WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.280 --> 00:00:02.600 Okay, just a quick note up top. This episode is 2 00:00:02.640 --> 00:00:04.719 a little weird. If this is the very first episode 3 00:00:04.759 --> 00:00:06.759 of Ologies we ever listened to, this isn't what they 4 00:00:06.799 --> 00:00:10.119 are normally like. This is probably the most mellow podcast 5 00:00:10.160 --> 00:00:13.560 I have ever recorded or ever been on. It's very mellow. 6 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:17.519 It's just me talking, and it's a vibe. But I 7 00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:20.199 also explained later on why it's such a vibe. But 8 00:00:20.199 --> 00:00:23.800 it was recorded late at night, quietly in a guest bedroom. 9 00:00:23.920 --> 00:00:28.800 We get into it anyway, enjoy the mellow show. Oh hi, 10 00:00:29.079 --> 00:00:33.479 it's your life, just gasping and hobbling day into the 11 00:00:33.520 --> 00:00:36.759 next day, begging you for help. Hey, does life feel 12 00:00:36.799 --> 00:00:39.159 out of hand? Of course it does. Could we all 13 00:00:39.280 --> 00:00:41.920 use some tips on how to grease your wheels and 14 00:00:41.960 --> 00:00:46.399 just slide into comfort and maybe even increased productivity so 15 00:00:46.439 --> 00:00:49.600 that you have more time to enjoy comfort. Yes and yes, 16 00:00:49.679 --> 00:00:52.280 which is why I asked my friends at patreon dot 17 00:00:52.320 --> 00:00:57.719 com slash Ologies for life tips hacks, some tricks, some strategies, 18 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:02.119 some smarts. Folks, these are great if you have ADHD, 19 00:01:02.399 --> 00:01:04.719 if you think you have ADHD, if you love someone 20 00:01:04.760 --> 00:01:07.159 with ADHD, or if you're just a person on planet 21 00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:09.319 Earth who is expected to hold their shit together in 22 00:01:09.359 --> 00:01:11.920 a very distracting time. So this was supposed to come 23 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:14.799 out two weeks ago as like a third part to 24 00:01:14.840 --> 00:01:18.040 the ADHD episodes. And then you may have noticed there 25 00:01:18.159 --> 00:01:22.480 was an Encore episode about trains and there was also 26 00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:25.799 asmologies episode that came out, and that is because some 27 00:01:25.879 --> 00:01:28.599 things have been a little bonkers in my life the 28 00:01:28.680 --> 00:01:30.239 last couple of weeks. And I'm going to tell you 29 00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:32.840 about it in the secret at the end of the episode, 30 00:01:33.480 --> 00:01:36.640 and it's not good stuff. Just in case you're wondering 31 00:01:36.760 --> 00:01:39.480 it's been really hard. I'll tell you about it later. 32 00:01:39.680 --> 00:01:42.000 But anyway, we're making this, we're putting it out and 33 00:01:42.079 --> 00:01:44.200 this will be the button on our ADHD episode. But 34 00:01:44.280 --> 00:01:47.840 we made this for people who are neurotypical and neuroatypical. 35 00:01:47.920 --> 00:01:49.879 It's just how to get your life in order with 36 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:52.359 a bunch of great tips. But before we dive in, 37 00:01:52.519 --> 00:01:55.519 thank you to everyone who shares these episodes and tells 38 00:01:55.560 --> 00:01:58.480 friends about them, and who rates and subscribes and even reviews, 39 00:01:58.480 --> 00:02:01.799 because you know, I read all the reviews. For example, 40 00:02:01.920 --> 00:02:05.519 this freshetl donut from insta Ashley who wrote in the 41 00:02:05.560 --> 00:02:09.719 review pretty sure my unborn baby will recognize Ali's voice 42 00:02:09.800 --> 00:02:12.479 before mine. Insta Ashley's baby. I just want to say, 43 00:02:12.479 --> 00:02:15.000 what's up. That was a great fresh review that your 44 00:02:15.039 --> 00:02:18.680 host body wrote. Also on the topic of fresh. Next 45 00:02:18.680 --> 00:02:21.639 week we'll just have a fresh, sparkling, new episode. Things 46 00:02:21.680 --> 00:02:24.680 will be back on track, back on schedule. So get 47 00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:28.199 ready for some carnivorous plants or it might be sea urchins. 48 00:02:28.360 --> 00:02:30.840 It's gonna be one of those. Okay, But first let's 49 00:02:30.960 --> 00:02:34.120 polish off the sharp edges and just have a smoother 50 00:02:34.240 --> 00:02:37.120 existence with a bunch of advice on how to be healthier, 51 00:02:37.560 --> 00:02:42.360 more well rested, better fed, less distracted, perhaps a little 52 00:02:42.520 --> 00:02:47.439 less irritable, and have a smoother and more empathetic relationship 53 00:02:47.560 --> 00:02:50.560 perhaps with yourself and others and more. I put these 54 00:02:50.560 --> 00:02:54.000 into five parts. Okay, we cover part number one. Your 55 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:57.520 hot bod needs this. Part two Home is where the 56 00:02:57.560 --> 00:03:02.240 heart is, domestic strategies. Part three is a wrestling match 57 00:03:02.360 --> 00:03:06.759 with father time about scheduling. Four is let your brain 58 00:03:06.800 --> 00:03:10.400 trick your brain some productivity hacks, and five is emo 59 00:03:10.479 --> 00:03:15.599 stuff just feeling around your feelings. So life tricks from ologites. 60 00:03:15.919 --> 00:03:19.000 Two ologites. They're good, they're for everyone, They're for you. 61 00:03:19.159 --> 00:03:41.400 Here we go all right, kiddos. Part one. Your hot 62 00:03:41.439 --> 00:03:44.719 bod needs this for your brain. So this is not 63 00:03:44.840 --> 00:03:48.439 about how you look nude or your bathing suit aspirations. 64 00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:51.639 This is about the lump of jello in your bone bowl, 65 00:03:52.039 --> 00:03:55.240 moving around in whatever way you can to help your brain. 66 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:58.120 So I asked, patrons, give me all of your life hacks. 67 00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:01.599 Joe Alexander said, either run or walk or get on 68 00:04:01.639 --> 00:04:04.199 the elliptical for as little as six minutes just to 69 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:06.000 get my heart right up a bit. And if I 70 00:04:06.039 --> 00:04:08.319 don't do it, the day is terrible and I'm mostly 71 00:04:08.360 --> 00:04:13.240 non functional. And Anne Dolmeyer uses an exercise bike at 72 00:04:13.240 --> 00:04:15.319 home and says it's where I go and they need 73 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:17.800 to think or focus or when I need to get 74 00:04:17.800 --> 00:04:22.120 things done. Saffron Alabassi said the clarity after a quick 75 00:04:22.360 --> 00:04:25.759 ten minute jog around the block is bonkers, and this 76 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:29.519 was echoed by Emily Anderson and Ted Hamilton, who said 77 00:04:29.680 --> 00:04:32.360 whatever happens on a long run makes my brain go 78 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:36.040 from badly tuned radio to silent. It's pure bliss to 79 00:04:36.120 --> 00:04:38.199 quiet everything for an hour, and I've noticed the effects 80 00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:40.879 lasts for a couple days after. It's not for everyone, 81 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.040 but it's a necessary part of my life now, Ted said, 82 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:47.800 and Janetta Sore said, if you need to move to think, 83 00:04:48.040 --> 00:04:51.439 find ways to do it. Have walking meetings or do 84 00:04:51.639 --> 00:04:55.600 exercisey things right before sit still things so you do 85 00:04:55.680 --> 00:04:58.399 not have to break your sprinting record. You do not 86 00:04:58.480 --> 00:05:00.800 even have to change shoes, don't have to beat a 87 00:05:00.800 --> 00:05:04.279 stranger on a peloton leader board or even sweat. Just 88 00:05:04.319 --> 00:05:08.279 whatever way you can move, just move your brain will 89 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:11.759 be like my God. Finally, thank you to the meat 90 00:05:11.839 --> 00:05:14.759 parts of me from the brain part. And another hot 91 00:05:14.759 --> 00:05:19.120 tip from patrons sleep, Why don't maybe try sleeping? Christy 92 00:05:19.199 --> 00:05:22.079 Lowry wrote in and said, no medication note therapy, no 93 00:05:22.120 --> 00:05:25.879 treatment is going to work if your body is tired, hungry, 94 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:28.959 or thirsty. And protect your sleep as if it is 95 00:05:29.040 --> 00:05:32.120 your life or sanity. Christy says, I'm a grown ass 96 00:05:32.120 --> 00:05:36.040 adults with a stricter bedtime routine than any kid out there. 97 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:38.560 Turn your phone to silent in the evening. Let your 98 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:41.600 crew know that if they contact you after seven, they 99 00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:45.720 better be dead. Normalize healthy sleep hygiene. Above all, be 100 00:05:45.879 --> 00:05:49.319 kind and loving to yourself, Christie said, and Peter West said, 101 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:51.920 I have a nine year old with ADHD. We changed 102 00:05:51.959 --> 00:05:55.480 our lights to ones that automatically gradually dim for the 103 00:05:55.560 --> 00:05:58.240 hour before bed and then turn off, and that helps 104 00:05:58.240 --> 00:06:02.319 with sleep. Janetta sore get fussy af about your bedtime 105 00:06:02.399 --> 00:06:05.399 routine and then wind down. And Hannah Michelle says, my 106 00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:08.959 sleep is sacred and needs to be guarded. And also 107 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:13.240 while you're sleeping, ABC always be charging. How many of 108 00:06:13.279 --> 00:06:16.439 you have woken up with a phone that has less 109 00:06:16.519 --> 00:06:19.480 energy than you? Waking up in the red with the 110 00:06:19.519 --> 00:06:22.399 battery on your phone is just the best way to 111 00:06:22.519 --> 00:06:25.439 make your day a nightmare. It has happened to be 112 00:06:25.639 --> 00:06:28.480 so many times. Patron Emily Palin said, I just got 113 00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:31.040 a charging station on my nightstand to keep my phone, 114 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:34.399 AirPods and watch together. That way, when I grab one, 115 00:06:34.759 --> 00:06:38.120 I see the others and I actually charge them. Okay, well, 116 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:40.399 what else is on your nightstands? I wanted to know. 117 00:06:40.600 --> 00:06:44.399 And Rosa and Miranda Panda both wrote in about sunrise 118 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:49.040 light alarm clocks, and in Rosa's words, mornings are made 119 00:06:49.160 --> 00:06:52.319 tremendously better when I wake up with light instead of sound, 120 00:06:52.600 --> 00:06:54.959 and Miranda said, I absolutely love feeling like I woke 121 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.720 up gradually on my own rather than being forced awake. 122 00:06:57.959 --> 00:07:01.920 So these are alarm clocks that gradually wake you up 123 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:04.800 with light. And I gotta say me personally, some of 124 00:07:04.839 --> 00:07:06.959 the happiest weeks of my life have been when I 125 00:07:07.000 --> 00:07:09.480 went to bed super early and then got up when 126 00:07:09.480 --> 00:07:12.959 it was not quite even down yet. Because I think 127 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:16.120 some of us are night owls, just because we're more 128 00:07:16.199 --> 00:07:19.639 productive when everyone else is asleep, so we don't have 129 00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:22.399 text to return and emails popping up. And if you're 130 00:07:22.439 --> 00:07:26.000 one of those people, try early mornings instead. I'm going 131 00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:27.920 to try and get back into it with you, because 132 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.480 you get a jump on things when the world is quiet, 133 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:33.720 and then you're ahead of the game when people wake up, 134 00:07:34.040 --> 00:07:38.160 and then you can use your evening's guilt free chillin' 135 00:07:38.399 --> 00:07:41.240 instead of trying to force yourself to be productive after 136 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:44.920 a long, aggravating day of dodging distractions like an American 137 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:48.600 ninja course. Also, there's coffee at dawn and that's the best. 138 00:07:48.800 --> 00:07:52.319 So when the sunrise alarm goes off, open the blinds, 139 00:07:52.680 --> 00:07:54.680 let the sun do its thing. It helps your brain 140 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:57.759 wake up. Maybe meditate for a couple minutes. If you 141 00:07:57.839 --> 00:08:00.079 can make a list of how your day will go 142 00:08:00.079 --> 00:08:02.319 go you just beat everyone to the punch. But if 143 00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:05.279 you're still in bed, and you do have ADHD. McKenzie 144 00:08:05.319 --> 00:08:08.160 foss rodin. If you take stimulants and struggle to get 145 00:08:08.160 --> 00:08:10.160 out of bed in the morning, take them an hour 146 00:08:10.240 --> 00:08:12.800 before you actually need to get up, and then you'll 147 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:14.800 have no problem waking up and you need to And 148 00:08:14.839 --> 00:08:17.120 Derek Allen chimed in and said the riddle and wake 149 00:08:17.199 --> 00:08:20.600 up call is basically a superpower. And we mentioned in 150 00:08:20.639 --> 00:08:23.680 part two of the ADHD episodes though, if you have 151 00:08:23.800 --> 00:08:27.600 ADHD and you take stimulants and have anxiety, you may 152 00:08:27.639 --> 00:08:30.560 want to take your meds with protein and in Adrian 153 00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:34.600 Gregor's words, water breakfast meds in that order. Otherwise I 154 00:08:34.600 --> 00:08:38.799 ever get to eat. What about nighttime meds? I wondered. 155 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:42.080 Derek was like, might not be for everyone, but a 156 00:08:42.080 --> 00:08:46.000 little nibble of forbidden brownie, which is medically legal in 157 00:08:46.279 --> 00:08:49.879 thirty seven states, quiets their thoughts and commits them to 158 00:08:49.960 --> 00:08:53.240 doing a task which brings us, by the way, to appetite. 159 00:08:53.440 --> 00:08:55.120 Let's talk about food for a second. 160 00:08:55.320 --> 00:08:58.840 Okay, you're a person, right, You need food, You need 161 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:01.440 to eat food, You want to eat food, but just 162 00:09:01.559 --> 00:09:06.440 the soreness of it has you ordering expensive, stale peta 163 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:09.080 from a place you don't even like, we've all been there, 164 00:09:09.120 --> 00:09:12.120 so let's fix your life with some food tips. So 165 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:13.759 if you want to try to shake off a funk 166 00:09:14.200 --> 00:09:17.120 or maybe turn a corner or just make a new chapter, 167 00:09:17.919 --> 00:09:20.120 just take a quick gander at what's on your plate. 168 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:24.639 Good fresh food is sadly not accessible to everyone and 169 00:09:24.679 --> 00:09:29.639 that sucks so for economic to convenience reasons, I completely 170 00:09:29.720 --> 00:09:32.480 get it. But if you can get it, Patron Lisa 171 00:09:32.519 --> 00:09:36.120 Smith says that clean eating is a biggie just for 172 00:09:36.159 --> 00:09:41.080 their mental health and productivity and life. They say carbs, 173 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:43.799 dairy and greasy food make my brain not work right, 174 00:09:44.200 --> 00:09:48.320 and Morgan Underwood said they cut processed foods and stuff 175 00:09:48.320 --> 00:09:52.639 with high sugar content to increase focus and reduce grouchiness. 176 00:09:52.919 --> 00:09:55.440 So what if you know what to eat though, and 177 00:09:55.480 --> 00:10:01.240 you're just bored and tired. Mia says that they've found 178 00:10:01.600 --> 00:10:05.080 making sure to incorporate mushrooms into meals will make them 179 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:07.759 more likely to cook and eat because my cology is 180 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:10.480 one of their oldest and most loved special interests. So 181 00:10:10.519 --> 00:10:12.480 I guess just walk around the produce aisle and just 182 00:10:12.480 --> 00:10:14.639 be like, what am I connecting with here? What do 183 00:10:14.679 --> 00:10:16.279 I actually want to spend some time in the Kitchen 184 00:10:16.360 --> 00:10:20.559 with some more kitchen strategies from patrons. Tyler Hudson keeps 185 00:10:20.559 --> 00:10:23.960 a bunch of bulk, non perishable and frozen food on 186 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:27.039 hand and always has some fancy meats in the freezer 187 00:10:27.399 --> 00:10:31.360 to make quote something extravagant and that helps them get 188 00:10:31.440 --> 00:10:34.720 hyped about cooking. And Alexandra wrote in that the instant 189 00:10:34.759 --> 00:10:39.120 pot keeps things warm and unburnt when done, which I 190 00:10:39.120 --> 00:10:42.759 can appreciate. That is something that I strive to achieve myself. 191 00:10:43.039 --> 00:10:45.799 Stacy Simmons says that they love their convection oven because 192 00:10:45.799 --> 00:10:48.159 the one they have cooks like an oven, but has 193 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:51.159 a spin timer like a toaster oven, and it keeps 194 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:54.279 them from burning down the house. And Sarah Albrook says 195 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:56.879 that if you're in a slump and if meal planning 196 00:10:56.960 --> 00:11:00.879 and prep feels impossible to to try meal kit like 197 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:04.639 Hello Fresh, who also sponsors the show. They say this 198 00:11:04.679 --> 00:11:06.919 has been a game changer for me and has cut 199 00:11:06.960 --> 00:11:08.960 down on the amount of fast food I've been eating 200 00:11:09.320 --> 00:11:13.159 because they just simply could not plan meals. And yes, 201 00:11:13.279 --> 00:11:15.399 we do have a code if you need one, go 202 00:11:15.440 --> 00:11:19.399 to Alleyward dot com Slash Ologies Dash sponsors. There's a 203 00:11:19.440 --> 00:11:22.960 discount link for you, just saying what about leftovers? Silas 204 00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:27.519 Clish says that flipping over pyrex glass tupperware so they 205 00:11:27.519 --> 00:11:30.679 can see their leftovers will for sure make me polish 206 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:33.919 them off more regularly. And Eliza hammer Gage advises you 207 00:11:33.960 --> 00:11:35.840 to just label that shit, put a date on it 208 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:40.279 so you know you're like not this time. Another life 209 00:11:40.320 --> 00:11:43.279 fact they say is take your condiments and put them 210 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:47.039 in the crisper drawers, and then take your veggies and 211 00:11:47.080 --> 00:11:49.559 put it in the main fridge area so that you 212 00:11:49.600 --> 00:11:52.679 can actually see the veggies and you'll want to eat 213 00:11:52.720 --> 00:11:57.679 the veggies. And myself, as a person who stares vacantly 214 00:11:57.799 --> 00:12:02.039 at mustard and I have thrown out kale that's become liquid, 215 00:12:02.519 --> 00:12:04.639 I support that. I would like to try that as 216 00:12:04.679 --> 00:12:06.720 soon as I am at my house and not in 217 00:12:06.799 --> 00:12:09.399 my sister's guest bedroom. I think I'm going to try that. 218 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:13.039 Skylar Ward, no relation to me, not my sister, not 219 00:12:13.159 --> 00:12:15.919 their guest room, beat us all and just wrote that 220 00:12:15.960 --> 00:12:19.000 their fridge is a whiteboard. It's a menu and a 221 00:12:19.080 --> 00:12:23.480 grocery list. You can whiteboard your fridge. None of us 222 00:12:23.559 --> 00:12:27.559 do that except for them. Also, let's clean up your life. 223 00:12:27.720 --> 00:12:31.039 How about some domestic strategies to save some time and 224 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:33.840 some brain efforts for everyone. Here we go Part two. 225 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:37.679 Home is where the heart is. Karina Bruce wrote in 226 00:12:37.720 --> 00:12:39.799 and said, my big tip for cleaning is to do 227 00:12:39.879 --> 00:12:44.360 it often and badly. I do half jobs of everything 228 00:12:44.440 --> 00:12:48.080 and eventually everything gets done. Thank you, Karina. I will 229 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:52.120 live by that. Aubrey Nelson used my favorite cleaning hack 230 00:12:52.240 --> 00:12:55.440 and said having company is a big motivator. I'll kick 231 00:12:55.480 --> 00:12:58.320 into gear to clean for company and then benefit from 232 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:01.519 that as well. So cut bangs, text, your crush, fold 233 00:13:01.559 --> 00:13:05.679 your laundry. It's all connected. Also, here's a secret fix 234 00:13:05.759 --> 00:13:09.519 for your laundry problems. You're ready. So patron Sarah Horden says, 235 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:14.799 have multiple laundry baskets and hampers, put them in different rooms. Okay. 236 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:19.080 Nano naturalists sorts their laundry by type and not by color. 237 00:13:19.120 --> 00:13:21.480 They say all my pants are in one load and 238 00:13:21.519 --> 00:13:25.279 then there's no sorting afterwards. And they pin their socks 239 00:13:25.320 --> 00:13:27.519 together when they throw them in the laundry so they 240 00:13:27.519 --> 00:13:30.840 never have to hunt for pairs again. But Star Star 241 00:13:30.879 --> 00:13:33.799 wrote in it was like, let's lower the bar people. 242 00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:37.639 Star says, I do not spend time folding or matching 243 00:13:37.720 --> 00:13:40.480 socks and underwear. Just throw them into their own drawers. 244 00:13:40.720 --> 00:13:43.240 It's small, but it takes the dread out for me, 245 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:46.320 they said, and Maria agrees. They say, I simply no 246 00:13:46.399 --> 00:13:52.120 longer fold my items. Mediocrity is freedom. Mediocrity is freedom, y'all. 247 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:55.080 Let's just lower the bar. No one's looking in your 248 00:13:55.159 --> 00:13:58.919 underwear drawer, and if they are, that's their problem. Now 249 00:13:59.000 --> 00:14:01.519 you could also just eat you're stressed by outsourcing all 250 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:05.000 your shit to a robot. So Cassandra Grasstroom says, this 251 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:08.440 is absolutely coming from a place of privilege. But auto 252 00:14:08.519 --> 00:14:11.759 pay any and all bills and get a robot vacuum. 253 00:14:12.039 --> 00:14:15.039 Take things off everyone's plate so that you're all less 254 00:14:15.080 --> 00:14:18.559 likely to get overwhelmed. And Sarah Elbrick agrees, saying, if 255 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:21.399 you can swing it, invest in things to make life 256 00:14:21.480 --> 00:14:25.399 easier for you, like a robot vacuum, a quality dishwasher, 257 00:14:25.639 --> 00:14:29.399 an automatic litter box, etc. And Sarah says, my floors 258 00:14:29.440 --> 00:14:32.360 are clean now, my dishes don't pile up as often, 259 00:14:32.480 --> 00:14:35.639 and the litter box doesn't get so stinky. So now 260 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:38.320 that you have some tips for your home, let's engage 261 00:14:38.440 --> 00:14:42.000 in a wrestling match. Let's grapple with Father time. Let's 262 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:44.679 get some of your life back from him. Okay, first 263 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:48.000 you need a dump location. You need to give yourself 264 00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:51.000 the gift of a trip to Ross or TJ Max 265 00:14:51.039 --> 00:14:53.919 and just say what basket speaks to me? I don't know. 266 00:14:54.039 --> 00:14:56.399 Go to a flea market and look for a cool bowl. 267 00:14:56.679 --> 00:15:01.559 Because patrons Julie McDonald, Taylor Benard, Christie LaForce, we're all 268 00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:06.120 like basket by door, put important stuff into it, and 269 00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:09.399 in Kristin Rosenblum's words, make sure everything in the house 270 00:15:09.440 --> 00:15:12.480 has a place. Otherwise piles of stuff will just happen 271 00:15:13.159 --> 00:15:16.840 as your own grandpod Mom Fancy Nancy always used to 272 00:15:16.840 --> 00:15:20.600 say a place for everything, and everything in its place, 273 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:24.000 which sounds so peaceful, doesn't it. My keys have hung 274 00:15:24.000 --> 00:15:26.840 on a hook by the door for decades because in 275 00:15:26.879 --> 00:15:30.000 college I locked myself out of my dorm room seventeen 276 00:15:30.039 --> 00:15:35.399 times in the first six weeks. The are kept track. Oops. 277 00:15:35.919 --> 00:15:37.399 This whole time, I've been like, I don't have a 278 00:15:37.399 --> 00:15:39.480 problem losing my keys, and I realize it's just because 279 00:15:39.480 --> 00:15:42.039 I have a hook by the door. So location, location, location, 280 00:15:42.320 --> 00:15:45.120 So what's another way to grease up and pin down 281 00:15:45.279 --> 00:15:51.200 Father time? Reminders? Professor Koshka Jenetto Sore and Casey Krrick 282 00:15:51.240 --> 00:15:54.360 wrote in they all say they use the computer in 283 00:15:54.519 --> 00:15:58.080 your pocket or the eavesdropping music robot in your house 284 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:01.679 to set so many reminders send them when you need them. 285 00:16:02.039 --> 00:16:04.840 Patron Caffeine had this extra hack. If you use a 286 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:09.679 reminder hap on mobile electronic devices right the reason you 287 00:16:09.720 --> 00:16:13.039 have to do the thing rather than just do the thing. Example, 288 00:16:13.159 --> 00:16:16.000 they say, instead of scheduling a reminder that says use 289 00:16:16.039 --> 00:16:20.080 in hailer, try set anyone that says, oh caps OMG 290 00:16:20.360 --> 00:16:22.440 lung damage is bad for your health. Just take your 291 00:16:22.519 --> 00:16:26.360 damn asthma medicine woman, and include many emojis. If bright 292 00:16:26.399 --> 00:16:30.399 colors help you, so reminders, and use a clock when 293 00:16:30.480 --> 00:16:33.200 you need to kick your own ass gently and with fun. 294 00:16:33.639 --> 00:16:36.799 So many patrons rode in with this, and Caitlyn M said, 295 00:16:36.840 --> 00:16:39.919 I recently discovered the time timer, which is basically just 296 00:16:39.960 --> 00:16:42.840 a visual timer, but they absolutely love it and they 297 00:16:42.840 --> 00:16:45.240 say it's really good for visualizing how much time you 298 00:16:45.320 --> 00:16:48.720 have left for a particular task. And Joe Alexander also 299 00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:51.720 loves a timetimer. They're kind of like an egg timer, 300 00:16:52.200 --> 00:16:56.200 but more visually and socially friendly. And they were invented 301 00:16:56.240 --> 00:16:58.279 by this cool lady in Cincinnati, and I got to 302 00:16:58.320 --> 00:17:02.440 interview her for my CBS show Innovation Nation, and I 303 00:17:02.480 --> 00:17:04.880 love her. Now. If you don't have a timetimer, you 304 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:07.640 can also use the laundry as one. This is a 305 00:17:07.640 --> 00:17:10.559 cool hack. See if you can get certain things done 306 00:17:10.799 --> 00:17:15.319 before the washing cycle is up. Recommended Olivia Shaeffer and 307 00:17:15.519 --> 00:17:18.279 Miranda Buckley keeps it light and fun and wrote in 308 00:17:18.359 --> 00:17:20.799 on good days, I keep a timer and I race 309 00:17:20.880 --> 00:17:22.559 myself to see how quickly I can get all my 310 00:17:22.599 --> 00:17:27.599 boring chores done, while don Zwart creates a dystopian prison chamber, 311 00:17:28.039 --> 00:17:30.400 saying when I clean, I set a timer for ten 312 00:17:30.440 --> 00:17:32.960 minutes and I don't let myself leave the room until 313 00:17:32.960 --> 00:17:34.880 the timer goes off. I can see how that would 314 00:17:34.880 --> 00:17:39.880 be effective. Also, no judgment. So many people pomodoro, which 315 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:42.680 is when you work typically twenty five minutes and then 316 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:45.480 take a five minute break, and then after three cycles, 317 00:17:45.480 --> 00:17:48.640 you take a longer thirty to sixty minute break. So 318 00:17:48.720 --> 00:17:52.200 many Pomadoro's out there, So many of you wrote in 319 00:17:52.440 --> 00:17:55.400 Francesco Cirilio is the person who invented this in the 320 00:17:55.480 --> 00:17:59.519 nineteen eighties because he had a tomato shaped kitchen timer, 321 00:18:00.039 --> 00:18:03.200 and I personally hate tomatoes. I hate them so much. 322 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:05.880 I hate the name Pomadoro. I hate the idea of 323 00:18:05.920 --> 00:18:09.759 a tomato shaped object on my desk. I hate it all. 324 00:18:09.839 --> 00:18:12.160 So I'm like, Palmadoro, You're not for me. And then 325 00:18:12.160 --> 00:18:13.839 I tried it and I was like, this does work. 326 00:18:14.079 --> 00:18:17.200 So my ears are open for some new names. Maybe 327 00:18:17.319 --> 00:18:22.119 Katie Courtwright, Rebecca lyn Weiselberg, Jasmine Quasa and Peta Luck, 328 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:24.759 who all swear by this tomato technique, please come up 329 00:18:24.759 --> 00:18:27.559 with a new name. Thank you. And Mercedes Maitland wrote 330 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:31.359 in and said, I doubted Palmadero's at first, but it's done, wonders, 331 00:18:31.759 --> 00:18:34.319 so use it when you're in hyper focus too, and 332 00:18:34.359 --> 00:18:37.640 your bladder will thank you. Mercedes said, So, if you're 333 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:40.680 like me, if you hate tomatoes but you love bears 334 00:18:41.400 --> 00:18:43.960 and you have a dollar ninety nine burning a hole 335 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:47.359 in your pocket, there's an app called Bear Focus Timer, 336 00:18:47.799 --> 00:18:50.440 and it starts the work interval as soon as you 337 00:18:50.480 --> 00:18:53.440 put your phone face down, so you can't look at 338 00:18:53.440 --> 00:18:56.759 your phone, and it plays white noise to remind you 339 00:18:56.880 --> 00:18:58.799 it's workI time, It's Workie time. 340 00:18:58.880 --> 00:18:59.119 Now. 341 00:18:59.279 --> 00:19:02.359 It also has very cool Bear Art so twelve out 342 00:19:02.400 --> 00:19:06.000 of ten Ward approved Bear Focus timer. I think you're cool. 343 00:19:06.480 --> 00:19:09.000 Now when it comes to a strict twenty five minutes 344 00:19:09.039 --> 00:19:12.359 working and five minutes off, patron Michelle is like, eh, 345 00:19:12.880 --> 00:19:16.160 not so much. She likes the hyperfocus and uses something 346 00:19:16.160 --> 00:19:18.599 called the flow time technique, which is where you start 347 00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:21.039 a task and you stop when you're tired or when 348 00:19:21.079 --> 00:19:24.119 you're just like I'm done here, I'm reaching my limit. 349 00:19:24.519 --> 00:19:28.920 And she uses the twenty percent of break time to 350 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:32.039 eighty percent of worktime kind of ratio there. But there's 351 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:34.960 also this thing called the Eisenhower Matrix, and I was like, 352 00:19:35.039 --> 00:19:39.480 Eisenhower Matrix, it's just like a post war history fact. 353 00:19:39.519 --> 00:19:42.519 I don't know. But Salmon like the fish, and Chelsea 354 00:19:42.559 --> 00:19:46.200 Feris both use it. And the Eisenhower Matrix helps you 355 00:19:46.279 --> 00:19:49.920 wrangle priorities. It's like four quadrants. There's a do do 356 00:19:50.039 --> 00:19:53.799 it now. There's a decide, which means schedule it. There's 357 00:19:53.839 --> 00:19:57.079 a delegate, see if you can outsource that, maybe to 358 00:19:57.200 --> 00:20:00.279 a vacuum robot. And then there's a delete quadrant, which 359 00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:03.720 is like just forget about it. You'd pretend you don't 360 00:20:03.720 --> 00:20:06.000 have to do it. So where are you going to 361 00:20:06.039 --> 00:20:09.319 write that down, though, how about a planner? Okay, if 362 00:20:09.359 --> 00:20:12.240 you listen to ADHD part two, Renee Brooks is like, 363 00:20:12.359 --> 00:20:14.880 do not talk to me about a notebook. Don't talk 364 00:20:14.920 --> 00:20:17.720 to me about it, but other people do find variations 365 00:20:17.759 --> 00:20:22.440 of a notebook helpful. Rebecca Lynn Weiselberg and Branda Snodgrass, 366 00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:26.079 Robin Stumbo, and Faith Stein all said that bullet journals 367 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:30.400 have you covered in the flexibility area, and Faith said quote, 368 00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:33.119 I can make it as fancy or as minimal as 369 00:20:33.119 --> 00:20:36.480 I'm feeling in that moment, and Kitln m also a 370 00:20:36.519 --> 00:20:41.559 boojo or bullet journaler agreed, but Ward quote a caveat though, 371 00:20:41.680 --> 00:20:44.240 don't get all bogged down looking at the crazy Instagram 372 00:20:44.279 --> 00:20:46.519 pages of people who spend more time making their journal 373 00:20:46.559 --> 00:20:50.440 pretty than actually using it. It's meant to increase productivity, 374 00:20:50.599 --> 00:20:53.039 not drain away all your energy thinking up a monthly 375 00:20:53.119 --> 00:20:58.359 theme and drawing out intricately illustrated layouts. And Caitlyn says 376 00:20:58.400 --> 00:21:00.920 I wasted two years trying to make pretty layouts with 377 00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:03.440 my bullet journal and ended up not touching it for 378 00:21:03.559 --> 00:21:06.400 months at a time. Now I've found a nice balance 379 00:21:06.440 --> 00:21:09.680 of functionality with just enough creativity to make it interesting 380 00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:13.480 without becoming just another task that I can't finish. Team 381 00:21:13.519 --> 00:21:16.480 Pretty Stuff also includes Katy Courtwright, who says I keep 382 00:21:16.519 --> 00:21:19.759 a very cute planner and I will only consistently use 383 00:21:19.799 --> 00:21:23.200 a planner that I find visually appealing. And Chanelle's app 384 00:21:23.319 --> 00:21:28.119 AKA your favorite maritime archaeology shipwreck expert says color coordinated 385 00:21:28.160 --> 00:21:31.640 pens and fountain pens allow her to derive a little 386 00:21:31.640 --> 00:21:33.480 bit of joy from something that I need to do. 387 00:21:33.640 --> 00:21:38.160 There's also Heroes Journal, which has spots to identify your 388 00:21:38.240 --> 00:21:42.640 daily quests rather than to do's. And there's Notion Planners, 389 00:21:43.079 --> 00:21:45.640 which has lines for gratitude to get you out of 390 00:21:45.640 --> 00:21:48.279 a funk. Those also got shout outs, and I'm going 391 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:51.920 to toss in my own dadly advice here. In a 392 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:54.400 Patreon life stream I did last week, I showed my 393 00:21:54.559 --> 00:21:57.400 daily planner, which is just a small mini binder. It 394 00:21:57.440 --> 00:22:00.559 has three rings and it holds sheets that are half 395 00:22:00.640 --> 00:22:02.720 letter size and you can just go to an office 396 00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:05.359 supply or print shop and buy a ream of paper, 397 00:22:05.839 --> 00:22:07.839 ask them to cut it in half. You now have 398 00:22:07.880 --> 00:22:11.240 one thousand sheets of paper. And you know those black 399 00:22:11.599 --> 00:22:15.000 three hole punch you know the ones you steal from 400 00:22:15.359 --> 00:22:19.039 your office job. They have a place to slide the 401 00:22:19.079 --> 00:22:22.279