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Speaker 1: Hey, Sarah, and this is vocal dfraging.

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Speaker 2: Vocal d fragging is asking yourself the questions and questioning

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the answers. I do this on a transition walk through

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this beautiful forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina. We all

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go through many transitions, mood swings, mindsets, adventures, not so

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fun adventures, challenges, changes. But we're not asking the questions

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and then question any answers. We're just letting life happen.

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I mean, you can see it in the headlines every day.

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People just letting life happen. And when something doesn't agree

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with you, then we tend to lash out or we

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run away from. Vocal defragging doesn't have to be serious.

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You can just have a regular one on one with

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you that image in the mirror, that self that's always

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asking questions and relying on other people to give them

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the answer. Yeah, I've ever heard that term or seen

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that thing happen where when people want something from you

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so they can gain in their own personal life, they

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can make more money, they can come across as being

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a much more wiser person. Happens all the time. So

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what are you taking from yourself that you should be replenishing?

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This is vocal defragging. My subject today is the fact

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that I have no subject. No really, really, I was

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defragging before I came out here, and I asked the question,

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what are you going to talk about today?

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Speaker 1: And I said, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I've done so many things this morning and been so

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many different types of people and personalities that I feel

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like that I'm dry, I'm empty. I don't know what

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is going on except that I'm in a transition period.

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So how do you ask the questions and question the

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answers if you're in a dry period? You asked that question,

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what's made you dry? Why are you empty in the soul?

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In a place where it's a beautiful day in this forest,

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the temperature is perfect, it's fall, the leaves are falling

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from the trees. It looks like the final dance is

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just a beautiful waterfall of color. So what would make

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you empty? What would make you unrelatable to the self

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that you are? And I think sometimes it's because we

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do take from ourselves way too much without replenishing what

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we just took, or we're sitting there very impatiently waiting

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for the change to happen, and if that change doesn't

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bring you exactly what you envisioned on paper or inside

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your imagination, then we become disappointed in the selves that

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we are getting around. This means being truthful with the

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multiple personalities that you carry. You can't tell me that

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you are the same person every day. I do not

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believe in that theory at all. I believe that we

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change by the minute a red light dinner is late.

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Your kids just said something that has upset you so badly,

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but we don't talk about it. What we do is

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we step in it or we step around it, but

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we don't deal with the situation of trying to understand

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what the trigger point was. My father was a very

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grumpy man. We've talked about that many times on vocal

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DFRAG and in the process of trying to understand him.

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Now the goal is to find ourselves in a situation

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of not being who we once lived with or grew

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up with. Why he was a grumpy man's that's his story.

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I only have the assumption, So therefore I'm not going

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to invest in such a movement because I'm only assuming

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the same is true about my sister. She was always

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in a mindset of accusing people of attacking her. Why

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was she that way? Not my position to come up

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with an answer. Your day should be treated like that

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of a birthday. In other words, you should walk into

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each day as a gift, something that has been given

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to you in the way of how am I going

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to turn this into a day of opportunity?

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Speaker 1: Those moments where you.

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Speaker 2: Go, man, I just don't feel like it, that's the

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best time to do it when you don't feel like it,

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because that means your guard is down. You're not going

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to be mister or missus perfectionist, and you're not going

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to be the procrastinator that's setting things aside all the time.

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So when you have a situation where you go, I

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don't hold the answer, I'm waiting for the universe or

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someone to give it to me. Well, you're gonna be

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waiting in a long time, because ultimately you're the one

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that has got to decide for yourself that this is

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the position you're going to be in. And if I

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sit here and I say I have nothing to say,

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and I stick to that for the rest of the day,

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then I think that I've wasted this birthday. I think

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I've voiced this gift that's been handed to me when

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we all know for a fact that we all bring

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something to the entire celebration of life. I think one

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of our biggest weaknesses is the fact that we think

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that when we do write something down, or we say

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something on social media, or or we do something in

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a vocal d frag, we think that it has to

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be moving. Now, you need to let that one go,

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because you're not going to be given a number one

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song every time that you feel.

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Speaker 1: Like that creativity has taken over your heart.

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Speaker 2: You know, it was a Randy Bachman of Bachman Turner

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Overdrive that once said to me, you know me for

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my hits, but you don't know me for my strikeouts.

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How about those moments in your own personal life? Have

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you ever gone back to recogniz or even just to

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listen to those moments where you decided that you failed

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when in fact it could have been just a step

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a step of growing forward. I was talking with someone

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yesterday about those moments where you take chances. How do

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you believe in an opportunity if you don't really take

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a chance. He was a comedian and he said that

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in order for him to do what he's known for today,

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which is writing parody songs. He had to make a

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lot of mistakes in front of a lot of people

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in comedy clubs that looked at him and gave him

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strange faces and reactions. But because he stayed true to

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what he felt was his calling of creating these parody songs,

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now he's able to have his own album, his own

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specials on Comedy Central. He's really growing with himself because

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he looked at what he was doing and he began

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to listen to what he was doing, because he got

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to know who he was as a person. So I

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ask you that question, who are you? Why do you

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think you are? How can you improve what you think

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you are? If you don't ask the questions. There are

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so many things going on in our minds at all

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times that I don't get how we can sleep. I

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don't get how we can get rest. Most of us

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are taking melatonin, and the medical world is saying, dude,

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that's way too much. You don't need to do that.

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Find another way to get some rest. Meditation is a

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great way to get some rest. Writing is a place

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of rest. But if you go there to write something

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and something isn't coming out, what happens? Then most people

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just close the journal, shut off their little notes on

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their smartphone, and they say, I'm not feeling it today, which,

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in reality, is when you should be writing when you

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don't feel it, because then you start asking yourself questions,

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and you've always got a subject. How about this helicopter

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that's flying over me right now in this forest in

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South Charlotte, North Carolina. How we sit there and wonder

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what are they looking for? Are they looking for a

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mass murderer? Are they find some pot fields somewhere? They

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think something's going on inside this forest? Ooh, the mystery

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is on. See if you allow yourself to give yourself

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permission to just be playful when things aren't going right,

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turn it into a joke, laugh about it, as they

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tell us in radio, laugh at yourself. Ask the questions,

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question the answers. I call it vocal d fragging. I

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keep a written journal because I want to go back

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and study the word as well as the way that

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the words were written, because that really, if you're a

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daily writer, you'll you'll be able to understand your mindsets

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and mood swings just by.

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Speaker 1: The curves of your words.

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Speaker 2: And then the vocal dfrag it helps us with the pitch, volume,

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and tone of our expressions. We can go back and

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listen to it and see how committed we were to

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the situation or how disconnected we were to.

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Speaker 1: The moment of what is now. I'm Eron, and that's

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the vocal D frag