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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to Pink Shade. It's TLC Tuesday. I'm

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here with Kimberly. She's back, she's better than ever. We're

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gonna talk ninety day fiance.

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Speaker 2: I was ready to rock out to the music, and

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then there was no music because I get confused.

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Speaker 1: No, we only rock out for Prime on Prime's Yeah,

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and you know that last week because I forgot to

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put the music up, and I was like, oh, I

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forgot to put the music up, so I'm singing, and

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then I played it. Ingrid put the other music on

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top of it, so it's like double music. I reached

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out to her. I go, you put the music on

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and it's Prime and we don't put the music. She goes,

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I think you didn't do the music. I was like,

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I did it. It was just eight seconds late. Anyway,

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You're welcome, everybody. Double.

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Speaker 2: She didn't listened to part to past eight seconds to

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see what's happening.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't listen to shit.

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Speaker 2: I know, I got Ingrid.

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Speaker 1: I think she like searches for her name.

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Speaker 2: Oh so if I call her the C word, then

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that will she'll that'll be triggered.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she'll be like, who's talking about man.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but what if I just say she or I

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say Schminger it.

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Speaker 1: Uh, Schwinger, it will still probably pop up if she

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searches for her own name.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, what's her what's her middle name?

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Speaker 1: And okay Shmingered Schman. You guys, if you are on

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my Instagram, I am, it will be posted. I haven't

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when you and our recordings. I'm gonna post it right

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after I did the cringiest ad that you've ever seen

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for the bed. Yeah, I'm gonna send it to you

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right now. I wish I could just play it, but

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I don't know how to do that.

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Speaker 2: I really do.

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Speaker 1: I really do want everybody to go look at it.

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It is a pricey product, but all of these bed

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cooler things are. And like I said, we've had that

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uler for years and years and years, and it just

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got to be such a situation with the cleaning of

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the water and the oh so the perfectly snug I'm

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telling you. Dave said this morning, he goes, I need

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to be able to control my own side of the

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bed because I go was freezing last night and I

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was like, well, you told me to put it on

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a negative seven. I was on like a negative three.

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He was on a negative seven, so like yeah, yeah,

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So because he was just having me control it from

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my phone, I was like, why don't you control your

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own side of the bed. Why do I have to

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be in charge? And then we had a fight. But

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so anyway, that's it, guys, go check out the ad

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perfectly snug. It's going to change if you're a menopause

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a lady, I have a question about menopause, and then

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we will get into this recap.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I went got a massage recently and the lady there

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told me. The massage lady told me she's almost sixty

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and she was like, you know, Perry, menopause, menopause, the

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whole thing last twenty year. I was like, excuse me,

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excuse me. I don't think that's correct. I think it's ten.

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And I think it's like from like ten, like forty

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five to fifty five or forty eight to fifty eight

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or whatever, because I'm like, I feel like here, God,

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I like I'm on the other side of it. And

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she was like, no, I think it's like twenty. I

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was like, girl, we need to do some research because

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I don't think that's right. Yeah. I didn't like hearing that.

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Speaker 2: No, that's the most horrible thing I've ever heard in

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my entire life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I think I really all the hot and

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everything started like forty eight forty nine, like beings really

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hot all the time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've always been really hot. That's like a

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medication issue. But I have the brain fog, but my

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doctor doesn't think it's menopause. I just get very poor sleep.

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Speaker 1: So guess what perfectly snug is there for you? Yep? Yeah, everybody, Okay,

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that dead. Enough chat about that. We've got so much.

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This was a great episode.

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Speaker 2: Yes it was.

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Speaker 1: It was jam packed and I gotta tell you love

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after lock up. This week also a great episode.

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Speaker 2: Oh good, did I see this week's yet.

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Speaker 1: We've got the new weirdo with the long red hair.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, yeah. Who is an indigenous person?

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Speaker 1: Or so he says, So he says, Akisha doesn't believe it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't know if I do.

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Speaker 1: Just because you're from Oklahoma doesn't mean you get to claim.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but let's get started, so we're gonna talk about it.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of tight pants like Meado though, I

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mean Meato can never. Where's me o never?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: No, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay. So ninety Fiance, Season twelve, episode eleven, Meeting the Family,

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that's what this is called. I do want you guys

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to check out Instagram because I will be putting up

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a reel that I'm gonna make myself, which means it'll

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take me hours. So everybody like it, appreciate it. Of

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there's so many great lines on this episode. Yeah, so

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we're gonna start with Mallory and Ross Sheet and so

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we're at Rin and Michaela's playing cornhole. Now, when they

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were first playing cornhole and I was writing this down,

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my daughter walked in the room and I go they

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were playing the game with the speaking of brainwalk and

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I was like, you know. She goes, are you having

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a seizure because I was just throwing my arm forward

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and I go the thing with the bean bag. She

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was like, I don't know. I don't do sports. So

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finally they said the words cornhole. I was like, thank god,

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I can't remember the name of it.

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Speaker 2: I also forgot the name of cornhole the past twice

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in the past two weeks. Okay, yeah, me now, because

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they play it occasionally at my dad's retirement community and

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the noise of the bean bag hitting the wood scares

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Ralthie because Ralphie has some I don't know, he's mourning

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my mom or there's something going on emotionally, and he

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runs home and leaves my dad. He just bolts.

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Speaker 1: Oh, no, cornwall is very hard. It's very hard to

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get one of those beanbags in.

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Speaker 2: Well, not for Rush's rush.

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Speaker 1: He's a natural. So everybody looks sweaty, it looks hot

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there and talking it together, she says, since the baseball

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game and Rashie really showed his ass, she's kept and

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locked up in the house. He's not allowed you around

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anybody else if he's going to be rude. Good for her,

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And he says, I don't feel bad about Mallory and

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Brandon Brandy, but I do feel bad for Wren and

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Mikayla because Wren is a good friend and I really

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like him.

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Speaker 2: M hm, so they. I just wish he had a

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vowel in his name besides the sometimes why just.

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Speaker 1: R y in? I usually write it r e n

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so that I say it correctly. But then I decided

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maybe I was being disrespectful in my notes, so I

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typed it r y in And I'm making myself say

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Wrenn even though it could be Ryan. Yeah. So they

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tell Rosh that Katie and Brandon are coming. He goes Brandy,

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Brandy always with Brandy, and Rinn says, look, man, Brandon

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is my best friend. Makaya goes, you gotta get used

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to it, and Malory goes, just stop being an asshole

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and let it go. I'm going to lock you in

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the house again. So he says, okay, now.

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Speaker 2: Not because Mallory said it, because wren said it. So

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he'll listen to a man. I really think that this

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part of Rush's culture is Mallory could say whatever and

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he won't listen to her. But if Rinn is telling

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he's like, okay, man to man.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well you might be right. So the men are

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set around eating venison and talking about various parts of

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deer meat, and Mallory sits at the table and talks

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to her friends and says, yeah, raw. She feels bad

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because he can't work right now. You feel like he's

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not contributing. So I decided to tell him that he

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can't have my money. And I brought up a conversation

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about a prenup and he thinks I'm bringing it up

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because I think we're not gonna last. And it's hard

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to explain with the language where because prenups don't exist

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in Turkey. So the guys are like, what are you

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talking about over there? You share it with the class,

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and she says she will.

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Speaker 2: This is when you say period diarrhea, we're talking about

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period poops. Then they'll just walk away.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh oh. I was like, what are you talking about? Oh,

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because the guys are saying, what are you talking about? Yeah,

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and she explains, I am telling them how I want

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to prenup to protect my brokerage account and my house.

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And he's taking it the wrong way. But like, my

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thought is what if something happens and God forbid in

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ten to fifteen years And Brandon says, do you ever

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take into consideration He packed up his whole life to

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come here, and everybody's like, you're taking Russia's side. All

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of a sudden, you believe in love, like you're a

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hopeless romantic. He goes into the whole thing about being

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a whole was romantic. But Brandon says he moved halfway

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across the world and went all in on you, and

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Rosh goes, yeah, I do not sign this paper and

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I don't care about the stuff. And Michaela says, well,

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I'll tell you I'm the one that suggested it. And

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he goes, oh, it's because I'm Turkey, and she says, no,

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it's I'd say the same thing. Is she married a

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guy from Alabama? Now that I believe, because I think

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Mallory does have these two assets. Yeah, And I do

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think if she married a guy from Alabama that Michayla

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would say the same thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And Brandon says, look, this guy left.

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Speaker 2: His ead unless it was a rich guy who had

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like a lot of money on his own and had

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a good job. But if it was a guy who

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didn't have a job, yes.

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Speaker 1: A guy that's equal ish. So Brandon says he gave

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up everything and all he wants is love, and Michaela goes, Okay,

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that's great and everything. But she's worked her ass off

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to get that house and she almost died last year,

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and I don't want somebody to come in and take

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that from her. And Brandon's like, you can't weigh financial

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asss over what he gave her. You can't even put

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those on the same scale. I was like, well, kinda

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you can.

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Speaker 2: So you kind of can. Also, Brandon is saying a

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lot of like soundbites about society and culture, like where

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are with people not valuing marriage like they used to

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and in like the good old days? And I was

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getting a little uncomfortable. I was like, well, you have

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your sunglasses on your head, on top of your baseball head,

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upside down, upside down.

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Speaker 1: I did notice they were upside down, y'all. I don't

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know about you, but it's been so hot here, and

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ninety five degrees outside feels like one hundred and twenty

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degrees inside your pants. Am I right? You can summer

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prove your intimate areas with the tushy bidet, the instant

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bathroom upgrade that keeps you healthy and fresh where sweat

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hits the hardest. Y'all, I am so excited to talk

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to you about the tushu bidet. You don't even know

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as listeners did this show. No, we talk about bidets

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on our reality shows a lot. So many of our

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ninety day fiancees come over to the US and they're

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stunned that every home does not have a bidet, and

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all the Americans end up getting one and loving it.

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I would be willing to bet that most of them

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are getting a tissue bidet. I just got one. It

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was so easy to install. Seriously, it took me ten minutes,

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and I'm not a handy person. Remember how easy it

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was for Rashii to install his new bidet at Mallory's house.

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He was so excited about his clean buttthole, and he

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wanted her to have a clean buttthole too. Now that's love. Now,

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Rashiet's new bidet looked great in her bathroom, and my

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new bidet looks great in my bathroom. I am telling you,

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if you haven't tried a bidet, get on board or

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get on the bidet. It really does make you feel

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let me know how you like it. So then Rashie

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takes Brandon outside and says he's sorry for the way

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he's acted. And I think that's the only way he

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was allowed to go to this cornhole party. He was

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gonna You're gonna apologize or you don't get to go

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to any more parties.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, treat him like a child if he's gonna behave

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like a child at a baseball game.

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Speaker 1: I think that's right. So you're sorry, say you're saying

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your seigns you don't get to go drink beer anymore.

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So he apologizes, and Branda says, listen, I understand the

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situation is awkward for you, but I appreciate you pulling

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me aside to apologize. I appreciate that as a man, a.

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Speaker 2: Man like women, don't apologize as.

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Speaker 1: A man, don't sit on my tailgate as a man.

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Speaker 2: I noticed he arrived in an suv that did not

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have a tailgate, and I was like, few, at least

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that's a crisis we won't be having at this cornhole party.

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Speaker 1: And the talking head ra She says, you know, Brandon,

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he is from America and I am from Turkic. But

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he doesn't think rash Muslim rash come for green card.

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He don't think this. He care good person, So I

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don't know if he means he cares I'm a good

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person or yes, yeah, yeah, I don't have a lot

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of support here, but Brandy support me, and I can

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see now he's a good guy. It's all.

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Speaker 2: It's all it took, that's all it Tuck could take

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my side in a fight at the bitches.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so let's see duttad. We're gonna move on

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to Marissa and Edward. Do we have to.

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Speaker 2: This lady?

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Speaker 1: Did you see she posted a whole thing like beforetnight's

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episode comes out? Oh no, she knows, She's like before

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tonight's episode comes out. I'd like to apologize in advance. Yeah, yeah,

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she said she she wasn't herself. She's really sorry. Let's

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see if I can find it. I was, because then

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I was like, well, I can't wait to see the episode.

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She must have said something terrible.

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Speaker 2: But the best part for her on this is that

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while she was being such a bitch to Edward, she

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wasn't wearing that giant cross around her neck, because that

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would have been even that would have been perfect Okay,

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just perfection.

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Speaker 1: Let's hearing sah.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to jump on really quick because a

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new clip has just been released on the ninety day sites,

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and it is a scene from this upcoming episode where

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I'm sitting with my girlfriends and I'm expressing my concerns

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on whether or not Edward and I are compatible on

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an intellectual level.

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Speaker 1: And I want to be really clear about this.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I do not feel that Edward is stupid or

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is an imbecile. I think the challenge that I was

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facing was that we have a very big language barrier,

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and we were unable to get into deep conversations because

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I don't speak Spanish very well and you know, he's

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still in the process of learning English to a level

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of high fluency. So I want to publicly apologize to

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him for, you know, saying things that made him look

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like I didn't.

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Speaker 2: Think that he was smart.

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Speaker 1: It's not the case.

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Speaker 4: It's just that it was difficult communicating because of the language,

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which is why I got engaged with him.

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Speaker 2: That's why I decided to marry him and bring him

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to my country to live with my children, because we've

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never had a deep conversation because of a language fairy.

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Speaker 1: I think he's pretty fluent.

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Speaker 2: I think he I don't think that's the issue at all. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think she had some wine and said what she

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was really thinking, which is he's not as smart as me, yes.

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Speaker 2: Yep, and as good as me because of money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, so you uh.

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Speaker 2: She he comes out in an outfit, they're going to

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a dinner party, and she's like, no, it's too monochromatic,

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don't wear the bracelets. Change sends him away and he

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just sighs, it's just really his life soul is being

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sucked out of his body every time she speaks. And

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then he comes out. She's like, much better. See how

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we match better? We go look like we look good together.

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And so they're going to a cocktail party in her

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neighborhood with some friends. She hopes that he fits in.

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She warns him in the car, I know you don't

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drink much, but please don't get sloppy drunk and embarrass me.

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So to clarify, she's never seen him sloppy drunk, but

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she feels the need to tell him not to get

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sloppy drunk.

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Speaker 1: Tonight might be the night.

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Speaker 2: To my I mean, I would become a drinker if

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I had to live with this woman. So and then

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they go to the house and she's like, so this

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is not like a welcome to the World party. It's

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not you know, it's just like a normal party that

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I would go to with my friends. And he's like, okay,

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it's not for me, Like nothing is for me, right,

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I get it. I why under the other to say

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that imperson going to be a welcome to the world

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like a baby boy being born. Edward, he didn't think

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this party was for him.

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Speaker 1: I think we don't know of earlier she said like, yeah,

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it's a party for you to meet my friends. But

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then she walk up and like, don't worry. People don't

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really want to talk to you at all.

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Speaker 2: No, you're just arm candy for me to look good.

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So I just want you to mingle. But you know,

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don't make every conversation about baseball like you like to do.

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Ask them questions to show that you're interested in them,

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kind of like I never do with you. So the

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way I converse with you do the opposite, show that

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you care about the other person, like treating teaching him

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how to have a conversation. This man works in hospitality, right,

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he knows how to talk to people.

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Speaker 1: I think he does a great job at this party

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blending in and just chatting with people as anybody would

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at a cocktail party exactly.

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Speaker 2: So everyone welcomes Edward nicely. They ask him how it's

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going in America. He says it's good. They ask him

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who cooks, and he says she does, And I was like,

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she doesn't let him touch the kitchen. Let's be real,

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she's Worri's gonna burn down the house. And he had

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to ask.

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Speaker 1: The correct way to cut up potato for fear exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, length wise, horizontal, vertical? Which way? Yeah? So

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I did think a guy called him Edwin, but I

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would Okay, I put.

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Speaker 1: It on the screen so you can see called him Edwin. Yes.

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Speaker 2: So they ask him what he's going to do for

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a job, and he says, I've been thinking about ideas.

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And they're like, like, what, just you know, pondering some ideas,

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what such as? And he says, well, I like baseball,

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Like I know all about baseball. It's the biggest sport

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where I come from. And you think he's going to

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launch into baseball. But then he asked them what they

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do because she trained him well, and he's like, what

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do you do for a living? They were in insurance

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and finance, and he thinks, Wow, these are the people

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I would serve in the hotel in my country, and

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now I'm hanging out with them. This is crazy.

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Speaker 1: And I'm looking to see if blue Bell and Bluebell,

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Pennsylvania has any kind of baseball team, like a minor

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league team.

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Speaker 2: Right right?

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Speaker 1: The answer is no, no little Look, yeah, they've got

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Little league and they've got you know, you know, community leagues,

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but they don't think and maybe they have like a

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farm team like the trash in Yeahnceville.

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Speaker 2: But no, okay, So there they say. She comes over,

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she's she's talking to her friends, and she goes, I'm

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gonna just sneak over and just make sure he's not

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only talking about baseball, because he only talks about baseball.

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And she goes over and they are talking about baseball,

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but people seem to be enjoying the conversation. And they

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She's like, what were you guys talking about? Did he

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say anything embarrassing? And they're like, well, we were just

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talking about cooking. He likes your meat. He likes your meat, Marissa,

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And they keep making that joke. And he says he

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might be interested in coaching baseball or opening a facility,

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and you see her face get like really tense. She's like,

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that's not happening. Did you see what he did to

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my fence? So they're like reporting to a boss how

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her employer talked about her in like an interview. It's

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very much like the boss is coming over, how did

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he do in his interview?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Are you guys embarrassed that I'm with him? Are

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you guys aided that he's speaking? Yes?

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Speaker 2: So then later on in the night, Edward is telling

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a woman how nice everyone is being to him, and

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he's enjoying himself. Marissa and her friends talk about the

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next girl's trip and how Edward won't be allowed to go,

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and and another woman, one of the women says, are

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you anxious about him talking to the other guys here

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who have like big professions, And Marissa says, yeah, I

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worry what he's talking about. I don't want to say

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he's naive or not cultured, bitch, but it just gets worse,

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It gets so much worse. But I have a hard

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time with him matching me intellectually, and like, will I

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ever feel he's my intellectual match or will I be

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intellectually stimulated? And will he be helping me grow? He's what?

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I have no words, So she says, my friends are sophisticated,

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and my relationship with Edward is not based on intellect.

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It was based on a physical attraction, and I'm worried

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that we aren't going to meet on an intellectual level. Bitch,

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you sell wedding dresses you are not a physicist.

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm literally just trying to think, like, okay,

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like I've been married now almost twenty six years. I'm

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trying to think about what intellectual conversations my husband and

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I have now. We talk about things life and bills

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and how we brace our children and the grateful dead,

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and I mean, you know what I mean. But we're

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not like sitting around going let's contemplate the meaning of life?

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And who do you think you know? With the first

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star when it bursts? What kind of galaxy did it form?

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I mean, we're not having these kind of conversations.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what does she talk about philosophy, Let's talk about Nietzche,

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Let's talk about politics, let's talk about No, they're going

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to be talking about the kids and money, every day life,

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every day life. So Marisa says, the one thing Edward has,

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the one thing Edward has is that he's a nicer

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person than I am, and I'm learning that from him.

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And the friend says that's huge, that's great, and she's like, yeah,

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I need to be reminded of that. He is the

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nicest person. He worships me, and that's what most women want.

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But I'm over here wanting something else that my mind

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is craving.

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Speaker 1: She's just so full of shit. Join a book club,

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nailed it. Join a book club where you're going to

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read the latest Elan Hildebrand book and it's not going

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to be that deep anyway.

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Speaker 2: Exactly. So the friend says, well, the grass is always greener.

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If he did give you what you want, you might

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be exhausted, Like seriously, Imagine you've just come home from

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working in the city and your partner is like, Okay,

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I have this new philosophical article I want you to

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read and we can talk about the meaning of life. No, no,

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I want to watch ninety Fiance any Chinese food. So

470
00:24:53,519 --> 00:24:58,319
Marissa wonders, will he ever be the sophisticated person that

471
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:01,559
I can bring to a black tie event or like

472
00:25:01,799 --> 00:25:11,440
a rodeo? What, ma'am, what what are you talking about? What?

473
00:25:11,839 --> 00:25:13,599
Speaker 1: I think he would be just fine at a black

474
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:17,400
tie event. He is perfectly able of having conversations with

475
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,839
all kinds of people. Yeah, So what has led her

476
00:25:20,839 --> 00:25:23,240
to believe that when he gets in public he doesn't

477
00:25:23,279 --> 00:25:23,960
know how to act?

478
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 2: Does she think he's going to rip off his shirt

479
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:30,960
and start fingering his belly button and asking the other

480
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:35,599
men to smell it. What do you think he's gonna do?

481
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 1: Gross? I don't know.

482
00:25:38,839 --> 00:25:41,519
Speaker 2: We haven't even seen him burp or fart or anything.

483
00:25:41,599 --> 00:25:43,519
He's been perfectly fine.

484
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:45,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what she's talking about.

485
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,799
Speaker 2: Now at a rodeo, he might be a little confused,

486
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:51,400
but I don't think he'd embarrass himself.

487
00:25:51,839 --> 00:25:54,599
Speaker 1: He'd be fascinated probably, Yeah, yeah.

488
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:59,759
Speaker 2: Also, what issticated about a rodeo? What is she talking

489
00:25:59,759 --> 00:26:00,119
about that?

490
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:00,839
Speaker 1: I don't know.

491
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,640
Speaker 2: Does she know what sophisticated means? I don't think she

492
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:08,799
knows it intellectually or sophisticated means. So Marissa tells us

493
00:26:09,839 --> 00:26:12,440
Edward hasn't been exposed to a lot of things that

494
00:26:12,599 --> 00:26:14,880
I do in my normal life, so I'm a little

495
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:21,559
concerned about his ability to adapt to social standards again,

496
00:26:21,759 --> 00:26:25,599
like he's going to hawk up a loogie and hand

497
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,400
it to a fellow man and say, will you sellow

498
00:26:28,759 --> 00:26:30,680
you guys. I don't even know what she thinks he's

499
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:34,519
going to do. I can't even comprehend. Well, like she

500
00:26:34,599 --> 00:26:35,519
has hostility.

501
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,559
Speaker 1: She hasn't posted since that, She hasn't posted since the episodica.

502
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 2: Yes, she knows how she didn't realize how bad it

503
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:44,000
was because she was a little tipsy and she didn't realize.

504
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:49,279
I think so social standards. He again, works in hospitality,

505
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:57,039
he knows about social standards. Yeah, so she goes in

506
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,839
my friend group. There are a bunch of successful women

507
00:27:00,039 --> 00:27:04,000
and men, and we talk about sophisticated things. And I

508
00:27:04,039 --> 00:27:07,640
think Edward struggles with that sometimes, not because he's a

509
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:12,319
stupid person, but because he's not exposed to that because

510
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,599
people in the dr are dumb and they don't talk

511
00:27:14,599 --> 00:27:18,799
about smart things. I guess. So the friend says, well,

512
00:27:18,839 --> 00:27:22,799
he's very kind, but you're a driven person, and I

513
00:27:22,839 --> 00:27:25,359
do wonder will he be good enough for you? And

514
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,319
that's where the friend lost me because I was like,

515
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,640
you just said he's kind. So for some people, the

516
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,559
definition of being good enough is like they're kind, they're

517
00:27:34,599 --> 00:27:37,720
good like you would want your children to come home

518
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:42,119
with a partner that is kind, right, yes, So that

519
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,680
makes him good enough And for them it's all about

520
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:49,480
how much he MIxS essentially, so because she wouldn't worry

521
00:27:49,519 --> 00:27:52,359
about sophistication if he was rich.

522
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 1: Like rich people can be the grossest at all.

523
00:27:56,079 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 2: Exactly, you know, So Marisa says, I'm told because he

524
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,599
treats me better than anyone ever could. So I'm torn

525
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:08,599
to pieces. You just said he will treat me better

526
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,200
than anyone ever will, and I'm torn.

527
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: Later, she says she loves him more than she's ever

528
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,000
loved anyone.

529
00:28:17,319 --> 00:28:20,519
Speaker 2: What the why are you torn? Then? So her friend

530
00:28:20,559 --> 00:28:24,799
says she's so successful and business minded and sure he's nice,

531
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,400
but will he live up to her expectations?

532
00:28:28,039 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 1: Like that?

533
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 2: I was like, god, I was really rooting for that friend.

534
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:37,720
And then it was like, sure he's nice, Like that

535
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,799
doesn't mean anything. And Marisa says, I'm just being so

536
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:43,880
harsh with him every day. And her friend says, You're

537
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:47,519
not this mean. This is not you. You're being very degrading

538
00:28:47,559 --> 00:28:49,799
to yourself right now. Marissa, it's hard to listen to

539
00:28:50,079 --> 00:28:53,240
you are so real. You're so real. We love that

540
00:28:53,359 --> 00:28:56,839
about you. It's like, what about Marissa is so real? Okay,

541
00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:58,559
that was weird.

542
00:28:58,759 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: That was weird.

543
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 2: They were all like kiss up to her, and She's like,

544
00:29:01,359 --> 00:29:04,880
I'm losing who I am. I'm so frustrated and impatient

545
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,039
and angry every day. Why am I being so mean

546
00:29:08,079 --> 00:29:10,519
to a person who is so kind to me? It

547
00:29:10,559 --> 00:29:13,039
makes me feel evil, and I don't want to feel

548
00:29:13,039 --> 00:29:16,720
this way. And she says, you will your partner bring

549
00:29:16,759 --> 00:29:19,359
out your best, that's what you think about. And right

550
00:29:19,359 --> 00:29:22,400
now I'm not my best. And he used to bring

551
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,559
out my best when we were on vacation together, but

552
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:29,319
now I'm the opposite. And am I always going to

553
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,680
be this way around him? I don't want to be

554
00:29:31,839 --> 00:29:34,240
mean for the rest of my life. I don't want

555
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:36,480
to be in a relationship that makes me be not

556
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,680
who I am. So get way to shift the blame

557
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:40,759
to it's his fault.

558
00:29:41,079 --> 00:29:42,359
Speaker 1: Yep, yep.

559
00:29:42,519 --> 00:29:46,039
Speaker 2: That she is being a bitch. I know we say

560
00:29:46,039 --> 00:29:50,000
no woman ever drew herself crazy per Ronnie on WATCHO Crappen's.

561
00:29:50,319 --> 00:29:53,519
But she is the reason. She's being a bitch.

562
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,559
Speaker 1: She's trying herself crazy. She is driving, she is got

563
00:29:56,559 --> 00:29:59,759
herself spun up into this cycle of and I think

564
00:29:59,799 --> 00:30:02,039
when her friend says here, her friend says, you're so

565
00:30:02,119 --> 00:30:04,559
worried about what people think, I think that's the issue.

566
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,039
The issue is she is worried about what other people think.

567
00:30:08,079 --> 00:30:12,680
So she's worried at this party. Her neighborhood friends will think, like,

568
00:30:12,799 --> 00:30:15,160
what has she done? She's with this guy that's lesser

569
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,920
than that's the issue. She worries about what all of them.

570
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:22,359
Speaker 2: Think and it's making her spiral. And then she lashes

571
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,519
out at him. Yeah he's not doing anything to warrant

572
00:30:25,559 --> 00:30:26,240
this behavior.

573
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,359
Speaker 1: He's acting normal a lot of cocktail parties.

574
00:30:28,519 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so she says, I everyone questioned this relationship,

575
00:30:35,359 --> 00:30:38,200
and I don't want to have to say they were right.

576
00:30:38,799 --> 00:30:41,000
And that's another she doesn't want people say I told

577
00:30:41,079 --> 00:30:43,920
you so. And the friends are like, you shouldn't be

578
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,599
worried what other people think except all of us, because

579
00:30:46,599 --> 00:30:47,440
that's what we do here.

580
00:30:47,759 --> 00:30:51,039
Speaker 1: So yeah, that when the friend said, you're I think

581
00:30:51,039 --> 00:30:52,680
you're worried about what other people think, I was like,

582
00:30:52,759 --> 00:30:55,200
I think that's the root of the point here, is

583
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,240
that she is trying to like make sure her neighbors

584
00:30:58,279 --> 00:31:01,119
all think she's a certain level. Yeah, and that is

585
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,880
she bringing herself down by the way she currently like

586
00:31:05,319 --> 00:31:08,200
owns a bar three studio and yeah, all's all together.

587
00:31:08,839 --> 00:31:13,039
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean she's it's all her self consciousness and

588
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,440
her values of what she thinks matters, and it's all

589
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:19,440
about what people think, which is like, she's in her forties,

590
00:31:19,599 --> 00:31:25,680
stop caring what people think. In your like weird neighborhood

591
00:31:25,799 --> 00:31:29,240
that it's like, it's so it's like keeping up with

592
00:31:29,279 --> 00:31:30,440
the Joneses.

593
00:31:30,279 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: Right, but the ft but the guys seemed all completely like, hey, bro,

594
00:31:34,799 --> 00:31:35,839
what's up? You want to talk about it?

595
00:31:36,079 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 2: All?

596
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:39,119
Speaker 1: They all seemed to judging him for.

597
00:31:39,119 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: What, you know, they were perfectly fine.

598
00:31:41,559 --> 00:31:43,279
Speaker 1: They knew he just got there and didn't have a

599
00:31:43,319 --> 00:31:45,480
job yet. So I mean, yeah, yeah.

600
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: And I and I just really don't like how she

601
00:31:47,359 --> 00:31:51,480
keeps being like, well, he the relationship is not bringing

602
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,160
out the best He used to bring out the best

603
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,920
of me, Like, it's his job to make you a

604
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,279
grown woman, be a better person, And how are you

605
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:03,079
making him better? She never worries about that. That's like

606
00:32:03,119 --> 00:32:06,279
she just assumes by bringing him here she is making

607
00:32:06,359 --> 00:32:10,079
him better and letting him live in a big house.

608
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:14,880
But it's his job to make her a better person.

609
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:26,559
Speaker 1: When yeah, okay, Asha and Maxwell six days to wed

610
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,759
The wedding is the past day, so Asha goes in

611
00:32:30,799 --> 00:32:33,480
to talk to her future mother in law Maria. She

612
00:32:33,519 --> 00:32:35,680
gives her a purse they bought at the market and

613
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:40,200
some caftans that she said she brought from home, and

614
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,200
in her talking to her, she says, my age should

615
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:44,480
not matter, and we have less than a week to

616
00:32:44,519 --> 00:32:46,920
get on one accord before the wedding day. Now I

617
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:48,480
looked that up because I was like, is that the

618
00:32:48,559 --> 00:32:54,079
correct usage of that of one accord? Either way, it

619
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,319
was not a phrase that I have not heard. I've

620
00:32:56,359 --> 00:32:58,680
never heard this phrase, so I looked it up. I

621
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:00,640
was like, you're gonna get into your record like the car,

622
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:05,839
she doesn't drive it a cord. Not absolutely not. So

623
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:11,200
Asha talks to Maria and the Maria says, listen, I

624
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:15,559
was concerned because you need to be happy with Maxwell

625
00:33:15,599 --> 00:33:18,720
and the way he looks because God created Maxwell. You

626
00:33:18,759 --> 00:33:21,400
want to change his eyeball, you want to fix his face,

627
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,200
and when he comes back from the United States, I

628
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,839
won't recognize him. And you have no right to change

629
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,519
him because God made his body. His body in his face,

630
00:33:28,599 --> 00:33:31,039
or the temple that God made. And then she goes

631
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:35,960
mm hmm. Now if there are cracks in the step

632
00:33:36,319 --> 00:33:38,640
at the temple, you have to fix those steps.

633
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 2: That was good.

634
00:33:40,359 --> 00:33:42,319
Speaker 1: That was good, And she goes no, and she goes,

635
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,000
now something brakes in your house, like the air conditioner.

636
00:33:45,039 --> 00:33:47,359
Something you have to fix it. And she goes, no,

637
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,039
it's not the same. And she goes, now, what if

638
00:33:50,039 --> 00:33:51,799
you sometimes you get a new furniture in your house,

639
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:52,720
or like a new rug, And.

640
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: She's like you to switch to a different tech. Go

641
00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:00,319
switch to a person. Do you dwe your hair, Mama? Yeah,

642
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:02,119
because you want to change your hair color?

643
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:06,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, And and she goes, now, you know those skin

644
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,880
treatments have helped him. Now you know it has helped

645
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:12,159
with his acne. And Maria says, my husband used to

646
00:34:12,159 --> 00:34:14,519
have this. He used to have the skin pimples all over.

647
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:19,920
But once I started having children, all his acne went away.

648
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,960
And she goes and she goes, Okay, so I'm going

649
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,559
about this all wrong. It's all about me having children.

650
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:32,440
Me having children clear up his skin is so funny

651
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,000
and her, she says, this woman has lost her mind.

652
00:34:35,079 --> 00:34:37,920
She is true, and she said anything having children will

653
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,679
make your skin break out more. And Maria says, well,

654
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:43,719
and I have to tell you I didn't think he

655
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:48,480
should marry someone so old, but I've decided to love

656
00:34:48,559 --> 00:34:51,960
his love. And I'm backing you in prayer, and I

657
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,559
know you will be blessed with four children, two boys,

658
00:34:54,559 --> 00:34:56,920
two girls. And every time she says two boys, two

659
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:00,599
girls as she goes a one girl it one girl,

660
00:35:00,639 --> 00:35:02,559
and she talks over her and they go back and

661
00:35:02,599 --> 00:35:05,239
forth on it. It was pretty funny. Yeah, it was

662
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,320
pretty funny. And Asia says, his mother is cuckoo. Do

663
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,800
think I'm pushing out four children? You know? So does

664
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:13,760
she know my age?

665
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,760
Speaker 2: Does she know? I am the age of Dame Judy

666
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:21,199
Dench over here and I cannot have that many children.

667
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:22,639
Speaker 1: Judy did still with us?

668
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 2: I don't know, Okay, So I'm going to look it up. Okay.

669
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 1: So Asha and Maxwell talk about the wedding and they're like,

670
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,000
the way Judy did, she's still with us.

671
00:35:35,039 --> 00:35:38,599
Speaker 2: Okay, ninety one years old, God bless.

672
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,119
Speaker 1: I was thinking about the other dame that died that

673
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:43,280
was in Dunton Abbey.

674
00:35:44,519 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 2: Oh yes, Maggie Smith.

675
00:35:46,039 --> 00:35:50,079
Speaker 1: Maggie Smith. So they say the wedding will be small

676
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,400
and then they'll have a bigger one in the United States.

677
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,519
But they got to get everybody over here for the wedding.

678
00:35:54,559 --> 00:35:55,960
I was like, then, it's not going to be small

679
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:57,920
if you're flying all these people over here.

680
00:35:58,599 --> 00:36:01,159
Speaker 2: No, just have them wait for the in the United States.

681
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,199
Speaker 1: She's gonna get her sisters and of course her godbrother Rod.

682
00:36:05,199 --> 00:36:08,039
You know she's gonna call Rod to get Rod to help,

683
00:36:08,079 --> 00:36:11,880
and I was like, six days to fly to Africa.

684
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:13,880
You're not giving them much heads up and for to.

685
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:15,559
Speaker 2: Believe do these people not have jobs?

686
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 1: Do they have current passports?

687
00:36:18,119 --> 00:36:18,199
Speaker 3: Like?

688
00:36:18,519 --> 00:36:22,039
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a pretty long way to go. So she

689
00:36:22,199 --> 00:36:25,400
calls Rod and says, Rod, guess what we've decided. Since

690
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,519
I'm here, we're gonna go ahead and do the spouse

691
00:36:27,599 --> 00:36:29,679
of visa. And he goes, what does that mean? She goes,

692
00:36:29,679 --> 00:36:31,320
I'm gonna go ahead and get married while I'm here.

693
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,079
It didn't make this to go all the way back

694
00:36:33,079 --> 00:36:36,119
home and come all the way back. And he says, bitch,

695
00:36:36,159 --> 00:36:40,119
you crazy, And I love that because he didn't. He

696
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,360
like took all his glasses and he was like, he says,

697
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,920
you lost it. This is some scamming going on. This

698
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,480
is not what you signed up for. You practiced abstinence

699
00:36:49,599 --> 00:36:54,559
all these years. Now what are we really are we

700
00:36:54,639 --> 00:36:56,800
to believe she's a virgin or she's just been abstinent

701
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:58,920
for X amount of years?

702
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,039
Speaker 2: I don't know. I remember Maxwell trying to get it

703
00:37:02,079 --> 00:37:05,559
in mean second that she landed interesting.

704
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 1: He said, you practice absence for all these years for

705
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,199
someone who is not even your caliber. And she says

706
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:15,639
that's disrespectful. And he says, are you pregnant or something?

707
00:37:16,079 --> 00:37:19,960
Fake out? Fake out again, and she goes, now, you

708
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:23,639
know I'm not pregnant. So she goes, now, you're gonna

709
00:37:23,639 --> 00:37:25,199
have to help my sisters get over here because they're

710
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:28,679
not used to flying, especially they've got now five days

711
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:33,400
notice to get Africa. And Rod is like, I cannot

712
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,679
believe you were doing this. This man has nothing.

713
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:38,599
Speaker 2: He has nothing, Okay, rude.

714
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: Now she did a post saying that he has two

715
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,960
master's degrees and everybody in his family has at least

716
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:49,880
a master's and some have doctorates. Okay, he comes from

717
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,679
a very well established family according to the post she did.

718
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:57,320
Speaker 2: M So does Rod just not have the four to

719
00:37:57,320 --> 00:37:58,719
one one on what's happening?

720
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: I think that's right.

721
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:03,519
Speaker 2: I think she's Yeah, he's making a lot of assumptions.

722
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:05,639
Speaker 1: I think he is, and we don't want to know.

723
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:10,760
Now we're going to go on to another pretty tragic story.

724
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:15,000
This is a really good episode, which is Katie and

725
00:38:15,079 --> 00:38:19,480
Josh and oh God. A listener Chris, who sends me

726
00:38:19,519 --> 00:38:23,079
so much information, sent me a picture of a comparison

727
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:32,800
between Katie's mother and Melissa McCarthy from Brice Mains and

728
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,280
I died. I died.

729
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:38,599
Speaker 2: She was like, does that not look like oh yeah

730
00:38:38,639 --> 00:38:39,400
in that picture?

731
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,599
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean I was laughing so hard. I was like,

732
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:46,000
because I took pictures of her too. I mean, she's

733
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:50,159
not wrong, she's not wrong. Similar, hilarious.

734
00:38:50,599 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 2: Okay, continue, Okay, So there, this is just this is

735
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,559
the episode we learned that Katie's entire family hates her.

736
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,199
And it's not just us, it's not as folks. We're

737
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,360
in this together with this old family.

738
00:39:03,599 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 1: This was hard. Hard.

739
00:39:06,199 --> 00:39:08,800
Speaker 2: My dad wasn't seeing it, and I was like, read

740
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:11,239
between the lines of what the mom is saying. This

741
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,199
is what the mom is saying on TV about her

742
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:18,440
own daughter. Yeah, and Chad, her church going lady.

743
00:39:19,119 --> 00:39:19,559
Speaker 1: It's bad.

744
00:39:19,639 --> 00:39:23,639
Speaker 2: Although they can be the most judgy, but so they

745
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,199
Katie and Josh are going to Easter with her family

746
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,719
in California. She's telling him about how they had how

747
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:33,000
they celebrated Easter and how they also had chickens and

748
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,119
they had a bad chicken who would attack them, and

749
00:39:35,159 --> 00:39:38,840
then her dad would kill the chicken who was attacking them,

750
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:45,320
and the other chickens somewhere Breakingne was just sobbing. Yeah,

751
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,199
I guess you got to weed out and start over.

752
00:39:48,159 --> 00:39:51,360
Renee horror. Renee is sobbing in the corner.

753
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 1: I hated the show. So he's going to.

754
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 2: Cook some British stuff for her family and he's like,

755
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,000
I am going to cook sausage. I have to practice

756
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,400
how to say it sausage. How do you say it,

757
00:40:03,599 --> 00:40:08,920
sausage roll? He sounds like a robot, sausage roll, sausage rolls,

758
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:09,760
I say it?

759
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,760
Speaker 1: Why does he have to learn to say it? What?

760
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:15,639
Speaker 2: Just say it normally they can understand you. So he says,

761
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:20,119
I'm still trying to understand religion in America and I

762
00:40:20,119 --> 00:40:22,679
don't want to say the wrong thing in front of

763
00:40:22,679 --> 00:40:26,320
her family. And she's like, well, we're Lutheran and he says, yeah,

764
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,559
I guess I'm not religious at all. So and she says,

765
00:40:29,599 --> 00:40:31,679
so you'd never want to go to church with me?

766
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:34,239
And he said, well, if I don't, is that a

767
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:37,079
deal breaker? And she says, yeah, it is a deal breaker.

768
00:40:37,119 --> 00:40:39,320
And I was like, bitch, does your church know what

769
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:43,599
you're doing with your tongue? Every day? But Sunday probably

770
00:40:43,679 --> 00:40:45,599
after church on Sunday as well.

771
00:40:45,679 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 1: Has he ever seen or go to church or known

772
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:50,679
that this was a huge bona contention for her?

773
00:40:51,199 --> 00:40:55,079
Speaker 2: Has she mentioned it even once ever? Right? So he

774
00:40:55,159 --> 00:40:58,599
says he's more agnostic, and she's like, well, my mom

775
00:40:58,679 --> 00:41:02,519
read the whole Bible. He goes, wow, and I was like,

776
00:41:02,559 --> 00:41:04,599
I thought a lot of people have. I think if

777
00:41:04,599 --> 00:41:06,960
you've gone to church your whole life, you've eventually read

778
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:11,599
the whole Bible. So the mom would want her if

779
00:41:11,639 --> 00:41:17,760
they have children, Dear God help us, all the grandchildren

780
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,920
should be raised Lutheran. And Josh says, well, what if

781
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:24,159
I didn't want that to be And Katie says, well,

782
00:41:24,199 --> 00:41:26,519
that would be bad. I think it might be a

783
00:41:26,559 --> 00:41:29,840
deal breaker. And he says, well, it's like, you don't

784
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:31,880
go to church, so I don't really know what it

785
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:37,159
means for you to be religion religious because yeah, exactly.

786
00:41:37,599 --> 00:41:40,760
And he says, I would not want my children to

787
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:44,599
be indoctrinated into something and have something pushed on them

788
00:41:44,639 --> 00:41:46,920
so that they can make up their own minds. And

789
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:49,000
she's like, well, I think it's important for them to

790
00:41:49,039 --> 00:41:51,519
be baptized in the Lutheran Church and to have the

791
00:41:51,559 --> 00:41:55,800
Lutheran Church pushed on them, which is the exact opposite

792
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:56,519
of what he said.

793
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: And alway, if she doesn't go to church now, she's

794
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,880
not gonna sudden become a churchgoer. So he doesn't need

795
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,280
to worry about this. Yeah, just get to baptize. She's

796
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:05,559
never going to try to go to church. She's going

797
00:42:05,599 --> 00:42:06,320
to be too hungover.

798
00:42:07,039 --> 00:42:10,559
Speaker 2: Exactly. Also, she had the Lutheran church pushed on her.

799
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:15,400
It worked out so great. She is not a ringing

800
00:42:15,599 --> 00:42:19,920
endorsement for religion, let's just put it that way. So

801
00:42:20,599 --> 00:42:23,159
she tells him, well, if you change your mind and

802
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,880
you won't do it, Lutherans do believe in divorce, and

803
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:31,599
he's like, okay, Like that's a threat, You're God, get

804
00:42:31,639 --> 00:42:35,840
me out of this. She wants him to leave. She

805
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,079
keeps throwing up all these roadblocks because she doesn't want

806
00:42:39,119 --> 00:42:41,079
to get married, but she doesn't want to be the

807
00:42:41,079 --> 00:42:42,880
one to end it. She wants him to break up

808
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,480
with her, so she keeps being as difficult as possible.

809
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,119
So then they're running late for the airport. He really

810
00:42:49,159 --> 00:42:51,239
wants to be on time. He's a very nervous flyer.

811
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,039
He wants to get there like six hours early to

812
00:42:53,079 --> 00:42:56,599
the airport, and she is taking her sweet time, and

813
00:42:57,039 --> 00:42:59,800
he says, she keeps promising she'll be better, but she

814
00:43:00,119 --> 00:43:03,239
isn't improving her behavior. So it's like, why am I here?

815
00:43:04,079 --> 00:43:07,000
If we all are wondering that, did.

816
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,519
Speaker 1: We get how early he was trying to be to

817
00:43:09,519 --> 00:43:10,039
the airport?

818
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,519
Speaker 2: Honestly, she said it was an hour earlier than she

819
00:43:13,559 --> 00:43:15,280
would have liked to be there. She said, we're going

820
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,199
to have to be there like two hours waiting or something.

821
00:43:18,559 --> 00:43:21,159
So it was just a couple hours, okay, so it

822
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:27,159
seemed fairly reasonable. It wasn't like, you know, five am

823
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:30,079
for a five pm flight, It didn't seem like that.

824
00:43:30,559 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 1: It just seemed like they tell you get their X

825
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:34,639
amount of time. And he's trying to really follow that

826
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,039
rule and she's like, yeah, sometimes I just wing it.

827
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:40,760
Speaker 2: And exactly because that's how she lives her life. So

828
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,840
she so finally he just leaves. He's like, I'll meet

829
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,760
you at the train station because I can't. I'm nervous.

830
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,119
I'm going to get a donut and I'm leaving, and

831
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:54,719
she tells us Josh is being so annoying about timing,

832
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:57,760
like we're super early? Why is he rushing me? And

833
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:02,760
I'm being bitchy today? But it's my own. And he's

834
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:06,960
being bitchy too though, so we're both being bitchy. So

835
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:09,760
at the airport, she tells him, I was really annoyed

836
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,239
with you for rushing me, and he said, you know

837
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,639
what today has been all about you. You decided when

838
00:44:15,679 --> 00:44:17,599
you woke up you were in a mood today, and

839
00:44:17,639 --> 00:44:20,400
then I just have to follow your emotions all day

840
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:24,079
and it's not fair. And why can't you understand that

841
00:44:24,119 --> 00:44:27,639
there needs to be space for me in a relationship

842
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:33,760
there's two people. And also he looks terrible, like how

843
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,079
I said she looked when she was hungover going on

844
00:44:36,119 --> 00:44:40,159
that run last time. He has bags under his eyes.

845
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,719
It is like she is a sucubist who is sucking

846
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:46,719
the life and joy out of his body like a

847
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,760
dementor from Harry Potter. Give the man some chocolate. It

848
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:52,800
is he has never looked rougher.

849
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:57,119
Speaker 1: I think. Also he really hates travel and flying, and

850
00:44:57,159 --> 00:44:59,320
so probably he's worked himself into a frenzy and didn't

851
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,440
sleep well. We don't know if they've gotten a double

852
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:05,119
bed yet or if they're still sleeping in that stained twin.

853
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 2: Did they get a sound machine to cover the sound

854
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:12,840
of that garage? Oh god. So she apologizes and he

855
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:16,559
thinks she's just apologizing to shut him up, which yes,

856
00:45:17,119 --> 00:45:19,639
and he's like, I don't want to plan a wedding

857
00:45:19,679 --> 00:45:23,480
when we're dealing with this dumb shit. That's like dumb,

858
00:45:23,559 --> 00:45:28,519
these dumb issues like her not respecting me. He didn't

859
00:45:28,519 --> 00:45:32,679
say that, but I'm saying that, So it's not dumb stuff.

860
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,719
It's very big stuff. So they arrive and they're both

861
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:40,400
in better moods when they land, and they apologize to

862
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:44,119
each other, and she tells him, you know you're gonna

863
00:45:44,119 --> 00:45:48,239
see my family home. As a kid, I was really bossy. Shocker.

864
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,599
Everyone in my family is really chill and I'm the

865
00:45:51,639 --> 00:45:56,400
wild one. They're rule followers. It's horrible. And he says

866
00:45:56,559 --> 00:45:57,280
it sounds great.

867
00:45:57,920 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 1: Do we think that he's met her family before?

868
00:46:00,679 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 2: It did? Yes, because he had met before, right. He

869
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,599
says like, good to see you, yeah, but that could

870
00:46:06,639 --> 00:46:09,599
be just britishy and not good. He didn't say good

871
00:46:09,639 --> 00:46:11,079
to meet you, so I don't know.

872
00:46:11,679 --> 00:46:14,639
Speaker 1: It didn't seem uncomfortable, like because the dad was like,

873
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:18,760
I'll put you in your regular room, right, So it

874
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:20,800
seems like he's definitely met them before, maybe just not

875
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:23,679
at that house. Yeah, maybe they think that's it over

876
00:46:23,679 --> 00:46:24,239
there or something.

877
00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:28,320
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. So they go to the parents. She gives

878
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,920
the most awkward hug to her dad. It was like

879
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:38,320
a it's very strange. Josh gave him a better hug.

880
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:41,519
I felt like. So they the parents say, we've missed

881
00:46:41,599 --> 00:46:44,800
seeing her while she was, you know, traveling around Europe.

882
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:48,800
We love having her here. For the first two or

883
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:52,840
three days, then you get tired and you just want

884
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:54,079
to sit and watch TV.

885
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 1: But that's any guess right, I.

886
00:46:57,639 --> 00:47:02,280
Speaker 2: Guess fair enough. I don't know. My parents would probably

887
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,239
say we would want you to stay forever, Like even

888
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:09,400
if I'm being a bitch. Not my parents, you know,

889
00:47:09,679 --> 00:47:12,440
they're always like five days is it's enough time?

890
00:47:12,679 --> 00:47:15,320
Speaker 1: You can go. But I'll tell you interesting that my

891
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:21,480
friend Mary had both of her daughters and one lives

892
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:23,920
there once in college, and both of their boyfriends were

893
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:26,199
in town for like the fourth of July, and so

894
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:28,039
she was like, so I had like two extra people

895
00:47:28,039 --> 00:47:30,000
in my house, like these two guys sleeping in the

896
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:32,280
guest room, and it was all like and so the

897
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:35,199
one boyfriend that lives in New York City, like his

898
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,599
train got canceled and then like his flight got canceled

899
00:47:37,599 --> 00:47:39,639
because we were having that heat wave and all that stuff.

900
00:47:40,079 --> 00:47:42,480
And Mary says she finally looked at a daughter and goes,

901
00:47:42,559 --> 00:47:44,440
you're gonna have to drive him there, like he's got

902
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:48,400
to get out of the house. He's like he's been

903
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,960
here six days, like we're out of food, Like you

904
00:47:52,159 --> 00:47:55,039
got to go. Yeah, so she did. She goes, I said,

905
00:47:55,039 --> 00:47:57,360
here's my credit card, drive him back to New York.

906
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: That's hilarious. Okay, I get it. Uh So the parents

907
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:07,000
let them share a room, so they're not like that religious.

908
00:48:07,079 --> 00:48:09,880
They did let them share a room obviously, right, Yes,

909
00:48:10,039 --> 00:48:14,320
I was a little surprised. Why So Josh says, I'm

910
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:17,239
gonna unpack and then I'm gonna make the sausage rolls.

911
00:48:17,639 --> 00:48:22,320
And she says, okay, I'm gonna go talk to my family.

912
00:48:22,559 --> 00:48:25,559
But then she says she kind of stops and she says,

913
00:48:25,599 --> 00:48:26,800
do you need anything from me?

914
00:48:27,039 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: I was shocked.

915
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,039
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, that's growth good for her.

916
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:35,760
Speaker 1: How crazy that we were both shocking those shot.

917
00:48:37,079 --> 00:48:39,360
Speaker 2: Shocked that she offered to help with something.

918
00:48:39,599 --> 00:48:44,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, that she thought of him, Uh huh, exactly, you alone,

919
00:48:44,199 --> 00:48:44,840
can I help you?

920
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:45,119
Speaker 3: Yes?

921
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:47,079
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, all right, that's.

922
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:48,760
Speaker 1: Just that's just.

923
00:48:50,159 --> 00:48:52,800
Speaker 2: Uh huh. And he says a kiss would be nice

924
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,360
and she says, oh yeah, and she gives them a kiss.

925
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:56,159
Speaker 1: You want one of these?

926
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:05,280
Speaker 2: Uh So, such a weird couple. So Katie goes to

927
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:07,320
talk to her mom. She tells her mom about the

928
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:11,280
fight this morning, and unlike most mothers who would have

929
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:14,840
their daughters back, the mom immediately places all the blame

930
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:20,960
on Katie and she says, oh, well, you apologized, and

931
00:49:21,039 --> 00:49:23,400
Katie's like, yeah, I apologize. She goes, Okay, that's good

932
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:26,480
because you should be nice to Josh. He deserves that.

933
00:49:27,039 --> 00:49:32,119
He's a good guy and you're terrible. And the mom

934
00:49:32,199 --> 00:49:34,519
tells us I hope they can make this work. Josh

935
00:49:34,599 --> 00:49:37,679
is really good for her. He makes her think less

936
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:42,760
about herself and more about others, and that's a character

937
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flaw she's had all her life.

938
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Speaker 1: She's a narcissist and.

939
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Speaker 2: See you next Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Lig knows narcissists when we got that OCD.

941
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Speaker 2: Yep, I just never told her about that, but the

942
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doctor slipped me a note as I was leaving the

943
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office and said she's also a raging narcissist. So the

944
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mom goes, she was super bossy as a kid and

945
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it was annoying. She hates her child.

946
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Speaker 1: She is this is so rough. It's so rough. It's

947
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it's continued.

948
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Speaker 2: She just called her child an annoying child on TV.

949
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She's like, you can think that she's a lot. She goes, yeah,

950
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:33,519
she's super bossy. It was annoying, and then she says.

951
00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:37,920
Katie says, I was bad at my birthday. I drank

952
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,119
a lot of tequila. I tried to kiss everyone, and

953
00:50:41,159 --> 00:50:45,440
the mom says that makes me sad, and Katie says,

954
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I'm sorry.

955
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Speaker 1: Katie.

956
00:50:47,039 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 2: She just have I'm sorry tattooed across her forehead. The

957
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,360
amount of time she has to apologize to people.

958
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 1: Her mom has been dealing with this, and her mom

959
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:59,280
obviously knows that she does this, get drunk and gets

960
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,360
drunk and trustics. She's obviously talked to her mom about this.

961
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Speaker 2: Yes, which is good. I'm glad that she has someone

962
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to talk to.

963
00:51:06,079 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 1: But he didn't go what, you're engaged and you were

964
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:11,400
trying to kiss people.

965
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Speaker 2: Not surprised.

966
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Speaker 1: She was like, that makes me sad that you did that.

967
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Speaker 2: You know that you're still doing this ship So mom says,

968
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you know you drink and your behavior gets obnoxious and

969
00:51:23,519 --> 00:51:28,000
you're going to hurt someone some day, And Katie says, like.

970
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Speaker 1: Murder, kimberly, what's wrong with her? The fact that that's

971
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the first thing she thought, That.

972
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Speaker 2: Is the first thing you thought of that you meant homicide.

973
00:51:42,159 --> 00:51:46,320
That she didn't smile, She didn't She is that her

974
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:49,920
o c D like thinking that that's what her mom means, or.

975
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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe maybe she went to the worst thing.

976
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Speaker 2: How bad does your behavior have to be that you

977
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,639
think when your mom says hurt someone, you think she

978
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means murder.

979
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Speaker 1: It could be the OCD just going to the worst

980
00:52:04,119 --> 00:52:08,719
thing that you don't but wow, that was.

981
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Speaker 2: And the mom no, spiritually, like emotionally, And the mom

982
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tells us I don't want to blame all her behavior

983
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:22,320
on OCD, but because there's many other things happening here.

984
00:52:22,639 --> 00:52:25,440
But she does have these voices in her head that

985
00:52:25,519 --> 00:52:27,559
are telling her to do all these bad things and

986
00:52:27,599 --> 00:52:30,840
she tries not to listen to them. And then she's

987
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:36,840
also an alcoholic, she is a sex addict maybe yeah,

988
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:40,599
and a narcissist and just so many other things. So

989
00:52:41,199 --> 00:52:45,199
the mom says she's burned relationships in the past because

990
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:49,159
she's a lot and people get tired of it.

991
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:51,239
Speaker 1: Oh that just breaks my heart.

992
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:55,159
Speaker 2: That is so sim You're gonna Katie's gonna watch this

993
00:52:55,519 --> 00:52:58,599
and like hear how her mom truly feels about her.

994
00:52:59,519 --> 00:53:04,000
I know it's bad, but maybe she needs it. Because again,

995
00:53:04,199 --> 00:53:08,079
Josh never firmly puts his foot down. He does this, like,

996
00:53:08,400 --> 00:53:10,320
why did you feel like you had to do this?

997
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,199
Why did you feel like you had to cheat on

998
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:16,199
me in front of me? Like it's very Let's talk

999
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:18,719
about your emotions, Katie, of why you felt that way.

1000
00:53:19,079 --> 00:53:22,239
You know, I can't keep doing this forever, but I'm

1001
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:26,559
probably gonna keep doing this forever. So she needs someone

1002
00:53:26,599 --> 00:53:29,519
to slap her across the face and say, snap out

1003
00:53:29,559 --> 00:53:32,239
of it. Yeah, what the fuck are you doing? You

1004
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:34,440
need some consequences for your behavior.

1005
00:53:34,679 --> 00:53:37,199
Speaker 1: She needs she needs like weekly therapy, that's what she

1006
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:38,280
needs at least once.

1007
00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:42,119
Speaker 2: Why she needs medication and therapy. She needs an inpatient

1008
00:53:42,159 --> 00:53:49,280
treatment facility too. Like yes, hey, bunkies, it's producer ingrid here.

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This is the end of part one. Part two is

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already in your feed. Enjoy the show.