Speaker 1: Sure, what's up, beautiful people. There's your baby mama, favorite
Speaker 1: baby Mama, Stormy P. And this is another episode of
Speaker 1: Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective. Damn
Speaker 1: Son back at it again. Boom Okay, So let's do
Speaker 1: a quick recap recap this past weekend. We had heroes
Speaker 1: vote first with show up Strong. Thank you to everybody
Speaker 1: who came out. Shout out to my man Outfiz. He
Speaker 1: came decked out rep the set like ganggang, whole lote
Speaker 1: gang shit. Yeah, man, that was quite the experience. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy that we did our part in helping making
Speaker 1: people's voices heard. Shout out to everybody who suited up,
Speaker 1: showed up and made their voice count. And yeah, I
Speaker 1: want to get into something else real fast before we
Speaker 1: get started. Now, y'all know, I usually don't address when
Speaker 1: stuff goes viral for me, right, unless it's like too
Speaker 1: much or I feel like a point is not being
Speaker 1: made or X, Y and Z.
Speaker 2: So some y'all.
Speaker 3: Might have.
Speaker 1: Heard Corey Holcomb right and his recent comments about his
Speaker 1: preferences on how he chooses on dating women. And if
Speaker 1: you don't know Corey Holcom, he's a comedian. He was
Speaker 1: on wild'n Out for a little bit and basically, my
Speaker 1: man said, like, Yo, I like dating girls who don't
Speaker 1: have money because they can't leave me. Y'all listen, listen.
Speaker 1: My man said, I like dating girls with money because
Speaker 1: they can't leave me because you know how they bill's
Speaker 1: gonna get paid. You know how they kids gonna get fed, X,
Speaker 1: Y and Z.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 2: And before I even get into all.
Speaker 1: That, can we just sit for a second and think
Speaker 1: about what this man got on out Gore's Internet and said.
Speaker 2: Can we think about it? Let's discuss.
Speaker 1: Corey Holcom was on a podcast and he said that
Speaker 1: he likes stating women who don't have money because.
Speaker 2: They can't leave them.
Speaker 1: Essentially, they don't have the strength because they don't have
Speaker 1: the financial means.
Speaker 2: They can't just up and say I'm done with.
Speaker 1: The bullshit, right, And so the Shade Room reposts it
Speaker 1: and I comment, you can always tell who did and
Speaker 1: didn't get girls growing up, right, And.
Speaker 2: I feel like this is a fair statement.
Speaker 1: In my defense, this is a fair statement, and I
Speaker 1: know all of you are able to have this.
Speaker 2: You might not have discernment about.
Speaker 1: Who you be fucking, but I'm sure you can tell
Speaker 1: who did and didn't get bitches growing up? Like, honestly,
Speaker 1: you can just tell by the way a person carries themselves, Like, yo,
Speaker 1: you can always tell who did and didn't get girls
Speaker 1: growing up. You can always tell the men who did
Speaker 1: and didn't get girls growing up.
Speaker 2: And y'all.
Speaker 1: The internet lost they damn by okay.
Speaker 2: And so it was.
Speaker 1: Really the people that we were applying to my comment
Speaker 1: that I thought was so funny because one of the
Speaker 1: first ones said, your husband looked unemployed, you probably gotta
Speaker 1: pay the light bill.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I look like a wife. Boy,
Speaker 2: shut the fuck up your.
Speaker 1: Talking about your husband looked unemployed and you probably gotta
Speaker 1: pay the light bill. Baby, if I look like a
Speaker 1: wife's just say that, like it's given wife.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, it's given wife. Huh.
Speaker 1: But it's like I would take that comment to heart,
Speaker 1: But this particular individual was on the internet with Choke Jordan's,
Speaker 1: so I didn't really pay attention to what the fuck
Speaker 1: he was saying. Like, second of all, I don't have
Speaker 1: a husband, right, But it was like multiple people under
Speaker 1: there are like you man ain't shit and look as
Speaker 1: your man though, and I am bewildered buffooned, who the
Speaker 1: fuck are y'all talking about?
Speaker 2: Bruh?
Speaker 1: This lets me know maybe there are just bots responding
Speaker 1: like what's that that service that you can pay?
Speaker 2: Like, what's that service you could pay?
Speaker 1: And people were like you could type in what comments
Speaker 1: you want them to be, like I don't know what
Speaker 1: it's called, but it's something, And I'm like, somebody must
Speaker 1: have paid for this. But I had to go on
Speaker 1: my page and look like where's the niggas?
Speaker 3: Where the niggas at?
Speaker 2: Like I'm confused? Right, So.
Speaker 1: It was a bunch of those type of comments, and
Speaker 1: then it also was the whole teps, you know, the
Speaker 1: whole teps. They gonna come through and make their voices heard, right,
Speaker 1: so the whole tips come right at me. We are
Speaker 1: black have gotten so far away from our culture. We
Speaker 1: don't even realize that we've been stripped of our certain names,
Speaker 1: our traditions, our values, our cultures. And it's like I
Speaker 1: hear you, and and you know, you know, you know,
Speaker 1: you know you know, and in my mind I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: so I had the respond with I hear you. But
Speaker 1: degrading and taking advantage of disenfranchised women was never a
Speaker 1: part of our culture. Like I can say, I can
Speaker 1: understand you saying, hey, that was the reason why I
Speaker 1: don't want to participate in monogamy.
Speaker 2: Cool, I got it. Message received makes sense to me.
Speaker 1: You want to follow traditions, that's fine, you still leave
Speaker 1: pork every other day. But hey, you know whatever, we're
Speaker 1: not following everything.
Speaker 2: Huh.
Speaker 1: That's another thing, right, But it's like for you to
Speaker 1: make it seem like him saying he's purposely preying upon
Speaker 1: and targeting women who are like who don't have the
Speaker 1: financial met.
Speaker 2: Means to leave him. That's crazy, that's wild.
Speaker 1: And I just want to say, going back to my
Speaker 1: original statement, when I say you can always tell the
Speaker 1: men who did and didn't get girls growing up, it's
Speaker 1: because if you did get girls growing up, you would
Speaker 1: know that women don't want to hear that shit, like
Speaker 1: whether it's true or not, whether it's true or not,
Speaker 1: if that is your preference on how you choose women
Speaker 1: you're dating. Cool, But as a man who has been
Speaker 1: successful in getting women, you.
Speaker 2: Have to know women don't want to hear that shit.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with you?
Speaker 3: No shame?
Speaker 2: Where is the kuth? I agree? Where is the kuth?
Speaker 2: And you know what women I blame you.
Speaker 1: All the women who out here given Corey Hulka some
Speaker 1: kootie cat, knowing that these the type of women he
Speaker 1: go for. Honestly, if you've ever given coodycats Corey Holcome,
Speaker 1: you should be offended because he basically called you a
Speaker 1: broke pinch.
Speaker 2: He basically called you a bum like. But I digress.
Speaker 4: I mean, for granted, it might only be too girl.
Speaker 4: I mean you might not even know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Honestly, honestly, that was just a wild conversation
Speaker 1: to me. And I understood where he was coming from
Speaker 1: in the beginning kind of because technically, that same reason
Speaker 1: is part of the why for how we had grandparents
Speaker 1: who stayed together so long, Like Grandma couldn't leave, she
Speaker 1: couldn't afford to leave, she didn't have her own bank account,
Speaker 1: she couldn't do shit, right, So.
Speaker 2: I get that.
Speaker 1: But in the year twenty twenty four of our Lord,
Speaker 1: for you to have that same mentality, it's crazy, Okay, crazy,
Speaker 1: hold on, y'all. I wasn't even paying attention to the comments,
Speaker 1: my bad, y'all. Let me scroll up, scroll up, scup
Speaker 1: UPco up, Hey to ya, swig Marcus eight one zero six,
Speaker 1: I like your laughter. Thanks, I got it from a birthday.
Speaker 1: Uh full of full of nonsense, says hello, o'rory. We've
Speaker 1: been trying to reach you regarding your CARSX in the warranty.
Speaker 1: I'm crying. Sharif Snug says, money don't make the man.
Speaker 1: Man makes the money. Marcus eight one O six says
Speaker 1: you're definitely my van Matarial and I want to.
Speaker 2: Go back to that making the money thing, right.
Speaker 1: I think it's also very important to point out it
Speaker 1: don't matter how much money a corny nigga get, he's
Speaker 1: still gonna be corny.
Speaker 4: He's still gonna be corny. Listen the group that always
Speaker 4: make the wild comments and don't get no chicksen.
Speaker 3: That's just how it works.
Speaker 1: One thing about them corny niggas, That corn is still
Speaker 1: gonna fall off the cop no matter how many tax
Speaker 1: break its you reach, okay, no matter how many tax
Speaker 1: brackets you break reach accomplished, you're still fucking corny.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's all I have to say about that,
Speaker 1: and forever fucking be Elaine.
Speaker 2: I don't know ya. Sometimes I just think that we
Speaker 2: need to stop.
Speaker 1: And this is coming from a place of reflection because
Speaker 1: I feel like I've done this a few times too.
Speaker 1: I know, we get on these podcasts mikes and we
Speaker 1: be thinking, yeah, we're cousins and we homies, and it's
Speaker 1: like we have to acknowledge that the wrong audience, people
Speaker 1: who don't understand how we talk and how we joke,
Speaker 1: are going to hear it and they're gonna take shit seriously.
Speaker 1: So it's like, Corey Hultan should have kept that ship
Speaker 1: to itself. What's a Travis kelce X name? Or girl
Speaker 1: who got on the podcast and said she dressed up
Speaker 1: as Tianna Taylor for Halloween after Amon left her? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you should have kept that yourself too. Sometimes you just
Speaker 1: got key shit to herself. Every funny story don't need
Speaker 1: to be shared. And this has come from somebody who
Speaker 1: shared one too many funny stories. All right, learn from this, okay.
Speaker 3: Like it's like people have this need to go viral.
Speaker 4: So now it's like they during the rat race to
Speaker 4: say the most crazy, intrusive thought or whatever pops up
Speaker 4: in your head.
Speaker 1: Nowadays, I guess, Caitlin Nicole, thank you, DJ Royalty.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, y'all be chasing this internet thing like.
Speaker 4: Bro and like and then you sit on the Internet, Like,
Speaker 4: I don't know why people treat me the way they
Speaker 4: treat me.
Speaker 3: What you just said?
Speaker 1: What you said, brother, and Corey, you got way too
Speaker 1: much like fuel to add to the fire.
Speaker 2: Bro like you, You're not the guy.
Speaker 1: Who can deliver that message, because sometime it is right message,
Speaker 1: wrong messenger. And I feel like that definitely should have
Speaker 1: been coming from someone else, someone else.
Speaker 2: For sure.
Speaker 4: I don't know why anybody would make that comment regardless,
Speaker 4: Why would you say that out loud? They ain't got
Speaker 4: no money because I need them to depend on me. Yes,
Speaker 4: like who, I'm still trying to figure out what telling
Speaker 4: anybody that, Like, I don't know that it has to
Speaker 4: be fake.
Speaker 1: Joe low tro Junior says they want that fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: of Fame, Dark Mass seventeen, Hey, dark Man's seventeen. People
Speaker 1: be hella thirsty out here. J Collective Media says that's true.
Speaker 1: Just to be relevant. Yeah, long story short, Uh, Corey,
Speaker 1: that wasn't it, Big Dog, that wasn't it. Next thing
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about is, Uh, this conversation with
Speaker 1: Corey really had me like second guessing myself. You know,
Speaker 1: I have really moved into a space where I say
Speaker 1: it the dating pool is in trash. We are just
Speaker 1: swimming in the wrong dating pools, right, The dating pool
Speaker 1: is in trash. Everybody just keeps going to the community pool,
Speaker 1: the free pool.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: We need the pools that have better access that you
Speaker 1: need to risk band and get into. We talked about
Speaker 1: this guys, right, but him saying that shit out live,
Speaker 1: questioning myself, like many ask fucking trash out here, So
Speaker 1: I had to remind myself the dating pool isn't trash.
Speaker 1: All the people that are dating with intentions and have
Speaker 1: done the work in therapy to work on themselves and
Speaker 1: have really worked to become a better person.
Speaker 2: They all in the house, right.
Speaker 1: So I feel like at some point we all need to, like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, have a flash mob or something like,
Speaker 1: let's all just fucking link up.
Speaker 2: Please.
Speaker 4: You have to understand like dating a person and then
Speaker 4: not the date going well, or you're meeting somebody and
Speaker 4: they don't go the way you wanted to go, or
Speaker 4: you hope it to go. People who just are mature
Speaker 4: or whatever or whatever it is. We just going on
Speaker 4: about a business. Don't go on the internet. There's no
Speaker 4: podcast topic about how niggas ain't shit. Because they expecting
Speaker 4: sex after whatever, whatever, just move on. If we're adults
Speaker 4: and there's plenty of fish out in the sea and
Speaker 4: we know that. So I feel like if we were
Speaker 4: to go on the internet and just start talking about
Speaker 4: all our experiences, we literally be joining the same as
Speaker 4: that mom people take, like, for instance, niggas only want
Speaker 4: you for sex. Well, I mean, how many of those
Speaker 4: stories are actually accurate, accurate to the tea of what
Speaker 4: we're actually talking about. When you say that, how many
Speaker 4: stories are blown up out of proportion. I'm out here
Speaker 4: doing what I gotta do. I don't have time to
Speaker 4: stop on Facebook, like y'all family. Let me tell y'all day,
Speaker 4: I'm about to snap family, But we gotta stop with
Speaker 4: these women out here because I dated one chick and
Speaker 4: didn't go the way I wanted to go. So now
Speaker 4: I'm to crash out and make a big deal. No,
Speaker 4: I have a job, I have a big as, I
Speaker 4: got a lot of stuff to handle, a movie. I
Speaker 4: may be hurt for like two days or whatever. We
Speaker 4: all go through shit. But this age is going on
Speaker 4: the internet bitching about everything, making a big dog buy
Speaker 4: everything online. That's not therapy. Ain't nobody on that type
Speaker 4: of time for real. I was just used to women
Speaker 4: going online talking about women and shit because this isn't
Speaker 4: our music. No niggas don't join the conversation. I just
Speaker 4: stay off the internet now because it's like too much.
Speaker 4: Like oh my god.
Speaker 1: So Marquez g said you should throw a speed dating
Speaker 1: event or something.
Speaker 2: I'll partner with you. Here's the funny thing about that.
Speaker 1: Right, So you know, like I said, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: put myself out there and try different things. A speed
Speaker 1: dating event actually popped up on my timeline a few
Speaker 1: days ago, so I talked to my homegirl, who's kind
Speaker 1: of on the same wave. We're like, all right, bet
Speaker 1: we're gonna go, right, tickets are not crazy, maybe like
Speaker 1: twenty dollars something reasonable like that. So I go to
Speaker 1: buy tickets and they are sold out for women. Okay,
Speaker 1: for women, they are sold out for women. The only
Speaker 1: tickets available is if you are a male seeking a female.
Speaker 1: So it's like, ladies, I get it, but I want
Speaker 1: you all to stay strong and I want y'all to
Speaker 1: continue to try and put yourself out there. But it's like,
Speaker 1: I have mixed emotions about this because I think it
Speaker 1: proves that there are women who are intentionally seeking relationships.
Speaker 2: So no matter which you.
Speaker 1: Hear or see on the internet, there are women who
Speaker 1: actually want to be tied down, want to be married,
Speaker 1: ready to be a wife, X, Y, and Z. Right
Speaker 1: on the flip side of that, men, what the fuck
Speaker 1: is going on?
Speaker 3: Nobody wants? This is the age? I don't.
Speaker 4: I also don't think that people take a consideration the
Speaker 4: age that we live in or the area that we
Speaker 4: live in. This is the era of being popular. This
Speaker 4: is the era everybody's trying to be an influencer. Even
Speaker 4: as a photographer, I can no longer just collab with
Speaker 4: somebody just to collab with somebody, because my picture may
Speaker 4: go viral and then make that nigga millions of dollars
Speaker 4: somehow someway. So now I have to watch everything we do.
Speaker 4: So now we go to a date event, I'm many
Speaker 4: of them girls just go on that date event and
Speaker 4: post on a podcast talk about this, talk about that,
Speaker 4: and I talk about that, and then you amplify that
Speaker 4: with the internet. So now the innefit is gonna blow
Speaker 4: out of a porttion You niggas ain't ain't be for that.
Speaker 1: My only pushback, but that is the same way you
Speaker 1: can go viral for being a photographer, you can go
Speaker 1: double viral for being an influencer relationship couple.
Speaker 2: So it's like there's still value in that.
Speaker 3: Nobody want that. No more of this trash. Ain't nobody
Speaker 3: trying to be on the internet.
Speaker 4: Ain't nobody trying to do all that type and stuff
Speaker 4: all these events nowadays. And I think it's just more
Speaker 4: so on a surface level because I have to really
Speaker 4: sometimes I have to zoom out because I don't live
Speaker 4: in like in my head, the world don't work the
Speaker 4: way it really works. So sometimes I know, I know
Speaker 4: I have to zoom something fuck up. I have to
Speaker 4: zoom the funk out sometimes and really live outside and
Speaker 4: be like, okay, shod. This is why this is moving
Speaker 4: this way, this is why it don't make sense, because
Speaker 4: the world is about the internet. When you go out,
Speaker 4: even me, I go out and this is girls that
Speaker 4: I've taken out before, and they're all about their phones.
Speaker 4: Even at my job there's people that walk in my
Speaker 4: building running into the fucking door today on everything is
Speaker 4: about social media.
Speaker 3: I got people, Oh do you have this? It was
Speaker 3: on TikTok blah blah blah. I need to put it
Speaker 3: on my flo What are you talking about, lady.
Speaker 2: You're eighty okay, grim my capitao.
Speaker 3: Out let's how about how about that?
Speaker 4: Like, dating is one of them things where it's like
Speaker 4: it needs to just we need to not be it
Speaker 4: needs to not be trendy. It is trendy talking about
Speaker 4: That's what I should just saying. For dating is trendy,
Speaker 4: it shouldn't be trendy. There's nothing trendy about dating.
Speaker 1: I don't think I think dating is trendy. I think
Speaker 1: dating is relatable because I feel like a lot of
Speaker 1: us are in the same space. But it shouldn't be.
Speaker 1: It's a true, but things that are relatable end up
Speaker 1: being trendy.
Speaker 4: That type of stuff in that whole Like for instance,
Speaker 4: just like when you have to talk about men versus women,
Speaker 4: it's a hot topic now you don't even want to
Speaker 4: touch it when it comes to dating.
Speaker 3: Now, I don't want to talk about this bullshit.
Speaker 4: Yeahs gonna be talking about you in a group setting
Speaker 4: like that, and especially you gotta think about the people
Speaker 4: who run it.
Speaker 3: Imagine no shade or anything like that to anybody. Just
Speaker 3: keep the pop up in my head.
Speaker 4: What if tonight's Conversation held a speed dating event right,
Speaker 4: Based off all the questions and clips that I hear them,
Speaker 4: girls ask, hey, if I'm side blah blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 4: you know, and he still has his girlfriend? Does that
Speaker 4: mean he doesn't love me? These are the type of
Speaker 4: questions that he's asking. These are the women that pay
Speaker 4: money to ask these questions. Why the funk would I
Speaker 4: be going to a d speed thing event when these
Speaker 4: are the type of women that these niggas are attractive.
Speaker 4: So there's women on that panel, smart, intelligent women on.
Speaker 2: That panel, enlightening other women.
Speaker 4: And these are the questions that these women are asking
Speaker 4: trying to attract niggas.
Speaker 3: You have to.
Speaker 4: Ask on television if you are a side chick for
Speaker 4: three years, is the nigga ever going to leave his girlfriend?
Speaker 4: And you think I'm about to spend twenty dollars, get
Speaker 4: in my car, drive to that advent and have to
Speaker 4: listen to you.
Speaker 3: Talk to me.
Speaker 2: Okay, So let me say this right. Two things.
Speaker 1: First, shout out to Tonight's conversation. Shout out to everybody
Speaker 1: over there. No shavee, no shape, no shape. Second, right,
Speaker 1: and Stanley Tress says niggas never go to speed dating
Speaker 1: because they don't know how to converse on the spot.
Speaker 1: And I think both of you are two very important
Speaker 1: parts of this conversation. Right, So you got to remember
Speaker 1: those rooms are filled with thousands of people. The only
Speaker 1: people that get to ask questions are the ones that
Speaker 1: are in super super VIP.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: You also have to remember at some point, I really
Speaker 1: do think that like some people just want to go viral.
Speaker 1: And then on top of that, I also think we
Speaker 1: have conversations in our head, but sometimes you just need
Speaker 1: an affirmation from somebody else like no, you are being
Speaker 1: a dickhead yep, or like no, no, no, you ain't
Speaker 1: tripping girl.
Speaker 2: This is why.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times when those women
Speaker 1: walk up, they think they are in the right and
Speaker 1: then they have to hear it out loud for somebody else.
Speaker 1: Like you can think you look very good in the outfit,
Speaker 1: but have a subconscious like thought about it. All you
Speaker 1: need is one person to be honest with you say no, bitch,
Speaker 1: you look fat. Like I love you, but you look fat.
Speaker 1: You should get a bigger size, or maybe we're something
Speaker 1: that is more catering to your body type, something that
Speaker 1: fits you, and I think a lot of times women
Speaker 1: are coming up there for they pay that twenty dollars
Speaker 1: instead of paying that two hundred dollars copay for a
Speaker 1: therapist and they get that thirty second session and that's it.
Speaker 1: Now do they change their lives afterwards?
Speaker 2: I don't know. But funny thing.
Speaker 1: About that is we had a conversation around this time
Speaker 1: last year where a woman had wrote into Chocolate Chip
Speaker 1: and SIPs saying her husband kept ejaculating fast, and his
Speaker 1: response was, she's too she's too wet, Like is that
Speaker 1: like a thing like X Y and Z. So I
Speaker 1: broke down like the different things that maybe going on
Speaker 1: X Y and Z.
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: She sent me a d M s as they say,
Speaker 1: Hey girl, it's me. I sent in this question asking
Speaker 1: like if it was a thing to be too wet.
Speaker 1: I divorced that nigga.
Speaker 4: My whole thing is you see how these are the
Speaker 4: questions that represent this is the type of questions that
Speaker 4: represent dating.
Speaker 3: Now, dating is not represented in a way where you know.
Speaker 4: You have niggas, like on a guy side, you have
Speaker 4: guys in standards absolutely correct on the on the on
Speaker 4: the aspect of dating We've got so used to just
Speaker 4: talking and arguing niggas don't forget how to actually date
Speaker 4: and have a conversation. So that's one part of it.
Speaker 4: So yeah, that's that's a big part of it. But
Speaker 4: not buying a ticket and not even trying even the boys.
Speaker 1: But okay, so I also want to say as far
Speaker 1: as that uh today's conversation thing, right, rather than look
Speaker 1: at it as these are the type of women that
Speaker 1: are coming up here asking these questions, can we also
Speaker 1: look at it as these are the type of women
Speaker 1: that feel like they have to because this is all
Speaker 1: that's out there.
Speaker 2: In terms of men.
Speaker 4: Yes, but again, if you're trying to attract men who
Speaker 4: are doing their thing in this world of trendy and
Speaker 4: dating world and all this bullshit that goes along with
Speaker 4: this world, why would this be the thing that we
Speaker 4: are pushing on the internet. It's the same thing as
Speaker 4: black people when we say our representation, the representation of
Speaker 4: the dating pool is trash.
Speaker 2: I think that there is internet.
Speaker 1: It is so and I'm not even going to say
Speaker 1: that because I think that there is just like we
Speaker 1: have conscious rap, just like we have people like Rhapsody,
Speaker 1: you know, J Cole like people who are pushing actual music. Right.
Speaker 1: We also have pods and relationship talks that do that
Speaker 1: as well, but for whatever reason, we're not tapping into it.
Speaker 1: So that's not their fault because it's out there. I
Speaker 1: cannot remember what it is called. It's these guys I
Speaker 1: just started following to long ago. It's really going to
Speaker 1: wreck my brain. And their conversations were so meaningful and
Speaker 1: like so honest and like I think a few of
Speaker 1: them are like husbands. The other one is like in
Speaker 1: a relationship. I cannot remember what.
Speaker 2: This is called, but I just wish I saw.
Speaker 1: That's how I knew that my cleanse was working not
Speaker 1: only for me but also for my algorithm, because I
Speaker 1: don't really see no more function, Like the only thing
Speaker 1: I see is like healed conversations. Jim Gurley is without
Speaker 1: a BBL.
Speaker 2: No shade.
Speaker 1: If you did get a BBL, I'm just saying, I'm
Speaker 1: a bitch, you didn't put the work in. So I
Speaker 1: would like to follow women who's done the same. But
Speaker 1: like when I see little things like that popping up
Speaker 1: all my time, and I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm really
Speaker 1: doing it, Like I'm really putting in this work, Like
Speaker 1: it's really happening because the algorithm is picking up on
Speaker 1: that's what I want to see.
Speaker 4: I just feel like the same way you just said
Speaker 4: with the Jake holes. The Jake holes is everything's popular,
Speaker 4: but the sexy reds are in powerhouse. That's what's headlining.
Speaker 4: Like I said, the dating pool isn't trash. It's not trash.
Speaker 4: I don't attract crazy women. I don't have all these
Speaker 4: stories because I don't type tho type of women. I
Speaker 4: don't have these stories talk. That's why you got nothing
Speaker 4: to talk about. That's why that's why we quiet, because
Speaker 4: I don't track all that drama. It's just a simple fact.
Speaker 4: When you're go on the internet, and you're on the
Speaker 4: internet and anything that comes off the internet, you gotta
Speaker 4: really think about, nowadays, what is this type of event?
Speaker 4: Like now we're attracting what? Because who goes to these
Speaker 4: type events? Now? Like I said, if you had a
Speaker 4: dating situation, like an actual event, right, and you took
Speaker 4: a power and you think about the audience that came
Speaker 4: to your shows for the last three shows or four
Speaker 4: shows or whatever, right, and you talk about the type
Speaker 4: of women that just got on the mic, or even
Speaker 4: just the type of woman you attract. What kind of
Speaker 4: dating event would you have? How many couples will come
Speaker 4: out of that dating event successful?
Speaker 2: I think I would get like a.
Speaker 1: If we're talking about like just on vibes alone, I
Speaker 1: think that I would have like a seventy five percent
Speaker 1: success rate. I think it would come down to a
Speaker 1: making sure there are enough men b love of attractedness
Speaker 1: because you can vibe, but like you might not be
Speaker 1: physically attracted to that person, but you won't find somebody
Speaker 1: you fuck with for sure.
Speaker 2: Do you want to have sex with them? Or are
Speaker 2: you attracted to them?
Speaker 1: That might be another thing. But I feel like if
Speaker 1: you come to one with event, she gonna find somebody
Speaker 1: you fuck with for her.
Speaker 4: For when we're talking fucking with, we're talking, I'm talking
Speaker 4: to dating event. Now everybody's on this relationship. Let's be loved,
Speaker 4: let's be husbands, we're all in tenfold whatever. Another thing
Speaker 4: in tentfoild. You gotta be more specific when you staying
Speaker 4: in tentfoil. Just saying that doesn't mean anything. But anyway,
Speaker 4: all these type of things. Knowing how we know what
Speaker 4: the dating pool is like, knowing type of people who
Speaker 4: are flocking to these type of things. How are we
Speaker 4: going to how how are we going to attract the
Speaker 4: type of people that are going to come to these
Speaker 4: type of events, Like, how are you going to attract?
Speaker 3: Do you use the these the stands? To everybody out here.
Speaker 1: I didn't put stand in there. I'm sorry, you are
Speaker 1: not you are not You're not in that.
Speaker 3: Why are you.
Speaker 4: Stand? Me and Stan was bonding? That s right, understand,
Speaker 4: go Eagles.
Speaker 1: Anyway, San is not dating intentionally. That's why shout out
Speaker 1: to standing.
Speaker 2: At work, your job, you want to love.
Speaker 4: I just I just think that it's one of those
Speaker 4: situations where be personally. This is one of the things
Speaker 4: that when and now that I shoot these events, you
Speaker 4: go to these events, it's not the right people. Even
Speaker 4: the guys there, they're just literally like they're staying in
Speaker 4: their groups talking about the girl that they see.
Speaker 3: I'm like you we're talking.
Speaker 4: Like like this is end in the age where niggas
Speaker 4: can't even go to a girl and talk about talk
Speaker 4: to her without surrounding her.
Speaker 1: First of all, Stand said, I'm not dating at all
Speaker 1: right now, not too much on me.
Speaker 4: Yeah say yeah, that's that's my thing. It's just the
Speaker 4: representation of dating is not in a good spotlight right now.
Speaker 4: Once it becomes not a topic and it's not one
Speaker 4: of them things where just the flocks the thing, then
Speaker 4: it will be the safe time for people to really
Speaker 4: just I think it'll pop outside and once we get
Speaker 4: like a real big thing to take the topic off
Speaker 4: of relationships heavy, I feel like people who are really
Speaker 4: out here doing it and don't.
Speaker 3: Want to be bothered with the nonsense will come back outside.
Speaker 2: I feel that.
Speaker 1: Hold on. Stan says dating pool isn't trash. People can't
Speaker 1: swim to the deep end. That's where the real one's at.
Speaker 1: Marquees G says, definitely not the right folks. Kel Dshot
Speaker 1: says someone. Marques G says it's hard to meet people
Speaker 1: like complete strangers because life just ain't the same no more,
Speaker 1: and yeah that's it. Kel Dshad says, I feel like
Speaker 1: people don't want to put themselves out there.
Speaker 2: Everybody's scary.
Speaker 1: Now. I agree with that as well. Comedian Harry Yo says,
Speaker 1: you look nice, always works. Just find Tritty Boy says
Speaker 1: just don't even make sense. Please, Stormy keeps can't find
Speaker 1: every podcast. I'm not to stop reading. Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, so as you guys can see this past week,
Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of reflecting about relationships and
Speaker 1: you know, things I've done well at, things I might
Speaker 1: have been able to improve at. And I always tell people,
Speaker 1: if you look back at the last three people that
Speaker 1: you've dated and it ended the same way, there's.
Speaker 2: Only one common denominator. Maybe it's you.
Speaker 1: Right, So if you're saying, like, yo, the last three
Speaker 1: girls I dated, they all just used me for money?
Speaker 2: And why did they all feel like they can use
Speaker 2: you for money? Okay?
Speaker 1: Why did they feel so comfortable asking you for money?
Speaker 1: Why did they feel so comfortable knowing they were going
Speaker 1: to get the money? Or like, if you look back
Speaker 1: at the past three guys that you've dated and you say, hey,
Speaker 1: you know all of them just got my cootie cat
Speaker 1: and left, why are you giving the cootie cat?
Speaker 2: Why are you giving the coudie cat so fast?
Speaker 1: Like I feel like sometimes we really can improve our
Speaker 1: situation by sitting back to reflect and not just reflect
Speaker 1: on bad things, but also reflect on good things.
Speaker 2: So me.
Speaker 1: Did a lot of soul searching, okay, And I feel
Speaker 1: like at my big age, I've only had three boyfriends
Speaker 1: and the one thing that every single one of them
Speaker 1: is gonna tell you I'm a trick. Okay, I'm a trick.
Speaker 1: I'm a simp. I'm'a spend that money. Okay, big trick
Speaker 1: and spend dingee's that's me.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: If you are my man, my man, my man, my man, baby,
Speaker 1: I'm dropping a bag. If I like you, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: act like it, like when y'all be having these conversations
Speaker 1: on the internet, like I can't be with no man
Speaker 1: a pedal.
Speaker 3: True.
Speaker 1: True, that's what's that. Ain't me though, but that's what's up.
Speaker 1: Good for you, Good for you. I don't understand that mindset.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense to me. I don't really understand
Speaker 1: the thought of you're my man, and I give you
Speaker 1: my body, but not my throat.
Speaker 2: I give you my well the throat to the throat too. Okay. Sorry,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Sorry, I'm trying to stay. I'm trying to
Speaker 2: keep it there. Let let me please. I meant to say,
Speaker 2: up my wallet. Okay, there it was on my mind.
Speaker 2: See I'm trying.
Speaker 1: I'm trying, okay, like, but no, all jokes inside they're like,
Speaker 1: if you're like man, I'm going to spend money on you.
Speaker 2: That's my erring, myring.
Speaker 3: Hold on up, what.
Speaker 2: The throat was on my mind?
Speaker 1: Chef Fetcher says, throat not included. Instance we trust says
Speaker 1: nasty work. Markcuz GeSe says, Oh, I'm good. I'm in
Speaker 1: a great relationship actually, but no, like sorry, I had
Speaker 1: to put my earring back in. But if you're my man,
Speaker 1: I don't see the problem in acting like it like
Speaker 1: we are together. I appreciate you. I'm gonna show it,
Speaker 1: not just emotionally and physically, but you know, financially, And
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do it in a way that emasculates you.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: It in a way that shows I appreciate you like
Speaker 1: and a lot of times men don't even be asking
Speaker 1: for much. You get a nigga, a pack of boxers,
Speaker 1: hes gonna smile from he like she was thinking about me, Like, bruh,
Speaker 1: it's fall.
Speaker 2: Get your man a Nike tax suit, a.
Speaker 3: Scarf, a scarf and some gloves and some hats.
Speaker 2: Bruh, bruh.
Speaker 1: Let him know you was thinking about him like it
Speaker 1: really don't take a lot like men are such simple creatures.
Speaker 1: It really a lot, like come on, calm down, uh
Speaker 1: inked up Fast says the simple things Zach Goodrich says.
Speaker 1: For real marquees, g says, as a man, we really
Speaker 1: don't want much like at all, Like Zach Goodrich says,
Speaker 1: that's a great bundled deal.
Speaker 3: I found that out. Like when I was dating girls.
Speaker 4: It was the girls that I didn't really mess with
Speaker 4: like that where I had to like take a step
Speaker 4: back off of them was the girls that I really
Speaker 4: just couldn't be myself, Like I'm not doing anything extra
Speaker 4: right now, like even in this talking stage or anything
Speaker 4: like that. This is like, this is not my final form.
Speaker 4: So if I can't even just regularly hold the door
Speaker 4: open for you, pay for things, this, that and the
Speaker 4: third blah blah, that's just how I am. Even if
Speaker 4: you're just my friend, you haven't a vagina attached to you,
Speaker 4: I'm just naturally going to do that. If I can't
Speaker 4: just be myself and I have to worry about all
Speaker 4: this extra stuff, it's just not gonna work.
Speaker 3: Some people are some people just don't understand. Some people
Speaker 3: are just like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you like somebody, yeah, like the whole conversation. Well,
Speaker 4: I'm not a wife, so I'm not gonna do wife things.
Speaker 4: I want to be married. When I say that I
Speaker 4: have intentions of being a husband, then that's just who
Speaker 4: I am.
Speaker 3: Percent of the time. I agree.
Speaker 4: Now, I'm not going to give you all the benefits
Speaker 4: of all that. Clearly that's dumb. But if I'm walking
Speaker 4: in like that, that's just how it works. If I'm
Speaker 4: talking like that, just how it works. So I think
Speaker 4: a lot of people just need to we need to
Speaker 4: really just understand, like some people are just like that.
Speaker 4: You need to like get on the program, cause you're
Speaker 4: missing out.
Speaker 1: Point Jade and Moto says, if she give me a
Speaker 1: grilled cheese and a kiss, I'm knocked out. Zach Gibbers says, shit,
Speaker 1: got me some video games and but I'm a happy camper.
Speaker 1: Marquees G says, man, my girl bought me some glasses
Speaker 1: and I melted like a chick.
Speaker 2: This is what I'm saying, y'all.
Speaker 1: Like these are real men on here saying these things.
Speaker 1: It is like true, it doesn't take much. It's really
Speaker 1: just the thought that counts. Like when you have somebody
Speaker 1: special and like you have a person, it's like, yo,
Speaker 1: how can I help you? How can I lighten your load?
Speaker 1: How can I provide peace? Like, how can I cover
Speaker 1: you in prayer? And how can I do all these
Speaker 1: other things for you? It's like, y'all like y'all man
Speaker 1: or not?
Speaker 4: It's weird that this conversations in the conversation do you
Speaker 4: even like girls?
Speaker 2: No? Do you like your nigga?
Speaker 3: Seriously?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: It's like, how can I provide How can I provide
Speaker 1: peace outside of being a listening ear, outside of letting
Speaker 1: you vent, outside of.
Speaker 2: Just being somebody to cuddle at night?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Is it really just buying you some socks? Babe? That's
Speaker 2: nothing I got you?
Speaker 1: Like? Is it really just paying for dinner every once
Speaker 1: in a while? That's nothing? Like?
Speaker 2: Do y'all like y'all men or not? I be so confused.
Speaker 1: Standing man nine one one says they really don't like
Speaker 1: their men.
Speaker 3: That's just weird.
Speaker 1: Zach says peace. I feel like that word is taboo
Speaker 1: for men. One fine Trinny boy says me banana pudding
Speaker 1: and I will love you for life. Sharief shrug says
Speaker 1: grilled cheese, get you a ring?
Speaker 2: Oh, y'all niggas like grilled cheese?
Speaker 1: Like that? Am I slacking? I didn't I knew the
Speaker 1: tomato souper and gril cheez. But y'all really just like
Speaker 1: girl chos let me find out crazy My Bugsman says,
Speaker 1: it's really about understanding your partner.
Speaker 2: I don't care much for gifts. I don't need them.
Speaker 1: But the best gift in X gave me was donating
Speaker 1: to my favorite calls in my name.
Speaker 2: Oh that's so fire.
Speaker 1: Aaron Ash seventy three says, I'm not a wife, but
Speaker 1: I will give him the womb. But cooking for him
Speaker 1: is where I draw the line.
Speaker 3: Y'all.
Speaker 1: Don't get me started on that shit. Don't get me
Speaker 1: started on that shit. I do not understand. But you
Speaker 1: know what, Okay, let's be honest and I'm gonna be transparent.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: I was one of them girls who was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm only cooking for a niggas that I actually like,
Speaker 1: like if I cook for you, that was like me
Speaker 1: letting like letting you hit raw like that was very
Speaker 1: intimate for me, Yes it was, and for me, it
Speaker 1: really was a thing. So I'm not gonna sit here
Speaker 1: and talk shit about the girls who'll be like I
Speaker 1: ain't cook and find out nagga, because I was almost
Speaker 1: one of them, right, But what I will.
Speaker 2: I'll say is.
Speaker 1: I think it's connected to and I'm gonna be real
Speaker 1: with y'alla be real. I think it's connected to it's
Speaker 1: not funny. It's not funny, but it's gonna be funny.
Speaker 1: I think it's connected to not being confident in your
Speaker 1: cooking skills. I think it's connected to not having the
Speaker 1: funds for groceries. And I think it's also connected to
Speaker 1: the only time I really shared meals where people were
Speaker 1: with my family. So it's probably a culmination those three
Speaker 1: things because those three things aren't the same anymore. And
Speaker 1: I'm fine cooking for anh because I'll look for a
Speaker 1: nigga in a minute. I don't really give a fuck,
Speaker 1: So it is what it is. One fine trinty boy
Speaker 1: says I cook for women. I feel like if I
Speaker 1: don't put everything up front, I can't be med if
Speaker 1: it don't work because I didn't put my all out.
Speaker 1: Outfit says not you having recording during Thursday post lunch
Speaker 1: work hours.
Speaker 2: Where did this come from? Marquess G said outfits. We
Speaker 2: all confused. Why y'all atee like, I can't just record
Speaker 2: the middle of today.
Speaker 1: I don't have a schedule, I have stuff to do,
Speaker 1: y'all think I feel I don't think I feel I
Speaker 1: had stuff to do today, guys. So we had to
Speaker 1: record a little bit early Jesus.
Speaker 2: Next thing.
Speaker 1: So my whole point of that was I don't mind
Speaker 1: tricking on my man, cause it's like, Yo, how can
Speaker 1: I show you my appreciation? Now, I know every man
Speaker 1: isn't into that, but you know, it's not just the
Speaker 1: only thing that I do.
Speaker 2: It's a few of the things that I do. And
Speaker 2: so I was looking at the other.
Speaker 1: Side of that, and a lot of times I hear
Speaker 1: from men that women are really out here expecting bags.
Speaker 1: Did not know this, didn't I know this? So y'all
Speaker 1: know I'm weird, y'all. Y'all know that I'm not. Did
Speaker 1: y'all know I'm not? I didn't know.
Speaker 2: I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I thought that was like one of those things we
Speaker 1: say on the Internet but we don't do in real life,
Speaker 1: Like you know, how I want to internet all the
Speaker 1: girls be like, oh, I need a nigga who above
Speaker 1: six foot but the baby dad five to five. So
Speaker 1: I thought it was like one of those things where
Speaker 1: they just say it, but they weren't expecting it.
Speaker 2: And y'all I just.
Speaker 1: I found out women out here really really expecting back,
Speaker 1: so I figured I'll help out and do my part.
Speaker 1: You know, it's the least I can do.
Speaker 2: So, ladies, here's a.
Speaker 1: Guaranteed way to get a man and to get him
Speaker 1: to buy you a bag.
Speaker 2: All right. First, get your own fucking back, okay.
Speaker 1: Get your get your own designer back, get your own
Speaker 1: designer back.
Speaker 2: Okay. And I'm gonna tell you what this gus.
Speaker 1: Number one, why would a man buy you something that
Speaker 1: you don't have yourself. That don't make sense, That don't
Speaker 1: make sense?
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Second part of that, if you already have a designer back,
Speaker 1: a man who cannot buy you one nine times out
Speaker 1: of ten will not invest a lot into you because
Speaker 1: he knows.
Speaker 2: You're on this level right here.
Speaker 1: He's only dating bitches on this level right here.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's not even it's just the levels you're
Speaker 1: not within that man's reach at the time. And that's okay,
Speaker 1: because everybody ain't for everybody.
Speaker 2: All right. Now, we're gonna go into the full proof
Speaker 2: guaranteed way. All right.
Speaker 1: If you have your own bag and you purchase your
Speaker 1: own designer bags on the regular, all right, If endpoint.
Speaker 1: This man wants to do something really really nice to you.
Speaker 1: You know what he's gonna say to himself. I know
Speaker 1: she likes these bags, hm, I know she likes these things.
Speaker 2: You following me? You get back with me?
Speaker 1: You with me?
Speaker 2: Because I'm with you?
Speaker 3: Are you with me? All right?
Speaker 1: I feel like this whole mentality of damn my ear
Speaker 1: my other earring fell out?
Speaker 2: Is that the same ear ring? That's so crazy.
Speaker 1: I know I was gonna go to the store and
Speaker 1: get another pair of earrings, and I was like, five,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be late. That was for shot
Speaker 1: because I thought we were recording that whole thirty today.
Speaker 1: Sho text me at like twelve twenty five, like yo,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, what's up?
Speaker 3: All cheerful. The third time she changed the time, trying
Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, what's up again?
Speaker 1: He's like, you supposed to be here at twelve, I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: I thought we were supposed to be hearing twelve.
Speaker 3: Guys, you changed the time and forget.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you. I was dragging my feet to
Speaker 2: come because I was like, I me so early, Like
Speaker 2: what if he's taking seven for a walk?
Speaker 1: Like I was really jagging, like where you heard him
Speaker 1: call me a bitch, right, yeah all the time?
Speaker 3: Good fuck, I.
Speaker 2: Forgot what I was talking about.
Speaker 1: But yeah, long story short, stop asking people to get
Speaker 1: shipped that you don't have yourself, that's stuff.
Speaker 4: And if you can't afford a bag, but you out
Speaker 4: here just doing your thing, and the nigga know that
Speaker 4: a bag will make you happy, you will get yourself
Speaker 4: a bag. But if you out here, like you're financially
Speaker 4: unable to take carriages, regular things, and you out here
Speaker 4: having your eyes on a bag when you have it
Speaker 4: on like getting a fall on the road or bills,
Speaker 4: that's not something that you're really going to be qualify for.
Speaker 1: My man, lady, here's the thing. It's a little known secret.
Speaker 1: I don't think a lot of women know this. Men
Speaker 1: don't mind spending money on women with money.
Speaker 2: Okay, they don't care. They don't care. It's when you
Speaker 2: come with that begging energy. That's when you give them
Speaker 2: the ick.
Speaker 3: Okay, I deserve it. I don't even know.
Speaker 2: You, yes, yes, like I even know you, yes.
Speaker 4: To be just sitting like three hundred dollars maybe cheap
Speaker 4: to some people, but that's still a lot of money.
Speaker 3: So like, come on, no, bag, don't start two up.
Speaker 1: And this is not coming from a place of pickmy
Speaker 1: This is coming from a place since I have brothers,
Speaker 1: I have common sense, and I have bags. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to help you now, I'm trying to help you.
Speaker 1: I think that it's a difference between uh, begging and
Speaker 1: asking for help and setting a standard on what you're
Speaker 1: boundaries are. Right.
Speaker 2: Once you figure out the mix of those three things,
Speaker 2: bags is on the way.
Speaker 4: That's why that what you bring to your table conversation
Speaker 4: needs to be Okay, what is his nigga? See when
Speaker 4: he comes to your table, what's on it? You already
Speaker 4: got all that stuff on there. Then he's going to say, okay,
Speaker 4: well let me add to that or let me do
Speaker 4: all that type of stuff. You just out here just
Speaker 4: living life.
Speaker 3: He's going to mash the energy.
Speaker 4: But if you out here really trying, even if you
Speaker 4: ain't got money like that, like but you build your pain,
Speaker 4: you can't just be out here afore and shit, if
Speaker 4: you know you're doing your thing, you're still going get
Speaker 4: yourself a bag.
Speaker 1: Uh. Marcuz G says, you can't act like you deserve
Speaker 1: it or it's the price of admission because I promise
Speaker 1: you I'm not doing it. Dark Man seventeen said, don't
Speaker 1: nobody like, no begging ass bitch.
Speaker 3: Want to pay for the pussy either like that's weird,
Speaker 3: you don't do.
Speaker 1: That, Jaden Moto said, or they say you supposed to
Speaker 1: get this for me. Marcus G says, my woman didn't
Speaker 1: ask me for shit, and I give her the world
Speaker 1: and that's always and there's always more to come. The
Speaker 1: bray J says, can I get a happy birthday? Happy birthday?
Speaker 2: Baby?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: Jabari ro sys it's the sense of entitlement early on
Speaker 1: without earned again, and yeah, let's talk about that. Let's
Speaker 1: talk about that. Let's talk about that, whether you realize
Speaker 1: it or not, you are giving off a sense of
Speaker 1: entitlement to that man's heart on money, right, And like Marquez,
Speaker 1: she was saying, like that can't be the price of
Speaker 1: admission if ain't nobody else in there with that, because.
Speaker 2: You don't have it, right.
Speaker 1: So having strong standards and boundaries is one thing, but
Speaker 1: expecting a lifestyle that you can't provide for yourself is crazy,
Speaker 1: because do you want a man or come up.
Speaker 3: And that's all it takes a bag?
Speaker 4: That's crazy, Like that's weird too, Like that's that's all
Speaker 4: it takes me to buy you a bag.
Speaker 3: I gained at least six months.
Speaker 1: Stand a Man now one one says, expecting a bag
Speaker 1: when your bills are passed due for the third time,
Speaker 1: it's diabodable. Yo, Honestly, I also just heard about this
Speaker 1: past due build thing, like y'all be out here living
Speaker 1: life on the edge, like ship about to get.
Speaker 2: Cut off all the time.
Speaker 3: You can no longer make a payment arrangement.
Speaker 1: That whole time, I thought y'all was texting me from
Speaker 1: emails like no, your phone is off and you on
Speaker 1: Wi Fi.
Speaker 2: I did not know this. I just learned this.
Speaker 1: I mean I'm trying, y'all, at least that I'm fucking trying.
Speaker 4: Okay, when you when you realize what niggas is doing,
Speaker 4: you're like, hold on, so this whole time when you okay,
Speaker 4: damn mmmmmm mmmmmm.
Speaker 3: That's why I see them all the time.
Speaker 1: Standing Man says, real life edge runners. I'm crying.
Speaker 2: Uh yeah.
Speaker 1: So going to my next point, I feel like when
Speaker 1: we're looking at our relations with other people, we have
Speaker 1: to acknowledge and try to pinpoint where we can do better,
Speaker 1: and sometimes doing better is leave the fucking conversation. Okay, friends, family, coworkers. Honestly,
Speaker 1: there are certain points where we can just stop indulging
Speaker 1: in bullshit as conversations. And I say all that to say,
Speaker 1: if you were having a pity party, from the bottom
Speaker 1: of my heart, don't fucking invite me. Okay, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be there. I don't want to be there.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be there. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you know this, but I got my own shit going on. Okay,
Speaker 1: I can be a listening ear, but once miseries start
Speaker 1: trying to add company, baby, I gotta go.
Speaker 3: I gotta go.
Speaker 2: I don't want to leave. Yes, the fuck I do,
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna go right now. Please please, it.
Speaker 1: Don't make no sense to me. Let me tell you
Speaker 1: something you got about two. Wow, it sounds like you're
Speaker 1: going through a really hard time right now. I'm so
Speaker 1: sorry to hear that. Before I say all right, well,
Speaker 1: I'm a talk to you later because I don't.
Speaker 2: I can't.
Speaker 1: Okay, I can let you vent, but once you start,
Speaker 1: woe's me. Life is always unfair for me. I never
Speaker 1: get these things, and my life is so bad.
Speaker 3: But you'll know what I'm going through trama.
Speaker 4: Crazy damn at least asked me if you could talk
Speaker 4: to me at least and that's another thing.
Speaker 2: That's another thing.
Speaker 1: One thing therapy has taught me is to ask if
Speaker 1: a person has space for this conversation. So, if I
Speaker 1: know I got some heavy shit, I really just need
Speaker 1: to get off my chest and my diary ain't doing it. Hey,
Speaker 1: real fast, do you have some time for me to vent?
Speaker 2: Okay? Cool?
Speaker 1: Because by me saying yes, I don't want to go
Speaker 1: to the baby party, but I'm gonna stay a while
Speaker 1: and see if they got some food and shit, and
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna bounce right.
Speaker 2: But if you just automatically right out the gate drag
Speaker 2: me to.
Speaker 1: It uninvited, hey no, no, no, absolutely check please, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna do it. The best I can offer is
Speaker 1: a dang and a shot.
Speaker 2: Listen. And another thing.
Speaker 1: You, the one who's dumping on me, the one who
Speaker 1: is trauma dumping on me.
Speaker 2: You know what damn that's crazy means.
Speaker 1: Stop acting like you don't know what Damn forever crazy?
Speaker 1: You You know you know what these three words mean. Okay,
Speaker 1: And I don't care what part of the world you're
Speaker 1: in right now. You know what these three words mean. Damn,
Speaker 1: that's crazy. Get off my phone.
Speaker 2: Get off my phone. I have nothing for you.
Speaker 1: I don't have the space, I don't have the time,
Speaker 1: and sometimes I really don't have the energy. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: just don't have the bandwidth to handle my shit in
Speaker 1: yours too. So when I say I don't want to
Speaker 1: come to a pity party, I'm not being mean. I'm
Speaker 1: not being rude, I'm not being selfish, I'm not being inconsiderate.
Speaker 1: Maybe gonna put me for solutions the fuck?
Speaker 2: And that's another thing.
Speaker 1: What makes it a pity party is not only do
Speaker 1: you not have a solution, you don't want to hear
Speaker 1: my solution.
Speaker 2: You just want to continue to be down? Baby? What
Speaker 2: are we doing?
Speaker 1: When people ask me or they want to have conversations,
Speaker 1: it's always one or two things. Do you want event
Speaker 1: or do you want solutions? Okay, sometimes I got space events.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I got space to be the brain and figure
Speaker 1: out some solutions.
Speaker 2: Listen here, Pinky, one way or.
Speaker 1: Another, we're gonna have to figure out if it's gonna
Speaker 1: work best for the both of us, because if it's not,
Speaker 1: I gotta go. So Jabari Rod said Damn, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: Scott Lorock says, yeah, I got some wings and fries
Speaker 1: for you. Then you can bounce. That's very considerate. Standing
Speaker 1: Man nine one one says, I go to the staple. Damn,
Speaker 1: that's crazy. Outfit says, Do I look like a landfill
Speaker 1: for trauma? Keldashez says. Another thing is in a conversation
Speaker 1: actsing do you want advice or just a listening? Hear absolutely.
Speaker 1: I was just saying that, just saying that this is
Speaker 1: fucking ridiculous show. Get on my nurse this is Ley says,
Speaker 1: is she geminiing for lunch? I'm not geminiing for lunch?
Speaker 1: Okay bye. So yeah, that was just the last little
Speaker 1: thing I wanted to say. But now we are going
Speaker 1: to get into our edible portion of our show. So
Speaker 1: the edible portion is where I read questions or comments
Speaker 1: that you guys sit in, and on the day that
Speaker 1: we record, I usually put up a prompt saying ask
Speaker 1: me anything. I don't know if y'all realize, but I
Speaker 1: put up the prompt early yesterday because I knew we
Speaker 1: were recording early today. See, I'll be using my naggin sometimes.
Speaker 1: All right, if you have something to share or some
Speaker 1: next or a day that we don't put up the prompt.
Speaker 1: You always can email inquiries at stormypea dot com.
Speaker 2: Okay, so.
Speaker 1: First one and I appreciated this because I know I
Speaker 1: know how y'all feel.
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Is there any hope out here for us men with
Speaker 1: no kids, owned car, and own apartment? And I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give the live some time to chime in and help
Speaker 1: this person out of it. So he writes in, is
Speaker 1: there any hope out here for us men with no kids,
Speaker 1: own car, and own apartment? You know, I know that
Speaker 1: what's up concrete comics? It's a concrete comics.
Speaker 2: I'm got to extra that.
Speaker 1: The other day standing man says, own house, come on
Speaker 1: with somebody, that's.
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 1: So I just want to say, from the bottom of
Speaker 1: my heart, I feel that, brother, and I feel what
Speaker 1: you may be going through because as a woman with
Speaker 1: one kid, whose child's father is in his life, he
Speaker 1: ain't looking for no daddy. I am who gets her
Speaker 1: own money, who has her own car, who pays her
Speaker 1: own bills, and can probably bench half of what you weigh, right,
Speaker 1: I too think is there any hope for me?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Is there someone out there staring up at the moon
Speaker 1: as I stare up at the moon longing for me
Speaker 1: the way I long for them, right, And my whole
Speaker 1: response to that is, I'm a unicorn. Do you know
Speaker 1: how rare a unicorn is pretty fucking rare. I know
Speaker 1: that I'm not going to have an easy time finding
Speaker 1: somebody who's on my level because I'm not no average bitch.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: If I was somebody who didn't have much to offer
Speaker 1: and was all the trash ass things that we see
Speaker 1: on the internet, I'll be able to pick up people
Speaker 1: a domind doesn't you ever see people out in public
Speaker 1: and you're like, damn, everybody in a relationship for me,
Speaker 1: well except me?
Speaker 2: And then you really look at these people and you
Speaker 2: realize I wouldn't want to be.
Speaker 1: In a relationship with that person any fucking way, Right,
Speaker 1: So I really have to count on my person is coming.
Speaker 1: But they are going to be just as rare as
Speaker 1: I am. That's why they're my person. So I really
Speaker 1: just have to sit back and wait on it. And
Speaker 1: I know it's hard, I know it sucks, I know
Speaker 1: it's lonely, I know it's boring, I know it's unproblematic,
Speaker 1: But listen, you.
Speaker 2: Just gotta wait, Yo.
Speaker 1: I'm crying. I'm crying one fine Trinny Boy says, woman
Speaker 1: done got you in my favorites for a reason. Outfit says,
Speaker 1: what are they looking for? Are they looking for someone
Speaker 1: with no kids themselves? Jabari Ras says, own house, own
Speaker 1: car for all one. K Roth Ira a hsa, you
Speaker 1: better talk your shit black Man, oh I can Marine
Speaker 1: says sing somewhere beneath the pale moonlight. Jaydon Moto says
Speaker 1: it's definitely possible, but you just gotta be patient and
Speaker 1: let love love. Missus Laf says we got to challenge
Speaker 1: her to a lightsaber battle together. Kel Deshat says people
Speaker 1: don't want to sacrifice and compromise. Who is Kaiser Source
Speaker 1: says it's hope, like you said in a previous episode,
Speaker 1: gotta stay away from the community. Pool Strepe the villain,
Speaker 1: Hey Strepe. The villain says, hey, yo, in early life,
Speaker 1: and you wasn't gonna tell me Stormy I.
Speaker 2: See how it is.
Speaker 1: Standing Man says, I was just speaking about me. Kel
Speaker 1: Deshot says they see one flaw and Bounce. Outfit says
Speaker 1: Stormy Week started as cosplaying storm rock climbing curling the
Speaker 1: weight of a preteen to podcasting. You ain't a unicorn,
Speaker 1: You're a GTA character.
Speaker 2: Complain all the side.
Speaker 3: Yo yo, why do you like?
Speaker 1: This's just giving you like props at the beginning of
Speaker 1: the episode and you weren't even.
Speaker 2: On here and you just come back with that bullshit.
Speaker 1: Shot said High Outfits gosh Jabari Rodd says, you would
Speaker 1: think having your things together would make it easier and
Speaker 1: not more challenging, and that's a.
Speaker 2: Good yo yo.
Speaker 1: I agree, you would think having your things together would
Speaker 1: make it easier, but it's actually more challenging.
Speaker 2: Seriously, what what?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 2: Well have you questioning yourself?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What am I missing? What am I doing wrong?
Speaker 1: Nothing?
Speaker 2: You just got away.
Speaker 1: You gotta be patient because, as cliche as it sounds,
Speaker 1: good things take time, okay, all that think about it,
Speaker 1: Like this microwave food is fast as fuck. Okay, you
Speaker 1: can get a full meal in four to five minutes, right,
Speaker 1: but you know what, you also are probably going to
Speaker 1: get high cholesterol if you continue eating it, diabetes if
Speaker 1: you continue eating it.
Speaker 2: U V raised from the microwave, and the food's always union.
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly that good soul food gonna take bout an
Speaker 1: hour and a half in the oven, big dog. Okay,
Speaker 1: so we can't think of it as I know, we're
Speaker 1: in a microwave society, but we really gotta get back
Speaker 1: to putting shit in the oven.
Speaker 2: If you understand what I'm saying. Friar, Yeah, not the air, friar,
Speaker 2: the oven.
Speaker 3: No short cuts. Listen, grill, cheese and air fire. Look
Speaker 3: it up.
Speaker 1: Aaron Nash seventy three says, the roads just gonna be
Speaker 1: busy a little longer.
Speaker 3: Fuck y'all.
Speaker 4: Okay, yah y'all, Spike y'all. I would have made them
Speaker 4: niggas probably rich.
Speaker 1: Erica by do Rag said, wonderful name, by the way,
Speaker 1: wonderful name, by the way. Erica by do Rag says
Speaker 1: food still be cold in the middle. Outfit says yo
Speaker 1: recording when folks clocked in, lets us know you hate
Speaker 1: me and shot a clock your strength. Villa says, on God,
Speaker 1: being thirty plus with no kids and life together, these
Speaker 1: women be looking at me sideways like I got problems.
Speaker 2: My bugsman says.
Speaker 1: It's unfortunately that in our community these things are differentiating
Speaker 1: e g. Car house, But in other communities these are
Speaker 1: minimum standards. You ain't never lied who is kaiser source.
Speaker 1: He says, nothing is wrong. You just have standards and
Speaker 1: a lot of people no longer qualify. Quality takes time. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: that was deep. That was good, y'all.
Speaker 2: We did good on that one. We we did that next.
Speaker 1: Is there anything you enjoy about modern dating trying new places?
Speaker 2: I think that come on and not just fool experiences too.
Speaker 3: Right, and.
Speaker 1: Exactly, I think that I don't go into dating anyone
Speaker 1: with oh, this is gonna be my husband. I don't
Speaker 1: go into dating anyone with, oh, this is gonna be
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. I don't even go into dating anyone with, oh,
Speaker 1: this is gonna be my next body.
Speaker 2: Right, I just go in like I'm looking to The
Speaker 2: expectations are low. I don't even know.
Speaker 1: If we gonna make it to playing basketball on the
Speaker 1: Apple Games. Okay, I don't even know if we're gonna
Speaker 1: make it that far, all right. I just go in like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm looking to enjoy myself and my time with you.
Speaker 2: That's it. That's the least I can do.
Speaker 1: And if you can't provide that, we can't even halfway
Speaker 1: make it to anything else. That is the only thing
Speaker 1: on my mind.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: So, whether it be trying a new place, a new food,
Speaker 1: or you know, you put me onto a new trail,
Speaker 1: a new gym. Like I just be looking for a
Speaker 1: good time.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 1: I enjoy having a good time. And that's the only
Speaker 1: thing I enjoy about modern dating because a I don't
Speaker 1: really go over the top when I'm dating somebody. Like
Speaker 1: it's not like, oh, we're gonna talk on Monday and
Speaker 1: we have to have a date by Friday. And if
Speaker 1: you don't text me three times a day by Wednesday.
Speaker 3: Baby is busy.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to have a good time. That's it,
Speaker 1: and that's all.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 1: Dark Man seventeen says Stormy looks like a fun paced
Speaker 1: person to hang around, like you can have a beer
Speaker 1: with her like. He didn't add that that was a
Speaker 1: line from Hamilton. I said that, like you watched Hamilton.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if you watch Hamilton, but if you did,
Speaker 1: then you understand where that came from.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep going what.
Speaker 1: Fine. Truny Boy says, I will smoke you in Apple
Speaker 1: Basketball or cup punk or square out boy.
Speaker 2: You must be smoking dick if you think you're gonna
Speaker 2: beat me in any of those.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, what Sorry, Dick, Oh sorry, okay, I'm working
Speaker 1: on it. The Lord is still working on me. Dark
Speaker 1: Man seventeen said, do you want to know any more geography?
Speaker 2: Oh? I forgot you was.
Speaker 1: The one who had to dry geography last time. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna think about it and I'm actually just gonna d
Speaker 1: m you. Dan Brigk says, most women these days just
Speaker 1: want to have a good time.
Speaker 2: Let's be real. One fine.
Speaker 1: Trany Boy said no Diddy rob at and C says,
Speaker 1: my baby the best.
Speaker 2: Yeah, man, that was it? That was it?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 2: So let's recap.
Speaker 1: Uh, Corey Holcom a wild boy, and I was not
Speaker 1: expecting that conversation to come from him.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 1: Like I said, you can always tell who did and
Speaker 1: didn't get girls growing up, and sometimes you have the
Speaker 1: right message, but that's coming from the wrong messenger. Next,
Speaker 1: I just want to say, everybody who works themselves is
Speaker 1: in the house, and we gotta go outside, y'all. And
Speaker 1: I'm not saying go outside and no bullshit, but I
Speaker 1: think we need to have like a mixer or rent
Speaker 1: an Airbnb or do a flash bob or something like.
Speaker 1: We all need to link up because I feel like, uh,
Speaker 1: we're like all in different camps and it's post apocalyptic
Speaker 1: and we think we'd the only ones out there, but
Speaker 1: we're not.
Speaker 3: Yues.
Speaker 1: Put your sickness up in the sky, y'all so we
Speaker 1: can find each other.
Speaker 2: Please, all right.
Speaker 1: I've only had three boyfriends in my life, and one
Speaker 1: thing that they're all going to tell you is that
Speaker 1: I'm a trick, big trick in spending geees okay, and
Speaker 1: I feel like if it's your man and you like him,
Speaker 1: that's okay.
Speaker 2: Next guarantee way to.
Speaker 1: Get a man and a bag is to get your
Speaker 1: own designer bag and then the man will see that
Speaker 1: you know, you have your standards and you're able to
Speaker 1: provide for yourself, and he won't mind adding to that
Speaker 1: because men don't mind spending money on women with money.
Speaker 1: The bagging energy is where they really tap out. Next,
Speaker 1: if you are having a pity party, do not invite me.
Speaker 1: I do not want to come. I'm not interested and
Speaker 1: I don't like it. Here there's a difference between asking
Speaker 1: more vice or venting and just trauma dumping and having
Speaker 1: a pity party. Once you start that will was me shit,
Speaker 1: I don't want I'm tapping out. Is there any hope
Speaker 1: for men and women out there who have amazing qualities. Yes,
Speaker 1: but you have to acknowledge that you're a unicorn and
Speaker 1: it's going to take a little bit longer for you
Speaker 1: to find another unicorn. Right, They don't just be hanging
Speaker 1: out in twos like technically, no way, and even put
Speaker 1: them niggas on a boat so that we never seen
Speaker 1: them niggas linked up by two, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So yeah, just wait, take your time. Is there anything
Speaker 1: I enjoy about modern dating? Yes? Just having fun, that's it.
Speaker 1: Not having fun like swinging a cootie cat around. I mean,
Speaker 1: like just low expectations, just trying to catch a vibe
Speaker 1: and enjoy different people. Follow me on the ground at
Speaker 1: Stormy p p EA at chocolate Chip and sip And
Speaker 1: if you don't remember anything else, please remember I'm in Unicorn.
Speaker 2: I love you guys. What I see next week. Peace,