Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, die with something for you to think about.
Speaker 1: Standing on your own two feet. Standing on your own
Speaker 1: two feet. The reason why that's important because people will
Speaker 1: ride with you for a short period. They're not going
Speaker 1: to distance. Most not going to distance. They'll ride with
Speaker 1: you for a short period, then they fall off.
Speaker 2: That's just the way it is. That's just the way
Speaker 2: it is.
Speaker 1: That's why it's important to be an individual who don't
Speaker 1: lean on people thinking they're gonna hold you up. When
Speaker 1: you're going through no people will be like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry for your loss.
Speaker 2: You okay.
Speaker 1: They'll do that for about two good weeks if that,
Speaker 1: you're lucky if they do it a month because people
Speaker 1: just it's just all about self, but they expect for
Speaker 1: you to be right there when it's them. Seriously, you
Speaker 1: got to be able to stand on your own two
Speaker 1: feet when you leaning on people. The very time you
Speaker 1: need to lean is when you're gonna fall because they
Speaker 1: won't be there. Stand on your own two feet. It's
Speaker 1: okay to have support, is great to have support, but
Speaker 1: staying on your own because through your darkest times you
Speaker 1: may have to go alone because like.
Speaker 2: I said, people will be with you for a moment
Speaker 2: so they're gonna fall off.
Speaker 1: They're not gonna keep checking on you to see if
Speaker 1: you're okay.
Speaker 2: Most people will not.
Speaker 1: I know I'm dealing with something that will go to
Speaker 1: the graves with me. You think people be contact with me?
Speaker 3: Hey?
Speaker 2: How you doing?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I know that you're dealing with something rough? How are
Speaker 2: you doing? You think people do that?
Speaker 1: Not?
Speaker 2: No, not at all.
Speaker 1: And frankly, I don't care because me and Jesus we
Speaker 1: got this. We got this. I do not let anything
Speaker 1: hold me down. I don't. You cannot give your power
Speaker 1: to anything. You have to be able to stand, and
Speaker 1: you have to keep going no matter what you face,
Speaker 1: no matter what adversity comes, no matter how tragic. You
Speaker 1: have to keep going standing on your own two feet.
Speaker 2: And that is not literally your own two feet, because
Speaker 2: some people don't have feat. I'm just saying standing on
Speaker 2: your own. You have to have that strength. And for me,
Speaker 2: the only way.
Speaker 1: I can make it is do Christ, Jesus, do God.
Speaker 2: Jesus is the way to God.
Speaker 1: I can't get to God without going through the Sinn,
Speaker 1: and Jesus gives me strength day after day after day.
Speaker 2: When no one else is checking in, I always get
Speaker 2: a kick of that Holy Spirit.
Speaker 3: Sure, I have people who do check on me from
Speaker 3: time to time, but no one is saying, hey, are
Speaker 3: you okay?
Speaker 1: And thank God that I am, And I'm not leaning
Speaker 1: in the p on people to ask me that I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm grateful. That's why I encourage people to get that
Speaker 1: relationship with God, because it's no lie. He will give
Speaker 1: you peace that surpasses all understanding. Sometimes you just don't know.
Speaker 1: You're like, wow, I can't believe how I am enduring
Speaker 1: these things because He will give you just that much peace, immeasurable,
Speaker 1: immeasurable because He loves us so much, and he can
Speaker 1: be everything that you want him to be. When people
Speaker 1: are not there for you, you can stand on your own.
Speaker 1: When you're strong and you have Jesus in your life,
Speaker 1: you can stand on your own. It's hard sometimes, but
Speaker 1: you'll keep standing because remember, the race is not given
Speaker 1: to the swift nor the strong, but to the one
Speaker 1: who'll endure to the end. So you gotta keep on
Speaker 1: keeping on. You have to keep holding on no matter
Speaker 1: how hard and how tough.
Speaker 2: You gotta keep. You gotta keep holding on.
Speaker 1: Hanging in there, standing tall, and like I said many times,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to stand alone. Don't let that take
Speaker 1: you out. Don't let it take you out because you're
Speaker 1: standing alone. Sometimes you gotta stand alone. Sometimes you will
Speaker 1: stand alone.
Speaker 2: But stop taking it as negative.
Speaker 1: Love you enough to not have a problem with standing alone.
Speaker 2: Because you just may have to. The problem comes in
Speaker 2: when people are so.
Speaker 1: Focused on other people will I'm going through and I
Speaker 1: just need somebody.
Speaker 2: But what if no one is there?
Speaker 1: Because like I said in the beginning, people will ride
Speaker 1: with you.
Speaker 2: For a short period and then no one is asking you,
Speaker 2: how are you?
Speaker 1: How you doing you?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: No, they just go on back to their lives, and
Speaker 1: that's okay. I'm just saying, if it happens to you,
Speaker 1: don't let it take you out.
Speaker 2: Don't lose yourself over it. Just keep it moving. That's
Speaker 2: why I tell you so many.
Speaker 1: Times, never give your power to people or things, because
Speaker 1: when you do, you are the one who end up
Speaker 1: hurts you. Many times, you're gonna have to walk it
Speaker 1: out by yourself. And you know what, it does not
Speaker 1: mean that people don't love you. It don't people love you,
Speaker 1: but they're just you know, they got their own things
Speaker 1: going on. So you know you have to be strong
Speaker 1: within yourself. You have to love yourself. You gotta keep
Speaker 1: going because sometimes them very people that you were there
Speaker 1: for they're not gonna be there for you. That's just life.
Speaker 1: It's just life. I just wish people could really get
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because.
Speaker 2: So many people are broken hearted, I.
Speaker 1: Mean to the core, because they felt when they were
Speaker 1: going through that particular people should have been there for
Speaker 1: them that was not there for them. Stop giving your
Speaker 1: power to people. Stop it, because you're the one who's
Speaker 1: gonna be.
Speaker 2: Hurt the most.
Speaker 1: Promise you, I guarantee you you're the one.
Speaker 2: Who's gonna be hurt the most.
Speaker 1: Because people arrive with you for a short period, then
Speaker 1: they getting off of that train. I'm telling you. It's
Speaker 1: no more checking in and things like that. There are
Speaker 1: a few people that are genuine who do checking in,
Speaker 1: but for the most part, it's not happening. It's not
Speaker 1: But if you're able to stand on your own two feet,
Speaker 1: you're okay. Whether they do or whether they do, you
Speaker 1: will be okay when you're standing on your own Try it.
Speaker 1: Stop giving your power away. You should never give your
Speaker 1: power to anyone. I don't care who it is. You
Speaker 1: should never give your power away to anyone or not
Speaker 1: things for no reason whatsoever, because soon as you do,
Speaker 1: you're the one who.
Speaker 2: Going to be hurt. The most.
Speaker 1: People hurt you, people let you down, people fail you.
Speaker 1: And when you're so invested and you've given your power
Speaker 1: in your everything, that's when you're hurt.
Speaker 2: The most.
Speaker 1: Man strength, I've already told you is leaning on Jesus.
Speaker 1: And I know some people leaning on Jesus. You can't
Speaker 1: see Jesus. Oh, I can see him and this many
Speaker 1: different ways, and I can feel him for sure. Now,
Speaker 1: you do it your way, and I'll do it mine.
Speaker 1: But what I don't do is look for man look
Speaker 1: for people to lift me up in any way, because
Speaker 1: I stand on my own two feet. Now.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying I don't let people in.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that at all, But I just don't
Speaker 1: leave and depend on people. You know, some people live
Speaker 1: their lives through other people. Vicarous, They want to live
Speaker 1: through someone someone else, and a lot of times they
Speaker 1: give that other person or those other people care hell
Speaker 1: and really they are very unhappy people who are making
Speaker 1: the lives of others unhappy. See a lot of times
Speaker 1: when you.
Speaker 2: Open yourself up to this person, that person, et cetera.
Speaker 1: Oh, you gotta deal with everything that goes along with them.
Speaker 1: And people can pour into your life or they can
Speaker 1: drain the life out of you.
Speaker 2: It depends on you, straight up, It depends on you.
Speaker 1: Those who don't get it are the ones who suffer
Speaker 1: the most. Dark house may rise, storm winds may blow,
Speaker 1: But when you're able to stand on your own two feet.
Speaker 4: You'll be okay. You'll be okay because remember, the word
Speaker 4: tells us.
Speaker 2: Greater is he that is in me, that he can
Speaker 2: that it's in the world.
Speaker 1: That's how I live my life. I can't speak for
Speaker 1: anyone else. That's how I live my life. Boring me,
Speaker 1: boring cherry. Yeah, that's how I live my life. That's
Speaker 1: what some people think. But I'm telling you rich, rich,
Speaker 1: rich rich, because I know.
Speaker 2: Who my father is.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: You know a lot of people say it, Oh, I'm
Speaker 2: a Christian. I'm a Christian. I'm a Christian.
Speaker 1: Lies from the pits of hell. Don't in no shape,
Speaker 1: fashion or form, live godly, spew hate, show violence. That's
Speaker 1: not a God, that's.
Speaker 2: Not of his son at all.
Speaker 1: But see, when people are so broken, like I always say,
Speaker 1: they don't know right from Rome, because Rome is right
Speaker 1: and right is wrong in their eyes. Because people are
Speaker 1: so broken and unhealed. That's why you gotta know you,
Speaker 1: and you have to love you. When you do it,
Speaker 1: open your eyes, Oh my god, it's open your eyes.
Speaker 1: The scales fall off when you know and love yourself.
Speaker 2: And then who when you're truly, truly.
Speaker 1: Walking with the Lord.
Speaker 4: M m m m hmm.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, nothing like it, nothing like it, nothing
Speaker 1: like it at all.
Speaker 2: And I just wish that people would.
Speaker 1: I wish that people will just worship Jesus and God
Speaker 1: the way they.
Speaker 2: Worship man, you know, the way they worship some men
Speaker 2: and some women. I just wish people believe that worship God.
Speaker 1: See, you can't in no way worship man and then
Speaker 1: say you love God. You can't idolize man or woman
Speaker 1: and then say you love God.
Speaker 2: It's just not possible. You can say it, but it's
Speaker 2: a lie.
Speaker 1: And you know what, what's really really, really really the
Speaker 1: icing on the cake. People think they're fool of God.
Speaker 1: They think, because they say, if they're a Christian and
Speaker 1: they're trying to please man, that they're fool of God.
Speaker 2: Are you serious?
Speaker 1: All you gotta do is listen to them talk, listen
Speaker 1: to what they spew from their mouths.
Speaker 2: It's not godly. And when they have all the people who.
Speaker 1: Worship them, that's their strength.
Speaker 2: You become their strength.
Speaker 1: That's why I'll say anything to you.
Speaker 2: You will believe it. God, You'll believe it.
Speaker 1: And that's why so many people are in relationships because
Speaker 1: they gain so much and investment so much in the
Speaker 1: other person.
Speaker 2: That person can't do no wrong.
Speaker 1: They don't care what that person do. Ridiculous. You gotta
Speaker 1: stand on your own two teeth. You have to stand
Speaker 1: on your own to see.
Speaker 2: I don't care if who you're with you love that
Speaker 2: person and you you love them, and you you be
Speaker 2: so in love with.
Speaker 1: Them, but you still got to stand on your own
Speaker 1: two feet. Don't give your power to people are things.
Speaker 1: Because I'm telling you, man will fail you. You're not
Speaker 1: looking for them to fail you. That's not what you're
Speaker 1: looking for. But because man is man, they will. So
Speaker 1: you gotta be able to stand on your own. I
Speaker 1: know people who who have divorced and they are crushed,
Speaker 1: completely crushed.
Speaker 2: And personally, I've been divorced. I just don't.
Speaker 1: See any reason for that. But I understand because of
Speaker 1: the mindsets that people have. It's all about the mindset.
Speaker 1: Every single thing is about the mindset. And if you're
Speaker 1: not able to stand on your own, you're gonna have
Speaker 1: a very very very very hard time, very hard time.
Speaker 2: If you're upsetting and but hurts because people.
Speaker 1: Are not there.
Speaker 2: Through your trials and your.
Speaker 1: Tribulations, you're gonna have a hard time, very hard. The
Speaker 1: best advice I can give anyone outside of loving God
Speaker 1: is to love yourself, because if you can't love yourself,
Speaker 1: you will never know who you are. If you can't
Speaker 1: love yourself, you will never be able to love anyone
Speaker 1: else the right way, a healthy way. It's just not
Speaker 1: having it, and that is why so many relationships are
Speaker 1: one sided. More are one sided than not because people
Speaker 1: are not standing on their own. You can be in
Speaker 1: a relationship, you can be in a marriage, but you
Speaker 1: still gotta be able to stand on your own. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying be separate from the person. I'm saying stand
Speaker 1: on your own mentally. So if you wake up in
Speaker 1: the morning, if that person is gone, you can still stand,
Speaker 1: you will remain standing.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm talking about. So I just want to say.
Speaker 1: That to you in love. Much much love to each
Speaker 1: and every one of you. You know you're always welcome
Speaker 1: to reach out to me. Go to my podcast page.
Speaker 1: It has my email there. Anytime I will respond. Love
Speaker 1: you so much. I in every episode of the same
Speaker 1: and I hope you do it. Thank on it.