Speaker 1: Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawtrel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day for you to become
the Howtral energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
Welcome back to another episode. Life has been very busy.
Speaker 2: Like so so busy.
Speaker 1: I cannot believe how much has happened these past two weeks.
Speaker 2: Just from not even recording an episode, I.
Speaker 1: Feel like I'm feeling a little burnt out, not gonna lie,
but obviously I'm just like trying to take one step
at a time and like obviously realize how grateful I
am for everything that has happened these past two weeks,
but also just like kind of take a step back
and like, yeah, just like make other things kind of
a priority. But I am back this week. I'm so
sorry that I did not record an episode last week.
If you listened to the episode before this, then you
will know that I took last week off because it
was my husband's thirtieth birthday and I decided to spend
the week just kind of like prepping things for our
trip this weekend. We were in Toronto this past weekend,
and I surprised him with a trip to Toronto with
Jay's tickets for the home opener and just honestly like
a little weekend trip him and I.
Speaker 2: And he was so surprised.
Speaker 1: He was so grateful, and he just really really appreciated
the nice gesture that I did for his thirtieth I
of course wanted to go full out, just because obviously
turning thirty is such a big deal. And my husband's
that kind of person where he never wants the attention
to be around him, Like he's always like, no, I
don't want anything, or I don't want to party.
Speaker 2: I don't you know.
Speaker 1: He's like kind of also got a little bit of
social anxiety, which is so fine, and he's like, you know,
I just don't really want a big party, Like I
just kind of want something, you know, that's more his vibe.
Like he said, I just want something that I love
and that will make me happy.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, okay.
Speaker 1: This is where I did my deep digging and research
and found out that the Blue Jays had their home
opener the.
Speaker 2: Weekend of his birthday, which is so wild.
Speaker 1: So I immediately bought home opener tickets and he was
so happy when we were there, like he's like, this
is such a dream. And obviously the Jays did so
well last year making it to the World Series, and yeah,
he just like has such a.
Speaker 2: Huge love for the sport.
Speaker 1: He's been a Jays fan for years, Like this is
not something he just jumped on last year. Like he's
been loving the Jays since he was like a teenager.
I think another thing that just kind of plays a
huge factor into that is that Zach had a very
close relationship with his grandma, who recently actually passed away
this pass ball and his grandma and him would watch
the Blue Jays games together. Sometimes he would go over,
you know, she would cook us dinner and they would
watch the Jay's game together.
Speaker 2: So it's just kind of like a special bond. When
he was sixteen and his.
Speaker 1: Grandma took him and his brother to see his first
Jays game in person. So he just has a very
close bond to like the Jays. And since his grandma's passing,
I feel like he's made it a bigger priority to
at ten more games and watch every single game because
like that's something that he had with his.
Speaker 2: Grandma, like a little relationship that they had with that.
Speaker 1: So I think this game was just like really special
in that sense as well, not even just about like
his birthday, but like you know, just being at the
home opener and like having that opportunity, I think just
meant so much to him, and I'm so grateful that
I was able to do that with him. I think
that was just such a fun weekend, and I love
the Jays. I think it's such a fun activity to do.
If you live in Toronto, or even if you live
in a city that has MLB games, I highly recommend
going to a baseball game. They're so entertaining and I
don't know, I have really grown to love the sport.
Speaker 2: I think in the beginning, when I.
Speaker 1: First started dating my husband, I thought it was boring
and I had no interest in really watching theme. But
now I actually really enjoy it and I understand it.
And I've played with Zach, you know, baseball throughout the
years because he's grown up to play the sport and he.
Speaker 2: Just really loves the sport.
Speaker 1: So I just am grateful that I was able to
do that with him for his thirtieth birthday. So that's
what kind of happened this past weekend. Being in Toronto
was so fun. I always love seeing the Toronto girls.
I met so many of you guys on the street,
in shops at the hotel, Like, it was so fun
just to meet so many of you, and you guys
come up to me and say hi. So I always
appreciate when you guys say something to me. It means
the world to me. So not only did we have
Toronto this weekend for Zach's birthday, but I also had
a house appointment that we got to go through and
walk through our entire house for the very first time,
which was such a surreal feeling seeing things come to life.
Speaker 2: You know, there's been so many design updates.
Speaker 1: With like the archways and the electrical and the plumbing
and just kind of seeing the house fully framed and anyways.
It was just like such an excited walk through. And
we actually have our house set up to be drywalled
in like a week or two, which is wild that
they're already getting to that point.
Speaker 2: So things are moving fast.
Speaker 1: And we technically move into our new place in like
four months, which is so wild. So we're very excited
to yeah be in that new place and I feel
like my mind has definitely been really focusing on house stuff,
but also birthday party stuff, because if you guys know
my birthdays this weekend, i am turning thirty. Zach and
I are eleven days apart, we're both aries, and I'm
having a big thirtieth birthday party this weekend, and I'm
so freaking excited about it, And so I really wanted
to make this episode about me, kind of chatting about
things that I've learned throughout my twenties. It hasn't really
soaked in yet that I'm turning thirty in like four days,
and I'm very excited to turn thirty.
Speaker 2: Like, I am very, very excited, but.
Speaker 1: I also feel like there's a part of me where
it's kind of sad and scary to like know that
I'm leaving my twenties, because, you know, even though your
twenties are such a interesting time in your life, like,
I feel like my twenties was really a rollercoaster of
everything in terms of like figuring out my career, figuring
out my shit, you know, just like different things that
happened for so many different reasons, and I'm you know,
very grateful for the things that did happen in my life.
And I got married in my twenties, I got engaged,
I got a dog, I got a house, I bought
my first house. Like so much excitement and like beginnings
happened in my twenties, and I think, you know, I
feel like it was such a special time in my life,
and I feel so grateful for the opportunities that I had.
Speaker 2: But I know there's going to be.
Speaker 1: Even more opportunities and more excitement and new beginnings in
my thirties as well. So I think it's just a
bittersweet feeling. And I just like still can't believe that
I'm entering this decade, Like where has the time gone.
So I'm really excited to celebrate my birthday this weekend.
My birthdays on the fourth, which is actually on the Saturday,
so I'm having the party the Saturday night. It's also
Easter weekend, which it just so happened that my birthday
fell on Easter this year, but that's okay. So I'm
really excited for you guys to see the photos and
the videos.
Speaker 2: I did a whole theme.
Speaker 1: I went full out with decorations, and we hired a
live band, and anyway, it's going to be so fun,
So make sure to follow me on Instagram and TikTok
if you want to see the party come to life.
So I wrote out a few lessons that I personally
feel like it really hit me in my twenties and
things that I've learned throughout the way, and I just
kind of wanted to share some like real life experiences
that happened in my twenties that I learned from or
things that just kind of like opened my eyes about
certain situations and knowing that that's okay that those things happened.
And I feel like throughout these past ten years in
the beginning, there's obviously like a different journey in my
early twenties versus my late twenties. And I feel like
probably these last four years, like from twenty six to
twenty nine, I would say I've learned a lot more.
Speaker 2: Than I did in the beginning of my twenties.
Speaker 1: And I feel like in the beginning of my twenties,
I was really trying to figure out my life. And
I think that's very normal, and some people figure out
their life in their later twenties. It really just depends
on the person. But kind of just wanted to share
my story and the lessons that I've learned throughout these
past ten years. In my early twenties, I was in college.
I got my marketing degree and was really focused on business,
and I at that point had no idea what I
was going to do with my life. Like I know
for a fact, I had no idea what my job
was going to be. I had no idea what my
career path was going to be. All I knew is
that I loved marketing and I loved being in the
business side of things, but I didn't know.
Speaker 2: Like what kind of business side. Right.
Speaker 1: Of course, there's like so many job positions that you
can get in the business field, obviously specifically in the
marketing as well. There's like different positions in the marketing
field that you could do. So I felt like after
college I was very lost in the sense where I didn't.
Speaker 2: Really know what I wanted to do with my life.
Speaker 1: And I remember the first job that I ever got
was a serving job back in the day, and this
was like before college, and then I worked at Michael
Corer's during my college days.
Speaker 2: They were very big then.
Speaker 1: So for me, like that job was so cool, Like
I was so happy I had that job, but I
knew it wasn't my forever job, Like I knew that
wasn't like my future plans.
Speaker 2: And then once I.
Speaker 1: Was done college, I ended up working for my dad's
company because again I didn't really know what I wanted
to do with my life, so I thought that was
the best place to start, and my dad was giving
me the opportunity of trying out different positions. So at
one point I was a buyer, so I was helping
purchase things for the store, and then I I decided
to go down the marketing side and help the marketing
team where I was helping with visuals and social media posts.
Speaker 2: And all that.
Speaker 1: And then after that I went down the project management
route where I was essentially managing projects of them building
stores across Canada. So I really kind of jumped around,
not really knowing what I was going to do. I
remember in this point in my life, I was very
lost in the sense where I felt like I didn't
like anything, Like I really did not love any position
that I did. I felt like an office job just
wasn't for me. I felt like it wasn't something that
I was really passionate about. It wasn't something that you know,
made me feel good showing up to.
Speaker 2: Work every single day. And I feel like when you
love your job.
Speaker 1: You're very motivated, You're very driven, and like you want
to do better at it because you love it so much.
And I just felt like every position that I did
with that company, nothing was serving me.
Speaker 2: Like I could just tell that my body was not
wanting this, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It was almost like trying to push it away, where
it's like this isn't for you, Like you need to
figure out something else. Like felt like there was just
like signs that things weren't working out for me in
that type of position. So I felt like I had
to do something different and that I had to make
a change. And this is where my social media and
influencer journey kind of started. When you know, my job
kind of took a step back with COVID and I
couldn't really do much, which I think, honestly was like
a sign in a sense where it's like I couldn't
do the job that was happening, so I had to
do something else and take action. And I felt like
influencing was my calling, Like I felt like that was something.
Speaker 2: That I loved so so much.
Speaker 1: And I've always been into following YouTubers and instagrammers, and
I just never thought it would be something for me.
But at that time, that's when they released reels and
TikTok videos, and then.
Speaker 2: That's when I started to start sharing my life.
Speaker 1: And I don't know, this confidence kind of just like
came out of nowhere too, because I look back at
like my early twenties. I tried to film a YouTube
video when I was twenty one, okay, yeah crazy.
Speaker 2: Zach and I were in Paris.
Speaker 1: I tried to film a YouTube blog and I remember
filming one video and I watched the video back and
I literally deleted it and I said to Zach, I
will never be doing that again. Like I was so embarrassed.
I had no confidence in myself. I was like critiquing
everything on my face. I thought I looked ugly, Like
I was just like so beyond hard on myself. And
when I was twenty five, I don't know what happened.
I feel like my confidence just completely shifted. I almost
like had the mindset of where I didn't really care
what people thought of me. I think I just like
really wanted to be an influencer. That nothing mattered to me.
I didn't care what people said about me online. I
really just like went straight into it and was like,
I'm just going to do this for myself.
Speaker 2: If things work out, great, if things don't, then it
is what it is.
Speaker 1: And so obviously things ended up working out, and that's
when I started to feel like, oh, this is for me,
Like this is my passion.
Speaker 2: I love it. I'm driven, I'm.
Speaker 1: Motivated, I'm consistent, like I constantly want to show up,
I constantly want to be online. I feel comfortable with
sharing my life and it's just something that I always
have enjoyed.
Speaker 2: And so that's kind of how I.
Speaker 1: Figure out like what I wanted to do was really
going through the journey of trying different things, and then
once I found my passion, that's when things started to
become successful and things started to work out, and that's
when I'm like, Okay, this is my calling. Like I
am driven, I am motivated. I want this so badly
that I want to make this my full time thing.
And so that kind of goes with the first lesson,
which is your first job is not your forever path.
So if you're in your early twenties, if you're just
getting out of college, and you think, oh, I need
to figure out my career path as soon as I'm
out of school.
Speaker 2: That is not the case whatsoever.
Speaker 1: It took me five to six years to figure out
what I wanted to do with my life and what
my career path was, and that it's important to know
that everybody's.
Speaker 2: Journey is different.
Speaker 1: You might be in your late twenties and still not
knowing what you wanted to do, but I think they'll
be signs and there'll be reasons for you to understand
what is worth putting your energy towards and what is
your calling. And so that's kind of like something that
I've learned that, you know, what I thought was going
to be my favorite thing wasn't. And I'm happy that
I trusted my own guys and went through with something
completely different and becoming my own boss and doing my
own thing and leaving my dad's company and doing something
that I was extremely passionate about that I thought would
be the best thing for myself and my husband and
I and anyways, it's just like something that I think
everyone should really trust their own gut. And that's another
lesson that I've learned is really trusting myself and no
one else. My parents weren't really supportive at the time.
I think they didn't really understand it, which is so fair.
But I felt like I could take this into my
own hands and like really figure out a career for
myself by doing this, and so I.
Speaker 2: Trusted my own gut.
Speaker 1: I trusted everything in my power to take this responsibility on.
And here we are now doing it full time for
four or five years now, and I'm feeling so incredibly.
Speaker 2: Grateful to take that risk and follow my own gut.
Speaker 1: Another thing I've learned through my twenties is that not
all friendships are mental ass forever.
Speaker 2: You will outgrow people and they will outgrow you.
Speaker 1: I have had some friends who have stayed by my
side since day one. I have like my go to
girls that I played sports with, that I grew up with,
and you know, we've been friends since then and we
still have a really good friendship now.
Speaker 2: But I've also had friends.
Speaker 1: Where they were like my ride or dies, like I
was seeing them almost every single night, we were doing
things together, like my girls, right, and now we don't
even talk, we don't even you know, have the same passions,
you know, very different people like just different likes, different interests,
like just a lot of differences. And I feel like
that's okay to understand that you're going to outgrow people
and that it's okay to let that go, even though
it is hard. I've definitely had a few friendships where
the breakup was hard. I think, you know, it's never
easy letting that friendship go, especially when it is someone
that you are so close to. But I think you
have to realize that it's worth being with people who
support you and who want to see you and who
want to show up.
Speaker 2: And who have the same interest with you.
Speaker 1: Like I remember I was trying to force a friendship
when I did have like a friendship breakup at the time,
I was almost trying to like force us to continue
being friends. And I remember when we were forcing like
hangouts and like doing things, I was not enjoying the
time that we were doing because like we just were
so different, Like we had such different passions, such different
almost like different beliefs in a sense, Like I just
felt like we were not aligning on anything. And that's
when I kind of realized that I'm like, why am
I forcing something that shouldn't be forced, Like when you're
in a friendship, it should be natural.
Speaker 2: You should be having.
Speaker 1: Fun, you should be enjoying spending time with them. Like,
if you're not enjoying spending time with that one person,
you almost have to like mentally realize that that friendship
is no longer serving you and.
Speaker 2: That it's not meant to continue.
Speaker 1: And I know that's like hard to grasp and hard
to understand, but I do think there is a reason
for that, and that the right people will show up
and the right people will be by your side, and
you'll realize that, oh, I'm meant to be with this person,
like I'm meant to have a friendship with this person,
Like it feels good, it feels entertaining, Like you want
to surround yourself with people that actually bring out the
best side of you. Right, So I think that's definitely
something that's difficult in your twenties, is the friendship breakups
and just like not really understanding why you're outgrowing these
certain people.
Speaker 2: But we're all human, we all grow up.
Speaker 1: To be a specific person and sometimes it's different, and
that's okay. Like know that there is going to be
the right people by your side and that it will
feel so natural, and it will feel so good and
you'll enjoy the company. And I think also when you
get into your later twenties, you actually realize that your
smaller group of friends is better than a big group
of friends, Like you want to keep you know, the
close ones to you and understand that it's okay to
have a small group of friends and not need like
twenty five girlfriends.
Speaker 2: I do have a.
Speaker 1: Big group of girls, but I would say that I
am closer to like a specific four to five girls
that I consider my best best friends. As you get older,
you realize how busy life is, and you know, I
don't have kids yet, but I know as soon as
I have kids, it's going to be even harder to
like make those efforts of seeing your friends and showing
up and also realizing that there's going to be friends
for different reasons. Like I feel like in my early twenties,
I felt like had my go to girls and that
was it, whereas like now I feel like I have
so many friends for so many different reasons. I have
friends from my sports, I have friends from you know,
my pilates classes. I have my friends from my childhood,
Like there's so many different reasons for different friendships and
that's okay, and that's so normal, and I think that's
so great to have friends for different reasons. And I hope,
you know, when I'm a new mom, maybe you'll have
new mom friends and I'll meet them through you know,
some tip of music class or swim lessons or whatever.
Speaker 2: Right, so you'll have friends in different groups.
Speaker 1: And I think that's super healthy, and I think that's
so great to have different types of friendships.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's kind of like.
Speaker 1: What I've learned about friendships throughout my twenties is just
knowing that people will outgrow you, and that not everything
is meant to last forever, and that you will be
with the right people and you'll realize who the right
people are as you get older. Another lesson I've learned
is the right people will make life easier, not harder.
Speaker 2: This is so freaking true. I felt like my.
Speaker 1: Life got better when the toxic friendships kind of got
out of my life. I started to create kind of
like a smaller circle for myself. I felt like, I,
I don't know, just like saw life in a different
way when I started to put myself first and surrounding
myself with people who I actually enjoy spending time with.
It's just like really important to like cut out the
toxic people and not feel like you need to continuously
have them in your life and know that the good
energy and the good people in your life are.
Speaker 2: Going to give you that good energy that you want.
Speaker 1: Right, So I think it's important too, really just like
cut ends with people who don't bring that positive aspect
that you want in your life, and that your life
will get better when you are with the right people
and it will get easier to You could also think
of like a toxic boyfriend, Like if you feel like
you're not like seeing that future or you're not seeing
you know, that progress that you wanted in your life,
and maybe there's something that's holding you back, and that
could be because you might be with someone that might
not be the right fit for you. And so I
feel like when you find your person, everything just feels
right and the path feels right, the growth feels right,
and you're all in alignment with your future goals. And
I think it's such an important factor of like, when
you are looking for your person and your boyfriend or
your partner, it's important to have someone that is growing
with you and making life easier as well.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I just thought I.
Speaker 1: Would throw that in there as well, because it's not
just about like the people you surround yourself with when
it comes to friends, but it's also like the spouse
that you decide to choose and marry, and that partner
that you want to be with is definitely going to
help you in your life as well and.
Speaker 2: Just make everything so much esier.
Speaker 1: Another lesson I've learned is that you don't need to
have your life all figured out in your twenties.
Speaker 2: Most people are figuring it out as they go.
Speaker 1: This is kind of similar to the whole job thing,
like know that your job will come and you will
know when it does come to you at.
Speaker 2: The right time.
Speaker 1: And another thing that's kind of made me realize, where,
you know, I'm trying to figure life out still and
figure out like where it's going to go.
Speaker 2: Is my whole like prepping for pregnancy.
Speaker 1: I've always had this massive fear of getting pregnant, and
I kind of came to the realization that I just
need to do it in my own timeline and not
force anything because I feel like some people just jump
right into it, which is so fine if you feel
ready to do. So that's great, but I have never
felt ready until now, Like I have not had that
feeling where I'm like, oh, like I want to have
a baby so badly. Like I feel like I know
some girlfriends of mine personally who are like born to
be a mother, Like they just like they felt the
drive to have a kid immediately, which is so amazing
and so cool. And sometimes I'm like, I wish I
had that drive of like wanting to become a mom
or have that instant feeling of knowing when that was
going to be. And I'd realized that, like everyone's timeline
is different and that, you know, my feeling of like
wanting that just is taking longer, and my feeling of
like wanting motherhood and like wanting to become pregnant is
just coming at a later time for me. And that's okay,
And yeah, I've just kind of accepted that, and I'm
just trying to also find ways, like how can I
grow myself in a way where I feel mentally ready
to take on this part of my life.
Speaker 2: So it's okay to not have it figured it out.
Speaker 1: I still don't have it figured out, and I'm still
trying to figure it out, but you know, life will
go on and you will learn and you will figure
out that you will eventually like feel this urge of
like knowing when you're ready to take on a newly
of faith or a new journey.
Speaker 2: And I just really.
Speaker 1: Always believe in signs and just kind of like always
again going back to trusting your guy of knowing when
things feel right. So I'm a firm believer in that.
And for me, that's like how I feel like I
really try and navigate my life and my goals in life,
and it's just something that I've always kind of done
for myself.
Speaker 2: This lesson is probably the first lesson that.
Speaker 1: I've learned, honestly this specific year of being twenty nine,
and that is rest is also something that we consider productive.
And I think rest is something that I've made a
huge commitment for myself this year because I've always been
that kind of person that loves to be go, go go.
I feel like I'm always like on the go, wanting
to do things like keeping myself busy, and as soon
as I got my back injury and as soon as
I felt like I put too much on my plate
when it came to like work, buying a house, you know,
getting married, Like so many things happened in such a
short period of time that I felt like my body
was telling me, you need to take a step back
and you need to rest. Like the fact you're injuring yourself,
the fact you're not listening to your body. You need
to find ways to relax, and you need to understand
that it's important to rest and it's important to take
breaks because if you don't take those breaks, then.
Speaker 2: Like bad things are going to happen.
Speaker 1: Right, And so, going back to the back injury, I
overdid it and I'm learning now that I shouldn't have
done that, And so I have taken almost two to
three months off working out completely, and that was really
really tough on me mentally. Eventually I found some type
of routine for myself that worked, and I'm still trying
to figure out a routine for myself. Like I've gone
from working out five to six times a week to
like three times a week if I'm lucky, and I've
realized that that's okay, and that slowing down has actually
benefited me so much.
Speaker 2: I am feeling so good from.
Speaker 1: Taking the break and understanding what my body actually needs
some people, you know, need the five times a week
and others don't write and never say never. I don't
know a five years from now I'll be able to
do four to five times a week.
Speaker 2: Again, I have no way.
Speaker 1: But right now my calling is to slow down and
to work out a little bit less and that's okay.
And I'm realizing that my body just needs the rest
right now, and I'm enjoying that, and I'm understanding that
it's so so important to just like really rest and
like realize how important it is for yourself to just
like relax, chill and not stress. I've also tried to
really take on meditation, I've really been trying to get
into yoga, just trying to find ways to relax my body,
going to the spaw War, booking massages like once again,
just really trying to make rest a priority and really
just slowing down my life, which I think is so
so important. Eventually, I'll realize that I feel like in
your late twenties that it's important for life to slow
down a bit, and yeah, just something that I've learned
now and not something that I learned in my early twenties.
Another lesson is you can start over. Multiple times, and
you can do everything right and still you'll not get
the outcome that you wanted.
Speaker 2: I've had so.
Speaker 1: Many moments in my life where you know, some things
have failed, or there's been things where I, you know,
want to try again or do something different and they
just don't work out. I feel like failure is a
source of motivation for myself. I see failure as Okay,
what can I do better? How can I improve? What
can I do different? And I always look back at
those moments in my life where I, did, you know,
try so hard for something and I didn't succeed, But
I never stopped, like, I never stopped believing in myself.
I always used things that I've failed in my life
as a source of motivation.
Speaker 2: So I always think there's something that can be improved on.
Speaker 1: I always think there's something that we can, you know,
push ourselves to do better at. And sometimes it's okay
to do something multiple times in order to get things right.
So that's definitely something that I've learned and something that
I feel like has been throughout my entire twenties. Is
just kind of going through this rollercoaster of like seeing
failure but using it as my source of motivation to
like get myself back up and seeing the success that
it turns.
Speaker 2: Out to be eventually.
Speaker 1: Right, So just know that it's okay to go on
your own timeline and that you can do it again
if you failed, and that there's no one stopping you
right like you do what you think is best for yourself.
And yeah, that's just something that I wanted to chat about.
Another lesson is no one is thinking about you as
much as you think. This is such an important lesson
to learn because I have been a chronic overthinker for
my entire life. Essentially, like I feel like something goes
wrong in a conversation that I've had with someone and
I start overthinking.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, I shouldn't have said that.
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking so much into this one conversation that
I had with a friend when I'm telling you right
now that one person probably isn't thinking about that conversation.
They probably literally didn't even think twice of it. And
so so this is something that I feel like I'm
still working on. I think that's something that a lot
of people can work on. Is just like not overthinking
and thinking too much of it, but you are really
the only person that cares so much, Like everybody cares
about themselves, right like, not everyone's going to over care
about something that you said to them or something that
you thought may have impacted the relationship or whatever.
Speaker 2: Right like, you are thinking about it so much.
Speaker 1: More than that person is, and yeah, just don't overthink,
don't overstress. I'm still working on it, and I'm not
going to say I'm perfect at it right now, but
definitely something that I am. I'm definitely an overthinker and
I'm just constantly trying to improve that for myself, and
that is something that I'm still working on and that's okay.
Another one is being uncomfortable usually means you're growing, and
that is something that I'm definitely going through right now.
I have been very uncomfortable these past few months going
into this year because I feel like there's been a
lot of change.
Speaker 2: Obviously, the thought of moving has definitely hit me.
Speaker 1: You know, moving into a new house I'm really really
excited for, but I also know that it's leaving something
behind and this house here, we've built so many amazing
memories with you know, be engaged, getting Freddie, being married.
You know, I don't know there's just like so many
amazing things about this house that I'm very like emotional
about thinking about it because it just means so much
to us. It's our first house that we ever bought,
and I know it's going to be really really hard
to leave, but I know that it's important to move
on to the next. Another one has been obviously, like
understanding that I'm turning thirty and that I'm leaving my
twenties kind of something that's.
Speaker 2: Been hard to understand and grasp.
Speaker 1: But I know thirties are going to be the best
years yet and something that I'm trying to really look
forward to and see that excitement. And then also just
like the uncomfortable thought of like again starting a family
and all that, Like I'm scared because I know my
life is going to change a lot. I am a
very work driven individual that really does love my job,
but you know, taking home responsibility obviously of like raising
a child is definitely scary, but also something that I've
always wanted. I've always wanted to be a mom, I've
always wanted to have a family with Zach, and so
I know this is my calling and something that I
just need to build the courage of doing even though
I am terrified, I am excited. So something that I've
definitely like, you know, have grown a lot in honestly,
within this past year, this has been like something that
I've been really working towards and I finally feel you know,
ready and excited and anyway, it's just something that I
kind of wanted to open up about because I feel like, yeah,
it's something that's always really hard when you're like uncomfortable
with change and you're uncomfortable with things that are new,
and that just means that you are growing. And that's
something that I've really learned these past few years, and
I'm trying to see growth as an exciting thing as well,
not something to be scared of, but excitement and you know, again,
better things just come as.
Speaker 2: You continue to make changes.
Speaker 1: Another one is the way you talk to yourself actually matters.
And you guys know that I have pushed positive self
talk so much and that when you bring negative energy
to yourself, it's going to create negative vibes in general.
Speaker 2: Like it's just the reality.
Speaker 1: So it's so important to not be so hard on
yourself and realize that the way you talk to yourself
really does make a huge impact in yourself and your
mental health, and why it's so important to just speak
so highly about yourself. And that kind of goes into
the next lesson, which is ignoring your mental health doesn't
make it go away. Mental health is so crucial. If
I think about me in my early twenties, I know
for a fact I did not give two shits about
my mental health. Now it's something that I literally make
the biggest priority ever. If I'm feeling anxious and I'm
feeling like I'm overstressed or I need to take a
step back, like I fully will put work to the
side and focus on my mental health over anything else.
Like that, to me is the biggest priority. And so
you realize that as you get older. But your mental
health is so crucial and it plays such a huge
impact in your life, in your career, in anything really,
So definitely like making your mental health a huge priority
is something that I will always always stress about and
will always tell you that you always need to make
that first over.
Speaker 2: Anything else in life.
Speaker 1: And then the last lesson that I've learned is you
don't get your early twenties back, so stop waiting to live.
I personally tried to make my entire twenties, the years
of travel. I knew that traveling was such an important
thing in my life, and I have been to so
many incredible places and I don't regret any of it.
Spending my money on travel is truly the best thing ever.
Speaker 2: I feel like social media has definitely painted the.
Speaker 1: Picture of like everybody needs a burke in, everybody needs
a YSL handbag, everybody needs you know, designer handbag, blah
bah blah. Like if I could tell you to spend
your money on one thing, it would not be that,
it would be travel as much as you can. That
is what I think is worth every single penny. I
can hope. I hope my thirties are just as much
of a travel year for me. I hope I can
bring my kids to places and continue to do those
amazing things as a family. Like I don't ever want
to stop traveling, but I just want to say that,
like travel now as much as you can, because it
really is the best when it's in your twenties. I
can think of so many amazing memories of just like
traveling all of Europe with my husband, and like doing
so many fun things together, traveling with my sister, like,
I don't know, I don't regret any of it, and
I think it's so important and so crucial to just
do that and really make that a huge priority. So
I always think about, oh, what was my favorite memory of,
you know, when I was twenty six, or when I
always say a trip, like I always think of a
trip that brings back so many fun memories, and I
truly think that's, like, yeah, one of my favorite parts
of just like what I did in my twenties. So
those are all the lessons I feel like I've learned
throughout these past ten years of my twenties. But now
I want to talk about things that I'm taking into
my thirties, and there's still kind of lessons I guess
in a way, but one of them being I stopped
saying yes to things that I didn't.
Speaker 2: Want to go to. So if the girls are going
out to a bar, I don't want to go to
a bar. So if I don't want to go to
a bar, why am I saying yes?
Speaker 1: I say no to things that I don't want to do,
and I feel okay with saying no to those things.
I used to feel so forced to say yes to
do things because I'm like, oh, I'm gonna have fomo,
I'm gonna miss out whatever. Well, if I would rather
be in my bed, or if I you'd rather just
chill at my house, why am I forcing myself to
go out? So just really always tell yourself like, is
this worth going to? Is this something I actually want
to do? Is there any benefit out of doing this? No,
So don't force something that you don't want to do.
Realize that it's okay to protect your piece. It's okay
to stay home and not force yourself to do something
that you don't want to do.
Speaker 2: If you don't want to.
Speaker 1: Travel with someone, or you don't want to spend your
money on something. Again, it's okay to say no and
not do it. You have to do what you think
is best for yourself. The simple things in life are
truly just the best. And I think you also just
realize how important those simple things that you do on
a day to day basis. Another one is I stop
chasing people who aren't choosing me. Again, going back to friendships,
be with the people that you actually want to surround
yourself with. Let's not continue to be with someone that's
bringing toxic energy into our life. Another one is trusting
your own gut. That is probably the biggest thing that
I could take away from this is always trusting yourself
and no one else. And then the last one is
focusing more on the present instead of constantly.
Speaker 2: Chasing the next thing.
Speaker 1: It's so important to just really focus on the goals
that you want to achieve for yourself in this present
time first overthinking about those big goals that you want
in life and like years from now. It's important just
to take one step at a time because eventually you'll
get to that big goal that you want years to come,
but let's just focus on the present and focus on
things that we can currently do in our life.
Speaker 2: So that's kind of all.
Speaker 1: The things I really wanted to talk about in my
twenties and going into my thirties. I feel like my
twenties was definitely a rollercoaster. It was definitely years that
I was just trying to figure out my life. Obviously,
like I started off with not knowing what I was
going to do, and I'm ending off my twenties with
figuring my shit out and you know, being married and
seeing the success that has.
Speaker 2: Happened with my career.
Speaker 1: It truly has been such credible ten years, and I'm
so beyond grateful for all the opportunities and amazing memories
that I've created in my twenties. And I know my
thirties are going to be about choosing what actually matters.
Thirties are going to be the year that I just
you know, might still be figuring some stuff out.
Speaker 2: I hope it's just a year that I.
Speaker 1: Focus on the little things, the simple things, the things
that bring me so much joy. And yeah, i just
think my thirties are really going to be the year
that I love the most, to be honest, and I'm
so excited for the new chapters, the new opportunities, and
the new excitement that will be brought into my life.
Speaker 2: So that is today's episode. I hope you guys enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: I really wanted to just chat with you guys about
my journey, and for anyone that's currently in their twenties
or in their thirties, like comment down below something that
you may have learned throughout your life and it might
just create some inspiration for all of us.
Speaker 2: But I'm so grateful for.
Speaker 1: This community, and I'm so grateful for you guys being here,
So thank you so much for always tuning in and
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share everything.
Speaker 2: With you guys. So love you guys all so much.
Thanks for listening, and I will see you guys in
next week's episode.