Speaker 1: Almost in my old intro. What's up, beautiful people, it's
Speaker 1: your girl story repeat, and this is another episode of Chocolate,
Speaker 1: Chip and Chip. And today we're not talking about the
Speaker 1: situationship you keep going back to. We're not talking about
Speaker 1: standing on boundaries. We're not talking about doing better, choosing better,
Speaker 1: giving yourself your all. Today we're gonna talk about something
Speaker 1: even more serious. Where's your mic shot? Exactly? I feel
Speaker 1: like we talk about being ghosted by a guy you
Speaker 1: shouldn't have gave a chance to all the time, right,
Speaker 1: I feel like we talk about toxic situationships all the time.
Speaker 1: All right, No, we don't talk about just what you
Speaker 1: keep happening. It's a breakup, but it's a friend breakup,
Speaker 1: a friend breakup. Now. I know so many y'all have
Speaker 1: been saying, yeah, yeah, it's not that serious. What's not
Speaker 1: that serious? Breaking up what a friend is just the
Speaker 1: same as breaking up with a nigga, just the same
Speaker 1: as breaking up with your girl. And I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you why breaking up with your friend is hard, because
Speaker 1: that heartbreak it different. This ain't just somebody, right, you
Speaker 1: just gay yams too? You say I don't really need
Speaker 1: to see them again or I'm saying you can just
Speaker 1: get over as simple as that. No, this is somebody
Speaker 1: who's seen you at your highest, somebody who's seen you
Speaker 1: at your lowest, and somebody who might have seen your
Speaker 1: titties the hurt. The hert is different, Okay, the herd
Speaker 1: is different. Honestly, fellas, y'all might learn a thing or two. Okay,
Speaker 1: I know y'all be wondering why girls go to Miami
Speaker 1: and they't not friends when they get back, you gonna
Speaker 1: find out. You gonna find out. You gonna find out today.
Speaker 2: We already know because all of them wards have like
Speaker 2: one or two of them.
Speaker 1: No, that's not true.
Speaker 2: I said one or two.
Speaker 1: No, that's not true.
Speaker 3: Somebody always getting trashed. No, somebody's always getting trashed by
Speaker 3: a penist, and then somebody's always getting and then somebody's
Speaker 3: always getting lost, and then somebody whose ain't got no money.
Speaker 2: It's always it's always one of those factors.
Speaker 1: It's it's it's you. You mentioned it too, like it's
Speaker 1: always home to money or money, or somebody want to
Speaker 1: be a whole when you're found that's money, or somebody
Speaker 1: wants to be a You already know started trying to
Speaker 1: jump ahead like damnigg we got segments, thank you sawone
Speaker 1: to start with. A friendship breakup hurts just as bad.
Speaker 1: It's not more than a romantic breakup because number one,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't expect this type of behavior from your ride
Speaker 1: to die, bitch. I didn't know you was gonna have
Speaker 1: to die, okay, when we entered this pact, when we
Speaker 1: became friends, whether it be when we met each other
Speaker 1: in the breakroom at work, whether it be when we
Speaker 1: sat down on the rug together in third grade. I
Speaker 1: didn't know you was gonna show your ass. I didn't
Speaker 1: know I was gonna have to sing you to the
Speaker 1: shadow rem since like it's hard out here, it's just unexpected.
Speaker 1: I have shared so many juicy details with you, you know
Speaker 1: too much, like you gotta go, you gotta go. You
Speaker 1: can be a great person, but this one individual those
Speaker 1: all your skeletons in your clod it and could be
Speaker 1: out here trying to tell everybody, like how do you
Speaker 1: handle that? When we talk about like friend breakups, we
Speaker 1: always automatically assume it's a girl thing. Fellas be feeling
Speaker 1: it too, finding out your homie, try to talk to
Speaker 1: your fine shit or some old work It's hard finding
Speaker 1: out your homie is actually a bum who's not going
Speaker 1: to pay you back the money they said they were
Speaker 1: going to pay you. It's hard, okay, finally maturing and
Speaker 1: realizing your homie is the nigga who say, yo, Bro,
Speaker 1: you think I got too many Jordans? When bitches come around,
Speaker 1: even harder, okay, Like friendship breakups across the scale are
Speaker 1: hard because it's intimate. Okay, you never expected it and
Speaker 1: nobody wants it.
Speaker 2: And the pain don't come till three months later.
Speaker 1: I think when you break up with a friend, you
Speaker 1: have to grieve them, okay, dog, Like I have to
Speaker 1: grieve you because you're no longer here. You're dead to me.
Speaker 1: Can't just say I don't watch you anymore, bro, And
Speaker 1: I be real pissed when it's like I gotta I
Speaker 1: gotta meme or real I want to sing you because
Speaker 1: I know you wanted. A few people who go and
Speaker 1: get it and think it's funny, Oh my god, it
Speaker 1: beat the worse like and then it's like we'll stop
Speaker 1: being friends then like two years later, like Instagram or
Speaker 1: Facebook says people, you may know I know that hole
Speaker 1: and I don't like her no more. We're not friends.
Speaker 1: We're not cool.
Speaker 2: We're not cool. This is six years ago.
Speaker 1: Discover you ain't never lied to you ain't never lied
Speaker 1: or like you said, like and here come folky ass Facebook.
Speaker 1: Remember when you was friends with this bitch six years ago? Okay,
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 2: I don't want you, but I do.
Speaker 1: It's hard when you gotta stop fucking with the person
Speaker 1: who knew your passwords right. And it's hard when you
Speaker 1: gotta imagine your life without so when you may have
Speaker 1: planned the rest of it with not on like some
Speaker 1: we getting married stuff that was like, Yo, bro, I
Speaker 1: expected you to be at my wedding. I expected you
Speaker 1: to be standing next to me, like I expected you
Speaker 1: to be standing next to me as I'm grieving you know,
Speaker 1: my mom, my grandmom. Like I expected you to be
Speaker 1: at the birth of my child, at my kids graduation,
Speaker 1: like I envisioned this for us because we were so
Speaker 1: locked in. This is SHOT's fault. Just so y'all know,
Speaker 1: Shod told me last week. He was like, Yo, bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm sick of you talk about relationships, so go with
Speaker 1: something else. So this is SHOT's fault. So yeah, the
Speaker 1: next thing I want to talk about the only thing
Speaker 1: Worse than breaking up with a friend is seeing them
Speaker 1: hanging out with people y'all wasn't cool with when y'all
Speaker 1: was friends. Now, when the fuck did this happen? I'm confused? Now,
Speaker 1: y'all chum chummy, Now y'all, buddy buddy, didn't she burn us?
Speaker 1: Don't that whole owe us money? How are y'all friends?
Speaker 1: Didn't that nigga say he was gonna come through and
Speaker 1: he didn't? How are y'all friends? Now? That be the
Speaker 1: part that be getting me so bad? When fucking Meghan
Speaker 1: said Op's linked up in a picture, I felt that
Speaker 1: on a spiritual level, y'all don't even like each other.
Speaker 1: Y'all just don't like me. It's never gonna be you.
Speaker 1: To see how low you would go makes me realize
Speaker 1: you was never really my friend.
Speaker 2: In the beginning, we was.
Speaker 1: Just in the group chat talking about this girl. Now
Speaker 1: y'all friends. Now y'all bumping coot chase. Okay, maybe not
Speaker 1: bumba coe cheese, but you know, y'all sharing pocketbooks, same thing,
Speaker 1: same thing. The only thing worse than that is when
Speaker 1: they start hanging out with people you introduced him to. Jesus,
Speaker 1: my friends get out of here. Okay. It even worse
Speaker 1: when the people you introduced them to, y'all not really
Speaker 1: locked in like that, so they don't got no reason
Speaker 1: to choose sides, so you can't be mad at them.
Speaker 1: But you could be mad at your funky ass ex
Speaker 1: friend because you know what, Or you just go around
Speaker 1: trying to recruit other people not to like me, hate
Speaker 1: me on your own. How don't You don't need no backup?
Speaker 1: Hate me on your own. You do not need to
Speaker 1: venture out and rally a squadron of people not to
Speaker 1: like me. Okay, you don't gotta do that, Hey me
Speaker 1: with your chest?
Speaker 2: Ye?
Speaker 1: No, Because a man might not deliberately recruit other men
Speaker 1: not to like you, but he'll start dirty macking and
Speaker 1: dry snitching and saying shit about you that other niggas
Speaker 1: cannot want to fuck with you for same thing. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: What you're done, You're fucking done. I stopped being friends
Speaker 1: with somebody, and afterwards I just looked back and said,
Speaker 1: how didn't I know that wasn't my friend? Like when
Speaker 1: they say hindsight is twenty twenty, it is twenty motherfucking twenty.
Speaker 1: I can look back and pinpoint every situation where it
Speaker 1: should have became clear that they are not your friend.
Speaker 1: Every compliment they give you comes with some backhand smart
Speaker 1: ass like other comment like what are we doing here?
Speaker 1: I don't like that, Or it's like whenever they need
Speaker 1: to borrow money from you, it's okay, but whenever you
Speaker 1: ask for your money back, damn, I didn't know we
Speaker 1: was counting favors. Uh, we're not. I'm we also not
Speaker 1: taking advantage of me either. How come they don't never
Speaker 1: have the same urgency they had when they returning the
Speaker 1: money as when they were when they was asking for
Speaker 1: the money. It's the timelines are never the same. There
Speaker 1: I need that money.
Speaker 3: Being a strong friend, always being called being the one
Speaker 3: a child we need. Okay, let's go, let's go, let's go.
Speaker 3: This is low key my fault because I enabled this
Speaker 3: behavior by, you know, just being being loyal.
Speaker 1: It's hard when you're genuinely a good person because you're
Speaker 1: not counting favors. You're not doing things because you expect
Speaker 1: something in return. You're doing things out of the kindness
Speaker 1: of your heart and your mind.
Speaker 2: You looking out for.
Speaker 1: Your homie, so they're automatically going to look out for you.
Speaker 1: But everybody don't think that way. Or it's like whenever
Speaker 1: you tell them some good news, some accomplishment, some new accolade,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, this you congress on your little promotion.
Speaker 2: Hold on, bitch, big promotion, big money.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh yeah, I see you got your little show popping,
Speaker 1: big show. Okay. Oh you know, I see you out
Speaker 1: here with your new little car or whatever. Big car,
Speaker 1: big fucking lease, big fucking whatever. Okay, put the right
Speaker 1: energy on it. They always want to throw some little
Speaker 1: shit to make it seem like it's not that deep.
Speaker 1: These are all signs that that person isn't really your friend.
Speaker 1: But if you're a good person and you have a
Speaker 1: good heart, you're gonna miss them all. You are going
Speaker 1: to miss them all. When old people be like, oh,
Speaker 1: if it was a snake, it would it bit me, baby.
Speaker 1: It is so crazy how you can look back and
Speaker 1: see every single situation where that person wasn't really down
Speaker 1: for you, that person wasn't really in your corner, And
Speaker 1: it sucks. It fucking sucks because the whole time you
Speaker 1: was riding and looking out for them out of the
Speaker 1: kindess of your heart. And then don't let you try
Speaker 1: to better yourself and go to fabry and start making
Speaker 1: better changes and better decisions in your life. So now
Speaker 1: you don't want to do a lot of that fuck
Speaker 1: stuff no more. All of us is damn you changed. Nah, Baby,
Speaker 1: I grew and I see that you're not right and
Speaker 1: not be the worst part, like out growing your friends.
Speaker 1: Out Growing your friends is sometimes worse than one of
Speaker 1: them doing you dirty because you don't even have a
Speaker 1: reason to say, like, this can't work, no more other
Speaker 1: than baby's shoe. It's not me, it's shoe, And that's hard.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times we see people
Speaker 1: fall out on the internet, or we see people in
Speaker 1: our inner circle stop being friends and it's like, well
Speaker 1: what now, and the crash outs be immense. But if
Speaker 1: you're one of those people who's trying to figure out
Speaker 1: how to navigate your life after a friend breakup, I
Speaker 1: got some suggestions for you. First things First, I don't
Speaker 1: want y'all to go on the internet and start crashing
Speaker 1: out and telling everybody's business. Okay, I don't want to
Speaker 1: hear about how they tub got dirt rings around it,
Speaker 1: and how they wear holy drawls and how they always
Speaker 1: broke and how they are ho or how they don't
Speaker 1: get no hold. I don't want to hear none of that,
Speaker 1: because when it was doing all that, that was your
Speaker 1: fucking best friend, and that was the people you were
Speaker 1: surrounding yourself with. So keep that same energy. It wasn't
Speaker 1: a problem when y'all was friends. Okay. She wasn't a dirty,
Speaker 1: nasty hoe who owed you money when y'all was linked
Speaker 1: up and hanging out every day. Okay. He wasn't a
Speaker 1: broke nigga who you always had the front money for
Speaker 1: that press the girls and let him borrow your car,
Speaker 1: borrow your clothes. He wasn't that when y'all was besties.
Speaker 1: So I don't want to hear it when y'all stopped
Speaker 1: being friends, okay, because apparently that was just the company
Speaker 1: you keep. Instead. What you can do is, I know
Speaker 1: y'all don't like it. I know y'all don't like it,
Speaker 1: but give it a try. Therapy, journaling, self care. I
Speaker 1: know these sound like sugar buzzwords and he just goes
Speaker 1: in one air and out the other, But I promise
Speaker 1: it makes a difference. Ask yourself, what do you look
Speaker 1: like when you are practicing self care? A lot of
Speaker 1: people won't have to answer, can it enter? Maybe taking
Speaker 1: a bath, going shopping, taking a walk, taking a mindful walk,
Speaker 1: Like what else can we do for you that's just
Speaker 1: for you to get your mind off. I go to church,
Speaker 1: release them demons, okay, journal, take a bath, take a walk,
Speaker 1: ride your bike. All right, pour back into you and
Speaker 1: don't jump into filling the void. And when I say
Speaker 1: filling the void, I'm gonna say probably the toughest part
Speaker 1: about breaking up friends as an adult making new friends
Speaker 1: because honestly, if it's not like at work as an adult,
Speaker 1: where do we make new friends? Church? Okay, the gym, okay, work, Ugh,
Speaker 1: Losing your core friend group and having a start over
Speaker 1: or losing your best friend as an adult is hard,
Speaker 1: never mind the trust issues that you're gonna have coming
Speaker 1: off of that. But it's like just as an adult
Speaker 1: going up to people like Hi, I'm Gibbie.
Speaker 2: That sucks.
Speaker 1: It sucks regardless. We need to have the energy of
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not mad. You just can't sit with
Speaker 1: me no more. And if that means I got a
Speaker 1: rebuild my own table without you, then it is what
Speaker 1: it is. So now we're going to get into Then
Speaker 1: there's a segment somebody come look at this.
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh I like it.
Speaker 1: We are going to get into some funny stories that
Speaker 1: I found on Reddit, and you know, today we're talking
Speaker 1: about friendship, so these have to do with friends, and
Speaker 1: you know, like, no, you need to because last time
Speaker 1: you didn't you need to be on the mic. Last
Speaker 1: time you just yelling at the background. Now we're going
Speaker 1: to get into some cool stories from Reddit about friendships
Speaker 1: or lack thereof. So the first one, am I the
Speaker 1: asshole for not forgiving my best friend for sleeping with
Speaker 1: my ex even though she.
Speaker 2: Said it wasn't that serious.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, checks ash And seeing these chit fucking
Speaker 1: reels on social media, I gotta send the team where
Speaker 1: we're done. My ex, thirty mail and I twenty nine female,
Speaker 1: dated for three years. We broke up amicably, but it
Speaker 1: still hurt. I thought he was the one. About three
Speaker 1: months after our breakup, my best friend of ten years, Kayla,
Speaker 1: admitted she'd been talking to him. I don't like that
Speaker 1: term sounds like a war Jesus Christ. I was stunned.
Speaker 1: She said they'd hooked up a few times and wanted
Speaker 1: to tell me before it got serious. Now, hold on, Kayla,
Speaker 1: hold on, Kayla, we're gonna have to process the timeline
Speaker 1: a little better, Okay, because hooking up a few times, baby,
Speaker 1: it's already serious. You have a steady situationship going here.
Speaker 1: Like just because y'all not my boyfriend and girlfriend on me,
Speaker 1: it's serious. You needed to tell me when y'all exchange
Speaker 1: numbers and asks permission, then, okay, telling me after y'all
Speaker 1: already did the no pants dances crazy. I was crushed.
Speaker 1: I didn't expect lifelong loyalty to my ex, but I
Speaker 1: did it expect her not to crawl into bed with
Speaker 1: someone I loved. She said it wasn't serious and I
Speaker 1: was being possessive. I told her we were done. She
Speaker 1: tried to guilt trip me by bringing up all the
Speaker 1: time she was there for me doing the breakup, and said,
Speaker 1: I'm throwing away a decade long friendship over casual sex,
Speaker 1: the same casual sex that you also threw away a
Speaker 1: decade long friendship with because you come, come on, and
Speaker 1: then you wanna try to gaslight knock your frontsut all
Speaker 1: this deca.
Speaker 2: The world you are that one. That's what I would
Speaker 2: have said.
Speaker 1: All this dick, not just all this dick all this
Speaker 1: casual dick you can be getting. You choose mine, you
Speaker 1: choose my old one.
Speaker 2: Three months, Rob, Oh, you don't want to talk about serious.
Speaker 1: Bright, they've been together for three years. You didn't seen
Speaker 1: me three three Christmases, three birthdays. We probably had a
Speaker 1: group check by this time, like you was plying. It's
Speaker 1: giving you was plying. She said, Maybe I'm being dramatic,
Speaker 1: Maybe it wasn't that serious, but it feels serious, and
Speaker 1: my asshole ending our friendship over this, baby. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: hold your hand when I say this. Y'all was never friends. Okay,
Speaker 1: the friendship was already.
Speaker 2: Over as soon as I heard knew.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, you can't blame all the Kaylas
Speaker 1: for this. You cannot blame to me personally. It's really
Speaker 1: the fact that y'all was together three years and she
Speaker 1: tried to guess like you into making it seem like
Speaker 1: it wasn't that deep.
Speaker 2: That's like when you hold somebody down here, like I
Speaker 2: didn't ask you to all those things.
Speaker 1: She think you sweet sis. Okay, no, you're you're not
Speaker 1: the asshole. I don't I don't know about y'all, but
Speaker 1: I don't think she said something you're spaghetti. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go to the next story, and mighty asshole for refusing
Speaker 1: to continue the date because she showed up with the
Speaker 1: friend unannounced, y'all. Why y'all do this, y'all? Good boy,
Speaker 1: I cannot continue to defend y'all with these type of shenanigans. Okay,
Speaker 1: y'all are making it hard for me. It says basically,
Speaker 1: got matched on tender for a Saturday date. We agreed
Speaker 1: on some cafe in public, and she shows up with
Speaker 1: a friend of hers who's to be fair more attractive
Speaker 1: than herself.
Speaker 2: That was your first mistake, syst That's crazy.
Speaker 1: If you're going to show up on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody else, bringing somebody more attractive than you is bold
Speaker 1: as hell. But you know what, I take that back.
Speaker 1: What if her thought process was if my friend is fine,
Speaker 1: he'll pay for her drinks too, So I don't know.
Speaker 2: She might have been cooking left. Okay.
Speaker 1: So when I met them, I asked what's up, and
Speaker 1: she said, I bought a friend if you don't mind,
Speaker 1: just to be more comfortable. I replied, I thought this
Speaker 1: was a date since I specifically asked if you would
Speaker 1: like to go out for food and drinks with me.
Speaker 1: She basically said her friend wanted to come for security reasons.
Speaker 1: All Right, I'm gonna be real you. If everybody's grown here, right,
Speaker 1: like everybody's is an adult, you don't need to be
Speaker 1: going to dates with your friends. If you are going
Speaker 1: to go on a date with your friend for security reasons,
Speaker 1: sins play the game smart, sit a table away, put
Speaker 1: a menu in front of your face like you play
Speaker 1: the game.
Speaker 3: Sets feel uncomfortable with me. I'm feel uncomfortable on you.
Speaker 3: We're not doing nothing now. I agree that's crazy.
Speaker 1: Because you saying you brought your friend for security reasons.
Speaker 1: What if he think y'all trying to rob him for
Speaker 1: security reason?
Speaker 2: To like, that's crazy. A whole nother person do, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: Dog. I got annoyed and said I'm not doing a
Speaker 1: three person date. Sorry, have a good win and left.
Speaker 1: I'm a twenty seven year okay, and this what pitches me, Hey,
Speaker 1: twenty seven, which means y'all are around twenty seven, So
Speaker 1: everybody is grown. I'm twenty seven years old with almost
Speaker 1: no free time, looking for a serious partner, not some
Speaker 1: situationship or a fun night man. My profile also clearly
Speaker 1: states looking for something serious and long term online and
Speaker 1: offline talk about is this normal to bring a friend
Speaker 1: on a date? Or am I just behind with the times?
Speaker 2: Baby?
Speaker 1: No, it's not. No, it is not normal. And whoever
Speaker 1: is spreading the word that it's okay to go on
Speaker 1: a date with your girlfriend who's not incognito, because I
Speaker 1: don't mind if she incognito. Who's not incognito? That's not
Speaker 1: okay bring.
Speaker 3: Out with people where you feel like you need to
Speaker 3: bring somebody for security in the first place.
Speaker 1: I was just about to say.
Speaker 3: That anything that I do at that point is gonna
Speaker 3: looking I'm gonna be nervous walking.
Speaker 1: If you are, say to the point where you feel
Speaker 1: like you don't feel safe with this person, ask yourself why?
Speaker 1: Because he just said y'all met during the day in
Speaker 1: a public place. He didn't take you to no hole
Speaker 1: on the wall like bar in the middle of North Philly.
Speaker 1: He's taking you to some place in the day in public, Like,
Speaker 1: what is he gonna do? Sis? And I don't want
Speaker 1: to say what's he gonna do? Because I know things
Speaker 1: have happened. But if you're at a point where you're
Speaker 1: this uncomfortable, maybe you shouldn't be dating. Maybe you're not
Speaker 1: ready to step out there and get to know new
Speaker 1: people and try new things. Maybe you should go see
Speaker 1: a therapist.
Speaker 3: Figure out friends, should get a job and take yourselves
Speaker 3: off food and another fucking thing.
Speaker 1: Friend who's more attractive as the more attractive friend?
Speaker 2: What are you trying.
Speaker 1: To steal her man or hurt her potential man? Because
Speaker 1: I don't really like how this is working out as
Speaker 1: the more attractive friend, you should know you don't need
Speaker 1: to be bringing no other friends, Like what are we
Speaker 1: doing here? Daytime in a public place is safe enough.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you a question. What would you
Speaker 1: do if you showed up to a date and your
Speaker 1: date for a friend? Me me personally, I don't know.
Speaker 1: A two v one handicap match is crazy? All right, y'all?
Speaker 1: You know, scrap, shut up? You know. I just want
Speaker 1: to say, if you're having a hard time, shot just
Speaker 1: dropped this blunt. If you're having a hard time dealing
Speaker 1: with a friend breakup, you're not alone, and the feelings
Speaker 1: that you're feeling, whether it be hurt, whether it be betrayal,
Speaker 1: whether it be discussed, because you can't even believe you
Speaker 1: were ever friends with a person like this, all of
Speaker 1: this is valid, and I want you to know that
Speaker 1: although it may be hard, you will get through this
Speaker 1: and you will make even better friends.
Speaker 2: Who won't be pieces of shit.
Speaker 1: So it'll be great friends who actually want to be
Speaker 1: friends with you for you, and aren't just using you
Speaker 1: for your money, using you for Cloud, maybe using you
Speaker 1: for the girls that you have around you, using you
Speaker 1: for the gods that you have around you. Okay, something
Speaker 1: better is coming. I also want to say my birthday
Speaker 1: is on Sunday. By the time this drop, my birthday
Speaker 1: will be yesterday actually, but my message is always going
Speaker 1: to be the same. Follow me on the gram at
Speaker 1: Stormy Pea, at Chocolate Chip and Sip and if you
Speaker 1: don't remember anything else, please remember you weren't the problem.
Speaker 1: I love you, guys, and I'll see next week.
Speaker 2: Peace.