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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Let's Talk

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<v Speaker 1>the Things, where we discuss personal growth, travel, music, beauty,

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<v Speaker 1>and wellness while encouraging you to live fearlessly and fabulously.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ash, and if you're like most people, you probably

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<v Speaker 1>have a list a mile long of goals you'd like

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<v Speaker 1>to achieve this year. Right, New year, new goals, new mes,

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<v Speaker 1>and all of that good stuff. But what if I

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<v Speaker 1>told you that making the most of this year is

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<v Speaker 1>not necessarily about doing more, but about becoming more aligned. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that alignment is sort of a buzzword these days,

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<v Speaker 1>but I truly believe it is the key to making

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<v Speaker 1>this year your best year yet. In this episode, we

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<v Speaker 1>are talking to Things about what alignment really means, why

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<v Speaker 1>it's so important, and how it could completely change the

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<v Speaker 1>way you show up in life. So grab your tea, coffee,

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<v Speaker 1>or a glass of wine and let's talk things. What

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<v Speaker 1>does alignment even mean? Alignment is simply about being in

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<v Speaker 1>tune with yourself, your values, your goals, and your deeper

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<v Speaker 1>sense of purpose. It's about living in harmony with the

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<v Speaker 1>things that matter to you the most, not just following

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<v Speaker 1>a checklist of tasks that you have to complete think

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<v Speaker 1>about it. When you're aligned, you wake up every day

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<v Speaker 1>feeling energized and focused, knowing that what you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>do or what you're doing is connected to who you

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<v Speaker 1>are and where you want to go. And here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Alignment is not just about perfection, it's about progress. When

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<v Speaker 1>you're aligned, you're moving in the direction that feels right

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<v Speaker 1>for you, not what others expect or what society tells

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<v Speaker 1>you to do, but what is right and what feels

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<v Speaker 1>good to you. So take a second right now and

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<v Speaker 1>ask yourself, are the actions I'm taking right now truly

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<v Speaker 1>aligned with what I want from life? Or am I

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<v Speaker 1>just checking off boxes or living for someone else. We've

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<v Speaker 1>all been there, stuck in a cycle of doing more.

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<v Speaker 1>We're told that in order to succeed, we need to

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<v Speaker 1>hustle hard and work longer hours and consistently push ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>But can I tell you a little secret, It's not

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<v Speaker 1>always true. More is not always better. You see, you

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<v Speaker 1>can work harder than anyone, but if you're not aligned

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<v Speaker 1>with the things that matter to you, it's like you're

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<v Speaker 1>running in place. You're putting in effort but not getting anywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you end up burnt out and that sound safe.

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<v Speaker 1>So what does it look like when you stop chasing

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<v Speaker 1>more and start focusing on alignment? Well, it's about taking

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<v Speaker 1>a step back and asking yourself, am I doing this

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<v Speaker 1>because I have to? Or because it genuinely brings me

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<v Speaker 1>closer to my goals. It's about setting intentional boundaries, saying

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<v Speaker 1>no when you need to, and giving yourself permission to

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<v Speaker 1>slow down when that is really what is required. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>less is really more. It's not about filling your schedule

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<v Speaker 1>with a million tasks and saying you're booked and busy,

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<v Speaker 1>quote unquote. It's about aligning your actions with your values,

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<v Speaker 1>your purpose, and really the bigger picture of what you

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<v Speaker 1>desire your life to look like. Okay, you're probably wondering, well, Ash,

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<v Speaker 1>all of that sounds great, but how do I get aligned? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>Alignment starts with clarity. The clearer you are about your vision,

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<v Speaker 1>the easier it is to make decisions that are in

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<v Speaker 1>sync with that vision. So here's an exercise that I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to do right now if you can, If not,

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<v Speaker 1>be sure to come back and try it out a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit later. If you can right now, grab a

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<v Speaker 1>pen on paper or you know, use the notes app

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<v Speaker 1>in your phone or whatever you have available to you,

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<v Speaker 1>and yes, I'm serious, I will wait. Okay, Now write

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<v Speaker 1>down your top three values. These are things that matter

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<v Speaker 1>the most to you in life, so that could be family, integrity, creativity, health,

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<v Speaker 1>and my personal favorite, freedom or whatever else matters most

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Then write down your goals for this year.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you want to accomplish by the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the year, and be specific. Now look at your values

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<v Speaker 1>and your goals. Are your goals aligned with your values?

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<v Speaker 1>If not, that may be your starting point. Maybe you're

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<v Speaker 1>working on things that aren't really true to who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you're chasing things and even people that aren't a

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<v Speaker 1>part of your dream but a part of someone else's

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<v Speaker 1>dream for you. You have goals that align with your values, great,

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<v Speaker 1>that's wonderful, But remember your actions have to match your intentions,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think a lot of times that's where we

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<v Speaker 1>fall short, me included. You have intentions to do something,

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<v Speaker 1>but your actions are just not necessarily aligning with that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you wonder why you're not achieving that goal.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, you can't say you want a healthy lifestyle

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<v Speaker 1>and you want a carnival body and all these things.

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<v Speaker 1>You know carnival. Body is subjective, but you guys know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. You want to be in great shape,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever that means for you, but then you're eating excessive

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<v Speaker 1>amounts of fast food every day. You can't say that

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<v Speaker 1>you value friendship and family, but you never make time

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<v Speaker 1>for them. And you cannot say that you value yourself

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<v Speaker 1>but allow persons to remain in your life who have

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<v Speaker 1>made it clear that they do not value you. It's

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<v Speaker 1>about consistency, and the most important person that you can

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<v Speaker 1>be consistent with is yourself. You are with yourself twenty

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<v Speaker 1>four hours a day. You cannot leave yourself alone. You

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<v Speaker 1>can leave your friends, you can leave your family, you

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<v Speaker 1>can leave your colleagues, but you are with yourself twenty

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<v Speaker 1>four to seven. So check in with yourself every day

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<v Speaker 1>and ask yourself, are my actions moving me closer to

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<v Speaker 1>what I truly want? The answers are the foundation of

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<v Speaker 1>what will keep you aligned. We often think that to

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<v Speaker 1>make real progress we need to take these giant leaps

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<v Speaker 1>or giant steps in life, but in reality, the magic

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<v Speaker 1>happens in those small shifts, those small changes that you

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<v Speaker 1>make throughout your life or in this case, throughout the year.

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe you take ten minutes every morning to meditate

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<v Speaker 1>or to go for a walk, or you prioritize one

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<v Speaker 1>thing that really matters over the five things that don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not about doing everything. It's about doing the right

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<v Speaker 1>things for you. And as I've mentioned in a previous episode,

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<v Speaker 1>quoting Ian lavan'sant, filling your cup is not selfish, it

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<v Speaker 1>is self full. For example, let's say you're someone who

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<v Speaker 1>really values creativity, but you find yourself inundated with administrative

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<v Speaker 1>tasks all day. Well, instead of becoming overwhelmed with everything

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<v Speaker 1>you're supposed to do and feeling super pop down, why

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<v Speaker 1>not start carving out maybe thirty minutes each morning to

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<v Speaker 1>work on a creative project. You see, small shift, big impact.

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<v Speaker 1>These shifts will add up over time and keep you

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<v Speaker 1>aligned with your bigger goals. Remember, making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>this year is not about doing more, it's about what

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<v Speaker 1>all right? Being more aligned? Mm hmm. You guys don't

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<v Speaker 1>think I can hear you. I can hear you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And it starts with you, with clarity, with setting boundaries,

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<v Speaker 1>with showing up for yourself and what matters to you

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<v Speaker 1>the most this year, Give yourself permission to be less

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<v Speaker 1>busy and more intentional, take a step back if you

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<v Speaker 1>need to, and get clear on your values and take

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<v Speaker 1>aligned action. You've got this. When you're aligned with who

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<v Speaker 1>you truly are, everything else will fall into place. I

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<v Speaker 1>can promise you that. Thanks again for tuning in this week,

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<v Speaker 1>and don't forget to share this episode with someone who

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<v Speaker 1>you thing may need to hear it or, in the

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<v Speaker 1>words of Beyonce, get information. Also, I'd love to hear

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<v Speaker 1>from you. What are you doing this year to stay

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<v Speaker 1>aligned with your goals? Send a message on Let's Talk

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