WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:14.199 And energy such cancel so high ecstasyasag canceagely. It's not 2 00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:20.640 sorry and energy. I'm gonna say the thing that no 3 00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:22.920 one's willing to say out loud because they either don't 4 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:26.000 have the consciousness and understanding or they're afraid to be 5 00:00:26.079 --> 00:00:30.839 hated by the internet. We manifest getting cheated on. I've 6 00:00:30.920 --> 00:00:33.960 done it myself. How the hell are you? Yep, the 7 00:00:34.039 --> 00:00:39.039 wizard li is getting cheated on is not random. I'm 8 00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:41.320 not saying you did it consciously. I'm not saying you 9 00:00:41.399 --> 00:00:45.079 did it purposely. I sure hell didn't do that, because 10 00:00:45.119 --> 00:00:49.159 we wouldn't consciously hurt ourselves, we wouldn't intend to be manipulated. 11 00:00:49.600 --> 00:00:53.079 But the thing is, we don't manifest only consciously. We 12 00:00:53.159 --> 00:00:56.039 don't manifest only what we want. We manifest the good 13 00:00:56.200 --> 00:00:58.759 and the bad, the pretty and the ugly, the fun 14 00:00:58.880 --> 00:01:02.320 and the not so fun, because we are not just 15 00:01:02.479 --> 00:01:06.400 conscious beings but operating from our subconscious mind ninety five 16 00:01:06.480 --> 00:01:09.239 percent of the time. Uh oh, you can bet your 17 00:01:09.280 --> 00:01:13.799 ass that's also going to pull experiences in to your reality. Now, 18 00:01:13.879 --> 00:01:16.159 you can listen to this podcast and you can hate me, 19 00:01:16.439 --> 00:01:18.799 or you can learn. You can listen to these words 20 00:01:18.840 --> 00:01:21.319 and you can get mad, or you can learn. You 21 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:25.840 can get triggered, or you can learn. And I get it. 22 00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:31.280 What I'm saying sounds sicky, It sounds a little prickly. Yeah, 23 00:01:31.480 --> 00:01:35.319 I get it. But in order to become a master manifestor, 24 00:01:35.719 --> 00:01:39.640 you have to override this temporary feeling of discomfort because 25 00:01:39.680 --> 00:01:43.840 this is unfamiliar. It does not matter what you look like, 26 00:01:44.280 --> 00:01:47.000 what you have, what your career is, what you do 27 00:01:47.159 --> 00:01:52.319 for other people. What matters is your beliefs about yourself. 28 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:55.840 If you can't handle the energetic truth, click off this video. 29 00:01:56.319 --> 00:01:59.879 But if there is any part of you that wants 30 00:02:00.120 --> 00:02:03.000 more from your reality, that wants a loyal divine union, 31 00:02:03.400 --> 00:02:06.840 that wants to feel loved, that wants more abundance, more pleasure, 32 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:11.360 more fun, that wants a grandi yost reality, than keep listening. 33 00:02:12.199 --> 00:02:16.479 This podcast is not about singling anyone out. It's about 34 00:02:16.560 --> 00:02:20.599 looking at the public sphere and understanding how we can 35 00:02:20.680 --> 00:02:26.639 reclaim our own soul's essence and attract manifest better, create 36 00:02:27.039 --> 00:02:31.159 a better reality. You have so much power, and when 37 00:02:31.199 --> 00:02:34.479 you realize it, you can then learn how to use 38 00:02:34.560 --> 00:02:39.439 that power. Because knowledge is not power, but action with 39 00:02:39.759 --> 00:02:45.879 knowledge that is power. Understanding our wounds and then healing them, 40 00:02:46.400 --> 00:02:50.840 unraveling them, integrating them. That's where the power is, not 41 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:54.319 just knowing about what wounds might look like. I keep 42 00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:57.560 seeing posts that say something along these lines. The fact 43 00:02:57.599 --> 00:03:00.280 that even the wizard Lays got cheated on shows no 44 00:03:00.479 --> 00:03:05.759 level of beauty, intelligence or confidence can stop a disloyal man. Actually, 45 00:03:05.919 --> 00:03:08.199 it has nothing to do with that. It has nothing 46 00:03:08.240 --> 00:03:10.680 to do with that. That is the most basic surface 47 00:03:10.800 --> 00:03:15.520 level perception I ever did here. Okay, what it shows 48 00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:18.879 us isn't about beauty or intelligence or what you have. 49 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:23.159 What it shows us is her belief system, her belief 50 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:26.479 system about who she is, what she can have relationships 51 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:31.439 to men. We're just exposed with this recent scandal, if 52 00:03:31.479 --> 00:03:34.919 you want to call it that, because the truth is, 53 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:41.360 our subconscious beliefs are going to bleed into our physical 54 00:03:41.400 --> 00:03:44.039 three D reality and be mirrored back to us. So 55 00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:47.400 we look at them, learn from them, and heal them. 56 00:03:47.800 --> 00:03:50.319 The universe is not trying to bully us. It's not 57 00:03:50.479 --> 00:03:53.039 trying to be the mean girl to us, and it's 58 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:56.120 not trying to harass us. It's trying to show us, 59 00:03:56.560 --> 00:03:58.719 this is what you believe about yourself, and then it 60 00:03:58.879 --> 00:04:01.719 invites us through experience do you want to heal it? 61 00:04:02.199 --> 00:04:04.240 Do you want to look at yourself? Do you want 62 00:04:04.280 --> 00:04:07.039 to stop blaming your reality and start living at cause 63 00:04:07.479 --> 00:04:09.639 or do you want to be a victim of circumstance 64 00:04:09.680 --> 00:04:12.599 for the rest of your life. Listen, before we dive 65 00:04:12.639 --> 00:04:15.199 into this conversation, a couple of things I want to say. 66 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:17.680 I want to make it crystal clear. I am not 67 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:23.560 blaming Liz for being cheated on. Okay again, in this 68 00:04:23.720 --> 00:04:26.639 three D realm, Landon is the one who betrayed the relationship. 69 00:04:26.959 --> 00:04:30.759 He made the choice with his free will. He broke 70 00:04:30.920 --> 00:04:33.800 the trust, he crossed the line, and there's simply no 71 00:04:33.920 --> 00:04:36.439 excuse for that. What I want to explore today isn't 72 00:04:36.439 --> 00:04:40.399 about fault. It's about energetic responsibility because a lot of 73 00:04:40.519 --> 00:04:45.040 us are attracting subconsciously and then getting really hurt by 74 00:04:45.160 --> 00:04:49.199 the experience. There is obviously no conscious intempt by the Wizard, 75 00:04:49.279 --> 00:04:52.000 Liz or any of us to ever be hurt, betrayed, 76 00:04:52.079 --> 00:04:55.199 or manipulated. Of course we wouldn't want that. So it's 77 00:04:55.319 --> 00:04:58.639 not your fault. If you get cheated on or something 78 00:04:59.079 --> 00:05:01.279 negative in your three T the experience happens to you, 79 00:05:01.399 --> 00:05:03.759 it's not your fault. You didn't try for that, and 80 00:05:03.839 --> 00:05:07.560 you didn't consciously want that. Unfortunately, as soon as we're born, 81 00:05:07.639 --> 00:05:11.240 it's like our subconscious mind is a recorder and will 82 00:05:11.319 --> 00:05:16.120 record every thought we have, every experience that we go through, 83 00:05:16.560 --> 00:05:20.000 and it creates meaning, It builds beliefs, and then those 84 00:05:20.079 --> 00:05:23.079 beliefs build our world. So we have a lot of 85 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:27.439 unconscious energetic forms that are attracting for us. So it's 86 00:05:27.519 --> 00:05:29.800 not your fault if this happened to you, but it 87 00:05:29.920 --> 00:05:33.160 is your energetic responsibility to learn from it, understand it 88 00:05:33.240 --> 00:05:36.480 so you can get better. I'm rooting for you, I'm 89 00:05:36.519 --> 00:05:38.959 rooting for Liz, I'm rooting for my damn self. And 90 00:05:39.079 --> 00:05:40.759 the only way for us to get better is for 91 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:43.120 us to take responsibility. Read the writing on the wall. 92 00:05:43.480 --> 00:05:46.720 Understand that if we keep seeing a similar emotional outcome 93 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:50.279 in our reality, we are the common denominator. I'm here 94 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:53.560 to hold your hand and cake your ass, but together 95 00:05:53.720 --> 00:05:55.439 we're gonna heal this shit out. Let me tell you 96 00:05:55.600 --> 00:05:59.680 that much. If we keep experiencing the same emotional outcomes, 97 00:06:00.120 --> 00:06:03.720 we need to be asking ourselves what beliefs, what patterns, 98 00:06:03.800 --> 00:06:07.879 what wounds are still broadcasting in my field? Again, what 99 00:06:08.079 --> 00:06:12.000 beliefs what patterns, what wounds are still broadcasting in my field. 100 00:06:12.720 --> 00:06:16.480 Manifestation does not turn off when life gets messy. We 101 00:06:16.639 --> 00:06:21.240 don't only manifest the good, We manifest the lessons, the heartbreak, 102 00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:25.439 the initiations too. This episode is not about shaming anyone. 103 00:06:25.720 --> 00:06:30.439 It's about understanding the deeper codes beneath chaos and what 104 00:06:30.600 --> 00:06:33.399 it is really meant to teach us. I do want 105 00:06:33.439 --> 00:06:35.519 to take a moment to thank Liz for being in 106 00:06:35.560 --> 00:06:38.959 the public sphere on an energetic soul level. She is 107 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:42.240 in front of millions of people to show us and 108 00:06:42.399 --> 00:06:45.639 reflect to us our deeper wounds. And also we will 109 00:06:45.680 --> 00:06:50.399 be talking about Aubrey, Marcus and Villana in this podcast 110 00:06:50.439 --> 00:06:52.199 as well, so just to thank you to them and 111 00:06:52.279 --> 00:06:56.000 their energies. What's up, positive bitches, How are we doing today? 112 00:06:56.120 --> 00:06:57.959 If you are hearing this episode, then you are meant 113 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:01.279 to be here, So keep listening that Itch is Positive podcast. 114 00:07:01.439 --> 00:07:04.399 Sometimes we will laugh, other times, baby, we're gonna cry, 115 00:07:04.720 --> 00:07:08.040 but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered 116 00:07:08.319 --> 00:07:12.040 positive bitch self that is Babe in true connection with 117 00:07:12.240 --> 00:07:16.000 herself or himself or human self. On this podcast, we 118 00:07:16.279 --> 00:07:18.240 unbecome who we are not so we can fully step 119 00:07:18.319 --> 00:07:20.879 into exactly who we came here to be. If you've 120 00:07:20.920 --> 00:07:22.720 not yet gotten your copy of Show Up as Her, 121 00:07:22.800 --> 00:07:24.560 be sure to get that so you can not only 122 00:07:24.920 --> 00:07:27.199 upgrade your own life, but also follow along in this 123 00:07:27.439 --> 00:07:32.319 podcast episode. I am on Instagram at VIBEINWOCC. My link 124 00:07:32.399 --> 00:07:34.639 is in the show notes. That's be Ibi n with 125 00:07:34.839 --> 00:07:39.079 ci CII follow there for daily magnetic tips and intuitive 126 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:42.519 messages and of course if you want any guidance. I 127 00:07:42.600 --> 00:07:45.519 am a certified life and energy coach. I'm ARIKI practitioner, 128 00:07:45.839 --> 00:07:47.800 and I offer one on one sessions via zoom. You 129 00:07:47.839 --> 00:07:50.720 can DM me on Instagram for more. My courses and 130 00:07:50.839 --> 00:07:54.480 workbooks can be found below. So, yeah, the cats out 131 00:07:54.519 --> 00:07:58.560 of the bag. We manifest even getting cheated on yep, 132 00:07:58.720 --> 00:08:01.040 and uh, like I said, I've I've done it myself. 133 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:03.879 I am so gung ho about this concept because it's 134 00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:06.800 simply quantum physics. Even the title of my book, it's 135 00:08:06.839 --> 00:08:09.519 titled Show Up as Her and the subtitle is ten 136 00:08:09.639 --> 00:08:14.240 Laws for Reclaiming Your Power, embodying magnetic energy and positive Manifestation. 137 00:08:14.839 --> 00:08:19.639 What manifestation positive? Why would CC write positive manifestation to 138 00:08:19.800 --> 00:08:22.800 drive home the points we don't just manifest the good shit. 139 00:08:22.879 --> 00:08:26.519 We manifest the lessons, the shadows, the heartbreaks, because manifestation 140 00:08:27.079 --> 00:08:30.439 does not get turned off if you are alive. We're 141 00:08:30.560 --> 00:08:35.360 always pulling people experiences and opportunities towards us. I was 142 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:38.320 in a three year relationship, but something was very off, 143 00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:40.679 and I felt something was off. I was not happy. 144 00:08:41.200 --> 00:08:43.679 My mom dragged me to church and I was about 145 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:47.799 nineteen twenty at the time, and I screamed at God 146 00:08:47.960 --> 00:08:51.120 and I said, you gotta change something, remove what needs 147 00:08:51.159 --> 00:08:53.080 to be removed. I need to find my purpose. I 148 00:08:53.080 --> 00:08:55.039 don't understand what I'm on this planet for. I feel 149 00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:59.919 so lost, so confused. Within two days, I was outside 150 00:09:00.159 --> 00:09:04.159 making steak with my partner and the timer on his 151 00:09:04.279 --> 00:09:07.919 phone went off and I saw someone text him Alexis, 152 00:09:08.559 --> 00:09:12.840 and I thought to myself, who's Alexis or whatever the 153 00:09:12.879 --> 00:09:16.559 hell her name even was, And he grabbed the phone 154 00:09:16.639 --> 00:09:20.080 out of my hands, and I just knew that he 155 00:09:20.240 --> 00:09:24.039 did something. And it took me three hours of screaming, crying, 156 00:09:24.200 --> 00:09:26.000 I know you did something, I know you did something. 157 00:09:26.360 --> 00:09:29.559 He was deleting text messages in my face. I watched 158 00:09:29.639 --> 00:09:32.200 him delete the text. It was just insane. And then 159 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:34.720 he eventually did show me that he told her he 160 00:09:34.879 --> 00:09:39.799 was dog sitting awesome, yup, did you know him? A dog? Yeah? Hey, 161 00:09:39.919 --> 00:09:44.879 what's up? Not human, just the dog. And it really 162 00:09:46.279 --> 00:09:50.600 internally made me feel so sick. And at first he 163 00:09:50.960 --> 00:09:53.559 said that they just kissed, and then eventually, of course 164 00:09:53.679 --> 00:09:57.159 I felt my body telling me he's lying, and my 165 00:09:57.440 --> 00:10:00.799 intuition was right. He slept with her. With that, I 166 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:04.039 was hysterically crying, and then I started laughing, which probably 167 00:10:04.120 --> 00:10:07.799 looked insane, because I knew that was divine intervention. I 168 00:10:07.960 --> 00:10:10.720 knew that God was telling me, you got to remove 169 00:10:10.840 --> 00:10:15.559 this person. You need to focus on you and your journey. Now, 170 00:10:15.720 --> 00:10:20.759 why did I manifest this specific experience of having my 171 00:10:20.879 --> 00:10:23.600 then partners sleep with someone else? I had to do 172 00:10:23.720 --> 00:10:26.039 a lot of digging. Part of this is I did 173 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:29.000 ask Divinity to be at work in my life. And 174 00:10:29.120 --> 00:10:32.639 when you ask, you will be answered. The physical realm 175 00:10:32.840 --> 00:10:37.080 is really our dominion. We have to call on angelic 176 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:39.600 support when we want it. We need to call on 177 00:10:40.080 --> 00:10:43.799 Divinity when we want divine intervention. That's one hundred percent 178 00:10:43.879 --> 00:10:46.519 part of it. But as I grew in my spiritual 179 00:10:46.559 --> 00:10:49.679 evolution and I learned more about myself, the thing that 180 00:10:49.919 --> 00:10:52.600 stuck out to me the most when my then acts 181 00:10:52.679 --> 00:10:57.879 cheated on me was he made so many decisions to 182 00:10:58.320 --> 00:11:01.919 sleep with this girl. He not only saw her out, 183 00:11:02.559 --> 00:11:05.720 got her number, he then got home and face timed me. 184 00:11:06.000 --> 00:11:08.679 He left his house after face timing with me, and 185 00:11:08.879 --> 00:11:11.639 she picked him up, so he gave her his address. 186 00:11:12.159 --> 00:11:14.759 She picked him up. They went to a sandwich shop 187 00:11:14.840 --> 00:11:17.720 because that's normal, and then he went back to her house. 188 00:11:18.159 --> 00:11:20.960 He decided to take off his clothes. He decided to 189 00:11:21.399 --> 00:11:24.159 you know, you know, and then we don't need me 190 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:25.840 to say anything else. We know what happens from there. 191 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:30.919 He made so many key decisions that would affect me negatively. 192 00:11:32.000 --> 00:11:34.799 That was the biggest thing. It's not that he slept 193 00:11:34.840 --> 00:11:36.840 with someone that was so insane to me, It was 194 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:41.639 a fact that he made so many decisions to do so. 195 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:44.639 And when I looked at that, I said, Okay, why 196 00:11:44.799 --> 00:11:47.080 is this bothering me so much? It's not even about 197 00:11:47.120 --> 00:11:50.039 the cheating. It's the fact that he made all of 198 00:11:50.120 --> 00:11:53.799 these decisions. It's because I looked at him, And when 199 00:11:53.840 --> 00:11:56.320 I looked at him, I thought, damn, this man is 200 00:11:56.480 --> 00:11:59.159 obsessed with me. He loves me so much. He gives 201 00:11:59.159 --> 00:12:01.759 me all the energy in the world and the positivity. 202 00:12:02.639 --> 00:12:08.840 How did he polarize to such the opposite spectrum and 203 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:12.360 sleep with someone else? How is he so about me 204 00:12:12.639 --> 00:12:14.720 and then so about someone else? How is he so 205 00:12:14.840 --> 00:12:16.799 about me but then when I'm not there, so about 206 00:12:16.840 --> 00:12:21.120 someone else? And it reminded me of the dynamic I 207 00:12:21.320 --> 00:12:25.519 had with my own mom. My mom is extremely adhd. 208 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:28.559 She's all over me, overbearing, on top of me, and 209 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:30.600 then it's like, hello, do I exist to you? Do 210 00:12:30.679 --> 00:12:33.360 you even know I'm here? She would give me so 211 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:36.559 much love, so much attention, and then it's like gone 212 00:12:36.639 --> 00:12:39.480 in the next second. She would want to be the 213 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:43.320 class mom on playground duty and then be late for 214 00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:46.480 me every single day. I had this seesaw effect with 215 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:49.240 my mother, so much attention and then none at all, 216 00:12:49.519 --> 00:12:52.440 totally with me and then so far gone. And that's 217 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:55.480 what I manifested in this relationship. And it wasn't just 218 00:12:55.600 --> 00:12:58.360 the cheating, but the pattern got stronger and stronger and 219 00:12:58.399 --> 00:13:01.559 stronger until we got to that. She prior to that, 220 00:13:01.679 --> 00:13:03.879 he would be so obsessed with me, and then he 221 00:13:03.960 --> 00:13:06.240 would be like, yeah, I could go a month without 222 00:13:06.279 --> 00:13:07.919 seeing you and I would be fine, And I was like, 223 00:13:08.039 --> 00:13:12.000 what it was the same seesaw effect being so about me, 224 00:13:12.200 --> 00:13:14.360 but then feeling like he didn't care about me at all. 225 00:13:14.799 --> 00:13:19.399 It's a rejection wound. It's feeling like I'm not being chosen, 226 00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:25.279 and it literally stems from my mom's own inconsistency with 227 00:13:25.399 --> 00:13:29.559 her ADHD. It created this sort of anxious attachment within 228 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:32.399 me where I was always scanning when am I going 229 00:13:32.519 --> 00:13:35.120 to be abandoned? When am I going to be threatened? 230 00:13:35.399 --> 00:13:38.320 When am I going to be left? I had specific 231 00:13:39.080 --> 00:13:43.039 circumstances with my mom where I was constantly scanning for 232 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:46.080 when she was going to leave. She would sometimes say 233 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:48.080 that she was going to leave, not anything to do 234 00:13:48.159 --> 00:13:51.200 with me, but because of my own father. And when 235 00:13:51.279 --> 00:13:52.919 she would do this, she just meant she was going 236 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:54.960 to my grandma's house because she was mad, but I 237 00:13:55.080 --> 00:13:58.600 felt like she was leaving me, and I would subconsciously think, 238 00:13:58.639 --> 00:14:00.759 as a child, well, what I need to do to 239 00:14:00.879 --> 00:14:03.200 be good enough to make my mom stay? What do 240 00:14:03.320 --> 00:14:05.840 I need to do in my own life that I'm 241 00:14:05.960 --> 00:14:09.600 finally going to be seen as being chosen and worthy 242 00:14:09.679 --> 00:14:12.679 of my mom staying with me, And the same thing 243 00:14:12.759 --> 00:14:17.480 happened in my relationship. We have to realize that there 244 00:14:17.559 --> 00:14:23.600 are so many subconscious programs and conditions that we create 245 00:14:23.759 --> 00:14:27.279 when we're four, five, six, seven that then run the 246 00:14:27.399 --> 00:14:31.480 rest of our lives. We will consistently copy and paste 247 00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:34.279 the dynamic we had with the caregiver we craved love 248 00:14:34.320 --> 00:14:37.600 from the most, and replay that dynamic in our adult 249 00:14:37.759 --> 00:14:41.240 intimate relationships, trying to prove to our inner child that 250 00:14:41.360 --> 00:14:45.600 we're finally worthy enough. But all we do is repeatedly, 251 00:14:46.639 --> 00:14:53.559 repeatedly traumatize ourselves. Let's go back to Liz. Liz her 252 00:14:53.720 --> 00:14:58.240 father cheated on her mother. Liz called her father a tyrant. 253 00:14:58.720 --> 00:15:02.279 Her friend said or her sister said that she literally 254 00:15:02.320 --> 00:15:05.799 saw Liz getting dragged by her hair. How do you 255 00:15:05.879 --> 00:15:10.759 think this shaped Lizz's experience? What do you think at five, six, 256 00:15:10.879 --> 00:15:14.159 seven years old, a little girl's gonna think about men 257 00:15:14.840 --> 00:15:17.840 when she's seeing a grown man cheat on her mother 258 00:15:18.279 --> 00:15:21.440 be abusive to her. What is she gonna start to think? 259 00:15:21.960 --> 00:15:25.759 Men aren't safe, Men can't control their lust, Men are bad, 260 00:15:26.080 --> 00:15:29.600 Men are gonna hurt me, Men can't be trusted, Men 261 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:33.480 are no good. A child living in an adult world 262 00:15:33.919 --> 00:15:39.679 can only make such a mature belief or conclusion about reality. 263 00:15:40.240 --> 00:15:44.879 If you are a child seeing abusive circumstance over and 264 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:48.519 over and over and over again. I don't care how 265 00:15:49.000 --> 00:15:51.679 much work you do on yourself. I don't care how 266 00:15:51.759 --> 00:15:54.480 many books you read, how many seminars you go to. 267 00:15:55.039 --> 00:15:58.080 You have to do the integration if you actually want 268 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:00.399 to change your nervous system. And I know it's a 269 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:04.120 lot of work, totally possible, totally doable. We're all trying 270 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:06.559 for it. But Liz has a lot of knowledge, and 271 00:16:06.960 --> 00:16:11.279 I actually genuinely enjoy her energy. I think she's a 272 00:16:11.360 --> 00:16:15.960 cool girl or woman. But when I listen to her 273 00:16:16.080 --> 00:16:20.159 videos sometimes I do WinCE a little bit because I 274 00:16:20.399 --> 00:16:25.080 can hear the wound in her that feels unsafe. I 275 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:28.159 can hear the wound in her that's still a little 276 00:16:28.240 --> 00:16:32.559 girl that wants to be chosen and want someone to 277 00:16:32.679 --> 00:16:36.919 create safety for her. If you have beliefs that men 278 00:16:37.000 --> 00:16:39.360 aren't safe, that men can't be trusted, that men can't 279 00:16:39.360 --> 00:16:42.279 control their lust, baby girl, that's what you're gonna have 280 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:45.799 in your reality. That's what you're gonna see in your reality. 281 00:16:47.360 --> 00:16:53.639 I find it really interesting her dynamic with this guy. 282 00:16:54.480 --> 00:16:58.799 She definitely has an obvious father wound, and she said 283 00:16:58.919 --> 00:17:02.600 that she really was looking for someone to make her 284 00:17:02.679 --> 00:17:06.920 inner child feel safe, and she said that Landon did 285 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:13.480 this for her. I question this, and I'm just someone, okay, 286 00:17:13.599 --> 00:17:18.440 who is an onlooker. And what I see is someone who, 287 00:17:19.559 --> 00:17:24.240 on the surface level, is just a feminine man who 288 00:17:24.480 --> 00:17:28.160 she thinks can make her feel safe. When I watched 289 00:17:28.240 --> 00:17:30.319 her video with him, because I tried to do research, 290 00:17:30.400 --> 00:17:33.599 I don't watch her content regularly. I was just doing research. 291 00:17:34.400 --> 00:17:37.240 I couldn't even watch her whole entire vlog or whatever 292 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:43.960 Q and A with him because he I got the 293 00:17:44.359 --> 00:17:47.680 god I don't. I am just a human too. I 294 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:49.599 have my own beliefs. I'm gonna fully say that right now. 295 00:17:50.039 --> 00:17:54.920 But a man who wants to be famous just x 296 00:17:55.000 --> 00:17:59.839 me out. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. It's so feminine to 297 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:02.920 want attention like that. If a man wants to have 298 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:05.400 a great accomplishment, he wants to be the number one 299 00:18:05.880 --> 00:18:10.279 race car driver, doctor, painter, artists, Okay, that's different. You 300 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:12.279 want to have an impact on the world, that's one thing. 301 00:18:12.720 --> 00:18:16.039 But this man, he said that he was on YouTube 302 00:18:16.079 --> 00:18:18.640 at one time too, and he's just a little bit 303 00:18:18.680 --> 00:18:21.000 too happy to be in this blog. There's something off there. 304 00:18:21.519 --> 00:18:24.359 He is a feminine man, and there's nothing wrong with that. 305 00:18:24.440 --> 00:18:27.240 If that's what you want, fine have it. I think 306 00:18:27.359 --> 00:18:30.799 Liz got confused. I think she saw a feminine man 307 00:18:31.279 --> 00:18:34.359 who was opposite of her father, who was masculine but 308 00:18:34.519 --> 00:18:38.440 wounded masculine, and she confused a feminine man for safety. 309 00:18:38.839 --> 00:18:41.640 A feminine man is one of the most unsafe things 310 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:45.079 that you can attract because they crave attention. They have 311 00:18:45.279 --> 00:18:48.880 no inner compass. They are people pleaser, so they want 312 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:52.319 to please everyone. And women don't want a people pleaser. 313 00:18:52.400 --> 00:18:54.000 They like to be pleased. But if we don't know 314 00:18:54.039 --> 00:18:56.000 who you're gonna please in the next room, we can't 315 00:18:56.000 --> 00:19:01.519 trust you. Feminine men are living outside of their selves, 316 00:19:01.759 --> 00:19:05.640 and they are the ones who have lust issues. They 317 00:19:05.720 --> 00:19:08.200 are the ones who are posing on Instagram. They are 318 00:19:08.279 --> 00:19:11.920 the ones who you're gonna find issue with. I think 319 00:19:12.079 --> 00:19:14.640 she looked at Land and saw that he was a 320 00:19:14.720 --> 00:19:18.160 more feminine energy and thought that would be safety, but 321 00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:22.039 she mislabeled him. He's just feminine. That doesn't mean safe. 322 00:19:22.799 --> 00:19:27.200 Her father was wounded masculine, so she associated masculine energy 323 00:19:27.279 --> 00:19:33.079 with unsafe and feminine energy with safety. That's a problem 324 00:19:33.559 --> 00:19:38.200 because she thought this but still had beliefs about men 325 00:19:38.279 --> 00:19:42.000 in general that they are lustful and can't control themselves, 326 00:19:42.200 --> 00:19:46.359 and they are going to hurt her. The circumstance manifested anyway, 327 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:49.240 because he's still a man, even if he's feminine. Feminine 328 00:19:49.279 --> 00:19:51.960 men will lead with their emotions and how they feel. 329 00:19:52.400 --> 00:19:55.559 She and his ex both said that they thought he 330 00:19:55.720 --> 00:19:58.920 was very emotionally intelligent. That's exactly what a feminine man 331 00:19:58.960 --> 00:20:02.160 will do. They what I call peacocking. They will give 332 00:20:02.200 --> 00:20:05.559 you a false sense of safety by talking about their 333 00:20:05.640 --> 00:20:08.559 quote unquote traumas. They're gonna talk about how they feel. 334 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:10.279 They're gonna try to create a safe space for you. 335 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:15.799 That is, creating a false sense of emotional connection so 336 00:20:15.960 --> 00:20:19.920 that you will be let into their bedroom. Okay, clock 337 00:20:20.160 --> 00:20:25.039 that one. When they lead with their emotions, that's them 338 00:20:25.079 --> 00:20:27.559 trying to lead you to the bedroom, not down the aisle. 339 00:20:27.960 --> 00:20:31.720 They're trying to put on a facade, because realistically, you 340 00:20:31.920 --> 00:20:34.279 really shouldn't be talking about traumas right off the bat. 341 00:20:34.559 --> 00:20:37.119 It shouldn't be this huge emotional thing right off the bat. 342 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:39.759 Give yourself time space to actually get to know just 343 00:20:39.880 --> 00:20:42.200 who this person is and let those things come out 344 00:20:42.240 --> 00:20:46.880 over time. Liz attracted a different sort of man on 345 00:20:47.039 --> 00:20:53.440 the surface, but that's what we do. We attract different people, places, opportunities, 346 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:56.039 but what is the same. It's the same emotional outcome. 347 00:20:56.720 --> 00:20:59.559 She attracted a different type of man on the surface 348 00:20:59.599 --> 00:21:02.680 to her, but she still got the same emotional outcome 349 00:21:02.799 --> 00:21:05.599 of men can't be trusted, they can't control their lust, 350 00:21:06.119 --> 00:21:08.920 they are going to hurt me, they are abusive, whether 351 00:21:09.000 --> 00:21:12.519 it's emotional or physical. She still got the same emotional 352 00:21:12.599 --> 00:21:15.519 outcome because while she's read the books and she gets 353 00:21:15.880 --> 00:21:20.880 manifestation to some degree, she did not actually integrate those 354 00:21:21.039 --> 00:21:25.200 lessons and do the somatic healing, do the releasing to 355 00:21:25.319 --> 00:21:29.200 fundamentally change her true beliefs about who she is, what 356 00:21:29.359 --> 00:21:33.839 she deserves, and men in general. If you want divine union, 357 00:21:33.960 --> 00:21:37.559 you can't have all these beliefs about men and expect 358 00:21:37.640 --> 00:21:41.279 to attract someone who is other than what you believe 359 00:21:41.359 --> 00:21:44.640 they are capable of being. Let's talk about Villona and 360 00:21:44.720 --> 00:21:48.079 Aubrey Marcus. Vilaana said that when she was born, she 361 00:21:48.160 --> 00:21:50.960 felt rejected and boyfriend after boyfriend would choose another woman 362 00:21:51.079 --> 00:21:54.400 or impregnant other women. And now once again she thought 363 00:21:54.480 --> 00:21:57.599 she got emotional safety with Aubrey, who seems to be 364 00:21:57.759 --> 00:22:02.000 this spiritual guru. But even the spiritual guru is going 365 00:22:02.039 --> 00:22:06.079 to make her feel unchosen, rejected, and unsafe. Yeah, because 366 00:22:06.440 --> 00:22:09.880 she hasn't learned the lesson to choose herself. I really 367 00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:12.240 believe if Villana chose herself in any one of these 368 00:22:12.279 --> 00:22:16.079 past experiences prior or right now with him and left 369 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:18.599 the relationship, she would then attract a man who would 370 00:22:18.640 --> 00:22:21.519 choose her too. But she's still living in accordance with 371 00:22:21.599 --> 00:22:25.759 her core belief that men can't be trusted, that men 372 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:27.799 are going to choose someone else, And so that's the 373 00:22:27.880 --> 00:22:31.519 result that she's getting. Just because something happens in childhood 374 00:22:31.559 --> 00:22:34.559 doesn't mean it just goes away. No, once we create 375 00:22:34.720 --> 00:22:37.759 that narrative as a child, it becomes our elevator of 376 00:22:37.839 --> 00:22:39.599 music and it's non stop playing in the back of 377 00:22:39.680 --> 00:22:42.759 our head all day. It's subconscious, so we don't really 378 00:22:42.880 --> 00:22:46.319 hear it, but it's there. There's such a difference between 379 00:22:46.839 --> 00:22:50.400 knowing I have an abandonment wound versus actually healing it, 380 00:22:50.960 --> 00:22:53.279 and that's where I see people are getting it wrong. 381 00:22:53.400 --> 00:22:56.039 I don't see Vallana healing it. I don't see Liz 382 00:22:56.079 --> 00:22:58.200 healing it. And again, love to both of these women. 383 00:22:58.279 --> 00:23:02.839 They're great people, but there needs to be that deeper work. 384 00:23:03.480 --> 00:23:07.680 In both Malana's story end with Liz, they said that 385 00:23:07.799 --> 00:23:11.160 they got married very quickly. To me, I don't like 386 00:23:11.279 --> 00:23:13.680 that because it's not enough time to see who someone is. 387 00:23:14.119 --> 00:23:16.480 Can you get married relatively quickly and it works out? 388 00:23:16.519 --> 00:23:18.799 Find sure, there's always exceptions to the rule, but the 389 00:23:18.880 --> 00:23:22.240 fact there are exceptions also proves that there is a rule. 390 00:23:22.640 --> 00:23:25.680 What is the rush? Give yourself time to see who 391 00:23:25.759 --> 00:23:29.640 this person is in different scenarios. My mom always says 392 00:23:29.880 --> 00:23:32.720 you need at least each season with that person to 393 00:23:32.759 --> 00:23:35.599 see who they are over time, because the truth can 394 00:23:35.680 --> 00:23:39.960 be hid initially, but over time it will always come out. 395 00:23:40.440 --> 00:23:43.279 And it confuses me with Liz because if she's all 396 00:23:43.359 --> 00:23:46.680 about you know, be protecting of yourself and do this 397 00:23:46.799 --> 00:23:48.960 and do that. If you're protecting of yourself, why didn't 398 00:23:48.960 --> 00:23:52.160 you give yourself time? Why didn't you let yourself see 399 00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:55.480 who this person is? Then? To me, that also shows 400 00:23:55.480 --> 00:23:59.880 a contradicting belief. Well, you must have some belief that 401 00:24:00.319 --> 00:24:02.519