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<v Speaker 1>While we're celebrating New Year's with our families, we bring

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<v Speaker 1>you this relic of podcasts past a speed round devoted

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<v Speaker 1>to our resolutions for the coming year.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy New Year, and we'll be back tomorrow with our

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<v Speaker 2>discussion of shrinking. It is Full Grown Dude Face, Season two,

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<v Speaker 2>episode nine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the new year, here we go. It's a time

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<v Speaker 1>for making resolutions, and we thought we would talk about

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<v Speaker 1>whether we have any parenting related resolutions. You know, I should.

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<v Speaker 1>There are things I could do better. Probably my parenting

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<v Speaker 1>related resolution should just be to leave things alone and

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<v Speaker 1>to certainly not feel like I have to talk my

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<v Speaker 1>daughter through every crisis she has, like I did when

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<v Speaker 1>she was little, and to allow her to talk without

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like I have to respond and solve whatever she's

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<v Speaker 1>talking to me about. I should just let her talk.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she would be very happy if I made

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<v Speaker 1>that resolution. I think we both would be happier. Because

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<v Speaker 1>what happens is she comes and tells me something, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I start talking and talking and talking, and then

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<v Speaker 1>she's late for work. So you need to stop that.

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<v Speaker 1>She's either late for work or she goes for some reason.

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<v Speaker 1>We have talks when she's about to go to work,

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<v Speaker 1>she comes in for me to tie her apron and

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<v Speaker 1>I we start talking and then she's either crying or late.

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<v Speaker 1>So I definitely should stop that. But just in general,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, my kids are adults, I probably should just

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<v Speaker 1>not feel like I need to be cruise director anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I should probably just calm down. There's my resolution you

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<v Speaker 1>need to calm down to. I need to calm down

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<v Speaker 1>that tailor, I need to exactly she's right, I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I need to take some of that advice as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, if they would just come stop coming to us

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<v Speaker 1>with their problems, it would be easier not.

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<v Speaker 3>You know why, you know, I mean that's kind of

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<v Speaker 3>the work hazard of having kids who will talk to

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<v Speaker 3>you yes about stuff, because then you hear everything, and

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<v Speaker 3>then you take on everything and you worry about everything,

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<v Speaker 3>and you want to solve everything for them, and maybe

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<v Speaker 3>wequist you to not know. Yes, yes, just hide something

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<v Speaker 3>from me. I don't need to know that.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the resolution we want to give to our

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<v Speaker 1>children this year. Hide stuff from mom so she doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>go off.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't need to tell me it's okay. That's my

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<v Speaker 3>big resolution is I'm gonna I've got to try and

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<v Speaker 3>like just not be as accessible we invested accessible exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>We resolved to podcast twenty four to seven, So we

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<v Speaker 1>are not available to our children.

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<v Speaker 3>Especially at two am. Yeah, that's stuff, I really, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I need to stop. Like I've got to let my daughter,

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<v Speaker 3>in particular, I've gotta let her start to figure stuff

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<v Speaker 3>out and not get anxious when she's not doing things

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<v Speaker 3>the way I want her to.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, they are so stubborn that way.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, like if you just did what I you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the advice that you want that you wanted me to share, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, if we could just tap into our inner teen

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<v Speaker 1>and twenty something young adult s nickel when we had

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<v Speaker 1>these same conversations with our mothers, and oh, I deactly

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<v Speaker 1>the way they do. You didn't I did? I totally did.

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<v Speaker 1>I just know it. I just remember it. But I

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<v Speaker 1>can't not be my mother in this scenario. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>hid stuff you did? Oh yeah, like you know, do

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<v Speaker 1>as I did child exactly mother.

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<v Speaker 3>Which is why I encourage her to talk to me.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, I'm wondering maybe my mom had the right idea.

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<v Speaker 3>After all, look what happened. Maybe her authoritative stuff parenting

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<v Speaker 3>a better call. Oh dear we'll get into that.

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<v Speaker 1>Catherine, what is your resolution?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have it more together than we do?

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<v Speaker 1>Well?

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<v Speaker 2>Not really, because I never I don't really do resolutions,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, when it comes to parent I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>like I've in the past, I've sort of given up

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<v Speaker 2>on things too easily. So maybe maybe that's what I

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<v Speaker 2>need to work on, is you know, if I feel

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<v Speaker 2>strongly about something, or if i'm you know, trying to

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<v Speaker 2>achieve a particular goal with my kids, then I need

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<v Speaker 2>to just be a little more persistent like Nichole.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically, you were making the opposite resolution to the

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<v Speaker 1>ones Nicole and I are making.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I might be.

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<v Speaker 1>We will live like care eusily through you, Catherine, as

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<v Speaker 1>you as you make your children do things, We'll go

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when I could do Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not good at making resolutions. And as a.

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<v Speaker 1>General rule, we'll revisit this into side.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we're gonna have to see what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>And all through the year we'll be checking in with

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<v Speaker 1>each other. Didn't you say you weren't gonna do that?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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