Speaker 1: Okay, just a quick note up top. This episode is
Speaker 1: a little weird. If this is the very first episode
Speaker 1: of Ologies we ever listened to, this isn't what they
Speaker 1: are normally like. This is probably the most mellow podcast
Speaker 1: I have ever recorded or ever been on. It's very mellow.
Speaker 1: It's just me talking, and it's a vibe. But I
Speaker 1: also explained later on why it's such a vibe. But
Speaker 1: it was recorded late at night, quietly in a guest bedroom.
Speaker 1: We get into it anyway, enjoy the mellow show. Oh hi,
Speaker 1: it's your life, just gasping and hobbling day into the
Speaker 1: next day, begging you for help. Hey, does life feel
Speaker 1: out of hand? Of course it does. Could we all
Speaker 1: use some tips on how to grease your wheels and
Speaker 1: just slide into comfort and maybe even increased productivity so
Speaker 1: that you have more time to enjoy comfort. Yes and yes,
Speaker 1: which is why I asked my friends at patreon dot
Speaker 1: com slash Ologies for life tips hacks, some tricks, some strategies,
Speaker 1: some smarts. Folks, these are great if you have ADHD,
Speaker 1: if you think you have ADHD, if you love someone
Speaker 1: with ADHD, or if you're just a person on planet
Speaker 1: Earth who is expected to hold their shit together in
Speaker 1: a very distracting time. So this was supposed to come
Speaker 1: out two weeks ago as like a third part to
Speaker 1: the ADHD episodes. And then you may have noticed there
Speaker 1: was an Encore episode about trains and there was also
Speaker 1: asmologies episode that came out, and that is because some
Speaker 1: things have been a little bonkers in my life the
Speaker 1: last couple of weeks. And I'm going to tell you
Speaker 1: about it in the secret at the end of the episode,
Speaker 1: and it's not good stuff. Just in case you're wondering
Speaker 1: it's been really hard. I'll tell you about it later.
Speaker 1: But anyway, we're making this, we're putting it out and
Speaker 1: this will be the button on our ADHD episode. But
Speaker 1: we made this for people who are neurotypical and neuroatypical.
Speaker 1: It's just how to get your life in order with
Speaker 1: a bunch of great tips. But before we dive in,
Speaker 1: thank you to everyone who shares these episodes and tells
Speaker 1: friends about them, and who rates and subscribes and even reviews,
Speaker 1: because you know, I read all the reviews. For example,
Speaker 1: this freshetl donut from insta Ashley who wrote in the
Speaker 1: review pretty sure my unborn baby will recognize Ali's voice
Speaker 1: before mine. Insta Ashley's baby. I just want to say,
Speaker 1: what's up. That was a great fresh review that your
Speaker 1: host body wrote. Also on the topic of fresh. Next
Speaker 1: week we'll just have a fresh, sparkling, new episode. Things
Speaker 1: will be back on track, back on schedule. So get
Speaker 1: ready for some carnivorous plants or it might be sea urchins.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be one of those. Okay, But first let's
Speaker 1: polish off the sharp edges and just have a smoother
Speaker 1: existence with a bunch of advice on how to be healthier,
Speaker 1: more well rested, better fed, less distracted, perhaps a little
Speaker 1: less irritable, and have a smoother and more empathetic relationship
Speaker 1: perhaps with yourself and others and more. I put these
Speaker 1: into five parts. Okay, we cover part number one. Your
Speaker 1: hot bod needs this. Part two Home is where the
Speaker 1: heart is, domestic strategies. Part three is a wrestling match
Speaker 1: with father time about scheduling. Four is let your brain
Speaker 1: trick your brain some productivity hacks, and five is emo
Speaker 1: stuff just feeling around your feelings. So life tricks from ologites.
Speaker 1: Two ologites. They're good, they're for everyone, They're for you.
Speaker 1: Here we go all right, kiddos. Part one. Your hot
Speaker 1: bod needs this for your brain. So this is not
Speaker 1: about how you look nude or your bathing suit aspirations.
Speaker 1: This is about the lump of jello in your bone bowl,
Speaker 1: moving around in whatever way you can to help your brain.
Speaker 1: So I asked, patrons, give me all of your life hacks.
Speaker 1: Joe Alexander said, either run or walk or get on
Speaker 1: the elliptical for as little as six minutes just to
Speaker 1: get my heart right up a bit. And if I
Speaker 1: don't do it, the day is terrible and I'm mostly
Speaker 1: non functional. And Anne Dolmeyer uses an exercise bike at
Speaker 1: home and says it's where I go and they need
Speaker 1: to think or focus or when I need to get
Speaker 1: things done. Saffron Alabassi said the clarity after a quick
Speaker 1: ten minute jog around the block is bonkers, and this
Speaker 1: was echoed by Emily Anderson and Ted Hamilton, who said
Speaker 1: whatever happens on a long run makes my brain go
Speaker 1: from badly tuned radio to silent. It's pure bliss to
Speaker 1: quiet everything for an hour, and I've noticed the effects
Speaker 1: lasts for a couple days after. It's not for everyone,
Speaker 1: but it's a necessary part of my life now, Ted said,
Speaker 1: and Janetta Sore said, if you need to move to think,
Speaker 1: find ways to do it. Have walking meetings or do
Speaker 1: exercisey things right before sit still things so you do
Speaker 1: not have to break your sprinting record. You do not
Speaker 1: even have to change shoes, don't have to beat a
Speaker 1: stranger on a peloton leader board or even sweat. Just
Speaker 1: whatever way you can move, just move your brain will
Speaker 1: be like my God. Finally, thank you to the meat
Speaker 1: parts of me from the brain part. And another hot
Speaker 1: tip from patrons sleep, Why don't maybe try sleeping? Christy
Speaker 1: Lowry wrote in and said, no medication note therapy, no
Speaker 1: treatment is going to work if your body is tired, hungry,
Speaker 1: or thirsty. And protect your sleep as if it is
Speaker 1: your life or sanity. Christy says, I'm a grown ass
Speaker 1: adults with a stricter bedtime routine than any kid out there.
Speaker 1: Turn your phone to silent in the evening. Let your
Speaker 1: crew know that if they contact you after seven, they
Speaker 1: better be dead. Normalize healthy sleep hygiene. Above all, be
Speaker 1: kind and loving to yourself, Christie said, and Peter West said,
Speaker 1: I have a nine year old with ADHD. We changed
Speaker 1: our lights to ones that automatically gradually dim for the
Speaker 1: hour before bed and then turn off, and that helps
Speaker 1: with sleep. Janetta sore get fussy af about your bedtime
Speaker 1: routine and then wind down. And Hannah Michelle says, my
Speaker 1: sleep is sacred and needs to be guarded. And also
Speaker 1: while you're sleeping, ABC always be charging. How many of
Speaker 1: you have woken up with a phone that has less
Speaker 1: energy than you? Waking up in the red with the
Speaker 1: battery on your phone is just the best way to
Speaker 1: make your day a nightmare. It has happened to be
Speaker 1: so many times. Patron Emily Palin said, I just got
Speaker 1: a charging station on my nightstand to keep my phone,
Speaker 1: AirPods and watch together. That way, when I grab one,
Speaker 1: I see the others and I actually charge them. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: what else is on your nightstands? I wanted to know.
Speaker 1: And Rosa and Miranda Panda both wrote in about sunrise
Speaker 1: light alarm clocks, and in Rosa's words, mornings are made
Speaker 1: tremendously better when I wake up with light instead of sound,
Speaker 1: and Miranda said, I absolutely love feeling like I woke
Speaker 1: up gradually on my own rather than being forced awake.
Speaker 1: So these are alarm clocks that gradually wake you up
Speaker 1: with light. And I gotta say me personally, some of
Speaker 1: the happiest weeks of my life have been when I
Speaker 1: went to bed super early and then got up when
Speaker 1: it was not quite even down yet. Because I think
Speaker 1: some of us are night owls, just because we're more
Speaker 1: productive when everyone else is asleep, so we don't have
Speaker 1: text to return and emails popping up. And if you're
Speaker 1: one of those people, try early mornings instead. I'm going
Speaker 1: to try and get back into it with you, because
Speaker 1: you get a jump on things when the world is quiet,
Speaker 1: and then you're ahead of the game when people wake up,
Speaker 1: and then you can use your evening's guilt free chillin'
Speaker 1: instead of trying to force yourself to be productive after
Speaker 1: a long, aggravating day of dodging distractions like an American
Speaker 1: ninja course. Also, there's coffee at dawn and that's the best.
Speaker 1: So when the sunrise alarm goes off, open the blinds,
Speaker 1: let the sun do its thing. It helps your brain
Speaker 1: wake up. Maybe meditate for a couple minutes. If you
Speaker 1: can make a list of how your day will go
Speaker 1: go you just beat everyone to the punch. But if
Speaker 1: you're still in bed, and you do have ADHD. McKenzie
Speaker 1: foss rodin. If you take stimulants and struggle to get
Speaker 1: out of bed in the morning, take them an hour
Speaker 1: before you actually need to get up, and then you'll
Speaker 1: have no problem waking up and you need to And
Speaker 1: Derek Allen chimed in and said the riddle and wake
Speaker 1: up call is basically a superpower. And we mentioned in
Speaker 1: part two of the ADHD episodes though, if you have
Speaker 1: ADHD and you take stimulants and have anxiety, you may
Speaker 1: want to take your meds with protein and in Adrian
Speaker 1: Gregor's words, water breakfast meds in that order. Otherwise I
Speaker 1: ever get to eat. What about nighttime meds? I wondered.
Speaker 1: Derek was like, might not be for everyone, but a
Speaker 1: little nibble of forbidden brownie, which is medically legal in
Speaker 1: thirty seven states, quiets their thoughts and commits them to
Speaker 1: doing a task which brings us, by the way, to appetite.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about food for a second.
Speaker 1: Okay, you're a person, right, You need food, You need
Speaker 1: to eat food, You want to eat food, but just
Speaker 1: the soreness of it has you ordering expensive, stale peta
Speaker 1: from a place you don't even like, we've all been there,
Speaker 1: so let's fix your life with some food tips. So
Speaker 1: if you want to try to shake off a funk
Speaker 1: or maybe turn a corner or just make a new chapter,
Speaker 1: just take a quick gander at what's on your plate.
Speaker 1: Good fresh food is sadly not accessible to everyone and
Speaker 1: that sucks so for economic to convenience reasons, I completely
Speaker 1: get it. But if you can get it, Patron Lisa
Speaker 1: Smith says that clean eating is a biggie just for
Speaker 1: their mental health and productivity and life. They say carbs,
Speaker 1: dairy and greasy food make my brain not work right,
Speaker 1: and Morgan Underwood said they cut processed foods and stuff
Speaker 1: with high sugar content to increase focus and reduce grouchiness.
Speaker 1: So what if you know what to eat though, and
Speaker 1: you're just bored and tired. Mia says that they've found
Speaker 1: making sure to incorporate mushrooms into meals will make them
Speaker 1: more likely to cook and eat because my cology is
Speaker 1: one of their oldest and most loved special interests. So
Speaker 1: I guess just walk around the produce aisle and just
Speaker 1: be like, what am I connecting with here? What do
Speaker 1: I actually want to spend some time in the Kitchen
Speaker 1: with some more kitchen strategies from patrons. Tyler Hudson keeps
Speaker 1: a bunch of bulk, non perishable and frozen food on
Speaker 1: hand and always has some fancy meats in the freezer
Speaker 1: to make quote something extravagant and that helps them get
Speaker 1: hyped about cooking. And Alexandra wrote in that the instant
Speaker 1: pot keeps things warm and unburnt when done, which I
Speaker 1: can appreciate. That is something that I strive to achieve myself.
Speaker 1: Stacy Simmons says that they love their convection oven because
Speaker 1: the one they have cooks like an oven, but has
Speaker 1: a spin timer like a toaster oven, and it keeps
Speaker 1: them from burning down the house. And Sarah Albrook says
Speaker 1: that if you're in a slump and if meal planning
Speaker 1: and prep feels impossible to to try meal kit like
Speaker 1: Hello Fresh, who also sponsors the show. They say this
Speaker 1: has been a game changer for me and has cut
Speaker 1: down on the amount of fast food I've been eating
Speaker 1: because they just simply could not plan meals. And yes,
Speaker 1: we do have a code if you need one, go
Speaker 1: to Alleyward dot com Slash Ologies Dash sponsors. There's a
Speaker 1: discount link for you, just saying what about leftovers? Silas
Speaker 1: Clish says that flipping over pyrex glass tupperware so they
Speaker 1: can see their leftovers will for sure make me polish
Speaker 1: them off more regularly. And Eliza hammer Gage advises you
Speaker 1: to just label that shit, put a date on it
Speaker 1: so you know you're like not this time. Another life
Speaker 1: fact they say is take your condiments and put them
Speaker 1: in the crisper drawers, and then take your veggies and
Speaker 1: put it in the main fridge area so that you
Speaker 1: can actually see the veggies and you'll want to eat
Speaker 1: the veggies. And myself, as a person who stares vacantly
Speaker 1: at mustard and I have thrown out kale that's become liquid,
Speaker 1: I support that. I would like to try that as
Speaker 1: soon as I am at my house and not in
Speaker 1: my sister's guest bedroom. I think I'm going to try that.
Speaker 1: Skylar Ward, no relation to me, not my sister, not
Speaker 1: their guest room, beat us all and just wrote that
Speaker 1: their fridge is a whiteboard. It's a menu and a
Speaker 1: grocery list. You can whiteboard your fridge. None of us
Speaker 1: do that except for them. Also, let's clean up your life.
Speaker 1: How about some domestic strategies to save some time and
Speaker 1: some brain efforts for everyone. Here we go Part two.
Speaker 1: Home is where the heart is. Karina Bruce wrote in
Speaker 1: and said, my big tip for cleaning is to do
Speaker 1: it often and badly. I do half jobs of everything
Speaker 1: and eventually everything gets done. Thank you, Karina. I will
Speaker 1: live by that. Aubrey Nelson used my favorite cleaning hack
Speaker 1: and said having company is a big motivator. I'll kick
Speaker 1: into gear to clean for company and then benefit from
Speaker 1: that as well. So cut bangs, text, your crush, fold
Speaker 1: your laundry. It's all connected. Also, here's a secret fix
Speaker 1: for your laundry problems. You're ready. So patron Sarah Horden says,
Speaker 1: have multiple laundry baskets and hampers, put them in different rooms. Okay.
Speaker 1: Nano naturalists sorts their laundry by type and not by color.
Speaker 1: They say all my pants are in one load and
Speaker 1: then there's no sorting afterwards. And they pin their socks
Speaker 1: together when they throw them in the laundry so they
Speaker 1: never have to hunt for pairs again. But Star Star
Speaker 1: wrote in it was like, let's lower the bar people.
Speaker 1: Star says, I do not spend time folding or matching
Speaker 1: socks and underwear. Just throw them into their own drawers.
Speaker 1: It's small, but it takes the dread out for me,
Speaker 1: they said, and Maria agrees. They say, I simply no
Speaker 1: longer fold my items. Mediocrity is freedom. Mediocrity is freedom, y'all.
Speaker 1: Let's just lower the bar. No one's looking in your
Speaker 1: underwear drawer, and if they are, that's their problem. Now
Speaker 1: you could also just eat you're stressed by outsourcing all
Speaker 1: your shit to a robot. So Cassandra Grasstroom says, this
Speaker 1: is absolutely coming from a place of privilege. But auto
Speaker 1: pay any and all bills and get a robot vacuum.
Speaker 1: Take things off everyone's plate so that you're all less
Speaker 1: likely to get overwhelmed. And Sarah Elbrick agrees, saying, if
Speaker 1: you can swing it, invest in things to make life
Speaker 1: easier for you, like a robot vacuum, a quality dishwasher,
Speaker 1: an automatic litter box, etc. And Sarah says, my floors
Speaker 1: are clean now, my dishes don't pile up as often,
Speaker 1: and the litter box doesn't get so stinky. So now
Speaker 1: that you have some tips for your home, let's engage
Speaker 1: in a wrestling match. Let's grapple with Father time. Let's
Speaker 1: get some of your life back from him. Okay, first
Speaker 1: you need a dump location. You need to give yourself
Speaker 1: the gift of a trip to Ross or TJ Max
Speaker 1: and just say what basket speaks to me? I don't know.
Speaker 1: Go to a flea market and look for a cool bowl.
Speaker 1: Because patrons Julie McDonald, Taylor Benard, Christie LaForce, we're all
Speaker 1: like basket by door, put important stuff into it, and
Speaker 1: in Kristin Rosenblum's words, make sure everything in the house
Speaker 1: has a place. Otherwise piles of stuff will just happen
Speaker 1: as your own grandpod Mom Fancy Nancy always used to
Speaker 1: say a place for everything, and everything in its place,
Speaker 1: which sounds so peaceful, doesn't it. My keys have hung
Speaker 1: on a hook by the door for decades because in
Speaker 1: college I locked myself out of my dorm room seventeen
Speaker 1: times in the first six weeks. The are kept track. Oops.
Speaker 1: This whole time, I've been like, I don't have a
Speaker 1: problem losing my keys, and I realize it's just because
Speaker 1: I have a hook by the door. So location, location, location,
Speaker 1: So what's another way to grease up and pin down
Speaker 1: Father time? Reminders? Professor Koshka Jenetto Sore and Casey Krrick
Speaker 1: wrote in they all say they use the computer in
Speaker 1: your pocket or the eavesdropping music robot in your house
Speaker 1: to set so many reminders send them when you need them.
Speaker 1: Patron Caffeine had this extra hack. If you use a
Speaker 1: reminder hap on mobile electronic devices right the reason you
Speaker 1: have to do the thing rather than just do the thing. Example,
Speaker 1: they say, instead of scheduling a reminder that says use
Speaker 1: in hailer, try set anyone that says, oh caps OMG
Speaker 1: lung damage is bad for your health. Just take your
Speaker 1: damn asthma medicine woman, and include many emojis. If bright
Speaker 1: colors help you, so reminders, and use a clock when
Speaker 1: you need to kick your own ass gently and with fun.
Speaker 1: So many patrons rode in with this, and Caitlyn M said,
Speaker 1: I recently discovered the time timer, which is basically just
Speaker 1: a visual timer, but they absolutely love it and they
Speaker 1: say it's really good for visualizing how much time you
Speaker 1: have left for a particular task. And Joe Alexander also
Speaker 1: loves a timetimer. They're kind of like an egg timer,
Speaker 1: but more visually and socially friendly. And they were invented
Speaker 1: by this cool lady in Cincinnati, and I got to
Speaker 1: interview her for my CBS show Innovation Nation, and I
Speaker 1: love her. Now. If you don't have a timetimer, you
Speaker 1: can also use the laundry as one. This is a
Speaker 1: cool hack. See if you can get certain things done
Speaker 1: before the washing cycle is up. Recommended Olivia Shaeffer and
Speaker 1: Miranda Buckley keeps it light and fun and wrote in
Speaker 1: on good days, I keep a timer and I race
Speaker 1: myself to see how quickly I can get all my
Speaker 1: boring chores done, while don Zwart creates a dystopian prison chamber,
Speaker 1: saying when I clean, I set a timer for ten
Speaker 1: minutes and I don't let myself leave the room until
Speaker 1: the timer goes off. I can see how that would
Speaker 1: be effective. Also, no judgment. So many people pomodoro, which
Speaker 1: is when you work typically twenty five minutes and then
Speaker 1: take a five minute break, and then after three cycles,
Speaker 1: you take a longer thirty to sixty minute break. So
Speaker 1: many Pomadoro's out there, So many of you wrote in
Speaker 1: Francesco Cirilio is the person who invented this in the
Speaker 1: nineteen eighties because he had a tomato shaped kitchen timer,
Speaker 1: and I personally hate tomatoes. I hate them so much.
Speaker 1: I hate the name Pomadoro. I hate the idea of
Speaker 1: a tomato shaped object on my desk. I hate it all.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Palmadoro, You're not for me. And then
Speaker 1: I tried it and I was like, this does work.
Speaker 1: So my ears are open for some new names. Maybe
Speaker 1: Katie Courtwright, Rebecca lyn Weiselberg, Jasmine Quasa and Peta Luck,
Speaker 1: who all swear by this tomato technique, please come up
Speaker 1: with a new name. Thank you. And Mercedes Maitland wrote
Speaker 1: in and said, I doubted Palmadero's at first, but it's done, wonders,
Speaker 1: so use it when you're in hyper focus too, and
Speaker 1: your bladder will thank you. Mercedes said, So, if you're
Speaker 1: like me, if you hate tomatoes but you love bears
Speaker 1: and you have a dollar ninety nine burning a hole
Speaker 1: in your pocket, there's an app called Bear Focus Timer,
Speaker 1: and it starts the work interval as soon as you
Speaker 1: put your phone face down, so you can't look at
Speaker 1: your phone, and it plays white noise to remind you
Speaker 1: it's workI time, It's Workie time.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: It also has very cool Bear Art so twelve out
Speaker 1: of ten Ward approved Bear Focus timer. I think you're cool.
Speaker 1: Now when it comes to a strict twenty five minutes
Speaker 1: working and five minutes off, patron Michelle is like, eh,
Speaker 1: not so much. She likes the hyperfocus and uses something
Speaker 1: called the flow time technique, which is where you start
Speaker 1: a task and you stop when you're tired or when
Speaker 1: you're just like I'm done here, I'm reaching my limit.
Speaker 1: And she uses the twenty percent of break time to
Speaker 1: eighty percent of worktime kind of ratio there. But there's
Speaker 1: also this thing called the Eisenhower Matrix, and I was like,
Speaker 1: Eisenhower Matrix, it's just like a post war history fact.
Speaker 1: I don't know. But Salmon like the fish, and Chelsea
Speaker 1: Feris both use it. And the Eisenhower Matrix helps you
Speaker 1: wrangle priorities. It's like four quadrants. There's a do do
Speaker 1: it now. There's a decide, which means schedule it. There's
Speaker 1: a delegate, see if you can outsource that, maybe to
Speaker 1: a vacuum robot. And then there's a delete quadrant, which
Speaker 1: is like just forget about it. You'd pretend you don't
Speaker 1: have to do it. So where are you going to
Speaker 1: write that down, though, how about a planner? Okay, if
Speaker 1: you listen to ADHD part two, Renee Brooks is like,
Speaker 1: do not talk to me about a notebook. Don't talk
Speaker 1: to me about it, but other people do find variations
Speaker 1: of a notebook helpful. Rebecca Lynn Weiselberg and Branda Snodgrass,
Speaker 1: Robin Stumbo, and Faith Stein all said that bullet journals
Speaker 1: have you covered in the flexibility area, and Faith said quote,
Speaker 1: I can make it as fancy or as minimal as
Speaker 1: I'm feeling in that moment, and Kitln m also a
Speaker 1: boojo or bullet journaler agreed, but Ward quote a caveat though,
Speaker 1: don't get all bogged down looking at the crazy Instagram
Speaker 1: pages of people who spend more time making their journal
Speaker 1: pretty than actually using it. It's meant to increase productivity,
Speaker 1: not drain away all your energy thinking up a monthly
Speaker 1: theme and drawing out intricately illustrated layouts. And Caitlyn says
Speaker 1: I wasted two years trying to make pretty layouts with
Speaker 1: my bullet journal and ended up not touching it for
Speaker 1: months at a time. Now I've found a nice balance
Speaker 1: of functionality with just enough creativity to make it interesting
Speaker 1: without becoming just another task that I can't finish. Team
Speaker 1: Pretty Stuff also includes Katy Courtwright, who says I keep
Speaker 1: a very cute planner and I will only consistently use
Speaker 1: a planner that I find visually appealing. And Chanelle's app
Speaker 1: AKA your favorite maritime archaeology shipwreck expert says color coordinated
Speaker 1: pens and fountain pens allow her to derive a little
Speaker 1: bit of joy from something that I need to do.
Speaker 1: There's also Heroes Journal, which has spots to identify your
Speaker 1: daily quests rather than to do's. And there's Notion Planners,
Speaker 1: which has lines for gratitude to get you out of
Speaker 1: a funk. Those also got shout outs, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to toss in my own dadly advice here. In a
Speaker 1: Patreon life stream I did last week, I showed my
Speaker 1: daily planner, which is just a small mini binder. It
Speaker 1: has three rings and it holds sheets that are half
Speaker 1: letter size and you can just go to an office
Speaker 1: supply or print shop and buy a ream of paper,
Speaker 1: ask them to cut it in half. You now have
Speaker 1: one thousand sheets of paper. And you know those black
Speaker 1: three hole punch you know the ones you steal from
Speaker 1: your office job. They have a place to slide the
Speaker 1: holes and you can just wear the holes punch and
Speaker 1: it'll punch three holes and a half sheet that fit
Speaker 1: right in your minibinder. And you can also print templates
Speaker 1: at half size and then just cut the paper in half.
Speaker 1: I have sections for my big yearly goals like brushing
Speaker 1: my hair every day, and my calendars and my daily
Speaker 1: to do lists, and then I have sections where I
Speaker 1: take notes or I write down ideas, and I like
Speaker 1: it better than a bound journal because I can edit
Speaker 1: out what I don't want and I can just spin
Speaker 1: it out from time to time and throw away the
Speaker 1: drunk and I draw little pictures on some days if
Speaker 1: I'm feeling fancy, And I too love a nice pen.
Speaker 1: And can I just say that colored pencils that turn
Speaker 1: to watercolor when wet are just the best. They never
Speaker 1: dry out like pens. You can use them like dry
Speaker 1: ass pencils, or you can make them come alive and
Speaker 1: you can blend them with just a drop of water
Speaker 1: and a paintbrush. And I have the same set of
Speaker 1: colored pencils that I got in high school, which was
Speaker 1: almost like five years ago now, and on my best days,
Speaker 1: I take little breaks to draw tiny pictures of my activities,
Speaker 1: like a little nice mug of tea, or maybe I
Speaker 1: saw a frog or something. And I need you to
Speaker 1: know that I googled the brand of colored pencil to
Speaker 1: figure out what they were, and I was looking it
Speaker 1: up for a few minutes until I realized that the
Speaker 1: colored pencils were in my backpack four inches away from
Speaker 1: me the whole time. And they're the Statler kind. Just
Speaker 1: so you know, they're great. And you know what else
Speaker 1: is great? Giving away money? And this week, let's toss
Speaker 1: some in two different directions, why don't we I'm currently
Speaker 1: at my sister's I'm recording this in my nephew's bed,
Speaker 1: but I'm helping out with some family stuff, which is
Speaker 1: why this is up a week late, and sorry about that.
Speaker 1: But March happens to be the awareness month for multiple sclerosis,
Speaker 1: which is a neurodegenerative autoimmune disease which my mom, a
Speaker 1: fancist of Nancy's, has, and March is also the awareness
Speaker 1: month for multiple maloma, a blood cancer that my dad has,
Speaker 1: so donations went to the National MS Society, which connects
Speaker 1: patients and their families to resources and information and support
Speaker 1: groups and funds for accelerated research and shout out to
Speaker 1: my mom's MS group. There's more information about groups at
Speaker 1: National MS Society dot org. And another donation went to
Speaker 1: the International Maloma Foundation, which is IMF, which is the
Speaker 1: first and the largest organization focusing specifically on multiple maloma
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Speaker 1: Okay, more of your advice. We're still wrestling with father.
Speaker 1: Time listener to listener, let's talk apps. So apps you
Speaker 1: got him? Several of you love Habitka, which is a
Speaker 1: role play game that gamifies habit building and they have
Speaker 1: to do lists and daily lists and pedal Luck says,
Speaker 1: I get a reward every single time remarks something is done.
Speaker 1: It's life changing. Tyler Hudson and Jellybean Green second and
Speaker 1: third Habitica. I had never heard of it before. It
Speaker 1: sounds delightful. Shell uses a free app called Owwaves, and
Speaker 1: they say Owwaves it's I think it's always Owavees helps
Speaker 1: manage my cognitive chaos and has changed my life, y'all.
Speaker 1: My time management skills are typically that of a disoriented pigeon.
Speaker 1: Shell rights, but this app helps me divide each day
Speaker 1: into productive slots with visual cues and color coding and
Speaker 1: gentle notifications highly recommend so that was Ouwaves and Emil says,
Speaker 1: I've been using Finch, which combines health and goal setting.
Speaker 1: Cheese says, instead of an app, they made their own
Speaker 1: Discord server to save links and pictures and to write
Speaker 1: lists and save ideas and notes for later. And She's
Speaker 1: says it's very multifunctional and I never forget it because
Speaker 1: I also use Discord for friends and such, unlike most
Speaker 1: organizing apps that Cheese tends to download and forget. And
Speaker 1: also Miranda Panda told me that you can categorize your
Speaker 1: Google tabs into groups and as long as we're just
Speaker 1: given some Google tips. Side note for me, I found
Speaker 1: out from Hollywood writer and producer Shaddy Patowski that in
Speaker 1: Gmail you can add a task list and it's tiny,
Speaker 1: it's hard to find. It looks like a circle with
Speaker 1: a check mark through it. But if you select an
Speaker 1: email and then click that checky little circle, it'll add
Speaker 1: it to a taskbar on the right hand side of
Speaker 1: your Gmail so that you can respond to it later.
Speaker 1: Since I know even the most well intentioned, starred emails
Speaker 1: just fall to the bottom of your inbox like a
Speaker 1: vapepen in a bucket purse. But if you use the
Speaker 1: task list in Gmail, it's right there in your face.
Speaker 1: I have returned to so many emails I would have
Speaker 1: forgotten about is so good and so Yes, we all
Speaker 1: live and die by a to do list, But what
Speaker 1: about a to done list? What This is a thing
Speaker 1: and it can help your brain like a tiny little treat.
Speaker 1: So Fee Cameron says that if a to do list
Speaker 1: is too overwhelming, start writing a done list to see
Speaker 1: what you've already done, or write stuff in your to
Speaker 1: do list that you've already done so you can click
Speaker 1: them off straight away, like brush my teeth, tick did it.
Speaker 1: And Amy Ducre says that they write a post mortem
Speaker 1: at the end of the day to see where hiccups
Speaker 1: happened and figure out what strategies they could use to
Speaker 1: streamline it for next time. And Miranda uses Trello boards
Speaker 1: for work and for their personal life and says I
Speaker 1: love that you can move things from your to do
Speaker 1: to your done list or archive tasks rather than totally
Speaker 1: deleting them and keeping with the Captain's log vibe. Kat
Speaker 1: Backlars also says, quote, I track what I did and
Speaker 1: when on Google calendar. So not just like, oh, I
Speaker 1: had class and then I studied, but they change it afterward?
Speaker 1: Did class enderly, did they skip? Did they study for
Speaker 1: a full hour after did they scroll half the time?
Speaker 1: And ideally they say that would keep me accountable. And
Speaker 1: the final piece of advice in Kicking Father Times ass
Speaker 1: comes from patron Charlotte Felkgarde, who reminds us all that
Speaker 1: being kind and considerate of your future self is a
Speaker 1: life saving skill. So think of you in the future
Speaker 1: and do things for them. So, speaking of the future,
Speaker 1: let's just march straight into part four, which is let
Speaker 1: your brain trick your brain to learn some little ways
Speaker 1: you can help your not again. So you know how
Speaker 1: you feel like you are dragged in a bunch of
Speaker 1: direction by distractions, right, things you want to look up,
Speaker 1: things that you should do now or maybe later. What
Speaker 1: is the solution A parking lot, says Laura Bee, who continues, basically,
Speaker 1: you have a designated nope and if you have a
Speaker 1: thought or something you remember you need to do, you
Speaker 1: write it down and you just revisit it later. And
Speaker 1: Sarah Simpson does this too and calls this a later list.
Speaker 1: And Sarah wrote, when you start to go down a
Speaker 1: rabbit hole, write it on your later list. When you're
Speaker 1: done with the task at hand, you can go back
Speaker 1: and decide if you still want to do those things
Speaker 1: or not. And most recently, Sarah wrote while working on
Speaker 1: a project, their nine year old kiddo included things like
Speaker 1: play Pokemon, learn braille, and insult my sister, And Sarah
Speaker 1: writes she decided she was cool not learning braille by
Speaker 1: the time her assignment was done, but everything else was important.
Speaker 1: And side note, I have been doing this parking lot
Speaker 1: method the later list, and it does help. And later,
Speaker 1: when I have clarity, I realize that no, I didn't
Speaker 1: need to urgently search perfumes from the nineteen nineties, or
Speaker 1: how the woman who played Andy and the Goonies is
Speaker 1: doing career wise, I love her, Or how to build
Speaker 1: a house out of old windows. Yes, those things could
Speaker 1: wait while I filed my overdue expense reports. Now, if
Speaker 1: you ever look things up on YouTube, by the way,
Speaker 1: and then emerge from a fugue state hours later, because
Speaker 1: of that right hand column, they keep suggesting you videos.
Speaker 1: I just learned yesterday that the browser Chrome has an
Speaker 1: ad block extension that solves this entirely, so you get
Speaker 1: ad block, and when you download it, it'll ast for
Speaker 1: a donation. I gave ten bucks on a lark and
Speaker 1: it turned out it's been worth it so far. So essentially,
Speaker 1: you go to say YouTube and you write, click on
Speaker 1: the suggested videos column and a little window will pop
Speaker 1: up asking if you want to hide that using ad block,
Speaker 1: and you say fuck yes. And then instead of a
Speaker 1: bunch of delicious, irresistible videos you watch for hours, you
Speaker 1: just have a big blank white space there instead, so
Speaker 1: you don't have to keep writing, watch another, say yes
Speaker 1: to the dress suggested video on your notepad later list.
Speaker 1: By the way, if you don't have a paper list.
Speaker 1: Donia Molmquist all caps vouches for dry erase boards for this,
Speaker 1: saying I can write faster, it's easier to edit, pleasing
Speaker 1: colors and just fun. And I guess, as long as
Speaker 1: we're talking about whiteboards, let's use them for your brains.
Speaker 1: So Hayley Aronson is also a whiteboard fan, and Mercury
Speaker 1: offered the life advice that if you can afford it,
Speaker 1: it's okay to spend a little money to make your
Speaker 1: life easier. Buy a fancy whiteboard if it helps you remember,
Speaker 1: buy cloud storage and upload important documents directly to it,
Speaker 1: and Kate Zer below agrees and engages in what they
Speaker 1: call the magic of multiples. If you have a lip
Speaker 1: balm in your bag, on your desk, on your dresser,
Speaker 1: in your car, you haven't ever forgotten or misplaced it,
Speaker 1: Kate says. But let's talk cash. What if you don't
Speaker 1: have it? How can we save a little more? Okay?
Speaker 1: This Life Act was written in by Stacy Simmons, who
Speaker 1: says to try splitting up your direct posit if you
Speaker 1: get it to a savings at a different financial institution
Speaker 1: than you do your normal banking and out of site,
Speaker 1: out of mind can really work in your favor with
Speaker 1: a little bit of pre planning. Stacy says, quote, I
Speaker 1: started this with a transfer of five dollars per paycheck
Speaker 1: over seven years ago and slowly increased over the years.
Speaker 1: And I still struggle with impulsive spending, but I was
Speaker 1: also able to save up a down payment for a
Speaker 1: house and my first off the lot new car, all
Speaker 1: using funds for my out of side account. Thank you, Stacy,
Speaker 1: good tip. You know what else? You can spend that
Speaker 1: money on library fines. But if you want to avoid them.
Speaker 1: El Wink says that they started using dollar bills as bookmarks. Strange, yes,
Speaker 1: but effective. They said, if I lost a book after
Speaker 1: putting a one dollar bill inside it, I would switch
Speaker 1: to a five, to a ten, and then a twenty.
Speaker 1: Having an economic incentive. They right helped activate a different
Speaker 1: part of my memory and made remembering where I left
Speaker 1: the books a lot easier. So if you do that,
Speaker 1: perhaps you can show your face at the library again,
Speaker 1: especially if that's where you do your working. But if
Speaker 1: you are forced to work in an open office, patron
Speaker 1: Caitlin m wanted to offer some advice. They said, this
Speaker 1: is not so much a tip as a reminder to myself.
Speaker 1: No open offices ever. Bring it up to HR as
Speaker 1: a disability accommodation if you need to. I didn't do
Speaker 1: this in previous jobs, and I really wish I had now.
Speaker 1: If you don't have that option, so many Alagites said
Speaker 1: three magic words, and those people were a very good painter,
Speaker 1: Heather Horton, Whedon, Leila Green Touchet, Anne Marie Benz, and
Speaker 1: Joe Alexander. Those three words noise canceling headphones. I personally
Speaker 1: got some like one hundred dollars, skull candy venue active
Speaker 1: noise canceling headphones at the start of the pandemic. Can't
Speaker 1: imagine life without them. Well, I can't imagine life without them,
Speaker 1: and it would not be good. It would be very loud.
Speaker 1: But what should you listen to? So brenda It says
Speaker 1: when they work, they listen to focus at will dot com,
Speaker 1: which has a rain sounds channel, There's a zen piano channel.
Speaker 1: They have cinematic channels. But Joe Alexander uses a brown
Speaker 1: noise generating app. And there's something called noise Genet and
Speaker 1: it does white and pink and blue noise too. But
Speaker 1: Joe says, I like brown best when I have to
Speaker 1: focus on work. And I was like, come again, what now?
Speaker 1: Of course I had to look into it for this
Speaker 1: and I just learned, okay. So white noise is all
Speaker 1: kinds of frequencies mixed up, and pink noise is frequencies
Speaker 1: within human hearing, and it sounds basier than the static
Speaker 1: of white noise, but blue noise is higher frequency than
Speaker 1: white noise, and then brown noise has more of a
Speaker 1: low bassy roar. And according to an article on Live Science,
Speaker 1: it was named after some guy with the last name
Speaker 1: Brown and quote brown noise has nothing to do with
Speaker 1: the mythical brown note, a hypothetical low frequency sound said
Speaker 1: to cause people to lose control of their bowels. So
Speaker 1: brown noise is just basy stuff to listen to. It's
Speaker 1: just a bad name for a good thing, unlike shikshuka,
Speaker 1: which is a beautiful name for a disgusting thing. No
Speaker 1: offense shukshuka. Just please see my feelings about tomatoes earlier
Speaker 1: in this episode of Ologies, which is a podcast. Also,
Speaker 1: many of you said, Hi, Hello, I listened to podcasts
Speaker 1: while I work to stay entertained, which makes sense given
Speaker 1: that you were writing into me someone who hosts a podcast,
Speaker 1: and I'm looking at you and Dolmeyer, Emily Anderson, Adam Weaver,
Speaker 1: Ren Beach, Rosa Vincentosaurus, and Sara And speaking of speaking
Speaker 1: another brain, tricking your own brain tip. Gary Stobbs says,
Speaker 1: when I'm reading, I pretend that I'm reading in front
Speaker 1: of a sixth grade class because it helps me stay focused.
Speaker 1: Logan m uses the spoken content aid and the accessibility
Speaker 1: portion of the settings on an iPhone if there's no
Speaker 1: audiobook version of something, or when they want to listen
Speaker 1: to something rather than read it or listen as they read,
Speaker 1: and Katrina Weibol was like, heck, yes, screen Raider, but
Speaker 1: Katrina increases the playback speed to one and a half
Speaker 1: to two times of speed and then follows along reading
Speaker 1: with their eyes, and Katrina says, I get through everything
Speaker 1: so much faster, and my brain's some water at all.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're listening to this on noise canceling headphones well.
Speaker 1: El Wink says, if you put something down, say out
Speaker 1: loud where you put it down, specifically, like quote, I
Speaker 1: put my headphones on the side table next to the
Speaker 1: green lamp. Amanda Spinosa does this too and says it
Speaker 1: feels very helpful. Speaking of feeling, let's wrap up with
Speaker 1: the chapter emo stuff feeling around your feelings. Are you
Speaker 1: having a tough time? Do you want to get your
Speaker 1: scrambled brain together? ADHD or not? I feel yeah, So
Speaker 1: does Rosalodulita, who said I have practiced that positive self
Speaker 1: talk can fight and write out the very intense feelings
Speaker 1: when they come. And another hot tip said many of
Speaker 1: you maybe therapy. Miranda says, get a therapist if you
Speaker 1: have the means, and so does Jamie Kishimoto. Get a therapist.
Speaker 1: They say, even if you think you're not quote depressed
Speaker 1: enough for one and Casey Kerrick and Lee t both agree,
Speaker 1: and Shannon and Marianna both wrote in to recommend dialectical
Speaker 1: behavioral therapy for some people for developing skills around emotional
Speaker 1: regulation and distress tolerance. And if you do have ADHD,
Speaker 1: perhaps gather a good support group if you can. Brianna
Speaker 1: Snodgrass says, friends, get you some friends who have ADHD.
Speaker 1: Once I realized I likely have it, I then came
Speaker 1: to realize that most of the people I'm closest to
Speaker 1: also have it. We just get each other, are able
Speaker 1: to communicate really easily and give each other grace for
Speaker 1: being late and forgetting things, etc. And Laura Laura says,
Speaker 1: I have a little group that I work with on
Speaker 1: zoom three times a week and it's been great for
Speaker 1: my productivity and my mental health. And Gaelic Pearl and
Speaker 1: Lizzie also say gather your people and maybe work together.
Speaker 1: Literally it's called body doubling. Janetta Sour says doing things
Speaker 1: in the presence of a solidarity human is amazing. Janetta
Speaker 1: Sour says, I started hosting co working sessions in my
Speaker 1: coaching group, and they're the best decision I've made in
Speaker 1: the past year or so. And Miranda Buckley and Katie
Speaker 1: Courtwright are like, yes this Yes. And Lisa wrote in
Speaker 1: to say, married to a lovely man with ADHD and
Speaker 1: what helps him is scaffolding, setting up a routine, and
Speaker 1: body doubling. So relationships, let's talk about them. So we're
Speaker 1: gonna cover some ADHD stuff, but just good practices, nonetheless
Speaker 1: from y'all. Derek says, I try to check in regularly
Speaker 1: with whomever I'm talking with. I say, do you have
Speaker 1: any thoughts, concerns, or feelings at this time? Very frequently.
Speaker 1: It helps keep me from dominating a conversation accidentally. I'm
Speaker 1: also I'm blind, they say, so I end up saying
Speaker 1: how are we doing? For time? Pretty regularly too. The
Speaker 1: third phrase I say a lot is asking my cat
Speaker 1: why she is so baby? Derek Allen, thank you for that. Now.
Speaker 1: If you accidentally interrupt people, Adam Weaver, Mercedes Maitland, and
Speaker 1: Analista Young all recommend holding up a finger instead or
Speaker 1: touching your nose to indicate I have a thing I
Speaker 1: want to say that I'm holding in. So fingernosers unite
Speaker 1: does your partner have ADHD? You're not alone? So manyologizes,
Speaker 1: wrote in and Serena Brontide offered the advice when your
Speaker 1: partner has ADHD and you're struggling to get their attention,
Speaker 1: create a code word, something weird that catches their attention
Speaker 1: even if they forget. And Serena wrote, my partner and
Speaker 1: I both ADHD, use the code aw my butthole because
Speaker 1: who can ignore that? But it saved a lot of arguments.
Speaker 1: And Katie tim says that they refer to their ADHD
Speaker 1: girlfriends long pauses mid sentence as glitches and wrote, we
Speaker 1: make it all into a computer metaphor. For her, it
Speaker 1: takes the feeling of being a burden away because she
Speaker 1: definitely isn't and I can just say, hey, maybe you're
Speaker 1: glitching and she snaps out of it without being made
Speaker 1: to feel guilty about it, because glitching is just fine
Speaker 1: with me, Kate writes, and on that note, for people
Speaker 1: whose partners have ADHD, Stephanie Brosch says, my main tip
Speaker 1: to those like me is purposely remember to be kind,
Speaker 1: and Brooke Elizabeth says just meet them where they are
Speaker 1: for a while, listen to the actual struggle that they
Speaker 1: have and work to find a solution together. Loving your
Speaker 1: person means doing your best to understand them and why
Speaker 1: they do what they do. Once you get better at that,
Speaker 1: the ability to problem solve becomes much more simple. Aaron
Speaker 1: gil added, also have a sense of humor. He is
Speaker 1: my sweet squirrel and his dopamine chasing led to me.
Speaker 1: And Lisa wrote in married to a lovely man with
Speaker 1: ADHD and the best advice give him grace if or
Speaker 1: when he fails at something. Everyone has bad days, but
Speaker 1: while focus is art, burnout is real and ADHD is
Speaker 1: becoming more commonly diagnosed. Let's end on some of the goods,
Speaker 1: shall we. Let's get it up. Are you ready?
Speaker 2: I'm ready?
Speaker 1: Okay? Sarah Nelson wrote in and said I just wanted
Speaker 1: to comment that many designers and artists use the ability
Speaker 1: to see different kinds of relationships between things is a
Speaker 1: way to extract nonlinear information, and nonlinear thinking is essential
Speaker 1: for creative activity. So there's a bonus and Bimbo Bookshelf said,
Speaker 1: my son is almost twelve, and he's also aware that
Speaker 1: this is a gift, and he's able to focus on
Speaker 1: his art and video games for hours and remember It's
Speaker 1: a totally livable thing if you just find how your
Speaker 1: brain and body work and you listen to yourself. And
Speaker 1: Lorain Arad said, my tip is to be patient and
Speaker 1: kind with yourself. I also remind myself that ADHD gives
Speaker 1: me a unique perspective, and that perspective is extremely valuable.
Speaker 1: Rosa said, I try not to be too hard on
Speaker 1: myself when I make mistakes or I have trouble succeeding
Speaker 1: as something. This is just how my brain works and
Speaker 1: I wouldn't trade it for anything. Another pro tip is
Speaker 1: figure out what you're passionate about, and Miriam Hoflock wrote
Speaker 1: in and said, find your passion and run at it
Speaker 1: with full speed. And finally, never ever ever think of
Speaker 1: yourself as someone with a damaged or dysfunctional brain. We
Speaker 1: all think in processing comprehend differently, and you have the
Speaker 1: ability to see things in ways most other people don't.
Speaker 1: So find your bliss and obsess about it and change
Speaker 1: the paradigm. Or, as Janettasour said, find the perks and
Speaker 1: celebrate the shit out of them. ADHD also comes with superpowers,
Speaker 1: not just flaws. While Natalie Parsons made the point the
Speaker 1: only unhappy ADHD people I know are those who feel
Speaker 1: abnormal and rejected. Don't you think the problem is society,
Speaker 1: not us? And last piece of advice applicable to everyone
Speaker 1: from patron Patrick Voy said, most of all, give yourself
Speaker 1: a break. Life is hard, and bullying yourself accomplishes nothing thing,
Speaker 1: while loving yourself, no matter what, accomplishes what is most important,
Speaker 1: accepting yourself, which is really sweet and it's making me cry.
Speaker 1: So there you go, folks. So now you know what
Speaker 1: your hot bod needs is you. You know, home is
Speaker 1: where the heart is, but it doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: that hard, and you do not have to match your socks,
Speaker 1: and that you can win a grappling match with father time.
Speaker 1: And it's good to let your brain trick your brain.
Speaker 1: And that emo stuff is normal and okay, and you
Speaker 1: deserve some help and some solidarity to get through it.
Speaker 1: So we did it. A whole bunch of life advice
Speaker 1: to round out the ADHD episode, hopefully helpful for plenty
Speaker 1: of neurotypical folks as well. And thanks for receiving this
Speaker 1: a little late. This was supposed to go up two
Speaker 1: weeks ago, but thanks for giving me some grace while
Speaker 1: I spent some time with my folks once again. Donations
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Speaker 1: some cool stuff in April on Patreon. By the way,
Speaker 1: I'm going to kind of reconfigure some things, and I'm
Speaker 1: kind of excited about that. I read everyone's advice who
Speaker 1: submitted something for this, even if I couldn't fit it
Speaker 1: all in. But the whole thread is up at patreon
Speaker 1: dot com slash ologies too, and more links will be
Speaker 1: up at aliward dot com slash life Advice, which we'll
Speaker 1: have links to the ADHD episodes as well. Thank you
Speaker 1: Aaron Talbert for admitting the Ologies podcast Facebook group, Shannon
Speaker 1: and Bonnie for helping out, Noel Dilworth for scheduling, Susan
Speaker 1: Hale for handling merch, and so many behind the scene things.
Speaker 1: Zeke Rodriguez Thomas heads up smologies the short classroom friendly
Speaker 1: versions of ologies classics. Stephen ray Morris helps with that.
Speaker 1: Emily White of the Wordy makes transcripts. Caleb Patten bleeps
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Speaker 1: com slash ologies, dash extras along with the transcripts. Kelly
Speaker 1: Dwyer makes the website and can be gears too, and
Speaker 1: big thanks to lead editor and road trip Buddy. Also
Speaker 1: professional husband Jared Sleeper of mind Gay Media for helping
Speaker 1: get these out of the door even on the hardest
Speaker 1: hardest weeks. Thanks Jarrett got it. He's sitting on my
Speaker 1: nephew's futon right now. Nick Dorvern made the theme music
Speaker 1: and if you stick around to the end, I tell
Speaker 1: you a secret and this week's okay, so hm, what's
Speaker 1: going on board? It's been a pretty rough couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: We've had some emergency family health stuff that's come up
Speaker 1: with my dad's cancer, and it's been really, really tough.
Speaker 1: And the good news and the slash bad news, is
Speaker 1: that I'm taking a leave of absence from my TV
Speaker 1: job for the rest of the season just to be
Speaker 1: able to be with my folks more my TV job.
Speaker 1: I've been doing Innovation Nation on CBS for season nine,
Speaker 1: but I'll be honest. We they sped up production to
Speaker 1: double last season and we were going at three to
Speaker 1: four times the normal speed this season, and so I
Speaker 1: was on the road a lot. I love the show,
Speaker 1: but the pace was more than I could physically handle.
Speaker 1: And then when some stuff came up with my pop
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, I unfortunately just couldn't be
Speaker 1: there for all of it. So really weird for me
Speaker 1: to take a leave of absence for something not something
Speaker 1: I wanted to do, but I just have to survive
Speaker 1: and so and I really need to be here for
Speaker 1: my folks. That was a tough decision to make. I
Speaker 1: feel really really lucky just to have the option to
Speaker 1: be able to say I have to leave for now.
Speaker 1: And so thank you to ologies listeners for just letting
Speaker 1: me make this show and be able to make decisions
Speaker 1: like that because I have this job. So thank you
Speaker 1: to everyone who listens for making that possible. To make
Speaker 1: this for my sister's guest bedroom at you know, one
Speaker 1: twenty six in the morning, is a privilege to be
Speaker 1: able to do that. And thankfully two days ago we
Speaker 1: got some good news about a cancer immunotherapy option. So
Speaker 1: this is my giant, big thank you to have anyone
Speaker 1: who is sending us good vibes from the cosmos, and
Speaker 1: to everyone who's working in that field. I need to
Speaker 1: do an episode on that. I have so many questions.
Speaker 1: And I've said before that I feel like a hollow
Speaker 1: mannequin filled with bees sometimes. But the last two weeks
Speaker 1: have been really really, really really hard, some of the
Speaker 1: hardest moments and I have felt very much like a
Speaker 1: hollow mannequin filled with bees. And this week I was
Speaker 1: there were hard moments where I just kept thinking, just
Speaker 1: smoke the bees. Just smoke the bees. Because when honey
Speaker 1: bees get scared, they emit pheromones to communicate with each other,
Speaker 1: and the recent beekeepers who smoke to calm them is
Speaker 1: to prevent the smell of alarm. So in times of
Speaker 1: high anxiety lately, I've just pictured like smoking my bees
Speaker 1: and just calming them down and just getting through whatever
Speaker 1: shit is coming away. So just onward and yeah, so
Speaker 1: next week a normal new episode will get back on track.
Speaker 1: But thanks for the last couple of weeks of everyone
Speaker 1: being patient, All right, worker bees, Remember to rest, be
Speaker 1: nice to yourself. Bye bye, Thanks Dad, that's great advice.