WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.400 --> 00:00:09.000 Almost in my old intro. What's up, beautiful people, it's 2 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:11.839 your girl story repeat, and this is another episode of Chocolate, 3 00:00:11.919 --> 00:00:14.960 Chip and Chip. And today we're not talking about the 4 00:00:15.119 --> 00:00:18.320 situationship you keep going back to. We're not talking about 5 00:00:18.399 --> 00:00:22.000 standing on boundaries. We're not talking about doing better, choosing better, 6 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:26.160 giving yourself your all. Today we're gonna talk about something 7 00:00:26.199 --> 00:00:32.200 even more serious. Where's your mic shot? Exactly? I feel 8 00:00:32.280 --> 00:00:35.520 like we talk about being ghosted by a guy you 9 00:00:35.520 --> 00:00:37.840 shouldn't have gave a chance to all the time, right, 10 00:00:38.399 --> 00:00:41.840 I feel like we talk about toxic situationships all the time. 11 00:00:41.920 --> 00:00:45.079 All right, No, we don't talk about just what you 12 00:00:45.240 --> 00:00:48.439 keep happening. It's a breakup, but it's a friend breakup, 13 00:00:48.799 --> 00:00:51.479 a friend breakup. Now. I know so many y'all have 14 00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:53.920 been saying, yeah, yeah, it's not that serious. What's not 15 00:00:54.000 --> 00:00:57.039 that serious? Breaking up what a friend is just the 16 00:00:57.079 --> 00:00:59.240 same as breaking up with a nigga, just the same 17 00:00:59.240 --> 00:01:01.200 as breaking up with your girl. And I'm gonna tell 18 00:01:01.200 --> 00:01:04.040 you why breaking up with your friend is hard, because 19 00:01:04.359 --> 00:01:07.959 that heartbreak it different. This ain't just somebody, right, you 20 00:01:08.000 --> 00:01:09.799 just gay yams too? You say I don't really need 21 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:11.680 to see them again or I'm saying you can just 22 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:14.319 get over as simple as that. No, this is somebody 23 00:01:14.359 --> 00:01:16.640 who's seen you at your highest, somebody who's seen you 24 00:01:16.680 --> 00:01:18.920 at your lowest, and somebody who might have seen your 25 00:01:18.920 --> 00:01:24.200 titties the hurt. The hert is different, Okay, the herd 26 00:01:24.280 --> 00:01:27.519 is different. Honestly, fellas, y'all might learn a thing or two. Okay, 27 00:01:27.799 --> 00:01:29.799 I know y'all be wondering why girls go to Miami 28 00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:31.799 and they't not friends when they get back, you gonna 29 00:01:31.840 --> 00:01:35.200 find out. You gonna find out. You gonna find out today. 30 00:01:35.359 --> 00:01:37.040 We already know because all of them wards have like 31 00:01:37.079 --> 00:01:38.040 one or two of them. 32 00:01:38.560 --> 00:01:39.799 No, that's not true. 33 00:01:40.159 --> 00:01:40.959 I said one or two. 34 00:01:41.120 --> 00:01:42.040 No, that's not true. 35 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:45.439 Somebody always getting trashed. No, somebody's always getting trashed by 36 00:01:45.439 --> 00:01:48.280 a penist, and then somebody's always getting and then somebody's 37 00:01:48.280 --> 00:01:51.000 always getting lost, and then somebody whose ain't got no money. 38 00:01:51.280 --> 00:01:52.879 It's always it's always one of those factors. 39 00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:58.040 It's it's it's you. You mentioned it too, like it's 40 00:01:58.040 --> 00:02:01.239 always home to money or money, or somebody want to 41 00:02:01.239 --> 00:02:03.480 be a whole when you're found that's money, or somebody 42 00:02:03.519 --> 00:02:08.639 wants to be a You already know started trying to 43 00:02:08.680 --> 00:02:12.520 jump ahead like damnigg we got segments, thank you sawone 44 00:02:12.560 --> 00:02:16.240 to start with. A friendship breakup hurts just as bad. 45 00:02:16.400 --> 00:02:19.039 It's not more than a romantic breakup because number one, 46 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:21.960 you wouldn't expect this type of behavior from your ride 47 00:02:21.960 --> 00:02:24.439 to die, bitch. I didn't know you was gonna have 48 00:02:24.520 --> 00:02:28.400 to die, okay, when we entered this pact, when we 49 00:02:28.479 --> 00:02:31.280 became friends, whether it be when we met each other 50 00:02:31.319 --> 00:02:33.360 in the breakroom at work, whether it be when we 51 00:02:33.400 --> 00:02:35.719 sat down on the rug together in third grade. I 52 00:02:35.719 --> 00:02:39.240 didn't know you was gonna show your ass. I didn't 53 00:02:39.240 --> 00:02:40.680 know I was gonna have to sing you to the 54 00:02:40.759 --> 00:02:44.759 shadow rem since like it's hard out here, it's just unexpected. 55 00:02:45.039 --> 00:02:48.759 I have shared so many juicy details with you, you know 56 00:02:48.840 --> 00:02:53.919 too much, like you gotta go, you gotta go. You 57 00:02:53.960 --> 00:02:58.280 can be a great person, but this one individual those 58 00:02:58.439 --> 00:03:01.039 all your skeletons in your clod it and could be 59 00:03:01.120 --> 00:03:03.479 out here trying to tell everybody, like how do you 60 00:03:03.479 --> 00:03:09.719 handle that? When we talk about like friend breakups, we 61 00:03:09.759 --> 00:03:13.199 always automatically assume it's a girl thing. Fellas be feeling 62 00:03:13.280 --> 00:03:16.680 it too, finding out your homie, try to talk to 63 00:03:16.759 --> 00:03:21.240 your fine shit or some old work It's hard finding 64 00:03:21.280 --> 00:03:23.520 out your homie is actually a bum who's not going 65 00:03:23.599 --> 00:03:25.280 to pay you back the money they said they were 66 00:03:25.319 --> 00:03:29.080 going to pay you. It's hard, okay, finally maturing and 67 00:03:29.120 --> 00:03:31.960 realizing your homie is the nigga who say, yo, Bro, 68 00:03:32.080 --> 00:03:35.000 you think I got too many Jordans? When bitches come around, 69 00:03:35.080 --> 00:03:39.759 even harder, okay, Like friendship breakups across the scale are 70 00:03:39.759 --> 00:03:44.840 hard because it's intimate. Okay, you never expected it and 71 00:03:44.879 --> 00:03:45.840 nobody wants it. 72 00:03:45.800 --> 00:03:47.479 And the pain don't come till three months later. 73 00:03:47.680 --> 00:03:49.520 I think when you break up with a friend, you 74 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:54.639 have to grieve them, okay, dog, Like I have to 75 00:03:54.680 --> 00:03:57.520 grieve you because you're no longer here. You're dead to me. 76 00:04:00.520 --> 00:04:04.199 Can't just say I don't watch you anymore, bro, And 77 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:06.759 I be real pissed when it's like I gotta I 78 00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:09.240 gotta meme or real I want to sing you because 79 00:04:09.240 --> 00:04:10.800 I know you wanted. A few people who go and 80 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:16.399 get it and think it's funny, Oh my god, it 81 00:04:16.519 --> 00:04:20.560 beat the worse like and then it's like we'll stop 82 00:04:20.600 --> 00:04:24.480 being friends then like two years later, like Instagram or 83 00:04:24.480 --> 00:04:27.040 Facebook says people, you may know I know that hole 84 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:29.879 and I don't like her no more. We're not friends. 85 00:04:30.519 --> 00:04:31.439 We're not cool. 86 00:04:31.959 --> 00:04:35.839 We're not cool. This is six years ago. 87 00:04:36.279 --> 00:04:40.399 Discover you ain't never lied to you ain't never lied 88 00:04:40.639 --> 00:04:44.240 or like you said, like and here come folky ass Facebook. 89 00:04:44.240 --> 00:04:47.360 Remember when you was friends with this bitch six years ago? Okay, 90 00:04:47.839 --> 00:04:48.279 I do. 91 00:04:48.680 --> 00:04:50.560 I don't want you, but I do. 92 00:04:52.079 --> 00:04:54.160 It's hard when you gotta stop fucking with the person 93 00:04:54.160 --> 00:04:57.839 who knew your passwords right. And it's hard when you 94 00:04:57.920 --> 00:05:00.800 gotta imagine your life without so when you may have 95 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:03.120 planned the rest of it with not on like some 96 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:05.160 we getting married stuff that was like, Yo, bro, I 97 00:05:05.199 --> 00:05:07.560 expected you to be at my wedding. I expected you 98 00:05:07.639 --> 00:05:10.199 to be standing next to me, like I expected you 99 00:05:10.240 --> 00:05:12.879 to be standing next to me as I'm grieving you know, 100 00:05:13.439 --> 00:05:16.040 my mom, my grandmom. Like I expected you to be 101 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:18.240 at the birth of my child, at my kids graduation, 102 00:05:18.399 --> 00:05:20.600 like I envisioned this for us because we were so 103 00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:27.600 locked in. This is SHOT's fault. Just so y'all know, 104 00:05:27.759 --> 00:05:29.720 Shod told me last week. He was like, Yo, bitch, 105 00:05:29.759 --> 00:05:33.399 I'm sick of you talk about relationships, so go with 106 00:05:33.480 --> 00:05:38.199 something else. So this is SHOT's fault. So yeah, the 107 00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:39.959 next thing I want to talk about the only thing 108 00:05:40.079 --> 00:05:43.600 Worse than breaking up with a friend is seeing them 109 00:05:43.639 --> 00:05:46.920 hanging out with people y'all wasn't cool with when y'all 110 00:05:46.959 --> 00:05:50.160 was friends. Now, when the fuck did this happen? I'm confused? Now, 111 00:05:50.199 --> 00:05:54.120 y'all chum chummy, Now y'all, buddy buddy, didn't she burn us? 112 00:05:54.680 --> 00:05:57.120 Don't that whole owe us money? How are y'all friends? 113 00:05:57.160 --> 00:05:59.399 Didn't that nigga say he was gonna come through and 114 00:05:59.439 --> 00:06:02.240 he didn't? How are y'all friends? Now? That be the 115 00:06:02.240 --> 00:06:05.439 part that be getting me so bad? When fucking Meghan 116 00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:08.639 said Op's linked up in a picture, I felt that 117 00:06:08.839 --> 00:06:11.600 on a spiritual level, y'all don't even like each other. 118 00:06:11.639 --> 00:06:14.600 Y'all just don't like me. It's never gonna be you. 119 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:22.839 To see how low you would go makes me realize 120 00:06:22.839 --> 00:06:24.160 you was never really my friend. 121 00:06:24.199 --> 00:06:25.480 In the beginning, we was. 122 00:06:25.519 --> 00:06:27.920 Just in the group chat talking about this girl. Now 123 00:06:27.959 --> 00:06:32.680 y'all friends. Now y'all bumping coot chase. Okay, maybe not 124 00:06:32.759 --> 00:06:36.519 bumba coe cheese, but you know, y'all sharing pocketbooks, same thing, 125 00:06:36.839 --> 00:06:39.399 same thing. The only thing worse than that is when 126 00:06:39.399 --> 00:06:43.079 they start hanging out with people you introduced him to. Jesus, 127 00:06:43.199 --> 00:06:47.160 my friends get out of here. Okay. It even worse 128 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:51.319 when the people you introduced them to, y'all not really 129 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:53.920 locked in like that, so they don't got no reason 130 00:06:53.959 --> 00:06:56.480 to choose sides, so you can't be mad at them. 131 00:06:56.839 --> 00:06:58.800 But you could be mad at your funky ass ex 132 00:06:58.879 --> 00:07:02.120 friend because you know what, Or you just go around 133 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:04.879 trying to recruit other people not to like me, hate 134 00:07:04.879 --> 00:07:07.519 me on your own. How don't You don't need no backup? 135 00:07:07.680 --> 00:07:09.959 Hate me on your own. You do not need to 136 00:07:10.040 --> 00:07:13.079 venture out and rally a squadron of people not to 137 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:15.839 like me. Okay, you don't gotta do that, Hey me 138 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:16.519 with your chest? 139 00:07:16.680 --> 00:07:16.759 Ye? 140 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:21.120 No, Because a man might not deliberately recruit other men 141 00:07:21.199 --> 00:07:23.600 not to like you, but he'll start dirty macking and 142 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:26.000 dry snitching and saying shit about you that other niggas 143 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:29.199 cannot want to fuck with you for same thing. I'm sorry. 144 00:07:29.279 --> 00:07:35.600 What you're done, You're fucking done. I stopped being friends 145 00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:40.240 with somebody, and afterwards I just looked back and said, 146 00:07:41.319 --> 00:07:43.639 how didn't I know that wasn't my friend? Like when 147 00:07:43.639 --> 00:07:47.800 they say hindsight is twenty twenty, it is twenty motherfucking twenty. 148 00:07:47.879 --> 00:07:50.680 I can look back and pinpoint every situation where it 149 00:07:50.680 --> 00:07:52.800 should have became clear that they are not your friend. 150 00:07:52.920 --> 00:07:56.800 Every compliment they give you comes with some backhand smart 151 00:07:56.800 --> 00:08:00.319 ass like other comment like what are we doing here? 152 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:02.959 I don't like that, Or it's like whenever they need 153 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:05.800 to borrow money from you, it's okay, but whenever you 154 00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:08.240 ask for your money back, damn, I didn't know we 155 00:08:08.240 --> 00:08:12.839 was counting favors. Uh, we're not. I'm we also not 156 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:15.439 taking advantage of me either. How come they don't never 157 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:18.600 have the same urgency they had when they returning the 158 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:20.680 money as when they were when they was asking for 159 00:08:20.720 --> 00:08:23.319 the money. It's the timelines are never the same. There 160 00:08:23.680 --> 00:08:25.360 I need that money. 161 00:08:25.079 --> 00:08:27.120 Being a strong friend, always being called being the one 162 00:08:27.160 --> 00:08:29.000 a child we need. Okay, let's go, let's go, let's go. 163 00:08:29.199 --> 00:08:31.240 This is low key my fault because I enabled this 164 00:08:31.319 --> 00:08:34.240 behavior by, you know, just being being loyal. 165 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:37.559 It's hard when you're genuinely a good person because you're 166 00:08:37.559 --> 00:08:40.639 not counting favors. You're not doing things because you expect 167 00:08:40.639 --> 00:08:43.000 something in return. You're doing things out of the kindness 168 00:08:43.000 --> 00:08:44.080 of your heart and your mind. 169 00:08:44.120 --> 00:08:44.879 You looking out for. 170 00:08:44.919 --> 00:08:47.519 Your homie, so they're automatically going to look out for you. 171 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:50.559 But everybody don't think that way. Or it's like whenever 172 00:08:50.600 --> 00:08:55.039 you tell them some good news, some accomplishment, some new accolade, 173 00:08:55.399 --> 00:08:58.080 all of a sudden, this you congress on your little promotion. 174 00:08:58.399 --> 00:09:00.919 Hold on, bitch, big promotion, big money. 175 00:09:01.120 --> 00:09:03.559 Okay, Oh yeah, I see you got your little show popping, 176 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:06.559 big show. Okay. Oh you know, I see you out 177 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.600 here with your new little car or whatever. Big car, 178 00:09:11.080 --> 00:09:14.879 big fucking lease, big fucking whatever. Okay, put the right 179 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:17.159 energy on it. They always want to throw some little 180 00:09:17.159 --> 00:09:18.919 shit to make it seem like it's not that deep. 181 00:09:19.279 --> 00:09:22.000 These are all signs that that person isn't really your friend. 182 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:23.840 But if you're a good person and you have a 183 00:09:23.879 --> 00:09:27.159 good heart, you're gonna miss them all. You are going 184 00:09:27.240 --> 00:09:30.279 to miss them all. When old people be like, oh, 185 00:09:30.360 --> 00:09:34.320 if it was a snake, it would it bit me, baby. 186 00:09:34.799 --> 00:09:37.320 It is so crazy how you can look back and 187 00:09:37.360 --> 00:09:40.639 see every single situation where that person wasn't really down 188 00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:43.279 for you, that person wasn't really in your corner, And 189 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:46.440 it sucks. It fucking sucks because the whole time you 190 00:09:46.559 --> 00:09:47.960 was riding and looking out for them out of the 191 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:50.480 kindess of your heart. And then don't let you try 192 00:09:50.519 --> 00:09:53.279 to better yourself and go to fabry and start making 193 00:09:53.320 --> 00:09:56.360 better changes and better decisions in your life. So now 194 00:09:56.480 --> 00:09:58.240 you don't want to do a lot of that fuck 195 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:02.840 stuff no more. All of us is damn you changed. Nah, Baby, 196 00:10:02.879 --> 00:10:06.320 I grew and I see that you're not right and 197 00:10:06.360 --> 00:10:09.559 not be the worst part, like out growing your friends. 198 00:10:10.200 --> 00:10:12.759 Out Growing your friends is sometimes worse than one of 199 00:10:12.759 --> 00:10:15.279 them doing you dirty because you don't even have a 200 00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:18.000 reason to say, like, this can't work, no more other 201 00:10:18.039 --> 00:10:22.159 than baby's shoe. It's not me, it's shoe, And that's hard. 202 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:23.840 I feel like a lot of times we see people 203 00:10:23.840 --> 00:10:25.559 fall out on the internet, or we see people in 204 00:10:25.639 --> 00:10:28.240 our inner circle stop being friends and it's like, well 205 00:10:28.240 --> 00:10:33.600 what now, and the crash outs be immense. But if 206 00:10:33.600 --> 00:10:35.480 you're one of those people who's trying to figure out 207 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:40.759 how to navigate your life after a friend breakup, I 208 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:44.120 got some suggestions for you. First things First, I don't 209 00:10:44.200 --> 00:10:46.080 want y'all to go on the internet and start crashing 210 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:48.799 out and telling everybody's business. Okay, I don't want to 211 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:53.039 hear about how they tub got dirt rings around it, 212 00:10:53.320 --> 00:10:56.919 and how they wear holy drawls and how they always 213 00:10:57.000 --> 00:10:59.440 broke and how they are ho or how they don't 214 00:10:59.440 --> 00:11:01.480 get no hold. I don't want to hear none of that, 215 00:11:02.159 --> 00:11:04.320 because when it was doing all that, that was your 216 00:11:04.360 --> 00:11:06.600 fucking best friend, and that was the people you were 217 00:11:06.639 --> 00:11:10.639 surrounding yourself with. So keep that same energy. It wasn't 218 00:11:10.679 --> 00:11:14.159 a problem when y'all was friends. Okay. She wasn't a dirty, 219 00:11:14.200 --> 00:11:16.519 nasty hoe who owed you money when y'all was linked 220 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:19.480 up and hanging out every day. Okay. He wasn't a 221 00:11:19.519 --> 00:11:21.679 broke nigga who you always had the front money for 222 00:11:21.799 --> 00:11:23.559 that press the girls and let him borrow your car, 223 00:11:23.720 --> 00:11:26.159 borrow your clothes. He wasn't that when y'all was besties. 224 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:28.399 So I don't want to hear it when y'all stopped 225 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:30.840 being friends, okay, because apparently that was just the company 226 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:34.240 you keep. Instead. What you can do is, I know 227 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:35.919 y'all don't like it. I know y'all don't like it, 228 00:11:35.919 --> 00:11:40.039 but give it a try. Therapy, journaling, self care. I 229 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:42.519 know these sound like sugar buzzwords and he just goes 230 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:44.240 in one air and out the other, But I promise 231 00:11:44.759 --> 00:11:48.200 it makes a difference. Ask yourself, what do you look 232 00:11:48.279 --> 00:11:51.159 like when you are practicing self care? A lot of 233 00:11:51.159 --> 00:11:54.080 people won't have to answer, can it enter? Maybe taking 234 00:11:54.120 --> 00:11:58.080 a bath, going shopping, taking a walk, taking a mindful walk, 235 00:11:58.200 --> 00:12:00.679 Like what else can we do for you that's just 236 00:12:00.759 --> 00:12:03.519 for you to get your mind off. I go to church, 237 00:12:03.960 --> 00:12:08.919 release them demons, okay, journal, take a bath, take a walk, 238 00:12:09.200 --> 00:12:12.320 ride your bike. All right, pour back into you and 239 00:12:13.919 --> 00:12:16.879 don't jump into filling the void. And when I say 240 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:19.440 filling the void, I'm gonna say probably the toughest part 241 00:12:19.799 --> 00:12:23.039 about breaking up friends as an adult making new friends 242 00:12:23.279 --> 00:12:28.200 because honestly, if it's not like at work as an adult, 243 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:34.639 where do we make new friends? Church? Okay, the gym, okay, work, Ugh, 244 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:38.639 Losing your core friend group and having a start over 245 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:42.039 or losing your best friend as an adult is hard, 246 00:12:42.279 --> 00:12:44.519 never mind the trust issues that you're gonna have coming 247 00:12:44.519 --> 00:12:46.639 off of that. But it's like just as an adult 248 00:12:46.639 --> 00:12:48.960 going up to people like Hi, I'm Gibbie. 249 00:12:49.080 --> 00:12:49.679 That sucks. 250 00:12:51.039 --> 00:12:53.639 It sucks regardless. We need to have the energy of 251 00:12:53.720 --> 00:12:57.519 you know, I'm not mad. You just can't sit with 252 00:12:57.519 --> 00:12:59.600 me no more. And if that means I got a 253 00:12:59.639 --> 00:13:02.559 rebuild my own table without you, then it is what 254 00:13:02.600 --> 00:13:05.879 it is. So now we're going to get into Then 255 00:13:05.919 --> 00:13:08.679 there's a segment somebody come look at this. 256 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:14.519 Okay, Oh I like it. 257 00:13:15.480 --> 00:13:17.720 We are going to get into some funny stories that 258 00:13:17.799 --> 00:13:20.000 I found on Reddit, and you know, today we're talking 259 00:13:20.039 --> 00:13:22.919 about friendship, so these have to do with friends, and 260 00:13:23.080 --> 00:13:26.320 you know, like, no, you need to because last time 261 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:29.519 you didn't you need to be on the mic. Last 262 00:13:29.519 --> 00:13:33.000 time you just yelling at the background. Now we're going 263 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:36.279 to get into some cool stories from Reddit about friendships 264 00:13:36.360 --> 00:13:39.240 or lack thereof. So the first one, am I the 265 00:13:39.360 --> 00:13:42.879 asshole for not forgiving my best friend for sleeping with 266 00:13:42.960 --> 00:13:44.840 my ex even though she. 267 00:13:44.840 --> 00:13:46.240 Said it wasn't that serious. 268 00:13:48.600 --> 00:13:57.000 Yeah yeah, yeah, checks ash And seeing these chit fucking 269 00:13:57.399 --> 00:14:01.000 reels on social media, I gotta send the team where 270 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:05.200 we're done. My ex, thirty mail and I twenty nine female, 271 00:14:05.279 --> 00:14:08.240 dated for three years. We broke up amicably, but it 272 00:14:08.320 --> 00:14:11.240 still hurt. I thought he was the one. About three 273 00:14:11.240 --> 00:14:14.919 months after our breakup, my best friend of ten years, Kayla, 274 00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:18.840 admitted she'd been talking to him. I don't like that 275 00:14:18.960 --> 00:14:22.960 term sounds like a war Jesus Christ. I was stunned. 276 00:14:23.360 --> 00:14:27.360 She said they'd hooked up a few times and wanted 277 00:14:27.399 --> 00:14:31.279 to tell me before it got serious. Now, hold on, Kayla, 278 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:34.519 hold on, Kayla, we're gonna have to process the timeline 279 00:14:34.559 --> 00:14:39.320 a little better, Okay, because hooking up a few times, baby, 280 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:43.720 it's already serious. You have a steady situationship going here. 281 00:14:44.159 --> 00:14:45.960 Like just because y'all not my boyfriend and girlfriend on me, 282 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:48.600 it's serious. You needed to tell me when y'all exchange 283 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:52.639 numbers and asks permission, then, okay, telling me after y'all 284 00:14:52.679 --> 00:14:56.039 already did the no pants dances crazy. I was crushed. 285 00:14:56.480 --> 00:14:59.600 I didn't expect lifelong loyalty to my ex, but I 286 00:14:59.679 --> 00:15:02.200 did it expect her not to crawl into bed with 287 00:15:02.320 --> 00:15:05.159 someone I loved. She said it wasn't serious and I 288 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:08.879 was being possessive. I told her we were done. She 289 00:15:09.000 --> 00:15:11.120 tried to guilt trip me by bringing up all the 290 00:15:11.159 --> 00:15:13.600 time she was there for me doing the breakup, and said, 291 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:16.799 I'm throwing away a decade long friendship over casual sex, 292 00:15:17.159 --> 00:15:19.960 the same casual sex that you also threw away a 293 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:23.559 decade long friendship with because you come, come on, and 294 00:15:23.600 --> 00:15:26.840 then you wanna try to gaslight knock your frontsut all 295 00:15:26.879 --> 00:15:27.559 this deca. 296 00:15:27.399 --> 00:15:29.960 The world you are that one. That's what I would 297 00:15:29.960 --> 00:15:30.240 have said. 298 00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:33.440 All this dick, not just all this dick all this 299 00:15:33.720 --> 00:15:37.039 casual dick you can be getting. You choose mine, you 300 00:15:37.120 --> 00:15:38.480 choose my old one. 301 00:15:38.480 --> 00:15:41.080 Three months, Rob, Oh, you don't want to talk about serious. 302 00:15:42.200 --> 00:15:44.399 Bright, they've been together for three years. You didn't seen 303 00:15:44.440 --> 00:15:49.279 me three three Christmases, three birthdays. We probably had a 304 00:15:49.320 --> 00:15:52.919 group check by this time, like you was plying. It's 305 00:15:52.960 --> 00:15:56.360 giving you was plying. She said, Maybe I'm being dramatic, 306 00:15:56.440 --> 00:15:59.159 Maybe it wasn't that serious, but it feels serious, and 307 00:15:59.240 --> 00:16:02.440 my asshole ending our friendship over this, baby. I'm gonna 308 00:16:02.440 --> 00:16:06.279 hold your hand when I say this. Y'all was never friends. Okay, 309 00:16:06.879 --> 00:16:08.360 the friendship was already. 310 00:16:08.039 --> 00:16:09.799 Over as soon as I heard knew. 311 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:12.720 Oh my god. Okay, you can't blame all the Kaylas 312 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:20.759 for this. You cannot blame to me personally. It's really 313 00:16:20.799 --> 00:16:23.600 the fact that y'all was together three years and she 314 00:16:23.720 --> 00:16:25.960 tried to guess like you into making it seem like 315 00:16:26.039 --> 00:16:27.039 it wasn't that deep. 316 00:16:28.679 --> 00:16:30.120 That's like when you hold somebody down here, like I 317 00:16:30.159 --> 00:16:31.200 didn't ask you to all those things. 318 00:16:32.279 --> 00:16:37.159 She think you sweet sis. Okay, no, you're you're not 319 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:38.840 the asshole. I don't I don't know about y'all, but 320 00:16:38.840 --> 00:16:41.919 I don't think she said something you're spaghetti. I'm gonna 321 00:16:41.919 --> 00:16:44.879 go to the next story, and mighty asshole for refusing 322 00:16:44.919 --> 00:16:47.279 to continue the date because she showed up with the 323 00:16:47.360 --> 00:16:52.080 friend unannounced, y'all. Why y'all do this, y'all? Good boy, 324 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:58.039 I cannot continue to defend y'all with these type of shenanigans. Okay, 325 00:16:58.159 --> 00:17:01.639 y'all are making it hard for me. It says basically, 326 00:17:01.840 --> 00:17:05.160 got matched on tender for a Saturday date. We agreed 327 00:17:05.240 --> 00:17:07.799 on some cafe in public, and she shows up with 328 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:11.240 a friend of hers who's to be fair more attractive 329 00:17:11.279 --> 00:17:12.480 than herself. 330 00:17:14.359 --> 00:17:17.720 That was your first mistake, syst That's crazy. 331 00:17:17.839 --> 00:17:19.640 If you're going to show up on a date with 332 00:17:19.720 --> 00:17:24.160 somebody else, bringing somebody more attractive than you is bold 333 00:17:24.240 --> 00:17:25.920 as hell. But you know what, I take that back. 334 00:17:26.480 --> 00:17:30.640 What if her thought process was if my friend is fine, 335 00:17:31.039 --> 00:17:34.119 he'll pay for her drinks too, So I don't know. 336 00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:36.880 She might have been cooking left. Okay. 337 00:17:37.240 --> 00:17:41.079 So when I met them, I asked what's up, and 338 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:43.799 she said, I bought a friend if you don't mind, 339 00:17:43.880 --> 00:17:47.000 just to be more comfortable. I replied, I thought this 340 00:17:47.160 --> 00:17:50.119 was a date since I specifically asked if you would 341 00:17:50.200 --> 00:17:51.799 like to go out for food and drinks with me. 342 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:56.319 She basically said her friend wanted to come for security reasons. 343 00:17:56.400 --> 00:18:04.000 All Right, I'm gonna be real you. If everybody's grown here, right, 344 00:18:04.079 --> 00:18:07.680 like everybody's is an adult, you don't need to be 345 00:18:07.759 --> 00:18:10.599 going to dates with your friends. If you are going 346 00:18:10.640 --> 00:18:13.240 to go on a date with your friend for security reasons, 347 00:18:13.680 --> 00:18:17.119 sins play the game smart, sit a table away, put 348 00:18:17.160 --> 00:18:19.839 a menu in front of your face like you play 349 00:18:19.880 --> 00:18:20.599 the game. 350 00:18:20.440 --> 00:18:23.440 Sets feel uncomfortable with me. I'm feel uncomfortable on you. 351 00:18:23.440 --> 00:18:26.680 We're not doing nothing now. I agree that's crazy. 352 00:18:26.319 --> 00:18:29.279 Because you saying you brought your friend for security reasons. 353 00:18:29.720 --> 00:18:31.720 What if he think y'all trying to rob him for 354 00:18:31.960 --> 00:18:32.880 security reason? 355 00:18:33.039 --> 00:18:39.720 To like, that's crazy. A whole nother person do, that's crazy. 356 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:42.960 Dog. I got annoyed and said I'm not doing a 357 00:18:42.960 --> 00:18:45.359 three person date. Sorry, have a good win and left. 358 00:18:45.960 --> 00:18:48.640 I'm a twenty seven year okay, and this what pitches me, Hey, 359 00:18:48.640 --> 00:18:51.119 twenty seven, which means y'all are around twenty seven, So 360 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:54.119 everybody is grown. I'm twenty seven years old with almost 361 00:18:54.240 --> 00:18:57.119 no free time, looking for a serious partner, not some 362 00:18:57.160 --> 00:19:00.839 situationship or a fun night man. My profile also clearly 363 00:19:00.880 --> 00:19:05.519 states looking for something serious and long term online and 364 00:19:05.599 --> 00:19:08.799 offline talk about is this normal to bring a friend 365 00:19:08.839 --> 00:19:11.160 on a date? Or am I just behind with the times? 366 00:19:11.519 --> 00:19:11.880 Baby? 367 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:14.559 No, it's not. No, it is not normal. And whoever 368 00:19:14.680 --> 00:19:17.119 is spreading the word that it's okay to go on 369 00:19:17.160 --> 00:19:20.519 a date with your girlfriend who's not incognito, because I 370 00:19:20.559 --> 00:19:24.519 don't mind if she incognito. Who's not incognito? That's not 371 00:19:24.680 --> 00:19:25.599 okay bring. 372 00:19:25.400 --> 00:19:26.839 Out with people where you feel like you need to 373 00:19:26.839 --> 00:19:28.680 bring somebody for security in the first place. 374 00:19:28.759 --> 00:19:29.799 I was just about to say. 375 00:19:29.599 --> 00:19:31.839 That anything that I do at that point is gonna 376 00:19:32.039 --> 00:19:33.640 looking I'm gonna be nervous walking. 377 00:19:34.880 --> 00:19:37.359 If you are, say to the point where you feel 378 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:40.400 like you don't feel safe with this person, ask yourself why? 379 00:19:40.640 --> 00:19:43.480 Because he just said y'all met during the day in 380 00:19:43.519 --> 00:19:45.839 a public place. He didn't take you to no hole 381 00:19:45.880 --> 00:19:48.759 on the wall like bar in the middle of North Philly. 382 00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:52.599 He's taking you to some place in the day in public, Like, 383 00:19:52.839 --> 00:19:54.960 what is he gonna do? Sis? And I don't want 384 00:19:54.960 --> 00:19:56.440 to say what's he gonna do? Because I know things 385 00:19:56.440 --> 00:19:58.720 have happened. But if you're at a point where you're 386 00:19:58.720 --> 00:20:01.839 this uncomfortable, maybe you shouldn't be dating. Maybe you're not 387 00:20:01.960 --> 00:20:03.720 ready to step out there and get to know new 388 00:20:03.720 --> 00:20:05.480 people and try new things. Maybe you should go see 389 00:20:05.480 --> 00:20:06.200 a therapist. 390 00:20:06.039 --> 00:20:07.960 Figure out friends, should get a job and take yourselves 391 00:20:07.960 --> 00:20:10.880 off food and another fucking thing. 392 00:20:11.079 --> 00:20:14.079 Friend who's more attractive as the more attractive friend? 393 00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:16.920 What are you trying. 394 00:20:16.720 --> 00:20:19.599 To steal her man or hurt her potential man? Because 395 00:20:19.640 --> 00:20:21.839 I don't really like how this is working out as 396 00:20:21.839 --> 00:20:23.599 the more attractive friend, you should know you don't need 397 00:20:23.640 --> 00:20:26.240 to be bringing no other friends, Like what are we 398 00:20:26.279 --> 00:20:29.039 doing here? Daytime in a public place is safe enough. 399 00:20:29.119 --> 00:20:30.799 So let me ask you a question. What would you 400 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:33.759 do if you showed up to a date and your 401 00:20:33.839 --> 00:20:37.440