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Speaker 2: Okay, Saro, And this is vocal d frag. Vocal d
fragging is taking the time to ask yourself the questions
and then question the answers. We spend way too much
time asking other people about Hey, what do you think
if I do this? What do you think of I
do that? I mean, people are consistently coming up to
me saying, hey, I want to make a career move.
I just wanted to get your input to find out
if I'm doing the right thing. And it's like, have
you asked yourself that question? You know, I've not walked
in your shoes. I only assume I know what your
resume looks like, and it is a resume. I'm sure
you didn't know fully prepare that monkey like the way
that it was lived out. I don't know if I'm
that guy. I mean, I'll talk to him, but really,
in all honesty, you got to ask yourself the questions
and then question the answers. This is vocal def ragging
today's subjects is pretty interesting because we all do it.
We're guilty of it, with our kids, with our jobs,
with our neighbors.
Speaker 1: This is it.
Speaker 2: Come on, I don't have time for this. How many
times have you said that? How many times did you
mean it? How many times did you feel like that?
It's like, God, I'm so ef and bored. I just
need to move on. Come on, I don't have time
for this. What happens if we do find the time
to do the things that we want to do, or
is that even feasibly possible? I mean, my honeydew list
at the house grows day in and day out, and
my problem is is that I get so far and
then the honey adds more to the list, and you're going,
how to do this? Come on, I don't have time
for this. And so what you do is you end
up spending a ton of money on inviting the professionals
over to do the job and it's a job that, Wow,
you could have done a better situation in the total
destination of your process of thinking and wanting to get
into a better location. So it's like this, How often
do you really mean it when you say, come on,
I don't have the time for this. Do you mean it?
Or are you just trying to escape a moment so
that you can get to someplace else immediately. A good example,
I'll be in the podcast studio all day tomorrow. Tomorrow
is going to be a balls to the wall kind
of day. I'm very, very busy. There's going to be
a lot of production, editing, interviewing taking place. My mornings
inside that production studio are not sitting around with my
thumb up my butt. The goal is to get the
job done. And I am very, very very sure I
have used that line a billion times inside that studio.
Come on, I don't have time for this. Well, what
happened is I've got to get prepared for a wedding.
Weddings to me and require show prep, just like my
podcasting requires show prep for me to do the average
wedding four hours, let's say four to six hours. I
want to have a two week time period where I
am fully one hundred percent in vested in making sure
that that day has one hundred percent my attention and
my professionalism. So when somebody comes along and they say, hey,
I need you to do this, the first thing I
do is I take three steps back and I re
observe the situation. Come on, I don't have time for this.
And it's one of those moments where you know that
if you say that, it's going to affect somebody's attitude
toward you, it's going to really get in the way
of the relationship. Come on, I don't have time for this,
But do you have time for this? Yeah, well, how
do you have time for that? But you don't have
time for this? You've been there. It happens all the time.
So how do you deal with the situation like that
where you have to be able to bridge the gap
and to be able to put yourself in a situation
of growing forward and not weighing yourself down with an
attitude such as, come on, I don't have time for this. Well,
you've got to remember there are twenty four hours on
the clock. You've also got to remind yourself that you
don't play by a clock that your parents had or
that you had as a younger person. The world is
moving too quickly these days, and there are a lot
of demands upon us. If we try to put everything
into a ten pound gunny sat that once held potatoes
or ears of corn, it ain't gonna happen, not in
today's world. So using that term, come on, I don't
have time for this, it's like, make the time for this.
Take the time to really sit down and reevaluate your
situation of choice making. Hey, come on, I don't have
time for this. What do you mean you don't have
time for this? Because somewhere along the line, I'm going
to see you sitting around binge watching some TV. That
right there is time wasteding. You're not getting that time back.
Use that term I don't have time for this. I
invite you to take a bigger chance, and that is
find the time, locate that space, because we are in
a situation where it's no longer always about being the individual.
We need each other, we need the collaborations, we need
the support, and we need that little net that's going
to catch us when we let go of that bar
high above the circus tent. When you let go, you
can't just instantly put your hand up there like a
stretching man.
Speaker 1: You're going to fall.
Speaker 2: And so how many times did you say I don't
have time for this, for someone to look at you
and say, come on, I don't have time for this.
Think about it, ask the questions, question the answers. It's
called vocal defragging.
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