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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and goalachieving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Fellavalito.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the Seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode five seventeen. Today's message is bold, it's simple,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's going to change the way you make decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's not a hell yes, then it's a hell no. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>before you dismiss that as a catchy phrase or a

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<v Speaker 2>self help slogan, let's break down what it really means

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<v Speaker 2>for you as a leader, as a professional, and as

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<v Speaker 2>a person trying to make sense of a world that's

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<v Speaker 2>constantly asking for your attention, your time, and your energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Picture this. It's from afternoon. You're tired. A friend texts you, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>come out tonight. There's a party. You pause. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>feel excited. You don't feel miserable about it either. You're

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<v Speaker 2>just neutral. That neutral zone is where your energy goes

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<v Speaker 2>to die. And that right there is the danger zone

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<v Speaker 2>of leadership decisions, the ones that seem harmless but quietly

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<v Speaker 2>drain your bandwidth, your motivation, and your ability to say

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<v Speaker 2>yes to what really matters. When you say yes to

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<v Speaker 2>things you're only half interested in, you're saying no to

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<v Speaker 2>something that could have truly moved your life, your team,

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<v Speaker 2>or your mission forward. So let's talk about leadership through

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<v Speaker 2>that lens. How many meetings have you agreed to that

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<v Speaker 2>you knew didn't need to happen. How many sure I'll

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<v Speaker 2>help moments have pulled you away from the priorities that

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<v Speaker 2>define your job. How many times have you said yes

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<v Speaker 2>to keep the peace when deep down you knew that

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<v Speaker 2>peace was temporary and fake. Every maybe in your life

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<v Speaker 2>stacks up like mental clutter. It's invisible, but it's heavy.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's what hell yes looks like. It excites you, It

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<v Speaker 2>challenges you in a good way. You feel energy just

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about it. You don't have to convince yourself, You

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<v Speaker 2>just know and hell no. That's anything that makes you pause, hesitate,

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<v Speaker 2>or justify. If you need to talk yourself into something,

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<v Speaker 2>you've already got your answer. One of the most powerful

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<v Speaker 2>shifts you can make is leader is learning the discipline

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<v Speaker 2>of enthusiasm based decision making. Here's why this works. When

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<v Speaker 2>you start making hell yes or hell no decisions, you

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<v Speaker 2>filter your life by purpose instead of pressure. You stop

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<v Speaker 2>attending every meeting just to be seen. You stop saying

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<v Speaker 2>yes to every project just to prove you're a team player,

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<v Speaker 2>and you stop filling your calendar with low return obligations

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<v Speaker 2>that leave you exhausted and unfulfilled. Because great leaders don't

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<v Speaker 2>chase busy, They chase meaningful. Now, I want to warn

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<v Speaker 2>you about something. When you start doing this, people will

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<v Speaker 2>notice and they might even get offended. Why didn't you

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<v Speaker 2>come to that thing? Why didn't you volunteer for this?

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<v Speaker 2>Why didn't you respond right away? Because I value my yes,

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<v Speaker 2>because my yes means something, because I don't give it

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<v Speaker 2>away cheaply. And that's when people start respecting your time.

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<v Speaker 2>They realize that when you do say yes, you're all in.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's bring this back to leadership inside of your organization.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're a leader, your hell yes might look like

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<v Speaker 2>a new idea that truly excites you and your team,

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<v Speaker 2>a strategic project that aligns perfectly with your mission, or

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<v Speaker 2>a partnership that genuinely feels like a win win. But

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<v Speaker 2>the hell no moments those are critical too, and they

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<v Speaker 2>sound like we've always done it this way. It's not great,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's good enough, or let's do it to make

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<v Speaker 2>them happy. That's the stuff that keeps average organizations stuck.

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<v Speaker 2>Leaders who make powerful progress say no often, and they

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<v Speaker 2>say it without guilt because every no makes space for

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<v Speaker 2>a stronger yes. I want you to try this starting today.

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<v Speaker 2>Go through your calendar, your commitments, and even your personal

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<v Speaker 2>habits and just ask this simple question, is this a

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<v Speaker 2>hell yes for me? If it's not, start pruning it down.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll be shocked at how much energy returns to your

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<v Speaker 2>life when you remove the half hearted stuff. And this

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<v Speaker 2>principle doesn't just help you lead better, it helps you

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<v Speaker 2>live better, because clarity is contagious. When your team sees

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<v Speaker 2>you folksused, energized, and driven by genuine passion instead of obligation,

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<v Speaker 2>they'll start doing the same. You'll build a culture of

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<v Speaker 2>intentional yeses, not one that's full of forced maybes. So

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<v Speaker 2>here's your seven minute leadership challenge for today. Audit you're

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<v Speaker 2>yes for the next week. When you're reading an email

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<v Speaker 2>or when you're in a meeting, pause before you say

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<v Speaker 2>yes to anything. You don't have to be rude and

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<v Speaker 2>walk away or ignore somebody. Just don't answer immediately, say

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<v Speaker 2>I'll get back to you on that, and then ask yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>am I really excited about this? If the answer isn't

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<v Speaker 2>allowed undeniable hell yes, then it's a hell no. That's

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<v Speaker 2>not being harsh, that's being honest. That's how leaders protect

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<v Speaker 2>their purpose. And this has been the seven minute Leadership Podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>and I thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot

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