Speaker 1: Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of
Speaker 1: performance through strong human relations, team building, and goalachieving. This
Speaker 1: is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Fellavalito.
Speaker 2: Hello everyone, and welcome to the Seven Minute Leadership Podcast.
Speaker 2: It's episode five seventeen. Today's message is bold, it's simple,
Speaker 2: and it's going to change the way you make decisions.
Speaker 2: If it's not a hell yes, then it's a hell no. Now,
Speaker 2: before you dismiss that as a catchy phrase or a
Speaker 2: self help slogan, let's break down what it really means
Speaker 2: for you as a leader, as a professional, and as
Speaker 2: a person trying to make sense of a world that's
Speaker 2: constantly asking for your attention, your time, and your energy.
Speaker 2: Picture this. It's from afternoon. You're tired. A friend texts you, Hey,
Speaker 2: come out tonight. There's a party. You pause. You don't
Speaker 2: feel excited. You don't feel miserable about it either. You're
Speaker 2: just neutral. That neutral zone is where your energy goes
Speaker 2: to die. And that right there is the danger zone
Speaker 2: of leadership decisions, the ones that seem harmless but quietly
Speaker 2: drain your bandwidth, your motivation, and your ability to say
Speaker 2: yes to what really matters. When you say yes to
Speaker 2: things you're only half interested in, you're saying no to
Speaker 2: something that could have truly moved your life, your team,
Speaker 2: or your mission forward. So let's talk about leadership through
Speaker 2: that lens. How many meetings have you agreed to that
Speaker 2: you knew didn't need to happen. How many sure I'll
Speaker 2: help moments have pulled you away from the priorities that
Speaker 2: define your job. How many times have you said yes
Speaker 2: to keep the peace when deep down you knew that
Speaker 2: peace was temporary and fake. Every maybe in your life
Speaker 2: stacks up like mental clutter. It's invisible, but it's heavy.
Speaker 2: Here's what hell yes looks like. It excites you, It
Speaker 2: challenges you in a good way. You feel energy just
Speaker 2: thinking about it. You don't have to convince yourself, You
Speaker 2: just know and hell no. That's anything that makes you pause, hesitate,
Speaker 2: or justify. If you need to talk yourself into something,
Speaker 2: you've already got your answer. One of the most powerful
Speaker 2: shifts you can make is leader is learning the discipline
Speaker 2: of enthusiasm based decision making. Here's why this works. When
Speaker 2: you start making hell yes or hell no decisions, you
Speaker 2: filter your life by purpose instead of pressure. You stop
Speaker 2: attending every meeting just to be seen. You stop saying
Speaker 2: yes to every project just to prove you're a team player,
Speaker 2: and you stop filling your calendar with low return obligations
Speaker 2: that leave you exhausted and unfulfilled. Because great leaders don't
Speaker 2: chase busy, They chase meaningful. Now, I want to warn
Speaker 2: you about something. When you start doing this, people will
Speaker 2: notice and they might even get offended. Why didn't you
Speaker 2: come to that thing? Why didn't you volunteer for this?
Speaker 2: Why didn't you respond right away? Because I value my yes,
Speaker 2: because my yes means something, because I don't give it
Speaker 2: away cheaply. And that's when people start respecting your time.
Speaker 2: They realize that when you do say yes, you're all in.
Speaker 2: So let's bring this back to leadership inside of your organization.
Speaker 2: If you're a leader, your hell yes might look like
Speaker 2: a new idea that truly excites you and your team,
Speaker 2: a strategic project that aligns perfectly with your mission, or
Speaker 2: a partnership that genuinely feels like a win win. But
Speaker 2: the hell no moments those are critical too, and they
Speaker 2: sound like we've always done it this way. It's not great,
Speaker 2: but it's good enough, or let's do it to make
Speaker 2: them happy. That's the stuff that keeps average organizations stuck.
Speaker 2: Leaders who make powerful progress say no often, and they
Speaker 2: say it without guilt because every no makes space for
Speaker 2: a stronger yes. I want you to try this starting today.
Speaker 2: Go through your calendar, your commitments, and even your personal
Speaker 2: habits and just ask this simple question, is this a
Speaker 2: hell yes for me? If it's not, start pruning it down.
Speaker 2: You'll be shocked at how much energy returns to your
Speaker 2: life when you remove the half hearted stuff. And this
Speaker 2: principle doesn't just help you lead better, it helps you
Speaker 2: live better, because clarity is contagious. When your team sees
Speaker 2: you folksused, energized, and driven by genuine passion instead of obligation,
Speaker 2: they'll start doing the same. You'll build a culture of
Speaker 2: intentional yeses, not one that's full of forced maybes. So
Speaker 2: here's your seven minute leadership challenge for today. Audit you're
Speaker 2: yes for the next week. When you're reading an email
Speaker 2: or when you're in a meeting, pause before you say
Speaker 2: yes to anything. You don't have to be rude and
Speaker 2: walk away or ignore somebody. Just don't answer immediately, say
Speaker 2: I'll get back to you on that, and then ask yourself,
Speaker 2: am I really excited about this? If the answer isn't
Speaker 2: allowed undeniable hell yes, then it's a hell no. That's
Speaker 2: not being harsh, that's being honest. That's how leaders protect
Speaker 2: their purpose. And this has been the seven minute Leadership Podcast,
Speaker 2: and I thank you for listening.
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