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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and golachieving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Fellavoldo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode two fifty two. Today we're talking about a

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<v Speaker 2>critical truth in leadership and personal development. You only improve

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<v Speaker 2>your self confidence by becoming good at something. Confidence isn't

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<v Speaker 2>something you wake up with one day. It's built over

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<v Speaker 2>time by learning, doing, seeing results, and repeating that process consistently.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people believe that confidence is something you're born with

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<v Speaker 2>or something you can fake until it becomes real. But

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<v Speaker 2>true lasting confidence isn't a performance, it's earned. It comes

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<v Speaker 2>from confidence. The more you develop your skills, the more

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<v Speaker 2>assured you become in your abilities. And think about any

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<v Speaker 2>successful leader, athlete, or expert in any field. They didn't

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<v Speaker 2>start out confident. They started as beginners. They learned, they failed,

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<v Speaker 2>they practiced, and over time their confidence grew as their

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<v Speaker 2>skills improved. Next, let's talk about the process learn, do,

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<v Speaker 2>see results repeat. If you want to become more confident,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to commit to this cycle. Learn, absorb knowledge

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<v Speaker 2>from books, mentors, training or hands on experience. Do apply

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<v Speaker 2>what you've learned in real situations. See results, pay attention

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<v Speaker 2>to what works and what doesn't, adjust, refine, and then improve,

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<v Speaker 2>and then repeat. Keep doing this for years. Confidence isn't

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<v Speaker 2>built overnight, it compounds daily. In other words, confidence comes

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<v Speaker 2>from repetition. Let's take public speaking as an example. If

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<v Speaker 2>you're terrified of speaking in front of a group, no

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<v Speaker 2>amount of motivational self talk will change that overnight. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you practice first in small meetings, then larger groups,

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<v Speaker 2>then on stage, you'll start to see improvement. And with

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<v Speaker 2>each repetition, your fear decreases and your confidence grows. The

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<v Speaker 2>same principle applies to leadership. You're not instantly confident in

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<v Speaker 2>making tough decisions or leading a team, but the more

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<v Speaker 2>you do it, the better you get, and as your

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<v Speaker 2>skills improve, your confidence follows. In last, there is the

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<v Speaker 2>danger of avoiding challenges. One of the biggest confidence killers

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<v Speaker 2>is avoiding challenges. If you never push yourself, you never grow,

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<v Speaker 2>and if you never grow, your confidence remains stagnant. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't get better by staying in your comfort zone. You

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<v Speaker 2>get better by doing hard things repeatedly outside of your

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<v Speaker 2>comfort zone. So if you want to improve your confidence,

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<v Speaker 2>start by picking one skill to work on. Maybe it's communication,

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<v Speaker 2>decision making, time management, or conflict resolution. Dedicate time to learning,

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<v Speaker 2>practicing and refining that skill every day. Practice in front

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<v Speaker 2>of a mirror or with friends and family if you

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<v Speaker 2>have to, whatever it takes to build those skills. Confidence

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<v Speaker 2>isn't built in a day, but it is built daily.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't get in shape by going to the gym

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<v Speaker 2>for eight hours one day a week. You do it

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<v Speaker 2>in shorter intervals, consistently every day. This has been the

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<v Speaker 2>seven Minute Leadership Podcast, and I thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more, Paul Fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot

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