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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged, heye.

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Speaker 2: Zero, And this is vocal D frag. Vocal D fragging

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is breaking it down. It's being truthful with yourself. It's

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being honest with your shadows. We all have shadows. We

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all have mindsets. We have ideas that come to us,

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we have goals that leave us. Do we talk about

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the transitions that we go through. The mindsets where things

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feel like you've been poisoned, and yet your next step

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couldn't have happened without stepping away, locating that time. Those

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are shadows. So when I dfrag, the goal is to

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ask the questions and then question the answers. I'm not

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hard on myself. I just want to know who I am,

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why I am, where I am, and then I place

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myself in the public eye. I get to go out

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and be with the community. I get to do things

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because if I'm lacking trust and faith in my own

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heart against myself, how can I have trust in faith

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in the community. You see what I mean? Ask the questions,

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question the answers. I happen to call it vocal D fragging.

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I do it in two different places, one on paper,

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because I do go back and study it. I study

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the handwriting, and with vocal D fragging, it's an opportunity

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to reach those that aren't anywhere near my journals. When

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I talk to these people of fame about their defragging,

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they go, I've never heard of this before. Why have

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I never heard of this before? Well, I had to

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figure out a way to kind of showcase what defragging

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is and how important it is to ask the questions

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and then question the answers. I'm not talking about asking

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another person questions. I'm talking about you asking you questions

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and then question that answer. This is vocal dfrag kind

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of a tough subject this week, and the reason why

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is because it deals with that little voice inside your

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head and heart that says, I quit. That's right, I quit.

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I can't do it anymore. I don't like the people

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I'm with, I don't like the way that it puts

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me in a mindset that kind of feels like it's

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poisoning me. I just quit. Well, on paper this morning,

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I openly admitted we're all quitters. Oh, don't even try

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to deny it. We're all quitters and we do it

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every week. We quit this, we quit that, and mostly

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we quit because we don't have the time to do something,

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so we quit. I have publicly admitted that one of

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my biggest quits was putting paint on a canvas. It

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was always a dream to have my artwork in galleries.

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It made it, It made it, it was selling, and

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then one day I had a bad show. It injured

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me so spiritually that I said I quit, and I did,

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and I haven't gone back. I still every now and

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then have a desire to kind of, you know, sketch

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out a few things on a piece of paper, you know,

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doodle a little bit. But it's not the full fledged

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artist that I was, because I really thought that my

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calling was to put paint on a canvas. And I

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do go back and look at the pictures of the

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paintings that I no longer own. I sold them. That

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was the dream to relinquish, to be the artist let

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it move through you. But I quit it. People have

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often accused me of quitting terrestrial radio. I'm a podcaster.

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Oh yeah, but podcasters will tell you that Broadcasting is

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not podcasting. It's a different league of its own. And

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I did some research on that and it's all based

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on Broadcasting is about the now. Podcasting is about Okay,

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I can go and listen to it a year from now,

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two years from now. With broadcasting, once it's been out

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on that tower, you ain't getting it back. So you

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have to ask yourself sometimes where are you in life?

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And did quitting something open up a door for you? Now?

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There are things that I wish that I would not

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have quit, such as the painting on a canvas. Here's

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my question for you, and I would love to hear

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your answer. How do you unquit something that you've quit?

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Because you know that you quit once, you're going to

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quit easily a second time, a third time. How do

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you unquit what you quit? Identify what you've quit, put

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your thumb on it, say yep, yep, I pretty much

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I quit that. And what happens is is that because

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you know the identity of both sides of the fence,

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meaning you know what it's like to score a victory

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with what you really truly love in life. But you

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quit because something didn't go right. You know that what's

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going to happen is that as that quitter, you're going

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to know that, Hey, I don't have to fear quitting,

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because I know what happened the last time I was here,

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unquitting a quit. I quit mowing my lawn in the

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early part of the two thousands, and the reason why

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is because I believe that my forest that we planted

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seventeen hundred trees in it didn't need to look like

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something that belonged on the cover of a magazine. I

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wanted this forest around this lake, around this beautiful creek,

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with all the deer, the owls, the hawks, the squirrels,

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the snakes. It had to be one hundred percent natural.

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So I quit mowing my lawn and let nature do

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what nature does, and that in itself has allowed the

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animals and every living, breathing piece of grass to have

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a life. It grows in ways that inspires the heart

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to be somewhere other than on that magazine cover. I'm

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glad that I'm not mowing my lawn. But here's the thing.

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In the process of allowing nature to have its purpose back,

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the beauty of this forest puts joy in so many

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people's hearts because they see this forest, they walk through

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this forest. They live in this forest. More importantly, they're

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creative in this forest. So I won't unquit the lawn mowing,

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but will I unquit the painting on a canvas? I

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mentioned that I do have my days of scribbling around,

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But it's the fear of chasing that dream again. And

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I think so many times the reason why people do

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quit is because of the fear, the shame from others,

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the doubt of others, the guilt trips that we put

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ourselves through. We think we're mentally strong enough in order

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to make our way through these storms. When one day

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the storms are too much, it's too heavy, you become

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weak in the soul, in the way of saying, I

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can't give myself to this anymore. So I ask, what

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have you quit recently? What did you quit ten years ago,

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twenty years ago? Do you think you have the ability

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to unquit it now that you know both sides of

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the playing field. When I was in radio, I always

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feared losing my job because I had never been on

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the other side. I had never been unemployed for radio.

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So for twenty six years I feared losing my job.

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So I gave my everything to the industry that meant

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putting in anywhere between fourteen and nineteen hours a day.

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When it finally happened after twenty six years of radio,

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I stood there in my house, in my studio that

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I built, and I said, I feared it. Why what

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happened here? I have this new sense of freedom. So

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let's take it this way now. Okay, we're talking about

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things that we have quit and what can we unquit.

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What is something you should quit so that you can

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find the time because so many things are placed in

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our lives because we want to do this, we want

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to do that, we have to do this. Well, I'm

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going to keep up with the Jones and so we

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better be doing this. Oh my god, I can't believe

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that I missed that because I was doing this. What's

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something in your life that you should quit in order

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to get things done? If you hear something in your

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heart and you find that I can't do it, I

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don't have the time, or you face that wall that

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says I'm just too old to do this. Now, No,

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you're never too old. Never don't be the quitter unless

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the quitting is going to benefit you. The person, the

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person that has the ability to reach out and help

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other people. What are you doing in life that maybe

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you should quit? Set aside, allow things to grow in

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its space so that you can have a place of

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new birth, replenishing. I face that question every day. That's

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the reason why I defrank. I ask the questions, and

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I questioned the answers because that's how I live my

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podcast life. I've only allowed myself so much time to

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get the interviews done, to get the editing done, to

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get the promotions done. I've only got a certain window.

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I created that so that I can do other things.

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And in the process of getting control of what is

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stealing time, I've become a happier person. But I wasn't

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happy while I was sitting there podcasting from seven in

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the morning until eight o'clock at night. That's all I

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was doing, was standing there in a studio thinking that

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I was reaching the world. But when we got it

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under control, I wasn't burned out anymore. Let me ask

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you that question, what should you be quitting? That's burning

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you out? But you don't want to stop because you

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don't want to be a used to be. You don't

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want to be a quitter. Asked the questions question the answers,

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I'm MARYL. And that's spokal D Frank