Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged, heye.
Speaker 2: Zero, And this is vocal D frag. Vocal D fragging
is breaking it down. It's being truthful with yourself. It's
being honest with your shadows. We all have shadows. We
all have mindsets. We have ideas that come to us,
we have goals that leave us. Do we talk about
the transitions that we go through. The mindsets where things
feel like you've been poisoned, and yet your next step
couldn't have happened without stepping away, locating that time. Those
are shadows. So when I dfrag, the goal is to
ask the questions and then question the answers. I'm not
hard on myself. I just want to know who I am,
why I am, where I am, and then I place
myself in the public eye. I get to go out
and be with the community. I get to do things
because if I'm lacking trust and faith in my own
heart against myself, how can I have trust in faith
in the community. You see what I mean? Ask the questions,
question the answers. I happen to call it vocal D fragging.
I do it in two different places, one on paper,
because I do go back and study it. I study
the handwriting, and with vocal D fragging, it's an opportunity
to reach those that aren't anywhere near my journals. When
I talk to these people of fame about their defragging,
they go, I've never heard of this before. Why have
I never heard of this before? Well, I had to
figure out a way to kind of showcase what defragging
is and how important it is to ask the questions
and then question the answers. I'm not talking about asking
another person questions. I'm talking about you asking you questions
and then question that answer. This is vocal dfrag kind
of a tough subject this week, and the reason why
is because it deals with that little voice inside your
head and heart that says, I quit. That's right, I quit.
I can't do it anymore. I don't like the people
I'm with, I don't like the way that it puts
me in a mindset that kind of feels like it's
poisoning me. I just quit. Well, on paper this morning,
I openly admitted we're all quitters. Oh, don't even try
to deny it. We're all quitters and we do it
every week. We quit this, we quit that, and mostly
we quit because we don't have the time to do something,
so we quit. I have publicly admitted that one of
my biggest quits was putting paint on a canvas. It
was always a dream to have my artwork in galleries.
It made it, It made it, it was selling, and
then one day I had a bad show. It injured
me so spiritually that I said I quit, and I did,
and I haven't gone back. I still every now and
then have a desire to kind of, you know, sketch
out a few things on a piece of paper, you know,
doodle a little bit. But it's not the full fledged
artist that I was, because I really thought that my
calling was to put paint on a canvas. And I
do go back and look at the pictures of the
paintings that I no longer own. I sold them. That
was the dream to relinquish, to be the artist let
it move through you. But I quit it. People have
often accused me of quitting terrestrial radio. I'm a podcaster.
Oh yeah, but podcasters will tell you that Broadcasting is
not podcasting. It's a different league of its own. And
I did some research on that and it's all based
on Broadcasting is about the now. Podcasting is about Okay,
I can go and listen to it a year from now,
two years from now. With broadcasting, once it's been out
on that tower, you ain't getting it back. So you
have to ask yourself sometimes where are you in life?
And did quitting something open up a door for you? Now?
There are things that I wish that I would not
have quit, such as the painting on a canvas. Here's
my question for you, and I would love to hear
your answer. How do you unquit something that you've quit?
Because you know that you quit once, you're going to
quit easily a second time, a third time. How do
you unquit what you quit? Identify what you've quit, put
your thumb on it, say yep, yep, I pretty much
I quit that. And what happens is is that because
you know the identity of both sides of the fence,
meaning you know what it's like to score a victory
with what you really truly love in life. But you
quit because something didn't go right. You know that what's
going to happen is that as that quitter, you're going
to know that, Hey, I don't have to fear quitting,
because I know what happened the last time I was here,
unquitting a quit. I quit mowing my lawn in the
early part of the two thousands, and the reason why
is because I believe that my forest that we planted
seventeen hundred trees in it didn't need to look like
something that belonged on the cover of a magazine. I
wanted this forest around this lake, around this beautiful creek,
with all the deer, the owls, the hawks, the squirrels,
the snakes. It had to be one hundred percent natural.
So I quit mowing my lawn and let nature do
what nature does, and that in itself has allowed the
animals and every living, breathing piece of grass to have
a life. It grows in ways that inspires the heart
to be somewhere other than on that magazine cover. I'm
glad that I'm not mowing my lawn. But here's the thing.
In the process of allowing nature to have its purpose back,
the beauty of this forest puts joy in so many
people's hearts because they see this forest, they walk through
this forest. They live in this forest. More importantly, they're
creative in this forest. So I won't unquit the lawn mowing,
but will I unquit the painting on a canvas? I
mentioned that I do have my days of scribbling around,
But it's the fear of chasing that dream again. And
I think so many times the reason why people do
quit is because of the fear, the shame from others,
the doubt of others, the guilt trips that we put
ourselves through. We think we're mentally strong enough in order
to make our way through these storms. When one day
the storms are too much, it's too heavy, you become
weak in the soul, in the way of saying, I
can't give myself to this anymore. So I ask, what
have you quit recently? What did you quit ten years ago,
twenty years ago? Do you think you have the ability
to unquit it now that you know both sides of
the playing field. When I was in radio, I always
feared losing my job because I had never been on
the other side. I had never been unemployed for radio.
So for twenty six years I feared losing my job.
So I gave my everything to the industry that meant
putting in anywhere between fourteen and nineteen hours a day.
When it finally happened after twenty six years of radio,
I stood there in my house, in my studio that
I built, and I said, I feared it. Why what
happened here? I have this new sense of freedom. So
let's take it this way now. Okay, we're talking about
things that we have quit and what can we unquit.
What is something you should quit so that you can
find the time because so many things are placed in
our lives because we want to do this, we want
to do that, we have to do this. Well, I'm
going to keep up with the Jones and so we
better be doing this. Oh my god, I can't believe
that I missed that because I was doing this. What's
something in your life that you should quit in order
to get things done? If you hear something in your
heart and you find that I can't do it, I
don't have the time, or you face that wall that
says I'm just too old to do this. Now, No,
you're never too old. Never don't be the quitter unless
the quitting is going to benefit you. The person, the
person that has the ability to reach out and help
other people. What are you doing in life that maybe
you should quit? Set aside, allow things to grow in
its space so that you can have a place of
new birth, replenishing. I face that question every day. That's
the reason why I defrank. I ask the questions, and
I questioned the answers because that's how I live my
podcast life. I've only allowed myself so much time to
get the interviews done, to get the editing done, to
get the promotions done. I've only got a certain window.
I created that so that I can do other things.
And in the process of getting control of what is
stealing time, I've become a happier person. But I wasn't
happy while I was sitting there podcasting from seven in
the morning until eight o'clock at night. That's all I
was doing, was standing there in a studio thinking that
I was reaching the world. But when we got it
under control, I wasn't burned out anymore. Let me ask
you that question, what should you be quitting? That's burning
you out? But you don't want to stop because you
don't want to be a used to be. You don't
want to be a quitter. Asked the questions question the answers,
I'm MARYL. And that's spokal D Frank