WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.480 --> 00:00:05.519 Hey, your body, Welcome back to Relationships is a bitch. 2 00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:10.039 This is episode twenty eight. Two eight. That's a good number. 3 00:00:10.119 --> 00:00:11.839 That's a good AJ number. Eight. 4 00:00:12.000 --> 00:00:15.080 That's why I said it, all right, That's why I punch. 5 00:00:15.759 --> 00:00:16.679 That's why I punched. 6 00:00:17.079 --> 00:00:18.600 Oh, that's he gave me the punch. 7 00:00:18.679 --> 00:00:21.760 Folk, he gave me THEO you completely. 8 00:00:22.239 --> 00:00:24.519 I can find forty four and twenty eight. If you 9 00:00:24.559 --> 00:00:26.839 think I can find it, it's good. It's good. 10 00:00:27.160 --> 00:00:29.679 Okay. So we've established that it's a good number here 11 00:00:29.760 --> 00:00:32.759 early on, so we can't. We can't screw this episode 12 00:00:32.840 --> 00:00:34.719 up since you've heard both already. Let me tell you 13 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:38.039 that I'm here with the AJ Benza and our relationship guru, 14 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:42.200 Arena Wood, and today's episode is brought to you by 15 00:00:42.320 --> 00:00:45.200 Guess what the Gemini near Me app? 16 00:00:47.960 --> 00:00:48.679 Love my app? 17 00:00:49.520 --> 00:00:50.320 What should be here? 18 00:00:50.399 --> 00:00:50.719 I should? 19 00:00:53.159 --> 00:00:56.240 We had a little little gap there after introducing producing 20 00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:58.880 the gap. The Gemini near Me app is the self 21 00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:03.560 love and relationship intelligence app that was created by our 22 00:01:03.679 --> 00:01:09.000 very own guru here, Arena Would and powered by Arena AI. 23 00:01:09.640 --> 00:01:11.799 If you're not talking to Arena AI, you're not getting 24 00:01:11.799 --> 00:01:13.920 a straight skinny anymore. 25 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:17.959 Mike Man interrupt you here because this is something even 26 00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:20.920 you don't know. So we changed the concept a little bit, 27 00:01:20.959 --> 00:01:23.400 not because we change the app. App is always growing 28 00:01:23.480 --> 00:01:25.760 and we met and we try to offer as much 29 00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:28.920 as possible to our users, and our audience is growing, 30 00:01:28.959 --> 00:01:32.359 which is great. But we change the position and on 31 00:01:32.439 --> 00:01:35.400 the market now we ad this self love or self 32 00:01:35.439 --> 00:01:40.000 help and self love app. Why because people were confused. 33 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:43.120 They didn't understand why it's relationships, so they thought it's 34 00:01:43.159 --> 00:01:47.079 something about matchmaking or dating, which we stay away from. 35 00:01:47.159 --> 00:01:49.680 So no, no, no, So I explained that this is 36 00:01:49.760 --> 00:01:53.359 the self help and self love app designed still for 37 00:01:53.560 --> 00:01:57.799 single and couple individuals, but it's like a kind of 38 00:01:57.879 --> 00:02:01.640 one stop shop solution for all they'll discovery tools please 39 00:02:01.959 --> 00:02:03.159 arena ai. 40 00:02:03.519 --> 00:02:07.280 Wow, Okay beautiful. So before next week's show, we'll have 41 00:02:07.319 --> 00:02:08.599 a new slugline there. 42 00:02:09.560 --> 00:02:12.000 It's my mist say that I didn't announce it early, 43 00:02:12.199 --> 00:02:14.520 just because that's what I'm working on, because I'm changing 44 00:02:14.560 --> 00:02:17.639 it all over the place, just to clarify with people, 45 00:02:17.680 --> 00:02:20.599 because I think I didn't explain myself very well how 46 00:02:20.639 --> 00:02:23.280 you can fall in love with yourself with the use 47 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:24.080 of this app. 48 00:02:25.159 --> 00:02:28.919 No worries. Well, our very first story today, actually I 49 00:02:28.919 --> 00:02:32.080 think is going to be a great test of both 50 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:38.560 you and Arena AI, because there's a new trend emerging 51 00:02:39.599 --> 00:02:42.120 which I missed this and I don't know if either 52 00:02:42.159 --> 00:02:44.520 of you two have picked it up, but a large 53 00:02:44.599 --> 00:02:48.560 number of people, this is really led by men apparently, 54 00:02:49.319 --> 00:02:57.080 are now entering marital contracts. They are rather than doing 55 00:02:57.159 --> 00:03:04.240 the formal ceremony, the traditional wedding, they are signing agreements 56 00:03:04.280 --> 00:03:07.919 with each other for a limited number of years, two 57 00:03:08.039 --> 00:03:13.560 year deals, four year deals, like it's a NFL contract 58 00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:20.520 or even a business contract and employment agreement. And the 59 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:24.719 way that it works is the again, whatever the term is, 60 00:03:24.759 --> 00:03:28.719 two years, four years, and you agree on what each 61 00:03:28.800 --> 00:03:35.599 is going to contribute into the marriage contract over that period, 62 00:03:35.840 --> 00:03:39.800 and at the end there's a renewal option. If you 63 00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:43.159 choose to renew, you can remain in a marrial contract 64 00:03:43.159 --> 00:03:47.759 for another period of years, or if either party opts to, 65 00:03:47.879 --> 00:03:51.319 they can opt out, and that opt out is a 66 00:03:52.400 --> 00:03:56.639 you split whatever you've you've put together there or during 67 00:03:56.680 --> 00:03:58.840 that period of time, and each walks away on their 68 00:03:58.840 --> 00:04:01.240 own and there's no lawyers to deal with, there's no 69 00:04:01.319 --> 00:04:04.759 divorce corp to deal with, there's no anything else. That 70 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:09.319 is the new way it is being done no agent required, 71 00:04:09.520 --> 00:04:12.840 which is which is a better deal than the NFL 72 00:04:12.879 --> 00:04:15.520 guys have. But yeah, so what do you what do 73 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:23.319 your first impressions about marital contracts? Wow, Arena's speechless, Arena's 74 00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:25.480 like holding Mike. 75 00:04:25.639 --> 00:04:29.079 It's a mystery. So two weeks ago, I'm talking to 76 00:04:29.120 --> 00:04:31.759 my mom, you know, like my mom she just lost 77 00:04:31.759 --> 00:04:33.920 her husband and she was deeply in love and everything 78 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:36.839 was wonderful. I'm talking to my mom who was twice 79 00:04:37.079 --> 00:04:40.600 very happily married woman with no issues, and she tells 80 00:04:40.639 --> 00:04:43.759 me out unaware, as a joke. She said, why people 81 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:46.680 don't have something like a contract you're happy for three 82 00:04:46.759 --> 00:04:49.480 years or you like it, you keep going, like, why 83 00:04:49.519 --> 00:04:53.319 they make it so complicated, Why people exhaust themselves, Why 84 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:56.600 people are living for covering the loans or raising up 85 00:04:56.639 --> 00:04:59.560 the kids, or you know, put themselves in prison. People 86 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:02.480 have to together until they are happy together, no matter what, 87 00:05:03.079 --> 00:05:05.639 and then you can. And it was a joke. It 88 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:08.360 was out of nowhere to women's discussion because we are 89 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:10.480 kind of best friends. But it's here, and now you 90 00:05:10.639 --> 00:05:13.680 pronounce it that it was formed and shaped in the 91 00:05:13.759 --> 00:05:18.040 real deal. And I have a question. Let's say you understood. 92 00:05:18.079 --> 00:05:21.480 Next day or within a week. Okay, I did mistake. 93 00:05:21.560 --> 00:05:24.079 I don't want to do it for three or four years. 94 00:05:24.279 --> 00:05:26.279 What do you do after you just break it up? 95 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:27.360 You like, break the deal? 96 00:05:28.319 --> 00:05:31.040 Well, so I suppose it depends on what you've written 97 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:36.000 into the contract. But normally, if you agree that a 98 00:05:36.040 --> 00:05:41.120 contract is for a certain period of time, yeah, there, 99 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:46.000 you don't any any If both parties agree mutually to 100 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:49.360 uh to tear up a contract, you can just tear 101 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:52.079 up a contract. So if if one person is that 102 00:05:52.199 --> 00:05:55.879 miserable after a week, the other party will probably be 103 00:05:55.920 --> 00:05:59.759 amenable to tear up the contract. But it depends on 104 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:02.040 how you've how you've written it. I suppose it could 105 00:06:02.079 --> 00:06:04.519 be written in such a way that somebody who's unhappy 106 00:06:04.519 --> 00:06:07.279 after six months, too bad. You know, if the other 107 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:10.439 person wants to enforce the agreement, you signed for three 108 00:06:10.519 --> 00:06:13.720 years and so you know you can't go to another 109 00:06:13.759 --> 00:06:17.199 team because you're signed with me for the next three years. 110 00:06:17.199 --> 00:06:19.560 So I can see how bothered AJ is. 111 00:06:19.839 --> 00:06:24.800 I don't. I don't. Well. I understand that marriages, you know, 112 00:06:25.279 --> 00:06:31.680 splinter into different positions and there's always problems with marriages, 113 00:06:31.759 --> 00:06:37.920 But if you introduce business into a marriage early, it 114 00:06:38.040 --> 00:06:41.800 kind of takes away for the romance and that whole 115 00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:46.079 magnificent feeling of meeting somebody and falling in love and 116 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:49.720 deciding to spend the rest of your lives together. However, 117 00:06:51.720 --> 00:06:55.040 you know what, there's a lot of people who are 118 00:06:55.079 --> 00:06:58.839 married who aren't happy for years, And maybe this would 119 00:06:58.839 --> 00:07:04.879 not be the worst because maybe you need to introduce it, well, 120 00:07:04.920 --> 00:07:09.399 maybe there is to be incentives introduced or something. If 121 00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:11.680 it's a contract, then maybe we need to make it 122 00:07:11.720 --> 00:07:16.040 more of a complete contract, because very often one of 123 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:19.600 the two people start to not act like the way 124 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:23.279 they said they'd act. They're not exactly following the vows. 125 00:07:24.439 --> 00:07:29.759 So I hate business mixed with love. But I don't know, 126 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:31.079 maybe it's not that bad. 127 00:07:31.560 --> 00:07:37.879 It's it's already happened. It's already happened before when people 128 00:07:37.920 --> 00:07:41.920 started to sign different type of contracts. So it's already happened. 129 00:07:42.519 --> 00:07:45.360 Yeah, so you know, it's a step beyond what a 130 00:07:45.399 --> 00:07:49.240 prenup does. Right. So, but if you at least my 131 00:07:49.360 --> 00:07:54.680 experience is when there are couples that get divorced and 132 00:07:54.759 --> 00:07:58.959 remain good friends and put the kids first and and 133 00:07:59.079 --> 00:08:04.000 don't have their it's but more times than not, the 134 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:10.680 war that goes on after they've separated. Getting from separation 135 00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:15.199 to divorce is a bloody war that costs thousands of 136 00:08:15.279 --> 00:08:19.600 lives and you know, millions of dollars and tons of pain, 137 00:08:20.240 --> 00:08:23.000 and the kids go through hell and it just it's 138 00:08:23.040 --> 00:08:27.360 it's all. So if you actually could settle all of 139 00:08:27.399 --> 00:08:30.639 those things upfront in an agreement, in the event you 140 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:34.000 split up, all that stuff was already determined and there's 141 00:08:34.039 --> 00:08:37.679 nothing to argue about or fight about because no one 142 00:08:37.720 --> 00:08:41.240 has a legal ground to stand on to argue about 143 00:08:41.240 --> 00:08:45.200 it or fight about it, well, then that actually I 144 00:08:45.240 --> 00:08:48.720 could see where that might help because it will eliminate 145 00:08:49.399 --> 00:08:53.080 the potential of all of that craziness that you know 146 00:08:53.200 --> 00:08:56.440 during that that period between separation and divorce. 147 00:08:57.440 --> 00:09:01.200 I can agree with that. It's it's it's not as romantic, 148 00:09:01.320 --> 00:09:02.919 but I can agree with that. 149 00:09:03.960 --> 00:09:06.559 I can know, Yeah, it would be useful probably for 150 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:09.639 people who are over relax in their marriages and they say, 151 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:12.039 you know, like I've seen some girls like, ah, what 152 00:09:12.120 --> 00:09:14.159 are you going to do? You know, she's not cooking 153 00:09:14.159 --> 00:09:16.320 for him, she's not pleasing him in bed, she doesn't 154 00:09:16.360 --> 00:09:18.720 care about him much. But what he can do like 155 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.120 the words me forget about this you have to give me, 156 00:09:21.600 --> 00:09:23.840 has to give me fifty percent, and we have kids. 157 00:09:23.879 --> 00:09:26.639 He will never do that, so they don't care. So 158 00:09:26.759 --> 00:09:29.240 this is probably going to work out very well because 159 00:09:29.279 --> 00:09:31.960 they will be kind of you know, oh, oh, probably 160 00:09:32.000 --> 00:09:33.759 I have to cook, I have to do something for 161 00:09:33.919 --> 00:09:36.519 my husband because to you know, because maybe he'll change 162 00:09:36.519 --> 00:09:39.440 me for somebody else. But I think the whole idea, 163 00:09:39.519 --> 00:09:42.240 the whole beauty of marriage, because initially people started to 164 00:09:42.279 --> 00:09:46.799 get married traditionally because they had to make sex, so 165 00:09:47.039 --> 00:09:50.120 they understood to make it legally traditionally, they had to 166 00:09:50.159 --> 00:09:52.679 marry somebody to pick up one person to do this 167 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:56.279 through all your life. After people started to cheat, to 168 00:09:56.320 --> 00:09:59.840 betray and to have open relationship, open marriages and different 169 00:10:00.039 --> 00:10:05.799 aps of relationships having at the same moment, and I 170 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:08.519 think that maybe men and women started to feel kind 171 00:10:08.519 --> 00:10:14.120 of unprotected or unappreciated from both sides. And I don't know, 172 00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:17.200 because the whole idea, the whole beauty of marriage, because 173 00:10:17.399 --> 00:10:20.279 why you're crying when you see somebody is marrying it 174 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:22.879 looks like it's forever signed, you know, like you choose 175 00:10:22.879 --> 00:10:27.639 a partner for life, no matter what ups and downs. Diseases, crisises, 176 00:10:27.879 --> 00:10:31.120 I'm here there for you from both sides, of course. 177 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:35.559 And you know, when two families, two traditions are united, 178 00:10:35.639 --> 00:10:39.799 and it's so nice and beautiful and something new is born. 179 00:10:40.480 --> 00:10:44.879 So I think this idea, this beauty, and this concept 180 00:10:45.399 --> 00:10:47.879 is sign And next step is probably why would you 181 00:10:47.919 --> 00:10:50.679 get married at all? Because, like, let's say, I don't know, 182 00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:54.080 maybe for papers, maybe for I don't know, for some 183 00:10:54.519 --> 00:10:58.279 anything else, to pay taxes, together, to do economy, because 184 00:10:58.320 --> 00:10:59.919 if you love each other, you don't need any pay 185 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:05.360 you know. Like, so next step is like, let's be free. 186 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:08.120 People are liberating themselves, right, But. 187 00:11:08.200 --> 00:11:11.080 You know, I could see that a lot of people 188 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:14.679 make the first decision of hey, let's move in together, 189 00:11:14.799 --> 00:11:17.480 let's live together for a while, and let's see how 190 00:11:17.480 --> 00:11:23.600 we feel about things. And that's a very vulnerable sort 191 00:11:23.639 --> 00:11:27.039 of position for I guess, either of them. But to 192 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:30.960 me it seems like especially the woman coming in coming 193 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:35.440 into it. And so maybe at that stage, instead of 194 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:39.039 the hey we'll move in together for a while, we'll 195 00:11:39.159 --> 00:11:41.639 enter an agreement. Because you can always get married. There's 196 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:44.000 nothing if you entered one of these agreements, there's nothing 197 00:11:44.039 --> 00:11:47.120 saying you can't get married. You might come to the 198 00:11:47.200 --> 00:11:49.639 end of your first agreement that was two years and 199 00:11:49.679 --> 00:11:52.240 say we don't need to renew the agreement. We're going 200 00:11:52.320 --> 00:11:55.679 to go get married. Yeah know what I'm saying, I 201 00:11:55.679 --> 00:12:03.200 don't know it. I've often heard heard the the employment 202 00:12:03.320 --> 00:12:10.559 relationship used metaphorically against a marriage. You know, we've been 203 00:12:10.559 --> 00:12:13.320 together for fifteen years. Would you walk out on your 204 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:16.840 wife after fifteen You know that kind of stuff, employee 205 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:21.600 to to to whoever their senior person is in a company, 206 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:24.759 and kind of you know the same thing. 207 00:12:25.000 --> 00:12:27.480 Mike, Well, this idea was born in the United States. 208 00:12:27.840 --> 00:12:34.200 Yes, wow, I guess we shall see what happens with it. 209 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:39.080 But yeah, yes, you know, I see, at least here 210 00:12:39.120 --> 00:12:42.360 where we're based, it looks like it's a very traditional area. 211 00:12:42.519 --> 00:12:48.440 People old, family oriented, having kids, grandkids together. Yeah, that's 212 00:12:48.480 --> 00:12:51.080 a little bit said to hear. But it's all right. 213 00:12:51.600 --> 00:12:55.120 Everything changed roman marriage. 214 00:12:56.399 --> 00:12:59.759 You have a lot of opportunities. That's my girlfriend, that's 215 00:12:59.799 --> 00:13:05.120 my lover, that's my companion, that's my soulmate, that's my roommate. 216 00:13:05.320 --> 00:13:08.559 That's my wife. That's my legal wife. That's my love 217 00:13:08.600 --> 00:13:12.159 of my life. That's my prenup wife, that's my married wife. 218 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:14.080 See that's it. 219 00:13:14.360 --> 00:13:18.399 You're that's the girl I have a contract with. But 220 00:13:18.519 --> 00:13:19.519 that's not romantic. 221 00:13:19.639 --> 00:13:26.000 That's that's my wife. That's my contract seven years. 222 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:32.639 That's my next wife. Well, speaking of contracts, there's a 223 00:13:31.519 --> 00:13:38.679 an athlete who just entered the NFL Draft expecting to 224 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:42.639 sign a big fat contract because he was going to 225 00:13:42.639 --> 00:13:46.519 be a first round draft choice and it didn't quite 226 00:13:46.720 --> 00:13:51.799 go that way for Loor Sanders and probably the weirdest 227 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:57.120 draft I mean there there have been players in the 228 00:13:57.799 --> 00:14:02.360 coming out of college. John Manziel comes to mind who 229 00:14:02.480 --> 00:14:06.080 was a great college player but had all of these 230 00:14:06.519 --> 00:14:10.120 warning signs of being a huge partier, who you know, 231 00:14:10.240 --> 00:14:12.720 didn't study the didn't know the playbook the way you 232 00:14:12.759 --> 00:14:15.720 should know the playbook, wasn't as dedicated as he needed 233 00:14:15.759 --> 00:14:19.399 to be. And we watched despite winning the Heisman Trophy, 234 00:14:19.759 --> 00:14:23.120 we watched him go all the way down to twenty 235 00:14:23.159 --> 00:14:27.720 something I think it was twenty two maybe, And ironically 236 00:14:27.799 --> 00:14:30.519 this has happened with the Cleveland Browns a number of times, 237 00:14:31.000 --> 00:14:37.679 once with Manziel and then another time with who was 238 00:14:37.720 --> 00:14:38.200 the other. 239 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:45.720 Baker Yes, yes, yes, yes, Baker Mayfield. 240 00:14:45.200 --> 00:14:48.000 Baker Mayfield that I don't know how far down he went, 241 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:51.240 but pretty far down it happened to Aaron Rodgers. 242 00:14:52.159 --> 00:14:54.159 Having to Tom Brady for God's sake. 243 00:14:54.399 --> 00:14:56.879 Well, but Brady wasn't touted the way that these guys 244 00:14:56.879 --> 00:15:00.399 were touted coming out. Nobody expected Brady to be a 245 00:15:00.399 --> 00:15:03.399 big draft tot because nobody expected him to even make 246 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:08.200 the NFL. But these guys were all supposed to be 247 00:15:09.480 --> 00:15:12.759 first or second quarterback taken, going to go in the 248 00:15:12.799 --> 00:15:15.240 top five picks, going to go maybe in the top 249 00:15:15.320 --> 00:15:19.799 ten picks. And so this guy went from projected, I 250 00:15:19.799 --> 00:15:25.440 think on mel Kiper's board, the ESPN loudmouth about the draft. 251 00:15:25.879 --> 00:15:29.480 He was the number five player, the number five power 252 00:15:29.559 --> 00:15:32.559 ranking of a player, and he went one hundred and 253 00:15:32.639 --> 00:15:36.039 forty fourth. He was the one hundred and forty fourth player. 254 00:15:36.440 --> 00:15:39.720 So he went in the fifth round instead of the first, 255 00:15:40.559 --> 00:15:46.240 and this turned into a circus. This guy had given 256 00:15:46.799 --> 00:15:50.320 had bought a burner phone, probably his father's suggestion. His 257 00:15:50.440 --> 00:15:55.919 father's probably the all time best quarterback in the NFL, 258 00:15:56.080 --> 00:16:00.360 great punt returner, great receiver, also played Major League baseball. 259 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:05.200 Dion Sanders is a legendary athlete and his dad, who 260 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:12.559 also was his coach in college. But the so he 261 00:16:12.639 --> 00:16:14.960 his father probably recommended this to him, get a burner 262 00:16:15.000 --> 00:16:19.600 phone and use that exclusively for your conversations with teams, 263 00:16:20.080 --> 00:16:22.840 so that you give out your number to personnel on 264 00:16:22.919 --> 00:16:26.720 these teams that are thinking about drafting you. And in 265 00:16:26.759 --> 00:16:28.720 this way, you know, if that phone rings, it's somebody 266 00:16:28.759 --> 00:16:36.039 from Giants or the Atlanta Falcons or whatever. Well somehow, 267 00:16:36.240 --> 00:16:41.879 not really, somehow, it's we know how a son of 268 00:16:42.159 --> 00:16:47.000 a coach in the Atlanta Falcons front office while he's 269 00:16:47.039 --> 00:16:51.399 the defensive coordinator of the Atlanta Falcons, was able to 270 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:56.360 find that number on a iPad, an iPad that was 271 00:16:56.399 --> 00:17:00.240 his dad's iPad. So he sees the number for shad 272 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:05.400 Or Sanders, and instantly a prank comes to mind. 273 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:12.200 And uh and so, well, I think it's pretty funny. 274 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:16.799 It's funny. Guy's heart shank. I mean, that's just oh god. 275 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:23.720 Well, so the kid calls should Or Sanders up and 276 00:17:23.880 --> 00:17:27.960 claims that he is the general manager of the New 277 00:17:28.039 --> 00:17:31.559 Orleans Saints when he calls gy Mickey Lewis, so he's 278 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:35.119 he's telling Sanders he's going to be the Saints next pick. 279 00:17:35.519 --> 00:17:38.319 Except it's not the Saints calling, it's this kid from 280 00:17:38.359 --> 00:17:41.759 the Atlanta Falcons who has stolen the phone number. Who's 281 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:46.400 just calling and he's just completely fucking Withers. So Yes, 282 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:51.440 under the circumstances of what he had been through and 283 00:17:51.480 --> 00:17:57.279 everything else, it was a pretty cruel Planrank, I don't think. 284 00:17:57.319 --> 00:17:59.160 I don't know how many players have been taken at 285 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:02.559 that time he did it. I don't know. I don't 286 00:18:02.559 --> 00:18:05.400 know how much crueler it ended up being than the 287 00:18:05.519 --> 00:18:08.359 kid perceived it was going to be, uh when he 288 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:12.640 did it. But but anyway, there's there's that, and then 289 00:18:13.079 --> 00:18:15.759 the Browns end up doing the stupid thing with the 290 00:18:16.240 --> 00:18:18.319 with the dog bone on a screen. 291 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:23.920 Oh god, let's talk about that. What that whoever that 292 00:18:24.000 --> 00:18:27.599 guy is, who's working graphics, he's gotta be fired. 293 00:18:27.920 --> 00:18:29.319 What was the reason of doing that? 294 00:18:29.559 --> 00:18:31.640 Because all you could see on the screen was the 295 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:34.240 bottom of the dog bone that looked like a scrotum 296 00:18:34.480 --> 00:18:35.839 that was bouncing up. 297 00:18:37.400 --> 00:18:40.119 Yeah, the kid a message behind it. 298 00:18:40.880 --> 00:18:44.279 I don't know they got they got tan, I don't know. 299 00:18:44.599 --> 00:18:48.799 There was no hidden message. It's it's supposed to be 300 00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:52.240 the logo. They call it the dog Pound in Cleveland. 301 00:18:52.720 --> 00:18:54.759 It's a big thing where their fans come dressed as 302 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:57.079 dogs and they have bones and everything. So they have 303 00:18:57.200 --> 00:18:59.720 this logo for the dog pound with his bone, and 304 00:18:59.759 --> 00:19:05.119 it's supposed to be behind the stage, and but all 305 00:19:05.200 --> 00:19:07.839 that's showing up on the screen is the bottom of 306 00:19:07.880 --> 00:19:09.920 the bone that looks looks. 307 00:19:09.680 --> 00:19:13.440 Like screw them look good. It looked like you would 308 00:19:13.440 --> 00:19:18.920 dipping your testicles in cold water. It was just such 309 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:23.359 a for a man. It was obvious those are balls. 310 00:19:24.359 --> 00:19:30.279 But this whole look the draft thing got so out 311 00:19:30.279 --> 00:19:34.960 of hand because a lot of a lot of folks 312 00:19:35.039 --> 00:19:41.960 in the NFL don't didn't want Shador Sanders because of 313 00:19:42.039 --> 00:19:45.960 what he's going to bring to their organization. The thing 314 00:19:46.039 --> 00:19:49.799 this guy did that messed him up was the fact 315 00:19:49.799 --> 00:19:53.519 that he was bold enough to say that I'm going 316 00:19:53.599 --> 00:19:56.279 to change the culture in that locker room. I'm going 317 00:19:56.359 --> 00:20:00.799 to change the culture of the National Football League. Listen, 318 00:20:01.079 --> 00:20:03.519 I don't want to make this a racial thing, but 319 00:20:04.119 --> 00:20:07.759 most of the owners are white, very wealthy, white man. 320 00:20:08.039 --> 00:20:11.680 They don't want to hear this young, upstart black kid 321 00:20:12.079 --> 00:20:16.000 tell them that I'm going to change your league. And 322 00:20:16.480 --> 00:20:20.000 the theory is that a lot of these guys told 323 00:20:20.240 --> 00:20:24.039 team owners, we don't want this, we don't want we 324 00:20:24.039 --> 00:20:28.079 don't need this kid. Don't let them take over the draft. 325 00:20:29.240 --> 00:20:34.720 Let's avoid embarrassment. So I agree with I agree with 326 00:20:34.759 --> 00:20:38.640 what they did not picking him, I agree with it. 327 00:20:38.880 --> 00:20:39.960 You need to be humbled. 328 00:20:40.599 --> 00:20:44.039 Well, do you think there was a coordinated. 329 00:20:43.400 --> 00:20:48.400 Element, Yes, I do, really, yeah, I think the I 330 00:20:48.400 --> 00:20:54.319 think management and owners and coaches all new look at 331 00:20:54.599 --> 00:20:57.559 we don't need this kind of stuff in the locker room. 332 00:20:57.880 --> 00:21:01.400 We don't need any upstart kid who's never won in 333 00:21:01.519 --> 00:21:05.759 the NFL. He did find in college, but he is 334 00:21:05.799 --> 00:21:10.880 a Sanders and that name, you know, precedes itself. They 335 00:21:10.880 --> 00:21:14.400 don't need the drama, they don't need the circus. So 336 00:21:14.640 --> 00:21:17.799 I understand why they didn't want that to happen within 337 00:21:17.839 --> 00:21:19.119 their organizations. 338 00:21:19.440 --> 00:21:23.480 Wow, well that would be collusion, that would be restract trade, 339 00:21:23.519 --> 00:21:27.079 that would be a major issue. I don't think. 340 00:21:27.559 --> 00:21:28.839 I don't think they did that. 341 00:21:29.880 --> 00:21:36.319 But he he went on a number of interviews and 342 00:21:36.440 --> 00:21:45.160 handled them terribly, and teams were semi public about at 343 00:21:45.240 --> 00:21:49.119 least leaking out that he had handled the interview poorly. 344 00:21:51.000 --> 00:21:57.240 If he saw he had ordered this ridiculous necklace, which 345 00:21:57.240 --> 00:22:00.880 it turns out paid. It costs more than than his 346 00:22:01.039 --> 00:22:06.680 signing bonus, This ridiculously huge gold dollar sign thing. 347 00:22:06.960 --> 00:22:07.359 So. 348 00:22:08.839 --> 00:22:13.720 Ridiculously stupid. He's not his father his father. His father 349 00:22:13.920 --> 00:22:21.079 somehow made cocky cool because he could he could live 350 00:22:21.200 --> 00:22:23.400 up to whatever he was saying. When he got on 351 00:22:23.440 --> 00:22:26.319 the field. He could deliver, he could walk the talk, 352 00:22:27.000 --> 00:22:31.359 and so the you don't when you're coming into the league. 353 00:22:31.359 --> 00:22:34.400 You don't get to say it until you do it. 354 00:22:34.400 --> 00:22:37.960 It's not Saquon Barkley's personality to do stuff like that. 355 00:22:38.200 --> 00:22:41.720 But if he were doing stuff like that now, at 356 00:22:41.799 --> 00:22:44.400 least people would say, well, he's proven it on the 357 00:22:44.440 --> 00:22:46.680 field that he can do it, and so that's the 358 00:22:46.680 --> 00:22:48.680 way he wants to carry himself. 359 00:22:49.039 --> 00:22:49.480 Whatever. 360 00:22:50.799 --> 00:22:53.880 You know, it's every player in the NBA, it's every player, 361 00:22:53.960 --> 00:22:58.119 freaking player in the NBA is like this. But but 362 00:22:59.359 --> 00:23:03.720 no coach on set in an NFL. You still need 363 00:23:04.480 --> 00:23:09.079 discipline in the locker room. You still need respect from 364 00:23:09.119 --> 00:23:13.119 player to coach. You still need to be in command 365 00:23:13.319 --> 00:23:15.759 as a coach. It's not the inmates running the asylum. 366 00:23:15.759 --> 00:23:18.519 College football has turned into the inmates running the asylum 367 00:23:18.680 --> 00:23:21.839 because now they're free to go anywhere and have no 368 00:23:21.880 --> 00:23:25.160 penalty for switching teams and are getting paid, you know, 369 00:23:25.359 --> 00:23:29.400 more money than most of them. I saw that Quinn Ewers, 370 00:23:29.480 --> 00:23:32.759 the quarterback from Texas, that entered the draft, is going 371 00:23:32.839 --> 00:23:35.599 to make eight hundred thousand dollars in his first year 372 00:23:35.640 --> 00:23:38.240 in the NFL. He was slated to make about eight 373 00:23:38.319 --> 00:23:43.119 million in ANIL this year he stayed at Texas. We're 374 00:23:43.160 --> 00:23:47.279 seeing that in women's sports all over the place, where 375 00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:52.079 the WNBA is in such tenuous financial position that you, 376 00:23:52.079 --> 00:23:56.279 you know, average player first year salaries like seventy thousand dollars, 377 00:23:56.799 --> 00:23:59.559 and some of these schools, if you play at Yukon, 378 00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:03.000 you at South Carolina, you play at Notre Dame, a 379 00:24:03.039 --> 00:24:07.640 big women's basketball school, you're gonna make multiple hundreds of 380 00:24:07.680 --> 00:24:10.839 thousands of dollars or more in n I L. Why 381 00:24:10.880 --> 00:24:13.000 the heck are you gonna come out? Well, the USC 382 00:24:13.079 --> 00:24:15.039 girl is a perfect example. I forget her name, but 383 00:24:15.319 --> 00:24:19.680 she she's leaving a couple of million dollars on the 384 00:24:19.680 --> 00:24:22.559 table coming out to play in the w NBA versus 385 00:24:22.559 --> 00:24:25.039 what she what she would have made, and so it's 386 00:24:25.119 --> 00:24:28.240 it's all fretting crazy. But when it comes to the NFL, 387 00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:31.880 you're a rookie, be humble. Look at cam Ward, who 388 00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:35.119 is the first pick in the draft. Another quarterback, another 389 00:24:35.160 --> 00:24:39.160 black quarterback. This is not a racial thing. It's it's 390 00:24:39.440 --> 00:24:42.279 uh it's behavior, it's. 391 00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:46.039 It's exactly a class that that that that's why if 392 00:24:46.039 --> 00:24:50.799 you watched a video of cam Ward and Shador Sanders, 393 00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:54.200 uh practicing together. 394 00:24:53.920 --> 00:24:56.759 Throwing the football, that was great. That was great, right, 395 00:24:56.839 --> 00:25:01.519 and and all you got to hear is cam Chadoor 396 00:25:01.839 --> 00:25:04.920 is all about what, you know, what we can do 397 00:25:05.079 --> 00:25:08.079 now that we're going to be pros. And his his 398 00:25:08.279 --> 00:25:11.000 idea to cam Ward was we got to make a 399 00:25:11.079 --> 00:25:13.440 video together. We've got to make a song together, a 400 00:25:13.559 --> 00:25:18.559 rap song. And cam Ward, good for him, said, uh uh, 401 00:25:18.599 --> 00:25:21.119