WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.240 --> 00:00:07.360 Welcome to Afterlife Cafe TV, Connecting hearts, healing souls and 2 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:12.359 bridging worlds. I'm your host, Helen Peacock, and this is 3 00:00:12.439 --> 00:00:17.800 your sacred grounds, a warm, welcoming space where you're invited 4 00:00:18.120 --> 00:00:23.480 to take a seat, exhale, and just be. Each week 5 00:00:23.600 --> 00:00:28.760 we will gather cafe style for heart built conversations, some mediumship, 6 00:00:29.480 --> 00:00:34.399 a man maybe, some intuitive insights, and soulful storytelling that 7 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:41.200 explore the afterlife, some healing breathing, and the unbreakable bond 8 00:00:41.479 --> 00:00:47.399 between us and those in spirit. Here, laughter and tears 9 00:00:47.560 --> 00:00:52.840 are both welcome. Love transcends time and spirit meets us 10 00:00:52.880 --> 00:00:58.240 in the most human of ways. So if you're seeking comfort, connection, 11 00:00:59.119 --> 00:01:03.520 or deeper trusting your own inner knowing, you're in the 12 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:08.640 right place. So pore yourself something warm and let's begin 13 00:01:12.159 --> 00:01:15.920 Stuiful Souls. And my name is Helen Peacock, and I 14 00:01:15.959 --> 00:01:19.519 am your host today and I'm back with my third 15 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:22.719 solo show, and I'm here to answer some of your 16 00:01:22.799 --> 00:01:26.040 questions from the show called Questions to Ask a Medium, 17 00:01:26.120 --> 00:01:29.840 And of course that's me, so welcome, welcome, welcome, and 18 00:01:29.959 --> 00:01:32.760 some of you have sent me some really good ones. 19 00:01:32.799 --> 00:01:36.359 I do have to say, and so before we get started, 20 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:39.480 just so you know, I'm up north at my cottage country. 21 00:01:39.959 --> 00:01:43.439 You may hear some little popcorn noises, which is acorn seasons, 22 00:01:43.439 --> 00:01:44.959 so they're popping on iris. So I just thought I 23 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:46.799 put it out there just so you don't think it's 24 00:01:46.799 --> 00:01:49.000 spirit playing around with me. Well it could be happening too, 25 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:55.879 but anyhow, I also received some several questions asking specifically 26 00:01:56.000 --> 00:02:01.000 about personal loved ones in spirit, things like is my 27 00:02:01.159 --> 00:02:04.959 loved one around me? Or does my loved one have 28 00:02:05.040 --> 00:02:08.560 a message for me? And I completely understand why you'd 29 00:02:08.560 --> 00:02:12.240 want to ask those questions, but those move us more 30 00:02:12.280 --> 00:02:15.680 into a more of a personal reading rather than a 31 00:02:15.719 --> 00:02:20.120 general question about mediumship or the afterlife. But if you 32 00:02:20.240 --> 00:02:22.919 happen to call into the show live, I may be 33 00:02:23.080 --> 00:02:25.960 able to tap into something for you in that way. 34 00:02:26.360 --> 00:02:29.120 But for those Q and A shows, I would just 35 00:02:29.319 --> 00:02:32.560 like to say just to answer their questions that everyone 36 00:02:32.599 --> 00:02:36.280 is listening to can learn from or perhaps relate to. 37 00:02:36.599 --> 00:02:39.840 So grab your coffee, let's settle in, and let's get 38 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:45.520 into today's questions. So number one question is is well, 39 00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:48.560 first of all, if you are here live and you 40 00:02:48.599 --> 00:02:51.960 wish to call in, I do have my moderator Emily, 41 00:02:52.000 --> 00:02:55.759 She'll let me know telephone number is one eight hundred 42 00:02:56.520 --> 00:02:59.800 nine three zero two eight one nine, and I will 43 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:03.080 say again, one eight hundred nine three zero two eight 44 00:03:03.159 --> 00:03:05.919 one nine, and I'll say that periodically throughout the show. 45 00:03:06.120 --> 00:03:13.319 So okay, So getting to my questions, this was a 46 00:03:13.400 --> 00:03:16.319 very interesting question I thought, and that is, is there 47 00:03:16.439 --> 00:03:21.080 somewhere after the afterlife? And I absolutely love this question 48 00:03:21.199 --> 00:03:25.000 because the truthful answer answer is none of us can 49 00:03:25.120 --> 00:03:29.479 really definitely know until we get there. But from my 50 00:03:29.759 --> 00:03:35.319 perspective as a medium, I don't necessarily think of the 51 00:03:35.360 --> 00:03:41.199 afterlife as one final destination where we arrive and simply 52 00:03:41.240 --> 00:03:47.080 remain exactly as we were forever. Many spiritual beliefs describe 53 00:03:47.560 --> 00:03:53.080 consciousness or the soul as continuing to grow, to evolve 54 00:03:53.479 --> 00:03:58.759 and experience different levels of awareness. Now what I can 55 00:03:58.800 --> 00:04:03.199 speak about is is what I've experienced through mediumship, and 56 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:06.639 that is for me, I believe that there is a 57 00:04:06.680 --> 00:04:12.879 continuation of consciousness and our loved ones are no longer 58 00:04:13.400 --> 00:04:16.639 They're no longer physically here in this body, but the 59 00:04:16.759 --> 00:04:23.800 connection and the essence of who they are continues, and 60 00:04:23.839 --> 00:04:26.160 that's what I love to connect with. Right when I'm 61 00:04:26.199 --> 00:04:30.000 doing the mediumship. But what comes after, what we call 62 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:34.439 the afterlife, that one's kind of remains as mysteries, right, 63 00:04:34.920 --> 00:04:38.279 Those are mysteries again until we get there, and there's 64 00:04:38.319 --> 00:04:41.439 only so much that we as humans are allowed to 65 00:04:41.639 --> 00:04:45.439 know as well, and then just trusting again when it 66 00:04:45.439 --> 00:04:48.720 comes time to connecting with loved ones is exactly what 67 00:04:48.839 --> 00:04:51.439 is that? Now? I have mentioned this in one of 68 00:04:51.439 --> 00:04:53.920 my previous shows, because this is my third one, so 69 00:04:54.040 --> 00:04:56.720 hopefully I'm not going to repeat myself too much, and 70 00:04:56.759 --> 00:05:01.399 that is to find out more about the after life, 71 00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:06.879 I do suggest reading doctor Michael Newton. I've mentioned him 72 00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:10.120 before Life Between Lives, and I think the other one 73 00:05:10.360 --> 00:05:12.959 is Journey of the Soul, So I think he has 74 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:16.759 three of them. But that gives you a good sense 75 00:05:17.240 --> 00:05:22.759 because he's done case studies with NDEs, with past life 76 00:05:22.800 --> 00:05:28.759 regressions with I guess OBEs, maybe out of body experiences 77 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:32.600 as well, and he's put them all into one book 78 00:05:32.720 --> 00:05:35.519 two books, and so that to me will open up 79 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:39.839 the door perhaps answer some questions those mysteries. And maybe 80 00:05:39.879 --> 00:05:43.120 part of the difficulty that we may have with our 81 00:05:44.040 --> 00:05:46.639 with our human minds is we want to put a 82 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:54.360 beginning and an ending on everything, birth, life, death, after life, 83 00:05:54.839 --> 00:06:00.519 but perhaps consciousness doesn't work in such a straight line, right, 84 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:04.600 So I know it is a challenging question to explain 85 00:06:04.680 --> 00:06:08.720 what is the afterlife. I just do know that it's 86 00:06:08.920 --> 00:06:12.639 not I don't believe that it's an actual place. I 87 00:06:12.680 --> 00:06:16.439 do believe it's an actual frequency. Again, because we're multi 88 00:06:16.480 --> 00:06:20.639 dimensional beings and in and out of different frequencies, right, 89 00:06:20.759 --> 00:06:24.399 So when we do transcend, we obviously move into a 90 00:06:24.560 --> 00:06:29.360 higher frequency. And you know from books that I've read, 91 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:34.439 teachers that I've had, I do believe that, especially when 92 00:06:34.480 --> 00:06:38.600 you do crossover into the afterlife, is that whatever your 93 00:06:38.680 --> 00:06:41.959 beliefs are here in the physical rema is what you're 94 00:06:42.000 --> 00:06:44.519 going to bring about there, right, because it's in you're 95 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:47.079 a troyal field. That's the energy, that's the frequency in 96 00:06:47.120 --> 00:06:51.399 there that you're putting out there, right. And I've actually 97 00:06:51.399 --> 00:06:53.480 heard this term and I kind of like this myself, 98 00:06:54.000 --> 00:06:59.920 that perhaps that we are the afterlife living in this realm, right, 99 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:04.360 because when we do return, we're returning home, right. So 100 00:07:05.199 --> 00:07:07.639 I don't know, I'd like to know your thoughts on that. 101 00:07:07.680 --> 00:07:11.360 And if you're watching this, like after the recording or yeah, 102 00:07:11.399 --> 00:07:15.319 after their life and you're on the recording is feel 103 00:07:15.319 --> 00:07:18.560 free to write a comment. I would love that a 104 00:07:18.639 --> 00:07:22.360 comment on my YouTube channel. Just would love to know 105 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:25.439 your thoughts on that as well. So but yeah, really 106 00:07:25.439 --> 00:07:30.879 good question, I have to say, right. And also there's 107 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:35.120 the understanding of the afterlife that that change since becoming 108 00:07:35.120 --> 00:07:41.000 a meeting for myself. Again, I don't fear the afterlife. 109 00:07:41.240 --> 00:07:43.560 I look forward to when that time comes, believe it 110 00:07:43.639 --> 00:07:48.399 or not, right, remembering that maybe the afterlife isn't a destination, 111 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:53.560 maybe it's simply just another part of the soul's journey. Hey, 112 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:55.000 isn't that the name of the book I just said, 113 00:07:55.040 --> 00:08:00.480 the Soul's Journey with Michael Newton. Huh okay. So number two, 114 00:08:01.079 --> 00:08:04.519 how do I connect with my loved one who has passed? 115 00:08:05.199 --> 00:08:08.240 And again, that is a popular one, and yes we can. 116 00:08:08.639 --> 00:08:12.439 You don't necessarily always need a medium because we can 117 00:08:12.480 --> 00:08:15.079 all do what I do. And I think people sometimes 118 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:17.360 believe that they have to be a medium to connect 119 00:08:17.399 --> 00:08:20.639 with someone that they love that has passed away. So 120 00:08:20.680 --> 00:08:22.879 again I'm going to reiterate, no, you don't. You don't 121 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:26.920 have to. I don't believe that's true. A connection can 122 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:32.639 be incredibly simple. You can talk to them you can 123 00:08:32.919 --> 00:08:37.519 say their name, look at their their their photograph, perhaps 124 00:08:37.679 --> 00:08:43.720 play their favorite song, sit somewhere that reminds you of them, 125 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:49.600 cook their favorite meal, write them a letter, perhaps tell 126 00:08:49.639 --> 00:08:55.799 some funny stories, and keeping them a part of your life. 127 00:08:56.080 --> 00:08:59.360 And then this is this is the important part. Don't 128 00:08:59.399 --> 00:09:04.360 put sure on yourself to receive something back, especially in 129 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:09.039 that instant moment. Sometimes you may not get something completely 130 00:09:09.159 --> 00:09:12.679 right away. Sometimes it could be coming a little bit later. Again, 131 00:09:12.759 --> 00:09:17.200 depending on where you are at right And sometimes we're 132 00:09:17.240 --> 00:09:20.679 looking like so hard for that big sign that we 133 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:24.399 miss the subtle moments, the subtle ones, right, And so 134 00:09:25.279 --> 00:09:27.759 you know, if you really want to set the intention again, 135 00:09:27.799 --> 00:09:31.320 it's it's taking their picture and perhaps setting the intention 136 00:09:31.799 --> 00:09:35.639 that's important as well, setting the intention creating this space, 137 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:38.759 you know, whether that's lighting a candle, have a cup 138 00:09:38.799 --> 00:09:42.480 of tea, whatever that is, and then just dropping in, 139 00:09:42.720 --> 00:09:46.279 dropping into the heart space, calling them, saying their name 140 00:09:46.440 --> 00:09:50.840 and saying to them, okay, let's have a chat, let 141 00:09:50.840 --> 00:09:52.840 me know you're here. And it can be against the 142 00:09:52.879 --> 00:09:56.120 subtle You may even just get the feeling of them 143 00:09:56.200 --> 00:09:59.799 coming across and again you may smell something that reminds 144 00:09:59.799 --> 00:10:05.399 you of them. You know, you could get a vision 145 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:07.240 that may come to you in your third eye, an 146 00:10:07.279 --> 00:10:10.399 impression of something and it's like, oh, I remember that 147 00:10:11.120 --> 00:10:16.600 something that reminds you of them, right, and so yes, 148 00:10:16.639 --> 00:10:21.120 we can connect with them in that sense. And to me, again, 149 00:10:21.279 --> 00:10:23.879 it's letting them know, and you've heard me say this before, 150 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:27.679 just pick up the phone metaphorically of course, pick up 151 00:10:27.720 --> 00:10:30.759 the phone and just talk to them, because that's what 152 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:34.879 they want to speak with them, right. And again, it 153 00:10:34.919 --> 00:10:37.279 could come through as a familiar scent. It could come 154 00:10:37.600 --> 00:10:40.720 as in a way of a vivid dream, a memory 155 00:10:40.759 --> 00:10:44.480 that suddenly floods in that they impress on you. Even 156 00:10:44.519 --> 00:10:47.559 an animal may appear or something that happens in your 157 00:10:47.559 --> 00:10:51.840 immediate thought that is that's them, Right, It will just 158 00:10:51.879 --> 00:10:54.960 come to you. And again you just know. So hopefully 159 00:10:55.759 --> 00:11:00.799 that will add a little bit to your question in 160 00:11:00.840 --> 00:11:04.679 regards to can we connect with our loved ones? So yeah, 161 00:11:04.759 --> 00:11:08.000 and again you don't have to You don't have to 162 00:11:08.360 --> 00:11:13.639 receive names and dates or detailed evidence to continue having 163 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:16.600 the connections with someone that you love. That's the past, right, 164 00:11:17.039 --> 00:11:23.559 because love, that's the answer. Love doesn't require a medium 165 00:11:23.600 --> 00:11:26.200 in order to continue for them, right, That's that's the 166 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:30.039 key message here is it's all about the love, right, 167 00:11:30.480 --> 00:11:33.879 And again, the evidence doesn't have to be so big 168 00:11:33.919 --> 00:11:37.679 and so grand. It can be so so so subtle. Okay, 169 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:40.799 So hopefully that will help. I could go on and 170 00:11:40.840 --> 00:11:44.399 on and on with that one as well. You've heard 171 00:11:44.399 --> 00:11:48.039 me say, you know, some answers on that in my 172 00:11:48.159 --> 00:11:53.279 other shows as well. So okay, so question number three, okay, 173 00:11:53.360 --> 00:11:55.200 just let me just I want to double check with 174 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:58.799 my with my moderator, are making sure if there's any 175 00:11:58.879 --> 00:12:02.759 questions there, okay, So just let me go here. No, 176 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:07.679 so far we're good, okay, So let's go back to 177 00:12:08.000 --> 00:12:11.120 question number three. Was it? Yeah, question number three, and 178 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:15.240 that is okay, So this one, I'm like, how am 179 00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:17.279 I going to answer that one? Because it's just it 180 00:12:17.360 --> 00:12:20.799 was just a very very random question, but I had 181 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:23.600 to go there. And that is from one of my viewers, 182 00:12:23.600 --> 00:12:28.720 and that is, are the twelve mourning doves sitting in 183 00:12:28.759 --> 00:12:33.240 my tree while I sit on my porch a sign? Now, 184 00:12:33.279 --> 00:12:36.559 first of all, twelve mourning doves sitting in one tree 185 00:12:36.600 --> 00:12:39.919 would certainly get my attention, for sure, Okay, But I 186 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:44.240 always say that not everything has to be a sign. 187 00:12:44.879 --> 00:12:49.559 And at the same time, something can become incredibly meaningful 188 00:12:49.639 --> 00:12:55.000 because of when and how it appears. So instead of 189 00:12:55.039 --> 00:12:58.519 immediately saying, yes, those twelve mourning doves are definitely your 190 00:12:58.559 --> 00:13:05.679 loved ones, I'd become curious for sure. Perhaps think of 191 00:13:05.720 --> 00:13:10.799 it this way, Perhaps what was happening that day? For example? 192 00:13:11.360 --> 00:13:16.960 Was it a birthday? Was it an anniversary, a milestone? 193 00:13:17.279 --> 00:13:20.759 And had you just been thinking about someone when those 194 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:26.159 doves came? Were you going through something personally and needing 195 00:13:26.159 --> 00:13:30.879 some reassurance or comfort? And most of all, what did 196 00:13:30.919 --> 00:13:34.240 you feel? You know? I love that word. What did 197 00:13:34.279 --> 00:13:38.679 you feel when you saw them? And? Knowing me? I 198 00:13:38.720 --> 00:13:44.600 would also look at the number twelve a piece of hair. Again, 199 00:13:44.759 --> 00:13:47.399 it could mean the twelfth of a month. It could 200 00:13:47.440 --> 00:13:51.559 be the month of December twelve, one year oka Again 201 00:13:51.639 --> 00:13:55.919 I mentioned earlier an anniversary, right, It could also mean 202 00:13:55.960 --> 00:14:01.080 did something happen at twelve midnight or twelve noon? So again, 203 00:14:01.200 --> 00:14:06.000 does twelve mean anything personally to you? Again? Is it 204 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:08.080 connected to a date? Is it connected to a birthday 205 00:14:08.120 --> 00:14:12.840 and anniversary, an age or a memory? Right? And here's 206 00:14:13.720 --> 00:14:18.440 here's another beautiful possibility. Perhaps you were going through something 207 00:14:18.559 --> 00:14:23.600 personally and symbolically it felt as though your loved ones 208 00:14:23.600 --> 00:14:27.039 were just gathering around you to support you. Right, So 209 00:14:28.799 --> 00:14:36.039 imagine imagine looking out and seeing twelve beautiful mourning doves 210 00:14:37.039 --> 00:14:43.360 and having that feeling I'm not walking alone through this, right, 211 00:14:43.799 --> 00:14:48.080 I'm not walking through this alone and having that comfort 212 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:51.679 being presented to you. Right. So, whether someone else calls 213 00:14:51.720 --> 00:14:57.600 it coincidence, nature or a sign from spirit, if it 214 00:14:57.720 --> 00:15:02.720 immediately brought you comfort or made you think of the 215 00:15:02.759 --> 00:15:06.720 people that you love, I think that's I think that's 216 00:15:06.759 --> 00:15:11.240 something worth paying attention to. So again, I just thought 217 00:15:11.279 --> 00:15:15.159 that was a great question. Hopefully it brought you some insight. 218 00:15:15.639 --> 00:15:18.840 Maybe there's others out there that may've had something similar, right, 219 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:23.440 So again it's it's about what was happening around the 220 00:15:23.480 --> 00:15:27.440 time that you receive that sign, rather than only looking 221 00:15:27.840 --> 00:15:32.639 at the sign itself. So again, hopefully that will help 222 00:15:32.720 --> 00:15:36.720 you on that one. Twelve doves too, and I love doves. 223 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:40.559 You know, there are messengers. To me. You may see 224 00:15:40.559 --> 00:15:42.960 me using that a lot in my posts. Is just 225 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:45.840 something there's just something about the dove, and and to 226 00:15:45.919 --> 00:15:52.000 me personally, the dove represents peace right and bringing a message. 227 00:15:52.399 --> 00:15:58.679 So that's that's my take. That's on my library Okay, 228 00:15:58.879 --> 00:16:06.879 So question number four is asking for very specific signs, 229 00:16:06.879 --> 00:16:10.720 and this again, this is from a wonderful client of mine, 230 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:13.399 and she's this is one question. I'm like, I'm going 231 00:16:13.440 --> 00:16:15.759 to see if I can answer this for her, and 232 00:16:15.799 --> 00:16:19.039 that is our very specific signs and receiving them. But 233 00:16:19.159 --> 00:16:24.279 reality seems to be telling her something different, and what 234 00:16:24.360 --> 00:16:27.159 does she trust? Right? That's what she's asking, what do 235 00:16:27.200 --> 00:16:30.879 I trust? Right? So the question came in and I thought, 236 00:16:31.399 --> 00:16:34.039 this is such a good one for sure. And this 237 00:16:34.080 --> 00:16:38.519 person had asked for several things, very specific and pretty 238 00:16:38.600 --> 00:16:41.720 random signs. So for example, I'm just going to share 239 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:45.240 what she shared, and that is I'm not sure she 240 00:16:46.279 --> 00:16:48.240 just used them as examples or those are the ones 241 00:16:48.279 --> 00:16:52.039 that she was using for her lovers, And that was flamingos, sunflowers, 242 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:54.519 and elephants and yes, you know you are because I'm 243 00:16:54.519 --> 00:16:59.120 saying your signs and they did. They appeared right, so 244 00:16:59.399 --> 00:17:02.960 each one seemingly giving her the yes that she had 245 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:07.960 asked for. But here's here's the interesting part. You know, 246 00:17:08.599 --> 00:17:12.640 the person's actions and what's and what's happening in her 247 00:17:12.640 --> 00:17:18.160 physical reality seem to be saying something different to her. Again, 248 00:17:18.559 --> 00:17:20.640 so how do you know whether this sign so true. 249 00:17:21.440 --> 00:17:26.720 So for me, there's an incredibly important distinction between receiving 250 00:17:26.759 --> 00:17:32.079 a sign and interpreting a sign. Okay, so you can 251 00:17:32.200 --> 00:17:38.039 ask to see a flamingo and suddenly a flamingo appears, 252 00:17:39.240 --> 00:17:46.200 and that experience may absolutely feel synchronistically or meaningful, but 253 00:17:47.039 --> 00:17:51.000 we are still the ones deciding what we believe that 254 00:17:51.079 --> 00:17:57.799 flamingo means. So perhaps it wasn't saying yes, the situation 255 00:17:57.880 --> 00:18:00.440 is going to work out exactly the way that you 256 00:18:00.559 --> 00:18:06.200 want it to. Maybe it was simply saying yes you're 257 00:18:06.240 --> 00:18:13.799 being heard, or yes you are supported, Yes pay attention, right, 258 00:18:14.319 --> 00:18:19.359 or perhaps there's something here that you're meant to experience 259 00:18:19.960 --> 00:18:24.519 or to learn from, right, And so these these are 260 00:18:24.680 --> 00:18:28.200 very these are very different messages. So again it's kind 261 00:18:28.200 --> 00:18:32.920 of like saying it's kind of like saying signs versus actions. 262 00:18:33.160 --> 00:18:36.119 And this is probably the most the most important part. 263 00:18:37.319 --> 00:18:40.960 I would never use a spiritual sign to override what 264 00:18:41.200 --> 00:18:47.160 somebody is consistently showing me through their actions. So if 265 00:18:47.200 --> 00:18:53.240 we're asking about, say if we're asking about a relationship, 266 00:18:54.319 --> 00:18:59.400 a friendship, a job, or anything involving another human being, 267 00:19:00.240 --> 00:19:04.160 there's something that we have to remember, and this is important. Okay, 268 00:19:04.960 --> 00:19:09.559 they also have free will. Okay, they have free will too. 269 00:19:10.480 --> 00:19:16.680 A sign doesn't remove another person's free will, okay, So 270 00:19:16.680 --> 00:19:21.759 hopefully that makes sense. If someone's behavior is consistently showing 271 00:19:21.799 --> 00:19:26.319 you one thing, I wouldn't encourage you to ignore what 272 00:19:26.519 --> 00:19:30.680 you're experiencing in the physical world because you saw the 273 00:19:30.720 --> 00:19:35.079 flamingo and you asked spirit to send it instead. Again, 274 00:19:35.160 --> 00:19:41.440 like I mentioned before, I would become curious. So for example, 275 00:19:42.519 --> 00:19:46.519 let's say say, what if the sign is actually about them? 276 00:19:47.279 --> 00:19:51.880 What if the sign? What if the sign is about you? Right, 277 00:19:52.000 --> 00:19:56.000 It's not about them, it's about you. So instead of 278 00:19:56.000 --> 00:20:02.000 asking is this person or situation going to work out? 279 00:20:02.480 --> 00:20:06.319 How about maybe asking what is this sign trying to 280 00:20:06.359 --> 00:20:09.720 help me understand? And another really important question to keep 281 00:20:09.720 --> 00:20:15.279 in mind is am I interpreting this through my intuition? Okay? 282 00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:20.920 Or through what I'm hoping will happen? So you look 283 00:20:20.960 --> 00:20:25.319 at it this way intuition versus wishful thinking. And yes, 284 00:20:25.640 --> 00:20:28.519 we all go there because I've done it myself, right, 285 00:20:28.640 --> 00:20:34.480 especially when we're on this journey, right, So intuition usually 286 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:38.880 doesn't have to be loud, it doesn't have to scream 287 00:20:38.920 --> 00:20:43.960 at us. It's actually often very subtle. It's often very quiet, 288 00:20:44.960 --> 00:20:48.599 and you've heard me say this before. It's annoying. It's 289 00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:50.799 an inner knowing. You don't know how to explain how 290 00:20:50.839 --> 00:20:57.319 you know. You just know. Right, So, fear attachment and 291 00:20:57.480 --> 00:21:03.759 wishful thinking can feel very different. Right, Perhaps you keep asking, 292 00:21:04.480 --> 00:21:09.400 are you sure? How about giving me another sign? Okay, 293 00:21:09.440 --> 00:21:12.920 haven't want more? Right, it's just like we're still we're 294 00:21:12.960 --> 00:21:17.119 still guessing, or we're still wanting more, always wanting more 295 00:21:17.240 --> 00:21:23.599 of the answer. And then suddenly we're asking Spirit for flamingos, elephants, 296 00:21:23.799 --> 00:21:27.799 sunflowers and everything else because we're trying to collect enough 297 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:32.400 evidence to make ourselves feel safe about and in about 298 00:21:32.440 --> 00:21:35.519 an outcome. I was gonna say income about an outcome. 299 00:21:36.200 --> 00:21:40.799 And sometimes the most intuitive thing that we can do 300 00:21:41.400 --> 00:21:48.240 is stop asking for another sign and observe what's actually happening. Right, 301 00:21:49.240 --> 00:21:54.559 So trust the sign, but don't automatically assume that you 302 00:21:54.759 --> 00:21:58.559 know what the sign is saying. Right, we get caught 303 00:21:58.599 --> 00:22:03.079 up in that. So because again, Spirit maybe getting your 304 00:22:03.079 --> 00:22:08.160 attention without necessarily promising the outcome you're hoping for. And 305 00:22:08.319 --> 00:22:16.720 sometimes sometimes the clearest right isn't just the flamingo, the sunflower, 306 00:22:16.759 --> 00:22:20.880 or the elephant. Sometimes the clearest line is what's happening 307 00:22:21.880 --> 00:22:24.319 right in front of you, So I'll leave it there. 308 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:27.000 It was a little bit of a challenging question, but 309 00:22:27.039 --> 00:22:29.920 I loved it, and I know why the person had 310 00:22:29.960 --> 00:22:33.519 asked that because it's something that she's going through. So 311 00:22:33.720 --> 00:22:38.920 hopefully I don't know if you're watching live, but hopefully 312 00:22:38.920 --> 00:22:41.400 that will help in that sense. Right. So again it's 313 00:22:41.440 --> 00:22:48.240 knowing intuition versus wishful thinking. Right, So there you go. 314 00:22:48.480 --> 00:22:50.759 So that was a good question I had and I 315 00:22:50.839 --> 00:22:53.000 had to go there. I had to answer that one 316 00:22:53.039 --> 00:23:00.119 for sure. Okay, so just let me check in, do do? Okay? 317 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:05.480 So I'm going to move on to which one do 318 00:23:05.519 --> 00:23:12.799 you want to do? Okay, I'm going to I'm gonna answer, 319 00:23:12.920 --> 00:23:15.680 try and answer this one. Will my loved ones still 320 00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:20.440 come through? Yeah? Will my loved ones still come through 321 00:23:20.599 --> 00:23:23.279 even if we're not going, even if we're not getting 322 00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:26.000 along or things were left undone before they pass. And 323 00:23:26.039 --> 00:23:27.880 I'm going to be honest with you, that does come 324 00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:34.279 up a lot, and yes, absolutely they can. And I 325 00:23:34.319 --> 00:23:39.240 think this is something that many people quietly carry within 326 00:23:39.359 --> 00:23:45.880 themselves after somebody passes. Right, Death doesn't only happen when 327 00:23:45.960 --> 00:23:52.119 relationships are beautifully resolved. People pass while families aren't speaking. 328 00:23:52.400 --> 00:23:58.160 They pass after arguments. They they can become a strange, 329 00:23:58.720 --> 00:24:03.599 right they There could be some many, many misunderstandings. And 330 00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:06.359 there are things that we have said that we wish 331 00:24:06.480 --> 00:24:09.599 that we could take back. Right, you have all those regrets. 332 00:24:09.640 --> 00:24:14.039 The wood is the shitters and the kudhahs, right, and 333 00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:16.480 there are things that we desperately wish that we had 334 00:24:16.519 --> 00:24:21.279 the opportunity to say. I'm just gonna say, they know 335 00:24:21.400 --> 00:24:24.640 all your thoughts now, so just keep that in mind. 336 00:24:24.839 --> 00:24:27.559 They know all your thoughts, they know what had taken 337 00:24:27.599 --> 00:24:33.079 place just before they transitioned. Okay, And those circumstances do 338 00:24:33.160 --> 00:24:36.880 not automatically prevent someone from coming through. I'm going to 339 00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:40.440 say that again. Just because you know you had a 340 00:24:40.519 --> 00:24:43.359 falling out does not mean they're not going to try 341 00:24:43.400 --> 00:24:47.640 to come through. Okay. That's very important. Everyone knows that. Okay. 342 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:52.720 In fact, sometimes the unresolved relationship itself becomes part of 343 00:24:52.759 --> 00:24:56.119 the communication when I'm communicating with the love ones and spirit. 344 00:24:56.759 --> 00:24:59.559 And I think there's something that's really important to remember here, 345 00:25:01.079 --> 00:25:03.759 and that is you didn't have to have a perfect 346 00:25:03.839 --> 00:25:09.240 relationship in life for love to still exist after death. Okay, 347 00:25:09.359 --> 00:25:15.440 relationships are complicated. Why because people are complicated. Let's face 348 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:18.839 the facts. It's so true. We are complicated beings, right, 349 00:25:19.319 --> 00:25:24.359 being part of the human existence. And if you are 350 00:25:24.480 --> 00:25:31.200 carrying guilt because your final conversation wasn't what you what 351 00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:36.799 you wanted it to be, or because something remained unresolved, 352 00:25:37.200 --> 00:25:42.079 try not to allow that one moment or that one 353 00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:49.279 chapter to define the entire relationship. Okay, please please please 354 00:25:49.440 --> 00:25:53.400 remember that because you can still talk to them, you 355 00:25:53.480 --> 00:25:56.519 can still tell them what you didn't get to say, 356 00:25:56.720 --> 00:26:01.160 you can still apologize, you can still tell them that 357 00:26:01.240 --> 00:26:06.079 you love them. And sometimes forgiveness after somebody passes isn't 358 00:26:06.119 --> 00:26:10.799 only about forgiving that person that died. Sometimes it's about 359 00:26:11.079 --> 00:26:15.119 forgiving ourselves. Right, If you forgive yourself first and then 360 00:26:15.160 --> 00:26:18.799 forgiving them, and usually there if it was the other 361 00:26:18.839 --> 00:26:23.200 way around, they wish to come through and hoping that 362 00:26:23.240 --> 00:26:27.240 you will forgive them, and that also helps with the 363 00:26:27.559 --> 00:26:30.880 I call it the ripple effect, right, It's so if 364 00:26:30.920 --> 00:26:34.240 you heal, they heal, and then everyone else in the 365 00:26:34.279 --> 00:26:37.920 family also heals. Right, it's the ripple effect. Because we're 366 00:26:37.920 --> 00:26:41.440 all connected. We are all connected. I will say that again. 367 00:26:42.119 --> 00:26:48.400 We are all connected, okay, So please trust that your 368 00:26:48.400 --> 00:26:52.759 loved ones most likely will come through you know again, 369 00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:55.279 if you weren't getting along, if there was an argument, 370 00:26:55.960 --> 00:26:58.039 even if they were a strange and you had talked 371 00:26:58.079 --> 00:27:00.599 to them for many, many years. And it's part of 372 00:27:00.640 --> 00:27:03.200 our revolution, it's part of who we are, it's part 373 00:27:03.319 --> 00:27:09.440 of being human. Okay. So I really truly love that question. 374 00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:13.960 I am. I have mentioned in the past. Yes, I'm 375 00:27:14.000 --> 00:27:17.119 all about helping others to tap into your own intuition. 376 00:27:17.400 --> 00:27:20.480 I'm all about guiding and helping others for your mediumship, 377 00:27:20.519 --> 00:27:23.759 having your own connections. So yes, I did create online 378 00:27:23.759 --> 00:27:28.279 courses for that. I will be posting very soon on 379 00:27:28.319 --> 00:27:34.680 my website. It's a mini course from Grief to Grace. 380 00:27:35.200 --> 00:27:39.640 And this is so really dear to my heart. So 381 00:27:39.720 --> 00:27:41.799 that will be again it's just a mini course, but 382 00:27:41.839 --> 00:27:46.160 it will be available online very soon. Just working out 383 00:27:46.160 --> 00:27:50.519 the tweaks with my assistant. So there's that I do 384 00:27:50.599 --> 00:27:53.359 want to mention before I close. I know thirty minutes, 385 00:27:53.799 --> 00:27:57.880 who knew? It goes by so fast? Okay. So my 386 00:27:58.039 --> 00:28:02.680 next guest August Events. Her name is Holly Porter, and 387 00:28:02.839 --> 00:28:05.759 she's going to share her story regarding her in D 388 00:28:06.799 --> 00:28:10.799 near death experience. 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