Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to Pink Shade. It's TLC Tuesday. I'm
here with Kimberly. She's back, she's better than ever. We're
gonna talk ninety day fiance.
Speaker 2: I was ready to rock out to the music, and
then there was no music because I get confused.
Speaker 1: No, we only rock out for Prime on Prime's Yeah,
and you know that last week because I forgot to
put the music up, and I was like, oh, I
forgot to put the music up, so I'm singing, and
then I played it. Ingrid put the other music on
top of it, so it's like double music. I reached
out to her. I go, you put the music on
and it's Prime and we don't put the music. She goes,
I think you didn't do the music. I was like,
I did it. It was just eight seconds late. Anyway,
You're welcome, everybody. Double.
Speaker 2: She didn't listened to part to past eight seconds to
see what's happening.
Speaker 1: She doesn't listen to shit.
Speaker 2: I know, I got Ingrid.
Speaker 1: I think she like searches for her name.
Speaker 2: Oh so if I call her the C word, then
that will she'll that'll be triggered.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she'll be like, who's talking about man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what if I just say she or I
say Schminger it.
Speaker 1: Uh, Schwinger, it will still probably pop up if she
searches for her own name.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, what's her what's her middle name?
Speaker 1: And okay Shmingered Schman. You guys, if you are on
my Instagram, I am, it will be posted. I haven't
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to be able to control my own side of the
bed because I go was freezing last night and I
was like, well, you told me to put it on
a negative seven. I was on like a negative three.
He was on a negative seven, so like yeah, yeah,
So because he was just having me control it from
my phone, I was like, why don't you control your
own side of the bed. Why do I have to
be in charge? And then we had a fight. But
so anyway, that's it, guys, go check out the ad
perfectly snug. It's going to change if you're a menopause
a lady, I have a question about menopause, and then
we will get into this recap.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I went got a massage recently and the lady there
told me. The massage lady told me she's almost sixty
and she was like, you know, Perry, menopause, menopause, the
whole thing last twenty year. I was like, excuse me,
excuse me. I don't think that's correct. I think it's ten.
And I think it's like from like ten, like forty
five to fifty five or forty eight to fifty eight
or whatever, because I'm like, I feel like here, God,
I like I'm on the other side of it. And
she was like, no, I think it's like twenty. I
was like, girl, we need to do some research because
I don't think that's right. Yeah. I didn't like hearing that.
Speaker 2: No, that's the most horrible thing I've ever heard in
my entire life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I think I really all the hot and
everything started like forty eight forty nine, like beings really
hot all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've always been really hot. That's like a
medication issue. But I have the brain fog, but my
doctor doesn't think it's menopause. I just get very poor sleep.
Speaker 1: So guess what perfectly snug is there for you? Yep? Yeah, everybody, Okay,
that dead. Enough chat about that. We've got so much.
This was a great episode.
Speaker 2: Yes it was.
Speaker 1: It was jam packed and I gotta tell you love
after lock up. This week also a great episode.
Speaker 2: Oh good, did I see this week's yet.
Speaker 1: We've got the new weirdo with the long red hair.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, yeah. Who is an indigenous person?
Speaker 1: Or so he says, So he says, Akisha doesn't believe it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't know if I do.
Speaker 1: Just because you're from Oklahoma doesn't mean you get to claim.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but let's get started, so we're gonna talk about it.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of tight pants like Meado though, I
mean Meato can never. Where's me o never?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: No, yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay. So ninety Fiance, Season twelve, episode eleven, Meeting the Family,
that's what this is called. I do want you guys
to check out Instagram because I will be putting up
a reel that I'm gonna make myself, which means it'll
take me hours. So everybody like it, appreciate it. Of
there's so many great lines on this episode. Yeah, so
we're gonna start with Mallory and Ross Sheet and so
we're at Rin and Michaela's playing cornhole. Now, when they
were first playing cornhole and I was writing this down,
my daughter walked in the room and I go they
were playing the game with the speaking of brainwalk and
I was like, you know. She goes, are you having
a seizure because I was just throwing my arm forward
and I go the thing with the bean bag. She
was like, I don't know. I don't do sports. So
finally they said the words cornhole. I was like, thank god,
I can't remember the name of it.
Speaker 2: I also forgot the name of cornhole the past twice
in the past two weeks. Okay, yeah, me now, because
they play it occasionally at my dad's retirement community and
the noise of the bean bag hitting the wood scares
Ralthie because Ralphie has some I don't know, he's mourning
my mom or there's something going on emotionally, and he
runs home and leaves my dad. He just bolts.
Speaker 1: Oh, no, cornwall is very hard. It's very hard to
get one of those beanbags in.
Speaker 2: Well, not for Rush's rush.
Speaker 1: He's a natural. So everybody looks sweaty, it looks hot
there and talking it together, she says, since the baseball
game and Rashie really showed his ass, she's kept and
locked up in the house. He's not allowed you around
anybody else if he's going to be rude. Good for her,
And he says, I don't feel bad about Mallory and
Brandon Brandy, but I do feel bad for Wren and
Mikayla because Wren is a good friend and I really
like him.
Speaker 2: M hm, so they. I just wish he had a
vowel in his name besides the sometimes why just.
Speaker 1: R y in? I usually write it r e n
so that I say it correctly. But then I decided
maybe I was being disrespectful in my notes, so I
typed it r y in And I'm making myself say
Wrenn even though it could be Ryan. Yeah. So they
tell Rosh that Katie and Brandon are coming. He goes Brandy,
Brandy always with Brandy, and Rinn says, look, man, Brandon
is my best friend. Makaya goes, you gotta get used
to it, and Malory goes, just stop being an asshole
and let it go. I'm going to lock you in
the house again. So he says, okay, now.
Speaker 2: Not because Mallory said it, because wren said it. So
he'll listen to a man. I really think that this
part of Rush's culture is Mallory could say whatever and
he won't listen to her. But if Rinn is telling
he's like, okay, man to man.
Speaker 1: Okay, well you might be right. So the men are
set around eating venison and talking about various parts of
deer meat, and Mallory sits at the table and talks
to her friends and says, yeah, raw. She feels bad
because he can't work right now. You feel like he's
not contributing. So I decided to tell him that he
can't have my money. And I brought up a conversation
about a prenup and he thinks I'm bringing it up
because I think we're not gonna last. And it's hard
to explain with the language where because prenups don't exist
in Turkey. So the guys are like, what are you
talking about over there? You share it with the class,
and she says she will.
Speaker 2: This is when you say period diarrhea, we're talking about
period poops. Then they'll just walk away.
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh. I was like, what are you talking about? Oh,
because the guys are saying, what are you talking about? Yeah,
and she explains, I am telling them how I want
to prenup to protect my brokerage account and my house.
And he's taking it the wrong way. But like, my
thought is what if something happens and God forbid in
ten to fifteen years And Brandon says, do you ever
take into consideration He packed up his whole life to
come here, and everybody's like, you're taking Russia's side. All
of a sudden, you believe in love, like you're a
hopeless romantic. He goes into the whole thing about being
a whole was romantic. But Brandon says he moved halfway
across the world and went all in on you, and
Rosh goes, yeah, I do not sign this paper and
I don't care about the stuff. And Michaela says, well,
I'll tell you I'm the one that suggested it. And
he goes, oh, it's because I'm Turkey, and she says, no,
it's I'd say the same thing. Is she married a
guy from Alabama? Now that I believe, because I think
Mallory does have these two assets. Yeah, And I do
think if she married a guy from Alabama that Michayla
would say the same thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And Brandon says, look, this guy left.
Speaker 2: His ead unless it was a rich guy who had
like a lot of money on his own and had
a good job. But if it was a guy who
didn't have a job, yes.
Speaker 1: A guy that's equal ish. So Brandon says he gave
up everything and all he wants is love, and Michaela goes, Okay,
that's great and everything. But she's worked her ass off
to get that house and she almost died last year,
and I don't want somebody to come in and take
that from her. And Brandon's like, you can't weigh financial
asss over what he gave her. You can't even put
those on the same scale. I was like, well, kinda
you can.
Speaker 2: So you kind of can. Also, Brandon is saying a
lot of like soundbites about society and culture, like where
are with people not valuing marriage like they used to
and in like the good old days? And I was
getting a little uncomfortable. I was like, well, you have
your sunglasses on your head, on top of your baseball head,
upside down, upside down.
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takes Brandon outside and says he's sorry for the way
he's acted. And I think that's the only way he
was allowed to go to this cornhole party. He was
gonna You're gonna apologize or you don't get to go
to any more parties.
Speaker 2: Yeah, treat him like a child if he's gonna behave
like a child at a baseball game.
Speaker 1: I think that's right. So you're sorry, say you're saying
your seigns you don't get to go drink beer anymore.
So he apologizes, and Branda says, listen, I understand the
situation is awkward for you, but I appreciate you pulling
me aside to apologize. I appreciate that as a man, a.
Speaker 2: Man like women, don't apologize as.
Speaker 1: A man, don't sit on my tailgate as a man.
Speaker 2: I noticed he arrived in an suv that did not
have a tailgate, and I was like, few, at least
that's a crisis we won't be having at this cornhole party.
Speaker 1: And the talking head ra She says, you know, Brandon,
he is from America and I am from Turkic. But
he doesn't think rash Muslim rash come for green card.
He don't think this. He care good person, So I
don't know if he means he cares I'm a good
person or yes, yeah, yeah, I don't have a lot
of support here, but Brandy support me, and I can
see now he's a good guy. It's all.
Speaker 2: It's all it took, that's all it Tuck could take
my side in a fight at the bitches.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so let's see duttad. We're gonna move on
to Marissa and Edward. Do we have to.
Speaker 2: This lady?
Speaker 1: Did you see she posted a whole thing like beforetnight's
episode comes out? Oh no, she knows, She's like before
tonight's episode comes out. I'd like to apologize in advance. Yeah, yeah,
she said she she wasn't herself. She's really sorry. Let's
see if I can find it. I was, because then
I was like, well, I can't wait to see the episode.
She must have said something terrible.
Speaker 2: But the best part for her on this is that
while she was being such a bitch to Edward, she
wasn't wearing that giant cross around her neck, because that
would have been even that would have been perfect Okay,
just perfection.
Speaker 1: Let's hearing sah.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to jump on really quick because a
new clip has just been released on the ninety day sites,
and it is a scene from this upcoming episode where
I'm sitting with my girlfriends and I'm expressing my concerns
on whether or not Edward and I are compatible on
an intellectual level.
Speaker 1: And I want to be really clear about this.
Speaker 4: Okay, I do not feel that Edward is stupid or
is an imbecile. I think the challenge that I was
facing was that we have a very big language barrier,
and we were unable to get into deep conversations because
I don't speak Spanish very well and you know, he's
still in the process of learning English to a level
of high fluency. So I want to publicly apologize to
him for, you know, saying things that made him look
like I didn't.
Speaker 2: Think that he was smart.
Speaker 1: It's not the case.
Speaker 4: It's just that it was difficult communicating because of the language,
which is why I got engaged with him.
Speaker 2: That's why I decided to marry him and bring him
to my country to live with my children, because we've
never had a deep conversation because of a language fairy.
Speaker 1: I think he's pretty fluent.
Speaker 2: I think he I don't think that's the issue at all. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think she had some wine and said what she
was really thinking, which is he's not as smart as me, yes.
Speaker 2: Yep, and as good as me because of money.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, so you uh.
Speaker 2: She he comes out in an outfit, they're going to
a dinner party, and she's like, no, it's too monochromatic,
don't wear the bracelets. Change sends him away and he
just sighs, it's just really his life soul is being
sucked out of his body every time she speaks. And
then he comes out. She's like, much better. See how
we match better? We go look like we look good together.
And so they're going to a cocktail party in her
neighborhood with some friends. She hopes that he fits in.
She warns him in the car, I know you don't
drink much, but please don't get sloppy drunk and embarrass me.
So to clarify, she's never seen him sloppy drunk, but
she feels the need to tell him not to get
sloppy drunk.
Speaker 1: Tonight might be the night.
Speaker 2: To my I mean, I would become a drinker if
I had to live with this woman. So and then
they go to the house and she's like, so this
is not like a welcome to the World party. It's
not you know, it's just like a normal party that
I would go to with my friends. And he's like, okay,
it's not for me, Like nothing is for me, right,
I get it. I why under the other to say
that imperson going to be a welcome to the world
like a baby boy being born. Edward, he didn't think
this party was for him.
Speaker 1: I think we don't know of earlier she said like, yeah,
it's a party for you to meet my friends. But
then she walk up and like, don't worry. People don't
really want to talk to you at all.
Speaker 2: No, you're just arm candy for me to look good.
So I just want you to mingle. But you know,
don't make every conversation about baseball like you like to do.
Ask them questions to show that you're interested in them,
kind of like I never do with you. So the
way I converse with you do the opposite, show that
you care about the other person, like treating teaching him
how to have a conversation. This man works in hospitality, right,
he knows how to talk to people.
Speaker 1: I think he does a great job at this party
blending in and just chatting with people as anybody would
at a cocktail party exactly.
Speaker 2: So everyone welcomes Edward nicely. They ask him how it's
going in America. He says it's good. They ask him
who cooks, and he says she does, And I was like,
she doesn't let him touch the kitchen. Let's be real,
she's Worri's gonna burn down the house. And he had
to ask.
Speaker 1: The correct way to cut up potato for fear exactly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, length wise, horizontal, vertical? Which way? Yeah? So
I did think a guy called him Edwin, but I
would Okay, I put.
Speaker 1: It on the screen so you can see called him Edwin. Yes.
Speaker 2: So they ask him what he's going to do for
a job, and he says, I've been thinking about ideas.
And they're like, like, what, just you know, pondering some ideas,
what such as? And he says, well, I like baseball,
Like I know all about baseball. It's the biggest sport
where I come from. And you think he's going to
launch into baseball. But then he asked them what they
do because she trained him well, and he's like, what
do you do for a living? They were in insurance
and finance, and he thinks, Wow, these are the people
I would serve in the hotel in my country, and
now I'm hanging out with them. This is crazy.
Speaker 1: And I'm looking to see if blue Bell and Bluebell,
Pennsylvania has any kind of baseball team, like a minor
league team.
Speaker 2: Right right?
Speaker 1: The answer is no, no little Look, yeah, they've got
Little league and they've got you know, you know, community leagues,
but they don't think and maybe they have like a
farm team like the trash in Yeahnceville.
Speaker 2: But no, okay, So there they say. She comes over,
she's she's talking to her friends, and she goes, I'm
gonna just sneak over and just make sure he's not
only talking about baseball, because he only talks about baseball.
And she goes over and they are talking about baseball,
but people seem to be enjoying the conversation. And they
She's like, what were you guys talking about? Did he
say anything embarrassing? And they're like, well, we were just
talking about cooking. He likes your meat. He likes your meat, Marissa,
And they keep making that joke. And he says he
might be interested in coaching baseball or opening a facility,
and you see her face get like really tense. She's like,
that's not happening. Did you see what he did to
my fence? So they're like reporting to a boss how
her employer talked about her in like an interview. It's
very much like the boss is coming over, how did
he do in his interview?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Are you guys embarrassed that I'm with him? Are
you guys aided that he's speaking? Yes?
Speaker 2: So then later on in the night, Edward is telling
a woman how nice everyone is being to him, and
he's enjoying himself. Marissa and her friends talk about the
next girl's trip and how Edward won't be allowed to go,
and and another woman, one of the women says, are
you anxious about him talking to the other guys here
who have like big professions, And Marissa says, yeah, I
worry what he's talking about. I don't want to say
he's naive or not cultured, bitch, but it just gets worse,
It gets so much worse. But I have a hard
time with him matching me intellectually, and like, will I
ever feel he's my intellectual match or will I be
intellectually stimulated? And will he be helping me grow? He's what?
I have no words, So she says, my friends are sophisticated,
and my relationship with Edward is not based on intellect.
It was based on a physical attraction, and I'm worried
that we aren't going to meet on an intellectual level. Bitch,
you sell wedding dresses you are not a physicist.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm literally just trying to think, like, okay,
like I've been married now almost twenty six years. I'm
trying to think about what intellectual conversations my husband and
I have now. We talk about things life and bills
and how we brace our children and the grateful dead,
and I mean, you know what I mean. But we're
not like sitting around going let's contemplate the meaning of life?
And who do you think you know? With the first
star when it bursts? What kind of galaxy did it form?
I mean, we're not having these kind of conversations.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what does she talk about philosophy, Let's talk about Nietzche,
Let's talk about politics, let's talk about No, they're going
to be talking about the kids and money, every day life,
every day life. So Marisa says, the one thing Edward has,
the one thing Edward has is that he's a nicer
person than I am, and I'm learning that from him.
And the friend says that's huge, that's great, and she's like, yeah,
I need to be reminded of that. He is the
nicest person. He worships me, and that's what most women want.
But I'm over here wanting something else that my mind
is craving.
Speaker 1: She's just so full of shit. Join a book club,
nailed it. Join a book club where you're going to
read the latest Elan Hildebrand book and it's not going
to be that deep anyway.
Speaker 2: Exactly. So the friend says, well, the grass is always greener.
If he did give you what you want, you might
be exhausted, Like seriously, Imagine you've just come home from
working in the city and your partner is like, Okay,
I have this new philosophical article I want you to
read and we can talk about the meaning of life. No, no,
I want to watch ninety Fiance any Chinese food. So
Marissa wonders, will he ever be the sophisticated person that
I can bring to a black tie event or like
a rodeo? What, ma'am, what what are you talking about? What?
Speaker 1: I think he would be just fine at a black
tie event. He is perfectly able of having conversations with
all kinds of people. Yeah, So what has led her
to believe that when he gets in public he doesn't
know how to act?
Speaker 2: Does she think he's going to rip off his shirt
and start fingering his belly button and asking the other
men to smell it. What do you think he's gonna do?
Speaker 1: Gross? I don't know.
Speaker 2: We haven't even seen him burp or fart or anything.
He's been perfectly fine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what she's talking about.
Speaker 2: Now at a rodeo, he might be a little confused,
but I don't think he'd embarrass himself.
Speaker 1: He'd be fascinated probably, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Also, what issticated about a rodeo? What is she talking
about that?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Does she know what sophisticated means? I don't think she
knows it intellectually or sophisticated means. So Marissa tells us
Edward hasn't been exposed to a lot of things that
I do in my normal life, so I'm a little
concerned about his ability to adapt to social standards again,
like he's going to hawk up a loogie and hand
it to a fellow man and say, will you sellow
you guys. I don't even know what she thinks he's
going to do. I can't even comprehend. Well, like she
has hostility.
Speaker 1: She hasn't posted since that, She hasn't posted since the episodica.
Speaker 2: Yes, she knows how she didn't realize how bad it
was because she was a little tipsy and she didn't realize.
I think so social standards. He again, works in hospitality,
he knows about social standards. Yeah, so she goes in
my friend group. There are a bunch of successful women
and men, and we talk about sophisticated things. And I
think Edward struggles with that sometimes, not because he's a
stupid person, but because he's not exposed to that because
people in the dr are dumb and they don't talk
about smart things. I guess. So the friend says, well,
he's very kind, but you're a driven person, and I
do wonder will he be good enough for you? And
that's where the friend lost me because I was like,
you just said he's kind. So for some people, the
definition of being good enough is like they're kind, they're
good like you would want your children to come home
with a partner that is kind, right, yes, So that
makes him good enough And for them it's all about
how much he MIxS essentially, so because she wouldn't worry
about sophistication if he was rich.
Speaker 1: Like rich people can be the grossest at all.
Speaker 2: Exactly, you know, So Marisa says, I'm told because he
treats me better than anyone ever could. So I'm torn
to pieces. You just said he will treat me better
than anyone ever will, and I'm torn.
Speaker 1: Later, she says she loves him more than she's ever
loved anyone.
Speaker 2: What the why are you torn? Then? So her friend
says she's so successful and business minded and sure he's nice,
but will he live up to her expectations?
Speaker 1: Like that?
Speaker 2: I was like, god, I was really rooting for that friend.
And then it was like, sure he's nice, Like that
doesn't mean anything. And Marisa says, I'm just being so
harsh with him every day. And her friend says, You're
not this mean. This is not you. You're being very degrading
to yourself right now. Marissa, it's hard to listen to
you are so real. You're so real. We love that
about you. It's like, what about Marissa is so real? Okay,
that was weird.
Speaker 1: That was weird.
Speaker 2: They were all like kiss up to her, and She's like,
I'm losing who I am. I'm so frustrated and impatient
and angry every day. Why am I being so mean
to a person who is so kind to me? It
makes me feel evil, and I don't want to feel
this way. And she says, you will your partner bring
out your best, that's what you think about. And right
now I'm not my best. And he used to bring
out my best when we were on vacation together, but
now I'm the opposite. And am I always going to
be this way around him? I don't want to be
mean for the rest of my life. I don't want
to be in a relationship that makes me be not
who I am. So get way to shift the blame
to it's his fault.
Speaker 1: Yep, yep.
Speaker 2: That she is being a bitch. I know we say
no woman ever drew herself crazy per Ronnie on WATCHO Crappen's.
But she is the reason. She's being a bitch.
Speaker 1: She's trying herself crazy. She is driving, she is got
herself spun up into this cycle of and I think
when her friend says here, her friend says, you're so
worried about what people think, I think that's the issue.
The issue is she is worried about what other people think.
So she's worried at this party. Her neighborhood friends will think, like,
what has she done? She's with this guy that's lesser
than that's the issue. She worries about what all of them.
Speaker 2: Think and it's making her spiral. And then she lashes
out at him. Yeah he's not doing anything to warrant
this behavior.
Speaker 1: He's acting normal a lot of cocktail parties.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so she says, I everyone questioned this relationship,
and I don't want to have to say they were right.
And that's another she doesn't want people say I told
you so. And the friends are like, you shouldn't be
worried what other people think except all of us, because
that's what we do here.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that when the friend said, you're I think
you're worried about what other people think, I was like,
I think that's the root of the point here, is
that she is trying to like make sure her neighbors
all think she's a certain level. Yeah, and that is
she bringing herself down by the way she currently like
owns a bar three studio and yeah, all's all together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean she's it's all her self consciousness and
her values of what she thinks matters, and it's all
about what people think, which is like, she's in her forties,
stop caring what people think. In your like weird neighborhood
that it's like, it's so it's like keeping up with
the Joneses.
Speaker 1: Right, but the ft but the guys seemed all completely like, hey, bro,
what's up? You want to talk about it?
Speaker 2: All?
Speaker 1: They all seemed to judging him for.
Speaker 2: What, you know, they were perfectly fine.
Speaker 1: They knew he just got there and didn't have a
job yet. So I mean, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: And I and I just really don't like how she
keeps being like, well, he the relationship is not bringing
out the best He used to bring out the best
of me, Like, it's his job to make you a
grown woman, be a better person, And how are you
making him better? She never worries about that. That's like
she just assumes by bringing him here she is making
him better and letting him live in a big house.
But it's his job to make her a better person.
Speaker 1: When yeah, okay, Asha and Maxwell six days to wed
The wedding is the past day, so Asha goes in
to talk to her future mother in law Maria. She
gives her a purse they bought at the market and
some caftans that she said she brought from home, and
in her talking to her, she says, my age should
not matter, and we have less than a week to
get on one accord before the wedding day. Now I
looked that up because I was like, is that the
correct usage of that of one accord? Either way, it
was not a phrase that I have not heard. I've
never heard this phrase, so I looked it up. I
was like, you're gonna get into your record like the car,
she doesn't drive it a cord. Not absolutely not. So
Asha talks to Maria and the Maria says, listen, I
was concerned because you need to be happy with Maxwell
and the way he looks because God created Maxwell. You
want to change his eyeball, you want to fix his face,
and when he comes back from the United States, I
won't recognize him. And you have no right to change
him because God made his body. His body in his face,
or the temple that God made. And then she goes
mm hmm. Now if there are cracks in the step
at the temple, you have to fix those steps.
Speaker 2: That was good.
Speaker 1: That was good, And she goes no, and she goes,
now something brakes in your house, like the air conditioner.
Something you have to fix it. And she goes, no,
it's not the same. And she goes, now, what if
you sometimes you get a new furniture in your house,
or like a new rug, And.
Speaker 2: She's like you to switch to a different tech. Go
switch to a person. Do you dwe your hair, Mama? Yeah,
because you want to change your hair color?
Speaker 1: Yeah, And and she goes, now, you know those skin
treatments have helped him. Now you know it has helped
with his acne. And Maria says, my husband used to
have this. He used to have the skin pimples all over.
But once I started having children, all his acne went away.
And she goes and she goes, Okay, so I'm going
about this all wrong. It's all about me having children.
Me having children clear up his skin is so funny
and her, she says, this woman has lost her mind.
She is true, and she said anything having children will
make your skin break out more. And Maria says, well,
and I have to tell you I didn't think he
should marry someone so old, but I've decided to love
his love. And I'm backing you in prayer, and I
know you will be blessed with four children, two boys,
two girls. And every time she says two boys, two
girls as she goes a one girl it one girl,
and she talks over her and they go back and
forth on it. It was pretty funny. Yeah, it was
pretty funny. And Asia says, his mother is cuckoo. Do
think I'm pushing out four children? You know? So does
she know my age?
Speaker 2: Does she know? I am the age of Dame Judy
Dench over here and I cannot have that many children.
Speaker 1: Judy did still with us?
Speaker 2: I don't know, Okay, So I'm going to look it up. Okay.
Speaker 1: So Asha and Maxwell talk about the wedding and they're like,
the way Judy did, she's still with us.
Speaker 2: Okay, ninety one years old, God bless.
Speaker 1: I was thinking about the other dame that died that
was in Dunton Abbey.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, Maggie Smith.
Speaker 1: Maggie Smith. So they say the wedding will be small
and then they'll have a bigger one in the United States.
But they got to get everybody over here for the wedding.
I was like, then, it's not going to be small
if you're flying all these people over here.
Speaker 2: No, just have them wait for the in the United States.
Speaker 1: She's gonna get her sisters and of course her godbrother Rod.
You know she's gonna call Rod to get Rod to help,
and I was like, six days to fly to Africa.
You're not giving them much heads up and for to.
Speaker 2: Believe do these people not have jobs?
Speaker 1: Do they have current passports?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a pretty long way to go. So she
calls Rod and says, Rod, guess what we've decided. Since
I'm here, we're gonna go ahead and do the spouse
of visa. And he goes, what does that mean? She goes,
I'm gonna go ahead and get married while I'm here.
It didn't make this to go all the way back
home and come all the way back. And he says, bitch,
you crazy, And I love that because he didn't. He
like took all his glasses and he was like, he says,
you lost it. This is some scamming going on. This
is not what you signed up for. You practiced abstinence
all these years. Now what are we really are we
to believe she's a virgin or she's just been abstinent
for X amount of years?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I remember Maxwell trying to get it
in mean second that she landed interesting.
Speaker 1: He said, you practice absence for all these years for
someone who is not even your caliber. And she says
that's disrespectful. And he says, are you pregnant or something?
Fake out? Fake out again, and she goes, now, you
know I'm not pregnant. So she goes, now, you're gonna
have to help my sisters get over here because they're
not used to flying, especially they've got now five days
notice to get Africa. And Rod is like, I cannot
believe you were doing this. This man has nothing.
Speaker 2: He has nothing, Okay, rude.
Speaker 1: Now she did a post saying that he has two
master's degrees and everybody in his family has at least
a master's and some have doctorates. Okay, he comes from
a very well established family according to the post she did.
Speaker 2: M So does Rod just not have the four to
one one on what's happening?
Speaker 1: I think that's right.
Speaker 2: I think she's Yeah, he's making a lot of assumptions.
Speaker 1: I think he is, and we don't want to know.
Now we're going to go on to another pretty tragic story.
This is a really good episode, which is Katie and
Josh and oh God. A listener Chris, who sends me
so much information, sent me a picture of a comparison
between Katie's mother and Melissa McCarthy from Brice Mains and
I died. I died.
Speaker 2: She was like, does that not look like oh yeah
in that picture?
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean I was laughing so hard. I was like,
because I took pictures of her too. I mean, she's
not wrong, she's not wrong. Similar, hilarious.
Speaker 2: Okay, continue, Okay, So there, this is just this is
the episode we learned that Katie's entire family hates her.
And it's not just us, it's not as folks. We're
in this together with this old family.
Speaker 1: This was hard. Hard.
Speaker 2: My dad wasn't seeing it, and I was like, read
between the lines of what the mom is saying. This
is what the mom is saying on TV about her
own daughter. Yeah, and Chad, her church going lady.
Speaker 1: It's bad.
Speaker 2: Although they can be the most judgy, but so they
Katie and Josh are going to Easter with her family
in California. She's telling him about how they had how
they celebrated Easter and how they also had chickens and
they had a bad chicken who would attack them, and
then her dad would kill the chicken who was attacking them,
and the other chickens somewhere Breakingne was just sobbing. Yeah,
I guess you got to weed out and start over.
Renee horror. Renee is sobbing in the corner.
Speaker 1: I hated the show. So he's going to.
Speaker 2: Cook some British stuff for her family and he's like,
I am going to cook sausage. I have to practice
how to say it sausage. How do you say it,
sausage roll? He sounds like a robot, sausage roll, sausage rolls,
I say it?
Speaker 1: Why does he have to learn to say it? What?
Speaker 2: Just say it normally they can understand you. So he says,
I'm still trying to understand religion in America and I
don't want to say the wrong thing in front of
her family. And she's like, well, we're Lutheran and he says, yeah,
I guess I'm not religious at all. So and she says,
so you'd never want to go to church with me?
And he said, well, if I don't, is that a
deal breaker? And she says, yeah, it is a deal breaker.
And I was like, bitch, does your church know what
you're doing with your tongue? Every day? But Sunday probably
after church on Sunday as well.
Speaker 1: Has he ever seen or go to church or known
that this was a huge bona contention for her?
Speaker 2: Has she mentioned it even once ever? Right? So he
says he's more agnostic, and she's like, well, my mom
read the whole Bible. He goes, wow, and I was like,
I thought a lot of people have. I think if
you've gone to church your whole life, you've eventually read
the whole Bible. So the mom would want her if
they have children, Dear God help us, all the grandchildren
should be raised Lutheran. And Josh says, well, what if
I didn't want that to be And Katie says, well,
that would be bad. I think it might be a
deal breaker. And he says, well, it's like, you don't
go to church, so I don't really know what it
means for you to be religion religious because yeah, exactly.
And he says, I would not want my children to
be indoctrinated into something and have something pushed on them
so that they can make up their own minds. And
she's like, well, I think it's important for them to
be baptized in the Lutheran Church and to have the
Lutheran Church pushed on them, which is the exact opposite
of what he said.
Speaker 1: And alway, if she doesn't go to church now, she's
not gonna sudden become a churchgoer. So he doesn't need
to worry about this. Yeah, just get to baptize. She's
never going to try to go to church. She's going
to be too hungover.
Speaker 2: Exactly. Also, she had the Lutheran church pushed on her.
It worked out so great. She is not a ringing
endorsement for religion, let's just put it that way. So
she tells him, well, if you change your mind and
you won't do it, Lutherans do believe in divorce, and
he's like, okay, Like that's a threat, You're God, get
me out of this. She wants him to leave. She
keeps throwing up all these roadblocks because she doesn't want
to get married, but she doesn't want to be the
one to end it. She wants him to break up
with her, so she keeps being as difficult as possible.
So then they're running late for the airport. He really
wants to be on time. He's a very nervous flyer.
He wants to get there like six hours early to
the airport, and she is taking her sweet time, and
he says, she keeps promising she'll be better, but she
isn't improving her behavior. So it's like, why am I here?
If we all are wondering that, did.
Speaker 1: We get how early he was trying to be to
the airport?
Speaker 2: Honestly, she said it was an hour earlier than she
would have liked to be there. She said, we're going
to have to be there like two hours waiting or something.
So it was just a couple hours, okay, so it
seemed fairly reasonable. It wasn't like, you know, five am
for a five pm flight, It didn't seem like that.
Speaker 1: It just seemed like they tell you get their X
amount of time. And he's trying to really follow that
rule and she's like, yeah, sometimes I just wing it.
Speaker 2: And exactly because that's how she lives her life. So
she so finally he just leaves. He's like, I'll meet
you at the train station because I can't. I'm nervous.
I'm going to get a donut and I'm leaving, and
she tells us Josh is being so annoying about timing,
like we're super early? Why is he rushing me? And
I'm being bitchy today? But it's my own. And he's
being bitchy too though, so we're both being bitchy. So
at the airport, she tells him, I was really annoyed
with you for rushing me, and he said, you know
what today has been all about you. You decided when
you woke up you were in a mood today, and
then I just have to follow your emotions all day
and it's not fair. And why can't you understand that
there needs to be space for me in a relationship
there's two people. And also he looks terrible, like how
I said she looked when she was hungover going on
that run last time. He has bags under his eyes.
It is like she is a sucubist who is sucking
the life and joy out of his body like a
dementor from Harry Potter. Give the man some chocolate. It
is he has never looked rougher.
Speaker 1: I think. Also he really hates travel and flying, and
so probably he's worked himself into a frenzy and didn't
sleep well. We don't know if they've gotten a double
bed yet or if they're still sleeping in that stained twin.
Speaker 2: Did they get a sound machine to cover the sound
of that garage? Oh god. So she apologizes and he
thinks she's just apologizing to shut him up, which yes,
and he's like, I don't want to plan a wedding
when we're dealing with this dumb shit. That's like dumb,
these dumb issues like her not respecting me. He didn't
say that, but I'm saying that, So it's not dumb stuff.
It's very big stuff. So they arrive and they're both
in better moods when they land, and they apologize to
each other, and she tells him, you know you're gonna
see my family home. As a kid, I was really bossy. Shocker.
Everyone in my family is really chill and I'm the
wild one. They're rule followers. It's horrible. And he says
it sounds great.
Speaker 1: Do we think that he's met her family before?
Speaker 2: It did? Yes, because he had met before, right. He
says like, good to see you, yeah, but that could
be just britishy and not good. He didn't say good
to meet you, so I don't know.
Speaker 1: It didn't seem uncomfortable, like because the dad was like,
I'll put you in your regular room, right, So it
seems like he's definitely met them before, maybe just not
at that house. Yeah, maybe they think that's it over
there or something.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. So they go to the parents. She gives
the most awkward hug to her dad. It was like
a it's very strange. Josh gave him a better hug.
I felt like. So they the parents say, we've missed
seeing her while she was, you know, traveling around Europe.
We love having her here. For the first two or
three days, then you get tired and you just want
to sit and watch TV.
Speaker 1: But that's any guess right, I.
Speaker 2: Guess fair enough. I don't know. My parents would probably
say we would want you to stay forever, Like even
if I'm being a bitch. Not my parents, you know,
they're always like five days is it's enough time?
Speaker 1: You can go. But I'll tell you interesting that my
friend Mary had both of her daughters and one lives
there once in college, and both of their boyfriends were
in town for like the fourth of July, and so
she was like, so I had like two extra people
in my house, like these two guys sleeping in the
guest room, and it was all like and so the
one boyfriend that lives in New York City, like his
train got canceled and then like his flight got canceled
because we were having that heat wave and all that stuff.
And Mary says she finally looked at a daughter and goes,
you're gonna have to drive him there, like he's got
to get out of the house. He's like he's been
here six days, like we're out of food, Like you
got to go. Yeah, so she did. She goes, I said,
here's my credit card, drive him back to New York.
Speaker 2: That's hilarious. Okay, I get it. Uh So the parents
let them share a room, so they're not like that religious.
They did let them share a room obviously, right, Yes,
I was a little surprised. Why So Josh says, I'm
gonna unpack and then I'm gonna make the sausage rolls.
And she says, okay, I'm gonna go talk to my family.
But then she says she kind of stops and she says,
do you need anything from me?
Speaker 1: I was shocked.
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, that's growth good for her.
Speaker 1: How crazy that we were both shocking those shot.
Speaker 2: Shocked that she offered to help with something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that she thought of him, Uh huh, exactly, you alone,
can I help you?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, all right, that's.
Speaker 1: Just that's just.
Speaker 2: Uh huh. And he says a kiss would be nice
and she says, oh yeah, and she gives them a kiss.
Speaker 1: You want one of these?
Speaker 2: Uh So, such a weird couple. So Katie goes to
talk to her mom. She tells her mom about the
fight this morning, and unlike most mothers who would have
their daughters back, the mom immediately places all the blame
on Katie and she says, oh, well, you apologized, and
Katie's like, yeah, I apologize. She goes, Okay, that's good
because you should be nice to Josh. He deserves that.
He's a good guy and you're terrible. And the mom
tells us I hope they can make this work. Josh
is really good for her. He makes her think less
about herself and more about others, and that's a character
flaw she's had all her life.
Speaker 1: She's a narcissist and.
Speaker 2: See you next Tuesday.
Speaker 1: Lig knows narcissists when we got that OCD.
Speaker 2: Yep, I just never told her about that, but the
doctor slipped me a note as I was leaving the
office and said she's also a raging narcissist. So the
mom goes, she was super bossy as a kid and
it was annoying. She hates her child.
Speaker 1: She is this is so rough. It's so rough. It's
it's continued.
Speaker 2: She just called her child an annoying child on TV.
She's like, you can think that she's a lot. She goes, yeah,
she's super bossy. It was annoying, and then she says.
Katie says, I was bad at my birthday. I drank
a lot of tequila. I tried to kiss everyone, and
the mom says that makes me sad, and Katie says,
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Katie.
Speaker 2: She just have I'm sorry tattooed across her forehead. The
amount of time she has to apologize to people.
Speaker 1: Her mom has been dealing with this, and her mom
obviously knows that she does this, get drunk and gets
drunk and trustics. She's obviously talked to her mom about this.
Speaker 2: Yes, which is good. I'm glad that she has someone
to talk to.
Speaker 1: But he didn't go what, you're engaged and you were
trying to kiss people.
Speaker 2: Not surprised.
Speaker 1: She was like, that makes me sad that you did that.
Speaker 2: You know that you're still doing this ship So mom says,
you know you drink and your behavior gets obnoxious and
you're going to hurt someone some day, And Katie says, like.
Speaker 1: Murder, kimberly, what's wrong with her? The fact that that's
the first thing she thought, That.
Speaker 2: Is the first thing you thought of that you meant homicide.
That she didn't smile, She didn't She is that her
o c D like thinking that that's what her mom means, or.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe maybe she went to the worst thing.
Speaker 2: How bad does your behavior have to be that you
think when your mom says hurt someone, you think she
means murder.
Speaker 1: It could be the OCD just going to the worst
thing that you don't but wow, that was.
Speaker 2: And the mom no, spiritually, like emotionally, And the mom
tells us I don't want to blame all her behavior
on OCD, but because there's many other things happening here.
But she does have these voices in her head that
are telling her to do all these bad things and
she tries not to listen to them. And then she's
also an alcoholic, she is a sex addict maybe yeah,
and a narcissist and just so many other things. So
the mom says she's burned relationships in the past because
she's a lot and people get tired of it.
Speaker 1: Oh that just breaks my heart.
Speaker 2: That is so sim You're gonna Katie's gonna watch this
and like hear how her mom truly feels about her.
I know it's bad, but maybe she needs it. Because again,
Josh never firmly puts his foot down. He does this, like,
why did you feel like you had to do this?
Why did you feel like you had to cheat on
me in front of me? Like it's very Let's talk
about your emotions, Katie, of why you felt that way.
You know, I can't keep doing this forever, but I'm
probably gonna keep doing this forever. So she needs someone
to slap her across the face and say, snap out
of it. Yeah, what the fuck are you doing? You
need some consequences for your behavior.
Speaker 1: She needs she needs like weekly therapy, that's what she
needs at least once.
Speaker 2: Why she needs medication and therapy. She needs an inpatient
treatment facility too. Like yes, hey, bunkies, it's producer ingrid here.
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