Speaker 1: There's a lot of things been going on recently, and ironically,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's just particular to things that are
Speaker 1: going on inside of a gym. Welcome to the Transformation
Speaker 1: Station podcast. I'm Christina, owner, operator, and founder of the
Speaker 1: Transformation Station, and this is where we talk about getting
Speaker 1: stronger while navigating real life. If you're trying to stay
Speaker 1: consistent through the ups and the downs and everywhere else
Speaker 1: in between, this is for you.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: So, something that's been going on a lot. Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: just more aware of it now, but I always hear
Speaker 1: people apologizing a lot. So like if someone misses classes
Speaker 1: because they're on vacation, I'll always say, like, there's no
Speaker 1: shame in that, Like we work hard in the four
Speaker 1: walls of the gym. That way we can enjoy your
Speaker 1: life on the outside of the gym. Sometimes people are like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I had pizza on the weekend, and
Speaker 1: then they automatically start explaining themselves, like almost like they're
Speaker 1: like in a confession booth and they're like, I have
Speaker 1: to just get this off my chest. And then like
Speaker 1: maybe someone's explaining why they aren't able to do something
Speaker 1: that they were able to do last week. But it's
Speaker 1: not like in like an informative way. It's almost like
Speaker 1: a I don't want to look like I'm lazy kind
Speaker 1: of a way because they had to change something because
Speaker 1: maybe they slid into a third base at baseball and
Speaker 1: they hurt themselves. It's baseball season. I hear a lot
Speaker 1: of baseball things like that, But like, none of those
Speaker 1: things are surprising to me, because I know that life
Speaker 1: gets messy and things happen and things change, and like
Speaker 1: sometimes people are getting this odd thing called a summer cold.
Speaker 1: How dare we get sick in the summertime when the
Speaker 1: sun is shining, or like any time because we eat vegetables.
Speaker 1: But there's also sometimes like kids have hockey tournaments, work
Speaker 1: gets busy. Sometimes you're just tired, and that's pretty normal.
Speaker 1: Like I always say, like there's consistency. Doesn't look like
Speaker 1: being a the gym five days a week at the
Speaker 1: exact same time for the end of all time, for
Speaker 1: the rest of your life and ongoing, because that, to me,
Speaker 1: isn't reality, and that's not exactly what life is. And
Speaker 1: like there's some people that are very disciplined, and guess what,
Speaker 1: those people get sick too, and they end up missing
Speaker 1: the gym for two weeks because they can't even breathe,
Speaker 1: never mind workout.
Speaker 2: So that tends to happen.
Speaker 1: But the thing that surprises me, I would say, the
Speaker 1: very very most, is like how much shame people carry
Speaker 1: because of that? And I say that to you because
Speaker 1: there's sometimes I feel like that too, where it's like,
Speaker 1: oh no, like I ended up hurting my knee, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say it's money, and even going down to the
Speaker 1: ground to demonstrate things, I tried to hide it like
Speaker 1: this is so painful because it was evidence that I
Speaker 1: was doing something. I was moving my body, but I
Speaker 1: felt embarrassed because I'm like, oh no, people will be like,
Speaker 1: oh Christians always turbo, like I never have ailments, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: my hercules tendon has been a pain in my thorn
Speaker 1: in my side for the last four years because I
Speaker 1: tore it and I didn't do surgery.
Speaker 2: And that's not a secret because I talk about that
Speaker 2: very openly.
Speaker 1: Because I do believe, like the podcast episode that Nicky
Speaker 1: and I recorded, that when we talk about these things
Speaker 1: that we have gone through, it normalizes us, and therefore
Speaker 1: it makes people feel more able and capable. So that's
Speaker 1: why I do bring that up quite often because I
Speaker 1: know that someone listening is going to resonate with some
Speaker 1: sort of injury and also feeling guilty about having an
Speaker 1: injury or guilty about like sneezing.
Speaker 2: Which is a part of everyday life.
Speaker 1: I wish that wasn't for you, and I wish these
Speaker 1: things weren't, but that's just how things go up and down.
Speaker 1: And I think too, like social media doesn't help because
Speaker 1: we always say like that is our like our showboat,
Speaker 1: like it's the finish line. It's like the highlight reel.
Speaker 1: That's what I was That's the word I was looking for.
Speaker 1: It's the highlight reel of people's lives. Like we don't
Speaker 1: see sometimes if people are arguing before they took the
Speaker 1: smiling family picture and you're like, oh, that picture was
Speaker 1: so nice, Like oh my gosh, it took us three
Speaker 1: hour see at that picture, and somebody left and they
Speaker 1: came back or whatever, right, like we see the end results.
Speaker 1: We don't see the twenty takes that it takes to
Speaker 1: make it real or to take a selfie. We don't
Speaker 1: see the fifteen other selfies that people have to delete
Speaker 1: before they choose to pick one. Also, like and when
Speaker 1: it comes to business, like we don't see the business
Speaker 1: owner who is wondering if maybe they made the right decision,
Speaker 1: or maybe it's the person that is plateaued and they're stuck,
Speaker 1: let's say at the same body fat percentage, or wait
Speaker 1: for the entire month when they've been working so hard and.
Speaker 2: Maybe they're starting to get a little bit discouraged.
Speaker 1: Like, our brains tend to fill in the blanks, and
Speaker 1: when our brains fill in the blanks, it's not usually
Speaker 1: that kind and there's some neuroscience behind that, because like
Speaker 1: your brain is constantly trying to predict what is happening,
Speaker 1: like things that we can't control, the that we can't control,
Speaker 1: all the stuff that's around us. And when it doesn't
Speaker 1: have that information, it tends to again fill in the
Speaker 1: blanks and it makes up the rest based on the
Speaker 1: facts that we know. And sometimes our brain can play
Speaker 1: tricks on us. So usually what happens is we use
Speaker 1: our own fears and our own securities to fill in
Speaker 1: those blanks and to write the rest of what that
Speaker 1: story is. And that's why I think it's so easy
Speaker 1: for people to believe that everybody else is either more disciplined,
Speaker 1: they never get sick. They're happier, they're richer, they're stronger,
Speaker 1: they're more confident than you are because when you have
Speaker 1: these conversations, and I have a lot of conversations in
Speaker 1: a day, even on this podcast and in everyday life,
Speaker 1: I talk to at least I don't know how many
Speaker 1: hundreds of maybe thousands of people within one week. And
Speaker 1: that's something that is real. When you actually sit down
Speaker 1: and have conversations with people, you find out that they
Speaker 1: are worried and they are insecure about something. Even the
Speaker 1: person that you would deem as, oh, this person is
Speaker 1: so pretty and they have the most perfect body, they're
Speaker 1: usually insecure about something as well. And that's just based
Speaker 1: on the surface. And when we dig deeper into some
Speaker 1: people's lives, like maybe they're struggling with menopause or perimenopause.
Speaker 1: Some people are very worried about their parents. Some people
Speaker 1: are trying to Oh my gosh. One thing that I
Speaker 1: hear going into September is people paying for their kids'
Speaker 1: school books, Like that's expensive. I found out that there's
Speaker 1: a book I think it was an engineering I believe
Speaker 1: it was. It's like a five hundred dollars book.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: So not to add that to the pile of that's
Speaker 1: something you're thinking of, But I see you. I do
Speaker 1: not relate to that, but I see you. Maybe they've
Speaker 1: also been fighting with people in their home. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: their spouse, maybe it's their kids. Maybe something's happening with
Speaker 1: one of their animals that I can relate to. Or
Speaker 1: maybe people aren't sleeping proper, whether it is menopause, or
Speaker 1: maybe it's someone who maybe just had a baby and
Speaker 1: that baby thinks this party time at one o'clock in
Speaker 1: the morning.
Speaker 2: But that, to me, it tells me.
Speaker 1: That everybody, Like when I look around the gym, this
Speaker 1: is something I think about quite often, Like everybody is
Speaker 1: carrying something.
Speaker 2: And it's not like.
Speaker 1: There was a show I used to watch called A
Speaker 1: Big Comfy Couch, and I was a lot older watching
Speaker 1: that show than I would like to admit.
Speaker 2: But there was Molly Dolly. It's Lunette and her Dolly,
Speaker 2: a clown and a Molly or something like that. Anyway,
Speaker 2: she would have thought bubbles.
Speaker 1: But when you look around the room, we don't see
Speaker 1: like Molly Dolly's thought bubbles of exactly what everybody is thinking.
Speaker 1: That would be easy, I think and there's sometimes I
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to know, but like that is the reality
Speaker 1: if we actually had our thoughts displayed. Also maybe we
Speaker 1: might think a little bit differently if that's the case.
Speaker 1: But anyway, but that's that's why I liked having conversations
Speaker 1: with people in the gym. I like learning about people's
Speaker 1: different experiences. I also love connecting people who or going
Speaker 1: through similar things or that are in similar experiences in life.
Speaker 1: And also that's why I like to talk about other
Speaker 1: people who own businesses too, because like we don't always
Speaker 1: spend an hour talking about how amazing everything is. Like tomorrow,
Speaker 1: on tomorrow's podcast episode, I'm speaking with Martina that owns
Speaker 1: Charisma Hair and Cedar Point Drive. And it's cool because
Speaker 1: like we can laugh about things that are like chaotic
Speaker 1: and things that one sideways. We can share ideas, we
Speaker 1: can talk about when we've changed our minds. We're in
Speaker 1: different industries, we can we can learn about things that
Speaker 1: they're teaching and how what they're doing is benefiting our community.
Speaker 2: Of Barry as well.
Speaker 1: And same like talking with people that are in similar industries.
Speaker 1: Like if you go back to the previous podcast where
Speaker 1: I was talking with doctor Liz, who is a natural
Speaker 1: pathic doctor, Like, there is some correlations that we're servicing
Speaker 1: some of the people under the same umbrella, so it's
Speaker 1: pretty cool, like when you can bounce those ideas and
Speaker 1: like sometimes I also like to be reassured too, because
Speaker 1: it's like okay, high five, high five. So those things
Speaker 1: are awesome because we service sometimes similar clientele or maybe
Speaker 1: different client tele but we can all learn from each
Speaker 1: other for the ultimate benefit of a our client or
Speaker 1: patient or member. And also to breathe a little bit
Speaker 1: easier as a business owner as well, because like I
Speaker 1: like to have a reminder that we're all just trying
Speaker 1: to do a good job, and that's pretty good to me.
Speaker 1: And those conversations I find are becoming rare and I
Speaker 1: don't want to. I like social media and I hate
Speaker 1: social media at the same time, and I do hate
Speaker 1: a strong word. But I've been into like the pits
Speaker 1: of social media where I'm like, I don't like this,
Speaker 1: but you'll hear time and time again, like business and
Speaker 1: social media kind of goes hand in hand, especially if
Speaker 1: you're the face of your business. But in uh, in
Speaker 1: tomorrow's episode, like it's we actually reported that today to
Speaker 1: be transparent, but it's not a perfectly polished interview, like
Speaker 1: we didn't have any notes. It's two people just talking
Speaker 1: incredibly honestly. We're talking about work and people in business
Speaker 1: and the lessons that come from doing something that you
Speaker 1: care about for a very long time. And when you
Speaker 1: do listen to these episodes, I hope that it can
Speaker 1: remind you that not everybody has everything figured out all
Speaker 1: of the time, Like there's a lot of us that
Speaker 1: are just doing the best that we can with what
Speaker 1: we know today and the information that we have today.
Speaker 1: And then like the next day, we wake up and
Speaker 1: we do sometimes similar things, the same thing, and sometimes
Speaker 1: we pivot and go completely in a different direction. But
Speaker 1: it's waking up knowing that, Okay, tomorrow we're gonna keep
Speaker 1: We're going to keep going, We're going to try again.
Speaker 1: Something that I'm going to be working on myself, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to share this with you because you might
Speaker 1: like to do it alongside me too. Is like when
Speaker 1: your brain starts to fill in blanks and answer questions
Speaker 1: that you actually don't know the information from. Something I'm
Speaker 1: going to be asking myself that you can maybe do
Speaker 1: this too, is do I.
Speaker 2: Know what's going on? Do I actually know the facts?
Speaker 2: Is this true?
Speaker 1: Or am I just making up some bullshit that I
Speaker 1: think because of my perspective and my experiences and also
Speaker 1: my insecurities. Am I filling in the blanks? Or is
Speaker 1: this actually true? Because most of the time it's not
Speaker 1: the truth. Most of the time, it's that insecurities and
Speaker 1: stuff that we're nervous about that's filling in those blanks.
Speaker 1: And if today wasn't your best day, it doesn't necessarily
Speaker 1: mean it has to be an entire bad week. And
Speaker 1: I mean, life happens. There's some things that are very unfortunate,
Speaker 1: and we cannot control those things. But if today wasn't
Speaker 1: your best day because of something that is controllable uncontrollable,
Speaker 1: then I'm going to challenge you to not turn it
Speaker 1: into a whole, entire bad week. And I'm talking about
Speaker 1: like missed workouts book the next one. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: if you made a mistake at work, if you overshared,
Speaker 1: or you spoke in a way that you don't feel
Speaker 1: proud about, because that happens to me sometimes too. I
Speaker 1: talk a lot, So guess what one hundred percent of
Speaker 1: book comes out of my mouth? I'm not always proud about.
Speaker 2: But we can learn from those things and we can
Speaker 2: move on from them.
Speaker 1: Let's go back to a pizza. Maybe you had pizza.
Speaker 1: Enjoy your pizza. I keep going like progress. Progress is
Speaker 1: never about doing things perfect all the time, every single day.
Speaker 1: I know that, recording almost half more than halfway to
Speaker 1: two hundred podcast episodes, I'm not always going to alliterate
Speaker 1: my words.
Speaker 2: In the least offensive way. I just thought it like that.
Speaker 1: There's sometimes I say things and people look at me
Speaker 1: like I have ten heads, and I'm like, I think
Speaker 1: I said something wrong. I'm not sure, but I am sure,
Speaker 1: But like, what else can you do about it? You
Speaker 1: cannot take back things that you have already done in
Speaker 1: that context. You can only just hope to keep on
Speaker 1: moving forward and learn from some of those things. You
Speaker 1: don't have to let one moment or one insecurity become
Speaker 1: your entire story and also slapping a label and saying
Speaker 1: that's who you are as a person. Like I know,
Speaker 1: sometimes I overshare, and there's sometimes I get anxious, or
Speaker 1: sometimes I forget my audience when I'm talking because it's
Speaker 1: just more genuine and in the moment, and some people
Speaker 1: will be like, oh, that is such an amazing thing
Speaker 1: because sometimes people are nervous to actually express how they feel.
Speaker 1: But then on the contrast of that, it's a double
Speaker 1: edged sword. There's sometimes when you're like, I just really
Speaker 1: love people and I don't want people to be offended.
Speaker 2: So like, there's a whole thing about that.
Speaker 1: But I'm not going to slap my label on me
Speaker 1: and say, like, well, let me rephrace that.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to slop a label on me and.
Speaker 1: Say I shouldn't be recording a podcast, I shouldn't be
Speaker 1: dealing with people because sometimes I'm make mistakes. So when
Speaker 1: you say that out loud, when you hear that, it
Speaker 1: kind of sounds foolish, right, Like anyway, So just be
Speaker 1: sure that your insecurities are not trying to tell you
Speaker 1: that this is the truth. I mean, evaluate, move on, pivot,
Speaker 1: adjust your sales. I'm huge into adjusting your sales. Do
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you need to do. All right,
Speaker 1: So this is meant to be short and sweet. If
Speaker 1: this episode made you think of someone maybe who's been
Speaker 1: really hard on themselves lately, send it to them. Sometimes
Speaker 1: hearing me too is exactly what somebody else needs. Thank you,
Speaker 1: So much for spending your time with me, time and
Speaker 1: time again, thank you for tuning into the podcast The
Speaker 1: Transformation Station. Tomorrow Friday, we have a conversation with Martina
Speaker 1: happening from Chrisma hair. I think you're really going to
Speaker 1: enjoy the honest chit chat. Until next time.