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Speaker 1: Well, hello and welcome. It's been a while, daddy, it's
been a minute.
Speaker 3: I missed you.
Speaker 2: You missed me too, Yes, I told you that.
Speaker 3: This is Kevin, This is Craig everybody. Yeah, it's been
uh loving buddy.
Speaker 1: So I've never just disappeared like the podcast, just the way.
I just didn't do episodes.
Speaker 2: I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to do. I wasn't prepared for
this last Thursday. So we're still in the month of June.
We're taping this on Monday, Sunday, excuse me, July sixth,
So we're going back to the last Thursday in June.
Speaker 2: That night we had taped a podcast. Were you part
of that?
Speaker 3: I don't think I was there that night, Okay, I
don't know. I don't remember I remember.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I get home and I'm putting the podcast together
and I get a call from my brother going Dad's
in really bad shape.
Speaker 2: I don't think he's gonna last the weekend. You better
get here.
Speaker 3: Maybe I was there that night, but yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, yeah, oh, I don't know what to think, right.
So I end up talking to my sister and I'm like,
I figured do I drive?
Speaker 2: What do I do?
Speaker 1: I'm talking to my sister. So here's the thing. I'm
gonna tell the story. Somebody said to me yesterday. Every
time you talk, it sounds like you're telling a story.
I don't know if that's a good thing or a.
Speaker 3: Bad thing, right, that's a good thing it is, yes, Okay, yeah,
that's the idea.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: Well, anyway, so I will tell this story, and I'm
going to tell this this is from my perspective. Please
understand that, and please understand that none of it is
meant to be harmful or mean to anybody. And I
know my family may listen to this and maybe bothered
by some of the things.
Speaker 2: That I say.
Speaker 1: I think that some of the they're a little more
private than I am with information like this, but I've
been fairly open. So my brother was kind of emotional
on the phone. I mean not for him like me.
It's kind of like, you know, I'm gonna I'm gonna
get emotional, so I'm getting off the phone kind of thing.
Speaker 3: He's coming out of his baseline.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I so I call my mother and I said, hey, listen,
I may drive to you because she's sort of the
halfway point. It would be about a seven and a
half hour ride straight through to Maine. And I'm like,
I don't know what to do. I got to figure
out what to do with Jamison because I don't want
to bring him if if my father's exiting the planet
doesn't seem right. So you know what I mean, too
many people, it'll be disturbing for him. There's not a
lot for him to do there the cousins. My brother
lives in Kenny Bunk Main. That's where my father is
in an assistant living place. But his kids are young,
so you know, you're talking eight and thirteen or twelve.
So I call my mother and this is terrible, but
I have to say everybody it was weird because I hesitate.
I haven't thought of how I would really talk about this,
so I figure if I whenever, I don't know. I'm
just going to tell you the way it was. So
I called my mother and I said, listen, I'm gonna
probably stop at your house.
Speaker 2: I'll leave.
Speaker 1: I was thinking of leaving that night Thursday, and then
driving continuing on on Friday. And she said, uh, okay,
And then she said, you know I was talking to
your brother too. He said my dad had fallen like
I think a total of twelve times within a week
and was telling people he thought he was dying.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I say to my my mother says, well, you know,
your brother told me that I can I should come
as we well, we were married for thirty five years,
and I said, okay, and then I wind up my
sister's beeping in, so I wind up talking to my sister.
I call my mother back. My mother's like, I don't
know what to do. My mother, I will say, and
if she hears this, she'll get annoyed with me, probably,
But I say, sometimes she turns into a one legged duck,
or she's just quacking and going around in the circle
and can't seem to figure out what she's going to
do or what her purpose is or whatever. And maybe
it's a bad analogy, but it's the only one that's
the one I've said for years. And she's like, well,
I don't know what to do, because I mean, I
don't want to get in the way. But I should
be there. Shouldn't I be there? Your brother said I
should be there? Maybe I go with you? Do I
not go with you? I go, look, this is something
you have to figure out on your own. And then
I talked to my sister and she's like, why don't
you just fly? And I go, oh, yeah, why don't
I just fly? That was why shouldn't I do that?
So I start looking for tickets and I go I'm
going to go one way to keep this open ended,
because I don't know what's happening.
Speaker 2: I have no idea.
Speaker 1: So I book a flight and I wind up flying
out like two o'clock in the afternoon on Friday from Buffalo.
Speaker 2: It's the only one way flight I can get. I
can't get into Portland.
Speaker 1: Portland one way flights are taking it like to Charlotte
and back, and they're like a thousand bucks.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, the greatest thing about Buffalo is that airport.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the airport's pretty nice.
Speaker 3: Fly everywhere it is.
Speaker 2: So I book a flight Jet Blue Boston.
Speaker 1: I pay our friend Doug Phelps to uber me up there,
so I don't bring a car and I'm one way.
Speaker 3: Didn't work out his new material with you in the car.
You know, everybody's asked me that he did shows you
what a hack. I am no, no, no, no, no, And
he did not. He did not do any material at all.
We actually just talked about other things. I think I interrupted.
I tell you the one about Black Elvis.
Speaker 1: So I go, I get on the plane and then
I'm going to take a bus from Boston to Portsmouth,
New Hampshire, which is actually really close to where my
brother is that they're like twenty minutes away. So I
booked the flight. I get on the flight, I fly there,
no problems, going to Buffalo, get there early.
Speaker 2: Doug's got me there within an hour. You know.
Speaker 1: I get through security. I have all that I do
not have the enhanced ID. I am one of the
laggers of the enhanced ID. So I just got my
renewal and I have but you have to do it
in person. Sixty seven dollars or something like that. You
got to do it in person at DMV again a
goal for the week, right, got to get that done.
But so I'm standing in line and they're saying, you
gotta have your enhanced ID or your passport, blah blah blah.
And I see this woman and I go, hey, listen,
is there any way I can So she goes, ah,
they're probably letting some people go. And she calls over
a guard and the guard goes, you gotta get this fixed,
but we'll let it slide this time. So he opens
up a lane and I purposely try to time it.
So I get in his line and I do, and
he goes, ah, we already spoke, get that fixed, and
on the plane, I go, boom.
Speaker 2: I'm out there.
Speaker 1: So I I fly up and I take the bus
over to Portsmouth and my brother meets me and he goes,
maybe this is.
Speaker 2: A false alarm. I'm feeling terrible. Dad's in the car.
Speaker 3: He's waving.
Speaker 2: He goes, he goes, I don't know. He goes.
Speaker 1: He's got his pink shirt on. He's all he's all
pretty dogs game, he's all great. He goes, He's in
the car. I feel terrible. I swear to God, I
thought he was dying. I go, no big deal. I'm
glad I'm here.
Speaker 3: I gave him time out for a second. That's gotta
be the greatest. I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Moment maybe of your life.
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean, because here you are. The whole time, you
gotta be think Dad's dying. Dan's dying, dying, and then
you get then he's in the car.
Speaker 2: I don't well.
Speaker 3: I just go for a ride like a dog.
Speaker 1: Where's my thing? And I think that I'm weird. I
probably I've been told by those who were in my
life at different points that I compartamentalize things and I
put them away and I keep them in this box,
and I probably I probably have done that. I've had
some trauma throughout my life, as I've talked about being
molested and things like that, so you probably do learn
to do that.
Speaker 2: That's a coping mechanism.
Speaker 1: But I always figure it's not that bad until it's
that bad, right, you know what I mean? So everything
to me is kind of at a neutral level, and
that's it. So we go there and I get in
and my dad is like skinnier, looks like some muscle
atrophy and he's only sitting in the front seat and
it's just this silent kind of ride and he starts
dozing off.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, probably a good idea that I'm actually here.
Speaker 1: So then we end up going back to his place
and he is not in good shape, like he can't move,
he's having a hard time getting in and out of things,
you're practically and he's saying, I think I'm dying in
the next two days. And I say to my brother,
I go the Grim Reaper doesn't respond to calendar invites.
They come by surprise, so I can't tell if this,
you know, but but he's convinced this is it, this
is it. So and he goes every day, it's getting worse.
Every day is getting worse. My brother has realized at
this point my dad can't be alone, like at all.
He fell my I guess my brother spent the night
with him. Left and said, I'm going I'm gonna go
to work, I'll be you know, I'll check on you,
or I'm going home. I'm gonna shower, I need to
check in at work, and then i'm gonna come back
and I'm gonna work from here.
Speaker 2: So my brother leaves.
Speaker 1: My father wait till the door gets shut, decides to
get up, falls and like lands in a wall, knocks
a chair over on top of himself, and he's laying
there for two hours while my brother's gone. From the
time my brother's gone till the time my brother gets back,
which was about two hours, my dad's just laying on
the floor.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Prior to that, he.
Speaker 1: Had been laying on the floor and had gone to
the bathroom. There was just all this stuff. So this
is why my dad's convinced he's dying. Here's the thing
with Parkinson's disease. It doesn't kill you, no, it just
gets worse right and worse until some it helps with
something like you can't swallow, so you apphixiate or Disease itself.
Speaker 3: Doesn't kill you. It's the complications of the disease often
like age, like age itself does it. I'm not trying
to compare the two, but age itself does not kill you.
It just kills off your tea cells and then you
die of a cold, right.
Speaker 1: Which, So I had like a stuffy head for a week,
like I have. I felt like at times I was underwater,
like I couldn't hear. Then I started worrying I m
going death, knowing I think it's just congestion. So I
kept doing all these things. I went and talked to
a pharmacist. I took something. Then I had an appointment
Friday morning early, and that person says to me, hey, listen,
I know a lot of adults that are getting ear infections.
If you're getting on a plane and stuff, you should
probably get yourself on an antibiotic.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I get there, and my cold just gets worse and worse.
I wind up staying every night that I was in Maine,
other than the last night at my dad's with my dad,
it's just me and my dad. So the first night
my dad, it says to me, I'm afraid to go
to sleep.
Speaker 2: Because he thinks he's gonna die Insley.
Speaker 1: So we wind up sitting sitting up and just shooting
the shit until like two o'clock in the morning. Then
you go to sleep. There's appointments the next day. Hospice
is coming in. Because hospice is not like where you
go to the hut center and it's the end of life.
They'll come in wherever you are and they'll just they'll
do two days a week. They have volunteers, they have
people that come around and see you. So my brother's like, look,
he can't be alone at all. The place he's living
at does provide a higher level of care, but it's
in a completely different building.
Speaker 2: So and and my Dad's like, I just want to
I want to stay where I am.
Speaker 1: Well, we wind up having to shower my dad. We're
getting him out of the shower, We're drying them off,
you're helping him get dressed, You're doing all these things.
Some days he's in the morning, he was a little better.
Some dayss a little worse. He's every night he was
afraid to go to sleep. One night I said to him,
I think I'm gonna stay at Kevin's tonight. He's like,
I'm gonna be alone, and it was it was just strange.
So we would go over to my brothers at night
try to get my dad out. My mom did show up.
She was absolutely wonderful, stayed with the kids. I have
to say my brother has carried the load on this.
My brother has been absolutely and my sister, but primarily
my brother absolutely amazing with this. He's the one that
pushed my dad two years ago to move to Maine
and he lived there from November to April and decided
he hated it was the darkest place on the planet
and it's always cold.
Speaker 2: I fucking hate it here, goes.
Speaker 1: Back to Jersey and then he fell and he had
some problems, and my brother flies in from a business
trip and re routes to Newark, drives over to where
he is in Jersey and sees him and goes, we're
not doing this, You're coming with me and packs them
up and puts them in the assistant Living center and
then went back down without my help, and my sister
came up from so my sister, my brother, and his wife,
who's been amazing Morgan, they pack up a trailer. They
put all his stuff in there, all the things he needs,
his furniture, his big couch, his big giant fucking bookcase. Dan,
It's like unbelievable. And trailer their own car behind the
U haul all the way back to Maine.
Speaker 2: And yeah, in one.
Speaker 3: Film, those are not comfortable rides.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I'm.
Speaker 3: Even like going to taking a U haul across town.
Now imagine doing that for like hours and hours and hours,
so with a car.
Speaker 1: Behind you gotcha, So you got it. So my brother
decides that this is.
Speaker 3: And the air goes out. Oh yeah, and you don't
get satellite radio.
Speaker 1: So my dad he gets all that stuff in there,
and then my dad starts having like from Father's Day on,
there's been a lot of falls, Like that morning I
called him. He's saying to me, I'm in desperate you know,
I'm in a desperate situation. I can't get hold anybody.
You gotta call somebody, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: So that's when I called my brother. I called my
I called the front desk of the place. So now
he's had a few more of these instances. So I
wound up staying with him again. It was showering, but
then we're meeting.
Speaker 2: With all these different people. He agrees to let hospice
come in.
Speaker 1: Now he goes, I stress is a bad thing. We
know that stress with Parkinson's. I think it's just wiping
them out.
Speaker 2: And the eye.
Speaker 1: Idea of just having had his stuff, some of it's
still not unpacked fully and having to move again.
Speaker 2: He was totally against it.
Speaker 1: So we priced out what would it be for twenty
four hour care coming in from the outside to be
to let him stay where he was, and we had
a financial advisor come in, we had the hospice people
come in, we had there was a social worker, and
of course, like there's all these interviews and things, and
my dad the one thing that isn't really going is
his mind right.
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm right here.
Speaker 1: So at one point to go well, he kept saying,
I'll do whatever you want me to do, but I
don't want to go so and don't forget that Friday
that I'm there. He's calling one of his best friends
ever says I'm dying in the next two days. Calls
his brother, I'm dying in the.
Speaker 2: Next two days.
Speaker 1: My uncle's calling me, going is he really dying in
the next two days because I got a punch of
shit going out of my life and I can't get
get to the east coast because he lives in Utah.
Speaker 2: He goes, I can't.
Speaker 1: Get get there, you know, until this date or whatever.
I go, I have no idea he wants It sounds
like he wants to die. So then I'm realizing I'm
watching him as as they're doing these interviews and they
say to him, listen, we have to ask you a
lot of questions and things like that. And they even
do a memory test where they go, you know the
color blue coffee and the number three, And then they
talked about something and go repeat back to me what
I said in that order, and he did it no problem,
and so like you could see things and I'm watching
and then they go, do you remember your wife's name?
He goes, what what did you call your wife when
you were married? And my father says, when we were fighting.
Speaker 3: Or social workers got to be like or or or just.
Speaker 1: Normal, which made everybody laugh. Right, So, like, I think
this is an assessment by the place. So I'm going, Okay,
he's great.
Speaker 2: Ain't dying.
Speaker 1: He ain't dying, But I am watching every day getting worse.
The last day that I'm with him, he fell twice.
Speaker 2: While I'm there.
Speaker 1: I turned to move the coffee table because I got
him up, got him out of a chair he's holding
onto his walker, and all of a sudden, as I
turned to move the coffee table so it's not in
the way of the walker, I hear he went back
down in the chair, hit the arm, hit the lamp.
Speaker 2: You know, a lot of noise. Nothing Again.
Speaker 1: Another time I'm washing a dish, I turn around, I
see him going, I grab him. So there was a
lot of that. You're lifting them up, you're carrying him,
you're helping them. And then there were days where he
would just do everything on his own. So we finally
convinced him that the best mode for him was to move.
He's got to move to the higher level of care,
so that requires everything being moved out of his apartment.
Now I feel like shit. I haven't really slept every night.
He's afraid to sleep. I'm waking up a couple times
a night. As he's waking up, he's going to the bathroom,
interfering with him. But I'm standing there at the ready
in case he goes down. I gotta be there. So
all this stuff is going on, and we we get
a place. They have a room. It's but it all
it is is a studio with a bathroom. So in
this play season now he has like it would be
a great for my brother and I go, they should
open these for college graduates before they get into life.
Like it's all young people, you got your own plays.
There's a cafeteria if you want to go still get meals.
You can cook your own if you want to. But
we're like, this would be the great cool you're the
greatest thing, like to graduate into adulthood.
Speaker 3: I'll go now, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And he's got this nice kitchen and everything. So this
has no kitchen, no refrigerator, know anything. So uh, we're
going he's gonna he's gonna fucking hate it. He's gonna
hate it. And but my brother and I his wife
ran the lead. She did a great job. My sister,
by the way, I don't mean to leave her out
on any of this. She did, she was there. She
had Poor Katie got to the airport, her flight was canceled,
so she wound up renting a car and driving from
DC to Main just to be there yep and yeah,
and she still had to do work. She had to
work on odd hours with this grant thing she's doing,
and it was She was amazing.
Speaker 2: Too, but just crazy.
Speaker 1: So I said to my brother, looking, I don't want
you moving all this stuff again, this big heavy Oh
think of like like one of those think of a
room with rich mahogany and thick leather furniture. Yes, that's
what my father has. He used a thick leather black couch,
big thick leather chair, thick leather ottoman, right, these things, yes,
and one of these really big, heavy, gigantic bookcases filled
with books. So I say, listen, man, I don't want
you moving that shit alone again. I will stay until
that's done. Meanwhile, I got my fifteen year old Jordan
steps up and stays with him. But I'm sure Jordan was,
you know, rerouted his whole schedule. So he's staying with Jamison,
and who knows what's happening there, no idea, you know.
Speaker 2: But at one point Jordan's going, oh my god, I
haven't talked to Grandpaya.
Speaker 3: I can't believe it. Like I go, who wha wha
what whoa whoa whoa whoa, whoa.
Speaker 1: This is not about you, this is about him. And
your grandfather wouldn't want his twenty three year old grandson
hanging on his dying breath. Life is to be lived,
and that's fine. Do not go burdening yourself with.
Speaker 2: I didn't call, I didn't do it. Just hang tight.
Speaker 1: So Jordan handled the things here. I came home. The
frat house was exactly what I thought it was a
frat house. And then my brother and I man, we
humped that stuff all the way up. We threw it
in the back of his pickup truck and went up
the hill to the new place. Carried it in right.
We got this big dresser. We're going in. You got
the doors. We're trying to hit the doors to open up,
and we notice that the funeral parlor is outside the place.
They're there to pick up a body. There's somebody, somebody died.
They're there to pick up a body.
Speaker 3: My first dame moved into the city of Rochester. I'm
not joking.
Speaker 1: So my my brother and I are wheeling in this
giant dresser.
Speaker 2: We've got it on.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think we were carrying it.
Speaker 1: I think we took it off the back of the
bed and we're carrying it and whatever angle. It's too
wide to get through the second door into the building.
So we're like, so I'm we're bangsing in like Jackson, Jackson,
Jesus Kevin. We got to turn this. We get and
right behind us is the gurney, like it's right there.
Speaker 2: Like the gurney.
Speaker 1: Guys had to back up with the gurney because we've
got the dresser that we're going through. We're holding up
someone picking up a body to bring to be Fellas.
But the guys are like.
Speaker 3: Oh, no problem, no problem, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: So we get in there. Everything everything's set up beautifully
like it was great. Then my sister in law very
smartly had ordered a wheelchair. We get my dad, we
put him in a wheelchair and we wheel him. I
wheel him, I push him up the hill and into
the new building and into the room and we spin
him around and he looks at me and I'm like,
this is where I have not been emotional once the
entire week, like not any of the five days. And
he looks at me and goes, well, yeah, okay, I
guess this is it. And the only thing that I
could equate this too, is dropping off my first child
at daycare and walking away as their little face crumpled
because they don't know anybody, and it's all strangers and
it's scary, and you know, everybody goes through it. And
I remember going walking out with my brother and I'm like,
I couldn't even talk. I couldn't talk at that moment.
I was like, you gotta be I don't even know
what's happening here. And my sister in law swooped in
and took my dad and showed him all these different
places and stuff. My brother and I continue to move
things in. We wound up bringing some of the furniture back.
They've got to get rid of a lot of his
furniture because it won't fit in there. He's fine in
his room, and then the next day says to me,
this place is a lot more lively than the last place.
I feel much better here. But he goes, I had
a problem in the shower this morning. I pulled the bell.
Twelve people came in, and then he goes, let me
tell you something. I'm on their shower. I got scrubbed
like I've never been scrubbed before. I mean, I'll tell
you what they scrub places. I don't know if she'll
let me do something my own. But yeah, so he's
got a sense of humor. He's doing fine. Then he
fell again in the new place, so and and other
things are happening. So I don't know, but he's in
a better place. And it's better for my brother and
sister in law because they're not running over every day
with every little thing to help him through. But I'll
tell you, man, it took the wind out of my sails.
It took the wind out of my sails. And then
I drove back with my mom to Albany and then
took a train from Albany back up. So my mother's
with me on the last day and we go to
say goodbye, and my mother gets herself very upset and
leaves and goes to the bathroom and she's in there
for a while and her stomach's all upset, and I
have no idea she's spraying like a skunk or something
in there.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: And my father, meanwhile, my father, who had that morning
was the problem with the shower. When I get there,
I knock on the door and goes come in and
he goes it took him like seventeen minutes to get
his underwear on.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's where we're at, right. And here's what.
Speaker 1: Is so difficult to watch with this is you're watching
the deterioration of a body, not necessarily a mind, a body.
Although he feels like dements is moving in, but I'm
not so sure. And he said to me, you know
some of the things with Parkinson's is you start to hallucinate. Okay,
And so he said to me, yesterday, I had a
full conversation with your sister about picking up medicine and
when she was gonna come back with it and blah
blah blah, and he goes and then I'm talking to.
Speaker 2: Her later and I hallucinated the whole thing.
Speaker 1: And what he said to me was, how can a
mind that build the house be the mind that hallucinates this?
And I think he's having a hard time coming to
great It's just just it's a hard thing. And I
look at it at it this way. No one gets
out of this planet alive. I believe there's a purpose
as to why we're here. Everybody's different, but I think
it's I have my belief. I won't say exactly what
it is, and I don't want to change anybody, but
it's the natural order of life. Right, He's seventy nine
years old, probably may live to be eighty in October.
What is the natural order of life is just the
way it should be. Doesn't make it any easier, really,
but it's you know, you can kind of give your condolences.
Speaker 2: It's not a child, it's not somebody in the prime
of their life.
Speaker 1: It's not a mother who has four kids and struck
down at forty two years old because of whatever.
Speaker 2: So you got to look at it that way.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm too practical, but I you know, that's it.
And I call him every day and so far he's
been Yeah.
Speaker 3: I remember this with my father, and he had cancer
and the last thing to go was his mind. And
as soon as he started like asking questions about relatives
that already passed down, why they hadn't come to visit
him at the hospital. Yeah, my dearest brother hasn't come
to see me. I've been here three weeks. And my
other uncle, Telton, well, when I see it, I'll give him. Hell.
The things we had to do were and I wish
somebody had told me this eighteen years ago. But we
had to kind of have some humor with it to
wash it down, or else you would have been like
just completely saddened.
Speaker 2: Oo full of sugar.
Speaker 3: Right. First, remember that we're Christians. That my father like
when he died, was more alive than he ever was
in his body. Number one, Number two, And I kind
of learned this over the weekend. It's third of July.
My stepdad has this huge annual party. This is his holiday.
And they live on this perfect spot in the beach.
You couldn't you could not draw a better place to
live on a beach in Lake Carry, Right, It's this
bungalow that goes down has a walkway down to the beach.
You got sand, and you got trees, and you got grass.
It's perfect. It's on a little hill like it's the
prime real estate. If they ever wanted to sell this,
they can make a killing for it. They'll never sell it, right.
And there's this one woman there who has a husband
who has dementia in Alzheimer's. He's going through that. I
know it's not the same thing as parkinsists, right, And
she was telling I asked him, I go, how's he doing?
And she says, you know, and she told me these
stories where she joined the support group where she knows
people who they left their husband for two hours. They
come back, the entire grandfather Clock's been dismantled. It organized pieces,
but they could never put it back together. But like
that type of thing, or I have to go home.
I got paperwork to do. They flash back to a
job they had thirty years ago, and she goes, I
was told this that the things you'll cry about today
you will laugh about tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Oh and that's usually the case in just like in
life and general.
Speaker 3: And that's the thing that I really took from that.
I wish I had that bad idea back sure when
my father was dying. The things you'll cry about today
you will laugh about tomorrow. The fact that I had to, like,
you know, wash my father Dahlia's day. It looks like
a shriveled pretzel, does look even that?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think my dad was very My dad's
very private and very proud and certainly never would be
one for any of this. But he's very accepting of
where you know, not very accepting, but he's accepting of
where he is.
Speaker 2: And when we helped him, he helped him.
Speaker 1: And you don't bat an eye, and you would do
it in a second. And I think at some point
he said to me, you know.
Speaker 2: I feel so bad.
Speaker 1: We're rerouting everybody's schedule and I you and Katie and
Kevin bah And I said, I will speak for my
brother and sister on this one.
Speaker 2: I don't think there's any place we'd rap there.
Speaker 1: Be than where we are right now with you, because
we want to make sure everything's okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I don't know how that hit him or didn't
hit him. It wasn't meant to be. It just it
was like it just flew out of me, right, those
words just flew out. And I feel that way.
Speaker 2: I also can never.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'll ever be able to thank my
brother enough for all he's done, and my sister, but
especially you know, Kevin really's taking the reins on this
and his wife because I I would go into like
my mom, the one like a duck.
Speaker 2: I guess I don't know. He just really took it ran.
Speaker 1: And my thing is I have no ego in this,
but I didn't want my brother doing the move again
by himself. And he has some great friends, I mean
amazing friends, like one of them comes over after and
he goes, yeah, I just left George Bush. I had
to cook dinner and he's a private chef. It just
cooked dinner for George Bush. Yeah, who lives in Kenny Bunk,
you know our summers or whatever, and Kenny and he goes,
I went over there and dropped. He goes, I actually
prepared it at home and brought the food over. Uh.
Speaker 2: They were having whatever party.
Speaker 3: And the bases are coming. It's winning, you know what
I'm saying. He came back and then he comes to help.
That guy brings like I mean, they brought Dolly's.
Speaker 1: He had another buddy come iris, and it was just
everything could not have gone smoother and easier as a whole.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: The only downside is I ended up with bronchitis. I've
been on an antibiotic.
Speaker 3: Did you take me like I told you?
Speaker 2: I did not?
Speaker 3: And I should have brought the bottle with me. I should,
I will, I will bring the bottle.
Speaker 2: Don't bring the bottle. I will go get gluten.
Speaker 3: It's not a biot, it's more of like a container.
Speaker 2: I will get it, all right.
Speaker 3: But the one thing it's like, it's funny though, you
know this guy named doctor Peter to you, who tells
you we never prepare for our last ten years of life,
and even if you do, you have to prepare for
it because things like like your father seemed like a
guy who prepared for that, but when Parkins took over,
it took over. Just imagine where he would be if
he wasn't working out and all those things. But I
want to think about this too. You tell him, you
know you speaking for your brother and sister. Given the
marvel Leeby speech, is no place I'd rather be than
right here, right now. That is a testament to your
parents raising of you guys, because you're all smart kids.
You're selfless people, and you always have a plan. And
I doubt that Bill Moran would have become the one
legged duck even if you were owned by only by yourself,
because you always figure it out. You always freaking you
have always as long as I've known you, You've always
found a way. And your parents raised and I remember
when they were both here and I said, what's your secret?
Because you know your son thinks that Italians are dumb Jews.
My family, you know, we're very tight, we're Christians, but
we're not very smart. You raised three smart kids.
Speaker 1: What was your secret?
Speaker 3: And of course making them laugh, and you know it
was just the fact that they they may not have
been on the same page, but they teamed up to
raise three great kids. And now this is the return
on their investment. And I want you your father should
always know that. You know that seeing you, the three
of you do that for him is the ultimate return
on an investment in parenting that you could ever ask, well,
I would never know among the other things, the grandkids
and all that story, it's just one big part of that.
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want to see if we can find out any more
information on this something happened on your side of town
because I was looking for there were a whole bunch
of firework mishaps, like around the country.
Speaker 2: They go from Utah to Illinois. Teens lost.
Speaker 1: I guess several teens I had partial amputations on their hands.
Speaker 2: And different thing.
Speaker 1: I always saw the headlines, but one here. I don't
know if this is a tragic low or a strangely
responsible workaround for something that had happened. But a guy
in the Brockport Ogden area got into an act like
car went off the road, hit a tree, both airbags deployed.
Speaker 2: Right, I mean, this is a shit show.
Speaker 1: And I don't know that there was anybody else in
the car, So you got to be traveling at a
high rate of speed for both of them to go off.
Usually it's just the one with the person, but they
both went off. And this guy was found pushing this
dented up Honda back to wherever he was trying to
get to and I go, I don't know, but his
blood alcohol level it was at the level of that
you would sanitize a hospital with.
Speaker 3: He blew up.
Speaker 1: He had a point two nine nine nine, your guest, Kevin,
we did We did right the experiment with you, Yes,
at your house, in your garage. We did the whole experiment.
There's an episode you can go back and listen to.
And I think, what did you end up at point one?
I think it was one three or one four three
or one four that high? So this guy had to
be drinking for I mean, it feels like days and
days and days.
Speaker 2: I can't imagine.
Speaker 1: And who's the cop.
Speaker 3: Who's the dick cop that doesn't give him the round
round it up? Give him three. Don't give him.
Speaker 2: I think it was to nine nine nine. I think.
Speaker 1: Nine yeah, four times the legal limit, which is point
zero eight. Yeah, so you're over four times the legal
limit on that about your point twenty four would be yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. So this guy is.
Speaker 1: Uh wait, point three to two, so he's just under
excuse me, yeah, I did my math just yes, but
it is basically four times he got an appearance ticket.
Speaker 2: But I go, this is when here's the.
Speaker 3: Thing, when when they let him out, was he still wasted?
Speaker 2: I have no idea, just based.
Speaker 3: On having the alcohol the b a C so high
to begin with, I.
Speaker 1: Have no idea. But I go, if you have a
point two nine BAC and you're still mobile enough to
push your car and sweat some of this out, do
you not get a few extra points? Is this not
a little bit of a bragging right for somebody?
Speaker 3: What kind of cock was he pushing it in reverse?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean that that's Olympic level dysfunction. Yes, functioning dysfunction.
Speaker 3: I think that's that's olympic function.
Speaker 1: Acoholism, functioning dysfunction. At point two nine, you fucking crash
your car so hard both airbags go off. You're still
I don't talk, You're still alive.
Speaker 3: And you push that mother find a way to get
this thing back on the road.
Speaker 1: If I'm the cop, I may feel bad.
Speaker 2: I may feel bad.
Speaker 1: No one got hurt, no one got anything.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: I know people who say, if you drive drunk, you
should be charged with uh involuntary manslaughter because you could
kill somebody.
Speaker 2: Yes, right, but I.
Speaker 1: Go in this case, saif I'm the police officer, it's
a lot of paperwork for me, and you are a
bit of a hero.
Speaker 2: You're trying not to leave your debris everywhere.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's probably a license playholder somewhere on someone's
lawn or so.
Speaker 2: Let's pretend you got it.
Speaker 3: Let's pretend you did crash today. Yes, let's just go
home and sleep this off. Yeah, my father back in
my day, they just bring you home.
Speaker 1: Because you gotta go. What kind of mindset goes crash
my car? I pop both airbags off, and I'm gonna
push this home, right, That's what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 3: That's a metal toughness right there.
Speaker 2: You know what. I'll push it home.
Speaker 1: There's nothing stopping me, and they will not.
Speaker 2: So I'm wondering if it's an underraged person.
Speaker 1: They have not released the name of the person that
did this, Okay, so they're not saying who did it,
but somebody somewhere knows who this is that crashed their
car at eight pm. I might have been last night
or the night before and then decided to push it.
Speaker 2: Down the road.
Speaker 1: You still got daylight. You gotta get there before daylight,
you know.
Speaker 2: What I mean?
Speaker 3: Yeah, with the blue law nine o'clock, right? Was that
what they call they call blue laws, not blue laws,
but like.
Speaker 2: Yes, card, it's blue laws. It is like blue laws.
Speaker 3: Were like you couldn't serve, you couldn't do anything on Sundays. Yeah,
I think it's a blue card, like you get your
blue card, meaning you could drive after nine o'clock.
Speaker 1: I think there were blue laws in radio, like you
could say anything you want after ten o'clock the FC.
Speaker 2: I didn't know this until it was too late.
Speaker 3: Yeah, between ten pm and six am. So I was
at a morning show with Beth and Chet, remember them.
On the way the check goes. After we took the test,
we found we could swear between five and six.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 3: Check was of course.
Speaker 1: I mean, this guy at point twenty nine. You gotta
be like you're pushing the car. You're arguing with the
transformer right cor scream.
Speaker 3: Post jumped out in front of me.
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Vitamin d that my dad is, still alive even though
he was predicting his own death and calling people and, telling, them.
Speaker 3: So if this, is it please let.
Speaker 2: Me, know yeah, and UH that i. HAVE emotions i.
Speaker 1: LEARNED that i LEARNED that i have emotions by by
helping him move in and just sort of seeing him
when he when he said that, TO me i, was,
LIKE oh.
Speaker 2: I, was Like, oh god your whole.
Speaker 1: Heart sank, you know your heart's like all the other.
Stuff falling helping, Him shower none of that really. AFFECTED
me i. Felt bad you could tell there's must muscle
atrophy and all. That STUFF but i, was, like whoa
that was the one that was the killer the. Killer
blow and THEN when i had, TO leave i. Walked
AWAY and i don't Know if i'll ever regret this,
or NOT but i was walking down.
Speaker 2: The hall my mother was slightly ahead. Of, me uh we.
Speaker 1: Said goodbye he had talk to, his DOOR and i
gave him, a hug AND then i gave HIM and,
I said i'm going to give you a, second hug,
you KNOW before. I leave AND then i turned AROUND
and i was holding everything IN and i just, kept
WALKING and i wanted to turn around and, see HIM because,
i go it could be one, last, time right you.
Never KNOW and i didn't on PURPOSE because i would have.
Speaker 3: Lost it, OH yeah i would have.
Speaker 2: LOST it i would have.
Speaker 1: Lost IT and i don't know if that was cold
to just turn your back and, walk OUT but i,
was leaving, you KNOW so i felt like that was
the best thing to do in. That moment just stay,
the course let's. Be cool my mother was already on
the edge of, you, know herself being. Very upset don't
forget they were together for many years and.
Speaker 2: They have three.
Speaker 1: Children together AND so i, was, like yeah that that
was the those are the. Things say this whole thing
is taken a little bit of the wind out of.
My sails it's taken me like just to get back
in the wing. Of things i've been back Since last
WHEN did i Get? Back Friday? Maybe friday When was, July?
Speaker 2: Fourth?
Speaker 1: Saturday, yes YEAH so i Got back july Fourth. Was
friday july Fourth. Was FRIDAY so i Got back Thursday
and thursday night at like, eight o'clock, eight thirty and
then came home to the, frat HOUSE which i.
Speaker 2: LOVE this i love this.
Speaker 3: GREEN clouds.
Speaker 2: I will not answer, that ONE but. I will i
will tell you a story.
Speaker 3: Off air, oh, good yeah bonus.
Speaker 1: For, US yeah i should tell it, on there BUT someday,
i will because everything, comes out everything.
Speaker 2: Comes OUT BUT i, i YEAH.
Speaker 3: Ye i so Third, of july, my STEPDAD as, i
mentioned it's this big party and everybody in town comes
and they blow off the fireworks in, my hometown and
they blow them off on the third because everybody Goes
to dunkirk on, the fourth they blow them off in.
Speaker 4: The.
Speaker 3: Lake right so my brothers bought, these FIREWORKS and i
wanted to help him blow off. These fireworks and EVERY
time i wandered near my brother's blown, Off, fireworks beth
my wife, Would, be honey can you go get me
a glass?
Speaker 4: Of?
Speaker 3: Water. Sure OKAY then i wandered, Back, Over, honey hey
you KNOW what i need my sweater. Or sweatshirt it's in.
Your car can you go, Get yeah i'll go. Get,
IT right i want to hang out with. My brothers
she was, preventing me probably from getting like my arm,
blown OFF because i would have, probably, said hey this
is how you, do it EVEN though i had. NO
intention i just wanted to like. Help, out yeah but there.
These are my brothers were lighting, the fireworks maybe with,
a cigar, maybe not and then running backwards as if
like these things could blow off at any time and had.
No IDEA and i think she saw this AND thought
i might. Be next so for my, own protection she.
Prevented me did you?
Speaker 2: Ask?
Speaker 3: What, NO no i wanted TO just i just, theorized, that,
like okay that's the third time you've asked me to
do something within. Ten minutes and it's NOT like i
could just like walk two steps and get. IT now
i had to walk all the way to, the car
all the way up, the hill all the way up,
the stairs, back down say hi, to somebody talk, to
somebody do, something else come, back down and they're still blowing.
Off FIREWORKS and i wanted to hang out with. My
brothers my one brother went Back, to florida AND so, i, want, honey, no,
no no could you could you do? This INSTEAD because
i think she WAS afraid i was going to blow my,
hand off EVEN though i had no intentions of lighting
a single. FIREWORK myself i, don't know, but man when
you get up close, band them things, are loud right.
Speaker 2: They are they're.
Speaker 1: REAL loud i think one of one of the Ones
that kevin's house was like. A mortar i mean it,
was like, holy.
Speaker 3: Shit it's, just yeah blown off in. ONE thousands i don't.
Speaker 2: KNOW what i don't. KNOW what i don't know what.
HE had i didn't light. ANYTHING off i let the
kids saw, his kids, my kid and they went.
Speaker 3: ONE thing i.
Speaker 1: WILL think i WILL say i Came, Back wednesday that's what.
IT was i Got back wednesday at like eight o'clock.
Speaker 2: At.
Speaker 1: Night thursday, YOU know I just i'm still dragging. THIS
bronchitis i had. THE doctor i had THIS that i
wanted to get. Checked out and then the Fourth of
July Was. Friday saturday it's taking me like this long
to just get back into the swing and figure Out where.
I'm at and here comes a week right that's rushing,
at YOU and i don't. Know what what could happen
around the bend with the old man at?
Speaker 2: Any point, you know get that that's the ship that's
kind of driving. The nuts he didn't blow off, Anything.
Speaker 3: Though, No no and then a lot of people were
like complaining about like people blowing off fireworks on The
fifth oh did they still got left? Over it and
people like of people who blow up fourworks in the
fifth those ones who have animals have, to, like okay.
Time OUT if i got to deal with your dog
barking well most three sixty five days, A year i
don't have any sympathy. For you okay that don't get,
a dog then don't get a freaking, dog then And
know i'm gonna get hate mail. For this we get
to celebrate the Freedom. Of america next year is going
to be two.
Speaker 2: Hundred and fifty years. Years free maybe.
Speaker 3: That's right i'm milking every single day.
Speaker 1: Of whatever and by, the way the force On, a saturday,
that's alright so You, Know, Friday, saturday sunday right In,
a monday come, On RIGHT.
Speaker 3: So i, mean listen said like you could deal with
a couple of. Days off your dog's getting a little
scared of. The firework they don't, LAST forever. I understand
take a, deep breath just, you know pat the dog
and everything's gonna. Be okay give them, a treat they'll be.
Speaker 1: Fight's right just remember everything is always. Working out that's
the way. It is they're always, working out, all, Right
dandy we will wrap it for our first.
Speaker 3: One, back yes.
Speaker 1: Not bad oh by, the way Did the yankees win?
Speaker 2: Let, yesterday no my mom was at The.
Speaker 3: Su they'd Such dires this is that we're Talking. About
saturday there's such dire straits, right now like they call
for are going to. Be fired he won't. BE fired
I mean ifolti threw a ball back And Hit aaron
judge in. THE face, i mean they. Got problems the.
Bullpen sucks there's. No discipline they, can't field they, can't
hit they can't. Do anything. They're terrible And the mets
just came off like a losing streak Of the yeah.
Speaker 2: They Did the reds look like they're. Pretty hot they're.
Speaker 1: Doing, WELL yeah i mean. They were they beat up On.
The mets they beat up On. The phillies phillies are. Good,
too yeah and they get some fight in the stands
between A p you're.
Speaker 3: In the first ten days After The all, star break
we'll find out.
Speaker 1: Who's, who alright. Who's who we'll get to. All that
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