WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:00:07.040 S woo some beautiful people. 2 00:00:07.040 --> 00:00:09.240 It is your baby Mama's favorite baby Mama, Stormy Pe 3 00:00:09.439 --> 00:00:12.679 And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip 4 00:00:13.000 --> 00:00:16.239 the modern day female perspective. Duramn sung back at it again. 5 00:00:17.120 --> 00:00:19.640 And if you're watching on YouTube, New said who it is? 6 00:00:20.039 --> 00:00:21.679 New said who it is? Y'all. 7 00:00:21.679 --> 00:00:24.239 First of all, shout out to Shot. He like did 8 00:00:24.399 --> 00:00:27.160 all this shit in like a day. So yeah, and 9 00:00:27.280 --> 00:00:30.519 I'm really excited if you're watching on YouTube, because I 10 00:00:30.559 --> 00:00:32.359 have a whole bunch of nerves stuff that you guys 11 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:34.039 can look at now and get a better view of 12 00:00:34.520 --> 00:00:38.520 my my little pink fluorescent globe and my storm thunder 13 00:00:38.600 --> 00:00:41.840 roll until my story got camera camera. Shot also has 14 00:00:41.840 --> 00:00:44.520 a new camera. Shot has a new camera. Shot has 15 00:00:44.560 --> 00:00:49.960 a new camera. You know. It's springs spirits anew And 16 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:53.039 today I wanted to come to you guys to talking 17 00:00:53.240 --> 00:01:00.520 about a reset. Let me hear you say it reset four. Myself, 18 00:01:00.600 --> 00:01:02.679 I felt like I was moving, like I was healing, 19 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:07.840 like I'm working through and I'm applying and I'm really 20 00:01:07.879 --> 00:01:12.040 fixing myself twenty twenty five. I need all them benefits, 21 00:01:12.040 --> 00:01:15.319 big dog. Okay, this is the reward era. Okay, we 22 00:01:15.319 --> 00:01:17.400 always say these conversations about healing, but we don't have 23 00:01:17.480 --> 00:01:19.359 enough conversation about the reward era. 24 00:01:19.799 --> 00:01:21.680 And that's where I'm in right now. 25 00:01:21.840 --> 00:01:25.560 I put in my work and I need all the benefits, Okay, 26 00:01:26.040 --> 00:01:27.680 and that's what we're going to talk about today. You know, 27 00:01:27.920 --> 00:01:30.840 it's just a personal check kit, taking the time space 28 00:01:31.359 --> 00:01:34.799 and you know, honesty to say, like, yo, actually I'm 29 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:35.519 not resetting. 30 00:01:36.120 --> 00:01:38.920 I'm just entering as the main character. Yeah. 31 00:01:39.159 --> 00:01:42.079 Yeah, I'm walking in alignment. Right, it's not a reset. 32 00:01:42.519 --> 00:01:45.400 I'm walking in alignment. That's what we're doing today. Don't 33 00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:46.840 get me wrong. It's still going to be some off 34 00:01:46.840 --> 00:01:49.200 the wall type stuff that we're used to, but I 35 00:01:49.239 --> 00:01:51.680 really want to focus on this walking in your purpose 36 00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:53.760 and walking in alignment and reaping the benefits of the 37 00:01:53.799 --> 00:01:56.799 work that you've done on yourself because you deserve king 38 00:01:57.239 --> 00:02:00.599 and you deserve queen, and I'm a paya. I feel 39 00:02:00.599 --> 00:02:03.959 like this is for anybody who has ever felt like 40 00:02:04.040 --> 00:02:07.439 they needed permission to glow up emotionally. 41 00:02:07.719 --> 00:02:08.759 Spoiler alert, you don't. 42 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:12.840 Sometimes you just needed affirmation if I deserve this and 43 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:16.280 this is what should be coming to me. So that's like, 44 00:02:16.280 --> 00:02:19.159 but today, friends, I know it's been a while I missy'all. 45 00:02:19.159 --> 00:02:20.479 Did y'all miss me? Right? 46 00:02:20.639 --> 00:02:22.319 Like, if you follow me on social media, I'm sure 47 00:02:22.360 --> 00:02:24.599 you know I've been You saw that I've been touching. Go, 48 00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:27.719 but we're back at it. Yeah, like a crack added 49 00:02:28.360 --> 00:02:32.199 not maybe not like a a crack. So let's start 50 00:02:32.280 --> 00:02:36.639 to the next point. Let's just go. Let's just go. 51 00:02:36.960 --> 00:02:38.599 We're gonna we're gonna go. We're gonna go to the 52 00:02:38.599 --> 00:02:39.000 next point. 53 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:42.840 Right, this is not a reset, it's a realignment. I 54 00:02:42.879 --> 00:02:48.120 want you all to receive that. Receive that, right, that's 55 00:02:48.159 --> 00:02:50.840 the received dance. That's also my therapist earned her money 56 00:02:50.879 --> 00:02:53.680 this week dance. Okay, that's where we are. 57 00:02:54.479 --> 00:02:56.240 Like, I want to. 58 00:02:58.400 --> 00:03:01.280 Stop calling it starting over. A lot of times when 59 00:03:01.319 --> 00:03:03.879 we start making these changes in our lives, it's like, oh, 60 00:03:03.960 --> 00:03:06.319 a new year, knew me who this is. I'm starting over, 61 00:03:06.520 --> 00:03:09.800 new season is up? Like, baby, No, you're not starting over. 62 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:12.960 You're not. You're not starting from zero. 63 00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:16.960 You're starting with experience, You're starting with pain, You're starting 64 00:03:17.039 --> 00:03:19.879 with a red flag radar. Okay, and if you're like me, 65 00:03:19.960 --> 00:03:21.199 you're starting with some new bundos. 66 00:03:21.280 --> 00:03:24.680 Okay. Like it's a thing, it's a blacking thing. 67 00:03:24.840 --> 00:03:26.520 The crazy party is, Like, y'all, I really was at 68 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:28.479 a point where I felt like I had to deactivate 69 00:03:28.520 --> 00:03:34.599 everything like apps, gone, Instagram, go on phone, face down, playlist, 70 00:03:35.199 --> 00:03:37.879 R and B music and gospel remixes, great. 71 00:03:37.719 --> 00:03:41.360 As come man. That was me, like Sun Up, Sundown, 72 00:03:41.479 --> 00:03:42.840 Sun Up, sign down, like. 73 00:03:42.840 --> 00:03:45.800 I have never had so many melodies from Heaven in 74 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:50.199 my life, Okay. And then one day after I was 75 00:03:51.280 --> 00:03:55.520 realizing that, yo, I have cried, I have blocked, I 76 00:03:55.560 --> 00:03:59.319 have spiraled, I have journals. One day it really hit me, like, bro, 77 00:04:01.599 --> 00:04:06.879 I'm not starting over. I'm just moving up from dating down. 78 00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:08.400 Snap snap snap. 79 00:04:08.960 --> 00:04:12.680 That's one thing, right, because we don't like to acknowledge 80 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:14.400 that sometimes we be dating down, y'all. 81 00:04:14.639 --> 00:04:16.279 We don't. Everybody's the best. 82 00:04:16.439 --> 00:04:19.319 They've only had the best, They've only done the best, 83 00:04:19.360 --> 00:04:22.680 Like nobody has any faults. I'm not gonna lie your 84 00:04:22.680 --> 00:04:25.519 girl looked around and realized she was dating down. I 85 00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:28.639 don't mean like you know he stayed with his mom 86 00:04:28.759 --> 00:04:33.279 dating down, or like you know he got two pairs 87 00:04:33.279 --> 00:04:37.720 of jeans dating down, but still dating down, Okay, still 88 00:04:37.800 --> 00:04:40.240 dating down. And I was at the point where I 89 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:42.720 felt like, y'all, I had to fix something like maybe 90 00:04:42.759 --> 00:04:46.240 if I did in my life a little bit, like 91 00:04:46.600 --> 00:04:49.800 you know, maybe if I'm just a little quieter, or 92 00:04:50.079 --> 00:04:52.879 maybe if like I softened a little bit more, maybe 93 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:54.600 if I didn't talk with my hands as much. 94 00:04:54.680 --> 00:04:58.879 Okay, maybe if I was a ride or die. Okay, baby, 95 00:04:58.920 --> 00:05:02.319 I almost died. I'm not her. I'm not her. 96 00:05:02.680 --> 00:05:05.439 And you know what else, I realized your person wouldn't 97 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:09.800 have you out here looking crazy piano rid either, So yeah, you. 98 00:05:09.759 --> 00:05:13.040 Know, I'm I'm I just I had to. I had to. 99 00:05:13.160 --> 00:05:14.959 I had to let it go. I had to let 100 00:05:14.959 --> 00:05:18.759 it go the absolute bare minimum I was. I was. 101 00:05:19.160 --> 00:05:21.720 I was dating the bare minimum. I was dating and 102 00:05:21.800 --> 00:05:26.000 allowing and moving in the bare minimum. And because I 103 00:05:26.040 --> 00:05:28.920 still had like some sort of boundary, it made me 104 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:31.439 believe I was still standing on business and I was 105 00:05:31.439 --> 00:05:32.160 still getting better. 106 00:05:32.160 --> 00:05:39.319 But it's like, nah, I wasn't. I wasn't. I wasn't spoiler, 107 00:05:39.680 --> 00:05:40.759 I fucking wasn't. 108 00:05:40.839 --> 00:05:46.519 I just I realized that I was entertaining people and 109 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:49.319 wanted to be chose by people who wasn't even choosing 110 00:05:49.360 --> 00:05:52.279 themselves for real. And it's like, nah, I'm not walking 111 00:05:52.319 --> 00:05:57.000 in chaos, I'm only walking in peace. I am choosing peace. Luxury, 112 00:05:57.279 --> 00:05:59.240 soft landings and for head kisses. 113 00:05:59.399 --> 00:06:02.399 That's all. That's all. That's all we're receiving right now. 114 00:06:02.600 --> 00:06:06.959 And reciprocity, a most importantly reciprocity right anything that doesn't 115 00:06:07.000 --> 00:06:09.480 enjoin my soul, that's how we're moving right now. 116 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:10.279 That's sitting, that's all. 117 00:06:10.399 --> 00:06:12.759 If and when love does come, I have to remind 118 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:14.040 myself that it will not be draining. 119 00:06:14.519 --> 00:06:17.759 Right. It doesn't have to be easy, but baby, it 120 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:19.079 damn sure can't be exhausting. 121 00:06:19.920 --> 00:06:25.199 That cannot be it until someone is able to match 122 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:27.399 my level of consistency and reciprocity. 123 00:06:27.560 --> 00:06:30.199 I am fine being by myself. 124 00:06:29.839 --> 00:06:33.279 Right, and I'm going to be actively avoiding men who 125 00:06:33.319 --> 00:06:34.199 don't believe in titles. 126 00:06:34.279 --> 00:06:34.759 That's not me. 127 00:06:35.040 --> 00:06:38.199 I'm somebody fine ass fit as funny ass wife. They 128 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:40.560 just ain't find me yet. So if you don't believe 129 00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:42.319 in titles, I'm still not to go for you. The 130 00:06:42.360 --> 00:06:45.360 main reason I can't entertain that bs no more like 131 00:06:45.360 --> 00:06:49.000 bro therapy is one hundred dollars, get the fuck out 132 00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:49.480 my face. 133 00:06:49.759 --> 00:06:54.120 Like honestly, you two are becoming a bill, sir. I 134 00:06:54.120 --> 00:06:55.079 can't fuck with it. 135 00:06:55.199 --> 00:06:57.680 Like no, if you are on a similar journey, I 136 00:06:57.759 --> 00:06:59.199 want you to know that you are not alone. 137 00:06:59.519 --> 00:07:00.079 Okay. 138 00:07:00.279 --> 00:07:02.439 I want you to know that you are not starting over. 139 00:07:02.759 --> 00:07:06.360 You're just done cosplaying as a Bill de bay intern Okay. 140 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:09.519 And I want you to know that standing in your 141 00:07:09.600 --> 00:07:12.519 worth will allow you to eventually reap all the benefits 142 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:14.600 you deserve. Don't forget to make sure they be aligned 143 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:15.879 with your spiritual beliefs. 144 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:16.680 Absolutely. 145 00:07:16.839 --> 00:07:18.639 I already told you if you don't believe in Jesus 146 00:07:18.720 --> 00:07:20.360 Davante Christ, I'm not the one for you. 147 00:07:20.920 --> 00:07:24.639 I'm That's it. That's it. Heavy on a Davante too. 148 00:07:25.199 --> 00:07:30.319 That's his name. Y'all got that? The new King James version. 149 00:07:30.360 --> 00:07:33.279 Y'all ain't seen that. No, it's right in here. That's 150 00:07:33.279 --> 00:07:33.600 his name. 151 00:07:33.639 --> 00:07:35.600 So what does that look like? What does that mean 152 00:07:35.720 --> 00:07:38.600 moving forward? It means that I'm going to stop apologizing 153 00:07:38.639 --> 00:07:41.120 for things. And I've actually compiled the list because who 154 00:07:41.120 --> 00:07:41.920 does love a last? 155 00:07:42.079 --> 00:07:43.000 As a last? 156 00:07:43.360 --> 00:07:46.959 Things I'm not apologizing for in twenty twenty five. Number one, 157 00:07:47.079 --> 00:07:48.639 I'm not explaining my boundaries. 158 00:07:48.680 --> 00:07:53.560 Twice I say what I said. I'm not explaining my boundaries. 159 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:58.800 Twice we wrong. I said what I said. I don't 160 00:07:58.839 --> 00:08:02.079 know what part of it. 161 00:08:01.199 --> 00:08:02.199 Is not clicking. 162 00:08:03.439 --> 00:08:05.879 It just don't work for me. If you are not consistent, 163 00:08:06.879 --> 00:08:10.959 I'm not interested. Okay, that's it, It's simple. I feel 164 00:08:11.000 --> 00:08:15.439 like that makes sense. Number two, I don't care what 165 00:08:15.759 --> 00:08:18.680 is going on in the world. There is never going 166 00:08:18.720 --> 00:08:20.920 to be a time where I want to come to 167 00:08:21.040 --> 00:08:24.319 your house to chill and catch a vibe. For the 168 00:08:24.319 --> 00:08:27.879 first link, never, I don't never want to do it. 169 00:08:28.600 --> 00:08:32.120 Never. Never, I will never. 170 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:36.919 Want to come to your house to chill and catch 171 00:08:36.919 --> 00:08:38.919 a vibe. I don't care how much to killing you got. 172 00:08:39.080 --> 00:08:40.960 I don't care how much Mary Jane you got. I 173 00:08:40.960 --> 00:08:45.399 don't even that's not even me. I will never I 174 00:08:45.399 --> 00:08:47.840 don't want to and don't get me wrong. The only 175 00:08:47.879 --> 00:08:50.799 reason I feel like these things keep popping up or 176 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:54.240 keep happening with like women is because there's a large 177 00:08:54.279 --> 00:08:55.159 majority of women. 178 00:08:55.000 --> 00:08:56.039 Who accept those things. 179 00:08:56.200 --> 00:08:58.519 That's fine, no shade to them, But baby, I ain't 180 00:08:58.600 --> 00:09:01.000 one of them. Never, I will never want to do it. 181 00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:04.960 Next things, I'm no longer apologizing for twenty twenty. 182 00:09:04.759 --> 00:09:11.320 Five loving loudly and expecting that same energy back. What listen? 183 00:09:11.799 --> 00:09:16.039 Are you bare minimum bros? I'm not the girl for you. 184 00:09:16.200 --> 00:09:19.120 I am a lover girl. I like romance, Okay, I 185 00:09:19.200 --> 00:09:22.399 like touching feely. Okay, I like showing you I appreciate you. 186 00:09:22.559 --> 00:09:24.759 I like showing you I'm interested in you. Let me 187 00:09:24.840 --> 00:09:26.600 let me, let me pay for a haircut, let me 188 00:09:26.639 --> 00:09:28.480 send you some lunch money. What you want to do, bab, 189 00:09:28.519 --> 00:09:30.480 don't worry about I got it. Like how can I 190 00:09:30.519 --> 00:09:32.519 make your life easier? Let me pray for you? 191 00:09:32.879 --> 00:09:36.919 That's me. If you cannot reciprocate, If this. 192 00:09:37.000 --> 00:09:41.440 Is not your speed, okay, leave me alone, because you 193 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:42.080 know what I'm gonna do. 194 00:09:42.679 --> 00:09:44.799 I'm gonna leave your absoloone. Okay. 195 00:09:44.960 --> 00:09:50.360 I don't understand what part of reciprocity has become such 196 00:09:50.399 --> 00:09:54.159 a mundane concept. Reciprocity don't exist anymore, and that's because 197 00:09:54.840 --> 00:09:57.960 too many of us are accepting the bare minimum, bros. 198 00:09:58.200 --> 00:10:01.559 So where's become a novel concept? It has? Next? 199 00:10:01.720 --> 00:10:04.279 I feel like Johnny Cochrane because I'm like rhyming a lot. 200 00:10:04.320 --> 00:10:06.399 But this is by accident. I didn't even peep next one. 201 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:11.159 If our values don't align, I'm not wasting my time. 202 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:14.840 You can't be mine. Thank you, shd Come on, come 203 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:15.279 on now. 204 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:17.840 If you are not spiritual, you don't believe in marriage, 205 00:10:17.919 --> 00:10:20.159 you don't want to have work, kids, Okay, you don't 206 00:10:20.519 --> 00:10:22.440 raise your kids the same way that I believe in 207 00:10:22.519 --> 00:10:26.679 raising kids, Like if you don't believe in household responsibilities 208 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:27.240 and how they. 209 00:10:27.159 --> 00:10:30.000 Are defined, I'm not the girl for you, and it's cool. 210 00:10:30.200 --> 00:10:33.080 There's somebody for you. I'm just not her last one. 211 00:10:33.159 --> 00:10:37.240 I need peace, not performance. I want you to do 212 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:39.919 things because you actually want to do things, not because 213 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:43.039 you're trying to impress me or because you think it 214 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:46.039 will get you further than what you actually are. If 215 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:55.919 it's not real, I'm not reacting. If it's not real, 216 00:10:56.120 --> 00:10:58.960 I'm not reacting. I know some people feel like they 217 00:10:58.960 --> 00:11:01.840 gotta love bomb and gotta go above and beyond. 218 00:11:01.519 --> 00:11:04.600 And they gotta they gotta you hear it like I'm 219 00:11:04.840 --> 00:11:06.279 I'm looking looking. 220 00:11:09.600 --> 00:11:12.600 I don't need theatrics. I need consistency, baby, and I'm 221 00:11:12.600 --> 00:11:14.960 not gonna lie. If you do this right off the back, 222 00:11:15.000 --> 00:11:17.240 like oh you just do that for everybody, that makes 223 00:11:17.240 --> 00:11:21.559 it a little less special. I know, girls are the rules. 224 00:11:21.600 --> 00:11:25.360 It's always something right. As we're moving into this new 225 00:11:25.399 --> 00:11:28.720 season of realignment, we have to acknowledge a few things. 226 00:11:28.799 --> 00:11:31.399 You know, new rules, new vibe, ne me number one. 227 00:11:31.480 --> 00:11:33.799 I feel like it's hard to be in your soft 228 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:37.799 girl era without creating soft girl spaces. That's something you 229 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:40.440 gotta do for yourself and not just expect your partner 230 00:11:40.559 --> 00:11:43.679 to do it for you. Me being soft means I 231 00:11:43.720 --> 00:11:45.639 don't have to put my armor up every time I 232 00:11:45.679 --> 00:11:47.879 walk into a room. Me entering my soft girl era 233 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:51.639 means I'm choosing peace. Like you got women who say 234 00:11:51.639 --> 00:11:53.320 they at a soft girl error, and every time you 235 00:11:53.360 --> 00:11:56.240 turn around they arguing under somebody comments not me. 236 00:11:56.840 --> 00:11:59.480 Shav theom won't catch me. I said what I said, 237 00:11:59.480 --> 00:12:00.519 and I'm not going back. 238 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.399 I'm not going back. You can comment till the cows 239 00:12:05.399 --> 00:12:07.320 come home. I'm never gonna say anything back. Never I 240 00:12:07.360 --> 00:12:09.639 say what I said that said next this one, coach girl. 241 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:14.360 A few times, I'm dating with discernment, not out of desperation. 242 00:12:15.879 --> 00:12:16.960 Let me talk to you for a minute. 243 00:12:17.080 --> 00:12:20.399 Do you know what it's like to date with discernment 244 00:12:20.480 --> 00:12:22.600 and not out of desperation. I'm gonna do you one better, 245 00:12:22.639 --> 00:12:26.519 Definite women over the age of twenty nine, Yeah, twenty nine. 246 00:12:26.679 --> 00:12:28.720 Do you know what it's like to date with discernment 247 00:12:28.759 --> 00:12:33.840 and not out of desperation? To date with the mindset 248 00:12:34.360 --> 00:12:36.639 I'm only interested in people whose values aligned with mine 249 00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:39.240 and have you know similar end goals and not with 250 00:12:39.720 --> 00:12:41.840 I'm dating because I need to be married, because the 251 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:45.519 society says if I'm not, I'm of a lesser value. 252 00:12:45.679 --> 00:12:48.799 Do you know what that means? Dully you fucking try it. 253 00:12:49.200 --> 00:12:52.879 I won't even say it's strictly women like. It applies 254 00:12:52.919 --> 00:12:55.879 to men too, because not gonna lie. Some of y'all 255 00:12:55.919 --> 00:12:57.679 men be getting baby fever too. 256 00:12:58.000 --> 00:12:58.720 I'll be seeing it. 257 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:01.240 I'll be seeing it, y'all be getting the baby fever. 258 00:13:01.679 --> 00:13:05.480 Y'all want somebody to pack y'all lunch? Okay, y'all be wanting. 259 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:07.840 Y'all be wann't the old lady. I'll be seeing it. 260 00:13:07.960 --> 00:13:10.320 Dating with the sermon and not out of desperation. 261 00:13:10.679 --> 00:13:14.679 Yes he's fine, but is he emotionally available? Yes she's attractive, 262 00:13:15.039 --> 00:13:17.320 but does she believe in accountability? 263 00:13:18.200 --> 00:13:19.200 Savannah? Slow down? 264 00:13:19.440 --> 00:13:21.120 These are things that we have to pay attention to 265 00:13:21.159 --> 00:13:23.720 when we say dating with the sermon and not out 266 00:13:23.720 --> 00:13:28.320 of desperation. And lastly, love yourself loudly, Love yourself loudly. 267 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:30.559 I'm at a point in my life where whoever I 268 00:13:30.639 --> 00:13:33.000 choose to be with gotta love me louder than I 269 00:13:33.080 --> 00:13:35.879 love me. Okay, that's the only way this is gonna work, 270 00:13:35.919 --> 00:13:39.600 because you know why, because maybe I'm yelling for him 271 00:13:39.799 --> 00:13:43.399 and I'm loving on him the lotess of any bit 272 00:13:43.480 --> 00:13:45.519 he ever ran into. The only thing I ask for 273 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:47.919 is a little were surprisity. 274 00:13:48.440 --> 00:13:49.480 Okay, that's it. 275 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:52.519 That's it, that's it, and that's all step up or 276 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:54.600 step aside. That's what we're doing right now. All right, y'all, 277 00:13:54.639 --> 00:13:57.440 So listen. Now it's time for a new segment. 278 00:13:57.559 --> 00:14:03.080 Okay, it's happening. Everybody's what's new segment? News segment, news segment. 279 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:04.480 I feel like we haven't had a new segment on 280 00:14:04.519 --> 00:14:05.960 Chalk Ship ISIP been in a really long time. But 281 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:07.879 now it's not for a new segment. I don't know 282 00:14:07.919 --> 00:14:12.519 about y'all, but lately I have been on a Reddit 283 00:14:12.840 --> 00:14:15.720 rabbit hole. Some of this stuff is too good not 284 00:14:15.840 --> 00:14:19.159 to share. And you know what I value you all opinion, Okay, 285 00:14:19.200 --> 00:14:21.600 And I know y'all love some little juicy stories, a 286 00:14:21.600 --> 00:14:23.720 little bit of chaos, okay, a little bit of hot mess. 287 00:14:23.799 --> 00:14:25.720 New segment's gonna be called Somebody come look at this. 288 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:29.879 Somebody come and look at this. Somebody come look at this. 289 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:31.120 That's our new segment. 290 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:33.399 Somebody come look at this, okay, And it's where we're 291 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:36.639 gonna dive into the chaotic, hilarious and outrageous stories that 292 00:14:36.639 --> 00:14:37.360 I found on Reddit. 293 00:14:37.399 --> 00:14:38.360 We were going to read. 294 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:41.320 It together, analyze together, and you know, maybe even talk 295 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:42.120 a little shit together. 296 00:14:42.200 --> 00:14:43.679 I like that, y'all like that? What's up? 297 00:14:43.759 --> 00:14:47.639 It dives into the accountability and the resetting that we 298 00:14:47.639 --> 00:14:52.000 were just talking about. You know, today's theme for our 299 00:14:52.080 --> 00:14:55.000 reddits is going to be one of my favorites, am. 300 00:14:54.960 --> 00:14:55.679 I the Asshole. 301 00:14:55.759 --> 00:14:59.919 First one is am I the asshole for being mad. 302 00:15:00.679 --> 00:15:02.039 Hold on, wait, let me close this, you know, pop 303 00:15:02.120 --> 00:15:06.559 up speed. So the first one, am I the asshole 304 00:15:06.639 --> 00:15:10.159 for being mad at my wife for saying breaking up 305 00:15:10.159 --> 00:15:12.679 with her ex was one of her biggest regrets. 306 00:15:12.759 --> 00:15:18.519 Excuse me say, I ain't gonna lie right off the back. 307 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:19.840 It's given, No, you're not. 308 00:15:20.120 --> 00:15:22.720 But it says, am I the asshole for being mad 309 00:15:22.720 --> 00:15:25.759 at my wife for saying breaking up with her ex 310 00:15:25.840 --> 00:15:27.919 was one of her biggest regrets. To a friend who 311 00:15:27.960 --> 00:15:30.720 is currently dating him, just a friend currently dating him? 312 00:15:30.759 --> 00:15:33.240 For me, what's happening right now? What's going on? 313 00:15:33.559 --> 00:15:36.279 It's pretty much just the title. The other day, one 314 00:15:36.279 --> 00:15:38.399 of my wife's friends was talking to her about a 315 00:15:38.440 --> 00:15:40.799 guy she was dating. It just so happens to be 316 00:15:40.879 --> 00:15:44.039 my wife's ex. The convo went to the friend having 317 00:15:44.080 --> 00:15:46.480 some doubts about the guy, and my wife said this, 318 00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:47.440 and I. 319 00:15:47.480 --> 00:15:49.759 Quote it's the end. I quote for me because he said, 320 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:57.480 verbat him splendiferile, not bullet front. Got what let me 321 00:15:57.519 --> 00:16:00.480 start right now? Mcdog? She said, what say it again? 322 00:16:00.799 --> 00:16:05.120 What did she say? And my immediate response was this, really, bitch, 323 00:16:05.159 --> 00:16:10.200 hold on, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me. The gonads 324 00:16:10.320 --> 00:16:14.639 on this woman to be able to just blatantly flow 325 00:16:14.679 --> 00:16:16.120 off the tongue with girl. 326 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:18.960 One thing I regret to let him go hold on 327 00:16:19.120 --> 00:16:22.080 to him, says, because like, it's one of my biggest regrets. 328 00:16:22.600 --> 00:16:24.919 I could never my wife. 329 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:29.279 My wife, my wife, how and it took my wife 330 00:16:29.399 --> 00:16:33.360 too long to catch on. She was like that, and 331 00:16:33.519 --> 00:16:36.000 it took her a while to process what she had said. 332 00:16:36.200 --> 00:16:38.600 I told her never mind for now and let her 333 00:16:38.639 --> 00:16:41.799 finish the convo with her friend. Granted, her friend left 334 00:16:41.799 --> 00:16:45.279 pretty soon after that. We talked about it, and honestly, 335 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:51.639 I'm still pretty pissed. She said, well, baby, what did 336 00:16:51.679 --> 00:16:52.000 you mean? 337 00:16:52.759 --> 00:16:53.639 What did you mean? 338 00:16:53.879 --> 00:16:56.399 What do you mean by honestly, it didn't make me 339 00:16:56.480 --> 00:16:58.960 feel any better. To be honest, I've been keeping some 340 00:16:59.080 --> 00:17:03.279 space from her. Ain't nothing like finding out you was 341 00:17:03.320 --> 00:17:07.160 a seat filler. Ended up making it til the end. Okay, 342 00:17:07.759 --> 00:17:10.599 HAINI know it, Hain, he know it. I don't even 343 00:17:10.680 --> 00:17:12.240 know what I would have done in that situation, like 344 00:17:12.279 --> 00:17:14.400 if I want my partner and like it just so 345 00:17:14.559 --> 00:17:17.200 happened their friends dating one of their exes, and my 346 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:19.839 partner says, like, not even my partner, excuse. 347 00:17:19.440 --> 00:17:20.839 Me, my husband. 348 00:17:21.720 --> 00:17:25.000 My husband says, one of my biggest regrets was letting 349 00:17:25.000 --> 00:17:27.119 them go. Oh really, now, word rom it is a 350 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:30.279 thing like everybody's human. Sometimes you have word vomit, but 351 00:17:30.440 --> 00:17:32.920 for you not to catch it, and then when someone 352 00:17:33.000 --> 00:17:34.599 brings it to your attention, you go. 353 00:17:34.880 --> 00:17:39.039 That, hey, sins, are you okay? Are you cool? Because 354 00:17:39.079 --> 00:17:40.720 I don't think you are. I don't know, Oh baby, 355 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:44.799 oh my god, I'm so sorry. No my bad, I'm sorry. 356 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:46.519 No disrespect or like. 357 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:49.000 You know what I mean, like something you didn't try 358 00:17:49.039 --> 00:17:53.480 to clear it at all? All right, So let's go 359 00:17:53.519 --> 00:17:55.359 on to the next one. Am I the a hole 360 00:17:55.480 --> 00:17:57.880 for breaking out with my boyfriend because he won't let 361 00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:03.480 me follow him? On social media? Who won't tell her? 362 00:18:04.960 --> 00:18:06.720 You wan y'all, y'all gonna do it, You're gonna do it? 363 00:18:06.799 --> 00:18:07.920 You want me to do it? Because that I'm not 364 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:09.319 doing it. I just want to know who's gonna do it? 365 00:18:09.400 --> 00:18:09.559 Who? 366 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:10.279 Now? 367 00:18:10.559 --> 00:18:12.440 Am I be a whole for breaking up with my 368 00:18:12.519 --> 00:18:15.799 boyfriend because he won't let me follow him on social media? Me, 369 00:18:16.400 --> 00:18:19.920 eighteen female, and my ex eighteen male, have been trying 370 00:18:19.960 --> 00:18:22.480 to work things out after breaking up after a year 371 00:18:22.519 --> 00:18:25.960 plus relationship. The whole time we've been together, he's never 372 00:18:26.079 --> 00:18:27.720 let me follow him on Instagram. 373 00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:31.559 You don't find that suspicious. You don't find that suspicious. 374 00:18:32.319 --> 00:18:37.000 That's not your boyfriend. He's all of our boyfriends, respectfully, Respectfully. 375 00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:39.279 He's playing a dude pretending to be a dude. 376 00:18:42.440 --> 00:18:45.079 Man, Adam drop character till I've done a DVD commentary. 377 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:48.079 Honestly, Like, baby, listen, I'm gonna hold your hand when 378 00:18:48.079 --> 00:18:51.319 I say this. That's not your man, that's not your me, 379 00:18:52.359 --> 00:18:54.319 that's not your ma, that's not your man. 380 00:18:54.680 --> 00:18:58.079 Anytime I bring it up, he says I'm overreacting, or 381 00:18:58.160 --> 00:18:59.960 that Instagram isn't a big deal. 382 00:19:00.359 --> 00:19:01.799 If it isn't a big deal, why you can't just 383 00:19:01.839 --> 00:19:02.880 follow him. Huh. 384 00:19:03.079 --> 00:19:06.480 He acts like I'm asking for something crazy when all 385 00:19:06.559 --> 00:19:08.680 I want is to be able to follow the person 386 00:19:08.759 --> 00:19:11.799 I'm dating. It just feels like he's hiding something. He 387 00:19:11.880 --> 00:19:14.640 says he doesn't care about Instagram. But if that's true, 388 00:19:14.960 --> 00:19:16.599 then why is he being so weirried about it. I'm 389 00:19:16.599 --> 00:19:19.400 gonna hold your hand when I say this. That's not 390 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:22.519 your mean. I know you think, yeah, he eat off 391 00:19:22.599 --> 00:19:24.720 your fork and he's spit in your mouth, and y'all 392 00:19:24.799 --> 00:19:27.319 do boyfriend girlfriend thing. That's not your mean, that's not 393 00:19:27.440 --> 00:19:29.599 your me en. I finally got fed up with arguing 394 00:19:29.599 --> 00:19:32.160 about this every day. I broke up with and blocked 395 00:19:32.240 --> 00:19:32.839 him on everything. 396 00:19:33.880 --> 00:19:36.240 Dugg I really do. 397 00:19:36.400 --> 00:19:38.880 Care for him and I do love him, but this 398 00:19:39.079 --> 00:19:42.200 bothers me so much. He says, I'm being dramatic and 399 00:19:42.319 --> 00:19:45.039 petty for anythings over and app. So am I the 400 00:19:45.160 --> 00:19:47.279 a hole for thinking this was a valid reason to 401 00:19:47.319 --> 00:19:49.960