Speaker 1: Hey, Sarah, and this is vocal dfraging.
Speaker 2: Vocal d fragging is asking yourself the questions and questioning
the answers. I do this on a transition walk through
this beautiful forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina. We all
go through many transitions, mood swings, mindsets, adventures, not so
fun adventures, challenges, changes. But we're not asking the questions
and then question any answers. We're just letting life happen.
I mean, you can see it in the headlines every day.
People just letting life happen. And when something doesn't agree
with you, then we tend to lash out or we
run away from. Vocal defragging doesn't have to be serious.
You can just have a regular one on one with
you that image in the mirror, that self that's always
asking questions and relying on other people to give them
the answer. Yeah, I've ever heard that term or seen
that thing happen where when people want something from you
so they can gain in their own personal life, they
can make more money, they can come across as being
a much more wiser person. Happens all the time. So
what are you taking from yourself that you should be replenishing?
This is vocal defragging. My subject today is the fact
that I have no subject. No really, really, I was
defragging before I came out here, and I asked the question,
what are you going to talk about today?
Speaker 1: And I said, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I've done so many things this morning and been so
many different types of people and personalities that I feel
like that I'm dry, I'm empty. I don't know what
is going on except that I'm in a transition period.
So how do you ask the questions and question the
answers if you're in a dry period? You asked that question,
what's made you dry? Why are you empty in the soul?
In a place where it's a beautiful day in this forest,
the temperature is perfect, it's fall, the leaves are falling
from the trees. It looks like the final dance is
just a beautiful waterfall of color. So what would make
you empty? What would make you unrelatable to the self
that you are? And I think sometimes it's because we
do take from ourselves way too much without replenishing what
we just took, or we're sitting there very impatiently waiting
for the change to happen, and if that change doesn't
bring you exactly what you envisioned on paper or inside
your imagination, then we become disappointed in the selves that
we are getting around. This means being truthful with the
multiple personalities that you carry. You can't tell me that
you are the same person every day. I do not
believe in that theory at all. I believe that we
change by the minute a red light dinner is late.
Your kids just said something that has upset you so badly,
but we don't talk about it. What we do is
we step in it or we step around it, but
we don't deal with the situation of trying to understand
what the trigger point was. My father was a very
grumpy man. We've talked about that many times on vocal
DFRAG and in the process of trying to understand him.
Now the goal is to find ourselves in a situation
of not being who we once lived with or grew
up with. Why he was a grumpy man's that's his story.
I only have the assumption, So therefore I'm not going
to invest in such a movement because I'm only assuming
the same is true about my sister. She was always
in a mindset of accusing people of attacking her. Why
was she that way? Not my position to come up
with an answer. Your day should be treated like that
of a birthday. In other words, you should walk into
each day as a gift, something that has been given
to you in the way of how am I going
to turn this into a day of opportunity?
Speaker 1: Those moments where you.
Speaker 2: Go, man, I just don't feel like it, that's the
best time to do it when you don't feel like it,
because that means your guard is down. You're not going
to be mister or missus perfectionist, and you're not going
to be the procrastinator that's setting things aside all the time.
So when you have a situation where you go, I
don't hold the answer, I'm waiting for the universe or
someone to give it to me. Well, you're gonna be
waiting in a long time, because ultimately you're the one
that has got to decide for yourself that this is
the position you're going to be in. And if I
sit here and I say I have nothing to say,
and I stick to that for the rest of the day,
then I think that I've wasted this birthday. I think
I've voiced this gift that's been handed to me when
we all know for a fact that we all bring
something to the entire celebration of life. I think one
of our biggest weaknesses is the fact that we think
that when we do write something down, or we say
something on social media, or or we do something in
a vocal d frag, we think that it has to
be moving. Now, you need to let that one go,
because you're not going to be given a number one
song every time that you feel.
Speaker 1: Like that creativity has taken over your heart.
Speaker 2: You know, it was a Randy Bachman of Bachman Turner
Overdrive that once said to me, you know me for
my hits, but you don't know me for my strikeouts.
How about those moments in your own personal life? Have
you ever gone back to recogniz or even just to
listen to those moments where you decided that you failed
when in fact it could have been just a step
a step of growing forward. I was talking with someone
yesterday about those moments where you take chances. How do
you believe in an opportunity if you don't really take
a chance. He was a comedian and he said that
in order for him to do what he's known for today,
which is writing parody songs. He had to make a
lot of mistakes in front of a lot of people
in comedy clubs that looked at him and gave him
strange faces and reactions. But because he stayed true to
what he felt was his calling of creating these parody songs,
now he's able to have his own album, his own
specials on Comedy Central. He's really growing with himself because
he looked at what he was doing and he began
to listen to what he was doing, because he got
to know who he was as a person. So I
ask you that question, who are you? Why do you
think you are? How can you improve what you think
you are? If you don't ask the questions. There are
so many things going on in our minds at all
times that I don't get how we can sleep. I
don't get how we can get rest. Most of us
are taking melatonin, and the medical world is saying, dude,
that's way too much. You don't need to do that.
Find another way to get some rest. Meditation is a
great way to get some rest. Writing is a place
of rest. But if you go there to write something
and something isn't coming out, what happens? Then most people
just close the journal, shut off their little notes on
their smartphone, and they say, I'm not feeling it today, which,
in reality, is when you should be writing when you
don't feel it, because then you start asking yourself questions,
and you've always got a subject. How about this helicopter
that's flying over me right now in this forest in
South Charlotte, North Carolina. How we sit there and wonder
what are they looking for? Are they looking for a
mass murderer? Are they find some pot fields somewhere? They
think something's going on inside this forest? Ooh, the mystery
is on. See if you allow yourself to give yourself
permission to just be playful when things aren't going right,
turn it into a joke, laugh about it, as they
tell us in radio, laugh at yourself. Ask the questions,
question the answers. I call it vocal d fragging. I
keep a written journal because I want to go back
and study the word as well as the way that
the words were written, because that really, if you're a
daily writer, you'll you'll be able to understand your mindsets
and mood swings just by.
Speaker 1: The curves of your words.
Speaker 2: And then the vocal dfrag it helps us with the pitch, volume,
and tone of our expressions. We can go back and
listen to it and see how committed we were to
the situation or how disconnected we were to.
Speaker 1: The moment of what is now. I'm Eron, and that's
the vocal D frag