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<v Speaker 1>Hi, I'm your host, Doctor Lorie, and welcome to Universally Unique,

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<v Speaker 1>Exploring the neurodiverse world of the extraordinary. This podcast foster's

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<v Speaker 1>curiosity and understanding about neurodiversity while empowering individuals with tools

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<v Speaker 1>for acceptance and inclusion in classrooms, the workplace, and communities.

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<v Speaker 1>Featuring shared stories of neurodiverse life experiences, it sheds light

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<v Speaker 1>on navigating a world not designed for diversity. Universally Unique

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<v Speaker 1>starts now. Hi, this is doctor Lorie. Welcome to Universally Unique.

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<v Speaker 1>My guest today is Jessica Papp. Jessica is the mom

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<v Speaker 1>of a twelve year old named Juliana who was hoping

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<v Speaker 1>to join us today but was not able to do so,

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<v Speaker 1>so hopefully we'll get to talk to Juliana in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>Before we get started, we're going to do three box breaths.

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<v Speaker 1>I will count us through that. We're going to breathe

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<v Speaker 1>always good to take a few a few breaths. So, Jess,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for joining us today. And I would like

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<v Speaker 1>basically to start if you would tell us about the

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<v Speaker 1>journey that that you and your family and Juliana have

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<v Speaker 1>been on.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome.

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<v Speaker 2>So my daughter is twelve now, but our journey with

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<v Speaker 2>her kind of medical issues started when she was about

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<v Speaker 2>three to four years old. Before that point, she was

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<v Speaker 2>just a very typical, happy, bubbly three four year old,

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<v Speaker 2>and we noticed a really like sudden acute onset of

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<v Speaker 2>very severe OCD symptoms. And to see that in a

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<v Speaker 2>four year old was very like jarring. So some of

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<v Speaker 2>the things we saw were like excessive handwashing and just

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<v Speaker 2>never felt clean. She would tap, she would tap out

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<v Speaker 2>different patterns on her fingers and again, this little sweet girl,

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<v Speaker 2>and she would just cry because she never felt like

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<v Speaker 2>she was clean enough or doing things enough, or maybe

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<v Speaker 2>there were bugs somewhere. So after about maybe three or

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<v Speaker 2>four days of this, we brought her into the pediatrician,

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<v Speaker 2>just her regular pediatrician. Before this point we had we

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<v Speaker 2>really hadn't had any big health issues other than we

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<v Speaker 2>had had a few like rashes, diaper rashes and things

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<v Speaker 2>like that that were long term, but other than that,

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<v Speaker 2>she had been very healthy. When we got in there,

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<v Speaker 2>the doctor was concerned. She saw some of the symptoms

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<v Speaker 2>we were talking about, and at that point she said,

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<v Speaker 2>there's two options that she thought and one was a

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<v Speaker 2>brain tumor, which would have been very troubling obviously, and

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<v Speaker 2>she said the other thing is called pandas and pandas

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<v Speaker 2>she immediately told me most doctors won't recognize this diagnosis yet.

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<v Speaker 2>It's still pretty controversial, but basically she told me it

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<v Speaker 2>has to do a strip, and so she at that

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<v Speaker 2>point I asked her to do a strep test to

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<v Speaker 2>see She said we could start there, and it immediately

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<v Speaker 2>came back positive. So it was a relief right away

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<v Speaker 2>in that it wasn't something like a brain tumor, and

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<v Speaker 2>we had kind of hoped that as soon as that

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<v Speaker 2>strip was treated it would go away. So for a

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<v Speaker 2>standard strep case, typically the kids will have a sore

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<v Speaker 2>throat and they'll go or maybe a fever they'll go

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<v Speaker 2>to the doctor get five to seven days antibiotics. So

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<v Speaker 2>they gave Juliana five days antibiotics and we saw like

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<v Speaker 2>a sudden turnaround, like day two three amazing, and we

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<v Speaker 2>were like thrilled. But after the antibiotics ran out, we

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<v Speaker 2>saw this sudden uptick again in those OCD symptoms. So

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<v Speaker 2>we went back and the doctors said, you know, we

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<v Speaker 2>understand that this is frustrating, but there's nothing we can

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<v Speaker 2>do because at that point they would swab and it

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<v Speaker 2>would be negative because of the antibiotics. It had treated

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<v Speaker 2>it enough. PANDAS stands for Pediatric autoimmune neurological disorder associated

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<v Speaker 2>with STREP. And so I'll be honest, I don't love

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<v Speaker 2>the name PANDAS because people think it's like this cutesy

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<v Speaker 2>little thing, and if you say it, it even has

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of like a misunderstanding by people because

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<v Speaker 2>it had been a controversial thing. So a couple people

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<v Speaker 2>I know that their children have it, they just refer

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<v Speaker 2>to it as autoimmune encephalitis, which is basically exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>it is. So so you say PANDAS and people are like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>what's that you know?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, it's like a fairy tale, Oh it's so cute. Yeah, lovely, No.

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<v Speaker 2>And so we started this path where the doctor basically said,

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<v Speaker 2>we can't do anything for you, so what do we

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<v Speaker 2>do next? They said, you can head over to the

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<v Speaker 2>children's hospital and go to the er and wait and

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<v Speaker 2>see if you can find somebody to see you. And

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<v Speaker 2>so we started. We started that path. First visitor where

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<v Speaker 2>they really didn't go anywhere. They said she's testing negative.

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<v Speaker 2>They didn't really obviously didn't know her, so they didn't

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<v Speaker 2>notice any of the symptoms that much. So we said, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we went home. They said kind of like give her

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<v Speaker 2>tile on all and wait it out and see how

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<v Speaker 2>she feels right, and that didn't do anything. And the

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<v Speaker 2>autoimmune side of Panda's basically the strip in her body

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<v Speaker 2>wherever it is. It's hiding basically from her body, but

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<v Speaker 2>her body thinks it's in her brain, so her whole

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<v Speaker 2>body ramps up all of its immune fighting response and

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<v Speaker 2>it goes up to her brain. So some people even say,

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<v Speaker 2>like it's like a brain on fire thing where your

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<v Speaker 2>brain is just being attacked, attacked, attacked, and obviously the

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<v Speaker 2>strip's not there, so it's the immune systems not accomplishing anything.

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<v Speaker 2>And so it's just swelling her brain, stressing her brain

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<v Speaker 2>to the point of her we could even see her

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<v Speaker 2>pupils would dilate so big that it was like jarring. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's rible. So you see again, this four year old,

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<v Speaker 2>little sweet girl. We tried to let it go for

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit, see if it got better. Her preschool

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<v Speaker 2>teachers called home and said that she spent thirty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>washing her hands and when it stop, which is just

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<v Speaker 2>like absolutely heartbreaking.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, at that age, you don't usually see that. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>actually a little bit surprised that no one thought that

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<v Speaker 1>maybe she had autism.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, It's it's interesting because I think if it

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<v Speaker 2>had been maybe even my son or some other kid,

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<v Speaker 2>they might have gone down that path. But Juliana was

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<v Speaker 2>exceptionally vocal, and she was very articulate and very emotional

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<v Speaker 2>and happy and bubbly and loving. So they did kind

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<v Speaker 2>of say, you know, this could possibly be some other

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<v Speaker 2>things too, but with the really acute change in her,

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<v Speaker 2>but then seeing that little bounce back with the antibiotics,

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<v Speaker 2>we kind of we were pretty confident it was this.

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<v Speaker 2>I had. I'm a teacher, so in my town where

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<v Speaker 2>I teach, I knew there was a mom who had

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<v Speaker 2>had a child with PANDAS, and I really didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>much about it, but I remembered that he for him,

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<v Speaker 2>it was he couldn't wear any clothes on his leg,

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<v Speaker 2>one of his legs and feet and if he if

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<v Speaker 2>anybody touched it at all, it was horrible pain. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I called this mom and didn't know her that well,

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<v Speaker 2>and she spent hours on the phone with me and

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<v Speaker 2>was just lovely. And that's I think one of the

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<v Speaker 2>takeaways from all this is to see the support I've

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<v Speaker 2>had just with people around me, just for no reason

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<v Speaker 2>other than to help me and help my kid so

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<v Speaker 2>that I can go help other people and their kid

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<v Speaker 2>has been really cool. Especially when you go to the

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<v Speaker 2>doctors and you're hoping that they're going to help you

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<v Speaker 2>right away and they just don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it sounds it's such an elusive situation, and there's

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<v Speaker 1>not there's not there's not a blood test, there's not

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<v Speaker 1>like some kind of scan that definitively just defines anything.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like in a way, it's a process of elimination.

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<v Speaker 1>Because she said the fact that when she had the

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<v Speaker 1>antibiotics in her system and they were actually working it

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<v Speaker 1>was like the light switch went down and turned the

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<v Speaker 1>power off of all this stuff that was going on,

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<v Speaker 1>and then as it wore off, it went back on.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's like it's like putting together a puzzle.

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<v Speaker 2>It is, it is, And I think now, so this

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<v Speaker 2>was eight years ago, maybe, I think, so I've done

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<v Speaker 2>some kind of they're doing like this very massive questionnaires

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff for parents and especially parents with one child

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<v Speaker 2>with it with panas and one without, and they ask

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<v Speaker 2>a million questions even like what foods they ate and

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<v Speaker 2>all this other to try to figure out things. So

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<v Speaker 2>I think hopefully it's going to get better. And I

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<v Speaker 2>know some doctors. Unfortunately, most doctors that will go down

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<v Speaker 2>this path with you do not take insurance, so most

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<v Speaker 2>of those doctors are out of pocket, probably because they

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<v Speaker 2>can't officially do some of these things under their own

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<v Speaker 2>whatever umbrellas. So but they'll do like a tighter to

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<v Speaker 2>see how much strap has been in the body and

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<v Speaker 2>if it's been in their long term. But a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people have strap too, so yeah, so there's no

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<v Speaker 2>like one test some people say it's OCD, but at

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<v Speaker 2>four that's pretty rare to see such a you know,

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<v Speaker 2>significant amount of OCD symptoms and ticks.

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<v Speaker 1>And those usually are woven in with other diagnoses that

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<v Speaker 1>can be made more clearly.

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<v Speaker 2>And so this was it was frustrating because we knew

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<v Speaker 2>what it was. We knew we knew with the it's

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<v Speaker 2>very difficult to get antibiotics period for anyone, and then

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<v Speaker 2>for a child, especially if they've already tried it once,

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<v Speaker 2>they're very hesitant to give more. I think we maybe

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<v Speaker 2>ruined that in the eighties and nineties would just she.

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<v Speaker 1>Would give you an antibiotic for like a little anything,

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<v Speaker 1>and you've got an antibiotic.

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<v Speaker 2>So we've kind of overcorrected now where doctors are like, Nope,

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<v Speaker 2>we're not doing that until unless we know for certain

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<v Speaker 2>we have a positive strap test. I'm like, okay. So

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<v Speaker 2>after we waited and she was still struggling really bad,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was just heart Like I said, Lauria, it

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<v Speaker 2>was just heartbreaking. Yeah, we were just sick to sick

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<v Speaker 2>to our stomachs. My son was a baby at this point,

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<v Speaker 2>so a lot of people said, well, she's probably just

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<v Speaker 2>acting out for attention and things, and we knew that

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't it. But we brought her back to the children's

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<v Speaker 2>hospital and we were like, we're not going to leave

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<v Speaker 2>here without some answers. That day we had I had

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<v Speaker 2>gone in to get her out of her crib and

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<v Speaker 2>she wouldn't let me touch her. She wouldn't let anybody

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<v Speaker 2>touch her, and she said, everybody's dirty, everybody's bugs on them.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was like this very significant, like almost break

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<v Speaker 2>and I couldn't get her to let me touch her.

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<v Speaker 2>She's screaming, and I finally like got a blanket out

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<v Speaker 2>And she let me wrap her and that's how I

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<v Speaker 2>got her into the car over to children's. So we

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<v Speaker 2>call that like a flare for sure, Like sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 2>way worse. Sometimes that'll drop an hour or two later,

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<v Speaker 2>and it kind of the swelling might go down a bit.

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<v Speaker 2>So by the time we were seeing she was doing better.

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<v Speaker 2>She wasn't hysterical, but she was still stressed out and anxious.

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<v Speaker 2>But they thought she was manipulative. They thought she was

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<v Speaker 1>of making me angry. Even though we're well past her

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<v Speaker 1>down in the aisle at the grocery store for cookies. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>at that point, I've been teaching kindergarten for fifteen years,

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<v Speaker 2>which they didn't know. And they said, you know, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>And that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>And that was all they did. And I was so

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<v Speaker 1>And this is the main children's hospital in the state

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<v Speaker 1>of Connecticut. This is where, especially in the northern part

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<v Speaker 2>And that's kind of what we were, like, we know,

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<v Speaker 2>at least recognizing it could be this thing. But it

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<v Speaker 2>is disappointing. If they had just been able to then

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<v Speaker 2>very tricky illness for thousands of years, scarlet fevers caused

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<v Speaker 2>by strap. I mean, this is nothing new. I think

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<v Speaker 2>just this one label for it is new. But basically

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<v Speaker 2>her brain was just so swollen. So we went and

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<v Speaker 2>we went down the naturopathic route for a while and

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<v Speaker 2>things were okay, but because she was a naturopath, she

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<v Speaker 2>She's just very tired, miserable. Antibiotics had she had been

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<v Speaker 2>to do like fish oil and a and a CBD

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<v Speaker 2>tincture and you know, probiotics twice a day and vitamins,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was just too much.

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<v Speaker 1>She was so sick when we get all that stuff

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<v Speaker 1>into her and many of those things have a tendency

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<v Speaker 1>to make your stomach a little bit upset. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you can't get enough food in her to put those

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<v Speaker 1>things into her, that's not going to help.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, And she would just she's going to take it,

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<v Speaker 2>right she I think she almost felt like she was

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<v Speaker 2>understand why do I have to do all these things?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I don't want to. So I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>joined some of those, like Facebook mom groups, and I

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<v Speaker 2>out to me to say, hey, I know some he's

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<v Speaker 2>gone through this or went through this. So at that point,

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<v Speaker 2>a woman named Susan I talked to her. Her son

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<v Speaker 2>she hadn't even heard of what it was at the beginning.

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<v Speaker 2>So at least with that with us, we knew right

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<v Speaker 2>away it could be this pandace thing. She was really

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<v Speaker 2>good about saying like, don't don't give up, keep pushing

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<v Speaker 2>and in the meantime, here's what you can do. And

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<v Speaker 2>so there was a few things that were would help us.

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<v Speaker 2>So some sort of anti inflammatory like an I'm profen

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<v Speaker 2>would help during these flares. It would take her brain

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<v Speaker 2>swelling down a little bit, ice, chewing ice, as much

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<v Speaker 2>ice on her palette as possible, like ice, ice cream,

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<v Speaker 2>ice pops, any of that stuff, and just.

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<v Speaker 1>A little easier to get a four year old ice

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<v Speaker 1>pod just to take a fish.

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<v Speaker 2>Oil, so I don't even want to take fish oil,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and so so ice and then also putting

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<v Speaker 2>her in like a tepe or cool bath kind of

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<v Speaker 2>would help sometimes reset. And it wasn't perfect, but it

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<v Speaker 2>would at least get us to the point of like

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<v Speaker 2>we could kind of reason with her. And she was

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<v Speaker 2>very smart, so she understood something was wrong, but she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't understand why. And so this went on for a

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<v Speaker 2>very long time. It took us another six months or

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<v Speaker 2>so to get in finally to see someone at Children's

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<v Speaker 2>hospital who was a specialist in this, and we saw

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<v Speaker 2>him once and he was wonderful and we left there

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<v Speaker 2>feeling like it was a miracle. The best thing he

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<v Speaker 2>prescribed was antibiotics with like four refills, which was to me,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, someone who you know, my husband and I

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<v Speaker 2>are both like rule followers and and everything, and at

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<v Speaker 2>that point we were so desperate. I was like telling

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<v Speaker 2>my brother to save his kids antibiotic if they don't

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<v Speaker 2>use it, just in case, you know. And then we

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<v Speaker 2>knew that wasn't right, but we also saw her suffering.

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<v Speaker 2>So at this point, this doctor doing that was just wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>He told us to avoid yogurt, which was interesting. We

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<v Speaker 2>had never thought of that. But one of the one

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<v Speaker 2>of the strains in yogurt to make it yogurt is strap.

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<v Speaker 2>It'll say s dot like and then a word.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I wonder if that's why though they in

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<v Speaker 1>like typical situations, they tell you to eat yogurt when

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<v Speaker 1>you're on antibiotics to stop used infections. But it obviously

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<v Speaker 1>has the wrong effect on her right, so that wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>her favorite food you.

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<v Speaker 2>Want to buy. I never thought i'd have to punish

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<v Speaker 2>my kid free and yogurt. She loves yogurt still to

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<v Speaker 2>this day. She'll beg us, beg us and beg us,

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<v Speaker 2>and so we'll let her have it once in a

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<v Speaker 2>while and and but we would. It's funny because like

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<v Speaker 2>at school, they would have it sometimes with the lune

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<v Speaker 2>that you gogurt things. Or she'd go to my mother

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<v Speaker 2>in law's or my mom's and she'd come home and

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<v Speaker 2>be a mess like another, like a total like meltdown tantrum,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, how much yogurt did you have?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>And we would realize like she'd eat four yogurts in

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<v Speaker 2>you know, two days, and she'd be a mess again.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, oh no, so.

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<v Speaker 1>She yeah, well, and you would have never known because

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<v Speaker 1>that wouldn't have been a thing that you would have

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<v Speaker 1>never you wouldn't have eliminated.

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<v Speaker 2>Never in a million years. Something else they showed us,

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<v Speaker 2>which I thought was super interesting and you'd be interested

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<v Speaker 2>in this for sure. They have done now some studies

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<v Speaker 2>with kids who are a little older, and they would

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<v Speaker 2>have they take a kid who was like an art

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<v Speaker 2>a good artist, and they had a beautiful picture drawn.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember this girl drew like a wedding, like a bride,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, this beautiful picture. And then during a flare

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<v Speaker 2>they had her draw, and then after the flare and

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<v Speaker 2>he after healing, they'd have her draw again. The first

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<v Speaker 2>picture was beautiful, like very clear and you could see

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<v Speaker 2>all the details. The one in the flare was almost

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<v Speaker 2>just random shapes. It was siggles and random shapes. And

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<v Speaker 2>this is about a ten year old. I believe the

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<v Speaker 2>third drawing was way better than the one in the flare,

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<v Speaker 2>but it wasn't nearly as good as that first one.

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<v Speaker 2>And that kind of hit me that this is going

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<v Speaker 2>to cause this could cause some major lasting effects. And

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think people maybe think about that. They think

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<v Speaker 2>strap antibiotics and you're done. But in this case, it's

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<v Speaker 2>basically your body's just fighting you.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you use the word encephalitis, I think even

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<v Speaker 1>lay people recognized that that's something bad going on in

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<v Speaker 1>your head. Yeah, they yeah, brain swelling is yeah. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>even if you're not a medical professional, you would go, huh,

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<v Speaker 1>that can't be good.

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<v Speaker 2>It is night and day when you say that. When

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<v Speaker 2>you start with my daughter as autoimmune encephalitis, you get

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<v Speaker 2>a much different reaction than my daughter has PANDAS, and

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<v Speaker 2>she gets treated very differently depending on what you say.

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<v Speaker 2>And my best friend is a BCBA, so she's been

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<v Speaker 2>working with student children for twenty years with needs. Her

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<v Speaker 2>youngest actually ended up getting PANDAS too. She came to me,

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<v Speaker 2>it was about five years later and she said, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is my best friend for twenty years. She said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, She said, I thought you were losing your

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<v Speaker 2>mind trying telling people to save their antibiotics. She said,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought you've lost it completely. I get it now,

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<v Speaker 2>like I get this feeling of helplessness.

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<v Speaker 1>You can see how parents who have children too that

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<v Speaker 1>we know what the treatment is and maybe for some

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<v Speaker 1>reason the treatment isn't available. I just I read something

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<v Speaker 1>that that long ago about parents of children who had

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<v Speaker 1>cistic fibrosis going, I want to say, to South Africa

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<v Speaker 1>because they had reverse engineered this fairly new medication that

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<v Speaker 1>is incredibly expensive changing and life changing, but a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people can't afford it, and a lot of insurance

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<v Speaker 1>companies won't pay for it. So people are like going

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<v Speaker 1>to like foreign countries and buying things and we I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully that's working out for them, but we know, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, people were buying medications from Canada and finding

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<v Speaker 1>out that they were made out of cheat rock, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>which is really quite frightening. I did do actually an

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<v Speaker 1>episode probably maybe about four or five months ago with

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<v Speaker 1>keras at Alino, who is someone who has a daughter

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<v Speaker 1>with cistic fibrosis and her daughter actually has what was

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that seems strange to say this the right

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<v Speaker 1>kind of cystic fibrosis to gain access to this medical

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<v Speaker 1>to this I believe it's the same medication. And I thought,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I mean parents, parents will do anything anything,

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<v Speaker 2>Anything, thousands of dollars of debt. And these mom groups

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<v Speaker 2>were great on Facebook. But that was another kind of

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<v Speaker 2>sad thing, as you'd see these parents who flew their

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<v Speaker 2>kids all over the world and did these big you know,

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<v Speaker 2>blood transfusions and all these tests and everything, and really

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<v Speaker 2>what they needed was antibiotics.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, and it's frightening to think too when people

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<v Speaker 1>understand not being in that situation why you would try

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<v Speaker 1>just about anything. But you know, sometimes the things that

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<v Speaker 1>people are trying are also causing other.

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<v Speaker 2>Issues dangerous that bring you to the wrong road.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're kind of thirty minutes goes really quick. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hoping that I'm really hoping we can find a

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<v Speaker 1>time so that we can be Juliana and you hear

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit more, but how is she doing now?

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<v Speaker 2>So she's doing okay. What we realized that big first

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<v Speaker 2>couple of years she needed about six months of antibiotics

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<v Speaker 2>to get a break through and finally heal that strap,

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<v Speaker 2>which was very difficult. But after that we worked really

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<v Speaker 2>page with us with a plan. And I'm sure you've

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<v Speaker 2>lucky that she has not had strap that many times,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe five times over the last few last ten years.

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<v Speaker 2>She did ever tonsils out that helped. We've discovered, like

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<v Speaker 2>chlorine sets off this immune system reaction and you said

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing, and so we've we've learned how to

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<v Speaker 2>avoid certain triggers like that, and we know that sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>she'll still have a tantrum at twelve that's not her

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<v Speaker 2>age appropriate, but afterwards she's like, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>that was, you know, So there's still some things left over.

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<v Speaker 2>For the most part, she's doing really well. She's a

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<v Speaker 2>very smart kid. She's a very high reader and loves

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<v Speaker 2>life and she's joyful and you know you, I know

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<v Speaker 2>you had said something about what's the best thing you've

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<v Speaker 2>seen or what is the best accomplishment, And honestly seeing

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<v Speaker 2>her just joyfully playing with her you know, friends at school.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was able to watch her being in the

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<v Speaker 2>same school with her this year, just skipping and jumping

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<v Speaker 2>and laughing and having a really great time with her friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's been just amazing because there was a time

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<v Speaker 2>we were really worried. So to see her feeling secure

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<v Speaker 2>and strong has been really cool. But she's a tough kid.

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<v Speaker 2>She's had a lot of you know, a lot of obstacles,

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<v Speaker 2>and some were probably caused by this and we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to be, you know, coming up against them still for

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<v Speaker 2>a while. But she's very strong and very brave. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really proud of her. I know she'd love to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I definitely want. I'm hoping that we'll be

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<v Speaker 1>able to schedule a time with the two of you

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<v Speaker 1>soon so that the two episodes kind of come close together.

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<v Speaker 1>I did have an opportunity when you and I spoke

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<v Speaker 1>before the taping to meet her briefly on a video,

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<v Speaker 1>and she just exudes like such She's just vivacious. She's

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<v Speaker 1>very vivacious, which is not really surprised because that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of mom's personality too. But you know, you can see

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<v Speaker 1>what draws people to her, which I think is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>will certainly be her one of her strengths, because it'll

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<v Speaker 1>probably be times when you know, she does kind of

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<v Speaker 1>lose her temper a bit, and folks, as they grow

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<v Speaker 1>to like her a lot, sure they will be more

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<v Speaker 1>forgiving of the you know one time a year that

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<v Speaker 1>she kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of yeah, that's part.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>One of her little cute girlfriends said to her one day,

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<v Speaker 2>did you did you take medicine today? You know, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it was, Do you need something? Do you need some ice?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>She she started getting it, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that's pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get you some ice. I love it and I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Gonna get you some ice. But no, she's wonderful and

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<v Speaker 2>I do appreciate you asking. And I think if I

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<v Speaker 2>was starting now, I would just say push really hard

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<v Speaker 2>and really fast, and don't take no for an answer,

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<v Speaker 2>and don't feel like you're being difficult. Just just keep

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<v Speaker 2>pushing because you know your child best.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think that's the hardest part for parents, when

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<v Speaker 1>they find themselves having to advocate so hard that they

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<v Speaker 1>feel like people are like, oh, it's you on the phone,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't talk to you, or hare comes that parent

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<v Speaker 1>into that meeting, and you know, and that's not helpful

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<v Speaker 1>at all for the parent or the child, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and we have to understand And what is that expression?

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<v Speaker 1>You never know? You don't know what somebody else's life

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<v Speaker 1>is like because it's not your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But thank you, thanks so much for coming and visiting

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<v Speaker 1>with me. And we'll work on a time to get

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<v Speaker 1>Juliana in here, because I think that that would be

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<v Speaker 1>like super wonderful for for the folks that are listening

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<v Speaker 1>or watching the podcast to be able to to see

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<v Speaker 1>her in in her in her full, her full, full

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<v Speaker 1>blonde hair, blonde hair, you know, that's what comes with

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<v Speaker 1>being twelve, blonde hair with pink tips. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>but thank you so very much. I'm very much appreciated this.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, tell Juliana we're sorry that we missed her,

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<v Speaker 1>but we know that she needed to do something else. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>probably at this point a little bit more important.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we'll get we'll get her. You're very happy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>she's like me. She can't stick to a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>of time. So that's Okay, yeah, okay, thank you, Thank

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<v Speaker 2>you so much. Nice to see you.

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<v Speaker 1>It was good to see you too, Emily. Are we good?

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