Speaker 1: And energy such cancel so high ecstasyasag canceagely. It's not
Speaker 1: sorry and energy. I'm gonna say the thing that no
Speaker 1: one's willing to say out loud because they either don't
Speaker 1: have the consciousness and understanding or they're afraid to be
Speaker 1: hated by the internet. We manifest getting cheated on. I've
Speaker 1: done it myself. How the hell are you? Yep, the
Speaker 1: wizard li is getting cheated on is not random. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying you did it consciously. I'm not saying you
Speaker 1: did it purposely. I sure hell didn't do that, because
Speaker 1: we wouldn't consciously hurt ourselves, we wouldn't intend to be manipulated.
Speaker 1: But the thing is, we don't manifest only consciously. We
Speaker 1: don't manifest only what we want. We manifest the good
Speaker 1: and the bad, the pretty and the ugly, the fun
Speaker 1: and the not so fun, because we are not just
Speaker 1: conscious beings but operating from our subconscious mind ninety five
Speaker 1: percent of the time. Uh oh, you can bet your
Speaker 1: ass that's also going to pull experiences in to your reality. Now,
Speaker 1: you can listen to this podcast and you can hate me,
Speaker 1: or you can learn. You can listen to these words
Speaker 1: and you can get mad, or you can learn. You
Speaker 1: can get triggered, or you can learn. And I get it.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying sounds sicky, It sounds a little prickly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I get it. But in order to become a master manifestor,
Speaker 1: you have to override this temporary feeling of discomfort because
Speaker 1: this is unfamiliar. It does not matter what you look like,
Speaker 1: what you have, what your career is, what you do
Speaker 1: for other people. What matters is your beliefs about yourself.
Speaker 1: If you can't handle the energetic truth, click off this video.
Speaker 1: But if there is any part of you that wants
Speaker 1: more from your reality, that wants a loyal divine union,
Speaker 1: that wants to feel loved, that wants more abundance, more pleasure,
Speaker 1: more fun, that wants a grandi yost reality, than keep listening.
Speaker 1: This podcast is not about singling anyone out. It's about
Speaker 1: looking at the public sphere and understanding how we can
Speaker 1: reclaim our own soul's essence and attract manifest better, create
Speaker 1: a better reality. You have so much power, and when
Speaker 1: you realize it, you can then learn how to use
Speaker 1: that power. Because knowledge is not power, but action with
Speaker 1: knowledge that is power. Understanding our wounds and then healing them,
Speaker 1: unraveling them, integrating them. That's where the power is, not
Speaker 1: just knowing about what wounds might look like. I keep
Speaker 1: seeing posts that say something along these lines. The fact
Speaker 1: that even the wizard Lays got cheated on shows no
Speaker 1: level of beauty, intelligence or confidence can stop a disloyal man. Actually,
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with that. It has nothing
Speaker 1: to do with that. That is the most basic surface
Speaker 1: level perception I ever did here. Okay, what it shows
Speaker 1: us isn't about beauty or intelligence or what you have.
Speaker 1: What it shows us is her belief system, her belief
Speaker 1: system about who she is, what she can have relationships
Speaker 1: to men. We're just exposed with this recent scandal, if
Speaker 1: you want to call it that, because the truth is,
Speaker 1: our subconscious beliefs are going to bleed into our physical
Speaker 1: three D reality and be mirrored back to us. So
Speaker 1: we look at them, learn from them, and heal them.
Speaker 1: The universe is not trying to bully us. It's not
Speaker 1: trying to be the mean girl to us, and it's
Speaker 1: not trying to harass us. It's trying to show us,
Speaker 1: this is what you believe about yourself, and then it
Speaker 1: invites us through experience do you want to heal it?
Speaker 1: Do you want to look at yourself? Do you want
Speaker 1: to stop blaming your reality and start living at cause
Speaker 1: or do you want to be a victim of circumstance
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life. Listen, before we dive
Speaker 1: into this conversation, a couple of things I want to say.
Speaker 1: I want to make it crystal clear. I am not
Speaker 1: blaming Liz for being cheated on. Okay again, in this
Speaker 1: three D realm, Landon is the one who betrayed the relationship.
Speaker 1: He made the choice with his free will. He broke
Speaker 1: the trust, he crossed the line, and there's simply no
Speaker 1: excuse for that. What I want to explore today isn't
Speaker 1: about fault. It's about energetic responsibility because a lot of
Speaker 1: us are attracting subconsciously and then getting really hurt by
Speaker 1: the experience. There is obviously no conscious intempt by the Wizard,
Speaker 1: Liz or any of us to ever be hurt, betrayed,
Speaker 1: or manipulated. Of course we wouldn't want that. So it's
Speaker 1: not your fault. If you get cheated on or something
Speaker 1: negative in your three T the experience happens to you,
Speaker 1: it's not your fault. You didn't try for that, and
Speaker 1: you didn't consciously want that. Unfortunately, as soon as we're born,
Speaker 1: it's like our subconscious mind is a recorder and will
Speaker 1: record every thought we have, every experience that we go through,
Speaker 1: and it creates meaning, It builds beliefs, and then those
Speaker 1: beliefs build our world. So we have a lot of
Speaker 1: unconscious energetic forms that are attracting for us. So it's
Speaker 1: not your fault if this happened to you, but it
Speaker 1: is your energetic responsibility to learn from it, understand it
Speaker 1: so you can get better. I'm rooting for you, I'm
Speaker 1: rooting for Liz, I'm rooting for my damn self. And
Speaker 1: the only way for us to get better is for
Speaker 1: us to take responsibility. Read the writing on the wall.
Speaker 1: Understand that if we keep seeing a similar emotional outcome
Speaker 1: in our reality, we are the common denominator. I'm here
Speaker 1: to hold your hand and cake your ass, but together
Speaker 1: we're gonna heal this shit out. Let me tell you
Speaker 1: that much. If we keep experiencing the same emotional outcomes,
Speaker 1: we need to be asking ourselves what beliefs, what patterns,
Speaker 1: what wounds are still broadcasting in my field? Again, what
Speaker 1: beliefs what patterns, what wounds are still broadcasting in my field.
Speaker 1: Manifestation does not turn off when life gets messy. We
Speaker 1: don't only manifest the good, We manifest the lessons, the heartbreak,
Speaker 1: the initiations too. This episode is not about shaming anyone.
Speaker 1: It's about understanding the deeper codes beneath chaos and what
Speaker 1: it is really meant to teach us. I do want
Speaker 1: to take a moment to thank Liz for being in
Speaker 1: the public sphere on an energetic soul level. She is
Speaker 1: in front of millions of people to show us and
Speaker 1: reflect to us our deeper wounds. And also we will
Speaker 1: be talking about Aubrey, Marcus and Villana in this podcast
Speaker 1: as well, so just to thank you to them and
Speaker 1: their energies. What's up, positive bitches, How are we doing today?
Speaker 1: If you are hearing this episode, then you are meant
Speaker 1: to be here, So keep listening that Itch is Positive podcast.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we will laugh, other times, baby, we're gonna cry,
Speaker 1: but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered
Speaker 1: positive bitch self that is Babe in true connection with
Speaker 1: herself or himself or human self. On this podcast, we
Speaker 1: unbecome who we are not so we can fully step
Speaker 1: into exactly who we came here to be. If you've
Speaker 1: not yet gotten your copy of Show Up as Her,
Speaker 1: be sure to get that so you can not only
Speaker 1: upgrade your own life, but also follow along in this
Speaker 1: podcast episode. I am on Instagram at VIBEINWOCC. My link
Speaker 1: is in the show notes. That's be Ibi n with
Speaker 1: ci CII follow there for daily magnetic tips and intuitive
Speaker 1: messages and of course if you want any guidance. I
Speaker 1: am a certified life and energy coach. I'm ARIKI practitioner,
Speaker 1: and I offer one on one sessions via zoom. You
Speaker 1: can DM me on Instagram for more. My courses and
Speaker 1: workbooks can be found below. So, yeah, the cats out
Speaker 1: of the bag. We manifest even getting cheated on yep,
Speaker 1: and uh, like I said, I've I've done it myself.
Speaker 1: I am so gung ho about this concept because it's
Speaker 1: simply quantum physics. Even the title of my book, it's
Speaker 1: titled Show Up as Her and the subtitle is ten
Speaker 1: Laws for Reclaiming Your Power, embodying magnetic energy and positive Manifestation.
Speaker 1: What manifestation positive? Why would CC write positive manifestation to
Speaker 1: drive home the points we don't just manifest the good shit.
Speaker 1: We manifest the lessons, the shadows, the heartbreaks, because manifestation
Speaker 1: does not get turned off if you are alive. We're
Speaker 1: always pulling people experiences and opportunities towards us. I was
Speaker 1: in a three year relationship, but something was very off,
Speaker 1: and I felt something was off. I was not happy.
Speaker 1: My mom dragged me to church and I was about
Speaker 1: nineteen twenty at the time, and I screamed at God
Speaker 1: and I said, you gotta change something, remove what needs
Speaker 1: to be removed. I need to find my purpose. I
Speaker 1: don't understand what I'm on this planet for. I feel
Speaker 1: so lost, so confused. Within two days, I was outside
Speaker 1: making steak with my partner and the timer on his
Speaker 1: phone went off and I saw someone text him Alexis,
Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, who's Alexis or whatever the
Speaker 1: hell her name even was, And he grabbed the phone
Speaker 1: out of my hands, and I just knew that he
Speaker 1: did something. And it took me three hours of screaming, crying,
Speaker 1: I know you did something, I know you did something.
Speaker 1: He was deleting text messages in my face. I watched
Speaker 1: him delete the text. It was just insane. And then
Speaker 1: he eventually did show me that he told her he
Speaker 1: was dog sitting awesome, yup, did you know him? A dog? Yeah? Hey,
Speaker 1: what's up? Not human, just the dog. And it really
Speaker 1: internally made me feel so sick. And at first he
Speaker 1: said that they just kissed, and then eventually, of course
Speaker 1: I felt my body telling me he's lying, and my
Speaker 1: intuition was right. He slept with her. With that, I
Speaker 1: was hysterically crying, and then I started laughing, which probably
Speaker 1: looked insane, because I knew that was divine intervention. I
Speaker 1: knew that God was telling me, you got to remove
Speaker 1: this person. You need to focus on you and your journey. Now,
Speaker 1: why did I manifest this specific experience of having my
Speaker 1: then partners sleep with someone else? I had to do
Speaker 1: a lot of digging. Part of this is I did
Speaker 1: ask Divinity to be at work in my life. And
Speaker 1: when you ask, you will be answered. The physical realm
Speaker 1: is really our dominion. We have to call on angelic
Speaker 1: support when we want it. We need to call on
Speaker 1: Divinity when we want divine intervention. That's one hundred percent
Speaker 1: part of it. But as I grew in my spiritual
Speaker 1: evolution and I learned more about myself, the thing that
Speaker 1: stuck out to me the most when my then acts
Speaker 1: cheated on me was he made so many decisions to
Speaker 1: sleep with this girl. He not only saw her out,
Speaker 1: got her number, he then got home and face timed me.
Speaker 1: He left his house after face timing with me, and
Speaker 1: she picked him up, so he gave her his address.
Speaker 1: She picked him up. They went to a sandwich shop
Speaker 1: because that's normal, and then he went back to her house.
Speaker 1: He decided to take off his clothes. He decided to
Speaker 1: you know, you know, and then we don't need me
Speaker 1: to say anything else. We know what happens from there.
Speaker 1: He made so many key decisions that would affect me negatively.
Speaker 1: That was the biggest thing. It's not that he slept
Speaker 1: with someone that was so insane to me, It was
Speaker 1: a fact that he made so many decisions to do so.
Speaker 1: And when I looked at that, I said, Okay, why
Speaker 1: is this bothering me so much? It's not even about
Speaker 1: the cheating. It's the fact that he made all of
Speaker 1: these decisions. It's because I looked at him, And when
Speaker 1: I looked at him, I thought, damn, this man is
Speaker 1: obsessed with me. He loves me so much. He gives
Speaker 1: me all the energy in the world and the positivity.
Speaker 1: How did he polarize to such the opposite spectrum and
Speaker 1: sleep with someone else? How is he so about me
Speaker 1: and then so about someone else? How is he so
Speaker 1: about me but then when I'm not there, so about
Speaker 1: someone else? And it reminded me of the dynamic I
Speaker 1: had with my own mom. My mom is extremely adhd.
Speaker 1: She's all over me, overbearing, on top of me, and
Speaker 1: then it's like, hello, do I exist to you? Do
Speaker 1: you even know I'm here? She would give me so
Speaker 1: much love, so much attention, and then it's like gone
Speaker 1: in the next second. She would want to be the
Speaker 1: class mom on playground duty and then be late for
Speaker 1: me every single day. I had this seesaw effect with
Speaker 1: my mother, so much attention and then none at all,
Speaker 1: totally with me and then so far gone. And that's
Speaker 1: what I manifested in this relationship. And it wasn't just
Speaker 1: the cheating, but the pattern got stronger and stronger and
Speaker 1: stronger until we got to that. She prior to that,
Speaker 1: he would be so obsessed with me, and then he
Speaker 1: would be like, yeah, I could go a month without
Speaker 1: seeing you and I would be fine, And I was like,
Speaker 1: what it was the same seesaw effect being so about me,
Speaker 1: but then feeling like he didn't care about me at all.
Speaker 1: It's a rejection wound. It's feeling like I'm not being chosen,
Speaker 1: and it literally stems from my mom's own inconsistency with
Speaker 1: her ADHD. It created this sort of anxious attachment within
Speaker 1: me where I was always scanning when am I going
Speaker 1: to be abandoned? When am I going to be threatened?
Speaker 1: When am I going to be left? I had specific
Speaker 1: circumstances with my mom where I was constantly scanning for
Speaker 1: when she was going to leave. She would sometimes say
Speaker 1: that she was going to leave, not anything to do
Speaker 1: with me, but because of my own father. And when
Speaker 1: she would do this, she just meant she was going
Speaker 1: to my grandma's house because she was mad, but I
Speaker 1: felt like she was leaving me, and I would subconsciously think,
Speaker 1: as a child, well, what I need to do to
Speaker 1: be good enough to make my mom stay? What do
Speaker 1: I need to do in my own life that I'm
Speaker 1: finally going to be seen as being chosen and worthy
Speaker 1: of my mom staying with me, And the same thing
Speaker 1: happened in my relationship. We have to realize that there
Speaker 1: are so many subconscious programs and conditions that we create
Speaker 1: when we're four, five, six, seven that then run the
Speaker 1: rest of our lives. We will consistently copy and paste
Speaker 1: the dynamic we had with the caregiver we craved love
Speaker 1: from the most, and replay that dynamic in our adult
Speaker 1: intimate relationships, trying to prove to our inner child that
Speaker 1: we're finally worthy enough. But all we do is repeatedly,
Speaker 1: repeatedly traumatize ourselves. Let's go back to Liz. Liz her
Speaker 1: father cheated on her mother. Liz called her father a tyrant.
Speaker 1: Her friend said or her sister said that she literally
Speaker 1: saw Liz getting dragged by her hair. How do you
Speaker 1: think this shaped Lizz's experience? What do you think at five, six,
Speaker 1: seven years old, a little girl's gonna think about men
Speaker 1: when she's seeing a grown man cheat on her mother
Speaker 1: be abusive to her. What is she gonna start to think?
Speaker 1: Men aren't safe, Men can't control their lust, Men are bad,
Speaker 1: Men are gonna hurt me, Men can't be trusted, Men
Speaker 1: are no good. A child living in an adult world
Speaker 1: can only make such a mature belief or conclusion about reality.
Speaker 1: If you are a child seeing abusive circumstance over and
Speaker 1: over and over and over again. I don't care how
Speaker 1: much work you do on yourself. I don't care how
Speaker 1: many books you read, how many seminars you go to.
Speaker 1: You have to do the integration if you actually want
Speaker 1: to change your nervous system. And I know it's a
Speaker 1: lot of work, totally possible, totally doable. We're all trying
Speaker 1: for it. But Liz has a lot of knowledge, and
Speaker 1: I actually genuinely enjoy her energy. I think she's a
Speaker 1: cool girl or woman. But when I listen to her
Speaker 1: videos sometimes I do WinCE a little bit because I
Speaker 1: can hear the wound in her that feels unsafe. I
Speaker 1: can hear the wound in her that's still a little
Speaker 1: girl that wants to be chosen and want someone to
Speaker 1: create safety for her. If you have beliefs that men
Speaker 1: aren't safe, that men can't be trusted, that men can't
Speaker 1: control their lust, baby girl, that's what you're gonna have
Speaker 1: in your reality. That's what you're gonna see in your reality.
Speaker 1: I find it really interesting her dynamic with this guy.
Speaker 1: She definitely has an obvious father wound, and she said
Speaker 1: that she really was looking for someone to make her
Speaker 1: inner child feel safe, and she said that Landon did
Speaker 1: this for her. I question this, and I'm just someone, okay,
Speaker 1: who is an onlooker. And what I see is someone who,
Speaker 1: on the surface level, is just a feminine man who
Speaker 1: she thinks can make her feel safe. When I watched
Speaker 1: her video with him, because I tried to do research,
Speaker 1: I don't watch her content regularly. I was just doing research.
Speaker 1: I couldn't even watch her whole entire vlog or whatever
Speaker 1: Q and A with him because he I got the
Speaker 1: god I don't. I am just a human too. I
Speaker 1: have my own beliefs. I'm gonna fully say that right now.
Speaker 1: But a man who wants to be famous just x
Speaker 1: me out. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. It's so feminine to
Speaker 1: want attention like that. If a man wants to have
Speaker 1: a great accomplishment, he wants to be the number one
Speaker 1: race car driver, doctor, painter, artists, Okay, that's different. You
Speaker 1: want to have an impact on the world, that's one thing.
Speaker 1: But this man, he said that he was on YouTube
Speaker 1: at one time too, and he's just a little bit
Speaker 1: too happy to be in this blog. There's something off there.
Speaker 1: He is a feminine man, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 1: If that's what you want, fine have it. I think
Speaker 1: Liz got confused. I think she saw a feminine man
Speaker 1: who was opposite of her father, who was masculine but
Speaker 1: wounded masculine, and she confused a feminine man for safety.
Speaker 1: A feminine man is one of the most unsafe things
Speaker 1: that you can attract because they crave attention. They have
Speaker 1: no inner compass. They are people pleaser, so they want
Speaker 1: to please everyone. And women don't want a people pleaser.
Speaker 1: They like to be pleased. But if we don't know
Speaker 1: who you're gonna please in the next room, we can't
Speaker 1: trust you. Feminine men are living outside of their selves,
Speaker 1: and they are the ones who have lust issues. They
Speaker 1: are the ones who are posing on Instagram. They are
Speaker 1: the ones who you're gonna find issue with. I think
Speaker 1: she looked at Land and saw that he was a
Speaker 1: more feminine energy and thought that would be safety, but
Speaker 1: she mislabeled him. He's just feminine. That doesn't mean safe.
Speaker 1: Her father was wounded masculine, so she associated masculine energy
Speaker 1: with unsafe and feminine energy with safety. That's a problem
Speaker 1: because she thought this but still had beliefs about men
Speaker 1: in general that they are lustful and can't control themselves,
Speaker 1: and they are going to hurt her. The circumstance manifested anyway,
Speaker 1: because he's still a man, even if he's feminine. Feminine
Speaker 1: men will lead with their emotions and how they feel.
Speaker 1: She and his ex both said that they thought he
Speaker 1: was very emotionally intelligent. That's exactly what a feminine man
Speaker 1: will do. They what I call peacocking. They will give
Speaker 1: you a false sense of safety by talking about their
Speaker 1: quote unquote traumas. They're gonna talk about how they feel.
Speaker 1: They're gonna try to create a safe space for you.
Speaker 1: That is, creating a false sense of emotional connection so
Speaker 1: that you will be let into their bedroom. Okay, clock
Speaker 1: that one. When they lead with their emotions, that's them
Speaker 1: trying to lead you to the bedroom, not down the aisle.
Speaker 1: They're trying to put on a facade, because realistically, you
Speaker 1: really shouldn't be talking about traumas right off the bat.
Speaker 1: It shouldn't be this huge emotional thing right off the bat.
Speaker 1: Give yourself time space to actually get to know just
Speaker 1: who this person is and let those things come out
Speaker 1: over time. Liz attracted a different sort of man on
Speaker 1: the surface, but that's what we do. We attract different people, places, opportunities,
Speaker 1: but what is the same. It's the same emotional outcome.
Speaker 1: She attracted a different type of man on the surface
Speaker 1: to her, but she still got the same emotional outcome
Speaker 1: of men can't be trusted, they can't control their lust,
Speaker 1: they are going to hurt me, they are abusive, whether
Speaker 1: it's emotional or physical. She still got the same emotional
Speaker 1: outcome because while she's read the books and she gets
Speaker 1: manifestation to some degree, she did not actually integrate those
Speaker 1: lessons and do the somatic healing, do the releasing to
Speaker 1: fundamentally change her true beliefs about who she is, what
Speaker 1: she deserves, and men in general. If you want divine union,
Speaker 1: you can't have all these beliefs about men and expect
Speaker 1: to attract someone who is other than what you believe
Speaker 1: they are capable of being. Let's talk about Villona and
Speaker 1: Aubrey Marcus. Vilaana said that when she was born, she
Speaker 1: felt rejected and boyfriend after boyfriend would choose another woman
Speaker 1: or impregnant other women. And now once again she thought
Speaker 1: she got emotional safety with Aubrey, who seems to be
Speaker 1: this spiritual guru. But even the spiritual guru is going
Speaker 1: to make her feel unchosen, rejected, and unsafe. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: she hasn't learned the lesson to choose herself. I really
Speaker 1: believe if Villana chose herself in any one of these
Speaker 1: past experiences prior or right now with him and left
Speaker 1: the relationship, she would then attract a man who would
Speaker 1: choose her too. But she's still living in accordance with
Speaker 1: her core belief that men can't be trusted, that men
Speaker 1: are going to choose someone else, And so that's the
Speaker 1: result that she's getting. Just because something happens in childhood
Speaker 1: doesn't mean it just goes away. No, once we create
Speaker 1: that narrative as a child, it becomes our elevator of
Speaker 1: music and it's non stop playing in the back of
Speaker 1: our head all day. It's subconscious, so we don't really
Speaker 1: hear it, but it's there. There's such a difference between
Speaker 1: knowing I have an abandonment wound versus actually healing it,
Speaker 1: and that's where I see people are getting it wrong.
Speaker 1: I don't see Vallana healing it. I don't see Liz
Speaker 1: healing it. And again, love to both of these women.
Speaker 1: They're great people, but there needs to be that deeper work.
Speaker 1: In both Malana's story end with Liz, they said that
Speaker 1: they got married very quickly. To me, I don't like
Speaker 1: that because it's not enough time to see who someone is.
Speaker 1: Can you get married relatively quickly and it works out?
Speaker 1: Find sure, there's always exceptions to the rule, but the
Speaker 1: fact there are exceptions also proves that there is a rule.
Speaker 1: What is the rush? Give yourself time to see who
Speaker 1: this person is in different scenarios. My mom always says
Speaker 1: you need at least each season with that person to
Speaker 1: see who they are over time, because the truth can
Speaker 1: be hid initially, but over time it will always come out.
Speaker 1: And it confuses me with Liz because if she's all
Speaker 1: about you know, be protecting of yourself and do this
Speaker 1: and do that. If you're protecting of yourself, why didn't
Speaker 1: you give yourself time? Why didn't you let yourself see
Speaker 1: who this person is? Then? To me, that also shows
Speaker 1: a contradicting belief. Well, you must have some belief that
Speaker 1: you just had to rush into things. You have to
Speaker 1: do this now because you didn't believe that maybe you
Speaker 1: are worthy of allowing this person to pursue you rather
Speaker 1: than just jumping into things. I understand Liz obviously being hurt,
Speaker 1: and oh my god, she's not in an easy situation.
Speaker 1: This is tough, man, this is tough. My heart hurts
Speaker 1: for her and Villana. These are tough situations. I think
Speaker 1: it's important that we remind ourselves. Okay, maybe I got
Speaker 1: myself here, but I can also get myself out of here.
Speaker 1: Maybe I've had these beliefs, but I don't have to
Speaker 1: have them for the rest of my life. I was
Speaker 1: a little disheartened when I saw Liz go on social
Speaker 1: media and say men can't control their lust, because that's
Speaker 1: blaming three D circumstance instead of taking energetic responsibility. I
Speaker 1: kept attracting men who were feminine and had narcissistic mothers,
Speaker 1: where the men were like a surrogate husband, and the
Speaker 1: men were in their feminine energy in an energetic relationship
Speaker 1: with their mother who was embodying masculine energy. And I
Speaker 1: would get so upset. I would get so mad, and
Speaker 1: I was thinking to myself, why do I keep attracting
Speaker 1: these feminine men who are in a psychic immeshment with
Speaker 1: their masculine mothers. And then I had to say, Cecy,
Speaker 1: you gotta look in the mirror girl. Stop getting mad
Speaker 1: and start getting everything you want. You're the common denominator.
Speaker 1: And you know what I found. I was in my
Speaker 1: masculine energy trying to be the surrogate husband for my
Speaker 1: own mother, who was in her feminine energy. I literally
Speaker 1: said to my mom, I was like, I just have
Speaker 1: this want to save you. And this has been since
Speaker 1: I was a little girl. I've been trying to save
Speaker 1: her protector so she wouldn't leave me. And because of that,
Speaker 1: I was so much in my masculine energy. I have
Speaker 1: to make a lot of money so I can save
Speaker 1: my mom. I have to do all these things so
Speaker 1: I can save my mom. And I had to realize,
Speaker 1: wait a second, I need to decenter my mother, and
Speaker 1: I need to save myself. I need to build a
Speaker 1: life that I'm happy and that I feel good in.
Speaker 1: I can't keep living for my mother with her at
Speaker 1: the center, because then I'm gonna keep attracting feminine men.
Speaker 1: And I stopped living at effect. I stopped blaming my
Speaker 1: three D circumstance, and I started to recognize that I
Speaker 1: have to live at cause. This is a law of
Speaker 1: cause and effect. What you broadcast, what you are is
Speaker 1: then going to cause an effect in your three D reality.
Speaker 1: Stop blaming the men you meet, the opportunities you get,
Speaker 1: and start realizing that you are broadcasting energy that is
Speaker 1: calling this into your experience to teach you, to invite
Speaker 1: you to go high, or to teach you to evolve. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's not to hurt you. It's to help you evolve.
Speaker 1: But you have to look into the mirror. And if
Speaker 1: you need help, that is what I'm here for. I
Speaker 1: will one on one coach you through this. But you
Speaker 1: have to take the initiative. You have to say, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stop blaming these other people and I'm gonna start
Speaker 1: choosing myself. People might hurt you, they might betray you,
Speaker 1: but you know what, it's not about them. You have
Speaker 1: to trust yourself that no matter what, you'll get yourself
Speaker 1: out of it. You will pick yourself back up and
Speaker 1: you will get yourself out of it. This is why
Speaker 1: alchemy is so important. I have two courses on this.
Speaker 1: One is shadow alchemy, which will help you stop attracting
Speaker 1: feminine manner, whatever type of men you are attracting, and
Speaker 1: the other one is the art of alchemy. And this
Speaker 1: is all about transmuting your pain into power. If there's
Speaker 1: something negative that happens to you, you get cheated on,
Speaker 1: something crazy happens at work, you can use that energy
Speaker 1: as fuel to not get madocate everything you want at
Speaker 1: the end of the day. If it's positive energy or
Speaker 1: negative energy, it doesn't matter. Energy is energy. You can
Speaker 1: use it as fuel to stay longer at work, to
Speaker 1: do the workout, to learn more, to become hotter, if
Speaker 1: you want whatever it is you want. Liz was so
Speaker 1: concerned are you gonna hurt me? Are you gonna hurt me?
Speaker 1: She was always looking for threats in the relationship, which
Speaker 1: they both said. She needed to instead tell herself, regardless
Speaker 1: of what happens, I'm strong enough to heal out of this.
Speaker 1: I'm strong enough to do what it is that I
Speaker 1: need to do to be okay on my own. That
Speaker 1: is what being an alchemist is. You have the power
Speaker 1: to manipulate energy however you want. If they're bullying, you
Speaker 1: use that energy to run an extra mile. If they're
Speaker 1: being mean to you at work, use that energy to
Speaker 1: do even better and surpass them all. I truly believe
Speaker 1: we are gifted negative circumstances, so we can use that
Speaker 1: energy as momentum. As that pain and transmit it into power.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you join shadow alchemy, Join the art of alchemy.
Speaker 1: It will change your life. If you go to page
Speaker 1: one sixteen in my book, I literally give you a
Speaker 1: whole entire list of all different types of people that
Speaker 1: we attract. I'm not going to read all of them.
Speaker 1: If you want to know all of them, get the book.
Speaker 1: I want to really talk about, though, those you have
Speaker 1: beliefs about. Our mind will magnify whatever we think about.
Speaker 1: This is in part due to our reticular activating system
Speaker 1: in our brainstem, or the RS for short. This acts
Speaker 1: as a filtration center based on our own beliefs so
Speaker 1: we can process the external world. If we try to
Speaker 1: take in all the information we see every day, our
Speaker 1: bodies would be an overdrive. We have the RS to
Speaker 1: help us filter information in from the external world so
Speaker 1: we can process it. The caveat to this is that
Speaker 1: the RS filter's information based on our own biases. If
Speaker 1: I think all bosses suck, RAS will constantly be scanning
Speaker 1: to see when my boss will do something that may
Speaker 1: irritate me. My boss might not actually suck, But because
Speaker 1: I already have this assumption, I am more likely to
Speaker 1: pick up on when they do something wrong and magnify it.
Speaker 1: On top of this, my belief that all bosses suck
Speaker 1: will attract bosses that are less likely to be good.
Speaker 1: If you keep attracting a type of person you do
Speaker 1: not like, ask yourself, do I have a belief about
Speaker 1: this person that is causing me to repeatedly attract them
Speaker 1: into my life. On top of this, there's also another
Speaker 1: part of this, which is those who fit into our story.
Speaker 1: This category is most seen in our intimate relationships. If
Speaker 1: I grew up with an alcoholic mother, absent father, and
Speaker 1: two little siblings, I might have stepped up into the
Speaker 1: role of the caregiver to get connection from my mother.
Speaker 1: As we move through our lives, we forget that we
Speaker 1: create roles to be seen, heard, and loved. If I
Speaker 1: need it to be a caregiver as a child, I'm
Speaker 1: most likely will align with someone who also needs me
Speaker 1: to be their caregiver as an adult. This potential partner
Speaker 1: might not be an alcoholic themselves, but a hypochondriac, helpless,
Speaker 1: or generally chaotic. Either way, this partner will reconfirm my
Speaker 1: narrative that I am, in fact a caregiver. We will
Speaker 1: align with others who reconfirm who we think we are.
Speaker 1: Positive bitch tip. I frequently hear my clients tell me
Speaker 1: they feel like they're addicted to their acts. They aren't
Speaker 1: actually addicted to their ex dude, but rather to the
Speaker 1: dynamic they had with that dude. We are addicted to
Speaker 1: reconfirming our old, faulty roles instead of deciding who we
Speaker 1: wish to be in the present. If someone who is
Speaker 1: fulfilling a role in our life leaves, not only does
Speaker 1: it hit upon the hurt from our original caregiver, but
Speaker 1: the wound becomes deeper as this person hurts us in
Speaker 1: the present moment. This is why love can hurt like hell.
Speaker 1: We are hurting both presently and in our past, as
Speaker 1: an adult and as a child. So no, it's not
Speaker 1: that we can't trust men. It's not that all men
Speaker 1: are lustful. It's that we attract experiences that reconfirm who
Speaker 1: we are, who others are, and what we're allowed to have.
Speaker 1: I am concerned for people and their belief system because
Speaker 1: I'm seeing influencers like sheer Us seven seven seven. I
Speaker 1: believe her name is, who is hysterical by the way,
Speaker 1: really funny, so witty, quick, I think she's beautiful, I
Speaker 1: think she's intelligent, but I feel that a lot of
Speaker 1: her statements are out of her own wounds. They're all
Speaker 1: out of You gotta be in this masculine energy. You
Speaker 1: gotta protect yourself. She says to be feminine, but what
Speaker 1: she tells you to do is masculine. Same thing with Liz.
Speaker 1: She tells you to be feminine, but how she's telling
Speaker 1: you to live is masculine. And yeah, of course you
Speaker 1: should be putting yourself on a pedestal and really making
Speaker 1: sure that you're enjoying your own incarnation because you came
Speaker 1: here to incarnate as yourself. But I hear a lot
Speaker 1: of be the black cat, manipulate them, use them as
Speaker 1: your ATM. I'm sorry, but I want divine union. I
Speaker 1: want real love, depth connection. I want to protect your
Speaker 1: and a provider and someone who can satisfy me emotionally, intellectually.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get very lonely if all you want is
Speaker 1: an ATM. I've seen those relationships. I know what they
Speaker 1: look like. They do exist, Yes, where women will just
Speaker 1: settle with someone because they have a lot of money.
Speaker 1: Those women have many many pill bottles in their bathrooms, Okay,
Speaker 1: those women are wine drunk Monday through Sunday. Those women
Speaker 1: are not happy. Okay, they drive a g wagon and
Speaker 1: have Cardier. They're not happy. You know what? I want
Speaker 1: a g Wagon, Cardier and the divine union, because why choose?
Speaker 1: Why choose? If you want to play stupid games, expect
Speaker 1: to win stupid prizes. The circus is that way, have
Speaker 1: at it. Our relationships are mirrors and they require us
Speaker 1: to be vulnerable, surrender. But I see game playing. I
Speaker 1: see I'm gonna be more masculine than you. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: out masculinize you in a way, and then you end
Speaker 1: up attracting a feminine man and wondering why you're so miserable.
Speaker 1: You can't have your wounds running the show and a
Speaker 1: lot of this black cat, this black cat? That? What
Speaker 1: are we talking about here? How about be whoever you are?
Speaker 1: I always say I'm not a black cat. I'm something
Speaker 1: much more angelic, much stranger. I don't even know what
Speaker 1: I am. I send whole novels on ancient Egypt. If
Speaker 1: that scares someone, syah, goodbye, I don't care. I lost
Speaker 1: my voice in Nashville. Just let it be. I see
Speaker 1: power struggles going on, I don't see divine union, and
Speaker 1: that's worrisome to me as someone who wants to literally
Speaker 1: help people get into divine union. We can't have our
Speaker 1: wounds running the show. And if you're going to say
Speaker 1: use them for their money, then you're going to attract
Speaker 1: someone who also wants to use you, maybe for your looks,
Speaker 1: maybe for your body, maybe for your time. You can
Speaker 1: lie all you want, you can try to be the man,
Speaker 1: but the energetic universe does not lie. If you embody
Speaker 1: masculine energy, but say that you're so feminine, doesn't matter
Speaker 1: what you say, it matters what you broadcast, and that's masculine,
Speaker 1: you're gonna attract a feminine man. These types of videos
Speaker 1: going viral shows me where the majority of humanity is
Speaker 1: on a wound level. We're hurting right now, and it's okay,
Speaker 1: but we're hurting and we're blaming the opposite sex. Women
Speaker 1: are selfish. All men suck, that's what we're doing. That's
Speaker 1: not gonna help you get into divine union. When you
Speaker 1: see someone of the opposite sex or whoever you're into,
Speaker 1: doing something that you don't like, you're not gonna say
Speaker 1: all men are this? All men are that you're gonna say, Okay,
Speaker 1: my husband would never do that. Maybe they're doing that,
Speaker 1: but my husband would never, my spouse would never. Because
Speaker 1: I'm getting divine union. What you're seeing is not feminine.
Speaker 1: It's masculine. It's a power struggle, and it is just
Speaker 1: you trying to win a battle that baby you don't
Speaker 1: even want to fight. Get off the battleground, Get off
Speaker 1: the battleground, have a macha, take a breath. I thought
Speaker 1: it was interesting also, and this is a little bit
Speaker 1: more esoteric, where Liz was saying that she kept having
Speaker 1: dreams that he was cheating on her. I do wonder
Speaker 1: was it a precognitive dream where she saw it before
Speaker 1: it happened, or was it just her fears spilling over
Speaker 1: into her dream world. Because we have many different types
Speaker 1: of dreams. If you do want a dream journal, I
Speaker 1: have one called that Bitch's Dreaming. You can get the
Speaker 1: link in my bio or in the show notes rather.
Speaker 1: But dreams can be intuitive or they can be our fears.
Speaker 1: I feel that what she was experiencing was her fears.
Speaker 1: When you are really scared of something, it doesn't have
Speaker 1: enough time to be processed during your everyday life. So
Speaker 1: your fears will start to play in your dream world,
Speaker 1: so your body can process the emotion tied to that fear.
Speaker 1: If you're afraid someone's gonna cheat on you, you're gonna
Speaker 1: keep dreaming that they are because your body's trying to
Speaker 1: process the emotion. After I got cheated on, I kept
Speaker 1: having a dream every night that my partner then was
Speaker 1: cheating on me, And it was my body trying to
Speaker 1: process the emotion. Because during the day I was at work,
Speaker 1: I was going to work out, I was seeing friends.
Speaker 1: I didn't have enough time to process it. So in
Speaker 1: my dream state, my body was doing it for me.
Speaker 1: It totally could have been precognitive. It totally could have
Speaker 1: been her intuition. This is just something I was thinking about,
Speaker 1: and I think it's something important for me to say.
Speaker 1: Another thing she mentioned in that god awful video with
Speaker 1: that I don't want to hate on anyone, but like, yikes, yoicks,
Speaker 1: I also want to say they were saying how Liz
Speaker 1: was out of his leak. That can be true, and
Speaker 1: you can still manifest getting cheated on because your own beliefs.
Speaker 1: You can be better, prettier, hotter, more successful than your
Speaker 1: person and still get cheated on based on your own
Speaker 1: because it's not about the three D stuff. That's what
Speaker 1: I was trying to say. Prior she said that when
Speaker 1: they met in the airport, it felt like everything stopped,
Speaker 1: immediate soul recognition. And I do want to say, I
Speaker 1: don't doubt that Landon is one of her soulmates, but
Speaker 1: we have to be really careful about what a soulmate
Speaker 1: actually means. This actually happened to me. I was on
Speaker 1: vacation and this group of guys walked into this bar
Speaker 1: and we were in like a little little town. Okay,
Speaker 1: no one was coming into this bar. I felt this
Speaker 1: man walk in. I didn't even see his face because
Speaker 1: he was wearing a hat, and I just knew he
Speaker 1: was going to be an important part of my life.
Speaker 1: And he was. He wasn't my husband, even though my
Speaker 1: cousin was like, that's your husband. My mom thought, that's
Speaker 1: your husband. He didn't end up being my husband, but
Speaker 1: he was a great teacher to me. That's why I
Speaker 1: always say, no man is your friend, no man is
Speaker 1: your enemy, but every single man is your portal to
Speaker 1: the next evolution of yourself. Every single man is gonna
Speaker 1: teach you something, going to guide you somewhere else. I
Speaker 1: think that Liz felt this soul recognition and thought, oh,
Speaker 1: this means they're my husband, when maybe it wasn't meant
Speaker 1: to be that. Maybe he's your catalyst to step more
Speaker 1: into your power. Maybe he's initiating you into a deeper healing,
Speaker 1: which I would love to see her have. I think
Speaker 1: she's beautiful, talented and intelligent. I would love to see that.
Speaker 1: I don't know that he was meant to be her husband.
Speaker 1: There's a really interesting theory though, that they say when
Speaker 1: a soul wants to come through to planet Earth, that
Speaker 1: soul will choose the two parents that's going to come through.
Speaker 1: And maybe it was that this soul child that she
Speaker 1: was going to have chose Landon and Liz as its
Speaker 1: parents and magnetize them towards one another and came through
Speaker 1: the vessel. And now that soul contract is done, so
Speaker 1: they don't need a beat together anymore. It's very esoteric,
Speaker 1: very outlandish, but could it be a possibility. Sure, I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to look at all the possibilities here, energetic, subconscious,
Speaker 1: quantum field spirituality. At the end of the day, Liz
Speaker 1: is powerful. If you're going through this You're powerful. You're
Speaker 1: gonna get through this. See this as your initiation into
Speaker 1: choosing yourself. See this as initiation into becoming stronger. After
Speaker 1: that happened to me with my ex I found my purpose.
Speaker 1: I started TikTok and look now I have a book deal.
Speaker 1: Now I have a following, I have mugs, I have courses.
Speaker 1: I've been on TV time and time again. That was
Speaker 1: all my initiation into myself. And I'm still learning and
Speaker 1: I'm still growing, and I don't know it all, but
Speaker 1: I do know that if you're hearing this, you are
Speaker 1: so strong. You have the power to alchemize anything that
Speaker 1: comes your way. You don't need that other person to
Speaker 1: give you safety, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you're going to give it to yourself. You're going to
Speaker 1: choose yourself. And when you do that, you can't help
Speaker 1: but attract people who give you the same. I love
Speaker 1: you so much, and I will see you in the
Speaker 1: next one. I can see Panna, I'm sorry, has got
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