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Speaker 2: ten wor or iHeartMedia. Who is Mark Webber. He's a
Speaker 2: self made business executive here to help you find your success,
Speaker 2: from the New York City projects to the.
Speaker 1: Avenue Montaigne in Paris.
Speaker 2: His global success story in the luxury world of fashion
Speaker 2: is inspirational. He's gone from clerk to CEO twice. Mark
Speaker 2: his classic proof that the American dream is alive. And well,
Speaker 2: here's your host of Always in Fashion, Mark Weber.
Speaker 3: Mark Weber. It's freezing out there. There's no way you
Speaker 3: can like this weather. No, I must admit I do
Speaker 3: like the seasonality of New York. But then I think
Speaker 3: of the reality, as I know there are places in
Speaker 3: the United States where the sun is out people are
Speaker 3: wearing short sleeves right now. Pisses me off. Florida, Los Angeles.
Speaker 3: I spent so much time there in the winter, and
Speaker 3: I know what those places are like as we're freezing.
Speaker 3: Yet I don't like the snow. It's too much of
Speaker 3: a hassle. And after the snowfall, it gets slushy, ugly,
Speaker 3: and we're all penalized. We're wet, we're walking, we're driving.
Speaker 3: Its pain. It's freezing. I do not like it. So
Speaker 3: why am I talking this? Because it's cold? It got
Speaker 3: me thinking, thinking that it's cold not just outside. Sometimes
Speaker 3: in life it's cold on the inside as well. We've
Speaker 3: known it. It's the cold treatment, turning cold on an idea,
Speaker 3: things that leave me cold. I've been on the wrong
Speaker 3: side of the cold treatment more times than I care
Speaker 3: to admit. But I also must admit I become an
Speaker 3: expert at freezing people out. I'm great at dishing out
Speaker 3: the cold treat. Words can be harsh, they can be cold.
Speaker 3: No is the coldest word, the coldest answer to anyone.
Speaker 3: People hate to be told no. I love it. I
Speaker 3: love the word no. Nos Off is the smartest choice
Speaker 3: and the smartest response you can come up with. There
Speaker 3: are expressions come in from the cold, have a cold one.
Speaker 3: She's as cold as ice. I should say. The cold
Speaker 3: is getting me cursing a little bit tonight, and I apologize.
Speaker 3: I never curse, but I can't help myself. I'm freezing
Speaker 3: my ass off. Got me thinking of the cold, the
Speaker 3: application of coldness and business in life. Yeah, I got
Speaker 3: things I want to talk about tonight. And I'm told
Speaker 3: you guys out there like stories, Well I got some
Speaker 3: stories to tell. I wonder about people you want cold.
Speaker 3: You could do a million things for someone, always be
Speaker 3: there for them. But the first time you don't agree
Speaker 3: or can't comply with what they ask, all bets are off.
Speaker 3: They can't stand you. You don't think. So here's an example.
Speaker 3: There's someone working for you. You bring them along, you
Speaker 3: give them better than average raises each year, and then
Speaker 3: the first time they're disappointed or expecting more, and expecting
Speaker 3: is a bad word only eclipse by entitlement. Anyway, don't
Speaker 3: agree that relationship is over, Then talk about someone they
Speaker 3: find out cold. Talk poorly about someone to me, I'm
Speaker 3: done with you. I'll smile. You won't know, but you
Speaker 3: will see as time goes on. You can't talk about
Speaker 3: people badly to me, I just don't agree with it.
Speaker 3: Talk badly about the company or the management which I'm
Speaker 3: a part of. Hell hath no fury. As a women's
Speaker 3: scorned nor Mark Weber scorned. Bottom line is freezing outside
Speaker 3: and inside tonight it always in fashion. Joining me the
Speaker 3: always warm hearted co hosts have always in fashion, my
Speaker 3: lawyer and my son Jesse Weber warm hearted.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 4: That's very nice of you to say, Hey, everybody, let's
Speaker 4: get right into it though, with all this, because you,
Speaker 4: my friend, are a tough love father. And I say
Speaker 4: that with all due respect and all due love. When
Speaker 4: you don't like something that I do, you're as cold
Speaker 4: as ice.
Speaker 3: Ah, come on, what are you talking about? I'm so easy.
Speaker 4: What are you talking about? You don't stop, You're relentless.
Speaker 4: You hang up on the phone. Are you in the
Speaker 4: call immediately? If you don't like what I'm saying, I
Speaker 4: know you're angry.
Speaker 3: I know it.
Speaker 1: I see it.
Speaker 4: Look I can't help but feel guilty saying it, but
Speaker 4: it's what I feel.
Speaker 3: Okay, good? Do you change your mind? Should I ask
Speaker 3: you to repeat after me? No?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, you got it. See. You may not
Speaker 5: always be right, but you're never.
Speaker 3: Wrong right exactly.
Speaker 5: See it bothers me, but it is true.
Speaker 4: It is true. You can't deny it. Mister tough guy.
Speaker 4: By the way, I always know you have my best
Speaker 4: interest at heart.
Speaker 5: That's clear. You never waiver. You always want to do
Speaker 5: what's right for me. But you are tough.
Speaker 3: So I'm not cold.
Speaker 5: No, you're cold. You're cold. Can I talk about COVID nineteen.
Speaker 5: Let me be clear about this.
Speaker 4: Sure, COVID nineteen very serious destroyed our world for a
Speaker 4: period of time. We have a much better understanding of
Speaker 4: this now than we.
Speaker 3: Do I so we think.
Speaker 4: I think it's a little different in twenty twenty four
Speaker 4: than it was in twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's true, but we still don't know what's going on.
Speaker 4: I had what would be an emergency. I had to
Speaker 4: go to something this weekend. It was a family function.
Speaker 4: I had no choice, and unfortunately, where I was going
Speaker 4: one of the people that I had to be around.
Speaker 4: I had no choice, and I wanted to be around.
Speaker 4: I had COVID and this was a person who was
Speaker 4: already at the tail end of their COVID nineteen diagnosis.
Speaker 4: They already had had it for about five days. But
Speaker 4: the person wore a mask, and I had to be
Speaker 4: around that person.
Speaker 5: I know you did more.
Speaker 4: Detailed, Yes, I know you did it. I'm going to
Speaker 4: get I'm not getting into more details. I had no
Speaker 4: choice but to be around that person. And look, I
Speaker 4: told you this is what it was. I didn't regret
Speaker 4: any of my decisions to be around this person. It
Speaker 4: turns out I'm fine, by the way, but it turns
Speaker 4: out somebody else who was close to that person may
Speaker 4: have gotten COVID nineteen.
Speaker 5: And now you're doing I told you so. I told
Speaker 5: you so, which is.
Speaker 4: Just not fair given the circumstances of the situation.
Speaker 5: I had to be around that person.
Speaker 3: Fairis for kids. You didn't have to be close to it.
Speaker 3: Twenty other people who could have been closed where you
Speaker 3: didn't have to be closed.
Speaker 4: I want to run away, but I'm fine, and you
Speaker 4: still won't let me home. You won't let me near you.
Speaker 4: Your brutal, your cold des ice.
Speaker 3: Exactly. Listen, while we're talking cold, let's suck cold in
Speaker 3: the world. I want to talk about the other day.
Speaker 3: You were on Cyrus Radio H and you were talking
Speaker 3: about the political coverage on Donald Trump after he won
Speaker 3: the Ohio caucuses.
Speaker 5: Why do you talk or Iowa or Iowa?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah that too, Yeah, Yeah, you're cold.
Speaker 5: I'm correcting.
Speaker 3: I'll give you a parlor of break.
Speaker 5: You hate being corrected, particularly on the air.
Speaker 4: But anyway, this has been a question on news organization's
Speaker 4: mind since twenty sixteen, how do you cover Donald Trump?
Speaker 4: And now they're in the position where the fact that
Speaker 4: he won the Iowa Caucus, it looks like he's going
Speaker 4: to win the Republican nomination for president, and by all accounts,
Speaker 4: there is a very strong likelihood he's going to be
Speaker 4: the next president of the United States. So the media
Speaker 4: has to take him seriously. This is unlike twenty twenty one.
Speaker 4: After he lost the twenty twenty election, they have to
Speaker 4: take him seriously. Now what happened after he won Iowa
Speaker 4: and he's giving a victory speech. MSNBC and CNN and
Speaker 4: even Fox News to an extent cut off his speech.
Speaker 5: They didn't air it in its entirety.
Speaker 4: In fact, Rachel Maddow deliberately said that she's not gonna
Speaker 4: cover his speech because it's filled with inaccuracies and things
Speaker 4: that are not true. So news organizations are in the
Speaker 4: position right now how do they cover Donald Trump? Do
Speaker 4: they want to air conspiracy theories? Do they want to
Speaker 4: air things that aren't true. I'm of the opinion you
Speaker 4: air Donald Trump, you show what he has to say.
Speaker 4: If you want to fact check him, be my guest,
Speaker 4: But to just silence him and censor him. I find
Speaker 4: that to be very problematic, and some of news organizations
Speaker 4: are taking the cold approach. We're gonna cut him off.
Speaker 4: We don't want to air him, even though he is
Speaker 4: such an important figure in our American politics.
Speaker 5: Do you disagree with me?
Speaker 3: No, not at all. Isn't that an effect dealing with
Speaker 3: the election and bias in an election? You're telling me
Speaker 3: everything that comes out of the president smell or who's
Speaker 3: that guy? I can't stand in California Scheff Adam Schiff? Yeah? Him?
Speaker 3: Are you kidding me? All these people every the word
Speaker 3: out of them out you know how you know the
Speaker 3: line their lips a movie.
Speaker 4: But here's the bigger issue, right where do you draw
Speaker 4: the line? Do you start cutting off Donald Trump when
Speaker 4: you don't agree with his policies? Because Jake Tapper from CNN,
Speaker 4: as soon as Donald Trump was talking about the border
Speaker 4: and immigration, he cut him off. He wasn't talking about
Speaker 4: conspiracy theories, he wasn't talking about the election being stolen.
Speaker 4: He was talking about the border, a real issue. That's
Speaker 4: when you decide to cut him off. At what point
Speaker 4: do we get to the opinion. This is when the
Speaker 4: art audience doesn't need to hear from Donald Trump anymore.
Speaker 5: That's where I find the problem.
Speaker 3: You had a guest on I don't know his name.
Speaker 3: He's very articulate, very.
Speaker 5: Smart, Aiden McLaughlin from Media eight.
Speaker 3: Very sharp guy. I really enjoyed listening to him. But
Speaker 3: he did not like Trump. He referred to saying that
Speaker 3: Trump during his presidency had twenty thousand lies. But with
Speaker 3: all due respect, what's the number for all these other people?
Speaker 4: I guess the only difference and the comparison you could
Speaker 4: make is if you talk about Donald Trump's words regarding
Speaker 4: the election. Arguably people were relying on what he was
Speaker 4: saying about the election to storm the Capitol on January sixth.
Speaker 5: There is a concern he.
Speaker 3: Didn't tell anybody to storm.
Speaker 4: That, but they believe the election was legitimately stolen, and
Speaker 4: a big reason was because of what Donald Trump was saying.
Speaker 4: So people are concerned that if they just air I
Speaker 4: give a platform to everything Donald Trump says, it could
Speaker 4: create a dangerous situation. That's the difference I think between
Speaker 4: him and perhaps of Biden.
Speaker 3: But here's the thing. All the statements that come out
Speaker 3: of the other side. I've said it. What comes to
Speaker 3: social issues, take abortion. I am hard left with the Democrats.
Speaker 3: I'm not a woke guy. I don't want to know
Speaker 3: from it. I think with the teaching in schools, the
Speaker 3: positions they've taken, I think we're a laughing stock in
Speaker 3: the world, and we give it a get straight. I
Speaker 3: think the country's in real trouble. But having said that,
Speaker 3: there's all kinds of nonsense coming out of everyone, and
Speaker 3: we shouldn't just pick on Trump. Bottom line, you can
Speaker 3: dislike this man. I get it. He dealt with people
Speaker 3: I like. I would be alone all the time in
Speaker 3: my office. I wouldn't let anyone in. I don't like humans.
Speaker 3: It's clear. I'll tell you though, though it's also clear
Speaker 3: I don't have to like Trump, so please pay attention.
Speaker 3: This is important. The older I get, the wiser I get.
Speaker 3: I've learned that I care less about what people say
Speaker 3: they will do. I care only about what they will do.
Speaker 3: Trump don't like them. It's not a popularity contest. This
Speaker 3: country's crazy. We're nuts. There's nothing wrong with saying America first.
Speaker 3: What country doesn't put itself first? Every decision we make
Speaker 3: should be for ourselves first. It doesn't isolate us from
Speaker 3: the rest of the world, but we should worry about ourselves.
Speaker 3: The border. Biden and his team destroyed our border. Illegal illegals, illegals, illegals.
Speaker 3: The Democrats won't admit it. I can't stand them for that.
Speaker 3: There were no wars. Unto Trump, he made it clear
Speaker 3: that he would not have wars. Then that's not forget.
Speaker 3: Drill baby, drill independent for the first time maybe in
Speaker 3: our history, on energy, rather than be relying on countries
Speaker 3: that don't like us, that hate us. We had a
Speaker 3: vibrant economy. Everyone was working, real wage growth. People were
Speaker 3: making more money. Make American life great again. That's the cold,
Speaker 3: hard truth. I get it. We're freezing. I'll be back
Speaker 3: in a minute. Maybe I'll calm down, warm up.
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Speaker 2: ISID Welcome back to Always in Fashion. Here's your host,
Speaker 2: Mark Webber.
Speaker 3: It's freezing. I hate it. The only good thing that's
Speaker 3: coming out of freezing this week. It got me thinking
Speaker 3: about being cold. This show is original content. We don't
Speaker 3: do sports, we don't do news and weather, and not
Speaker 3: a political show where lifestyle and cultural and things come up.
Speaker 3: Freezing made me think about the cold, and it's very
Speaker 3: clear that it can be cold outside but also can
Speaker 3: be cold inside. I want to talk about criticism a bit.
Speaker 3: Everybody has an opinion. The only one that matters is yours.
Speaker 3: To that u't self be true, said Shakespeare. Robert Downey Jr.
Speaker 3: The Critics Choice Awards was Sensation. He gotta like that
Speaker 3: guy for everything He does. He's an amazing actor. He's
Speaker 3: great as iron Man. Jesse's you have figures in the house.
Speaker 3: By the way, like a ja.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you Ironman, favorite superhero and the way
Speaker 4: he portrayed him, no one else could do it.
Speaker 5: Love that guy.
Speaker 4: And by the way, he's one of those actors who
Speaker 4: actually became his character. Tell me you don't see him,
Speaker 4: You're like, that's Tony Stark.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. Anyway, he's at the Critic Choice Award
Speaker 3: and he was receiving the Best Supporting Actor for Oppenheim.
Speaker 3: He got up there, he was really great. You want
Speaker 3: to cover what he said.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was amazing.
Speaker 4: He gets up there, he goes, love the critics. Love
Speaker 4: the critics that you could tell he's he's vague, facetious,
Speaker 4: and he goes, he goes, let me just pull out
Speaker 4: some of their quotes about me in the past few years.
Speaker 4: And he takes out a selection of like three or
Speaker 4: four quotes that just have trashed his acting in the past.
Speaker 5: Like really really, really bad stuff. And it was hilarious
Speaker 5: that he was reading it.
Speaker 3: They set up sloppy, messy, and lazy. While the final
Speaker 3: review called him as an amusing as a Bedlock fart.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he had the room rolling.
Speaker 3: So anyway back to criticism, we got some good one
Speaker 3: right now. Jesse, you were on the radio on w WALLAS.
Speaker 3: Why did you talk about what happened?
Speaker 4: So I had the great opportunity to fill in for
Speaker 4: Mark Simone, mister New York here on seven to ten
Speaker 4: WR this past week and two parts of the show.
Speaker 4: I take live callers, people who want to call into
Speaker 4: the show, and I think that they're going to talk
Speaker 4: about what I'm talking about, Trump, Biden, whatever it might be, politics, law,
Speaker 4: and two callers call in and all they can talk
Speaker 4: about is how much they love you and how much
Speaker 4: they love always in fashion. Didn't put them up to it,
Speaker 4: don't know who they are. And if we have an opportunity,
Speaker 4: can we play those clips? Can we play those calls?
Speaker 5: Josh from Los Angeles, California. Hey, Josh are you doing?
Speaker 3: Jess, big fan of your show with your father's and
Speaker 3: I know you did.
Speaker 6: He's listening and I just.
Speaker 5: Love it when you guys go fashion, social fashion.
Speaker 6: Great show.
Speaker 3: Everyone should thank you, Thank you.
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Speaker 4: Are you listening, Are you listening? Thank you very much,
Speaker 4: Thank you, appreciate.
Speaker 6: That anybody who's into fashion or into anything like that,
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Speaker 5: Let's go to Vincent from Brooklyn.
Speaker 6: Good morning, Jesse. Last weekend, you aren't on your father's show,
Speaker 6: and your father was talking about what to do after
Speaker 6: you got fired or you got turned down for a job.
Speaker 6: That was very good. Your father said, remember your qualities,
Speaker 6: your skills. You didn't lose it, very very good. Your
Speaker 6: father was be morning the fact that you weren't there.
Speaker 3: Aside from those two guys who now are my favorites,
Speaker 3: I love them, I don't like you humans. My list
Speaker 3: for disliking humans is endless. I didn't wake up one
Speaker 3: day and say I don't like my fellow man. No,
Speaker 3: this dislike was earned over a long period of years,
Speaker 3: watching and observing behavior. Jealousy never understood it. We all
Speaker 3: have what we have envy, never experience it. I applaud capitalism,
Speaker 3: self worth, hard work, the entrepreneurial spirit. In fact, if
Speaker 3: you're an accomplished individual at charm and my doorstep, I
Speaker 3: have questions. It'll be an hour before you get to
Speaker 3: ask me one, because I want to know how did
Speaker 3: you find success. My dislike for humans, though, is about
Speaker 3: the unwritten code and respect for their fellow man. Do
Speaker 3: unto others, some of them. I read that somewhere. Who
Speaker 3: was it? Maybe the Bible Confucius is also attributed do
Speaker 3: unto others as you would have them do unto you. See,
Speaker 3: that's the problem in my career, my life. I've seen
Speaker 3: and heard too many people undermining family, friends, business and
Speaker 3: social their bosses and the company. You hear Jesse poke
Speaker 3: fun at me all the time. It keeps me in check.
Speaker 4: Wait a second, what I give you is very well deserved,
Speaker 4: and you deserve it. You admit that you're an acquired taste.
Speaker 4: But no one can tell me anything bad about you.
Speaker 4: No one else can say it.
Speaker 5: Only I can. It's unacceptable.
Speaker 4: I can say what I want, no one else can exactly.
Speaker 3: I'm like you. I'm loyal to a fall, friends, family, boss, company.
Speaker 3: I take no potshots. Now, someone working for me might
Speaker 3: be underperforming. I may have decided they can't remain in
Speaker 3: their position or the company for that matter. But it's
Speaker 3: between me and them, no one else. It's their misfortune.
Speaker 3: I respect the fact that they have a right to
Speaker 3: their privacy. I don't gossip, I don't undermine. I don't
Speaker 3: talk out of school. Don't come to me with your
Speaker 3: undermining or your scheme is to supplant your company rivals.
Speaker 3: All it does is make an enemy of me. I
Speaker 3: lose faith in you. So that's a small sampling of
Speaker 3: what I've experienced and why I don't like humans. But
Speaker 3: now I know you like examples, and I decided I
Speaker 3: want to give you a few that deals with turning cold,
Speaker 3: one of my favorites. I've mentioned before on the radio.
Speaker 3: I did not always behave like the mature individual that
Speaker 3: I am today. A bunch of years ago, I was
Speaker 3: expecting a promotion. I was traveling in Europe on business
Speaker 3: and I get a call that the president of the
Speaker 3: company wants to speak with me. Now we're six hours apart,
Speaker 3: I'm in Europe, and I get on the phone and
Speaker 3: the president and executive EP and senior vice president of
Speaker 3: the company told me they wanted to talk to me.
Speaker 3: They had great news. And during the course of that
Speaker 3: conversation there was great news for everyone except me. A
Speaker 3: number of my rivals, a number of my equals, a
Speaker 3: number of other people all were promoted. And when I
Speaker 3: was waiting for the final shooter drop for them to
Speaker 3: tell me what my new job would be. There was none,
Speaker 3: and I asked the question, what about my promotion? And
Speaker 3: then the president said, what promotion. Well, I was under
Speaker 3: the impression I thought I was doing well. I was
Speaker 3: going to get combroded. Well, Mark, I'm sure sometime you will,
Speaker 3: but not tonight. And I lost it three thousand miles away.
Speaker 3: I started screaming at the president of the company, said you.
Speaker 3: I can't believe you called me to tell me you
Speaker 3: have good news, and I have just been told that
Speaker 3: everyone I know has got promoted besides me. One thing
Speaker 3: in business, you lose your cool, You lose As I said,
Speaker 3: I wasn't that mature. There was a silence, and the
Speaker 3: next words out of the present's mouth was bone chilling.
Speaker 3: You want to talk cold, here's a cold Mark. If
Speaker 3: you feel that way, I want you on the next
Speaker 3: plane home tomorrow morning. You'll be in my office after
Speaker 3: you land and we'll talk about what you just said. Silence.
Speaker 3: I realized that I just did myself some grave harm,
Speaker 3: and fortunately for me, I had the presence of mind
Speaker 3: to get back on the phone and they were still
Speaker 3: in their office, probably discussing what a maniac gu I was.
Speaker 3: And I got a chance to apologize and one of
Speaker 3: the people stepped in and gave me a lifeline, and
Speaker 3: they managed to stay with the company. I get back
Speaker 3: to New York two weeks later, get called into the
Speaker 3: senior vice president's office and said, Mark, I admire you.
Speaker 3: You're great at what you do, but your outburst left
Speaker 3: a tolerable impression and there are ramifications. The first thing
Speaker 3: we're going to do is we've hired industrial psychologists to
Speaker 3: talk to you. We need to know if you are
Speaker 3: prone to lose your cool and to create damage. We
Speaker 3: need to know that you're a secure individual. Great here
Speaker 3: I am. I lived my whole life. I'm a normal guy.
Speaker 3: I never did any Now I got to see an
Speaker 3: industrial psychologist so they know I'm not an axe murderer.
Speaker 3: Worse than that, every time there were meetings, either I
Speaker 3: was left off or someone forwarded it to me so
Speaker 3: that I can attend. Nobody invited me directly to meetings.
Speaker 3: When I was in the meetings, nobody directed any questions
Speaker 3: to towards me. Nobody would ask my opinion because I
Speaker 3: was getting the freezing treatment. One of the most insulting
Speaker 3: things that would take place was when meetings would be
Speaker 3: over or they wanted a smaller group. They would have
Speaker 3: me recuse myself and they would go on with the
Speaker 3: important part of the meeting without me. I had to
Speaker 3: live with that for two years because I lost my cool.
Speaker 3: I cursed out loud. I forgot that I wasn't talking
Speaker 3: to my friends. These were business associates in this case,
Speaker 3: the three more senior people in the company. Do you
Speaker 3: want to talk about a stupid move. Well, I got
Speaker 3: the cold treatment for two years. Two years, but I
Speaker 3: learned my lesson to you. Now, over the course of time,
Speaker 3: I learned how to dish out the cold treatment. I
Speaker 3: have a great story one of my closest business friends.
Speaker 3: I took him from a divisional guy to a vice president,
Speaker 3: eventually made him a president. And during the course of
Speaker 3: this time, we traveled a lot. Everyone was traveling, and
Speaker 3: at one particular time we were all together the Golf
Speaker 3: convention at Orlando, Florida in January one year. And let's
Speaker 3: just say that the senior most people, right, wrong or indifferent,
Speaker 3: was staying at one kind of hotel and everyone else
Speaker 3: was staying at another kind of hotel. So this associate
Speaker 3: of mine, who we were very close, who, as I
Speaker 3: said earlier, I did a million thanks for and the
Speaker 3: first time I didn't, he didn't stay where we stayed.
Speaker 3: I overheard him talking to a group of other executives
Speaker 3: whereby he said, I can't believe those guys. I put
Speaker 3: themselves up in that hotel, and they put themselves there.
Speaker 3: So right away he's casting aspersions that I intentionally drew
Speaker 3: a line that ended before him, and that was not
Speaker 3: okay with him, So he's talking about me. Then, on
Speaker 3: one of the off days of the convention, after we
Speaker 3: were there in the morning, I played golf with a
Speaker 3: bunch of clients and people, and then again somebody came
Speaker 3: to me and told me he was talking behind my back,
Speaker 3: talking about we're here in a business meeting, how dare
Speaker 3: I go play golf? Now I'm the president of the company.
Speaker 3: I was senior to him, that's the best way to
Speaker 3: say it. And here this guy who I did so
Speaker 3: much for talking about me behind my back, and who knows,
Speaker 3: maybe I would get in trouble for doing this, I
Speaker 3: don't think. So. I was with other people from the
Speaker 3: company who played golf, and I was with customers, big ones,
Speaker 3: and that's what golf is about in business. But him
Speaker 3: to talk about me that way behind my back. I
Speaker 3: asked to see him for a drink. He thought it
Speaker 3: was gonna be rosy and well, and I said to him,
Speaker 3: I did say a team to you yesterday when you're
Speaker 3: talking about the hotels and how arrogantly you were against
Speaker 3: the fact that Maye and a couple of our associates
Speaker 3: with one hotel, and you were in another bad form,
Speaker 3: bad judgment, talking about me behind my back. But worse,
Speaker 3: I heard you talk to me about playing golf on
Speaker 3: top of everything else, Wherever whoever you talk to could
Speaker 3: repeat it to the wrong people. I wouldn't get a
Speaker 3: chance to defend the fact that I was playing golf
Speaker 3: with clients and with other people from the company you
Speaker 3: talk behind my back. I want you to know that
Speaker 3: a Lowie are close, we've been great business associates. From
Speaker 3: this moment forward, you are not allowed in my office.
Speaker 3: You're not allowed to address me directly. You're not allowed
Speaker 3: to call me on the phone. If you have a problem,
Speaker 3: you find your secretary, talk to my secretary. And if
Speaker 3: in fact I have get involved with someone from the outside,
Speaker 3: I will do it without you. This is going to
Speaker 3: be on immediately. You have no access to me, I
Speaker 3: have no interest in you, and I will not talk
Speaker 3: to you. I got up, walked away, and for three
Speaker 3: months I never uttered a word to him until that's goack,
Speaker 3: what cold tonight's show exactly, Thank you, Jesse. I'm tempted
Speaker 3: to end it right here and go on to something else,
Speaker 3: but I have one more story, because we've been told
Speaker 3: that the audience likes to his stories. This is a
Speaker 3: story about a guy who I'll call Scott. Scott was
Speaker 3: a friend of a friend who was brought to the company,
Speaker 3: and because he was a friend of the friend, he
Speaker 3: got treated very specially, and over the course of time
Speaker 3: when everybody was moving up, he was put in a
Speaker 3: position to move up more rapidly than anyone else because
Speaker 3: we were looking out for him. He deserved it. He
Speaker 3: was sharp, he was articulate, He packaged himself well, and
Speaker 3: the senior most people in the company, myself included as president,
Speaker 3: made it our business to put him in the right
Speaker 3: place at every time boom. He's working for one of
Speaker 3: our largest divisions, and the president of that division doesn't
Speaker 3: like him. She says he's arrogant, he feels entitled. I
Speaker 3: don't like the way he behaves Mark, I said, I
Speaker 3: understand you, but this is bigger than you or me.
Speaker 3: This is a guy we think has potential to move forward.
Speaker 3: You manage him, you work through him. Just let's teach
Speaker 3: him and we will eventually decide that we need him elsewhere.
Speaker 3: One fateful night, there were twenty of us who went
Speaker 3: for a business dinner. We just announced the financial results.
Speaker 3: They weren't great. Barrell sitting around the dinner, as it happened,
Speaker 3: two seats down from me, Scott, and he had let's say,
Speaker 3: one too many drinks, and he started to talk. I
Speaker 3: should also point out that he's a vice president of
Speaker 3: the company now, and he starts talking about how stupid
Speaker 3: we are, how many mistakes we made, how the stock
Speaker 3: stinks because the management of the company doesn't know what
Speaker 3: they're doing. He gots on to talk about the fact
Speaker 3: that his four oh one k was worth ten times
Speaker 3: what it was now he can't believe what a bunch
Speaker 3: of muckety MUCKs he works for. We don't know what
Speaker 3: they're doing. Now he's an officer of the company. So
Speaker 3: right away, when you're an officer of a company, when
Speaker 3: you have two initials in front of your name, in
Speaker 3: this case, VP. You have an obligation to speak on
Speaker 3: behalf of the company in a positive way. You have
Speaker 3: no right to talk badly about the company to associates
Speaker 3: who may be above you, or, worst case, there were
Speaker 3: people below him. He's sending the worst signal that he
Speaker 3: possibly can as an officer of the company. Oh and
Speaker 3: by the way, those guys in management who are schmucks
Speaker 3: and don't know they were doing. One of them was
Speaker 3: sitting two seats away from him and heard him me.
Speaker 3: I was so shocked, how stupid he could be doing
Speaker 3: it in public for uhim, and how sitting next to me,
Speaker 3: someone who did so much for him, he's talking about me,
Speaker 3: my boss, and the other office of the company. This
Speaker 3: way dead to me. You want to talk cold frozen.
Speaker 3: Following day, I went to the division president, the woman
Speaker 3: who had told me that he was arrogant, entitled, she
Speaker 3: didn't like working with him. I told her, starting today
Speaker 3: to forevermore, he's to be treated like anyone else. If
Speaker 3: he continues to be arrogant, if you don't think he's performing,
Speaker 3: get rid of him. It wasn't very long after that
Speaker 3: that he was gone. So Scott, you should have learned
Speaker 3: the lesson and anyone else out there, you better behave.
Speaker 3: If you don't behave, it gets really cold really quick.
Speaker 3: It's cold and freezing and always in fashion tonight back
Speaker 3: in a.
Speaker 1: Minute, always in fashion.
Speaker 3: I spent a lifetime of my career building the Van Yusten,
Speaker 3: and I am so pleased that they're back with us
Speaker 3: now talking about suits. Men were dressing up again and
Speaker 3: it's become cool to wear a suit. Suits can be
Speaker 3: won on multiple occasions, in multiple ways. You could wear
Speaker 3: a suit formally to go out at night or to
Speaker 3: an event. You can wear a suit to the office
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Speaker 3: The choices are endless and every one of them looks right.
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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Always in Fashion. Here's your host, Mark Webber.
Speaker 3: It's freezing. It's freezing. I hate it. I hate it
Speaker 3: in spite of the fact that one of the niceties
Speaker 3: about New York is the change of the seasons. January
Speaker 3: New York stinks. It's cold outside, But tonight I'm chosen
Speaker 3: to talk about it's cold inside. I want to talk
Speaker 3: now of all things fashion. Shaka on a show that's
Speaker 3: called Always in Fashion, take a moment. I want to
Speaker 3: change the name. Used to be a show called Dragnet,
Speaker 3: where at the beginning of the show the names were
Speaker 3: changed to protect the innocent. I'm not gonna tell you
Speaker 3: the name of the store or the name of the company.
Speaker 3: I'm referring to. I lost fifty pounds three years ago,
Speaker 3: and because of that, I had to change my wardrobe. Now,
Speaker 3: why is that relevant. I went from being a heavyweight
Speaker 3: to a middleweight and I needed new clothes that fit me.
Speaker 3: I was a forty six or forty four in a
Speaker 3: suit I'm now forty two that needs to be tapered,
Speaker 3: which brings me the point of cold. When you shop
Speaker 3: for suits, guys, one of our commercials is venues, and
Speaker 3: you should try their suits on the stretched fabric. This
Speaker 3: is not the commercial now, but they fit great. You
Speaker 3: buy them off the rack, you put them on and
Speaker 3: I'll fit most men very well. But generally speaking, when
Speaker 3: you buy a sport code or a suit, I have
Speaker 3: to be altered. Hold that thought. When I was a
Speaker 3: name eighteen years old in college, I work for a
Speaker 3: men's clothing company. We sold suit, sport codes, tailor pants,
Speaker 3: and when you work for a company such as that,
Speaker 3: you have to learn how the tailoring works. And I
Speaker 3: became an expert. A guy puts on a suit, I
Speaker 3: could look at it no immediately. Does a colony to
Speaker 3: be lowered, Do the side need to be taken in
Speaker 3: or let out? There? Center vents need to be adjusted.
Speaker 3: Are the pockets in the right place or the button's
Speaker 3: in the right place. There are many levers you could
Speaker 3: push to make a suit fit right. The problem is
Speaker 3: tailoring is very expensive for a store, and the owners
Speaker 3: of the store or the corporate office of the store
Speaker 3: wants you to get people in and out as quickly
Speaker 3: as you possibly can. Here's a tip, guys, if you
Speaker 3: ever walk into suit Supply or Ralph Lauren or Macy's
Speaker 3: or Bergdorf's or Bloomingdale's, if they don't have a three
Speaker 3: way mirror in the suit department, they're out to get you.
Speaker 3: The reason is all they want to do is tell
Speaker 3: you that the jacket fits right now. I'd like to
Speaker 3: believe if you were looking for tom Ford, they want
Speaker 3: you to walk out looking amazing, as anyone should, because
Speaker 3: the first thing someone says to you, oh, I like
Speaker 3: your suit, who you're wearing. They'll do that if it
Speaker 3: fits well, if it's a nice suit. But more times
Speaker 3: than not, stores are thinking about the court of the
Speaker 3: tailoring as well, and what they want to do is
Speaker 3: the least amount of work to get you in and
Speaker 3: out of their shop. So you walk through your stand,
Speaker 3: if they don't show you a three way mirror, you
Speaker 3: can't see the back. That's what they want. So the
Speaker 3: first thing, if you don't see a three way mirror,
Speaker 3: you're not being treated fairly. Number one. Number two, you're
Speaker 3: not experts. You don't know what to look for. The
Speaker 3: problem is they want the least amount of tailoring work
Speaker 3: possible because it's expensive. There was a guy who used
Speaker 3: to run a store called Simms. You may have heard him,
Speaker 3: Cy Sims. He had a commercial and he said, an
Speaker 3: educated consumer is my best customer. Well, most of us
Speaker 3: aren't educated consumers, but I am because working in these stores,
Speaker 3: I work with the tailors. I knew how to mark
Speaker 3: the suits, pin them, chalk them. I knew exactly every
Speaker 3: alteration that needed or could be done on a jacket.
Speaker 3: When someone walked in and they knew what they were doing,
Speaker 3: I had to give them more attention than the people
Speaker 3: that weren't. And the people that weren't are the ones
Speaker 3: that paid the price. So to speak. I wasn't a
Speaker 3: bad guy. I had a boss standing over my head
Speaker 3: telling me how they wanted to run the company. Fast forward,
Speaker 3: I'm a luxury guy. Now I paid the price. I
Speaker 3: worked a whole career. I learned how to do a
Speaker 3: lot of things, and I got paid well for it.
Speaker 3: Now I'm buying tailored clothing because my current wardrobe doesn't fit.
Speaker 3: And I walk into one of my favorite stores to
Speaker 3: get a sport code fixed. Sport code needed, the collar shortened,
Speaker 3: the shoulders, tapered side seams, let out center plete clothes.
Speaker 3: I took to the tailor. I left a week later,
Speaker 3: came back. The coat didn't fit. They didn't do any
Speaker 3: of the alterations on the back. Now the front look beautiful,
Speaker 3: you know I stand. He said, Oh the front looks beautiful,
Speaker 3: cacause look beautiful. Look beautiful. Before I tried it on,
Speaker 3: it's all the work in the back that didn't get done.
Speaker 3: Oh we're sorry, etc. Now, if I take it on
Speaker 3: face value, and I trusted him that they just had
Speaker 3: a mistake, but I didn't. I don't think they even
Speaker 3: attempted it. So now I'm here for the second fitting.
Speaker 3: We go through the same thing all over again, and
Speaker 3: I look at the tailor. I said, we're going to
Speaker 3: get it right. This time. Absolutely, there's a problem. In
Speaker 3: a lot of companies with tailoring. The tailor that marks
Speaker 3: the clothes isn't necessarily the one who does the alterations,
Speaker 3: so his best intentions as he understood him standing there
Speaker 3: might not be interpreted by the guy who's actually going
Speaker 3: to do the work. That could be the problem. Every
Speaker 3: time come back for my second fitting, the side seems
Speaker 3: are too tight, the center pleat is not fixed properly,
Speaker 3: the cuffs are okay, they didn't shorten the back. I
Speaker 3: have to come back a week later again. Third week
Speaker 3: wrong Again. I'm frustrated. I already tipped the tailor for
Speaker 3: doing the work. Now I got it start all over again.
Speaker 3: Long story short. The fourth time they got it right.
Speaker 3: They sent it to my home. I was pleased to
Speaker 3: unpack the jacket. But should I have to go through that.
Speaker 3: It's cold when you don't know what you're doing. Ralph Lauren,
Speaker 3: you're the greatest store, the greatest company in the world.
Speaker 3: You should be able to tell her better than you do. Oops,
Speaker 3: I said the name that's cold back in a minute.
Speaker 1: Always in fashion.
Speaker 3: Donna Karen began her career as one of the finest,
Speaker 3: most successful, powerful women in the fashion industry. She developed
Speaker 3: a collection aimed at the luxury market for women on
Speaker 3: the go, women who were powerful in their workplace, women
Speaker 3: who had lives that extended beyond the workplace, and her
Speaker 3: clothes went from day and to night. An extraordinary collection.
Speaker 3: But the interesting thing Donna Karen had a young daughter,
Speaker 3: and she had friends and they couldn't afford to buy
Speaker 3: the Donna Karen collection, and Donna invented DK NY Donna Aaron,
Speaker 3: New York. It's an offshoot of the Donna Karen Collection.
Speaker 3: The same concept a lifestyle brand. Then we talk about
Speaker 3: lifestyle brands, What does that really mean? Simply what they say,
Speaker 3: there are brands that follow you throughout your lifestyle. You
Speaker 3: get up in the morning, you start to get dressed
Speaker 3: Donna Karen decan why as intimate apparel, as hosiery, as
Speaker 3: all those products. You're getting dressed for work. You get
Speaker 3: accessorized shoes, handbags, and it takes you through the day.
Speaker 3: The remarkable thing about DK and Y clothes for work,
Speaker 3: they work into the evening. The dresses, the suits, the pants,
Speaker 3: the sweaters, the blouses. Extraordinary clothes at affordable prices that
Speaker 3: go from day in tonight part of your lifestyle is active.
Speaker 3: You have weekends, you have events, you participate in sports.
Speaker 3: Donna Karen's Casual Clothes did that under the DKNY label.
Speaker 3: A vast array of casual sports that make women look
Speaker 3: great as they navigate their busy lives. Whether you going
Speaker 3: to soccer games for your children or whether you going
Speaker 3: out to the movies, whatever you want to do, dkn
Speaker 3: y Jeenes, DKY Sportswear is there for you. That's what
Speaker 3: a lifestyle brand is. And I need to mention DKY Activewear,
Speaker 3: which is extraordinary, the leggings, the sports bras, the sweats.
Speaker 3: You can wear DKY Activewear, certainly in the gym, certainly
Speaker 3: when you're working out at home, and certainly if you
Speaker 3: want on the street, because it's that well done. The
Speaker 3: quality of dk why is nothing short of exceptional. And
Speaker 3: why shouldn't it be because it was born from the
Speaker 3: idea of luxury made affordable for women of America. Dk
Speaker 3: and Why a true lifestyle brand that takes you from
Speaker 3: day and tonight, from the week into the weekend. DCN
Speaker 3: why you can find DCNY and Macy's DKY dot com
Speaker 3: as one of the world's most celebrated fashion designers. Carl
Speaker 3: Lagerfeld was renowned for his aspirational and cutting edge approach
Speaker 3: to style. Well. His unique vision of Parisian shit comes
Speaker 3: to America through Carlagofeld Paris. He has women's collections, men's collections,
Speaker 3: ready to wear, accessory, shoes and bags. The fashion house
Speaker 3: Carlagofeld also offers a range of watches I wear in
Speaker 3: premium fragrances. You can explore the car Lagofl collection at
Speaker 3: car Lagofelparis dot com. But it's more than that. I,
Speaker 3: for one, love to shop. I love going around and
Speaker 3: seeing what's happening and what catches my attention, what would
Speaker 3: make me feel good to wear now. I don't wear
Speaker 3: the women's wear obviously, but I can appreciate it and
Speaker 3: they look amazing. If you want to look right, you
Speaker 3: want to have clothes that fits you well. You want
Speaker 3: to look like you're wearing something that's very expensive, that's
Speaker 3: exclusive for you and yours. You can find it at
Speaker 3: very affordable prices at Macy's Orcarlagafel dot com Paris. The
Speaker 3: women's ready to wear fashion is extraordinary, as well as
Speaker 3: the handbigs and the shoes. I for one, wear men's clothes,
Speaker 3: unlike my i appreciation of women's clothes. I'm a modern guy.
Speaker 3: I want to look current, I want to look the
Speaker 3: way I want to feel. I go out at night,
Speaker 3: I'm in black and Carl Lagafel is my buddy. Carls
Speaker 3: are great, they fit great, and they have little tweaks
Speaker 3: and touches, whether it's a stripe on the sleeve or
Speaker 3: button at the neck or on the shoulder. There's a
Speaker 3: lot of details that go into Carlagafel because he's always been,
Speaker 3: he always had been, one of the world's great designers,
Speaker 3: and this legacy and goes on and on. I can't
Speaker 3: speak enough about it except to say to you, you
Speaker 3: want to feel good about yourself. You want to know
Speaker 3: that you're dressing properly. You want to clothes that fits
Speaker 3: you well. Carl lagafeld Paris at Macy's Orcarl Lagafel dot com.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to Always in Fashion. Here's your host, Mark Webber.
Speaker 3: If you're just tuning in and you just walk up,
Speaker 3: well you're from another planet. It's freezing in New York
Speaker 3: and I hate it. The only good thing that came
Speaker 3: out of freezing has got me thinking about how cold
Speaker 3: do you work? World is not just outside but inside.
Speaker 3: Business is dogg eat dog. You're competing with other people
Speaker 3: for careers. The world is crazy. There's so many things
Speaker 3: that we could fix, and nobody wants to talk. Honestly,
Speaker 3: it's not a politician that you can trust anymore. There's
Speaker 3: nothing going on that feels right about the world. It's
Speaker 3: cold out there, and we're cold. I want to talk, though,
Speaker 3: for a moment now, about being a tough guy. I
Speaker 3: don't mean at home. I don't mean fighting. I mean
Speaker 3: being a manager. At work. When you're the boss, you
Speaker 3: have responsibilities. You're not there to make friends. What you
Speaker 3: hope the best you could find is trust. You're not
Speaker 3: working to be liked, You're working to be respected. You
Speaker 3: want to lead and you want to be able to
Speaker 3: inspire people. You want to get people to do what
Speaker 3: you need them to do to follow your directions. This
Speaker 3: comes in a number of different situations. I talked about
Speaker 3: getting fired, and I got a number of people writing
Speaker 3: to me, writing to the station, writing to us on LinkedIn,
Speaker 3: talking about how helpful it was hearing someone outline the
Speaker 3: plans for what to do if you lose your job.
Speaker 3: I thought about this in terms of being called, and
Speaker 3: I realized that there was one more thing I wanted
Speaker 3: to talk to you about, and it's called recalibrate. Whether
Speaker 3: you're looking for a job because you will let go,
Speaker 3: or you're looking for a job in a new industry,
Speaker 3: or you're looking for a job for that matter, in
Speaker 3: another company, you may have to recalibrate. You may have
Speaker 3: to recalibrate in your mind, or you may have to
Speaker 3: recalibrate in real life. If you were making one hundred
Speaker 3: thousand dollars in your last job and you got fired,
Speaker 3: while you still are you, while you still have your education,
Speaker 3: will you still have your skill set? You're not in
Speaker 3: the driver's seat when you're looking for work when you're
Speaker 3: out of work. If someone is pulling you from another
Speaker 3: company where you're currently a employed and you're making one
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars and they want you, then there's a
Speaker 3: pretty good chance you're going to get that money or
Speaker 3: more because they're recruiting you. However, if you're looking cold calling,
Speaker 3: you've been recommended, you're trying to find a new job,
Speaker 3: you need to recalibrate. I'll never forget there was a
Speaker 3: guy named John, great guy had worked with him, he
Speaker 3: got let go from his job at the company I
Speaker 3: used to work for, came to see me in New York.
Speaker 3: I was at LVMH. I's running DKY had openings and
Speaker 3: at the time he had been earning four hundred thousand
Speaker 3: dollars a year plus a bonus of fifty percent, so
Speaker 3: he had the ability and he was making six hundred
Speaker 3: thousand dollars or more any given year of the company.
Speaker 3: But he was fired. When he came to me at
Speaker 3: k and Y, I had an opening that he would
Speaker 3: have been great for, but the job was paying three
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars and he looked at me like I
Speaker 3: was a bad guy. He almost laughed at me when
Speaker 3: I said that to him, and he said to me,
Speaker 3: why would I come here for that? And I said, John,
Speaker 3: I have to talk to you from experience here. You know,
Speaker 3: I was looking for a job before I came to LVMH,
Speaker 3: and I must admit, I will tell you flat out.
Speaker 3: I didn't have to recalibrate because they were looking for
Speaker 3: cific skill set, a specific series of experiences and experience
Speaker 3: that I had, and they were more than willing to
Speaker 3: take care of me. But we all can't be that lucky.
Speaker 3: I was lucky. You're looking for a job. I need
Speaker 3: you to think about recalibrating. You're still worth everything you
Speaker 3: were paid at the last company, but when you are
Speaker 3: going to find out that the job market isn't as easy,
Speaker 3: when you're looking for a job rather than being recruited,
Speaker 3: would you consider coming in here. I'll promise you that
Speaker 3: your titles will grow. You do what I know you're
Speaker 3: capable of. You will do just fine. No, Mark, I'm
Speaker 3: not recalibrating. I think I could do better. He left. Okay,
Speaker 3: I forgot about it, moved on, hired someone else. Six
Speaker 3: months later, get a call. John is in New York.
Speaker 3: He wants to talk to me. The first words out
Speaker 3: of his mouth Mark, you were I need to recalibrate.
Speaker 3: I'd like to come work for you. Now you want
Speaker 3: to talk lucky. I had a great job, not a
Speaker 3: good job, a great job. And I remembered our conversation
Speaker 3: last time, and I remembered that I offered him three
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars PR the bonus, and I told him
Speaker 3: I thought the world of him. I told him that
Speaker 3: he would do fine, and sure enough, he came back
Speaker 3: at three hundred thousand dollars. Two years later he was
Speaker 3: making six hundred, so he had to recalibrate. Hopefully that's helpful. Hey, Jesse,
Speaker 3: I'm talking a lot tonight. You've got a story about
Speaker 3: cold treatment.
Speaker 5: Anyway, since we were talking about politics.
Speaker 4: You know what, one of the coldest things I've ever
Speaker 4: seen was two things that I thought were very cold.
Speaker 4: Number One, when Donald Trump was president, do you remember
Speaker 4: when he pushed aside the Prime Minister of Montenegro at
Speaker 4: that meeting of NATO that was.
Speaker 3: The coldest, stand in front of the photos.
Speaker 4: To stand in front of him for the photo op
Speaker 4: and didn't even look behind.
Speaker 5: It was the coldest thing.
Speaker 4: Literally pushed him aside like he was a toddler at
Speaker 4: the playground. That was always resonated in my mind. Number Two,
Speaker 4: and you've talked about this before. Not a fan of
Speaker 4: Nancy Pelosi, but when she ripped up Donald Trump's speech
Speaker 4: at the what was it, the Capitol Address, the State
Speaker 4: of the State of the Union, State of the Union,
Speaker 4: My gosh, have you ever seen another cold move like that?
Speaker 5: Literally rips up the speech right behind him his speech?
Speaker 3: That was cold. I'll tell you I I was never
Speaker 3: a fan politically of Nancy Pelosi, but as a human
Speaker 3: I had utmost respect for her. She was cold as
Speaker 3: i she was tough as nailed. She would do anything
Speaker 3: to get anything done. She was a street warrior. I
Speaker 3: loved her in that position. From that perspective, I don't
Speaker 3: like any decisions they made. But boy, oh boy, I
Speaker 3: guess with the exception of Obamacare, I was kind of
Speaker 3: opposed to it. I paid attention to the negative comments.
Speaker 3: In hindsight, I think Obamacare was great for the country.
Speaker 3: What do I know, it's freezing outside. The only good
Speaker 3: thing that came from freezing outside it allowed me freezing inside.
Speaker 3: I started thinking about situations where it's cold inside, particularly
Speaker 3: in business. Life is not easy. Nobody said life is fair,
Speaker 3: fairest for kids. You can look in the Constitution, you
Speaker 3: can look in the Declaration of Independence, you can look anywhere.
Speaker 3: Nowhere does it say you're entitled or you will be
Speaker 3: treated fairly. The world is cold, and you have to
Speaker 3: learn to navigate through the chill. I've had my ups
Speaker 3: and downs, as so sure all of you have had.
Speaker 3: I've had so many disappointments. I've been given the cold
Speaker 3: treatment more than I care to admit. I've learned how
Speaker 3: to give it myself, I would respond, But how you
Speaker 3: navigate through the difficult times is the difference between success
Speaker 3: and failure. It's easy to do and be happy and
Speaker 3: be well when things are going your way, But what
Speaker 3: about when you get disappointed? What about when you make
Speaker 3: mistakes and your call to task for them? What about
Speaker 3: when your boss does like you? What about if somebody
Speaker 3: gets promoted in a job you thought you deserved. What
Speaker 3: are you supposed to do well? You have two choices.
Speaker 3: One act like a jerk and pay a price and
Speaker 3: get the cold treatment, which you may or may not
Speaker 3: ever recover from business. Frostbite is often fatal, not like
Speaker 3: in real life. You have to be smart if you
Speaker 3: get disappointed, if you're left out in the cold, you
Speaker 3: have to decide how to play it. And I will
Speaker 3: tell you the following. Putting a positive attitude on disappointment,
Speaker 3: internally telling yourself I'm better than this. I will survive this,
Speaker 3: I'll prove them wrong. And the same thing on the outside. Hey,
Speaker 3: I understand why you made these choice. Hey, I understand
Speaker 3: the company has treated me fairly. I understand that if
Speaker 3: I work hard and smart, I'll improve myself. Working through
Speaker 3: disappointment is the difference between success or failure, and it's
Speaker 3: a difference between being outside freezing or warm indoors. I
Speaker 3: wish you all the best of luck. Be back next week.
Speaker 3: Good Night,