WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.960 --> 00:00:04.639 Hey, hey, everybody, welcome back to Relationships is a Bitch. 2 00:00:04.679 --> 00:00:09.640 Mike Agavino here with aj Benza and our relationship expert 3 00:00:09.960 --> 00:00:10.640 Irena Wood. 4 00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:13.919 Hey guys, how are you doing down there in Florida? 5 00:00:14.800 --> 00:00:17.800 Hey, everybody, we are good. 6 00:00:17.879 --> 00:00:20.399 We are good. Relationships is a Bitch is brought to 7 00:00:20.440 --> 00:00:23.399 you by the Gemini near Me app, the Self Love 8 00:00:23.480 --> 00:00:29.719 and Relationships Intelligence app inspired by relationship expert Irena Wood, 9 00:00:30.120 --> 00:00:32.880 and the app is helping thousands to fall in love 10 00:00:33.320 --> 00:00:37.679 with themselves. Aj Benza, you fall in love with yourself? 11 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:39.960 Yeah, well look at you. That happened many years ago. 12 00:00:40.119 --> 00:00:42.359 Then I fell out of love with myself. Now I'm 13 00:00:42.399 --> 00:00:44.520 trying to do it again in a better way. 14 00:00:44.840 --> 00:00:47.359 You get a fresh coth of hair today. 15 00:00:47.399 --> 00:00:51.600 That shave I took my hair off tight. Yeah. Once 16 00:00:51.640 --> 00:00:53.079 in a while, I get rid of it. It crew 17 00:00:53.240 --> 00:00:56.359 back like very Christopher walking. It was going straight up, 18 00:00:56.679 --> 00:00:58.079 and I didn't like the way that looks. I got 19 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:00.520 rid of it again. Okay. You know what, when you 20 00:01:00.560 --> 00:01:03.240 have a crew cut, you're kind of like ageless. When 21 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:05.159 I have hair, you can tell the guy's lost his hair. 22 00:01:05.200 --> 00:01:07.480 He's old. Now, you don't know. I could be fifty four, 23 00:01:07.599 --> 00:01:07.920 you know. 24 00:01:08.439 --> 00:01:11.400 No, I'm due for that. You can't tell I'm losing 25 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:14.760 my hair as much when my hair is short as 26 00:01:14.799 --> 00:01:17.719 you can when it's long. And it just got on 27 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:21.920 the hymn thing now, So I'm I don't know, because 28 00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:25.159 it says it takes, like, you know, eight weeks or 29 00:01:25.159 --> 00:01:27.959 so before you you see results. I hate that. I 30 00:01:28.000 --> 00:01:30.200 hate having to do something. You wait, it should be 31 00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:32.840 like eight seconds, put it on your hair and you know, boom, 32 00:01:32.879 --> 00:01:35.920 you're sprouting your sprouting hair. It should work like the 33 00:01:35.959 --> 00:01:37.519 beans did for Jack and the Beanstalk. 34 00:01:37.560 --> 00:01:40.200 I'm glad to hear that men are talking about the 35 00:01:40.280 --> 00:01:41.480 same things like women. 36 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:44.879 Yeah we are. But women don't lose their hair maybe 37 00:01:44.920 --> 00:01:45.680 one out of ten. 38 00:01:46.040 --> 00:01:48.879 They do, believe you, When they get pregnant, when they deliver, 39 00:01:49.040 --> 00:01:51.359 they lose a lot of power as well, not only 40 00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:53.560 gain it. It's it's a little things happen. 41 00:01:53.719 --> 00:01:55.079 We're all on the same boat. We all want to 42 00:01:55.120 --> 00:01:57.480 stay young. That's the bottom line, you know. Yeah. 43 00:01:57.519 --> 00:02:01.640 I think what's happening now is our generation is finally 44 00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:05.000 realizing that all of this crap is real, Like we 45 00:02:05.000 --> 00:02:10.120 were starting to this, Like being sixty is like you're 46 00:02:10.199 --> 00:02:12.639 right there on the edge of the Cliff, you take 47 00:02:12.680 --> 00:02:16.039 the wrong step and you're you're on the doorstep of death. 48 00:02:17.159 --> 00:02:19.879 You hang in there, you know, you fight the hair 49 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:21.919 and the belly and the mike. 50 00:02:22.439 --> 00:02:26.240 No, you can die young. Everybody has a destiny, and 51 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:28.240 I think you believe the same thing like I do. 52 00:02:28.759 --> 00:02:31.479 It's predestined the day of death. 53 00:02:31.560 --> 00:02:33.560 I know. But I want to look good. I want 54 00:02:33.560 --> 00:02:35.319 to look good dead. I don't want somebody to come 55 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:36.639 up on the corpse and. 56 00:02:36.599 --> 00:02:38.680 Go, dude, that's what you walk out every day. 57 00:02:38.719 --> 00:02:38.960 I don't. 58 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:41.639 I don't want to good just in case. I want 59 00:02:41.680 --> 00:02:43.759 somebody to say, you know, shit, that dude looks like 60 00:02:43.759 --> 00:02:44.719 you died five years ago. 61 00:02:44.759 --> 00:02:48.719 Anyway. You know, that's why, just get cremated. I don't 62 00:02:48.719 --> 00:02:50.360 want anybody looking at me when I'm dead. 63 00:02:50.719 --> 00:02:53.599 I don't say the same thing exactly. Just cremate me 64 00:02:53.680 --> 00:02:57.599 and have a party and just yeah, celebrated, play good music. 65 00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:03.280 But they celebrated because your soul finally goes to good. 66 00:03:03.560 --> 00:03:04.759 I like celebrating good. Shure. 67 00:03:04.840 --> 00:03:09.280 Well, but you can do all that, but still assume 68 00:03:09.319 --> 00:03:12.199 and hopefully it's family that will be with you when 69 00:03:12.280 --> 00:03:15.800 you when you die. But it could be something. I mean, 70 00:03:15.840 --> 00:03:18.840 I could get hit by a bus in Boca Ratone 71 00:03:18.840 --> 00:03:22.759 and get found by some rando. And you know, I 72 00:03:23.400 --> 00:03:25.159 don't want to look like it died five years ago. 73 00:03:25.560 --> 00:03:27.120 So I'll tell you what you got. Here's the thing 74 00:03:27.159 --> 00:03:31.240 I've already prepared for, having been in the newspaper business forever, 75 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:35.520 and I came up starting writing obituaries, death notices. That's 76 00:03:35.560 --> 00:03:38.759 how you train when you're younger. You write obituaries for 77 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:40.479 people who aren't dead yet, just to get in the 78 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:44.840 practice of it. And I realized that you need to 79 00:03:44.879 --> 00:03:47.960 find the picture of yourself that the newspaper or websites 80 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.560 will run when you die. You don't want someone else 81 00:03:50.560 --> 00:03:53.199 picking out that picture. So pick the picture out you 82 00:03:53.240 --> 00:03:55.520 want to be your death picture, give it to somebody 83 00:03:55.560 --> 00:03:58.039 you love, and say, Jerry An when I go, this 84 00:03:58.199 --> 00:04:01.159 is the picture you post, not anything you like this one. 85 00:04:01.400 --> 00:04:03.039 I got a better I get. I'm just gonna say, 86 00:04:03.159 --> 00:04:04.960 I'm just gonna send you the picture I want, and 87 00:04:04.960 --> 00:04:07.840 then just go ahead and write my own bit. Just 88 00:04:07.840 --> 00:04:10.120 get it, go ahead and have it done. And so 89 00:04:10.159 --> 00:04:13.080 it's on the hard drive, and all the missus has 90 00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:14.960 to do is it's just going there. 91 00:04:15.039 --> 00:04:18.240 And you just remind me of Sovietic population right now, 92 00:04:18.279 --> 00:04:20.279 because when I came to the United States, I just 93 00:04:20.360 --> 00:04:23.959 admired because you feel that people are so much alive here. 94 00:04:24.240 --> 00:04:26.600 They don't think about the death, they don't think about 95 00:04:26.600 --> 00:04:30.279 the sufeiging. They just start to leave at sixties, getting married, 96 00:04:30.439 --> 00:04:34.839 making families, I don't know, making kids, new businesses. And 97 00:04:35.079 --> 00:04:38.399 when I left Soviet Union, I mean it was broken 98 00:04:38.480 --> 00:04:41.000 many years ago. But anyway, you know, I came from there. 99 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.079 I was born in Soviet Union. People get ready to 100 00:04:44.160 --> 00:04:47.319 die so early. They are prefering the things they're gonna wear. 101 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:51.079 They plan, not plan their funerals, but some just in 102 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:52.839 case something happens to me, I have to do this, 103 00:04:52.920 --> 00:04:56.079 and then they talk to their kids and family. Yeah, 104 00:04:56.160 --> 00:04:59.279 you don't plan death. I think nobody is planning to die, 105 00:04:59.399 --> 00:05:03.639 even people who have really had diagnosis. But you know what, 106 00:05:04.439 --> 00:05:07.439 I'll give you one simple conversation we had, very simple, 107 00:05:07.480 --> 00:05:10.519 but very challenging. I was in the restaurant on this 108 00:05:10.560 --> 00:05:12.600 weekend with my husband and a couple of friends. They 109 00:05:12.639 --> 00:05:16.759 have a couple so and we were speaking. One of 110 00:05:16.800 --> 00:05:19.600 the ladies she had a birthday, and we were discussing 111 00:05:19.800 --> 00:05:22.079 what would you do. I brought up this question, and 112 00:05:22.120 --> 00:05:25.199 I'm asking you right now if you had a week left, 113 00:05:25.920 --> 00:05:29.199 seven days of your life, and what would you do? 114 00:05:30.079 --> 00:05:32.439 Oh my goodness, what do I do? It's seven days 115 00:05:32.439 --> 00:05:32.800 to go? 116 00:05:33.399 --> 00:05:35.040 Yeah, well I made you spend this. 117 00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:38.720 I would make sure somehow that my kids are with me, 118 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:41.439 and I was with my sister and her husband, my nephew. 119 00:05:41.720 --> 00:05:44.959 I'd like to be with everybody I love, if that's possible. Yeah, 120 00:05:44.959 --> 00:05:46.759 I would do that. I just would all be together, 121 00:05:47.040 --> 00:05:50.480 have dinners together every night, watch TV, laugh, break each 122 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:51.120 other's balls. 123 00:05:51.279 --> 00:05:53.040 Just would you still do podcasting? 124 00:05:53.759 --> 00:05:56.279 Yeah? Oh yeah. In fact, i'd make it really special. 125 00:05:56.319 --> 00:05:57.959 If I knew the day I was going to die, 126 00:05:58.360 --> 00:06:01.160 I would put together such a great shell. I've even thought, 127 00:06:01.199 --> 00:06:04.519 how sick is this. I've thought of recording a podcast 128 00:06:04.759 --> 00:06:07.240 so that Mike could run it after I'm dead, and 129 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:11.199 it'll be me talking about dying. I'm almost gonna do that. 130 00:06:11.800 --> 00:06:14.240 It's a good idea. I think we could do live 131 00:06:14.399 --> 00:06:17.920 play by play of you dying. That would be so 132 00:06:18.040 --> 00:06:19.720 it'd be you know, real time. 133 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:25.199 Yeah, real time clock. Just have me in the hospital. 134 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:26.439 Bett'll be on film. 135 00:06:26.639 --> 00:06:31.439 It'll just make sure Rocks and Rocco, you know, know 136 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:34.319 that when you give the signal. They've got to let 137 00:06:34.360 --> 00:06:37.160 me know so we can go on Live immediately and 138 00:06:37.199 --> 00:06:39.720 then we'll just you know, we'll just we'll just cover it. 139 00:06:39.759 --> 00:06:41.600 But okay, so we have a week to live. 140 00:06:42.560 --> 00:06:43.480 What are you gonna do, Mike? 141 00:06:44.639 --> 00:06:47.319 Well, so nothing I do is gonna kill me in 142 00:06:47.399 --> 00:06:50.399 that Oh that's good. So if nothing I am gonna. 143 00:06:50.079 --> 00:06:52.959 Do, are you a lot of drugs? 144 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:55.319 Right? No? So if nothing I'm gonna do is gonna 145 00:06:55.399 --> 00:06:56.800 kill me, I'm gonna do a bunch of shit that 146 00:06:56.920 --> 00:06:58.600 normally I wouldn't do because I would be worried that 147 00:06:58.600 --> 00:07:01.079 it would kill me. So I might finally jump out 148 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:05.680 of a plane. Well, wow, I might. I might rob 149 00:07:05.720 --> 00:07:06.160 a bank. 150 00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:10.519 Yeah, that's the Yeah, I want to spend six days 151 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:11.000 in prison. 152 00:07:13.560 --> 00:07:13.959 Nice to. 153 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:17.800 You plan it very well, or you'll do it at 154 00:07:17.800 --> 00:07:18.439 the last day. 155 00:07:19.920 --> 00:07:21.439 Yeah, I mean I need a little time to plan. 156 00:07:21.519 --> 00:07:24.920 But I think I would try, and uh, I would try, 157 00:07:24.959 --> 00:07:28.240 and well, actually, life insurance can be pretty good, so 158 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:31.720 maybe they don't need me to steal from them. I 159 00:07:31.800 --> 00:07:34.959 think I would probably focus on a bunch of things 160 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:37.120 that frankly am too chicken shit to do. 161 00:07:37.839 --> 00:07:40.160 If I know, if I know Mike, he would still 162 00:07:40.199 --> 00:07:43.439 be trying to get the eighteen T hook up across 163 00:07:43.480 --> 00:07:45.879 the street from your house so you get better service. 164 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:47.519 Mike would do that till the day he dies. I 165 00:07:47.560 --> 00:07:51.000 know he would. Here's my other fear, God forbid, Mike 166 00:07:51.079 --> 00:07:54.120 drops dead. Who will send the shows to? What happens 167 00:07:54.120 --> 00:07:58.319 to my career, my life, my show? If he does 168 00:07:59.319 --> 00:08:00.120 pretty much. 169 00:08:01.959 --> 00:08:06.720 That really is disturbing. That's disturbing that this significance, my 170 00:08:06.839 --> 00:08:12.040 significance in his life is someone to send the shows to. No. 171 00:08:12.279 --> 00:08:14.879 I mean, come on, you're my best buddies in the world. 172 00:08:14.879 --> 00:08:16.360 But what do I tell what happens to my life, 173 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:17.560 my job, my money. 174 00:08:17.800 --> 00:08:21.120 Let me tell you everybody has those concerns because when 175 00:08:21.199 --> 00:08:23.639 I work with people, people come and say, oh, I'm 176 00:08:23.639 --> 00:08:28.519 scared to lose my father, my mother, my I don't know, sister, brother, whatever, 177 00:08:29.120 --> 00:08:33.000 who needs medical help, and they live in fear. But 178 00:08:33.080 --> 00:08:36.360 they are always pre occupied about their future life as well, 179 00:08:36.679 --> 00:08:38.639 how they're going to live, how they're going to suffer, 180 00:08:39.279 --> 00:08:42.440 like what their life will be without that person. And 181 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:44.799 no matter what we are talking about emotional part or 182 00:08:44.840 --> 00:08:48.279 about financial part or about administrative part, you know, like 183 00:08:48.799 --> 00:08:52.159 people have different concerns, but we all think about alsos also, 184 00:08:52.279 --> 00:08:54.279 so it's like good honest thought. 185 00:08:54.440 --> 00:08:57.039 By a j well, you know, I mean, I don't look, 186 00:08:57.320 --> 00:09:01.879 I've been might spend my father's funeral and we made 187 00:09:01.960 --> 00:09:04.600 jokes there. I just I know we're all gonna laugh 188 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:06.519 no matter who dies, there's gonna be a moment at 189 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.799 the funeral or memorial where if it's Kenny, me or you, 190 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:12.360 we're gonna laugh about something. That's just who we are. 191 00:09:12.840 --> 00:09:14.679 So even it's gonna even if it's a bad day, 192 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:18.279 we'll still find a reason to laugh. And that's the 193 00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:20.480 way we've always lived. So it wouldn't change if one 194 00:09:20.480 --> 00:09:21.559 of us is in the casket. 195 00:09:21.879 --> 00:09:25.720 Yeah, they'll there'll be stories to tell, for sure, especially 196 00:09:25.759 --> 00:09:29.320 if it's either of the two of you that go first. 197 00:09:29.360 --> 00:09:31.840 I'm not really interested in being the one that goes first. 198 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:32.559 I don't. Yeah. 199 00:09:33.919 --> 00:09:38.960 Let's okay, so let's talk about dreams this week, and 200 00:09:40.360 --> 00:09:44.039 let's uh, let's find out how Gemini near Me interpreted 201 00:09:44.279 --> 00:09:45.200 your dreams. 202 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:46.919 Okay, what happened? What was your dream? 203 00:09:46.960 --> 00:09:50.720 Mike tell me, no, it's I'm gonna go first. 204 00:09:50.720 --> 00:09:54.639 Okay, So I had this dream, very strange. Mike has 205 00:09:54.720 --> 00:09:57.720 involved in it somewhat. My dream is I was backing 206 00:09:58.039 --> 00:10:02.039 in my big Lincoln. I was a big, old nineteen 207 00:10:02.120 --> 00:10:06.120 ninety four Lincoln. I was backing into Mike's garage at 208 00:10:06.120 --> 00:10:08.840 his new house in Florida. I was nervous to hit 209 00:10:08.919 --> 00:10:11.559 any of his possessions that were lining the walls in 210 00:10:11.600 --> 00:10:14.720 the garage, and my car was very close to both walls. 211 00:10:14.840 --> 00:10:17.080 With Mike's help, I was able to park perfectly. But 212 00:10:17.120 --> 00:10:19.840 then Mike went inside and never let me in. I 213 00:10:19.919 --> 00:10:23.240 stayed there and eventually fell asleep on his lawn. I 214 00:10:23.320 --> 00:10:26.639 have no idea, the dream interpretation says, and I haven't 215 00:10:26.639 --> 00:10:30.559 read this till today. What an amazing dream. Backing into 216 00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:34.080 Mike's garage could represent your feelings of vulnerability or anxiety 217 00:10:34.120 --> 00:10:38.519 about entering new situations or relationships. The close possessions might 218 00:10:38.639 --> 00:10:41.840 symbolize how you feel about navigating through personal boundaries or 219 00:10:41.879 --> 00:10:46.080 the fear of accidentally upsetting others. Parking perfectly with Mike's 220 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:49.000 help indicates that you appreciate support in your life, but 221 00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:52.600 might feel some tension while trying to fit into new environments. 222 00:10:53.159 --> 00:10:55.879 Falling asleep on his lawn suggests a desire for rest 223 00:10:56.000 --> 00:10:59.000 or escape from this anxiety. It could also mean you're 224 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:01.159 feeling left out or left behind when it comes to 225 00:11:01.159 --> 00:11:03.960 connections in your life. As Mike went inside without letting 226 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:07.720 you in. This could reflect some subconscious feelings of isolation 227 00:11:08.200 --> 00:11:12.200 or longing for inclusion. And finally, in sun, the dream 228 00:11:12.399 --> 00:11:15.360 highlights your desire for support while dealing with feelings of 229 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:19.000 nervousness and importance of feeling connected to others. Embraced these 230 00:11:19.000 --> 00:11:23.240 emotions and consider them as you navigate your relationships. Once again, 231 00:11:23.320 --> 00:11:26.080 it hasn't failed me yet. I can certainly see this 232 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:32.159 interpretation as being completely true, especially feelings of isolation and 233 00:11:32.200 --> 00:11:36.000 longing for inclusion. I know I'm included in everything we do, 234 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:38.679 but I get the isolation thing being back here in 235 00:11:38.799 --> 00:11:42.679 La in the hotel alone or Rocos at school. But 236 00:11:42.799 --> 00:11:47.759 you know, I understand this. Parking perfectly might indicate that 237 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:50.879 I appreciate support and I do for Mike, especially with 238 00:11:50.919 --> 00:11:54.399 respect to work and life in general. So it's very interesting. 239 00:11:54.440 --> 00:11:56.600 I would have normally I would have had that dream 240 00:11:56.600 --> 00:11:58.480 and thought it was silly and just went out my day. 241 00:11:58.960 --> 00:12:01.200 But when you look into it and it's interpreted like 242 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:04.879 this through the app, it gives me look, it gives 243 00:12:04.919 --> 00:12:06.600 me like I don't want to say a hope. But 244 00:12:06.639 --> 00:12:08.559 it makes me really understand that what's going on in 245 00:12:08.559 --> 00:12:15.440 my head it's important. It's not just random boloney, it's important. Obviously, 246 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:18.080 it's coming from my soul or somewhere. 247 00:12:19.080 --> 00:12:22.279 Like CAR is always associated with relationships. Let's say it's 248 00:12:22.279 --> 00:12:24.399 stolen car when you have a fear of loss of 249 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:27.759 your partner or somebody, like when you get jealous about 250 00:12:27.840 --> 00:12:31.960 Himo here. So Car, it's always about relationship. But it's 251 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:36.240 interesting the way a dream interpreter interpreted your dream, because 252 00:12:36.279 --> 00:12:39.080 this was like a deep investigation of it. 253 00:12:40.039 --> 00:12:44.600 Well, it's also you know, I love it when Aj 254 00:12:45.320 --> 00:12:49.000 is out here. I mean, it's been so long since AJ, 255 00:12:49.240 --> 00:12:51.320 Kenny and I were on the same turf. I mean, 256 00:12:51.360 --> 00:12:52.679 I don't know the last time we were on the 257 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:54.759 same turf. It was New York turf. Is that long? 258 00:12:54.919 --> 00:12:59.240 Well maybe here and there, But to get a couple 259 00:12:59.279 --> 00:13:05.600 of weeks is I mean, it's so much better to 260 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:08.840 manage the things that we do together. We can do 261 00:13:08.960 --> 00:13:13.480 them in the same studio or the same house or 262 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:15.679 what have you, and we can help each other in 263 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:18.639 ways that you just can't from three thousand miles apart. 264 00:13:18.720 --> 00:13:25.399 So I understand and for AJ He's also now made 265 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:29.919 another move to where I'm doing all of the editing 266 00:13:30.080 --> 00:13:34.960 and production instead of involving someone else. So it's a 267 00:13:35.000 --> 00:13:38.200 little bit of a loss of control there. Maybe that, 268 00:13:38.480 --> 00:13:43.080 and we've had a couple of little blips in the 269 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:46.759 early episodes, and so maybe that's part of it. The 270 00:13:46.799 --> 00:13:49.200 thing that's really amazing to me is you don't know 271 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:52.320 this because we haven't talked about it yet, But when 272 00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:57.919 you talked about the valuables that was supposedly stacked on 273 00:13:58.639 --> 00:14:03.799 the sides of my garage that you didn't want to hit, Okay, well, 274 00:14:04.679 --> 00:14:09.279 I discovered all of this crap that my wife has 275 00:14:09.320 --> 00:14:14.200 bought over the years. Really that costs a bloody fortune 276 00:14:14.320 --> 00:14:16.840 that I had no idea we even had because of 277 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:18.519 opening all of these freaking. 278 00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:21.519 Boxes to sell them buy a house, Mike. 279 00:14:22.399 --> 00:14:28.480 I'm opening these boxes and there are all these crazy 280 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:31.519 freaking plates with all these Chinese markings on them and 281 00:14:31.559 --> 00:14:33.480 all this shit. I'm like, what the freaking hell is 282 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:33.960 this shit? 283 00:14:34.360 --> 00:14:35.360 And I looked on to the. 284 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:38.440 Bottom of one and the first one I turn over 285 00:14:38.919 --> 00:14:41.519 has a four hundred and forty dollars price tag. It's 286 00:14:41.519 --> 00:14:43.519 a little freaking dish and has a four hundred and 287 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:46.480 forty dollars price tag on. So I'm like, what the hell? 288 00:14:46.840 --> 00:14:49.679 And this was like the heaviest moving box that's ever 289 00:14:49.720 --> 00:14:52.399 been moved in the history of movers moving moving boxes. 290 00:14:52.799 --> 00:14:58.519 And it's full of nothing but dishes and vases and 291 00:14:58.759 --> 00:15:02.799 planter and all the stuff out of this Chinese crap. 292 00:15:03.360 --> 00:15:07.080 And most of them have price tags on them as 293 00:15:07.120 --> 00:15:12.039 I flip them over. So I'm, you know, fifty fourteen hundred, 294 00:15:12.440 --> 00:15:16.000 seventeen hundred, what honey, honey? 295 00:15:17.039 --> 00:15:19.639 Who maybe one walls? I think, what. 296 00:15:21.559 --> 00:15:25.759 The fuck? First of all, you know, I don't want 297 00:15:25.960 --> 00:15:27.120 anything from China. 298 00:15:27.639 --> 00:15:28.919 I don't know what. 299 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:33.519 And she's like, Mike, it's China, right, like it has 300 00:15:33.559 --> 00:15:38.879 to come from China. It's China. That's I'm like, I 301 00:15:39.039 --> 00:15:41.279 just had Can I sell all of this? Can I 302 00:15:41.279 --> 00:15:44.080 put all of this on the eBay right now? And 303 00:15:44.200 --> 00:15:47.519 so I start showing her these ones that I've never 304 00:15:47.519 --> 00:15:51.720 seen any of this stuff, but this dish, and it's 305 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:54.279 gotta it, says faberge on it. It's got an egg 306 00:15:54.840 --> 00:16:01.840 in the center of it, right, And honey, have we 307 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.679 ever have we ever used this? 308 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:08.000 No, only Malcolm Forbes and listening, she says. 309 00:16:08.279 --> 00:16:13.440 She says twice. We use them. We use them twice. Okay, 310 00:16:13.559 --> 00:16:18.240 that's twenty six years. Oh and we supposedly used these 311 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:22.720 things twice. Yeah, yeah, I'm like, get Selvie's frigure. I mean, 312 00:16:22.879 --> 00:16:25.080 just get this, get this ship out of here, money, 313 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:26.080 get some listen. 314 00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:29.000 I don't know about it overseas where you're from Arena, 315 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:31.440 But in America, when a boy and girl get married, 316 00:16:31.440 --> 00:16:33.799 there are things you have to do. Soon as you 317 00:16:33.799 --> 00:16:36.480 get married, you gotta find well, even before you're married, 318 00:16:36.759 --> 00:16:40.399 you got to find everyday dishes and glassware, you know, 319 00:16:40.519 --> 00:16:42.639 for the kitchen. But then you've got to find the 320 00:16:43.000 --> 00:16:45.639 good china that you'll break out for the special people, 321 00:16:45.919 --> 00:16:49.360 and the good utensils and the perfect stemware. And like 322 00:16:49.399 --> 00:16:52.039 Mike said, you might use it once or twice a year, 323 00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:56.759 but you spend days shopping for when you're younger. Stupid 324 00:16:56.919 --> 00:16:59.240 customs that Americans have. Do you have anything like that? 325 00:16:59.320 --> 00:16:59.679 By you? 326 00:17:00.679 --> 00:17:03.559 We have in my country, and we call it cervant. 327 00:17:04.400 --> 00:17:07.680 It's like china as well. It's set for twelve people 328 00:17:07.720 --> 00:17:10.599 and it stays there forever, and you use it twice 329 00:17:10.759 --> 00:17:13.599 a life when all families get there in together. But 330 00:17:14.000 --> 00:17:16.680 I was married to American citizens who is your best friends, 331 00:17:16.680 --> 00:17:19.039 and then never done that part of things, because you know, 332 00:17:19.359 --> 00:17:24.839 I have to admit you to you that Postivietic culture 333 00:17:25.759 --> 00:17:31.960 and American culture, whether it's food, interest like politics or 334 00:17:32.079 --> 00:17:36.000 sports and all this stuff of celebration, they're very similar. 335 00:17:36.759 --> 00:17:41.240 I'm not really a great example of Posivietic person because 336 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:43.920 I spend a bunch of time of my life in 337 00:17:43.960 --> 00:17:47.200 Europe and England, so I have mixed up mentality. But 338 00:17:47.359 --> 00:17:51.160 if you have talked to my grandmother, for example, oh yeah, 339 00:17:51.240 --> 00:17:53.440 it would be a lot of similarity, even in the 340 00:17:53.480 --> 00:17:55.880 way you prepare the food and serve it to people 341 00:17:55.920 --> 00:17:58.839 and respect the guests and so good customers. 342 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:02.079 Customs are good. But we go through hell finding that China. Yeah, Mike, 343 00:18:02.119 --> 00:18:04.200 you should sell that. I mean, at this point, what 344 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:07.400 are you gonna do? You're I mean, if. 345 00:18:07.240 --> 00:18:11.599 We used it, we used it twice in twenty six years, 346 00:18:11.599 --> 00:18:14.920 that means there's probably one more meal for me on 347 00:18:14.960 --> 00:18:18.039 that ship before before I plot. 348 00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:20.839 So use it for the last seven days of your 349 00:18:21.119 --> 00:18:22.559 mixture every night. 350 00:18:22.599 --> 00:18:24.000 Okay, Yeah, I could work it. I could work it 351 00:18:24.039 --> 00:18:26.839 into that. Okay, So let me tell you about my dream, Majing. 352 00:18:29.039 --> 00:18:34.480 I'm standing in the parking lot of the uh, the 353 00:18:34.519 --> 00:18:36.799 old copper kettle that. Oh yeah, no, it well that 354 00:18:37.400 --> 00:18:41.759 parking lot, right, yeah. And all of a sudden, I 355 00:18:41.799 --> 00:18:45.079 hear this loud screeching on the street and I look 356 00:18:45.119 --> 00:18:54.039 out and Chico is driving the Scooby Doo mystery. 357 00:18:53.640 --> 00:18:57.160 Machine that sounds like something you do. 358 00:18:57.319 --> 00:19:02.519 And he's hitting purposely all these cars park parked on 359 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:06.680 Montauk Highway. And then he spins out and and he 360 00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:12.480 enters the parking lot where I am, and then he 361 00:19:12.640 --> 00:19:16.559 has henchman. Chico has his own henchmen, and the henchman 362 00:19:16.720 --> 00:19:17.319 surround me. 363 00:19:17.640 --> 00:19:19.559 Oh man, the henchman. 364 00:19:19.279 --> 00:19:23.480 Surround me, and so I'm trapped there. And then Chico 365 00:19:23.799 --> 00:19:28.480 enters the circle and he's got a samurai sword and 366 00:19:28.519 --> 00:19:31.799 he's doing a whole thing with the sword. And then 367 00:19:31.839 --> 00:19:35.240 the next thing I know, I'm still alive. He's gotten 368 00:19:35.240 --> 00:19:37.799 me once. He's like stabbed me once when it was 369 00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:40.319 coming up like this, right, and then I wake up. 370 00:19:40.839 --> 00:19:45.039 Wow, I'm like, that's insane, is that? Well, it's before 371 00:19:45.039 --> 00:19:47.680 you tell me what it means. Our friend Chico was 372 00:19:47.720 --> 00:19:49.920 so crazy that when you were describing the stream, I 373 00:19:49.960 --> 00:19:52.680 actually thought to myself, wait, didn't he do this? Once 374 00:19:52.720 --> 00:19:54.240 didn't he take a van and hit a bunch of 375 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:56.640 cars in the street. Like that's how crazy Chico was. 376 00:19:56.680 --> 00:19:58.960 And I could see him doing it right now, not 377 00:19:59.039 --> 00:20:00.480 the Scooby Doo van, but another bit. 378 00:20:01.119 --> 00:20:01.359 Yeah. 379 00:20:01.359 --> 00:20:03.880 But there is another significant thing about it, not the 380 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:06.440 dream itself. When you see people, and you see them 381 00:20:06.559 --> 00:20:09.160 very often who passed away in your dream, it means 382 00:20:09.200 --> 00:20:12.400 their soul needs a prayer. Maybe you are the one 383 00:20:12.440 --> 00:20:14.880 he is connected to, or all of you or whatever. 384 00:20:15.240 --> 00:20:17.400 But I don't know what do you respect? You respect 385 00:20:17.440 --> 00:20:19.880 the church, or you pray at home, whatever, if you 386 00:20:19.960 --> 00:20:26.160 could respect his soul with something good work, even when 387 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:28.519 you have a glass of wine and you you know, 388 00:20:28.680 --> 00:20:31.079 I don't know less and something like that, Trituel. 389 00:20:31.480 --> 00:20:34.799 I think since I've been I was the one who 390 00:20:34.839 --> 00:20:36.559 had Chico for the most amount of years. You know, 391 00:20:36.599 --> 00:20:38.119 we all took care of him here and there. But 392 00:20:38.759 --> 00:20:40.640 I think me being around you a lot and us 393 00:20:40.680 --> 00:20:42.799 talking about him a lot is definitely putting in your 394 00:20:42.839 --> 00:20:45.720 mind more than it used to be. Because I've he's 395 00:20:45.799 --> 00:20:47.759 in my mind all the time. Matter of fact, there's 396 00:20:47.799 --> 00:20:49.720 certain songs he loved that I hear in the radio. 397 00:20:49.720 --> 00:20:52.039 When I hear them, I know that's Chico talking to 398 00:20:52.079 --> 00:20:54.880 me the night he died. When I found out I 399 00:20:54.920 --> 00:20:56.920 was really I went. I cried for about a minute. 400 00:20:57.160 --> 00:20:59.559 My kids saw me, so I stopped crying. But I 401 00:20:59.680 --> 00:21:01.400