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<v Speaker 2>Hey everyone, and welcome to Fifty Shades of Bullshit. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>your host, Christine Lalan and this is the podcast where

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<v Speaker 2>we uncover the truth about online dating. Now let's begin.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey everybody, I'm Christine and I'm Steve, and we are

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<v Speaker 2>back with fifty Shades of Bullshit again this week. Hello everybody, Hello, Hello,

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<v Speaker 2>how you doing, Steve?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good. You know I've been thinking of this topic.

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<v Speaker 3>You sent me a little message is last week and

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<v Speaker 3>I let the wheels turn a little bit and we

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<v Speaker 3>didn't talk about it, but I was really good. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>really curious to see what you thought I meant and

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<v Speaker 3>what I actually meant about our topic, which is what

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<v Speaker 3>is your spiritual algorithm.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Yeah, I'm interested to see how we both were thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, it's open for interpretation obviously, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure there's many ways of thinking about it. I think

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<v Speaker 2>I came at it more of a you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Love and.

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<v Speaker 2>Dating kind of way. What what's yours?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I began wondering about, you know, just they began

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<v Speaker 3>maybe a couple of years ago, we started hearing the

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<v Speaker 3>word algorithm. Now, of course it's been used for of course,

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<v Speaker 3>certainly in science and technology, but we started I think

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<v Speaker 3>the general public started to get really interested and recognize

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<v Speaker 3>the word as we started to get ads sent to

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<v Speaker 3>us on Instagram, Facebook, whatever, and we began to wait

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<v Speaker 3>a minute. I was just talking about a breadmaker to

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<v Speaker 3>a friend of mine. Why am I all of a

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<v Speaker 3>sudden getting ads for breadmakers and links to Amazon? And

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<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, all of these, all this

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<v Speaker 3>information is being pushed to us. And in fact, I

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<v Speaker 3>jokingly say breadmaker. But I actually did a test. Remember

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<v Speaker 3>when we had all of the electronic equipment that everybody said, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>it's always listening to you. It is what you said.

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<v Speaker 3>So I started a test where I would just randomly

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<v Speaker 3>say I want a bread maker. I'm looking for a

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<v Speaker 3>breadmaker just now. I didn't preface it saying a L

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<v Speaker 3>e x A. I didn't preface it saying SI R I.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't. I didn't say it because then, of course

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<v Speaker 3>that's the cue you just verbally, right, Yeah, that's the

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<v Speaker 3>cue for those systems to listen. I would just kind

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<v Speaker 3>of randomly, I'd be driving in my car say I

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<v Speaker 3>want a breadmaker, and I was sure that I would

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<v Speaker 3>start getting ads for breadmakers. But no, I never did nothing,

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<v Speaker 3>not a note really.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so it happens to me all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Really without without giving a queue to you know. So

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<v Speaker 3>that's interesting. I am pretty mindful about the things I

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<v Speaker 3>click on. In fact, something sometimes i'll click on something like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh darn, I know I'm going to now start getting

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<v Speaker 3>all of this information. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel the same way, you know. I did the

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<v Speaker 2>I did the test too. I was on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>with a friend and I said some I just did.

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<v Speaker 2>I did that on purpose, too. I said one thing

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<v Speaker 2>on purpose, and within minutes of getting off the phone

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<v Speaker 2>with my friend, Facebook, Instagram, ads everywhere all about it.

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<v Speaker 2>And then it wasn't like maybe a month or so ago,

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<v Speaker 2>I was I did it again, I did what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>I set it out loud, and then by a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit A few minutes later, maybe ten, fifteen, twenty minutes later,

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<v Speaker 2>I open up my web browser and a banner for

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<v Speaker 2>an AD was exactly for what I set out loud.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's so interesting. Yeah, Now I know when I

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<v Speaker 3>do a search for something, I know I'm going to

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<v Speaker 3>start getting I know, if I get some kind of

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<v Speaker 3>spam trying to sell me something, if I accidentally or

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<v Speaker 3>intentionally click on it. Every now telemarketer is going to

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<v Speaker 3>start calling me about that. But I have not had

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<v Speaker 3>it happen yet. Start getting pushed ads or something I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just talking about. But that's when you asked me, Hey,

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<v Speaker 3>what should we talk about this week? I started thinking,

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<v Speaker 3>what is it that we're attracting in our lives that's

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<v Speaker 3>not just spiritually but emotionally. What are the patterns that

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<v Speaker 3>I am attracting that keep reoccurring? And what are the

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<v Speaker 3>cues that I keep putting out to the universe triggered

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<v Speaker 3>that coming my way? So, and then I know you

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<v Speaker 3>did some research in between, So I love to hear

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<v Speaker 3>what you were looking for.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was kind of like looking at it as

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<v Speaker 4>kind of like, well, my tech algorithms, you know, like

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<v Speaker 4>my TikTok, my Instagram, they're pretty much.

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<v Speaker 2>Showing me what I like, you know. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>got to thinking, you know, what is my inner spiritual algorithm?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, what is it noticing? What is it attracting?

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<v Speaker 2>What is it bringing negatively into my life? Right? So

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, well, what patterns are showing up for

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<v Speaker 2>me with love, with friendships, with work? And is those

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<v Speaker 2>algorithms serving me? So I was like also comparing it

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<v Speaker 2>to what I look for on my TV, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>with Hulu and Netflix and stuff, and I'll look for

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<v Speaker 2>one thing, one thing, and I'll get ten movies about

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<v Speaker 2>that one thing or shows about that one thing. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's like what you were saying, you know, is that

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<v Speaker 2>what am I? I was thinking about it as thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about it like I was just giving those examples for

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<v Speaker 2>technology and for television with our streaming networks. That's how

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<v Speaker 2>the first time I heard it though, is hearing somebody say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you looked up something on my Netflix and now you

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<v Speaker 2>screwed up my algorithm. I'm like, what is that?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So so I kind of thought about it as like that,

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<v Speaker 2>and I thought, well, what am I doing inwardly that

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<v Speaker 2>I am now creating my algorithm for my love life,

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<v Speaker 2>my friendships, my my work, you know. And then it

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<v Speaker 2>really got me thinking, you know, what kind of patterns

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<v Speaker 2>have I been creating just by my own thought patterns?

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<v Speaker 2>And that has to do a lot with what I've

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<v Speaker 2>been teaching over the years for manifesting. You know, what

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<v Speaker 2>are you thinking mainly about? What are you putting into

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<v Speaker 2>your pattern of your life?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's interesting. I have this conversation with a friend

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<v Speaker 3>of mine where we were talking about a mutual friend

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<v Speaker 3>that always seems to have drama around them so that

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<v Speaker 3>they can show up and be heroic. So and this

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<v Speaker 3>friend that I was talking to is like, yeah, why

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<v Speaker 3>I never you know, I'm just drama free. I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>there when shit's going down. I just it's just not

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<v Speaker 3>my thing. But I could see when we were talking

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<v Speaker 3>about this other friends like, oh, they're always there when

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<v Speaker 3>the ship goes now because something about their life lesson

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever it is about them that the the urge

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<v Speaker 3>or desire to show up and save the day is

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<v Speaker 3>part of their current life pattern or lessons Like oh, so,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, looking, what is mine? What are the things

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<v Speaker 3>that I keep putting out or attracting in the universe,

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<v Speaker 3>so I get to be a particular way. And it

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<v Speaker 3>reminded me of one other thing I have this mentor.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to produce events all over the world and

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<v Speaker 3>transformational events. And one of the people that I worked with,

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<v Speaker 3>she's one of the pioneers in the personal development world,

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<v Speaker 3>and there were always breakdowns that she would show up

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<v Speaker 3>around her. And we were having this conversation once I

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<v Speaker 3>learned so much from her, and she said, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>unworkability shows up around me so it can get handled

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<v Speaker 3>and resolved. I thought that is fascinating. So whenever we

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<v Speaker 3>would be producing an event, all the messes would show

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<v Speaker 3>up when she'd walk into the room so that things

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<v Speaker 3>could get resolved and handled really powerfully. So suddenly you're

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<v Speaker 3>competent with something, and all of a sudden she walks

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<v Speaker 3>in and I'm a gundering fool because all of my

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<v Speaker 3>clumsiness comes to the surface. And I learned so much

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<v Speaker 3>by having to upgrade my level of efficiency and success

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<v Speaker 3>and effectiveness. It was so powerful, always would be with her.

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<v Speaker 3>The funny thing is, though I have to say this

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<v Speaker 3>is funny, it was always weird going to dinner with

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<v Speaker 3>her because the food would always come out right because

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<v Speaker 3>it happened all around her always. We'd laugh about this,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, she'd always have to send her food back,

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<v Speaker 3>like if she could just turn it on and off,

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<v Speaker 3>it would have been.

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<v Speaker 2>You just seriously gave me some massive fucking insight into

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<v Speaker 2>my own life, because as you were talking a minute

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<v Speaker 2>ago about how you know there's certain people in life

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<v Speaker 2>that are always there when the drama happens because they

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<v Speaker 2>can be the hero, and I thought, huh, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm that way, but the opposite, not quite the

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<v Speaker 2>hero thing. I was thinking in my head how I was,

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<v Speaker 2>And then you described your friend who's the chaos coordinator

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<v Speaker 2>basically right. So that's how it is in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I see it. As everybody tends to call me for solutions,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll bring up Janice. Whenever Janice has any kind of

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<v Speaker 2>situation that she's feeling anxious, overwhelmed, unsure, anything, she imediately

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<v Speaker 2>text me and say, I need you know, I need

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<v Speaker 2>I need help. This is what I'm dealing with. And

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<v Speaker 2>I'll instantly know what she needs to do. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I'll give her the right words for the pep

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<v Speaker 2>talk to put her in the right frame of mind,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I'll give her an inner incantonation or an

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<v Speaker 2>inner thought or exercise to do inside of her to

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<v Speaker 2>start projecting that inner to outer And she doesn't even

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<v Speaker 2>realize that's how I'm doing it. But when it happens,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody turns to me. And it's like that with my work.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm an event producer. Yeah, so I fix all the messages,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's like, I'm I'm just like you're saying that

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<v Speaker 2>friend of yours. So I think that there are certain

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<v Speaker 2>people that do like that. In a way, it kind

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<v Speaker 2>of reminds me of the people the parents who make

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<v Speaker 2>their kids sick so that they can always, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like nurture them and take care of them.

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<v Speaker 3>And Munchausen by proxies. There's a psychological condition right movie

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<v Speaker 3>The Sixth Sense. I frustrated in that movie where your

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<v Speaker 3>parents actually make their children sick so that they get

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<v Speaker 3>sympathy or they can be the rescuer. Really pretty fascinating.

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<v Speaker 3>But but I I was just.

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<v Speaker 2>Going to say, what we were talking about with that

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<v Speaker 2>is different than what that was.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So I think and here's why I was excited

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<v Speaker 3>about having this conversation that we actually orchestrate all of it.

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<v Speaker 3>We co created, either consciously or unconsciously. So the dynamic

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<v Speaker 3>that you just described with Dannis that you are like

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<v Speaker 3>puzzle pieces that fit together and found each other because

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<v Speaker 3>she can show up in life as needing something and

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<v Speaker 3>you could show up as the one to provide it.

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<v Speaker 3>So my curiosity is, are those roles that you want

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<v Speaker 3>to keep or you know, is it time to upgrade

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes and say listen, Dana's you are capable, you are powerful.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't even to sort this out for you, like

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<v Speaker 3>what's going to happen when you're not available? Sometimes?

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<v Speaker 2>All apart, I think that she starts to There's two

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<v Speaker 2>do that she immediately thinks, I'm just going to call Christine,

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<v Speaker 3>She tell me?

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<v Speaker 2>And the other thing I was going to say is

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<v Speaker 2>that to me as well. We are givers and takers

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<v Speaker 3>a lot with parents, and you know, parents who are

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<v Speaker 3>If they're constantly stepping in to rescue them or resolve

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<v Speaker 3>but if they're always stepping in, they don't give their

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of times I would say with parents, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Why? Why?

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<v Speaker 3>And the the exhausted parent who keeps trying to answer

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<v Speaker 3>I said, well, listen, what they wanted was your presence.

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<v Speaker 3>They you know, they didn't really want your answers, and

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes they do want answers, of course, but what they

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<v Speaker 3>wanted then was your presence. And you're listening, and look

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<v Speaker 3>how excited they got about and you know, coming up

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<v Speaker 3>were asking. I don't remember what it was, but it

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<v Speaker 3>was like bruteal for them to just be creative and

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<v Speaker 3>imagine it. So it really was a learning moment for

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<v Speaker 2>I love that because you were when you were saying that,

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<v Speaker 2>I was hearing in my head, you know, parent example.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's like friend example, work example. It applies it

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<v Speaker 2>everywhere that say, let's go back to the child thing again.

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<v Speaker 2>So if say your child is having an issue with

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<v Speaker 2>and they're struggling and they're having a hard time and

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<v Speaker 2>a parent comes in and just fixes it all the

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<v Speaker 2>time for them, Like you said, they don't learn the

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<v Speaker 2>skills and tools that they need to solve those problems

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<v Speaker 2>in the future. And one of the things I was

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<v Speaker 2>thinking is that, you know, as parents, we have to

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<v Speaker 2>stressful moments, how do we handle fixing solutions and problems.

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<v Speaker 2>And by showing them, showing people that we can create

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<v Speaker 2>these tools and find ways of solving problems, that it

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<v Speaker 2>also helps the child start to you know, really start

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<v Speaker 2>to think how how could I fix that? Or and

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<v Speaker 2>then I like the idea of not only showing example,

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<v Speaker 2>but asking questions, like say your teenager comes to you

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<v Speaker 2>and they're broken hearted. They had a heartbreak, their boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, broke their hearts. And instead of the parents

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<v Speaker 2>going I'm going to kill them, you know, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>kick as as Let's say, you know, how is it

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<v Speaker 2>showing up for you?

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<v Speaker 3>How?

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<v Speaker 2>How do you think that healing would work for you?

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<v Speaker 1>How? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think this is something you should move forward

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<v Speaker 2>with to get back with or break up? You know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean? It's like it's just like you said,

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<v Speaker 2>using words, using examples, and I like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Well. A lot of times I will say with clients

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<v Speaker 3>or friends, is how do you want me to support

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<v Speaker 3>you here? Because yeah, that's good. Times you want an answer,

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, listen, I have no idea where to go,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what to do. Give me some ideas,

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<v Speaker 3>give me you know what should I do? Like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>that might be what I want in that moment? Or

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<v Speaker 3>I think, more often and more common in relationships is

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<v Speaker 3>what people really want. It's just the listener. Can I

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<v Speaker 3>just say this and have you not judge it and

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<v Speaker 3>just just let me say it and be listened to

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<v Speaker 3>and really received. And I think more often than not,

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<v Speaker 3>that's that's what we want, so that we could work

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<v Speaker 3>it out for ourselves. And I think that just like

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<v Speaker 3>we use the example of clicking the button and then

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<v Speaker 3>being in the same algorithm again, if we if our

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<v Speaker 3>automatic response is to give someone an answer, it's just

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<v Speaker 3>like clicking clicking the button and you know, getting more

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<v Speaker 3>of the same junk mail or whatever. It's because we've

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<v Speaker 3>now looped in because I'm used to playing the role

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<v Speaker 3>of rescuing you or giving you the answer rather than oh,

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<v Speaker 3>let me pause here and ask you what you think

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<v Speaker 3>would really support you. Yeah. I love that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So for me also, one of the things that I

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<v Speaker 2>was really focusing on when I was thinking about, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>algorithms spiritual is it part of my life? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>what do I do? Part of it was, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what you focus on expands. So if you're focusing say,

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<v Speaker 2>what the universe feeds you, you know, is what you

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<v Speaker 2>tune into. So it's kind of like law of attraction

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<v Speaker 2>or the vibes that you're doing. So if you're constantly

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<v Speaker 2>talking about bad dates, probably going to keep attracting bad dates.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're constantly focusing, Like I have my hurt thumb.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm constantly focusing on my hurt thumb. It's gonna throb

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<v Speaker 2>when I don't think about it. The only time I

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<v Speaker 2>noticed is when I bump it, hit it, or try

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<v Speaker 2>to use it. But if you're conscious, you're conscientiously curating

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<v Speaker 2>your your feed or your your code of what you

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<v Speaker 2>believe in your insecurities. It's like, are you allowing that

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<v Speaker 2>to create the algorithm for you? It's like people with

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<v Speaker 2>shitty jobs never find great better jobs if they're just

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<v Speaker 3>And what do they do? They complain about things. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think complaints are a language that we traffic in

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<v Speaker 3>and it just perpetuates the algorithm. So you know, the algorithm,

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<v Speaker 3>it just keeps creating more of what we don't want.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think we tell you use the magic word,

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<v Speaker 3>are we consciously creating? Well, right, We're always creating. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think that when we have something to celebrate that

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<v Speaker 3>acknowledge that we created it, then you know we may

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<v Speaker 3>or may not continue to create it. But I think

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<v Speaker 3>celebrating what works and what we want and what we're

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<v Speaker 3>joyful about in our lives. Is a piece a half

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<v Speaker 3>of the equation to keep creating more of that? Then

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<v Speaker 3>I think there's another piece that we tend to overlook

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<v Speaker 3>a lot. One is that part about complaining? But why

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<v Speaker 3>did I create this? If it's unfavorable, if I don't

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<v Speaker 3>like it, if it's painful, well, and why do I

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<v Speaker 3>keep creating it? And you and I have this conversation before,

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<v Speaker 3>like why did I create this part of my life? Well?

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<v Speaker 3>There was something to learn here for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Right exactly? It's like, is it something to learn? Is

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<v Speaker 2>it something that's going to create something that makes you

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<v Speaker 2>have a stronger backbone or more gumption or you know,

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<v Speaker 2>be kinder or you know what I mean? Just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like help shave you, shape you well, just like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, algorithms and say tech sub are unconscious or

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<v Speaker 2>our subconscious is is you know, also guiding that algorithm

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<v Speaker 2>for our own personal thing. And I kind of was

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<v Speaker 2>like relating it to dating. It's like swiping because I

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<v Speaker 2>watched that movie Swipe last night on Netflix about the

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<v Speaker 3>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so good, but so freaking good. Anyway, It's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like we're creating our own pattern when we're constantly

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<v Speaker 2>swiping right on the wrong person, on the wrong type

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<v Speaker 2>of person, the wrong kind of Do you understand what

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<v Speaker 3>It's like our producer, Rebel sent us in the chat.

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<v Speaker 3>Are these things we think into the universe? Are we

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<v Speaker 3>thinking things into existence? Well yes, I don't. I think yes, yes.

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<v Speaker 3>But are we conscious of the thinking we're thinking or

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<v Speaker 3>are we creating it unconsciously? And I think yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>think nothing exists in the universe without thought.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, here is where I say your past.

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<v Speaker 3>Because and I just clarify that because that came down weird. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I said nothing exists in the universe without thought. What

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<v Speaker 3>I mean is nothing exists in our experience of the

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<v Speaker 3>universe without thought. So it might exist outside of our experience,

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<v Speaker 3>Like what exists for you might not exist for me. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>what exists for me does not exist without my thinking

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<v Speaker 3>and awareness of it. Otherwise it's just happening and not

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<v Speaker 3>unbeknownst to me. It ain't happened in exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's like no, no, no, no no. Because it

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<v Speaker 2>made me think of something that is really important that

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<v Speaker 2>talking about how much we are actually perceiving in our

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<v Speaker 2>of what's in front of us. There are things in

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<v Speaker 2>front of me that I cannot see, and that might

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<v Speaker 2>scare a lot of people. It's like getting in the

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<v Speaker 2>water and not being able to see the bottom of

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<v Speaker 2>the water. And some people can't do that. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>went swimming in a pond a couple of weeks ago

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<v Speaker 2>went to town. I didn't fucking care. What's a fitch

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to do to me? Bite me cares. My

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<v Speaker 2>So this is one of the things I was talking about,

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<v Speaker 2>is how trauma childhood experiences, past relationships, those program are

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<v Speaker 2>inner thoughts. They program without getting help, without getting you know,

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<v Speaker 2>therapy or or some type of self help without getting

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<v Speaker 2>past trauma, getting getting through childhood experiences, getting healing from

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<v Speaker 2>past relationships. Those are the things that are shaping our thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>So if someone is always constantly thinking about their trauma,

425
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<v Speaker 2>past childhood, bad experiences, past relationship bad experiences, they're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>expect nothing but bad experiences constantly. So they're creating their

427
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<v Speaker 2>own algorithm of bad experiences. Because I did that. I

428
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<v Speaker 2>grew up in trauma, and I took that trauma with

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<v Speaker 2>me into every fucking relationship. So I was pulling in

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<v Speaker 2>the same type of man that I grew up with

431
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<v Speaker 2>in subtle different ways, but they all had the same

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<v Speaker 2>shit as that because he had all of the bad stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I was picking men that had bits and pieces,

434
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<v Speaker 2>thinking they were better, but not really knowing how to

435
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<v Speaker 2>pick properly without healing. Once I started healing, my algorithms

436
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<v Speaker 2>are different. Men show up for me, Different people in

437
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<v Speaker 2>my life show up for me different ways. My friends

438
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<v Speaker 2>now show up for me.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, you ever had someone show up who you

440
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<v Speaker 3>knew they were different. It's like, oh my gosh, And

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<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, some element that was so

442
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<v Speaker 3>familiar came up. I was like, oh my god, there

443
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<v Speaker 3>I go again.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, once in a while, somebody else slipped through the

445
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<v Speaker 2>unemotional the the emotionally unavailable.

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<v Speaker 3>Show up sneaky one, isn't it like you keep? You've

447
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<v Speaker 3>gone through a B C type A B C D

448
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<v Speaker 3>E F G all these Oh I found all the

449
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<v Speaker 3>flavors unavailable that I thought there were, and uneath this

450
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<v Speaker 3>person who is so different, and oh my god, and

451
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<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, this unavailable trait slips in

452
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<v Speaker 3>and like, oh my god, where did that come from?

453
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<v Speaker 3>You're just the new version of unavailable. It's so funny.

454
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<v Speaker 3>It is because I didn't. I just I clicked on

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<v Speaker 3>the album them again.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, here's what I think about that. I see

457
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<v Speaker 2>it as universal. Some people call it god, some people

458
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<v Speaker 2>call it whatever they want to call it. I call

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<v Speaker 2>it universe. My universe is my God. My God is

460
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<v Speaker 2>my universe, my higher self is my God, you know

461
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<v Speaker 2>what I mean? Especially since I went through my whole

462
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<v Speaker 2>uh thing with the psychedelics, it just really shaped me

463
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<v Speaker 2>differently in that aspect. So when I look at that,

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<v Speaker 2>I see it as oh my god, I just lost

465
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<v Speaker 2>my Oh my god. It just went flat on my head.

466
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<v Speaker 2>What did you just say? Right before I.

467
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<v Speaker 3>Started, I was talking about unavailable? Suddenly y flavor of unavailable.

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<v Speaker 2>I see it in the universe, God or whatever, taking

469
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<v Speaker 2>somebody and going, ah, this person's different, but they're still

470
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<v Speaker 2>emotionally unavailable. Let's see if they still follow the same

471
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<v Speaker 2>patterns or not. And when you catch it faster, you're

472
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<v Speaker 2>learning faster, you're going to be You're going to get

473
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<v Speaker 2>better and better and better. But if you're still even

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<v Speaker 2>though you're choosing different people, they still are emotionally unavailable.

475
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<v Speaker 2>You're still picking it and you're not noticing it right away,

476
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<v Speaker 2>then you still got work to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Well. Yeah, it's like there's a whole curriculum and we

478
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<v Speaker 3>thought we worked our way through the unavailable curriculum, and

479
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<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, there's a new freaking lesson.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait a minute, right, I thought, you know, well, I

481
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<v Speaker 3>guess I'm forever in life learning lessons about unavailable.

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<v Speaker 2>So, you know, well, a lot several people presented themselves

483
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<v Speaker 2>to me over the last few months who just and

484
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<v Speaker 2>I don't necessarily mean dating, I mean like in general,

485
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<v Speaker 2>who were just unemotionally unavailable, emotionally unavailable period, and I

486
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<v Speaker 2>just still. I thought faster, and I'm like, yep, nope,

487
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<v Speaker 2>this is not the direction I need to go. The

488
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<v Speaker 2>universe gave me a sign. I said, where do I go?

489
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<v Speaker 2>What direction do I go? And then here was this

490
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<v Speaker 2>you know, emotionally unavailable person. Yeah, and I went, yep, nope,

491
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<v Speaker 2>that's the direction I'm supposed to go over here because

492
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<v Speaker 2>it showed me. Now, I couldn't chose that direction being

493
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<v Speaker 2>attracted to the light of them, their energy, the concepts

494
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<v Speaker 2>of what they have going on. But then that patterns

495
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<v Speaker 2>there and if I didn't recognize it, then I could

496
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<v Speaker 2>fall back into it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I see it like that, Yeah, well, you know me,

498
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<v Speaker 3>I'm all about supporting people moving from victimhood to consciousness

499
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<v Speaker 3>and the ability to be the creator of their experience.

500
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<v Speaker 3>And it's not to say that people might not get

501
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<v Speaker 3>victimized by circumstances, but to take responsibility means really, oh,

502
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<v Speaker 3>I created this. I created this experience not from a

503
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<v Speaker 3>place of guilt or shame, but I brought in another

504
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<v Speaker 3>piece of the curriculum. You know, So even if it's unpleasant,

505
00:31:03.160 --> 00:31:06.319
<v Speaker 3>and you know, you keep choosing someone who's aggressive or

506
00:31:06.720 --> 00:31:09.680
<v Speaker 3>someone who's you know we've used the example unavailable, but

507
00:31:10.319 --> 00:31:15.839
<v Speaker 3>what what's your flavor that you keep creating that's unpleasant?

508
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<v Speaker 3>And what is the lesson here? Like if we could

509
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<v Speaker 3>if we could let go of the guilt or the

510
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<v Speaker 3>shame and let go of oh why did I do

511
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<v Speaker 3>this again? Or or we could let go of blaming

512
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<v Speaker 3>the perpetrator out there, then we could really sit in

513
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<v Speaker 3>the seat of being in power to be curious, how

514
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<v Speaker 3>did I bring this flavor in again? Oh, a new

515
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<v Speaker 3>flavor of this kind of person? What is the lesson here?

516
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<v Speaker 3>Because we got a life curriculum. We don't know how

517
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<v Speaker 3>many years we're going to have, but at least a

518
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<v Speaker 3>whole curriculum to experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's funny because it's funny that you said it

520
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<v Speaker 2>that way, because it just made me think that we

521
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<v Speaker 2>start saying things over and over like oh, yeah, well

522
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<v Speaker 2>I'll do with that tomorrow, or I'll get a therapist

523
00:32:03.160 --> 00:32:05.960
<v Speaker 2>next week, and we just don't realize that how much

524
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<v Speaker 2>life is passing us by by putting things off and

525
00:32:09.759 --> 00:32:16.200
<v Speaker 2>creating that pattern because tomorrow may not come for that person,

526
00:32:16.400 --> 00:32:19.960
<v Speaker 2>or me or you or anybody that tomorrow may not come,

527
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<v Speaker 2>you know, So for me, I was thinking like, how

528
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<v Speaker 2>can people reset their algorithm for their life, you know,

529
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<v Speaker 2>for dating, for work, for anything. And one of the

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<v Speaker 2>ways that I came up with a couple of different ways,

531
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<v Speaker 2>and one of them was thinking, you know, therapy or journaling,

532
00:32:39.799 --> 00:32:43.920
<v Speaker 2>journaling if you're not into therapy, or maybe both, because

533
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<v Speaker 2>what that does is it's to find the root of

534
00:32:48.839 --> 00:32:52.599
<v Speaker 2>the pattern, Like what is it that we're doing that's

535
00:32:52.880 --> 00:32:59.200
<v Speaker 2>causing the unemotional the unavailable people, or the violent people

536
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<v Speaker 2>or the whatever. So finding the root of the pattern,

537
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<v Speaker 2>I think is the most important thing, and that's the

538
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<v Speaker 2>first step, and that's either getting into therapy or journaling

539
00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:13.519
<v Speaker 2>or maybe you might have some other suggestions. But the

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<v Speaker 2>other one I thought about was maybe starting out smaller

541
00:33:17.720 --> 00:33:23.799
<v Speaker 2>if it helps with shifting your daily habits like meditation

542
00:33:24.400 --> 00:33:31.240
<v Speaker 2>and affirmations gratitude. That could also help with your journaling

543
00:33:31.400 --> 00:33:36.000
<v Speaker 2>is you know, by meditating having certain types of affirmations

544
00:33:36.160 --> 00:33:39.599
<v Speaker 2>puts you in a better mindset. So if you're constantly

545
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<v Speaker 2>struggling with I cannot find guys who are single. All

546
00:33:43.519 --> 00:33:47.079
<v Speaker 2>the good ones are freaking dacon, you know, all the

547
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<v Speaker 2>best ones are gay. I like saying that one a lot,

548
00:33:53.400 --> 00:33:57.359
<v Speaker 2>and that's creating a pattern. So by creating an affirmation

549
00:33:58.119 --> 00:34:03.599
<v Speaker 2>or a meditation or gratitude to the things that you want,

550
00:34:03.680 --> 00:34:07.640
<v Speaker 2>it's listing the things that you really, truly, corarely want

551
00:34:08.039 --> 00:34:12.920
<v Speaker 2>with somebody. Then it can start to create shifting different

552
00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:17.280
<v Speaker 2>daily habits. And when you do that, you start choosing differently.

553
00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:21.440
<v Speaker 2>And when you start choosing differently, even if it feels

554
00:34:21.639 --> 00:34:26.320
<v Speaker 2>uncomfortable at first, those are incredible steps because it's getting

555
00:34:26.360 --> 00:34:30.039
<v Speaker 2>you out of your comfortability that allows you to change

556
00:34:30.360 --> 00:34:34.199
<v Speaker 2>the pattern of what you're doing, saying, feeling, thinking.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, yeah, well, one of the things that I

558
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<v Speaker 3>think is really useful is to make sure that you,

559
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<v Speaker 3>for your own life, are differentiating between a crisis moment

560
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<v Speaker 3>and a moment of growth, because let's basically, there are

561
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<v Speaker 3>moments where if the house is on fire, you don't

562
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<v Speaker 3>start wondering about, oh, it's not nice. You know, maybe

563
00:34:57.280 --> 00:35:01.000
<v Speaker 3>we should do the landscaping differently, or maybe we should

564
00:35:01.000 --> 00:35:03.960
<v Speaker 3>have put in a sprinkler system. That's the time when

565
00:35:03.960 --> 00:35:06.519
<v Speaker 3>the house is on fire, put the fire out. And

566
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<v Speaker 3>you know, we could extrapolate on whatever that might be

567
00:35:09.400 --> 00:35:13.159
<v Speaker 3>emotionally in someone's life that there are crisis situations that

568
00:35:13.239 --> 00:35:16.480
<v Speaker 3>need to be dealt with and and but then if

569
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<v Speaker 3>you're not in a crisis, then I would say, and

570
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<v Speaker 3>this is one of the ways I live my life

571
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<v Speaker 3>is I'm I'm always in a growth inquiry, like I'm

572
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<v Speaker 3>always looking for some way to explore and grow who

573
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<v Speaker 3>I am. How do I get to be this way?

574
00:35:31.159 --> 00:35:35.159
<v Speaker 3>What's possible? Where if I made choices that limit what's possible?

575
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<v Speaker 3>Where do I have limiting beliefs and all of those things,

576
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<v Speaker 3>So that I'm always curious and exploring and not trying

577
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<v Speaker 3>to solve a problem, unless, of course, like I said,

578
00:35:45.559 --> 00:35:47.920
<v Speaker 3>it's a crisis. You know, like I'm not problem solving

579
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<v Speaker 3>because I think if if the things that we're doing,

580
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<v Speaker 3>like if you meditate in order to be more peaceful,

581
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<v Speaker 3>well that is almost like you're trying to solve a problem.

582
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<v Speaker 3>If that little phrase in order to this, if you're

583
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<v Speaker 3>if you're really stuck on the result, But if you meditate,

584
00:36:06.679 --> 00:36:09.920
<v Speaker 3>to meditate and really see what, Like I have no

585
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<v Speaker 3>idea what meditation is going to provide for me. Some

586
00:36:12.320 --> 00:36:14.320
<v Speaker 3>people said it's going to make me more peaceful. Some

587
00:36:14.360 --> 00:36:16.880
<v Speaker 3>people said it's going to this and that. Well, let's

588
00:36:16.960 --> 00:36:21.079
<v Speaker 3>investigate and see what it's like. Rather than being putting

589
00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:24.519
<v Speaker 3>all my attention on trying to be more peaceful. Let's

590
00:36:24.639 --> 00:36:29.519
<v Speaker 3>be in an inquiry without being attached to some lesson

591
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<v Speaker 3>to be learned. And I think that's a rich, rich

592
00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:34.800
<v Speaker 3>way to experience life.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, though, if you think about it, if you are,

594
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<v Speaker 2>say then you're meditating, to meditate, a lot of answers

595
00:36:43.960 --> 00:36:47.760
<v Speaker 2>can come to you during that time by just clearing

596
00:36:47.800 --> 00:36:50.960
<v Speaker 2>your mind and you know, thinking about you know, those

597
00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:55.119
<v Speaker 2>type of things. But if you're also thinking about it,

598
00:36:55.239 --> 00:36:58.119
<v Speaker 2>if you're if you're doing the actions, like you say,

599
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<v Speaker 2>just to be not to solve a problem, that a

600
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<v Speaker 2>lot of the problems will start to be solved for

601
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<v Speaker 2>you in messages. And I see signs and synchronicities all

602
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<v Speaker 2>the time, and I think that that kind of leans

603
00:37:12.360 --> 00:37:17.440
<v Speaker 2>towards what we're talking about is are people actually paying

604
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<v Speaker 2>attention to synchronicities and signs once they've asked for solutions,

605
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<v Speaker 2>Because asking for a solution but then not being open

606
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<v Speaker 2>to the goddamn sign of it is not going to

607
00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:32.079
<v Speaker 2>pict your problem. So when I say that, like, if

608
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<v Speaker 2>you're hearing songs or getting messages from a text, or

609
00:37:37.440 --> 00:37:39.800
<v Speaker 2>are you open your Facebook and there's you know, blah,

610
00:37:39.800 --> 00:37:43.239
<v Speaker 2>blah blah, and you're thinking about it. Do you trust

611
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<v Speaker 2>those signs or do you just wipe past them? Do

612
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<v Speaker 2>you just keep going? And just a real fast example,

613
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<v Speaker 2>because we only have ten minutes left, a real fast

614
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<v Speaker 2>example is about a week or two ago, I've been

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<v Speaker 2>really I've been struggling for the last year to know

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<v Speaker 2>where I'm going to know. I keep saying I'm going

617
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<v Speaker 2>to go to Europe, but with my new job, I'm

618
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<v Speaker 2>struggling with the time difference. And I thought, well, going

619
00:38:07.679 --> 00:38:10.599
<v Speaker 2>to Europe right now would be difficult, even more so

620
00:38:10.760 --> 00:38:14.079
<v Speaker 2>than the time difference for me now, and I just

621
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<v Speaker 2>decided to meditate. And then and then I did. I

622
00:38:18.159 --> 00:38:22.199
<v Speaker 2>just meditated, and then I said in my meditation, Hey, spirit, guides,

623
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<v Speaker 2>you know, angels, ancestors, universe, whatever I want, I'm looking

624
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<v Speaker 2>for a sign or or a direction of where I'm

625
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<v Speaker 2>supposed to go. How can I solve the problem of

626
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<v Speaker 2>having these list of things I want and need and

627
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<v Speaker 2>yet still solve a problem that I'm having. And the

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<v Speaker 2>very next day, several things came across my attention that

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<v Speaker 2>gave me an answer to that. And then a friend

630
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<v Speaker 2>texted me and said, Hey, I'm in this exact place

631
00:38:58.960 --> 00:39:02.000
<v Speaker 2>that I'd been shown, shown and shown, and then I

632
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<v Speaker 2>had my answer. So now I know where I'm moving

633
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<v Speaker 2>to for the first six months that I leave here. Awesome,

634
00:39:10.639 --> 00:39:14.079
<v Speaker 2>and it's Mexico. I'm going to apply a del carmen Mexico.

635
00:39:14.159 --> 00:39:16.920
<v Speaker 2>It's in the same time zone as the people I

636
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<v Speaker 2>work with. It's giving me the same things here that

637
00:39:20.239 --> 00:39:24.360
<v Speaker 2>I want from here there, meaning the ocean, the beach,

638
00:39:24.760 --> 00:39:27.920
<v Speaker 2>but yet feel more tropical, which I don't have here.

639
00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:32.199
<v Speaker 2>More rain, more blue ocean, you know, more clean sand,

640
00:39:32.800 --> 00:39:36.719
<v Speaker 2>and yet be able to take my massive fucking nut

641
00:39:37.400 --> 00:39:41.400
<v Speaker 2>of a living expense every month that I kill myself

642
00:39:41.440 --> 00:39:47.800
<v Speaker 2>here for will will decrease by you know, let's just

643
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<v Speaker 2>say I spend five thousand dollars. Let's say the truth,

644
00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:54.800
<v Speaker 2>I spend five thousand or more just to be poor here,

645
00:39:55.960 --> 00:39:59.800
<v Speaker 2>just to be poor, just to skim by, whereas in Mexico,

646
00:39:59.840 --> 00:40:02.920
<v Speaker 2>were I'm going, my entire living expense will be one

647
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<v Speaker 2>thousand dollars. So it solved the problem for me of

648
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<v Speaker 2>being able to give me all the things I wanted

649
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<v Speaker 2>and be able to lower my living expenses so that

650
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<v Speaker 2>I could save more for when I do find the

651
00:40:17.719 --> 00:40:20.639
<v Speaker 2>place that I want to be. So you got to

652
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<v Speaker 2>look for those things. And here's my best suggestion on

653
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<v Speaker 2>how to see those things, Okay, by raising your standards,

654
00:40:30.039 --> 00:40:35.079
<v Speaker 2>by healing old wounds, by being intentional about what kind

655
00:40:35.159 --> 00:40:39.920
<v Speaker 2>of love and life that we're looking to attract, which

656
00:40:39.960 --> 00:40:44.480
<v Speaker 2>then gives us our algorithm. You know, It's kind of

657
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<v Speaker 2>like if you were to say, here's an example for

658
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<v Speaker 2>y'all if my spiritual algorithm, if your spiritual algorithm was

659
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<v Speaker 2>like your TikTok page, would it just be dogs, tacos,

660
00:40:59.800 --> 00:41:05.719
<v Speaker 2>and you know, emotionally unavailable men. Okay, So what I

661
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<v Speaker 2>would encourage you to do is look at what your

662
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:13.760
<v Speaker 2>set patterns are bringing you and then say, oh, I

663
00:41:13.800 --> 00:41:18.159
<v Speaker 2>can change my algorithm on TikTok by just searching for

664
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<v Speaker 2>other things that will bring different things to my to

665
00:41:23.079 --> 00:41:26.320
<v Speaker 2>my algorithm. It's the same thing with your life. When

666
00:41:26.360 --> 00:41:29.719
<v Speaker 2>you start focusing on the things you're wanting to attract,

667
00:41:30.639 --> 00:41:35.360
<v Speaker 2>then those things start coming. So you're changing your algorithm.

668
00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:37.719
<v Speaker 3>Right, Yeah, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>How would you say that we've got We've got another

670
00:41:42.440 --> 00:41:46.800
<v Speaker 2>seven minutes or so. I'm just curious what your thoughts are,

671
00:41:46.840 --> 00:41:50.599
<v Speaker 2>maybe some solutions, some things to really start helping people

672
00:41:50.760 --> 00:41:55.760
<v Speaker 2>rethink and reprogram their algorithm for their life.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I think one of the biggest lessons that

674
00:41:59.039 --> 00:42:02.239
<v Speaker 3>I've been learning and I'm still learning and still wrestling

675
00:42:02.280 --> 00:42:07.440
<v Speaker 3>with and still exploring, is the whole idea of non attachment.

676
00:42:09.079 --> 00:42:12.239
<v Speaker 3>I know that. You know, it's spoken of in many

677
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<v Speaker 3>different ways and many different spiritual beliefs, and I think

678
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<v Speaker 3>it's I think attachment. You know, attachment would be like

679
00:42:23.119 --> 00:42:28.360
<v Speaker 3>if you are now set on Mexico and something happened

680
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<v Speaker 3>and you couldn't go there, that you Yeah, so that's

681
00:42:32.239 --> 00:42:36.199
<v Speaker 3>not attachment. You know, I'd come up with another solution. So, yeah,

682
00:42:36.280 --> 00:42:40.599
<v Speaker 3>being attached to a solution is a pitfall.

683
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<v Speaker 2>Yes, here's the thing. I was attached to going to

684
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<v Speaker 2>Spain first and then doing my thing. I was attached

685
00:42:48.039 --> 00:42:49.639
<v Speaker 2>to it. I was sold to it, I was married

686
00:42:49.679 --> 00:42:52.559
<v Speaker 2>to it. I was fucking tied to it. And when

687
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:55.960
<v Speaker 2>things were coming up that were going to make it

688
00:42:56.039 --> 00:42:59.320
<v Speaker 2>really difficult, I started to panic and think what am

689
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<v Speaker 2>I going to do now?

690
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<v Speaker 3>Yes, So that's a great symptom of being attached, is

691
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<v Speaker 3>that all of a sudden, I'm panicking and there's like this,

692
00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:10.519
<v Speaker 3>I've got to force this to happen and work out

693
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<v Speaker 3>we see.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing that makes me feel comfortable about this is

695
00:43:15.119 --> 00:43:18.599
<v Speaker 2>that by going to Mexico one, I'm super close to

696
00:43:18.639 --> 00:43:21.599
<v Speaker 2>the US. Still, okay, it's not a difficult place to go.

697
00:43:22.159 --> 00:43:24.559
<v Speaker 2>I've been there before. I'm very comfortable with it. I

698
00:43:24.599 --> 00:43:27.039
<v Speaker 2>have friends there, it's in the right time zone. It's

699
00:43:27.039 --> 00:43:30.159
<v Speaker 2>gonna save me money. If I don't like it, I leave.

700
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<v Speaker 2>That's how simple it is. If I feel unsafe or

701
00:43:34.519 --> 00:43:39.199
<v Speaker 2>or not happy, I just change. That's all there is

702
00:43:39.239 --> 00:43:41.719
<v Speaker 2>to it. I just okay, Well, if I don't like

703
00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:44.440
<v Speaker 2>the cat videos I'm seeing on TikTok, I'm gonna now

704
00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:46.880
<v Speaker 2>google dogg videos and I'm just gonna change.

705
00:43:46.639 --> 00:43:50.519
<v Speaker 3>The algorithm, try to reach out and explore.

706
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<v Speaker 2>Now, a couple of things in the studio said, are

707
00:43:54.679 --> 00:43:58.159
<v Speaker 2>these things we think into the universe? Remember when when

708
00:43:58.440 --> 00:44:01.400
<v Speaker 2>when she'd asked that, But we don't. She also goes

709
00:44:01.440 --> 00:44:03.119
<v Speaker 2>on to say, but we don't know if we're going

710
00:44:03.159 --> 00:44:06.480
<v Speaker 2>to want or what we think we want. So is

711
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<v Speaker 2>that why we keep trying.

712
00:44:08.639 --> 00:44:11.800
<v Speaker 3>We don't know if we're going to want what we

713
00:44:11.880 --> 00:44:14.079
<v Speaker 3>think we want. That way, we keep trying.

714
00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:17.039
<v Speaker 2>What's that about, rebel?

715
00:44:17.239 --> 00:44:19.519
<v Speaker 3>You keep trying to when you keep one things you

716
00:44:19.599 --> 00:44:22.840
<v Speaker 3>want something, you get it, you don't actually want it trying.

717
00:44:22.800 --> 00:44:24.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I see.

718
00:44:24.440 --> 00:44:27.280
<v Speaker 3>You keep putting these things you think you want it.

719
00:44:27.280 --> 00:44:29.800
<v Speaker 3>It's human want what you don't have, but when you

720
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<v Speaker 3>get it, you don't necessarily want it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's kind of like leaning towards what Steve

722
00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:38.199
<v Speaker 2>was just saying, Are you too attached to the outcome?

723
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<v Speaker 1>You know?

724
00:44:39.440 --> 00:44:39.760
<v Speaker 2>Are you?

725
00:44:41.119 --> 00:44:43.480
<v Speaker 3>Are you so attached that you get it and it's

726
00:44:43.519 --> 00:44:45.320
<v Speaker 3>not what you want but you keep trying to go

727
00:44:45.400 --> 00:44:48.360
<v Speaker 3>for it anyway. Yeah, it's like I think I should

728
00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:51.639
<v Speaker 3>want this, and then you know, I think that's true

729
00:44:51.679 --> 00:44:55.280
<v Speaker 3>a lot from people with their relationship with money, then money,

730
00:44:55.679 --> 00:45:00.719
<v Speaker 3>the relationshippings of it, the money, what represents buying all

731
00:45:00.800 --> 00:45:04.280
<v Speaker 3>the things that money represents what you know, really, they

732
00:45:04.280 --> 00:45:07.039
<v Speaker 3>think that's going to make them happy, and they get

733
00:45:07.079 --> 00:45:09.400
<v Speaker 3>the money or they get the new car, the things

734
00:45:09.440 --> 00:45:12.719
<v Speaker 3>that are symbols of money, and it ends up not

735
00:45:12.760 --> 00:45:15.960
<v Speaker 3>being what they really wanted. So they're they're kind of

736
00:45:16.000 --> 00:45:19.159
<v Speaker 3>on a hamster wheel trying to keep get more of

737
00:45:19.199 --> 00:45:22.519
<v Speaker 3>what they think they want when maybe that really wasn't

738
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<v Speaker 3>what they.

739
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<v Speaker 2>Wanted, right. But if what they do is take a

740
00:45:26.360 --> 00:45:30.639
<v Speaker 2>different energy and put it into the money, and then

741
00:45:30.760 --> 00:45:35.159
<v Speaker 2>they also change the energy of the outcome, meaning letting

742
00:45:35.199 --> 00:45:39.159
<v Speaker 2>it go, not caring if that is the exact ending,

743
00:45:39.480 --> 00:45:42.360
<v Speaker 2>just knowing that you're going down a path that's going

744
00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:45.880
<v Speaker 2>to lead you where you're eventually supposed to go, and

745
00:45:46.159 --> 00:45:48.679
<v Speaker 2>maybe that's the direction you start, you know what I mean.

746
00:45:49.079 --> 00:45:52.559
<v Speaker 2>So it's like money if you're putting a different feeling

747
00:45:52.679 --> 00:45:57.559
<v Speaker 2>to it, like, oh, money is just there. So what's

748
00:45:57.559 --> 00:45:59.159
<v Speaker 2>another way you can think of it? How do I

749
00:45:59.199 --> 00:46:01.840
<v Speaker 2>think of it? I think it differently. I don't see

750
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<v Speaker 2>it as how money can make me happy. I see

751
00:46:04.400 --> 00:46:07.719
<v Speaker 2>it as how money can move some of the difficulties

752
00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:10.480
<v Speaker 2>that I'm having out of the way so that I

753
00:46:10.559 --> 00:46:14.280
<v Speaker 2>can now focus on the things that are really important

754
00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:18.519
<v Speaker 2>and special to the people in my life and my

755
00:46:18.599 --> 00:46:22.480
<v Speaker 2>own life. So I don't see money as a powerful

756
00:46:22.519 --> 00:46:24.480
<v Speaker 2>thing to make me happy. I see it as a

757
00:46:24.519 --> 00:46:28.480
<v Speaker 2>tool to just be able to do the things I

758
00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:30.480
<v Speaker 2>need to do to get to where I need to go.

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00:46:31.039 --> 00:46:35.639
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, I'm excited to see what you learn moving

760
00:46:35.679 --> 00:46:40.840
<v Speaker 3>to Mexico, where the value of money is different. I

761
00:46:40.880 --> 00:46:44.639
<v Speaker 3>think you might see the value of relationships changing and

762
00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:48.960
<v Speaker 3>the value of money being less significant because the culture

763
00:46:49.000 --> 00:46:51.000
<v Speaker 3>there might be have a different relationship with money. We

764
00:46:51.199 --> 00:46:54.840
<v Speaker 3>very much in this country, in our capitalist country, and

765
00:46:55.519 --> 00:46:58.880
<v Speaker 3>you know, a lot of agreement around it. It's a

766
00:46:58.920 --> 00:47:01.679
<v Speaker 3>lot of conversation around what money means.

767
00:47:02.719 --> 00:47:05.559
<v Speaker 2>I think I had this weird thing with money, you know,

768
00:47:06.239 --> 00:47:09.079
<v Speaker 2>for a while, because we never had it. I've never

769
00:47:09.320 --> 00:47:12.840
<v Speaker 2>I had not had it in the past, and so

770
00:47:12.920 --> 00:47:15.559
<v Speaker 2>it was always an elusive thing that we're constantly seeking

771
00:47:15.599 --> 00:47:18.159
<v Speaker 2>and trying to get. And I always saw it as

772
00:47:18.360 --> 00:47:20.519
<v Speaker 2>I couldn't have the things I really needed when I

773
00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:22.119
<v Speaker 2>didn't have the money, and when I had the money,

774
00:47:22.119 --> 00:47:23.800
<v Speaker 2>I would spend it on the things I needed, but

775
00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:25.920
<v Speaker 2>then I wouldn't have it, and then it was this

776
00:47:26.079 --> 00:47:28.480
<v Speaker 2>angry cycle. And now I just see it. I just

777
00:47:28.679 --> 00:47:30.880
<v Speaker 2>put different energy on it, and I don't see it

778
00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:33.880
<v Speaker 2>as the outcome anymore. I see it as a tool,

779
00:47:34.159 --> 00:47:36.760
<v Speaker 2>a tool that I use like anything else in I

780
00:47:36.960 --> 00:47:41.000
<v Speaker 2>like my computer, my phone, you know, the things in

781
00:47:41.039 --> 00:47:44.079
<v Speaker 2>my in my home that helped me do the things

782
00:47:44.119 --> 00:47:46.559
<v Speaker 2>I need to do. And I don't put that kind

783
00:47:46.599 --> 00:47:49.920
<v Speaker 2>of all end all be all energy on it anymore.

784
00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:53.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So I guess maybe the answer to are One

785
00:47:53.519 --> 00:47:56.119
<v Speaker 3>of the themes of the show is what one way to

786
00:47:56.199 --> 00:48:00.360
<v Speaker 3>really know what your spiritual algorithm is is to really

787
00:48:00.360 --> 00:48:01.800
<v Speaker 3>get in touch with what's important to you.

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<v Speaker 2>One hundred percent. Thanks for being here and talking about

789
00:48:09.559 --> 00:48:13.239
<v Speaker 2>this topic with this was amazing. I appreciate. It's actually

790
00:48:13.280 --> 00:48:16.880
<v Speaker 2>a really fun topic to talk about. So next week,

791
00:48:17.000 --> 00:48:21.199
<v Speaker 2>just so everybody knows, next week, I've got Thomas Sawyer

792
00:48:21.559 --> 00:48:25.079
<v Speaker 2>on the show, and he is going to come and

793
00:48:25.119 --> 00:48:28.119
<v Speaker 2>talk to us about the psychic world, aliens, all kinds

794
00:48:28.119 --> 00:48:30.239
<v Speaker 2>of stuff. He's gonna give me a topic and we're

795
00:48:30.280 --> 00:48:33.719
<v Speaker 2>gonna chat. But what's really exciting is that Thomas is

796
00:48:33.719 --> 00:48:36.039
<v Speaker 2>coming on because I'm going to introduce him as my

797
00:48:36.159 --> 00:48:40.320
<v Speaker 2>new co host for my second podcast, not this podcast,

798
00:48:40.400 --> 00:48:43.920
<v Speaker 2>my other podcast that's going to be all about the

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00:48:43.960 --> 00:48:47.239
<v Speaker 2>psychic work. So that one is going to be at

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00:48:47.280 --> 00:48:50.880
<v Speaker 2>the end of October. We'll keep you posting on that,

801
00:48:50.920 --> 00:48:53.519
<v Speaker 2>but I'm going to introduce Thomas to you next week,

802
00:48:53.760 --> 00:48:57.320
<v Speaker 2>So come back for that if you would, uh, And

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<v Speaker 2>until then, let's just keep this shit real. If you

804
00:49:03.639 --> 00:49:07.400
<v Speaker 2>enjoyed this episode, please share with your friends, like and

805
00:49:07.480 --> 00:49:13.159
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806
00:49:13.880 --> 00:49:18.039
<v Speaker 2>and Facebook at fifty Shades of Bullshit. Thanks so much,

807
00:49:18.079 --> 00:49:20.760
<v Speaker 2>for listening, and we really hope to see you again

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<v Speaker 2>next week.