Speaker 1: Made a decision. Sunny sound, I had vision. What's up, everybody,
It's Patreon. I mean, no, it's not. But we just
did Patreon. Yeah, good Patreon. Yeah, yeah, you didn't hear
it yet. You should tune in. You heard no if
I'm saying, if you didn't hear it yet, Oh.
Speaker 2: If you didn't hear it, yeah yeah, geez. Seventeen seconds
in and we're already fighting. I'm on, can we just
get along for one episode?
Speaker 1: So yeah, I was telling you right before the MIC's
heated up that I have a funny story. Well I
don't know what it is. It's it's any story that
involves sunny these days kind of cracks me up. Well,
first of all, Kaylin, did you see the UFC fight?
Speaker 3: I did not know.
Speaker 1: You didn't watch it on Saturday? He was there, Sonny
was there.
Speaker 3: Oh he went to the UFC fight. Yeah, no, it
was a big one.
Speaker 4: But no, it's it's so expensive to be a UFC fan, Like, yeah,
it's not like other sports where you can just casually
watch it like we watch football. Like you have to
first you have to get you have to subscribe to
ESPN Plus, which is like twelve or thirteen dollars a month.
Speaker 3: Then you got to buy the pay.
Speaker 4: Per view, which is eighty dollars to watch the fight. Yeah,
and so there's a big fight once every two months.
So I'm paying an ESPN subscription twice just for the
eighty dollars.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 1: That's ridiculous.
Speaker 3: I would like to watch it. But unless someone else
is hosting, I think. I'm like, I don't.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, he got tickets from his dad for Christmas
to go to this fight.
Speaker 2: Okay, so did Adam take him?
Speaker 1: No, Adam took Kevin Costner, didn't take Sonny.
Speaker 2: Oh so Sunny just went on his own.
Speaker 1: Sonny and his friend went. Yeah, he got tickets, so
him and his friend and he wanted to get there
early anyway, Okay, you know, Adam gets their leg last minute.
Sonny was like last with.
Speaker 2: Every sporting event night there's anything going on in case,
he's talking about it and then go home, take a
nap and come back and then come back. Right.
Speaker 1: That's how he is with the football now. This like
he left the house at like three to watch the
first main card. I don't know. It was a long
night of fighting. Anyway. He had a good time. But okay,
so the other night we just got back from being evacuated.
It was like I think we were at the house. Yes,
we were at the house. It was the third night
after we got back. Okay, the second night we got back.
So Sonny goes to his friend's house or whatever, and
you know, he's getting in his friend time because he's
leaving tomorrow to go back to school. So he went
to his friend's house. As he was walking back, like
twelve o'clock at night, there's all these like cop cars,
he said, in our neighborhood on one of the main streets,
and they kind of stopped him and said, you know,
you do you live here? Whatever. He showed him his ID, yes,
I do. They let him whatever. They let him through,
but that was like, no, it has the old address.
But he was going in that vicinity. Okay, okay, so
uh but there were a lot of uh entry ways
into our neighborhood where there were these you know cops
there weren't cops. They were just in like these black cars,
but you could tell they like they had the you know,
the twinkling of the blue and the red kind of thing,
just like stationed in certain areas so they were checking
for IDs to if you lived in the neighborhood kind
of thing. Okay, that was like the first two nights
we got back. Then the third night, everything was kind
of cleared out. I went to the grocery store. I
was coming back and I where I would see them,
they were all gone. Everybody, They all those cop cars
were gone. So I was like, okay, back how you know,
neighborhoods getting back to normal. And Sonny goes out, goes
to his friend's house, walking home at like one in
the morning, and there's an there's this like beat up
Hyundai and all of a sudden, floodlights on him, shine
on him on sunny. He's walking by himself, he's got
a beanie and he's got like he's all in black
and he's got a beanie on, you know, because it's freezing,
and his earbuds are in and all of a sudden,
like floodlights out of this beat up Hyundai like flash
on him from the day from the hunday, and two
guys get out of the car and they said, you.
Speaker 2: Know, hey, so they're shining lights. So it wasn't like
I'm picturing a helicopter from up above shining lights.
Speaker 1: Now they have these, they have the lights like insight. Okay,
so Sonny said, when you looked into the car, you
could tell it wasn't your typical Hyundai, and it was
an undercover car they had, so undercover cops stationed in
our neighborhood looking for looters because we did have a
lot of break into actually we had while we were gone.
Speaker 2: How shitty would it be to work as an undercover cop?
And they're like, well, you got to ride in the
shitty Hyundai. Yeah, you'd be like real well, and also
like can't I be undercover in like a nice Mercedes?
Like why can't that be undercover?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 2: The people drive nice cars, Like I feel like it
would stand out more in the neighborhood to be in it,
Like that's how I would argue it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Like I just.
Speaker 2: Don't think that that's going to fool anybody, like and
they'd be like, no, it's that's the department policy.
Speaker 1: And I know, just like hear me out, like, get
Adam Lerner on the oun get us a better car, right, yeah,
Like why do we have to sit in a shitty
ass right?
Speaker 2: At least have a good stereo system to be like
nice on the inside.
Speaker 1: So he's blind by this light and they tell him,
you know, stop, uh and they say, you know, walk
come over to this car, or they said walk over here,
you know, we want to talk to you.
Speaker 2: He'd already gone to the other like checkpoint, right.
Speaker 1: That was the night before. Oh, that was the night before. Okay,
So that was there like a couple of nights and
then they cleared out. So this night it was like
everybody was gone. Now somebody's coming home. He gets the
light shine shining on him, and then they asked him
to walk over to the car and they said put
you know, put your hands on the on the hood
of the car. You have any weapons And he was
like no, and they pat him down and uh. They
tell him that you know, they're with the Sheriff's department
and that they're you know, undercover, you know, looking for
looters or whatever. Yeah, they pat him down. Within sixty seconds,
he's handcuffed.
Speaker 2: What yes, Lynette, you started this story with like, oh
I have a funny story.
Speaker 1: This is not funn Well then I said kind of funny.
I don't know what you would call it. Yeah, crazy story,
crazy story?
Speaker 2: Okay, under what why is he handcuffed.
Speaker 1: So they said, uh, you know, we're looking for looters.
Do you live in the Do you live in the neighborhood?
He said, yes, what's your address? And then he gives
them the address and he saysh, where's your ID? Now,
this time he left the house, he didn't have his ID,
but he was wearing the jacket he wore to New
York and he went out with n Italian New York,
and he had a fake ID on him and it
was in the jacket that he forgot about. So they
pulled They pulled that and they said, and he said,
before they even looked at it, they go, oh, that's
a fake ID. And they said oh, and they said,
you know, why are you walking around this neighborhood with
a fake ID? Where's your real ID?
Speaker 2: Wasn't Italia's fake ID anyway? No, it was his.
Speaker 1: Oh you said he was wearing he was, No, he
was when he was with Natalia New York. Oh, okay,
he went out with Natalia, was wearing the same jacket,
got it so it was still in his jacket from
New York.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is like something that would happen
to you.
Speaker 1: That's what I said. I said, do you remember my
story when I got pulled over and the cop took
my ID, my fake ID, and it was New Year's
Day and I was like, nineteen.
Speaker 2: This is why these companies that sell these ideas so
the kids give them a backup?
Speaker 1: Is that why they get too?
Speaker 2: Do they get too? That's what he was telling me,
And I'm like, and I knew he had one. Was
nodding like, Kaitlin, you've got like a five year old
and a four year old. Why are you thinking already
about the fake ID?
Speaker 3: Well, they gave me too when I got mine?
Speaker 2: So oh is that recent?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 4: I mean yeah, I mean I got a fake ID
when I was like seventeen eight No, you know, like
eighteen nineteen.
Speaker 3: They gave me two. They gave me two copies.
Speaker 1: I didn't get to but I had to go to
the DMV. I had to find a license at a
rat concert. You picked it up. The girl had my
same color hair, eyes and height, looked nothing like me.
I memorized her address, went to the DMV and said,
my name is you know, Rachelle Litwazinski. Lost my license.
They said, okay, get your They took my picture and
then they and then they said, you know, you have
a new address, mailing address. I put my mailing address
and they sent me the ID. So I'm walking around
with somebody else's name but my picture right like a
charm until New Year's Eve Day when I got pulled
over for speeding on the one on one and the
guy asked for my license and I opened my wallet
and my fake ID is sitting right there and he
like goes handed to me and I go, oh, that's
a fake ID.
Speaker 2: So the same thing happened to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah when I was his age pretty much Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: Okay, so but but hold on, I'm not trying to
be dense or ask too many questions. But so they
found the fake ID before they handcuffed him, because he said,
when were they even searching him? If he's walking around,
does he have a big backpack full of stuff?
Speaker 4: Now?
Speaker 2: Now, why are they assuming he's a luter? He's just
walking with a jacket?
Speaker 1: Ar Well, that was the question of the night. Yeah,
Like this Sonny was like, I'm I live here, this
is my neighborhood. Gave him the address and he you know,
and then they don't live there, so they're like, where's
that street? And he's like, well, I could point it
to you, but I'm in handcuffs. So because it's that way,
you know, they already had they handcuffed him, he said,
within sixty seconds of walking over to the com.
Speaker 2: Seems it seems like it's violating his rights. Yeah, they don't. Don't.
You have to have a reason that we don't have that.
Speaker 1: What do you call it reasonable cause? Uh?
Speaker 2: Probably what's it called that they did in New York
for stopping frisk Yeah, that's not a thing. You can't
do that. Yeah, he was in handcuffs. Yeah, because of
racial profiling. Remember that was the thing that they stopped
doing that because you can't because they were blacks and
Hispanics were being like stopped and frisked at a much
higher rate than you know, so you can't do that
without some reasonable cause. Right. What was their reason?
Speaker 1: Well, he didn't have an idea on him that showed
that he lived in the neighborhood. He had a face
ID and they were like and that made them like, but.
Speaker 2: They didn't know he had a fake ID. So he
was already handcuffed.
Speaker 1: I think that when they took the ID out, then
they handcuffed him and he because he said immediately it's
a fake ID, okay, and that's when they put him
in a hand in handcuff, So I think that they
can do I don't know then what so so then
he was just standing there and they were like, you know,
they they're you know, they're saying, you know, scaring him,
like we're gonna we can take it to jail right
now and uh. And then at one point his phone
was sitting on the hood of the car and I
text him and I said, are you almost home? And
it says mom and it says are you almost home?
Question mark? Question mark? And I think that they were like, oh,
your mom's texting you? Is that? And he said and
then he said do you live with your parents? And
he said I live with my mom and they said
single mom and he's they he said yeah, and he
thinks something that they must have thought, oh, he's you know,
single mom something, because that's when they kind of started
like easing off, We're gonna take you to jail or whatever.
But you know, they were like, we're looking for looters
and you're walking around the neighborhood with a fake ID,
you know, no.
Speaker 2: Proof that you live here, and you know so did
they bring him home?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, they took they Eventually he said he was,
you know, was handcuffed for a good I don't know,
like he said, like seven eight minutes. And then they
took the cancuffs off and they let him go.
Speaker 2: They said they took ID.
Speaker 1: No, they gave him back the ID.
Speaker 2: Yeah they did.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they didn't take it, even though it was fake. Yeah,
they didn't take it. They handed him his stuff back,
his his his keys, his eye, his fake ID in
his and his phone. And then said, you know, next
time and you're walking around, get your real ID. And
he said no, okay, officer. You know he's very compliant. Sorry, officer,
you know.
Speaker 2: Why is he walking around without his ID?
Speaker 1: He just walked over to his he went over his
friend's house. I mean he's not not even not on
the busy streets. He's walking literally two streets over.
Speaker 2: I'm surprised they didn't just make him prove it and
just go, okay, hop in the car and we'll take
you home.
Speaker 1: Yeah they didn't.
Speaker 2: He could go here's where I live, and the watching
them with the house.
Speaker 1: I maybe because I sent them the text that said
are you almost home? I don't know, like, are you
almost home with the loot? You know, Like he's like,
if I'm looting, where's my getaway car, where's my friends?
Where's my where's my loot?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: You know, like I'm clearly walking home from my friend's house.
I'm not even on the main drag. I'm on side streets.
And it's like the one time he said he took
a right. Usually he goes, he goes up and one
street over, but this time he went right for whatever reason.
And that's the street that the cops were sitting on,
hanging out on. And I was like, well, I mean,
it's kind of good that we're they're protecting our neighborhood,
but also like they're hassling kids like Sonny putting him
in handcuffs, you know. But then, yeah, why didn't you
watch him where he went home or follow him home
or take him home or something?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: How did why did you just let him go? What
if he was meeting his friend the getaway car? Yeah,
you know, I don't like that at all. It's weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that is not a funny story.
Speaker 1: He thought it was kind of funny afterwards, like I
was asleep when he got home and he and you know,
sometimes not usually at all, but like if something goes
on while he's out, he'll come and tell me or
I don't know. But he started telling me and I
was sound asleep and then I heard handcuffs. I was
like wait what, I like, sat up in bed, I
go handcuffs. He goes, yeah, they put me in a handcuffs.
They're like start over again. Like I was like, half asleep,
aren't but uh yeah, uh made for a good story.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, hell yeah, Kylen, you ever been arrested? Uh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, one, I got a DUI.
Speaker 2: Oh shit, what tell me the story?
Speaker 3: I will.
Speaker 2: She's here too.
Speaker 4: I was twenty and I was I knew a guy
that was promoting a club at City Walk and a
buddy of mine lived like my neighbor. That was my
friend I knew growing up. We could walk to City Walk.
It's a bit of a walk, but we could walk there.
So I was already out, you know, living in a
studio apartment in Van Eys. So I drove over to
his house and then we I think we took like
a taxi up to City Walk and then he left
before me. I was going to stay the night there,
and so he left before me, and we're going to
stay the night at my friend's house. Okay that I
grew up with down street from the house I gripon.
Speaker 2: Ok.
Speaker 4: And then we get there and he wasn't having a
good time, so he left, and so then I was,
you know, having a good time or whatever. And then
I walked home. I walked back to his house and
by the time I got there, like all the doors
were locked. All the doors were locked, and I couldn't like,
because you know, we his parents didn't know, so I
couldn't like bang on the door or whatever. And he
wasn't answering his phone. So I was like, all right, well,
I guess I'm going home then, and then yeah, I
got in the car and they actually, I think I remember,
they pulled me over for going like too slow on
the carway.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like, I was going too.
Speaker 1: Slow stoner.
Speaker 3: And uh yeah, they got me out.
Speaker 4: They did the tests on me, put me in handcuffs,
drove me down to the police station, and I remember
like I was still having a good time, you know,
I was like joking around with them and making fun
of them. I remember like making fun of them in
the car on the way they're like in a lightheart
away or whatever, and uh yeah, I had to do
a lot lot of classes after that.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like what happened? Like, yeah, so what happened?
Did you have like a court date? And plus you
were under twenty one?
Speaker 3: I was under twenty one?
Speaker 2: Make is it much worse? Right? Don't they just take
your license?
Speaker 4: No? It was it was like a it was I
forget what exactly happened, but I think it was better
that I was under twenty one because for whatever reason.
But no, I had like a good lawyer because my
mom's friend who is like a high show BIS guess
he was like, oh, here, I have this lawyer for you.
He'll give you a deal. So he like worked everything out.
I never got my license taken away, but they were
like you gotta go. I went to a lot of
different classes. I had to go to a morgue and
look at their body.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the Dare program.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had to do that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I had to do like I had to
go watch a video for like the Dare thing, and
then I had to go do this other class I
don't really remember. And then I had to attend like
a shitload of AA meetings. I was going like twice
a week for like six months or something like that.
Speaker 2: Wow, oh my god, did you get anything out of it?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Right, No, I remember I would sit in the AA
meeting and I was like writing script for the first time.
So I was writing.
Speaker 4: So I'd sit in the AA meeting and I'd write
my script like on my phone while they were doing
all their things.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 4: Damn.
Speaker 2: I said in my book in Drunkish that I'm not
in favor of people being court ordered to go to
A because I make it really clear that it's not
for everybody. It is not like the only way to
get sober. And also I was like, well, I was
talking about the fact that you don't have to go
to AA. I go unless you're court ordered. And but
I also don't believe in that. I don't think that
like for people. Twelve step programs are for people who
want to who feel they have a problem. It's for
people who have a desire to quit drinking and want help.
It's not for it's not to like boss people into
like we're gonna just tell you over and over then
are they're an alcoholic? Like it's still gonna help people
if they if you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good that's a good point.
Speaker 2: Obviously didn't work on Kaylin, I know, and he's obviously
not an alcoholic, right, so what's the point. I mean,
I feel like there could be alcohol awareness classes that
aren't forcing you to go to AA meetings, Like there's there,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I mean that sounded like some of the
ones that I went to that weren't the A meetings, right, Yeah, but.
Speaker 2: Like they shouldn't make you go to AA b it's
just not for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they should just be classes. Like and then what
it was the morgue like.
Speaker 3: It was you know, looking at dead body it was
very cold.
Speaker 2: I don't know what do you mean looking at dead bodies?
Did they like pull him out of the wall. Did
they like slide bodies out like you see in like
Law and Order?
Speaker 4: They kind of just had him maybe they already had
him like out and like on the table. Ew so
like it wasn't like they were keeping up.
Speaker 3: They weren't. It was like one giant freezer with a
bunch of cadavers, not like one individual freezer for each body.
Speaker 4: So it was like one giant Yeah, it was like
a giant you'd walk in there, it was freezing. It
was a giant fridge, and they'd keep like all of
them kind of stacked on top of each other, but
they were all in they were all in bags.
Speaker 3: So we only they only showed us like one or
two of them.
Speaker 2: Wow. And they would just like a little bit and
show you and what it would it be like, this
is somebody who died from in a drunk driving accident
and was it just random? He's someone who died of cancer, Yeah,
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So, anyway, Caitlin, did that help you never got
another dui?
Speaker 4: No? I didn't, And pretty quickly after that, Uber became
a thing, so it was a lot easier to uber
got it, assure.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we believed it. That reminds me of our discussion
on Patreon this week. So if you haven't listened to Patreon,
listen to Patreon, yep, because that doesn't have to happen
to you.
Speaker 1: That's right, You don't have to get a dui, esecially
when you're dealing with teenagers.
Speaker 2: Especially when you're dealing with teenagers, it's so complicated. Drinking
is freaking fun, you know, Like I used to love drinking.
I didn't quit drinking because I just lost interest in it.
You know, it's fucking fun. We all have a lot
of fun drinking when we were teenagers. Yes, a lot
of parties more fun. It makes you crazier and you know,
like it's not all negative and like, oh most people
are not like alcoholics immediately.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and it's tough when you have teenagers
now that are experimenting and you know, and how you
handle it. That's what we talked about on Patroon.
Speaker 2: Here's something that I don't understand, and you two can
help me understand this because you both do this. But
like I've never I never understood the call to smoke
or to vape. And like when my kids tell me
about people vaping, like kids vaping, I'm like it does
it make you even feel good? Like why wouldn't you
just drink or smoke pot? Like I don't understand like
just vaping nicotine, what does he do?
Speaker 3: Nicotine gives you like a head rush.
Speaker 2: And so it gives you.
Speaker 1: For me, it's like it I don't want to get
stone and get drunk, you know. So like when I was,
you know, going through a stressful period, it was it
was like it was just something yeah for me, it's
for me. It did, Yeah, it helped me a lot.
That's why I think when you go to like don't
like when you go to AA meetings, everybody's smoking right
outside anymore.
Speaker 2: Most people these days, the people most people that quit
drinking at this point, like quit smoking soon after.
Speaker 1: Right. I have a friend that never smoked, was against it,
went to rehab, and now it still smokes to stay
because of rehab.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's interesting. I just never liked it and always
thought it was kind of gross and I don't like
the smoke all of it at all. And I don't
like this, and and I just I think I tried smoking,
you know, in high school, and it didn't do anything.
So I was like, well, why would you want to
burn your like it burned going in. It did not
change my feeling at all. So I was like, why
would anybody want to?
Speaker 1: I used to feel that way too, But you know,
I don't know, I really love it. Yeah, train yourself,
Train myself like I did with the right cigarettes sound,
the right ones that are not too harsh or whatever. Yeah,
it helped when I was going through. But now like
now that I'm more.
Speaker 2: Possible to quit, huh, it's like impossible to quit.
Speaker 4: Well, it's a lot easier now that there's so many
nicotine alternatives, like the pouches that I use that are
very popular these days, like the zins. Yeah, it's very
easy to quit smoking after that, but.
Speaker 2: Then you're still putting nicotine in your mouth, right I am.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But nicotine itself is not what's bad for you.
Speaker 2: I thought it is.
Speaker 4: No, it's the tobacco that's bad for you. The nicotine
is what gives you that kind of like almost head rush,
but it's without any of the any of the smoke,
you know, going in your body, any of the carcinogens
and the taba.
Speaker 1: Still take those nicotine Oh hmm. I just know like
when whenever I go work out, though I'm disgusted, like, so,
it's better for me because that'll keep me working out,
because after I work out, I don't want to ever
feel like you need no. I think it's like it's
just like when you exercise, you don't feel it feels
like you you almost took the edge off of something
by exercising, you know. It's kind of like that. So
even though one's way better than the other. But that's
how I felt. When I was living in my condo,
I was smoking a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess I'm glad that I don't have that
because I have enough addiction issues. I'm sure I would
find that to be impossible. By the way I've been
sugar free as that going gen one nice, it's going
really well. I feel a lot better. It doesn't, I
mean it doesn't. I don't ever get really hard on
myself and go, Okay, I'm not gonna have sugar. Like
some people get like no flour, no, I don't know
so like they don't eat bread and they don't. But
I'm like relax. I like bread, you know.
Speaker 3: That's what I do.
Speaker 4: When I'm like going on my diets. I do the
no bread, do the vinny, the NSNG, no sugar, no grain.
Speaker 2: See that's too much. Like I can't eat so all
or nothing.
Speaker 4: That's the I have to be all or nothing, like
I can't do I can't dabble and be like, oh okay,
I'm gonna do this. I've just figured that out about myself.
When I like, when I go for it, really anything,
I fucking go for it. So I have to be
like all all out otherwise it's just it's just gonna
fall apart, which it does inevitably anyway. But I'm like
that for usually like anywhere between like two weeks to
a month, I yo yo a lot is essentially that's
what the water cooler guys make fun of me for
I yo yo in the things I do in life.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm all in, then I'm all out, then
I'm all in, then I'm all out.
Speaker 2: It's really and it's really difficult for me. It's not
sustainable to be like no, no bread, no, none of
the things that I like it. That's not sustainable. But
it is sustainable to not eat sugar like that. To me,
it's not it becomes it's not a diet. It's like
I literally feel like an addict when I'm eating sugar,
and I do it addictively. And you don't have to
eat dessert. It's difficult, but like.
Speaker 4: Well, you're also talking about it. You're talking about a
specific kind of sugar, like you'll eat You'll put ketchup
on your French fries, right right, Okay, ketchup has a
shitload of sugar in it. But you're talking about like
cookies and candy and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: I'm talking about, yes, dessert, things that you don't. Yeah,
I'll even eat oatmeal that's sweetened because that's not because
I'm not going to like go oh my god, I
eat some oatmeal. Now I want to eat like five
more bowls of oatmeal. It doesn't it's different than if
you eat a piece of cake. Right, I won't eat
muffins because that's to me, is no different than you
will kick in. I don't like juice anyway, so I
don't drink juice really, And I wouldn't drink like soda either,
unless it was diet soda. Yeah, I mean that's like, but.
Speaker 3: Like I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 4: Like when I am on my diet, I've talked many
times about how I don't like those desserts. I don't
eat candy, I don't eat cake, I don't eat cookies.
It just doesn't appeal to me at all. But when
I'm on my diet, like after like a week, like
I'll have like a cookie. And but what I really
gravitate towards is fruit. I don't know, I don't ever
eat fruit, but when I'm on my diet, like fruit
tastes so good because I'll eat apples, I'll eat I'll
stay away from like you know, they really sugary ones,
but like even like blueberries, and like I love it
when I'm on Oh, I'll.
Speaker 2: Eat the sugary ones because I'm like, I can have
that because in my brain there is a difference. Again,
I'm not gonna binge on pomegranates. Like I'm gonna eat
half a pomegranate. It's gonna feel and taste really sweet,
but I'm not going to be like now I got
to eat the other half. It's like a nice treat
and it takes the edge off of like not being
able to eat dessert.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll eat an apple and it'll feel like a treat,
and I'll just eat the one apple.
Speaker 3: I won't want you more.
Speaker 2: That's the difference. The difference is a big difference. It's
like if I go from eating like twenty cookies in
a day to like having a piece of fruit. The
fact that like the piece of fruit feels like a
treat is so great and so different than like needing
five cookies to be my treat, you know what I mean. Like,
it's all what it does to your brain. If it
doesn't spark off that wanting more, I can eat some
pomegranate and go, oh, that tasted really good. That was
a nice treat, and then forget about it. If I
ate pomegranate and it made me go like, oh my god,
I must eat four more pomegranates. Then it would defeat
the purpose, so I wouldn't do it. But once you
quit for a while, like I'm not having the sugar
cravings anymore, and I can go years m and just
not have it be a part of my life. And
just so that's just just like alcohol, like that's just
not something. I'm just not doing that right now. And
sometimes it's hard. The same way if you quit drinking
and you go to a party and everyone's drinking, You're like, oh,
that looks kind of good. Same thing if I'm at
dinner and friends are all ordering dessert, I'm gonna be like, huh,
that looks good. I can't have it, though.
Speaker 1: That's good, that's good discipline, you know. I thought of
the of you the other day because I when we
were when we were at the condo, I just ran
to the store to get like snacks and stuff, and
I was like, oh, I haven't had like good beef
jerky in a long time. And I bought two bags
of it and eight both bags. I couldn't stop myself.
If you get a really good bag of like especially
kariaki jerky where it's like tender and it's sweet but
it's salty. It's just oh, it's so to me. I
could eat five bags of those, but I was like this,
this must be what Stephanie is like eating candy, And.
Speaker 2: A lot of people are like that with salt, I can't.
Speaker 1: I love salt, love it.
Speaker 2: I'm not that way with potato chips. Weirdly, I can
eat you. I can eat a handful of chips and
like forget, I'll forget about it. Chips will sit in
our house if the kids don't eat them, like.
Speaker 1: Well, that's how candy is in my house. Yeah, because
the kids don't even eat candy anymore. So somebody I
still have the Halloween candy sitting in our house?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: What well?
Speaker 1: I bought a lot. Yeah, I mean once and maybe
every few months. I'll have a little snickers afterwards if
I craving something sweet, but no, but beef jerky, look out, girl,
I love it. And ruffles. Potato chips is like my favorite.
Those are my favorite chips.
Speaker 2: I'll only eat potato chips like that. I don't if
I'm eating something no, if I'm eating with dip, with
dip with and it's like, yes, I can go crazy
on that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. I love dip. But I can't eat
a sandwich unless I have potato chips.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's hilarious.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have to have chips.
Speaker 2: But like right before I knew I was quitting, you know,
New Year's Eve. I had kind of quit a few
days before, but then I was like, Fuck, my friend
is having my New Year's Eve party. I'm going to
Like the whole thing is surrounded is about dessert, Like
everybody brings a dessert. So I was like, that's just
not realistic. So I'm gonna quit. On the first leading
up to that, I was raiding my house. I was
just like, oh my god, like what can I find?
Because there wasn't candy because I'd stopped buying it. But
then like I found something that somebody had given me
for like Christmas, maybe it was like even a little
before Christmas. It was like a some kind of Williams
Sonoma mini basket that had some like nuts in it,
but it had these truffles, these like chocolate truffles, and
we're talking. It was a small basket, right, something you
might buy at the supermarket that for gifting, but the
it had so it had like five chocolate schuffles in
individually wrapped, but they were stuck to the other stuff.
You know how when they build these gift baskets, they
it's like super glueh on it. Okay, So you should
have seen me wanting this chocolate, having opened the thing
up instead of regifting it, which is what I should
have done, and then trying to rip these candies apart.
Like I was like an I was like fill like
in your pantry, you know. I'm like, I gotta get
into this wrapper. This thing is like like those toys
when they have them, you know, it's like.
Speaker 1: Attacked right where you need box cutters to get it.
Speaker 2: Every yes, So eventually I had brought out scissors. John's
like what are you doing. I'm like nothing, Oh, got
the scissors. I've ripped open this gift back and then
I'm trying to cut I'm trying to free the wrapped
candy from the like bag of like mixed nuts, and
I'm like come on, I mean, it was like I
was trying to rob a liquor. I know, it's like yes, yea,
or rob a pharmacy. For some painkillers. Like it was
not a pretty sight and I was fully embarrassed and
like and I was like, this is this is why
I'm gonna have to quit sugar. After I ate, I
did manage to eat all those candies, and of course
I felt sick.
Speaker 1: But did you take the wrappers off first? Like Phil?
I did take the rappers off. Now Phil swallows the wrappers.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did manage to, but you know, I had
to free it from the where it was glued and
then get the wrapper off of it. And it was
still hard to get the wrapper off because it had
been probably sitting there for so long. It was like
so awful and wrong and like no more clear sign
that I needed to quit the sugar. Now here's what
I'm saying. Am I like that with bread?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: If I'm presented with some bread at the cheesecake factory,
am I gonna eat most of it? Yes? But I'm
also going to share it with the other people at
the table. I'm not gonna be and I'm not going
to be thinking about it the whole time, and I'm
not going to be like, oh, that bread was so good.
I'm gonna stop at the store on the way home
and get a loaf of breast. Yeah, thing like that.
Speaker 1: I love the like it depends on the restaurant you're
going to, if you know they have good bread like
cheesecake bag whatever, or if they have this the you know,
chimmy cherry dip with the like you know, gaucho girl,
gaucho grill. I love that's the kind of stuff. And
then I get filled up on that and then I'm done.
Like then the meal comes, I'm like, I have two
bites of my steak. I'm good. I just I love bread,
love bread and dip. Love to dip.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like I said, I do like it.
But I if I was to be all or nothing,
if I was to be like, nope, you can't have bread,
then I just feel like I would be scared to
like go eat. I don't know, I can't do those
like be paleo or be this or be that. I
will get too upsessed.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, I never. I've never really dieted my
life like those things. Sometimes they'll cut out or whatever.
I just I cut out. I cut out sodas and
I never that was that, like never looked back.
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So the other night, so Lbie's still been home from school. Yeah,
she worked, Well, you're listening to this, she'll have worked
yesterday in the day before, she's still working at her
she starts training for her tour guide job. Finally post
fires on Friday. So happy for her. But meanwhile, she's
been home for they they were I think I told
you this last week UCLA went remote, So she was
she's been home for She was home all winter break.
She went back for like basically a few days and
then came back home. So anyway, the other night, she
was going out with her friends, and it just it
reminded me of like something that would happen to us,
because okay, so she it was her one of her roommates,
one of her college roommates, was having a birthday, and
so she went to that friend's house. I guess she
got picked up. Okay, her friend came to our house
and picked her up. Yeah, so oh no, Okay, her
friend came over, left her car at our house. Okay,
her roommate, right, one of her roommates. Then Elbie drove
them to this other roommate's house that was like in
Gridada Hills. So they and then somebody else drove them
to They they hung out at that person's house. They
had a few drunks, they they got loose, they had
a great they had a good time.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: The girl whose birthday it was was turning twenty one. Yeah,
because so you know, they were like, there was like
drinking at the party, Okay. Then they went clubbing in
La which is hilarious, and then Elbie sent me a text.
Speaker 1: Where do they go clubbing?
Speaker 2: They went to somewhere called and I know we used
to call it the Key Club, but she said it
was called Club Key, so I don't know, but it
was Sunset Boulevard. So she's like, mom, I'm at my
first like LA club. And then she sent me a
picture and the DJ would look kind of old and
I was like, that kind of looks old, and then
she was like, yeah, but he's like the oldest person here.
It's all seems like college kids or whatever. So they
they and they made friends. One of the people they
were with was like a party promoter, a club promoter,
so they all they got like their own like a
private table, and they got like offered shots and whatever.
You know when I yeah, Albie saw a TikTok star, right,
but TikTok was down for the moment at the time,
so they couldn't look at it. They couldn't look her
up until the next day. But anyway, the funny part
of this story to me is that whatever she's having
a good time that night, she never says where she's
going to be sleeping. So of course I have to
life three sixty. In the morning, I realized she never
came home. I Life three sixty and she was at
her apartment at UCLA. So I'm like, okay, so I'm
doing my own thing. I had a bunch of work
that I had to do yesterday, and I had like
a lunch in the afternoon. I get a text from
her mom. I'm like yeah, She's like, uh, what are
you doing right now? I was like, uh, Mom, on
my way to lunch and she's like, oh shit, okay.
I was like, what's going on. She's like, well, I'm
a pickle, she said, pickle. It was like, what happened?
She goes, well, long story, She's like, but my car
is at my friends this person's house in Granada Hills
because I got a ride to this club and my
friend has my keys. My car keys are in my
friend's purse because I couldn't fit them in my back.
Because you know what these kids do a lot is
they just bring their phone with their credit card and
they do these pockets, little pockets on their tan back. Okay,
so they just have their ID and like credit card
and their phone. But like Mitch did, never with your keys.
So so the girl that's you know, the designated big
purse is like here right, yes, yeah, that was always me.
I was like, I never felt good about not having
I always wanted to have my bag with me, bobo bag.
And then of course and LB does this to me
all the time, a mom, could you hold my keys?
And her keys are like it's like a big lanyard,
it's ucla lanyard with.
Speaker 3: It.
Speaker 2: Pretty soon I got everybody's fucking keys my purse and
it's like weighs one hundred pounds. I'm weighed down. They're
like freezer birds.
Speaker 1: His Zanne used to get stuck holding everybody's purses too, right, right,
where's your purse? Where's everybody's purses while we went and danced.
Speaker 2: Luckily with rave culture, they've they put their they do
fanny packs, they do little chest like, they put bags
and so and especially because people steal your phones, as
Italian knows, not that it happened in Italia, but her friends,
and it's happened to Elbie where a bunch of her
friends got their phone stolen. So they you can't just
keep your phone in your pocket, You got to keep
it in a zipped pouch on your body. Okay. Anyway,
so the funny thing is she's like, okay, so my friend,
one of her the roommates, has her keys. Can't get
a hold of that girl. Why because spoiler alert, she
was sleeping and her phone had ran out of batteries
and she wasn't up yet. So now Elbe wakes up
in her apartment. The other girl who has her keys
went home. Uh huh, she's Elbie's texting or the text
are going green or whatever. She's not answering because the
phone was out of batteries. So she has no keys,
she needs her car, and she has to work that day.
Speaker 1: I used to have to go through that shit, right, Yeah,
but we didn't have phones. We couldn't find where our
friends were. We didn't. I don't know Don left the bar.
Nobody knows where she is. I've got my keys to
my car and I have to go to work. Where
the fuck is she?
Speaker 2: Yes, that happened to you, and this is I literally
thought about the story about the girl that we talked
about on Tuesday, Amy, Yes, having your keys and you
had to go to work, yes, preschool right?
Speaker 1: And she exist and she couldn't.
Speaker 2: She's like, I didn't know he I didn't know what
my key.
Speaker 1: Well we get we have to stay an extra day
in Laughlin.
Speaker 2: And I was like the fuck this?
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: I was miserable, miserable right right.
Speaker 2: So Elbie's like I can't find she. I can't rouse her.
She's got my keys, her car is at my house,
but my car is at the other girl's house because
we all got a ride from there. So this girl
can't get her car, LB can't get her car. So
I was like, okay, well, I was on my way
to lunch with my friend Laura and Julie Julie Caseum.
And it was literally she caught when she was texting
me about this. It was literally like ten to twelve,
and I was meeting them at twelve and I was like, well,
I can't come get you right this minute. She's like, okay,
I need to be I need to leave for work
at two thirty. Luckily John was around, So John had
to drive to UCLA, pick her up, drive her to
the driver now Ally's, so we had an extra car
key for her. Yeah, so he had to pick her up,
totally opposite directions for my non la people driver all
the way to Westwood her, get her, pick her up,
take her to Deep in the Valley with the extra
set of keys. Then she got her car, then she
came home, then she went, then she went to work
with those keys, and then I guess her friend finally
woke up and was like, oh shit, sorry, and then
everybody then came dropped off her keys, and then got
her car and left. But I was like, oh my god,
that is bringing back such memories, memories. I was laughing
really hard to get myself.
Speaker 1: If I only had a dad that would come and
save the day, I mean, yeah, I don't even remember
what we would do so many times.
Speaker 2: Because I'm always like, you know, what, good for you
for not attempting to drive anywhere right. Thank you, Thank
you for nobody driving drunk, thank you for ubers, thank
you for however whoever the sober person was happy you
did that.
Speaker 1: Thank you to the girl with the big purse.
Speaker 2: Thanks to big purse. I'm like, oh, we'll come get you,
We'll do I'll do all the things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I know, I mean yes, And it's just
different these days with these kids and technology, and you know,
thank God for that.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it is funny though, when your kids get older,
you're still there's still Why are they always in a pickle?
She use the word pickle, always a pick So how
was her job?
Speaker 1: Did she like it? And she enjoying it being the
tour guide?
Speaker 2: So no, so she hasn't done that yet. This was
her laser tag. Oh so she still picks up shifts. Okay,
that's a whole other story. I was like, girl, you
can't just not like she can still do that job
sometimes when she's home.
Speaker 1: And I was like, then if you can do it,
do it right, because yeah, Natali, you got a job finally.
Speaker 2: Oh she did well.
Speaker 1: She's been looking and so she applied for this restaurant
and they only had they do have availability, but only
for one day a week starting now. But they say
somebody's leaving or something and then it'll open up. But
as right now, it's just one day a week. So
she's like, good news is I got a job. The
bad news is like one day a week for now,
like for how long. She's like, I don't know. I'm like, well, okay,
at least that's a start.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So yeah, she's doing hostess like she did at her
other job. Okay, that's good, yes, thank god.
Speaker 2: And then she got that training.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah she had you know, she used it. She
has her resume. She dropped it off and they saw
that she had hostess training, so she's background. So yeah,
so it's good. Yeah, happy about.
Speaker 2: Well, we applied for another job being basically helping kids
with their applications at community college.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that is like these these are applications these days.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's just for these kind of
jobs that go through the college, but wow, it is
in depth. They asked them all these questions in the application,
and then she had to send over her resume and
then I had to help her. I got to help her.
It was kind of fun. He sat on my bed
and went through her old resume because you and did
an opening statement.
Speaker 1: That's nice, you know.
Speaker 2: That was she had one. She had applied for this
internship for this like music job that she didn't get,
so we had to make update her resume for a
different kind of job. And it's like, luckily, AI can
really help you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never used it. I don't know how to.
I mean I know that there's that app I just right.
Speaker 2: Do you even google? Yeah? Nowadays, when you google something
and you ask a question, I know, first answer is AI.
Speaker 1: Yeah I noticed that. Yeah, yeah, but yeah, thank god,
I mean, yeah, I guess that that helps. It helps.
Speaker 2: It's like an springboard. It's like you don't want to
put down exactly what AI says because it always is
very robotic, but you can take what AI suggests and
you can go, oh that's a good I like this line,
and then I'm gonna be this yeah. But yeah. So
she worked on that for like a couple of hours
because I was like one job, like just doing tours
is not enough yea, And she's got time anyway. You
know what we haven't done yet is said hello to
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm looking at all that wind out there, can up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, better get ourselves home.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks you guys, Thank you guys.
Speaker 2: Also, just before we wrap I want to say that
coming up in the future for our show, Lynette and
I really want to like we want to kind of
embrace where we are in life right now and like
having older kids, and we want to start like doing
more shit, like finding ourselves again. So if you have
any ideas or like things that you have always wanted
to try, but you want to send us out to
try it first, Not skydiving, Okay, calm down, Yeah, but
like something.
Speaker 1: A little bit less like nine operators.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like do you want me to join like a
bowlie league or yeah, or become like a nine to
one to one operation. Yeah, like something that you think
that could like enrich our exhibit a little bit. Yeah,
as they say about the animals at the zoo. Send
us some stuff on Facebook, Yeah, give us some Yeah.
When we have Leanne Raiser on our show as a guest,
that's Bert Kreischer's wife from Wife of the Party podcast,
and she had talked about possibly starting like an adult
like girl Scout troop. You know, we thought about that
and like that's still a fun idea, that's cute, So
maybe we get that going, But like send us some
ideas of stuff that like we could go do Yeah.
Speaker 1: That'll be fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it'd be fun for the New Year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's quite different. I don't care it now, don't
f it up, letting