Speaker 1: My love, what are you doing? Goodness? Gracious, this place
Speaker 1: looks like a pig sty. This is why you didn't
Speaker 1: want me coming to visit. No, I'll get this cleaned up,
Speaker 1: lickety split.
Speaker 2: And what.
Speaker 1: No goodness? And your food choices, these are all warm
Speaker 1: uppable meals like you don't have anything in here for
Speaker 1: proper cooking. Lord, six alife? Lord?
Speaker 2: Are you?
Speaker 1: Are you honest? To goodness? Are you using body soap
Speaker 1: for hand soap? What do you mean they were two
Speaker 1: for one?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Oh, my goodness, are you? Is that a sheet over
Speaker 1: your window?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: My goodness you this doesn't work at all. God, your
Speaker 1: neighbor's dog is awful. Yeappy, hey's super cute. But someone
Speaker 1: needs to go give him a bone or something back
Speaker 1: to you, so don't what what do you mean your
Speaker 1: phone's blowing up? Well, hit mute on it. No, we
Speaker 1: have a serious conversation that we need to be having here. See,
Speaker 1: you have been so down in the dumps lately. You
Speaker 1: allow your coworkers to treat you like trash. Your boss
Speaker 1: leans on you for absolutely everything, and yet doesn't have
Speaker 1: a kind word to show for it. At the very least,
Speaker 1: your friends are they're they're nice, but honestly, I think
Speaker 1: they would be nicer if you weren't so stressed out,
Speaker 1: so you weren't so crabby around them all the time. Yeesh.
Speaker 1: Then let's get to the important piece. Look at you.
Speaker 1: You haven't been practicing self care, have you. I mean,
Speaker 1: that kind of healthcare is perfectly fine, But one of
Speaker 1: the our signs of depression is not taking a bath
Speaker 1: daily or shower. Yeah, and that beard, trust me. I
Speaker 1: don't mind you being a fuzzy fuzzy, but it looks
Speaker 1: like a kid us a US trim of dead in it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, no no no, I'm here. Now
Speaker 1: we're gonna get you properly fixed up. We're gonna get
Speaker 1: your spite. Yes, we're gonna clean your Do you know
Speaker 1: cleaning your house isn't as much to do with cleanliness
Speaker 1: as you think. I mean it does. Cleanliness is great,
Speaker 1: I don't want vermin in here. But the space where
Speaker 1: you work, and you work from home, or rather you
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time at home as well, the
Speaker 1: space in which you work is a reflection, and you
Speaker 1: spend those times as a reflection of your mental state.
Speaker 1: All this stuff cluttered up here is representative of what's
Speaker 1: going on in your mind. You don't realize how much
Speaker 1: luder you'll feel if you just blitz crak clean your
Speaker 1: room and you'll see, Well, you remember that last time
Speaker 1: I came over and cleaned, you said for like two
Speaker 1: three weeks afterwards you felt so much better. I saw
Speaker 1: you brighten up. We begin to go have more fun
Speaker 1: and whatnot. So yeah, that's exactly what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: We're gonna clean your room and then we'll sit down,
Speaker 1: maybe we'll watch Uh you know, I've been meaning to
Speaker 1: bet binge Big Bang theory for a while. The whole
Speaker 1: universe is ana hot. Didn't say, oh, fourteen billion years ago,
Speaker 1: expansion started by the Earth begin to cool, the Autochros
Speaker 1: begin to drill knee they built the Sorry I got
Speaker 1: I got a little bit lost in it. What what?
Speaker 1: What Penny's hot? Oh No, I love all the like
Speaker 1: geeky stuff that they get in on. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, crap, I'm one of them. Aren't that
Speaker 1: why I don't really dress like one of the geeks.
Speaker 1: But uh, what I'm just saying, what did you call
Speaker 1: me last time? You called me a lipstick geek? All right,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna ask some new rules. I'm gonna check
Speaker 1: in with you and I don't. We're gonna get your
Speaker 1: water and take up too. All I want you to
Speaker 1: do is drink two glasses of water from now. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna check it on you in the morning, and then
Speaker 1: for that, I'm gonna check it in the morning for
Speaker 1: a shower. You're gonnake a shower, start your day. Then
Speaker 1: I will check in on your beard weekly, then once
Speaker 1: or maybe twice a week. We're gonna go twice. In
Speaker 1: the beginning, we're gonna have you spot clean. Just take
Speaker 1: all the trash out, dishes go into the dishwasher, and
Speaker 1: clothes go over to the laundry area.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 1: And then we're also going to already that's why your
Speaker 1: phone is blowing up. I blocked all of your ex's
Speaker 1: and just people in your life who aren't nice to you.
Speaker 1: We can start letting some of them back in once
Speaker 1: we get you to a better headspace. What do you
Speaker 1: mean listen here, you haven't been taking care of yourself
Speaker 1: and as your girlfriend. Girlfriend, Yes, I decided I'm your girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I'm no longer just a friend of yours. I have
Speaker 1: loved you for long enough, and so no one's got
Speaker 1: to take care of you. And if I'm already doing
Speaker 1: quite a bit to take care of you anyways, and
Speaker 1: I love you and I want nothing more than to
Speaker 1: get you nice, rat and tat, so you can feel
Speaker 1: exactly how tat I can be. I will absolutely be
Speaker 1: your girlfriend. I guess it is traditional for you to
Speaker 1: ask me, but I don't really want to answer questions
Speaker 1: right about now. I just want your compliance. Goodness. No,
Speaker 1: I understand you've always been quite the bratty little thing,
Speaker 1: but I know exactly how to get you in a
Speaker 1: new and I want see you when I talk low
Speaker 1: and right in.
Speaker 3: Your ear like this, and ah, just.
Speaker 1: Roll my tongue a on that lobe. You become putty
Speaker 1: in my hands. So you have two options. You can
Speaker 1: do as I say and be good and we can
Speaker 1: get this place nice and cleaned up real quickly, and
Speaker 1: you can.
Speaker 3: Be a good boy for me. Or you can have
Speaker 3: me sit here and nag you more and more and
Speaker 3: more until I wear you down.
Speaker 1: And I will still sit here cleaning anyways. And if
Speaker 1: I have to be the one to drag you to
Speaker 1: that shower, I will absolutely do it. Really. Oh, look
Speaker 1: at you. Oh, don't try to hide your face. I
Speaker 1: can see how blushing you are. That shower. M M.
Speaker 1: It's calling you, isn't it. Let's go ahead over to it.
Speaker 1: You get to it. I will you know what, we
Speaker 1: still have time for grocery delivered. I would have some
Speaker 1: groceries to be delivered, and I will whip you up
Speaker 1: a nice meal, and I'm gonna get started on cleaning
Speaker 1: up this. How is then we don't have to watch
Speaker 1: Big Bang Theory. We can watch whatever you want. There's
Speaker 1: still some decisions. Will that you have minor ones? What? Oh? Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I guess it would be healthy to talk about that. Sure, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I meant it. You're not talking to those people anymore. Well,
Speaker 1: you do have to talk to your coworkers at work,
Speaker 1: but you don't have to try to talk to them
Speaker 1: outside of work. In fact, at work, I want you
Speaker 1: to do very minimal amounts of talking. You're not doing
Speaker 1: anybody's extra work. You're not going to help anybody beyond
Speaker 1: what is outside of your job description. And if anyone
Speaker 1: says anything to you two fingers swinging, we can get
Speaker 1: you another job. You are highly valuable. You're going to
Speaker 1: be so easy to find another job for and we
Speaker 1: will find something that is the perfect fit for you.
Speaker 1: What you deserve happiness. You see what your problem is, baby, baby,
Speaker 1: I love I get to say that hour together, my love.
Speaker 1: Your problem is you don't understand what you're worth. You
Speaker 1: don't see the fact that you have so much potential
Speaker 1: and you care so much about the people around you.
Speaker 2: You work so hard.
Speaker 1: You are willing to take on other people's work just
Speaker 1: so that they can be happy, just because you get satisfaction.
Speaker 1: You derive satisfaction off of what other people think about you,
Speaker 1: because you think solow of yourself. I'm here to help
Speaker 1: you see exactly what you're worth so that people start
Speaker 1: wanting to give to you. It's that song, you know.
Speaker 4: Some of them want to use you, some of them
Speaker 4: want to be used by you. Some of them want
Speaker 4: to abuse you. Some of them want to be abused
Speaker 4: by you. You're willing to allow yourself to be abused,
Speaker 4: and in response, people are abusing you because you have
Speaker 4: a kick me signed on you, and you actually feel
Speaker 4: happy when they kick you because at least they paid
Speaker 4: attention to you. You never learned how to get positive attention.
Speaker 4: So if you don't know how to get it. I'm
Speaker 4: going to force you to learn how to get it
Speaker 4: by extracting all of the negative shit in your life
Speaker 4: out of it.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna suck it all out. I will definitely
Speaker 1: be sucking something else out too, but that is a
Speaker 1: treat if you're a good boy. So we're going to
Speaker 1: pull all of that out of your life and then
Speaker 1: slot back in only the things that make the most sense.
Speaker 1: And if something is in your life currently that we
Speaker 1: can't slot out immediately, we're gonna find a replacement for it.
Speaker 1: And you're gonna learn to derive your happiness off of
Speaker 1: positive things that actually keep you happy. Because allowing people
Speaker 1: to kick you may feel nice in the moment that
Speaker 1: they paid attention to you, but then when you have
Speaker 1: to pick yourself up out of the mud and you
Speaker 1: look up and you see that they're gone, it still hurts.
Speaker 3: What.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not trying to you know what. I am
Speaker 1: trying to fix you. Yeah. No, it makes me feel
Speaker 1: good to fix broken boys. But I also know that
Speaker 1: at least this time with you, the broken person that
Speaker 1: I'm trying to fix, is at least worth it. Uh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've gotten.
Speaker 1: The honor of being around you for all of this
Speaker 1: time and getting to see the true gymn that's shining
Speaker 1: deep inside of that soul. You try to suppress those
Speaker 1: feelings down. You try to pretend like you're big, tough
Speaker 1: and don't have any feelings, but Bain doesn't actually exist.
Speaker 1: Bain just wants a hug, and a hug you're going
Speaker 1: to get now, Come here.
Speaker 2: You, Hey, guys, this is Inen Alexander here.
Speaker 1: Jesus goodness. So I didn't talk about this before because, uh,
Speaker 1: I knew when I deleted a bunch of videos and
Speaker 1: made some changes that it was going to hurt my
Speaker 1: analytics on YouTube, and I actually feared going under twenty
Speaker 1: nine thousand. We almost did too, and then I know
Speaker 1: it was going to bounce back at some point. Actually
Speaker 1: even considered making a second channel like Method did and
Speaker 1: just kind of restarting from there. But things worked out.
Speaker 1: Looks like we're going to be okay. We are now
Speaker 1: back contract headed towards thirty k which we're doing a
Speaker 1: thirty hour livestream for that. I'm super stoked because we're
Speaker 1: gonna actually be doing a Perge night. Perge Night is
Speaker 1: still happening. I'm so stoked about that. I think it'll
Speaker 1: be a lot of fun and we're gonna actually start
Speaker 1: getting it planned on the Patreon server. So if you
Speaker 1: guys would like to participate and you don't mind Slash
Speaker 1: can subscribe on Patreon, you absolutely can join. I might
Speaker 1: make a separate discord, but like I won't be participating
Speaker 1: in it, just specifically for Twitch streaming, So if you're
Speaker 1: like subscribed on Twitch, you can also get access there
Speaker 1: you don't want to be on Patron, And I might
Speaker 1: also be opening up my YouTube memberships, which I'll do
Speaker 1: the same thing with Twitch that will get you into
Speaker 1: the same server. Why wouldn't I put it in the
Speaker 1: other server because YouTube and Twitch I can't do NSFW distinctions,
Speaker 1: so it would be a completely safer work server. But
Speaker 1: the idea being so that you guys can sign up
Speaker 1: for the Perche nights. So if you would interested in that,
Speaker 1: please leave me a comment down below, and if you can't,
Speaker 1: if you can't subscribe via YouTube memberships or Twitch, that's
Speaker 1: perfectly fine. Like the fact that you even watch my
Speaker 1: stuff is blows my mind. Let alone leave the comment,
Speaker 1: Let alone leave ali like blows my mind. I'm so
Speaker 1: stoked by anyways, inspiration so today's video. I know you
Speaker 1: won't believe this, but Zena is a little bit of
Speaker 1: a fixer.
Speaker 2: Xena likes to.
Speaker 1: Find broken boys and I do tend to actually clean
Speaker 1: their houses and cook for them. It's the thing that
Speaker 1: I do. And so then there's self worth and has
Speaker 1: that ever worked out? No? No, it never works out.
Speaker 1: It usually ends up with me getting left. Once they
Speaker 1: realize what their self worth is, it's great. So this
Speaker 1: today's story has happened multiple times. There's no one in
Speaker 1: particular person, but I was. I was. I always become
Speaker 1: the girlfriend who sends reminders to take a shower, to
Speaker 1: have they spot cleaned to their house and if not,
Speaker 1: during the week, I would pop by and I would
Speaker 1: end up doing it. Have they done their dishes? Have
Speaker 1: they cooked? I got to the point with a couple
Speaker 1: of different boyfriends where I'd go over and cook an
Speaker 1: entire weeks of meals in like one to two days
Speaker 1: and just have it where they could easily microwave it.
Speaker 1: That's me, It's what I do. I tend to be
Speaker 1: the caregiver because it's a it's a psychological thing, it's
Speaker 1: a I want to be the thing I wish I had.
Speaker 1: I am very yandraish in the way that like, if
Speaker 1: someone treats I really don't care. If someone treats me,
Speaker 1: I'll take it until I break. But that's also because
Speaker 1: I don't let people in legitimately, I'll keep you at armslength,
Speaker 1: can't I keep people at arms length until I can
Speaker 1: trust them, Like people who are always talking about themselves
Speaker 1: and whatnot, and they're not like showing interest to other people.
Speaker 1: I tend to like keep on the outer circle. But
Speaker 1: like once I let someone inside, oh my god, it's
Speaker 1: so hard to prime me apart from them. So but
Speaker 1: with my friends and with my lovers, like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I will take everyone out of your life that I
Speaker 1: think is toxic to you. Let them say something nasty
Speaker 1: to you, let me get a bad vibe, and watch
Speaker 1: what will happen. There have been several guys in which
Speaker 1: I went through and I blocked a whole bunch of people,
Speaker 1: and in my defense, every single one of them when
Speaker 1: they like looked after like a relationship as long as
Speaker 1: it's over. I've had every single one of them come
Speaker 1: back and tell me thank you, X, Y and Z,
Speaker 1: And usually multiple people were really bad my life has
Speaker 1: been so much better since. Sorry really bad for me,
Speaker 1: even bad people. I believe some people are bad for
Speaker 1: other people. These people did not gell well. They were
Speaker 1: not contributing to their life, so it worked out. I've
Speaker 1: been therapy and I am not about that is a
Speaker 1: toxic trait. Can never be with someone if you're a
Speaker 1: partner who's like trying to make you cut off people
Speaker 1: without like like it's not the best trait. It's not
Speaker 1: the best trait. And I've been in therapy, so I
Speaker 1: don't make those demands anymore. It's perfectly okay to talk
Speaker 1: it out and have you both come to the conclusion
Speaker 1: and decide, but it's not okay to like, forcibly have
Speaker 1: it happened anyways, Love you guys. I'm not a therapist.
Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't be talking on these this type of stuff,
Speaker 1: but I love you guys. Don't talk to you the
Speaker 1: next one.
Speaker 4: Bye.