intention from the person across from me, and it 182 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:50.440 did not feel genuine. From my perspective, what I was 183 00:09:50.559 --> 00:09:53.639 experiencing is for a lot of these men, it was 184 00:09:53.679 --> 00:09:56.039 a dopamine hit for them, and then for me it 185 00:09:56.080 --> 00:09:57.240 was simply a distraction. 186 00:09:58.200 --> 00:09:59.240 Oh, I don't feel like doing this. 187 00:09:59.279 --> 00:10:02.519 I can just go talk to someone that's easier, that's 188 00:10:02.559 --> 00:10:06.559 easier than me figuring out X, Y and Z. I 189 00:10:06.720 --> 00:10:11.360 started to feel that there were so many conversations I 190 00:10:11.440 --> 00:10:14.519 was having with these men, and a lot of them 191 00:10:14.559 --> 00:10:19.440 weren't really leading anywhere, and I could just feel they 192 00:10:19.440 --> 00:10:21.519 weren't right for me. So then I would be saying 193 00:10:21.519 --> 00:10:23.240 to myself, what am I even doing? Because I know 194 00:10:23.320 --> 00:10:25.759 this person is just not it. And because so many 195 00:10:25.799 --> 00:10:28.600 of these conversations were building up, I started to feel 196 00:10:28.600 --> 00:10:32.000 like there was little energetic cords all pulling on me 197 00:10:32.039 --> 00:10:35.039 from my neck, from my back, from my lower back, 198 00:10:35.600 --> 00:10:40.480 and I started to feel really depleted. I could feel 199 00:10:40.600 --> 00:10:44.759 these parasitic energies just ripping my energy away from me, 200 00:10:45.360 --> 00:10:48.120 and there was no return on investment because the conversation 201 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:51.840 wasn't actually going anywhere, and what they were replying was 202 00:10:51.919 --> 00:10:55.360 not fulfilling at all. It was more like asking questions 203 00:10:55.480 --> 00:11:00.639 or being curious, but it was not an equal energetic exchange. 204 00:11:01.159 --> 00:11:04.200 So what I started to do was call my energy 205 00:11:04.320 --> 00:11:09.200 back to me more than I usually do. I want 206 00:11:09.240 --> 00:11:11.919 to recommend that you call your energy back to you 207 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:14.960 every single day. The same way you brush your teeth 208 00:11:15.039 --> 00:11:18.159 every day, eat every day, drink every day. You need 209 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:21.159 to be calling your power back to you every single day. 210 00:11:21.679 --> 00:11:24.080 I was using the dating apps and then having clients, 211 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:26.039 and then talking to my friends and family. There were 212 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:28.159 so much of my energy going out. I needed to 213 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:30.559 call it back. When you're at work, when you're talking 214 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:32.840 to people on dating apps, even if you're not talking 215 00:11:32.879 --> 00:11:36.960 to people on dating apps, it's imperative you say, I 216 00:11:37.039 --> 00:11:42.360 lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to 217 00:11:42.720 --> 00:11:46.080 me now. And I want to invite you to take 218 00:11:46.120 --> 00:11:48.879 this up a notch and don't just call your power 219 00:11:49.000 --> 00:11:50.200 back from people. 220 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:52.519 In this timeline. What about that time that you were 221 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:53.279 in Salem. 222 00:11:53.559 --> 00:11:55.360 Maybe you got to call your power back from that 223 00:11:55.399 --> 00:11:58.399 lifetime or the time you were in Ireland, or the 224 00:11:58.399 --> 00:12:00.879 time that you were wherever you were. We've had so 225 00:12:01.080 --> 00:12:04.080 many lifetimes that were much more barbarok than the one 226 00:12:04.120 --> 00:12:07.840 we're currently having. Call your power back to you across 227 00:12:07.879 --> 00:12:10.840 space and time. So what you're gonna say is I 228 00:12:10.919 --> 00:12:14.360 lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to 229 00:12:14.399 --> 00:12:19.039 me now across all space and time. You can also 230 00:12:19.120 --> 00:12:22.679 word this as I lovinglye and peacefully call all of 231 00:12:22.720 --> 00:12:27.399 my power back from every dimension, every timeline, and every 232 00:12:27.440 --> 00:12:36.320 person period. I wanted to shift my focus in this season, 233 00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:40.320 and I didn't like how it felt that anyone could 234 00:12:40.360 --> 00:12:43.080 just swipe on me. It felt like they could have 235 00:12:43.159 --> 00:12:45.240 access to me. I have no idea who these people are, 236 00:12:45.240 --> 00:12:47.039 and they can just have access to me. I don't 237 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:50.080 think so that doesn't really work for me. And even 238 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:52.840 though I would have to swipe right back on them 239 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:56.200 or accept them back, I didn't even like the thought 240 00:12:56.279 --> 00:12:58.559 that they thought they had access to me twenty four 241 00:12:58.519 --> 00:13:01.840 to seven. I'm not on demand's surface. I wanted to 242 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:07.159 reprioritize my worth and my value, and I. 243 00:13:07.159 --> 00:13:10.080 Really do believe in courtship. 244 00:13:10.360 --> 00:13:13.039 If you want me in your life and you're a 245 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:15.799 man and you want to be my partner, Okay, prove it, 246 00:13:16.639 --> 00:13:19.279 Like I don't know what else to tell you. Create 247 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:22.080 a safe space for me to walk through, and maybe 248 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:24.960 I will. But I think that so many of us 249 00:13:25.039 --> 00:13:29.159 are just accepting bare minimum text messages. It's actually not 250 00:13:29.279 --> 00:13:33.840 requiring the masculine collective to shift upwards. And I think 251 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:37.200 it's about time that we all collectively raise our standard. 252 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:40.559 I am not willing to accept the bare minimum. I 253 00:13:40.600 --> 00:13:43.279 will not accept mediocre. It is boring to me, It 254 00:13:43.320 --> 00:13:45.799 is uninteresting to me, and it's just it's a turnoff 255 00:13:45.879 --> 00:13:47.440 and there's nothing I can do about that. 256 00:13:47.799 --> 00:13:48.600 It is what it is. 257 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:54.759 And I feel like the dating apps make it so 258 00:13:55.279 --> 00:13:57.440 that a lot of people can do the bare minimum 259 00:13:57.480 --> 00:13:59.639 and still get their dopamine hit or still get connection 260 00:13:59.720 --> 00:14:02.399 to me. And that's not what I'm willing to offer 261 00:14:02.480 --> 00:14:05.200 during this season or ever again. If you want to 262 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:07.120 speak to me, if you want to know me, you're 263 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:09.480 gonna have to figure out a way to do that, 264 00:14:09.600 --> 00:14:12.039 and it's not gonna be through a dating app. And 265 00:14:12.440 --> 00:14:15.879 I don't think that just swiping on me should grant 266 00:14:15.919 --> 00:14:20.159 you access to speaking to me. I don't I think 267 00:14:20.200 --> 00:14:23.679 that a lot of us allow this to unfold in 268 00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:29.440 our life because we have false idols. And I don't 269 00:14:29.440 --> 00:14:31.799 think that's a good way to live, because then that 270 00:14:31.879 --> 00:14:35.240 false idol becomes your north star and your perception of 271 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:37.759 self becomes very distorted, and then you do things you 272 00:14:37.799 --> 00:14:41.159 normally wouldn't do because you're chasing a false idol, and 273 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:44.960 that causes you to collect negative karma and it might f. 274 00:14:44.960 --> 00:14:48.320 Up your life. Let me explain, when you. 275 00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:52.840 Idolize Brad or a Chad or a relationship over God, 276 00:14:54.039 --> 00:14:56.240 you end up acting out of character. Well, I'll just 277 00:14:56.240 --> 00:14:58.399 sleep with him because I idolize him and I just 278 00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:00.720 meet him him. It's him, He's my specific person. 279 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:01.320 Stop it. 280 00:15:01.559 --> 00:15:03.799 Just because your ego sees someone and then once some 281 00:15:03.919 --> 00:15:05.919 does not mean that that person is best for you, 282 00:15:06.000 --> 00:15:07.919 does not mean they're best for your highest good. And 283 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:09.960 it does not mean they'll be able to see you, 284 00:15:10.120 --> 00:15:14.360 value you, nurture you, give you an equal energetic exchange. 285 00:15:15.080 --> 00:15:17.879 We don't know it all, and so many of us 286 00:15:17.879 --> 00:15:20.159 are saying Brad is my specific person, and then we're 287 00:15:20.200 --> 00:15:24.600 acting in accordance to that, We are idolizing Brad or 288 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:27.600 a relationship with Brad, and then we're giving up so 289 00:15:27.759 --> 00:15:30.440 much of ourselves for nothing. We're allowing them to do 290 00:15:30.480 --> 00:15:33.679 the bare minimum and accepting it anyway because we have 291 00:15:33.879 --> 00:15:37.679 gotten our signals mixed up. We are putting Brad on 292 00:15:37.720 --> 00:15:40.000 the pedestal instead of seeking the kingdom first. 293 00:15:40.639 --> 00:15:42.200 Oh no, no, no, no, no, no no. 294 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:48.360 You have to understand that Divinity knows better. 295 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:50.759 Our ceiling is God's floor. 296 00:15:51.039 --> 00:15:53.159 What if just go on the journey with me for 297 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:57.360 one minute. What if you don't know who is the 298 00:15:57.399 --> 00:16:00.120 best match for you? What if there's someone better and 299 00:16:00.159 --> 00:16:02.559 you're blocking yourself because you keep telling yourself that Brad 300 00:16:02.600 --> 00:16:03.840 is your a specific person. 301 00:16:03.799 --> 00:16:09.120 And Bread sucks. Brad sucks. Think about it. I don't know, 302 00:16:09.159 --> 00:16:09.840 think about it. 303 00:16:10.639 --> 00:16:14.519 When you idolize a relationship or Brad, you make that 304 00:16:14.600 --> 00:16:17.480 your God, and now you're acting in accordance to that, 305 00:16:17.799 --> 00:16:20.360 and you're willing to collect the negative karma. You're willing 306 00:16:20.399 --> 00:16:22.440 to do things you don't actually want to do. You're 307 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:24.879 willing to give up too much of yourself because you're 308 00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:28.559 thinking that you're God and you're getting your signals crossed. 309 00:16:29.679 --> 00:16:30.559 Take a deep breath. 310 00:16:35.360 --> 00:16:37.879 When we think we need a person, we will act 311 00:16:37.919 --> 00:16:42.480 all types of crazy to get them, and we abandon ourselves. 312 00:16:43.480 --> 00:16:46.440 We forget about our own divinity, we forget about our 313 00:16:46.440 --> 00:16:50.879 connection with God, and then we get into a relationship 314 00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:53.279 and realize, damn, this is not even what I thought 315 00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:56.279 it was gonna be. Of course it's not because you 316 00:16:56.320 --> 00:16:58.960 are thinking with your mind instead of trusting and surrendering 317 00:16:59.000 --> 00:17:03.519 to God or feeling it out with your heart. If 318 00:17:03.559 --> 00:17:06.720 you think someone might be your person, I want you 319 00:17:06.759 --> 00:17:09.079 to at least say to yourself, Okay, God, give me 320 00:17:09.160 --> 00:17:14.240 this person or someone better this or something better this 321 00:17:14.440 --> 00:17:18.440 or something better. You need to leave leeway for what 322 00:17:18.599 --> 00:17:21.960 is for your highest good to come in. I personally 323 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:25.079 like to say, God, just give me whatever is under 324 00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:28.079 my divine right, because I don't want to collect negative karma. 325 00:17:28.319 --> 00:17:30.400 And I might think something's for me and then I 326 00:17:30.440 --> 00:17:32.799 would manifest it and I didn't even get what I 327 00:17:32.799 --> 00:17:34.000 thought it was going to give me. It was just 328 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:36.880 a waste of time. So now I say, no, God, 329 00:17:37.160 --> 00:17:39.960 give me whatever is under my divine right. Give me 330 00:17:40.000 --> 00:17:41.599 what's going to be for my highest good. 331 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:44.480 You know better than I. You can see more than 332 00:17:44.519 --> 00:17:46.359 I can see. Think about it. 333 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:49.240 You with your pets. I don't give my dog chocolate 334 00:17:49.279 --> 00:17:51.319 because I know that's gonna hurt my dog. My dog 335 00:17:51.359 --> 00:17:53.319 gets mad at me because he wants the damn chocolate. 336 00:17:53.319 --> 00:17:54.319 But I know more than him. 337 00:17:54.319 --> 00:17:56.839 I have a higher level of consciousness than my dog. 338 00:17:57.000 --> 00:18:01.079 Max God has a higher level of consciousness than we 339 00:18:01.160 --> 00:18:04.000 do as human beings. So why don't we trust that 340 00:18:04.799 --> 00:18:10.440 instead of our own limited perception. I truly believe that 341 00:18:10.680 --> 00:18:14.079 getting off of these apps have allowed me to remove 342 00:18:14.079 --> 00:18:17.759 all those energetic cords. I feel so much freer, so 343 00:18:17.880 --> 00:18:21.680 much more strengdered to my reality and what's meant to 344 00:18:21.799 --> 00:18:25.079 happen in my life. I feel overall so much better. 345 00:18:25.519 --> 00:18:28.319 Instead of spending my time and energy and focus talking 346 00:18:28.359 --> 00:18:31.160 to random people who most likely didn't even deserve an 347 00:18:31.279 --> 00:18:34.920 energetic exchange from me, I'm pouring into myself. Well, now 348 00:18:34.960 --> 00:18:37.480 I have extra time to do the face mask, to 349 00:18:37.559 --> 00:18:40.559 clean out my closet, to get to the tailor. I 350 00:18:40.599 --> 00:18:44.279 have all this extra time to pour into me, and 351 00:18:44.359 --> 00:18:47.960 I feel oh so much better from it. This is 352 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:51.240 an energetic invitation for you to use the mercury retrograde 353 00:18:51.279 --> 00:18:52.680 and reflect, reanalyze. 354 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:54.079 How do I want to move forward? 355 00:18:54.279 --> 00:18:56.960 How are the dating apps affecting me? How do I 356 00:18:57.000 --> 00:18:58.480 feel when I'm on the dating apps? 357 00:18:58.759 --> 00:19:01.640 Am I getting a good return? Turn on investment. 358 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:04.240 I realized, if I want to get different results, if 359 00:19:04.279 --> 00:19:06.559 I want to feel like I'm aligning with my person, 360 00:19:06.720 --> 00:19:11.000 the person, the top dog, you know, I gotta try 361 00:19:11.039 --> 00:19:14.519 a different strategy. The definition of crazy is doing the 362 00:19:14.559 --> 00:19:17.039 same thing and expecting a different result. If I keep 363 00:19:17.079 --> 00:19:19.799 doing the same thing, being on this dating app and 364 00:19:19.839 --> 00:19:24.119 expecting a different result, okay, that's a little psychotic. 365 00:19:25.319 --> 00:19:28.400 So what I'm doing is I'm changing my strategy. I'm 366 00:19:28.400 --> 00:19:29.359 gonna try something different. 367 00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:32.720 I said to God, Look, I tried it my way, 368 00:19:32.880 --> 00:19:33.960 I'm gonna try it your way. 369 00:19:34.000 --> 00:19:34.240 Now. 370 00:19:34.440 --> 00:19:36.599 Maybe I need to just lean into this season. 371 00:19:36.759 --> 00:19:38.920 Which what have you called me out for? Which is 372 00:19:38.960 --> 00:19:39.559 so funny. 373 00:19:39.599 --> 00:19:43.039 I love you beautiful positive bitches so much because I 374 00:19:43.119 --> 00:19:48.319 was posting about last week's podcast and one of you said, well, Ceci, 375 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:51.079 you did say this season was meant for you to 376 00:19:51.079 --> 00:19:53.640 fall in love with the process of creation, not fall 377 00:19:53.680 --> 00:19:54.400 in love with a man. 378 00:19:54.839 --> 00:19:58.200 And I was like, damn, girl, call me out when 379 00:19:58.240 --> 00:20:00.680 I need to be called out. And I told know that. 380 00:20:01.000 --> 00:20:02.960 But when you're in a relationship for seven years and 381 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:04.640 you get out of one, you're kind of just like, nah, 382 00:20:05.000 --> 00:20:07.160 I want to try every flavor everywhere, Like I want 383 00:20:07.160 --> 00:20:09.680 to know everyone, I date everything. So I just wanted 384 00:20:09.680 --> 00:20:11.279 to go out there and have my fun and have 385 00:20:11.359 --> 00:20:14.920 my experiences. And now I'm entering into a slower season, 386 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:18.920 much more of a hermit mode. I am just resting 387 00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:24.720 and digesting all of my experiences to understand, okay, and 388 00:20:24.759 --> 00:20:28.000 how do I want to move forward? Life has been good, 389 00:20:28.039 --> 00:20:30.799 but I want it to be freaking fantastic. 390 00:20:31.160 --> 00:20:32.480 How do I want to move forward? 391 00:20:32.839 --> 00:20:35.759 And that's what mercury retrograde is inviting us to do, 392 00:20:35.839 --> 00:20:41.839 to reflect, to reprogram, to restrategize. So my new strategy 393 00:20:42.000 --> 00:20:45.720 is just completely surrendering to God. I'm not going to 394 00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:49.079 walk by sight. I'm going to walk by faith. I 395 00:20:49.160 --> 00:20:52.960 understand that my ceiling is God's floor. As a lover girl, 396 00:20:53.799 --> 00:20:59.359 it's been hard for me to desenter love from my life. 397 00:20:59.519 --> 00:21:03.559 But then I realized I'm not decentering love. I'm experiencing 398 00:21:03.599 --> 00:21:07.000 love in different forms. I'm experiencing the love of self, 399 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:09.440 the love of the divine, the love of creation instead 400 00:21:09.480 --> 00:21:12.119 of just the love of a man. And it brought 401 00:21:12.119 --> 00:21:15.119