Speaker 1: He Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast by work
Speaker 1: Busties for work Busties. Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali.
Speaker 1: We're both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia. We're both millennials,
Speaker 1: and we're both trying to figure out how to build
Speaker 1: the lives we dream about, dating, marriage, career, career and
Speaker 1: being a mom.
Speaker 2: How to get through a week without crying.
Speaker 1: Welcome to Buns and Banter.
Speaker 2: We're glad you're here.
Speaker 1: Shoes off, filters off.
Speaker 2: Oh, isn't that just? Oh?
Speaker 1: Welcome into it?
Speaker 2: How goes it?
Speaker 1: How are we doing? How we feeling? I'm pretty okay?
Speaker 1: How are you? That was like a huge You just
Speaker 1: got off of a huge load of work with faster horses.
Speaker 1: You did a phenomenal job.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: How are you doing?
Speaker 2: Thank you for seeing us?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was fantastic.
Speaker 2: Really appreciate that.
Speaker 1: I try to throw a heart where where I can.
Speaker 2: We love that.
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of work.
Speaker 2: You're just the best hype girl. It was a great weekend.
Speaker 2: I was only there on Sunday because I was at
Speaker 2: a wedding. Oh yeah, which was fantastic, very cool, a
Speaker 2: venue that I had never been to in West Michigan,
Speaker 2: and I just like I love watching my people get married.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I will say one of the things that I especially
Speaker 2: love about weddings is like just the vows that people
Speaker 2: write or that they choose to go with for different yeah,
Speaker 2: occasions and ceremonies and stuff. This particular couple wrote their
Speaker 2: own vows and exchanged them in private, which I thought
Speaker 2: was so sweet. And then like we got the do
Speaker 2: you take so and so.
Speaker 1: Typical legality side of things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they had like their own price, which I
Speaker 2: thought was a nice touch. I had never seen that before.
Speaker 1: Oh that's fabulous.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then like man, love was in the air.
Speaker 2: People got engaged at faster horses.
Speaker 1: I thought you were about to stay at the wedding.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh no, okay, good.
Speaker 2: No, not at the wedding, but at faster horses, which
Speaker 2: see that. I love that. I love that for people.
Speaker 2: I love love. That is my personal nightmare.
Speaker 1: It's like jumbo tron proposals.
Speaker 2: For me, like jumbo tron sports events proposals stuff like that,
Speaker 2: where it's like so public. I just like can't I
Speaker 2: can't get on board personally, but like I love seeing
Speaker 2: it in public, and I love like celebrating that with people.
Speaker 2: I just like, would not want it for myself.
Speaker 1: Chris and I remember our proposal story so differently, and
Speaker 1: he constantly tells me I'm wrong. I'm like, there's no
Speaker 1: way I would ever have forgotten this part of our proposal.
Speaker 1: So he proposed to me in Chicago, which is important
Speaker 1: to me. My dad's from there. We used to take
Speaker 1: family trips all the time. His entire side of the
Speaker 1: family is still there were Chicago sports fans. So Chris
Speaker 1: actually took me to my first ever Blackhawks game.
Speaker 2: Oh that's cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd never gotten to see a hockey game at
Speaker 1: the United Center. I'd seen the Bulls play there, but
Speaker 1: I'd never seen the Hawks. It was really cool, really
Speaker 1: really fun night. And then we got out and there
Speaker 1: were no ubers, no lifts, nothing, not even like a
Speaker 1: regular taxi. So we figured we'd just hook it back
Speaker 1: downtown to our hotel, which was miles and I don't
Speaker 1: do distance well in my brain, so it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: it'll be like a six minute john And it was
Speaker 1: like an hour and a half to get back to
Speaker 1: where we were.
Speaker 2: And he's got the ring in he got.
Speaker 1: The ring in his pocket. He had the ring all
Speaker 1: night and he was acting a little strange, which now
Speaker 1: like looking back, you realize, and he we were crossing
Speaker 1: the bridge.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I I believe you made him walk
Speaker 2: miles downtown Chicago with a with your beautiful ring in
Speaker 2: his pocket. He's probably like, oh my god. Of course,
Speaker 2: the one time we get mugged in Chicago.
Speaker 1: His plan, as it turns out later, he was going
Speaker 1: to take me to the Sears Tower. It's the handcocked
Speaker 1: her or whatever it is now, the one that you
Speaker 1: get to go off, and like he was going to
Speaker 1: do it up there. Oh no, because he's such a planner.
Speaker 1: Google it during the game and it was like spring hours.
Speaker 1: This is closed at four pm. And he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: so that's not happening. So we're walking back and I'm
Speaker 1: sure he's trying to figure out how to do it.
Speaker 1: We're crossing this bridge and he figures it's really pretty.
Speaker 1: The moon is how we've got the skyline on either side.
Speaker 1: So I love that, right, And he goes and proposes
Speaker 1: to me, and it was very nice. Like I didn't
Speaker 1: believe it at first, and so it was just us
Speaker 1: on the bridge and I didn't realize that there was
Speaker 1: a gentleman dealing with homelessness that was also there, and
Speaker 1: he was the first one to congratulate us.
Speaker 2: And he went so nice but Eagles, Hey, man.
Speaker 1: That's a nice land you got there. He refuses, He
Speaker 1: does not say that that happened. I'm like, there is
Speaker 1: no way I just made up a person that was
Speaker 1: on this bridge. He's like, he was just a person
Speaker 1: walking by. He said, no, that was his home that
Speaker 1: we were like standing in proposing to.
Speaker 2: But he was lovely in that man's house.
Speaker 1: We went about ours and that's our story was it's
Speaker 1: very it's very cris mm. But we didn't actually do vows.
Speaker 1: Had a big old Catholic mass to make my parents happy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so we did, you know, the traditional whatever they
Speaker 1: allow you to do or say. I did not say obey.
Speaker 1: I refuse that part. I was like, well, we can
Speaker 1: switch that to agree upon things, compromise, but we're not
Speaker 1: going to obey. But we actually wrote each other letters,
Speaker 1: which I really liked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so cute.
Speaker 1: Open them right before.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we did that, big fan man. Weddings are just like,
Speaker 2: there's so much to them.
Speaker 1: Starting to do a lot of thinking about it.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. You know, sometimes it just like
Speaker 2: comes up in conversation and it's like, let's talk about it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: let's talk about it. Which is so wild because for
Speaker 2: such a long time I was just like so anti marriage,
Speaker 2: anti kids, and Jimmy is in finance, so I like
Speaker 2: ask I asked him a lot of financial questions, like
Speaker 2: what's a budget and how much money should I have?
Speaker 2: You know, just the basics.
Speaker 1: That's why we are looking for a man in finance,
Speaker 1: the basics. Five blue eyes, one out of three, A
Speaker 1: bad babe, one on a three am bad. He's gonna
Speaker 1: be mad at me.
Speaker 2: I said that. But the other day we were just
Speaker 2: like talking because like, you know, after we started dating,
Speaker 2: spent six months. By the way, hey so many if
Speaker 2: you ask me. But he doesn't count it from that day.
Speaker 2: He counts it from the day we define the relationship.
Speaker 1: So we'll go with it, all right, I guess say seven.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But like when we first started dating, I had
Speaker 2: opened like a brokerage account to save for like a
Speaker 2: bigger purchase, and in my mind it was like for
Speaker 2: a wedding. Yeah, And he was like when do you
Speaker 2: open that? Why do you open it? So like of course,
Speaker 2: he wants like all the like, Oh, I just knew
Speaker 2: you were the one.
Speaker 1: That's like weirdly romantic, like, Babe, when did you open
Speaker 1: your brokerage?
Speaker 2: Can't Oh my god, that's probably such a turn on
Speaker 2: for him.
Speaker 1: I bet it. Oh absolutely, oh.
Speaker 2: Right over my head.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. He probably sits at night and like
Speaker 1: goes through potential numbers and the things. Oh my god. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Oh i'd be so great.
Speaker 2: I don't think so, though, because surprisingly, for like a
Speaker 2: finance guy, he's like very nonchalant and just like very
Speaker 2: go with the flow on finances and stuff like that,
Speaker 2: Like he doesn't you know. I'm like, if you want
Speaker 2: to have the financial conversations, like I'll I'll have the conversations.
Speaker 2: And he's like, we don't need to talk about it
Speaker 2: until we're filing taxes jointly. And that is just like
Speaker 2: so bizarre to me that like a finance guy would
Speaker 2: be like I don't care, who cares. We can wait.
Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, that's nice. Cool, I'm a dumpster fire.
Speaker 2: Now I'll be a dumpster fire. Then no worries. If
Speaker 2: you wanted to get a handle on this early should
Speaker 2: probably intervene, but we'll chance it.
Speaker 1: You know how to extinguish part of that fire. Just
Speaker 1: don't question any of the boxes that show up in
Speaker 1: the shipment's on the front porch.
Speaker 2: Because I'm also like trying to get a new car.
Speaker 2: Right now, we're a car because I am riding around
Speaker 2: in the Star one of five point seven Dodge Journey.
Speaker 2: You see me around town, the.
Speaker 1: Mom fan yep, if you see her around town, it's
Speaker 1: not me.
Speaker 2: It's not Smitty. I wish, which I did. I did
Speaker 2: feel bad the other day. I was driving this station
Speaker 2: Maybe I shouldn't say this out loud, but you know,
Speaker 2: not everyone knows how to drive that drives, and there
Speaker 2: was someone in front of me who didn't know how
Speaker 2: to drive, and like I honked, and like I totally
Speaker 2: forgot that I was in a station vehicle. And I
Speaker 2: was like, ooh, I probably shouldn't have honked in the
Speaker 2: station vier. I probably should have just waited for them
Speaker 2: to realize that the light was green. But places to go,
Speaker 2: people to see, so just a little beep beep, And
Speaker 2: then I was like, oh shit, not only am I
Speaker 2: in a station vehicle, I'm not even in my own
Speaker 2: station vehicle to take the heat if it comes down
Speaker 2: they probably would think I was you.
Speaker 1: That's fine. I'm great with enlightening PDPs. That's what I
Speaker 1: call them. People driving poorly And if it takes a
Speaker 1: good beat babe to remind you that the light is
Speaker 1: indeed green, and green means go, you do that all
Speaker 1: day in that mom bangirl. You know what, I'm making
Speaker 1: the world a better place.
Speaker 2: Well, pretty soon, I'm gonna have a new vehicle if
Speaker 2: I ever figure out the budget. But you know, we're
Speaker 2: Jimmy and I were talking about like what my monthly
Speaker 2: payment would be and like what the down payment would be,
Speaker 2: and he was like, okay, well does this fit in
Speaker 2: your budget? And I'm like, well, it all fits in
Speaker 2: the budget. You just got to move stuff. And he's like, okay, wait,
Speaker 2: now your take home pay. And he's like trying to
Speaker 2: explain a budget to me like I'm a two year old,
Speaker 2: which I appreciate because you should's that is how you
Speaker 2: should explain things to me when it comes to finance.
Speaker 1: I'm still like counting eminem's to remind me of my
Speaker 1: math skills.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's helpful. Food would help. Food would help, just
Speaker 2: like from a like from a visual perspective and all
Speaker 2: so I am food motivated. So then but he's like,
Speaker 2: so what do you what do you spend? Like what
Speaker 2: do you spend a month on? Like your your must
Speaker 2: haves like your you know, your house note and your
Speaker 2: bills and your groceries. I don't know who.
Speaker 1: No, I don't either.
Speaker 2: I don't know. Uh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I know that I don't always buy impulse purchases right
Speaker 1: like Dorito's are a treat.
Speaker 2: And he's like, how do you what do you? Like?
Speaker 2: I can see in his brain that this makes no
Speaker 2: sense because he's like, how do you keep track of anything?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't really. I just kind of
Speaker 2: like hope it all works out, and like so far
Speaker 2: it has been.
Speaker 1: I figure one day I'm gonna die and it won't
Speaker 1: be my problem anymore.
Speaker 2: You can't take it with you know how all millennials
Speaker 2: are living? Right? No? What? But yeah, we had a
Speaker 2: good We had a good laugh over that. Although I
Speaker 2: feel like he was laughing at me and not with me,
Speaker 2: remains to be seen. Oh so helpful, so helpful.
Speaker 1: We've got to pivot for a minute because I need
Speaker 1: to ask if you think what I think about what's
Speaker 1: happening at work?
Speaker 2: Right now.
Speaker 1: I think we've got a discgruntled employee.
Speaker 2: Could be any one of us?
Speaker 1: Is this not anyone of the eight of us? So
Speaker 1: that's where this straw your suspect pool begins.
Speaker 2: This is not admissible in a quarter of law. By
Speaker 2: the way, that was kidding. I was just joking.
Speaker 1: Good disclaimer.
Speaker 2: I was just joking. What is it?
Speaker 1: What's the SVU beginning? Like all parties are Oh no,
Speaker 1: that's cops. All parties until proven guilty. I think this
Speaker 1: is the pettiest slash most hilarious.
Speaker 2: It was inconvenient, they but also it just like was
Speaker 2: so annoying.
Speaker 1: Yes, so inconvenient. We have a water cooler at work,
Speaker 1: like most places, Gordon Water shout them out. Somebody broke
Speaker 1: both spigots off of the water cooler so we couldn't
Speaker 1: get water. And it happened sometime. I got water at
Speaker 1: twelve thirty two pm on Friday. The spigots were not
Speaker 1: there four two am Monday.
Speaker 2: Monday, and like, I just like, who's here on the weekend?
Speaker 1: And I don't even know how, Like did they just
Speaker 1: snap them off? I guess because then somebody we're like,
Speaker 1: well we can't get our tap water?
Speaker 2: Is no. They have told us point blank, do not
Speaker 2: drink the water out of the taps. These are old pipes,
Speaker 2: they're probably lead. We don't need a lawsuit. Don't do it.
Speaker 1: No, no mesothelioma and lead in this body. So we
Speaker 1: need the water cooler, and so I came up with
Speaker 1: the idea because we also couldn't find the handles. Someone
Speaker 1: ditched the evidence. There was just no way to get
Speaker 1: water out. So we've been using needle nosed pliers, yeah,
Speaker 1: to like weirdly pull it up, and then even then
Speaker 1: it's just a slight dribble into the cup. And I'm
Speaker 1: thinking to myself, this has to be someone that hates
Speaker 1: working here, but don't take it out on the rest
Speaker 1: of us just to be a fly on the wall.
Speaker 1: I want to know who it was.
Speaker 2: I really would like to know, or if it.
Speaker 1: Was an accident, what made you so mad that you
Speaker 1: were going to get water out of the cooler and
Speaker 1: you were just like crack, try to like get the
Speaker 1: water out.
Speaker 2: But there are so many things that happen here that
Speaker 2: are just so questionable, that are so questioned such a
Speaker 2: good term like I leave here at least bi weekly
Speaker 2: thinking like what must be home lives of some of
Speaker 2: our esteemed colleagues. Look like, if you're willing to do
Speaker 2: that and work in front of people that you like, no,
Speaker 2: but you don't know no, Yeah, yeah, does that give
Speaker 2: you a little bit more mental freedom because you don't
Speaker 2: really know us, so you don't care. Because for me,
Speaker 2: it's the opposite, Like I am much more buttoned up
Speaker 2: around people that I don't know than people that I
Speaker 2: do know. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just it's a wild I just don't I
Speaker 1: don't understand it. And we were talking about this on
Speaker 1: one of my shows because I'm like, man, people must
Speaker 1: have insane stories about what happened when a coworker was
Speaker 1: fired or let go or whatever happened. Because you remember
Speaker 1: the one sales rep we had to call the police.
Speaker 1: Oh I do remember that too, pre COVID and I
Speaker 1: got a DMS or rough one. They literally told us
Speaker 1: to steer clear of the lobby because of the unfolding situation.
Speaker 1: You have to have more in your life than a
Speaker 1: job to get to that point. Oh my god.
Speaker 2: And there have been a lot of people who have
Speaker 2: been let go from here that like they've been let go,
Speaker 2: but they don't let goo. Yeah, they just like yup,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, listen, I love working here, don't get
Speaker 2: me wrong. Yeah, but if I get fired from this place,
Speaker 2: I am not going to spend any more time thinking
Speaker 2: about it. Or at least that's how I feel now. Now.
Speaker 2: Talk to me after I get fired, and then maybe
Speaker 2: I'll change my mind. Maybe it'll be my personal mission
Speaker 2: to like.
Speaker 1: Not that we're inviting this karma in.
Speaker 2: But no, no, no, no, never never, But I just like
Speaker 2: some people go full scorched earth, yes, and not even
Speaker 2: like specifically here, although it does seem like it has
Speaker 2: happened with quite a few people who have been invited
Speaker 2: to leave, but in all workplaces. And I get it,
Speaker 2: like if something really really shady and like you're terminated
Speaker 2: with and it was completely uncalled for or I don't
Speaker 2: even know what situation that would be, but it just
Speaker 2: seems like, why would you waste any more time on it?
Speaker 1: It's insane. I'll be happy. Go be happy, Go be happy.
Speaker 1: Go you know what, you just need to go. It's
Speaker 1: the same thing that parents hear about kids, like if
Speaker 1: your kids are having a hard time, add nature or water.
Speaker 1: One of those two things will work. Either take them outside,
Speaker 1: run some energy off, go for a walk, play out
Speaker 1: in the backyard, or like draw bath, or just give
Speaker 1: them a water bottle to hydrate water. Nature always fixes
Speaker 1: a good always fixes a mode.
Speaker 2: That's a good tip.
Speaker 1: It's a good tip and it works for adults too.
Speaker 1: It's like, who step outside? Because I got a message
Speaker 1: when I was talking about this from Catherine. I don't
Speaker 1: know if that's her real name or not, because she
Speaker 1: wouldn't tell me where she worked. And one of her
Speaker 1: managers got fired after a really bad situation with their CEO,
Speaker 1: and before he left, he emailed everyone everybody's salaries. That
Speaker 1: is scorched earth. Can you imagine if you just got
Speaker 1: a random email that was like piece out moufucker's and
Speaker 1: it had a list of what every person in your
Speaker 1: office makes for what they do?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I would love to see that list.
Speaker 1: Was like, oh, like petty and terrible, but do it?
Speaker 2: But like the robin hood of yeah mmm.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. And to be so
Speaker 1: planned on it too right to run to your email
Speaker 1: before they could shut you off and be like did
Speaker 1: you do send?
Speaker 2: See? I just I don't know if there is any
Speaker 2: like one thing that I would like if I knew
Speaker 2: it was coming, and I knew they were gonna do it.
Speaker 2: I don't know. Nothing comes to mind for me that
Speaker 2: I would like want to do like on my way out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I'm and I don't have the guts. I'm
Speaker 1: not confrontational. I have thought about though, like the song
Speaker 1: I would play on my phone as my own personal
Speaker 1: exit music. Yep, do tell it would be something upbeat,
Speaker 1: and it would probably it would probably be I don't know,
Speaker 1: either like like a Lizzo I'm feeling good, or like
Speaker 1: we're like way back, like a Oh my god, what
Speaker 1: was her name? I can see her face and she
Speaker 1: always did like walking down town faces past d D.
Speaker 2: Vanessa Carlton Carlton.
Speaker 1: It would probably be something stupid like that where I
Speaker 1: just felt like a late nineties early two thousands montage
Speaker 1: after like Anne Hathaway left her job in the Double
Speaker 1: Wars Prada. I think all the time about what my
Speaker 1: music that i'd have playing off my phone, not in headphones.
Speaker 1: I would want everyone to hear it and watch me
Speaker 1: walk to the beat as I get on the elevator
Speaker 1: to leave my job.
Speaker 2: You know, I'd be filming it to.
Speaker 1: Send you later. It's really something fun to think about
Speaker 1: your exit theme song hollo.
Speaker 2: Oates you make my dreams come true? Good? What that's
Speaker 2: a really good one. But that I mean, see, I'd
Speaker 2: be so busy with that.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even think about breaking off water spigotts so
Speaker 1: the rest of my former staff and colleagues had no
Speaker 1: water to drink.
Speaker 2: It's just such a bizarre, very specific thing crime if
Speaker 2: you will that. I kind of feel like it wasn't premeditated.
Speaker 2: It must have been an accident. But to do both,
Speaker 2: but to do both like what I thought the same thing.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh okay, but they're both off.
Speaker 2: And if it had happened by accident, possibly.
Speaker 1: You would have left the handles.
Speaker 2: Would you have told old people like if if you
Speaker 2: had done this by accident, would you have been like,
Speaker 2: uh oh.
Speaker 1: Oh no, actually I wouldn't have. I don't know how
Speaker 1: much those cost.
Speaker 2: I mean, they can't be.
Speaker 1: I didn't budget for a new water court this year.
Speaker 2: I feel like, yeah, I don't know how much they would.
Speaker 1: I would just be so nervous that they'd be like, okay,
Speaker 1: well it's gonna be five thousand dollars out of your
Speaker 1: next paycheck, and I'd be like, so that would be
Speaker 1: my next nine paychecks. So no, I wouldn't say anything,
Speaker 1: but I'm just curious. I'm just curious what's happening. Maybe
Speaker 1: there's something we can do to help.
Speaker 2: I saw a meme online today speaking of workplace drama,
Speaker 2: drama about this woman, and this could be totally made up,
Speaker 2: but I like memes, love them. I read them. This
Speaker 2: made me go, that's wild.
Speaker 1: I believe them.
Speaker 2: Same. This woman was like, hey, we just had like
Speaker 2: a new supervisor start at work, and like, I'm a
Speaker 2: direct report to this person. Turns out it's a guy
Speaker 2: I matched with on dating apps last year and he
Speaker 2: had sent.
Speaker 1: Me dick pics. No, what a welcome packet.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh my god, who would that
Speaker 2: be more awkward for it the guy reporting to the
Speaker 2: job or the girl who received the dick pics.
Speaker 1: It depends, I would say, the guy reporting to the job.
Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think, I don't care. I
Speaker 2: don't think that if they have another thought in their
Speaker 2: brain after they send them. I think they just like, well, Okay,
Speaker 2: see you later.
Speaker 1: It's like sending a pick of like a big fish
Speaker 1: who caught yep.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I think they carry about their carry
Speaker 2: a go on about their day.
Speaker 1: That's so weird. I would be like, as the as
Speaker 1: a woman, I would think it was hysterical, and I
Speaker 1: would bring up different ways to be like, so, what
Speaker 1: do you think you can offer this this place? What's
Speaker 1: what is? What's your hope to rise through the ranks? Which,
Speaker 1: please don't send me like unsolicited dpicts. That's not I'm
Speaker 1: not but i'd probably him a little bit of fun
Speaker 1: with it. See, it's a bold move. It is you
Speaker 1: never know who you're especially like our industry is so incestual.
Speaker 1: It feels like I'd be so scared to do that.
Speaker 2: Never again. Don't date your coworkers.
Speaker 1: Don't do it, And that could be an entire new episode.
Speaker 2: It is not fun experience. No vow.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think like vows, now's and no's.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: It's not something. There's your tip. Oh that's funny. I'd
Speaker 1: say that during the deep conversation.
Speaker 2: See, hey, so nice to meet you. I've got a
Speaker 2: couple tips for working here.
Speaker 1: God, I can't believe we're not in management yet.
Speaker 2: It's really it's shocking and surprising and yeah, transitioning, Oh
Speaker 2: did you have a bachelorette party I did.
Speaker 1: Where was it? It was friends themed, which is fun,
Speaker 1: and my friend hosted it at her house. We did
Speaker 1: a weekend, but everything was like hubbed at her house.
Speaker 1: We did a beach day, we went out one night,
Speaker 1: but stayed at her house. Did a bunch of things
Speaker 1: at her house.
Speaker 2: That's so nice.
Speaker 1: It was really really cool.
Speaker 2: Uh Oh, I'm going on a bachelorette party for my
Speaker 2: best friend. She's getting married in November, and we're going
Speaker 2: to Vermont. Oh and we have like, uh so stunning.
Speaker 2: We've got like this cabin. I think it's by water.
Speaker 2: I don't know. We're doing like boat stuff one day
Speaker 2: and like the highlight of my trip, aside from celebrating
Speaker 2: her upcoming nuptials, will be Ben and Jerry's, Oh that's good.
Speaker 2: I am so excited. But you know, with bachelorette parties
Speaker 2: and group trips. Jimmy asked me this the other day.
Speaker 2: He was like, are you excited? And I was like,
Speaker 2: I am so excited to celebrate my friend Ange who's
Speaker 2: getting married. I was like, I am so excited to
Speaker 2: celebrate with her, and like it's her bachelorette party, so yes,
Speaker 2: of course, I'm excited, but I'm about as excited as
Speaker 2: one can get for any group trip. Do you know
Speaker 2: everyone in the group just about just about. There are
Speaker 2: a couple that I'm like not super close with, Like
Speaker 2: I know them because they're good friends of hers. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but like not on my side of the friend group, right,
Speaker 2: But like everybody is super nice and like super chill,
Speaker 2: and like if you're a friend of Ange, you're already
Speaker 2: vetted and like I'm not worried about that. The dynamics
Speaker 2: of a group trip though, Like I love an itinerary. Yes,
Speaker 2: I would never have thought this about myself like ten
Speaker 2: years ago, but I am the person who plans out
Speaker 2: like every single hour of the trip, which I know
Speaker 2: some people love it, some people hate it.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: We don't have I'm not like a a We don't
Speaker 2: have to stick to the plan, but I just like
Speaker 2: having a plan so that we just have like a
Speaker 2: general because nothing irritates me more than just sitting around
Speaker 2: and wasting time being like where do you guys want
Speaker 2: to eat? What time do you want to go? Well?
Speaker 2: What time do you want to go? Well? I would
Speaker 2: I want to take a nap?
Speaker 1: Should we at?
Speaker 2: Just like those types of dynamics on group trips, and
Speaker 2: like I said, everyone is lovely and I'm sure it
Speaker 2: will be a lovely time. And this is nothing against
Speaker 2: anybody personally, it's just the crux of the logistics on
Speaker 2: trips like this.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And if you do want to go to dinner,
Speaker 1: you need to have a time, you need to have
Speaker 1: transportation because there's a number of you, and you want
Speaker 1: a reservation. You are my perfect travel partner because I
Speaker 1: don't do any of those things. But I love like
Speaker 1: and if you say, hey, here's like here's a general outline,
Speaker 1: there's a couple things, I will jump right in and
Speaker 1: be like sweet dinner Saturday night, let's do this, just
Speaker 1: found it like I'll fill in blanks, I'll help. I
Speaker 1: love a person that has but like I'll line.
Speaker 2: I like to have reservations made before we get there
Speaker 2: because then everything is there and if we want to
Speaker 2: do something else, like by all means, let's go with
Speaker 2: the flow and let's like feel the vibes and feel
Speaker 2: the energy. But you know, I don't want to get
Speaker 2: to a point where eleven of us are walking into
Speaker 2: this restaurant and they tell us that it's a two
Speaker 2: hour wait yes, and we are drunk and angry and
Speaker 2: a little bit tired because, let's be honest, but we're
Speaker 2: in our thirties now. Well, but we're in our thirties now,
Speaker 2: some of us approaching our mid thirties, and it's it's
Speaker 2: it's not the same as it was when we were
Speaker 2: twenty five. Go set you fast, live off of pretzel
Speaker 2: sticks and graft beer.
Speaker 1: Somebody brought a little bag of goldfish. It ties you
Speaker 1: over for like fourteen hours. Yeah, like everybody could split that.
Speaker 1: It's so funny because Chris is that for us, he
Speaker 1: is the planner, needs to have schedule. And I remember
Speaker 1: getting in such one of our biggest fights ever, I
Speaker 1: think last summer because we took the kids to Macanaw Island.
Speaker 1: We were playing staying up in the up. It's like,
Speaker 1: we'll just take a day trip, pop over and we
Speaker 1: get off the boat and Chris is like, okay, so
Speaker 1: now what and I was like, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: He goes, Okay, I know that you did not bring
Speaker 1: us to Macanaw Island in the middle of summer and
Speaker 1: not have a plan. And I was like, that is
Speaker 1: exactly what's happening, and he was because He's just like,
Speaker 1: all the restaurants are going to be full. Do we
Speaker 1: have tickets for the fort? Do you want to go
Speaker 1: to the fort? Are we gonna check out the butterfly house?
Speaker 2: This?
Speaker 1: This, this, And I'm like, we have a butterfly house.
Speaker 1: Have a butterfly house. Yeah, it's one of the things
Speaker 1: we got to do because there wasn't a line. And
Speaker 1: to be fair, we did not speak to each other
Speaker 1: for three and a half hours, but when we got
Speaker 1: back on the boat to go home, I did say,
Speaker 1: you're absolutely right, and I apologize because it was a nightmare.
Speaker 1: It must have been bad, must have been it's been
Speaker 1: bad English. But he does not prove anybody right.
Speaker 2: If she is so surprising about you, it is I
Speaker 2: just I don't know you were such a details person.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm such a details person when it
Speaker 1: comes to like here, or scheduling my kids or making
Speaker 1: sure things aren't missed that when it comes to something
Speaker 1: I consider to be leisurely, I'm just like, no, I
Speaker 1: don't have it. I spent it all on the other stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, but it was.
Speaker 1: It was terrible. It was a pain because you just
Speaker 1: you would go to restaurants and there were eight of
Speaker 1: us because we came with a couple of his family members.
Speaker 1: Look at your face. That's the exact face I got.
Speaker 1: We walked at least fifty to twenty feet from each
Speaker 1: other the entire day that we were there, because he
Speaker 1: wanted nothing more than to like drown me, and I
Speaker 1: wanted nothing more than to like blow a canon through
Speaker 1: his face.
Speaker 2: So what did you do about the food situation?
Speaker 1: We eventually found something.
Speaker 2: Making me panic even I know, right.
Speaker 1: We walked all the way up near the Grand Hotel
Speaker 1: and found a place that had some space, but we
Speaker 1: ended up eating at like two thirty three o'clock in
Speaker 1: the afternoon.
Speaker 2: No, no, I know. No.
Speaker 1: That's why I said, I love you who are my
Speaker 1: exact match? Because I'm the worst at that, And like this,
Speaker 1: I apologize because afterwards I thought about it, I said,
Speaker 1: that was really terrible. Like the kids survived on eight
Speaker 1: scoops of ice cream and a piece of fudge for
Speaker 1: like three hours. It wasn't ideal. But now I've learned
Speaker 1: my lesson. We need to have we'd have a general outline,
Speaker 1: get into the other women in a bachelorette party. I
Speaker 1: feel like, are gonna be so grateful for that.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm just like kind of confused by the whole
Speaker 2: thing because I thought that, like she's got a maid
Speaker 2: of honor and she's got a all of us are
Speaker 2: like close friends. But you know, I did kind of
Speaker 2: inquire or ask like, hey, if you need any help
Speaker 2: or like what's going on with a bachelorette party? And
Speaker 2: she was like, oh, it's all handled, like you guys
Speaker 2: are off the hook or whatever, and I was like, okay, great,
Speaker 2: Like I look forward to receiving the details now and now,
Speaker 2: like Angie the bride is like sending us like, hey,
Speaker 2: did you guys maybe want to charter a boat when
Speaker 2: we're there, And I'm like, Angie, this is next weekend,
Speaker 2: not this weekend. Next weekend, yeah, and She's like, no,
Speaker 2: they have availability, which is totally fine, but I'm like,
Speaker 2: why are you planning this? Why are you planning your
Speaker 2: own betch? Like I would have been happy to have
Speaker 2: stepped in and write I've done it, but I thought
Speaker 2: someone else was yeah. So I'm just like confused. And
Speaker 2: then we're also this is also how you know, we're
Speaker 2: in our mid thirties, We're gonna do a murder mystery
Speaker 2: while we're there.
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to do one of those.
Speaker 2: I hate them, really? Have you hate them so much? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I've done several. My group of friends really loves a
Speaker 2: murder mystery and I just do not. I do not,
Speaker 2: But I really like the character that I was assigned.
Speaker 2: Can't tell you about it because I don't want.
Speaker 1: To be already know though.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we've already been We've already been sent our characters,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna bring like some one piece of clothing.
Speaker 2: She asked us to bring one piece of clothing that
Speaker 2: fits our characters, sort of like identity.
Speaker 1: May I ask your piece of clothing is?
Speaker 2: Mmm, I don't know yet.
Speaker 1: Your friends might listen, so I don't want to give Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right, Oh I go crash this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gonna be fun. And she's like, we're I'm
Speaker 2: thinking like one nice in her out and I'm like,
Speaker 2: where there are eleven of us and it's rural Vermont. Oh,
Speaker 2: so I just like am wondering and like I don't
Speaker 2: want to overstep and be like I'm taking over. But
Speaker 2: also about that, I just like I don't want to
Speaker 2: get in a situation where because her and I and
Speaker 2: a couple of our other friends. Actually, a lot of
Speaker 2: the people that are going on this trip went on
Speaker 2: a bachelorette party in Nashville, like years and years and
Speaker 2: years ago, and that was one of the things that
Speaker 2: we ran into was that we didn't make reservations anywhere,
Speaker 2: so we were just gonna like go and then like
Speaker 2: with everyone's dietary preferences and the way that people eat,
Speaker 2: and like, now, if you don't feel good on a trip,
Speaker 2: that's make or break for the So I want everybody
Speaker 2: to feel good. I want everybody to have access to
Speaker 2: food that they eat. I want everyone to enjoy themselves.
Speaker 2: And that was a big cluster on that one back
Speaker 2: in the day, was that we didn't make reservations and
Speaker 2: we were trying to walk in places and again it
Speaker 2: was like a group of twelve or thirteen of us
Speaker 2: and we were like, oh god, we're idiots.
Speaker 1: I loved That's actually what I remember. One of the
Speaker 1: things I remember the most is how flawlessly my weekend went.
Speaker 1: And I know it's because my maid of honor and
Speaker 1: matron of honor put so much work into making sure
Speaker 1: everything was set. There was not a single moment where
Speaker 1: we were going to do something that wasn't prepared to
Speaker 1: be done. I loved it. Yeah, that's you're a good
Speaker 1: person to have it, and I would. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you were like, hey, I can.
Speaker 2: Do some of this. I texted. I texted a couple
Speaker 2: of the other girls, and I was like, hey, I
Speaker 2: don't know what anybody like has planned or if anybody
Speaker 2: has anything planned, but I'm more than happy to help. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And like the responses I got didn't really divulge too
Speaker 2: much information. It was just kind of like, oh, no,
Speaker 2: I'm all good. And I was like, because you have
Speaker 2: stuff planned, or because you don't have stuff planned, because
Speaker 2: all plant stuff right, because you know, are we gonna
Speaker 2: play like the slutty underwear game? Or like what are
Speaker 2: we doing? We got to embarrass her a little bit.
Speaker 1: Who's picking up the penis straws?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Come on, great question? Yep.
Speaker 1: I kept those. They're great straws. The ones I had
Speaker 1: have held up.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I made like very embarrassing gift bags for people
Speaker 2: at my sister's bachelor att party. Yes, decade ago, I
Speaker 2: was in my twenties. I still had the energy. But
Speaker 2: we went to New Orleans. We had a time. Oh,
Speaker 2: we had a time. Oh, but I put penis straws
Speaker 2: in there. I put condoms in there. All of these
Speaker 2: women were already married, and I was like, they don't
Speaker 2: need any of this shit, but they're getting all of it.
Speaker 1: It's nice to feel seen. Yeah, to think someday we
Speaker 1: will be wild and sewing our oas. Once again, I
Speaker 1: don't have time to sew any other there's we're just tired.
Speaker 1: But that's why. See, if you don't plan out a
Speaker 1: bachelorette party, you're going to just s end up being
Speaker 1: angry and someone else and nobody wants that. That's a reminder.
Speaker 2: I meant some people want some of it, not all
Speaker 2: of it, not all of it, but pick and choose
Speaker 2: some of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what. See, you are the person that is
Speaker 1: able to make that happen. Pick and choose your own adventure.
Speaker 1: I would trust you with that. Your organizational skills have
Speaker 1: made that turned on.
Speaker 2: It's a good way.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's a good end. There it is. We
Speaker 1: just got real personal and nobody thought that was happening.
Speaker 2: But nobody's surprised. Ha