Speaker 1: Are right.
Speaker 2: Let's get started with the Minnesota good Bye. Got a
Speaker 2: lot of emails to get to, a lot of fun stuff,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna start off with one of our favorite
Speaker 2: contributors to the Minnesota Goodbye. That would be Juanita. Okay,
Speaker 2: and here comes Jannita's rent. Let me push all the
Speaker 2: right buttons and make this happen. We never screened these
Speaker 2: in advance. We never know what one is going to
Speaker 2: rant about. So let's see what she's up to today.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, all right, So this week's rent
Speaker 1: is about people who want you to validate their ugly
Speaker 1: ass baby. So a coworker had just recently had had
Speaker 1: our baby, and she wanted everybody to come down and
Speaker 1: see the baby instead of just sending us a picture.
Speaker 1: So we all bought baby gifts and went down to
Speaker 1: the hospital to go see the baby. So the nurse
Speaker 1: walks in and with the baby, and everybody had that
Speaker 1: look on their face like somebody had just farted but
Speaker 1: their fake ass has still just stood there. It was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that he is so adorable. He is
Speaker 1: so cute. He's as cute as a button. Bitch. If
Speaker 1: you got any piece of clothing in your closet that
Speaker 1: got a button on it that looks like that baby.
Speaker 1: You need to throw that shit in the garbage. Literally
Speaker 1: looked like she just gave birth to Benjamin button. That
Speaker 1: baby looked old, looked like he already got a well
Speaker 1: established IRA and a pension. But I know that I'm
Speaker 1: blunt and I tell the truth. But I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: sit there and say your baby's ugly. I just didn't
Speaker 1: say anything, and she kind of caught on that I
Speaker 1: was being really quiet, and she said, oh, Anita, you
Speaker 1: just said anything. You must think my baby's ugly. I
Speaker 1: almost said, no, I don't think your baby's ugly. But
Speaker 1: then I noticed that there was a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: pigeons outside the window. I'm like, God, that's a lot
Speaker 1: of pigeons outside, and so everybody turned their attention to
Speaker 1: the pigeon. So I kind of got me off the hook.
Speaker 1: But goddamn it, that baby was ugly. Jesus, Well, that's
Speaker 1: my ride for this week. I'll talk to you guys
Speaker 1: next week.
Speaker 2: Love you bye awh, Nita, that baby sounds adorable. Ugly
Speaker 2: little man looking.
Speaker 3: Baby Wanita and Steve Let's heart would be best friends
Speaker 3: because when my niece was born, Steve said that she
Speaker 3: looked like George W.
Speaker 4: I remember that.
Speaker 3: He would put fucking side by side of my niece
Speaker 3: and George W. Next to each other and be like,
Speaker 3: look at the similarities. And then when I'd go home
Speaker 3: to visit, he'd be like, how is George W. Doing?
Speaker 3: She grew up, grew intil she's six years old. Now
Speaker 3: she's so adorable. But she did look like an old
Speaker 3: white man, he really did.
Speaker 2: I you know, I agree with you, Wannita. Some babies
Speaker 2: are not very attractive, but even in there it's like
Speaker 2: a pug. Yeah, pugs are ugly as fuck. They really are.
Speaker 2: People go oh, pugs are so cute. No they're not.
Speaker 2: They are one ugly ass breed of dog. But at
Speaker 2: the same time they're a little pug creature. Okay, oh
Speaker 2: all right, next one. Thank you. Jannita Sidney, regular staff writer,
Speaker 2: writes in this topic has come up about dance bombs
Speaker 2: and sports parents, and I got stories for both because
Speaker 2: we were talking about how to come up yesterday like
Speaker 2: taking her kids to like weekend long hockey tournaments and yes, like.
Speaker 5: Show parents or it was because you were telling that
Speaker 5: story about the parents that wanted their kid to be
Speaker 5: a pilot so badly, and then the girl drove the
Speaker 5: plane into the ground during a story.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yes.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, so that's what where like, she was a pilot,
Speaker 5: but it was probably for the happiness of her parents,
Speaker 5: not her.
Speaker 4: So then we talked about show parents.
Speaker 2: Okay, so she goes on to say Number one, my
Speaker 2: friend and I took a trip to Nashville and I
Speaker 2: and unexpectedly got a hotel that had a dance competition
Speaker 2: going on. This was not idea when we were hung
Speaker 2: over in the elevator in the morning, having to smell
Speaker 2: the hairspring and listen little girls crying while they were
Speaker 2: playing Baby Shark on Blast. It's funny story now, but
Speaker 2: it was not desirable in the moment. Okay, another one.
Speaker 2: I grew up playing hockey, and I loved the weekend
Speaker 2: tournaments across the state or the early and late practices.
Speaker 2: I can't imagine how my single mom juggled at all,
Speaker 2: but I'm so glad she did. I literally dream of
Speaker 2: hockey tournament weekends with my two boys two years old
Speaker 2: and one month old, but my husband is not as
Speaker 2: excited about the idea. However, he was also an athlete.
Speaker 2: So we still wants our kids to play sports, but
Speaker 2: would prefer a lighter commitment sport than hockey. I guess
Speaker 2: we'll see what our kids want to do, but we
Speaker 2: will absolutely try to persuade them into sports no matter what,
Speaker 2: since we enjoyed them as well. Thanks for being great.
Speaker 2: Cheers from Sydney. Any thoughts on this.
Speaker 4: I her son plays hockey and he's too.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, she's looking forward to that happening.
Speaker 4: Forward to it.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, I will say hockey is not only time commitment,
Speaker 5: but it's probably the most expensive sport you can.
Speaker 4: Get involved in. Hoo.
Speaker 3: I mean we I was on traveling soccer teams, played
Speaker 3: high school all that stuff, But the only thing I
Speaker 3: ever did was one trip actually up to the Twin
Speaker 3: Cities where we had a tournament in like Bloomington or something,
Speaker 3: and that I came from a poor family that I
Speaker 3: almost didn't get to go because my parents couldn't afford it,
Speaker 3: and they talked to like my best friend's mom and
Speaker 3: they brought me with so that I could just like stay,
Speaker 3: and I think my parents gave them a little bit
Speaker 3: of money for the hotel, but I almost didn't get
Speaker 3: to go because it was so expensive. So I can't
Speaker 3: imagine having to do that every single weekend. However, as
Speaker 3: the person who played soccer, I loved every second of it.
Speaker 3: I loved traveling with a team. I love being in
Speaker 3: a different city. So I don't know. I also was
Speaker 3: like her where I grew up, and I wish I
Speaker 3: would have been in more tournaments.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we didn't know. We weren't from an athletic family.
Speaker 2: We kind of mentioned that before. Allison was the first
Speaker 2: person in my mom and dad, all of my siblings,
Speaker 2: my brother, and me to ever wear a jersey that
Speaker 2: had her name on the back of it, like our
Speaker 2: last name. And I was so proud of that because
Speaker 2: she was in volleyball for Chaska and she didn't play
Speaker 2: a lot. She was, you know, she was not aggressive,
Speaker 2: so she didn't play a lot. But it was cool
Speaker 2: because we got to see the name Kibbler on the
Speaker 2: back of her jersey. It was like, Alison, turn around,
Speaker 2: I want to get a picture of that that I'll
Speaker 2: stop out it have it. Do you think that most
Speaker 2: what I noticed about a lot of radio people is
Speaker 2: they grew up without a lot of money. Do you
Speaker 2: think there's a connection between growing up without a lot
Speaker 2: of money and then being in radio.
Speaker 5: I think it's growing up without a lot of money
Speaker 5: and having personality. And isn't that part of radio it's
Speaker 5: having personality?
Speaker 2: Okay, sure, yeah.
Speaker 5: I think that's when you don't have a lot of money,
Speaker 5: you have to compensate somehow by having a lot of personality.
Speaker 2: Did you were you bothered by the fact that you
Speaker 2: didn't have a lot of money when.
Speaker 4: You were a kid, No, because it didn't occur to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it didn't ocur to me either.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was so bothered by it, really, I mean,
Speaker 3: all of my friends were rich, and like I was
Speaker 3: in that like stereotypical bubble of like the jocks and
Speaker 3: smart kids who had like wealthy parents. So I was
Speaker 3: super embarrassed. I'll never forget. My best friend through me
Speaker 3: a surprise party, and it was at like in the
Speaker 3: basement of my mom's house, which has like the ugliest
Speaker 3: still does to this day, orange carpet, hideous furniture, and
Speaker 3: I was like genuinely embarrassed because all the rich jocks
Speaker 3: at my house and I hated it. I hated it
Speaker 3: so much and I hate looking back at that now
Speaker 3: that I was like that because I still had a
Speaker 3: really good life even though we didn't have a ton
Speaker 3: of money. But I felt really out of it when
Speaker 3: I was working constantly since I was like thirteen, and
Speaker 3: none of my friends ever had to have jobs. Pretty
Speaker 3: much mom and dad paid for everything. It was like
Speaker 3: pulling teeth for me to get new clothes, where my
Speaker 3: friends had like fucking an entire walk in closet of
Speaker 3: a wardrobe.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we didn't grow up and we didn't have a
Speaker 2: lot of money, but we were not impoverished by any means.
Speaker 2: We had enough. We had enough. We had like cars
Speaker 2: that broke down quite frequently, and we didn't have a big,
Speaker 2: beautiful as big but it was not a big, beautiful house.
Speaker 2: And we wore hand me downs, were closed from Kmart.
Speaker 4: So never a lot of hand me downs, a lot
Speaker 4: of Kmart.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, never really bothered me, I think if that's
Speaker 2: what you're used to, but you were definitely aware of
Speaker 2: it because you probably had the rich fringe to compare
Speaker 2: it to. All my friends were also a little bit poor.
Speaker 5: Yeah, my friends were also just weird, so they weren't
Speaker 5: necessarily like poor. They were just weird. But then if
Speaker 5: I had friends I did have money, I'd go over
Speaker 5: their house and be like, wow, this is nice. And
Speaker 5: we would always just go to my friend's house. We
Speaker 5: would never go to my house. Never once.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what.
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 2: The reason we didn't go to my house because there
Speaker 2: wasn't a lot to do. But my friend Scott had
Speaker 2: a pool table and a ping pong table.
Speaker 4: Ooh nice.
Speaker 2: And he had a basement where his mom and dad
Speaker 2: never came down, so we could smoke, swish or sweets
Speaker 2: and drink wow in the basement. Yeah. Cindy writes in Hello,
Speaker 2: my favorite morning show crew, I'm listening to yesterday's show,
Speaker 2: and you asked what should be brought back? Somebody said
Speaker 2: full service gas stations. I got to tell you there
Speaker 2: is one in my hometown of Malacca, Malacca, Malacca. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's called Big J's. It's so nice to be able
Speaker 2: to stare in your warm car. They fill up your
Speaker 2: fluids and things of that nature too. Shout out Big Jay's.
Speaker 2: Love y'all from Cindy, Malaca, Malacca.
Speaker 4: Yeah, up north, it's like towards Saint Cloud.
Speaker 2: I've heard of it, I just never remember how to
Speaker 2: say it. Okay, next one says don't say my name.
Speaker 2: I'm writing about Tuesday's Minnesota Goodbye. Regarding being a dance mom,
Speaker 2: my monthly dance bill is a similar dollar amount to
Speaker 2: that of a mortgage payment. Wa If my daughters do
Speaker 2: not want to be in competitive dance, they both know
Speaker 2: they can tell me because I don't want to throw
Speaker 2: money out the window. My daughters both love being at
Speaker 2: the dance studio. Though growing up, I wanted to do
Speaker 2: competitive dance like my friends, but my parents were not
Speaker 2: as dedicated to being dance parents. I am so happy
Speaker 2: to be able to let my daughters do what they
Speaker 2: love and I get to enjoy being a dance mom
Speaker 2: with my cool dance mom friends. Shout out to them.
Speaker 2: But again, I would not pay tons of money and
Speaker 2: make them do a sport if they didn't want to
Speaker 2: do it. That would just be silly.
Speaker 4: I think the.
Speaker 5: Thing with some sports for me is that they so
Speaker 5: many of them seem to require the parents to also
Speaker 5: be at dedicated to it as the kid is, because
Speaker 5: I know, like how we got on it was like, oh,
Speaker 5: the parents care more and then they're making their kids
Speaker 5: do it. But like for dance or hockey or whatever,
Speaker 5: like any traveling the parents, their time is also spent
Speaker 5: bringing you to those places. They have to sit through
Speaker 5: the entire game, all of that jazz versus like an
Speaker 5: activity where the student picks it for themselves and can
Speaker 5: be like on their own in that activity. Those are
Speaker 5: the ones that I think are like if you don't
Speaker 5: have to be there as the parent, Like, that's what
Speaker 5: I want to put my money towards. Like, Hey, this
Speaker 5: kid is gonna go be independent, go to this thing
Speaker 5: on their own if they can.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't. I don't know. Sports are weird to me.
Speaker 5: I guess I never did sports, so but like my
Speaker 5: mom would never go to anything that I was involved
Speaker 5: in unless like because she didn't have to.
Speaker 4: It was my choice.
Speaker 5: So I would show up for rehearsals or I would
Speaker 5: get She would just have to bring me to the
Speaker 5: bus in the morning for speech tournaments.
Speaker 4: But then I would go on my own. No one
Speaker 4: shows up.
Speaker 2: And one more on the minist to Goodbye, Let's see
Speaker 2: what we got here. The other day on the Minnesota Goodbye,
Speaker 2: you guys were talking about being constantly on the go
Speaker 2: with kids' activities. We still are that used to be me.
Speaker 2: We have seven children, blended and adopted and a couple
Speaker 2: of years ago, we were on the go twenty four
Speaker 2: to seven with their activities. They each had to choose
Speaker 2: an individual activity in a team sport. I spent all
Speaker 2: of my waking hours in the car. We had karate,
Speaker 2: Brazilian jiu jitsu, swimming, gymnastics, baseball, equestrian, piano, theater, figure skating, hockey, ballet,
Speaker 2: and competitive cheer. Those were just the out of school activities.
Speaker 2: We were eating out all the time, and our only
Speaker 2: time together seemed to be in the car. We'd all
Speaker 2: get home exhausted every night. I did a lot of
Speaker 2: soul searching and decided to stop the madness. We moved
Speaker 2: out of the city to a tiny little town. The
Speaker 2: kids only participate in school activities. Now we don't allow
Speaker 2: more than one at a time, and no traveling sports.
Speaker 2: It has completely changed our lives for the better. I
Speaker 2: highly recommend slowing down and putting family first. It is
Speaker 2: a us to reconnect. I was raised with the brief
Speaker 2: with the belief idleness was laziness, and my siblings and
Speaker 2: I were always in several activities, so I unconsciously passed
Speaker 2: that on to my children. I just want parents to
Speaker 2: know there is another way, and it's glorious. I can't
Speaker 2: imagine the insanity of having that much to do.
Speaker 4: I know, I mean, streuss the me out just hearing
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 2: It's ridiculous. It's like I to me, common sense tells
Speaker 2: us that you can't have your kids in so many
Speaker 2: activities as your only time together is in the car. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you're eating out all the time. I know you're
Speaker 2: trying to give your kids, you know, like a good childhood.
Speaker 4: Rounded life. Yeah, but that's just too much.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's kind of like too much exercise.
Speaker 6: Unless they're all in the same exact thing, but that
Speaker 6: will likely never happen.
Speaker 4: So yeah, yeah, that's just a lot. I'd say, like prioritize,
Speaker 4: pick your favorite.
Speaker 6: And I like that you say just school activities because
Speaker 6: then that kind of goes to what I was saying,
Speaker 6: like as if they can do it through school, great,
Speaker 6: but if you have to like be a part of it,
Speaker 6: that takes up all your time.
Speaker 2: Sure, yeah, well you get to drive them back and forth. Yes,
Speaker 2: it's at school, like after school. Dave, Jenny Bailey and
Speaker 2: Vontivier there too. What are your thoughts on kids scheduling?
Speaker 2: Do you think kids are overburdened with expectations to perform. Yes,
Speaker 2: I think it probably is part of the mental health
Speaker 2: problems with kids when they are they're going to be
Speaker 2: in jiu jitsu and karate, and they're going to be
Speaker 2: in you know, soccer and rushing. Anyone, whether they're seven
Speaker 2: or seventeen or twenty to seven, you gotta have some
Speaker 2: mental breaks here and there.
Speaker 6: And not just that, but like I think of because
Speaker 6: I work in a high school now as a side gig,
Speaker 6: and the amount of kids that I know who take
Speaker 6: multiple AP classes at any given time is bonkers to me.
Speaker 6: When I was in tenth grade, you could take one
Speaker 6: AP class and it was AP biology and that was
Speaker 6: the only class.
Speaker 4: You could take.
Speaker 6: No AP classes as a freshman and only one as
Speaker 6: a sophomore. And now you can take like four different
Speaker 6: AP classes as a freshman, all at the same time.
Speaker 6: And that's wow, so much work, and like they all
Speaker 6: want to take every single AP class and they want
Speaker 6: to take all of those like high level advanced classes
Speaker 6: and be in every single activity, and so yeah, it's
Speaker 6: a lot.
Speaker 2: The funny thing is those kids are probably going to
Speaker 2: be uber success burnout health and those of the kids
Speaker 2: will be able to pay off their college loans and
Speaker 2: buy a house. But I mean it kind of almost
Speaker 2: shows that that's kind of what you got to do
Speaker 2: to be able to do that.
Speaker 3: That's interesting that your school allowed them to take classes
Speaker 3: at early because I don't think they allowed us until
Speaker 3: like junior or senior year the same, Yeah, I think,
Speaker 3: and honestly was senior year because I mean I took
Speaker 3: two AP classes my senior year, but I would have
Speaker 3: taken more if I could have earlier.
Speaker 6: Right, Yeah, And they just take them even if they're
Speaker 6: not good at the subject, Like I only took AP
Speaker 6: classes if I was good at the subject, so I
Speaker 6: took like AP English, AP Spanish, AP Psychology. I would
Speaker 6: never take AP like math or science or anything. And
Speaker 6: they just take every single AP classes allowed.
Speaker 2: That's interesting. I don't even know what AP means for sure.
Speaker 2: I think it means a placement, okay, I thought so Okay, Also,
Speaker 2: do you feel it's getting it's the do you get
Speaker 2: the feeling is for parents bragging rights? One hundred percent?
Speaker 2: I think sometimes you got to ask yourself, would you
Speaker 2: do this if nobody knew it? In other words, would
Speaker 2: you eat okay, kale if nobody knew it. Would you
Speaker 2: get sushi if you couldn't show off that you got sushi?
Speaker 2: Would you go to Bonnaroo if you couldn't tell people
Speaker 2: you went to Bonnaroo? Would you go to What's the
Speaker 2: Big One Coachella? Coachella? Yeah, if you couldn't tell anybody?
Speaker 2: And I think that sometimes that's kind of a yardstick.
Speaker 2: Would I tell what I enjoy doing is if I
Speaker 2: couldn't tell anybody? Would I enjoy going to the gym?
Speaker 2: If I couldn't tell anybody? I mean, yeah, I think so.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But I also think that you discover new things because
Speaker 3: people tell you about things. I would have never known
Speaker 3: a single thing about camber Van life if it wasn't
Speaker 3: for following a bunch of people on TikTok and Instagram. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And would I still do it if I didn't post
Speaker 3: about it? Absolutely? Because I love it. I love everything
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 2: I get it. That is an email that is concluded
Speaker 2: with all right, and that is from Emily. Emily, thank
Speaker 2: you so much for being on the Minnesota Goodbye. Thanks
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