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<v Speaker 1>Something has been shifting. You may not have named it,

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<v Speaker 1>it may not have announced itself with any particular clarity

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<v Speaker 1>or drama. But somewhere in the ordinary hours of recent weeks,

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<v Speaker 1>in a moment that passed without you marking it, the

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<v Speaker 1>chooser was simply there, not summoned, not effortfully placed, simply

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<v Speaker 1>present the pause that arrived before you found it, the

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<v Speaker 1>breath that came before the reaction, without being deliberately placed there.

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<v Speaker 1>The question, is this what I am choosing? Appearing in

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<v Speaker 1>the gap as if it had always lived there? Breathe

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<v Speaker 1>feel the particular quality of this breath, not the breath

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<v Speaker 1>of someone beginning something, but the breath of someone who

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<v Speaker 1>has been doing something long enough that it has begun

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<v Speaker 1>to change the shape of them. You have been repeating

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<v Speaker 1>something in the ordinary moments and the unremarkable ones, in

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<v Speaker 1>the quiet Tuesday afternoons and the difficult Thursday evenings, in

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<v Speaker 1>the private spaces where no one was watching, and the

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<v Speaker 1>chooser showed up. Anyway, the nervous system has been listening.

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<v Speaker 1>It has been receiving the signal, and the signal calm consistent,

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<v Speaker 1>has been doing what signals always do when they are

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<v Speaker 1>delivered with enough patience and enough safety, and enough quiet repetition.

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<v Speaker 1>It has been building a pathway. Feel that pathway now,

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<v Speaker 1>not as metaphor as something real in your body, the

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<v Speaker 1>particular quality of a nervous system that has practiced something

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<v Speaker 1>enough that it has begun to prefer it. The pause

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<v Speaker 1>that is slightly easier to find than it was, the

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<v Speaker 1>breath that is slightly more available than before, The gap

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<v Speaker 1>between the queue and the automatic that is slightly wider,

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<v Speaker 1>not because you have been forcing it open, but because

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<v Speaker 1>you have been walking through it often enough that it

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<v Speaker 1>has learned to stay. This is what stability feels like,

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<v Speaker 1>not the absence of the automatic, not immunity from the

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<v Speaker 1>craving or the trigger or the old familiar pull, Simply

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<v Speaker 1>a nervous system that has another option available, a pathway

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<v Speaker 1>that is becoming slowly and without announcement of least resistance.

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<v Speaker 1>Think of one behavior that is easier now than it was,

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<v Speaker 1>however small, however unremarkable. The pause that used to require

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<v Speaker 1>effort and now simply arrives. The breath that used.

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<v Speaker 2>To be a technique and now is simply what happens.

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<v Speaker 2>The question that used to need to be remembered, and

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<v Speaker 2>now appears without being called. Hold that feel the weight

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<v Speaker 2>of it. Not pride, something quieter than pride, the deep

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<v Speaker 2>animal satisfaction of a nervous system that has learned something new,

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<v Speaker 2>that has been taught gently, patiently, through calm repetition, That

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<v Speaker 2>a different response is possible, that a different response is safe,

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<v Speaker 2>That a different response is slowly and irreversibly becoming normal.

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<v Speaker 2>You are not the same as when this art began.

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<v Speaker 2>The change is quiet, the change is real. The change

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<v Speaker 2>is in the pathway that is slightly more worn now

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<v Speaker 2>than the one It is replacing. What you repeat calmly

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<v Speaker 2>becomes who you are. You have been repeating something calm,

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<v Speaker 2>and it is becoming, breath by breath, choice by choice,

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<v Speaker 2>ordinary moment by ordinary moment, who you are. The chooser

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<v Speaker 2>is building something, something that will not need to be forced,

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<v Speaker 2>something that will not need to be summoned, something that

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<v Speaker 2>will simply, one ordinary day, in one unremarkable moment, arrive

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<v Speaker 2>without being called, and you will recognize it not as

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<v Speaker 2>something new, as something that has become.

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<v Speaker 1>Simply you h