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<v Speaker 1>Yo, what's up, my fellow dopamine addicts. Zaden Cruz here

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<v Speaker 1>your host for the Dopamine d Docs, and let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you, this week's episode is hitting different. We're diving

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<v Speaker 1>deep into the shady world of people pleasing and how

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<v Speaker 1>it's basically a side hustle fueled by that sweet, sweet

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<v Speaker 1>dopamine rush. Ever, feel like your life is one giant

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<v Speaker 1>yes to everyone else, Like saying no is harder than

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<v Speaker 1>surviving finals week. Yeah, you're not alone. Welcome to the club, fam.

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<v Speaker 1>This ain't about becoming a robot who shuts down every

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<v Speaker 1>social interaction, though that sounds kind of tempting. Sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 1>about understanding how dopamine hijacked your brain and turned you

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<v Speaker 1>into a human yes machine. Think of it like this,

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<v Speaker 1>Each time you do something nice for someone else, your

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<v Speaker 1>brain releases dopamine, the feel good chemical, and guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>your brain is wired to crave that feeling. So you

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<v Speaker 1>start doing more and more nice things just to get

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<v Speaker 1>another hit of dopamine. But here's the catch. This cycle

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<v Speaker 1>becomes addictive. You start prioritizing other people's head happiness over

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<v Speaker 1>your own, leaving you drained, resentful and wondering where your

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<v Speaker 1>life went. Here are five key takeaways my friends, to

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<v Speaker 1>help you break free from this people pleasing prison. One

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<v Speaker 1>recognize the cycle. First things. First, admitted you're a dopamine addict.

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<v Speaker 1>Just kidding, but seriously, be honest with yourself about how

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<v Speaker 1>often you say yes out of obligation rather than genuine desire.

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<v Speaker 1>Track those yes moments and see if they're aligned with

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<v Speaker 1>your values and goals. Two. Boundaries are bay. Think of

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<v Speaker 1>boundaries like your personal Wi Fi password. You get to

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<v Speaker 1>choose who gets access and what level of access they have.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying no doesn't make you a bad person, It makes

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<v Speaker 1>you responsible. One. It's about protecting your energy and prioritizing

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<v Speaker 1>your own well being. Three. Reframe no. Stop thinking of

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<v Speaker 1>no as a rejection. Think of it as a redirection.

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<v Speaker 1>You're redirecting your energy to things that actually matter to you. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>saying no sometimes means saying yes to something better like

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<v Speaker 1>self care. Are pursuing your passions. Four Your worth is

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<v Speaker 1>not measured by other people's approval. Let me drop some

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<v Speaker 1>truth bombs. Your value as a human being is not

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<v Speaker 1>determined by how many people you please. You are worthy

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<v Speaker 1>and valuable simply because you exist, regardless of what anyone

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<v Speaker 1>else thinks. Don't let that dopamine rush dictate your self worth. Five.

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<v Speaker 1>Practice self compassion. This seemed about becoming a ruthless dictator

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<v Speaker 1>who ignores everyone's feelings. It's about practicing kindness towards yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Be patient with the process, celebrate small wins, and remember

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing great. You know that feeling when you see

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<v Speaker 1>your favorite influencers suddenly become woke and start preaching about

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<v Speaker 1>self love after years of promoting unrealistic beauty standards. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm talking about. Sometimes, even those who seem

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<v Speaker 1>to have it all struggle with people pleasing tendencies. Take

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<v Speaker 1>Emma Watson for example. She's a global icon an actress, model, activist,

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<v Speaker 1>and basically a walking embodiment of gen Z goals. But

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<v Speaker 1>behind the flawless Instagram feed, she was secretly battling imposter

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<v Speaker 1>syndrome and the pressure to please everyone. In interviews, she's

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<v Speaker 1>spoken about feeling overwhelmed by expectations and constantly trying to

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<v Speaker 1>live up to an idealized version of herself. Sound familiar,

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<v Speaker 1>Emma's story is a reminder that even those who appear

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<v Speaker 1>to have it all can struggle with people pleasing It

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<v Speaker 1>shows us that vulnerability is strength, and that seeking help

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<v Speaker 1>when we need it is not a sign of weakness

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<v Speaker 1>but a testament to our self awareness. Listen, you're amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you're constantly chasing the dopamine rush of people pleasing,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll never truly reach your full potential. So here's your

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<v Speaker 1>call to action. Choose yourself first, set those boundaries, say

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<v Speaker 1>no without guilt, and remember that your happiness is worth prioritizing.

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<v Speaker 1>Head over to tik Tok and stitch this episode with

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts. Tag me at Zaiden Cruz so I can

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<v Speaker 1>share the podcast with your squad. Let's spread the dopamine

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<v Speaker 1>deto's love Peace out, my friends. This podcast is created

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<v Speaker 1>with the help of Advanced a I to deliver thoughtful

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<v Speaker 1>affirmations and positive messages just for you.