WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.040 Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:04.519 name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globes podcast, 3 00:00:04.639 --> 00:00:07.120 where I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.160 --> 00:00:09.359 self aware that you can glow up into the best 5 00:00:09.400 --> 00:00:14.240 version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? I am 6 00:00:14.320 --> 00:00:16.679 doing well. I hope you guys are doing well. I 7 00:00:16.679 --> 00:00:20.719 wanted to come onto the podcast today to send another message, 8 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:25.800 another reminder to you and for myself in regards to 9 00:00:26.559 --> 00:00:30.399 whatever it is that you are putting in the work on. Okay, 10 00:00:30.559 --> 00:00:34.280 whatever you're working towards, whether it's goals, or you're staying 11 00:00:34.320 --> 00:00:38.039 strong with something, or you're waiting for the fruits of 12 00:00:38.079 --> 00:00:41.799 your labor to come, I want you to remember and 13 00:00:41.840 --> 00:00:45.640 I want to remind you that your work will pay off. 14 00:00:45.719 --> 00:00:49.359 It will all pay off. You just need to stay focused. Now, 15 00:00:49.679 --> 00:00:52.920 let me talk to you about what made me inspired 16 00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:55.520 to talk about this topic, and I'm going to give 17 00:00:55.520 --> 00:01:00.640 you some advice. If you are currently feeling like you 18 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:04.120 aren't doing enough and or waiting for your fruits or 19 00:01:04.159 --> 00:01:07.560 your labor to be fruitful and it's just not and 20 00:01:07.719 --> 00:01:09.760 you're feeling maybe down, or you feel like you want 21 00:01:09.760 --> 00:01:13.200 to give up, or you're looking around you, and you're 22 00:01:13.480 --> 00:01:15.680 kind of in this energy of the grass is greener. 23 00:01:16.879 --> 00:01:20.359 We're gonna recenter, We're gonna recenter. So I personally like 24 00:01:20.439 --> 00:01:24.319 to watch a lot of commentary channels on YouTube. I 25 00:01:24.519 --> 00:01:28.480 like to watch Kiki Chanel, like to watch Adam McIntyre, 26 00:01:28.560 --> 00:01:32.280 Smoky Glow, Ccy Sorez. I like to watch all different 27 00:01:32.319 --> 00:01:35.439 types of channels, whether that is something to do with 28 00:01:35.560 --> 00:01:39.040 like the influencer world, or social media, or just crazy 29 00:01:39.040 --> 00:01:40.439 things that are happening on the Internet. I feel like 30 00:01:40.439 --> 00:01:43.680 it's my way of kind of disconnecting from the self 31 00:01:43.680 --> 00:01:45.959 development world and the healing world and working on yourself 32 00:01:45.959 --> 00:01:48.480 and this that. I also love reality TV shows too, Okay, 33 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:50.680 I just love it. But the other day I was 34 00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:55.920 watching some commentary video where they were kind of talking 35 00:01:56.079 --> 00:02:01.719 about how some influencers, let's say YouTube, how they gain 36 00:02:01.799 --> 00:02:04.519 a lot of virality, they gain a lot of success, 37 00:02:04.719 --> 00:02:07.560 they gain a lot of subscribers and money essentially, like 38 00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:10.159 those big ones. Okay, we're not talking about like mid 39 00:02:10.199 --> 00:02:14.080 tier content creators. We're talking about the big guys, Okay, 40 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:16.240 the ones that are making millions and millions of dollars, 41 00:02:16.240 --> 00:02:19.560 And how some of these commentators are basically kind of 42 00:02:19.560 --> 00:02:22.240 following some of their stories and how not all of them, 43 00:02:22.240 --> 00:02:24.240 but some of them ended up like burning through a 44 00:02:24.240 --> 00:02:27.080 bunch of money, or they're not really successful anymore, or 45 00:02:27.680 --> 00:02:30.800 they ended up being like dead beats or whatever the 46 00:02:30.840 --> 00:02:34.639 case is, and how their message, like the commentary Channel's 47 00:02:34.759 --> 00:02:37.240 message to a lot of people who might be watching 48 00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:41.479 these big YouTubers or people who have success, the message is, 49 00:02:41.840 --> 00:02:44.479 you know, be careful with who you look up to. 50 00:02:45.159 --> 00:02:48.560 You know, not everything is what it seems, and don't 51 00:02:48.599 --> 00:02:52.080 look at your current life circumstance or your success against 52 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:54.159 others because you have no idea what is going on 53 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:56.680 behind you know, closed doors or behind the scenes. Even 54 00:02:56.719 --> 00:02:58.680 you can think about this with people on Instagram or whatever. 55 00:02:58.680 --> 00:03:01.360 We kind of know that, right, but also just shedding 56 00:03:01.439 --> 00:03:05.360 light on the dangers sometimes of always wanting things very 57 00:03:05.479 --> 00:03:09.479 quickly or lots of success quickly. And I think about 58 00:03:09.479 --> 00:03:11.919 this when people come to me and ask me about 59 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:14.479 being a content creator. Some people will ask me, well, 60 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:16.879 how did you get viral or how do you go viral? 61 00:03:17.039 --> 00:03:18.639 You know, people always want to go viral, and people 62 00:03:18.639 --> 00:03:20.599 want millions of views and that. And it's not to 63 00:03:20.599 --> 00:03:22.319 say that you can't want that as a content creator, 64 00:03:22.360 --> 00:03:24.400 and that it's not amazing when that happens. It's not 65 00:03:24.520 --> 00:03:26.520 the best measure of success. And I feel like in 66 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:29.000 this generation, we're always looking at that as a measure 67 00:03:29.000 --> 00:03:30.680 of success, and if we don't have that, we're like, oh, 68 00:03:30.719 --> 00:03:33.159 we're not successful, or oh what I'm doing is not 69 00:03:33.199 --> 00:03:35.439 good enough, you know, if I'm not going viral, or if 70 00:03:35.400 --> 00:03:36.919 I don't have all of this money, if I don't 71 00:03:36.919 --> 00:03:40.479 have all of this material success or whatever everyone else 72 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:43.479 has online, like I'm not doing enough, I'm not being 73 00:03:43.520 --> 00:03:46.360 successful enough, or I'm just not enough. In how growing 74 00:03:46.439 --> 00:03:49.479 up and watching you know, some of this generation have 75 00:03:49.599 --> 00:03:52.919 so much of that success kind of makes us all 76 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:56.800 want things quick, fast and in a hurry, especially with 77 00:03:56.919 --> 00:04:00.000 the fact that that's just how the generation works now, 78 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:02.719 you know, whether it's you order something in three seconds 79 00:04:02.759 --> 00:04:05.199 you get off of Amazon, or yeah, you can post 80 00:04:05.240 --> 00:04:07.919 a video on YouTube or TikTok or whatever and it 81 00:04:07.960 --> 00:04:10.280 does go viral. It's like we're getting really trained to 82 00:04:10.280 --> 00:04:13.120 have everything quickly, and so when we don't have things quickly, 83 00:04:13.159 --> 00:04:16.160 we're automatically like, oh, see, like I'm not successful or 84 00:04:16.199 --> 00:04:18.360 it's not happening, and we lose faith and we lose 85 00:04:18.399 --> 00:04:21.120 a lot of hope, and I think it's such a facade. 86 00:04:21.240 --> 00:04:24.399 And I've definitely seen this within my own self. I 87 00:04:24.439 --> 00:04:27.360 feel like I've grown up watching people be really successful 88 00:04:27.600 --> 00:04:29.800 for many years, and I've had to remind myself, like, Okay, 89 00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:32.600 you don't need to always measure your success against others 90 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:36.279 because everyone has their own journey, and be careful to 91 00:04:36.360 --> 00:04:39.800 even do that because some things are not as it seems. 92 00:04:39.879 --> 00:04:42.519 But I've just had to remind myself that I'm not 93 00:04:42.759 --> 00:04:47.519 as behind as I think I am. It's usually when 94 00:04:47.519 --> 00:04:49.680 I sign on to social media or I see everyone 95 00:04:49.680 --> 00:04:53.519 else's successes that then I'm like, oh, well, I should 96 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:56.079 be further in life, and honestly, let's just take this 97 00:04:56.360 --> 00:05:02.279 outside of success. We will do this with our age. Right. Oh, 98 00:05:02.319 --> 00:05:04.720 I'm twenty five years old. Why don't I have the 99 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:07.480 long term relationship of my dreams? Why am I not 100 00:05:07.519 --> 00:05:09.560 getting pregnant? Why am I not married? Why don't I 101 00:05:09.560 --> 00:05:11.680 have a house? Oh my gosh, I'm still in debt. 102 00:05:11.720 --> 00:05:13.800 Oh I don't have this much savings, like I have 103 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:15.959 been through all of that, And if you do that enough, 104 00:05:16.560 --> 00:05:20.600 it really strips you from the reality of which is 105 00:05:21.079 --> 00:05:25.040 you right now? And your life, and it's actually perfect. 106 00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:28.240 You are exactly where you need to be. You actually 107 00:05:28.360 --> 00:05:31.040 don't need to be anywhere but where you're at right now. 108 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:32.839 But it's like you get in your own head based 109 00:05:32.879 --> 00:05:34.560 off of the things that you're seeing. So it's not 110 00:05:34.560 --> 00:05:37.079 necessarily full of your fault because this generation is like 111 00:05:37.120 --> 00:05:38.800 bombarding us with you got to do it at this 112 00:05:38.879 --> 00:05:41.639 age and this that. But I want this video to 113 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:44.560 be a reminder to you that you know, whatever you're 114 00:05:44.600 --> 00:05:47.319 working on or whatever you want, keep working on it, 115 00:05:47.519 --> 00:05:50.800 stay focused. You are also exactly where you need to be, 116 00:05:51.279 --> 00:05:54.240 and bring your attention, in your time and your energy 117 00:05:54.279 --> 00:05:56.879 back to yourself. Okay, kind of back to this, like 118 00:05:57.120 --> 00:05:59.720 the grass is not actually greener over here. The grass 119 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:01.920 is or where you water it. And why that's also 120 00:06:01.959 --> 00:06:06.720 so important is if you are working towards something, it's 121 00:06:06.759 --> 00:06:09.160 going to be important that you stay focused and you 122 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:11.879 keep taking the action towards what you want. But when 123 00:06:11.920 --> 00:06:13.920 you're constantly looking outside of yourself and being like, oh, 124 00:06:13.920 --> 00:06:15.600 this person's doing it that way, or maybe I should 125 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:17.839 do it this way, or this person's whatever it is, 126 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:21.519 then you stop being consistent with the habits that will 127 00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:24.600 actually bring you to your success. There's a million ways 128 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:26.680 that you can get to your goal. There's a million 129 00:06:26.720 --> 00:06:29.360 ways that you can build subscribers on YouTube. There's a 130 00:06:29.360 --> 00:06:31.560 million ways that you can go out into the world 131 00:06:31.560 --> 00:06:34.240 and be successful in this career or that career. There 132 00:06:34.240 --> 00:06:37.720 are a million pathways. You basically just have to choose one. 133 00:06:37.959 --> 00:06:39.600 And yes, do you have to change some of your 134 00:06:39.600 --> 00:06:43.240 methods and rebrand sometimes or you know, take a different 135 00:06:43.319 --> 00:06:47.319 route if things aren't working. Yes, But I find and 136 00:06:47.319 --> 00:06:50.120 I've seen this in myself, especially in my earlier days. 137 00:06:51.079 --> 00:06:53.480 This generation, we're so quick to jump to the next 138 00:06:53.480 --> 00:06:55.240 thing and the next thing, and you know, we don't 139 00:06:55.240 --> 00:06:57.800 even finish a book. We don't even finish a thought 140 00:06:57.800 --> 00:06:59.360 before we're like, oh, let's go onto the next thing. 141 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:01.959 We don't even start the project before we have a 142 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:04.040 new idea to do another project. And it's like, well, 143 00:07:04.079 --> 00:07:05.959 maybe if you just started this project first and then 144 00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:07.879 actually flushed it out and seeing if it was actually 145 00:07:07.920 --> 00:07:10.480 going to be successful, maybe it would actually be successful. 146 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:13.399 And I think about this when it comes to YouTube. 147 00:07:13.720 --> 00:07:15.600 People are always asking well, how did you grow and 148 00:07:15.639 --> 00:07:18.199 this that it's like, first, yeah, I had belief in myself, 149 00:07:18.240 --> 00:07:20.079 and I feel like I have a purpose and I 150 00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:22.160 have a message to share. You know, I have this 151 00:07:22.199 --> 00:07:23.920 thing about me and I'm bringing it to the world. 152 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:26.120 But for the most part, the way I grew my 153 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:28.720 first channel and the way that I'm growing my second 154 00:07:28.800 --> 00:07:31.120 channel on YouTube, and the way I've grown my audio 155 00:07:31.279 --> 00:07:36.639 version of this podcast is consistency is showing up every 156 00:07:36.680 --> 00:07:40.720 week and knowing what I bring to the world and 157 00:07:41.079 --> 00:07:46.000 my value, and staying focused on my goals and trusting 158 00:07:46.079 --> 00:07:48.639 and knowing and reminding myself that the grass really is 159 00:07:48.720 --> 00:07:52.360 greener where I'm watering it. So some reminders for you 160 00:07:52.480 --> 00:07:55.279 if you find that you're wondering when your success is 161 00:07:55.319 --> 00:07:58.399 going to happen, or when life will change, or when 162 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:02.879 you'll get that dream relationship, or when it is going 163 00:08:02.959 --> 00:08:05.040 to be that you're out of debt, or life is 164 00:08:05.079 --> 00:08:07.920 just going to be different, whatever it is, stop letting 165 00:08:07.959 --> 00:08:13.439 yourself get distracted with everyone else's timelines. Understand that everyone 166 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:18.040 has a unique path here on this earth, okay, And 167 00:08:18.319 --> 00:08:22.000 yes we can get motivated by other people, and other 168 00:08:22.040 --> 00:08:24.519 people can definitely be our expanders. I talk about this 169 00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:27.000 a lot, you know, looking up to people and seeing 170 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:29.279 the way that they do things and learning and growing 171 00:08:29.319 --> 00:08:33.519 from other people. But you have to really see how 172 00:08:33.720 --> 00:08:37.559 a lot of your anxiety of the future or your 173 00:08:37.559 --> 00:08:40.080 second guessing of your path or you getting it in 174 00:08:40.159 --> 00:08:42.279 your own way, is you looking outside of yourself and 175 00:08:42.320 --> 00:08:44.519 seeing everyone else's path and being like, oh, well, they're 176 00:08:44.559 --> 00:08:46.559 doing it this way or I'm not on that path 177 00:08:46.559 --> 00:08:49.960 and this that, and it's not needed, and it's really 178 00:08:50.000 --> 00:08:54.399 taking you not only away from your future but the 179 00:08:54.440 --> 00:08:57.279 present moment right Like, we're also here to live and 180 00:08:57.440 --> 00:08:59.720 experience life and be happy in the present moment, and 181 00:08:59.759 --> 00:09:02.039 we're not even doing that, and we're not doing that 182 00:09:02.039 --> 00:09:04.279 because we're just constantly looking outside of ourselves and being 183 00:09:04.320 --> 00:09:07.519 like when and where and how, and you know everyone 184 00:09:07.519 --> 00:09:09.240 else is doing it better than me, And it's that No, 185 00:09:09.639 --> 00:09:12.120 just because somebody is your age and they have a 186 00:09:12.120 --> 00:09:14.480 better financial situation than you, it doesn't mean that you 187 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:17.360 are behind. And I know it's hard to really think that, 188 00:09:17.440 --> 00:09:20.639 Like we have to sometimes measure ourselves up to something 189 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:22.639 to know that we're going in the right direction or 190 00:09:22.679 --> 00:09:25.519 this that. But as long as you're having a plan, 191 00:09:25.960 --> 00:09:27.919 you know, you have some sort of vision for yourself 192 00:09:27.919 --> 00:09:31.600 and you're taking certain steps, like you are fine. You 193 00:09:31.679 --> 00:09:33.639 are way more fine than you think and I think 194 00:09:33.679 --> 00:09:37.279 this really correlates to worthiness and reminding yourself that you 195 00:09:37.360 --> 00:09:40.200 are enough and what you are doing is enough. And again, 196 00:09:40.240 --> 00:09:42.559 this is really hard in this generation because we are 197 00:09:42.600 --> 00:09:47.720 constantly bombarded with people, places, and things and messages everywhere 198 00:09:47.759 --> 00:09:49.799 all the time being like, do more and be more 199 00:09:49.799 --> 00:09:52.679 productive and start this business, and you can do that. 200 00:09:52.679 --> 00:09:54.399 There's there's a million things, right, There's a million things 201 00:09:54.440 --> 00:09:55.799 that I can do as a content creator. There's a 202 00:09:55.799 --> 00:09:57.919 million ways I can make money. There's a million things 203 00:09:57.919 --> 00:09:59.639 that I can work on when it comes to myself, 204 00:09:59.720 --> 00:10:01.840 myself development and this thing that I need to heal 205 00:10:01.879 --> 00:10:03.679 and that person that I need to meet and X, 206 00:10:03.799 --> 00:10:05.360 Y and Z, and I think we just need to 207 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:08.200 bring it back down to basics sometimes and remind ourselves 208 00:10:08.519 --> 00:10:13.200 that we are enough, what we are doing is enough. Okay. 209 00:10:13.279 --> 00:10:14.799 So I think about this when it comes to my 210 00:10:14.840 --> 00:10:20.120 podcast episodes. Sometimes I will get in my head about, oh, like, 211 00:10:20.840 --> 00:10:24.080 am I doing enough? Should I have more episodes? Or 212 00:10:25.000 --> 00:10:29.360 is this valuable enough? Or should I be just doing more? 213 00:10:29.759 --> 00:10:32.120 And I think it's a little bit difficult sometimes in 214 00:10:32.159 --> 00:10:34.600 your head as an entrepreneur and or if you're a 215 00:10:34.600 --> 00:10:38.240 podcaster or a YouTuber, because it is a different realm 216 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:40.360 of work, right, I'm not going into a nine to 217 00:10:40.440 --> 00:10:43.320 five and putting in all these hours. I work very 218 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:46.039 efficiently and quickly, and so even when I put out 219 00:10:46.039 --> 00:10:48.799 an episode, it feels like I sometimes haven't done a 220 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:51.080 lot of work. But the work is so potent and 221 00:10:51.159 --> 00:10:54.200 so valuable, and the way that it's touching lives is 222 00:10:54.240 --> 00:11:00.440 in a way where it's amplified. But anyways, sometimes I'll 223 00:11:00.480 --> 00:11:01.919 be like, oh, no, I need to do more. I 224 00:11:01.919 --> 00:11:03.720 need to be working. I need to constantly be working. 225 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:06.080 And there's many reasons why we think that. You know, 226 00:11:06.159 --> 00:11:09.120 we have this reptilian brain of ours that is wired 227 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:11.679 to always make sure that we're safe and we're doing 228 00:11:11.720 --> 00:11:13.840 the right thing and we're moving forward, and we're moving 229 00:11:14.039 --> 00:11:18.000 forward in society, right. So it's constantly looking for threats, 230 00:11:18.159 --> 00:11:20.519 constantly looking for things that we can work on and 231 00:11:20.519 --> 00:11:22.440 this that, And we have to kind of reprogram that 232 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:25.799 in a way and remind ourselves like, Okay, there's no threats, 233 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:29.519 we are fine. We can relax sometimes, but again we 234 00:11:29.600 --> 00:11:32.000 have to remind ourselves to bring our focus back to 235 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:35.000 what we are here to do, what our purpose is, 236 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:37.279 or what the current goal is in our lives, and 237 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:40.480 usually it's just like one or two things, right, But 238 00:11:40.759 --> 00:11:42.559 we look outside ourselves and like, oh, no, we need 239 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:44.200 to do three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten 240 00:11:44.360 --> 00:11:47.679 a million things. No we can't. We can't do one 241 00:11:47.759 --> 00:11:50.240 hundred thousand things at the same time. But it's going 242 00:11:50.320 --> 00:11:52.279 to be up to you and I have to do 243 00:11:52.320 --> 00:11:56.679 this with myself to constantly be reminding our subconscious minds, 244 00:11:57.240 --> 00:12:00.679 the beliefs that we hold about ourselves, that what we 245 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:05.039 are doing is enough. So for me, my podcast episodes 246 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:09.440 are enough. My weekly episode is enough. This message is enough. 247 00:12:09.840 --> 00:12:12.399 It will help people. It is enough. If you're currently 248 00:12:12.440 --> 00:12:14.840 studying right now, and you're going to school, and you're 249 00:12:14.840 --> 00:12:17.120 in university or college or high school or whatever it is, 250 00:12:17.879 --> 00:12:19.919 you being in the chapter of your life of just 251 00:12:19.960 --> 00:12:23.279 studying right now, that's enough. Okay. Yes, do you have 252 00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:25.840 career goals, yes. Do you have aspirations to be bigger 253 00:12:25.879 --> 00:12:27.759 and do better in all of these other goals? Yes, 254 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:30.200 and you can have them, and you can know that 255 00:12:30.200 --> 00:12:33.320 you're going to hit those goals. But stop creating so 256 00:12:33.360 --> 00:12:37.240 much more stress, in suffering and overwhelm in your current reality. 257 00:12:37.320 --> 00:12:40.320 Right now, give it a second, give yourself time right now, 258 00:12:40.799 --> 00:12:44.039 focus on one thing, which maybe it is you doing 259 00:12:44.039 --> 00:12:47.240 your studies. That's good enough. That is good enough. You 260 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:49.399 working your nine to five right now, and you trying 261 00:12:49.440 --> 00:12:51.200 to figure out what you want to do for the 262 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:54.679 next ten years, but you having to basically just go 263 00:12:54.720 --> 00:12:56.519 into your nine to five or whatever type of job 264 00:12:56.559 --> 00:12:59.480 that you're doing. That is enough. You working as a 265 00:12:59.519 --> 00:13:02.200 server or a bartender. I'm just saying that because that's 266 00:13:02.200 --> 00:13:03.720 what I used to do, or a job you might 267 00:13:03.720 --> 00:13:05.799 not like, or maybe you do like it, but you know, 268 00:13:05.960 --> 00:13:08.519 you might need new skills for something down the line, 269 00:13:08.519 --> 00:13:12.200 whatever it is, stay present in this. This is enough. 270 00:13:12.320 --> 00:13:14.679 What you were doing is enough. I remember when I 271 00:13:14.919 --> 00:13:17.559 was bartending and serving, and a lot of that money 272 00:13:17.639 --> 00:13:19.559 that I was making was really going to paying off 273 00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:22.279 debt and fixing my finances and learning about finances and 274 00:13:22.320 --> 00:13:25.799 saving money and things like that, and I really had 275 00:13:25.840 --> 00:13:28.879 to just remind myself, like, this is just a chapter, 276 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:31.039 This is just a period of time right now. Let 277 00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:33.559 me stay focused, let me keep grinding, let me keep 278 00:13:33.600 --> 00:13:37.240 doing this. Let me not get distracted with all the 279 00:13:37.279 --> 00:13:39.480 other things that I need to do or I should do, 280 00:13:39.639 --> 00:13:42.519 or I want to do, and let me stay focused 281 00:13:42.519 --> 00:13:44.279 with this thing. Because this is the thing that's going 282 00:13:44.320 --> 00:13:46.080 to allow me to get to that next step. And 283 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:49.519 I think what can help you with this of reminding 284 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:53.000 yourself that one thing, baby steps, This is just a 285 00:13:53.039 --> 00:13:55.279 period of life, This is just a chapter of my life, 286 00:13:55.279 --> 00:13:58.480 whatever it is. And feeling like you are enough is 287 00:13:58.559 --> 00:14:01.480 to have a daily practice of reminding yourself that yes, 288 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:04.600 you are enough and this is enough, but also a 289 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:07.799 gratitude practice. And I know we hear this whole time, 290 00:14:08.440 --> 00:14:10.639 and we hear it and it goes in one ear 291 00:14:10.639 --> 00:14:12.200 and out the other because we're like, oh, this is 292 00:14:12.240 --> 00:14:14.279 not enough. This is not going to make me feel 293 00:14:14.360 --> 00:14:19.080 da da da. I promise you you being more grateful 294 00:14:19.240 --> 00:14:23.360 for the period of life that you're in and the 295 00:14:23.399 --> 00:14:25.399 things that you currently do have in your life that 296 00:14:25.440 --> 00:14:30.840 are going well, and you focusing on the positive aspects 297 00:14:30.840 --> 00:14:32.600 of this current chapter of your life will get you 298 00:14:32.679 --> 00:14:36.159 a long way. It will take you from this fight 299 00:14:36.240 --> 00:14:38.399 or flight looking at everyone else and da da da 300 00:14:38.440 --> 00:14:42.200 da to your current present moment. By you being grateful 301 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:44.399 for all the things and all the lessons and all 302 00:14:44.480 --> 00:14:48.679 the opportunities, even if they're not perfect, that you currently 303 00:14:48.720 --> 00:14:51.639 have in your life, it will keep you rounded. And 304 00:14:52.039 --> 00:14:53.840 that's the type of mindset that you are going to 305 00:14:53.919 --> 00:14:56.279 need to have if you want your work to pay 306 00:14:56.279 --> 00:14:59.559 off anyways, Because again, if you're constantly jumping outside of 307 00:14:59.600 --> 00:15:01.720 yourself and outside of your life and outside of your goals, 308 00:15:01.720 --> 00:15:03.559 you're just never gonna get anywhere. You're just gonna be 309 00:15:03.559 --> 00:15:05.840 a chaotic mess. You're gonna be going to one thing 310 00:15:05.960 --> 00:15:09.480 to another, to another to another, and that's just not 311 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:12.960 really how you're gonna see a lot of results consistently 312 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:16.200 in your life. And when you do see other people's 313 00:15:16.200 --> 00:15:20.159 successes or people doing things a different way than you, 314 00:15:20.679 --> 00:15:23.840 when you are rooted in gratitude and you are reminding 315 00:15:23.879 --> 00:15:26.559 yourself that you are blessed to have this current chapter 316 00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:29.080 of life and the lessons that you are learning and 317 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:32.399 the things that you are accomplishing, and yes, you're looking 318 00:15:32.399 --> 00:15:34.919 forward to your future, but you're here in the present moment. 319 00:15:35.639 --> 00:15:38.600 You're gonna be less susceptible to jump when you see 320 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:42.200 other people be more successful or have different things than you. 321 00:15:42.320 --> 00:15:44.440 And there's this Pinterest quote that I really like, and 322 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:46.440 it feels good to my nervous system, so I figured 323 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:48.879 I would read it out, and it says I want 324 00:15:48.919 --> 00:15:50.919 to plant the roots of my inner piece so deep 325 00:15:51.000 --> 00:15:54.240 that the external winds of chaos and change won't phaze me. 326 00:15:55.279 --> 00:16:00.759 And I think that's what gratitude does for you. And 327 00:16:01.320 --> 00:16:05.360 that's what also reminding yourself that you're on your own 328 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:08.679 timeline can do for you, is to really help you 329 00:16:08.720 --> 00:16:12.759 feel grounded and be grounded in your own life and 330 00:16:12.840 --> 00:16:17.480 your own reality as life hits you. Meaning when you 331 00:16:17.480 --> 00:16:21.600 see people have success or you know you see a 332 00:16:21.600 --> 00:16:23.240 new thing that you can do, you have a new 333 00:16:23.279 --> 00:16:25.360 insight or a new goal that you have in mind, 334 00:16:25.399 --> 00:16:27.879 but you're kind of like noting it. You're not jumping 335 00:16:27.919 --> 00:16:31.080 out of your own current reality, your own roots and 336 00:16:31.120 --> 00:16:35.440 distracting yourself. Now, something that I have learned as I 337 00:16:35.600 --> 00:16:39.200 moved from I would say twenty five to now twenty 338 00:16:39.320 --> 00:16:43.279 nine is that the best things in life, they do 339 00:16:43.360 --> 00:16:46.720 take time. And let's bring it back to this virality situation. 340 00:16:48.039 --> 00:16:51.159 I have had videos go viral, and that's great, but 341 00:16:51.240 --> 00:16:53.840 I've always known, because I have learned this by watching 342 00:16:53.840 --> 00:16:57.759 other people, that just because a video goes viral doesn't 343 00:16:57.840 --> 00:17:01.360 really mean much for you down the line. You need 344 00:17:01.399 --> 00:17:05.440 to continuously show up for your audience and build a 345 00:17:05.480 --> 00:17:08.000 community in an audience if you want to continue to 346 00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:11.680 have a career, let's say, being a YouTuber or a 347 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:14.839 podcaster or somebody to do on social media. I think 348 00:17:14.880 --> 00:17:18.599 about this with my book. The reason why my book 349 00:17:18.680 --> 00:17:21.799 was successful and a lot of you guys got my 350 00:17:21.839 --> 00:17:24.640 book wasn't because I just had one viral video and 351 00:17:24.680 --> 00:17:27.519 then I talked about the book. It was me continuously 352 00:17:27.559 --> 00:17:30.680 showing up for many years and you getting to know 353 00:17:30.839 --> 00:17:33.200 me and my story, and you guys getting value from 354 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:37.440 my episodes that you came to trust that, oh, maybe 355 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:39.559 this book would be helpful or oh, I'm really interested 356 00:17:39.599 --> 00:17:43.000 in it. But also not everyone bought my book on 357 00:17:43.240 --> 00:17:45.759 just one video, whether it was viral or not. It 358 00:17:45.799 --> 00:17:48.839 was the continuous action of me showing up and having 359 00:17:48.839 --> 00:17:51.200 my book here and talking about it and referencing it 360 00:17:51.240 --> 00:17:53.440 whenever I needed to. And there's still people who buy 361 00:17:53.440 --> 00:17:55.759 my book, and there will continue to be people down 362 00:17:55.839 --> 00:17:57.839 the line who buy my book or even watch some 363 00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:00.200 of my episodes. And with whatever else I come out 364 00:18:00.240 --> 00:18:03.240 with down the line, that's going to be a result 365 00:18:03.279 --> 00:18:06.559 of me showing up consistently right now in my life 366 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:10.039 and building this trust and building this community with you guys. 367 00:18:10.079 --> 00:18:13.759 When it comes to my future marriage, I know that 368 00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:18.440 that marriage is going to be so aligned and so beautiful, 369 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:22.559 and will it be perfect, I'm sure not. But the 370 00:18:22.680 --> 00:18:25.839 more times I learn what I want and what I 371 00:18:25.880 --> 00:18:28.839 don't want from current relationships, and I take my time 372 00:18:28.920 --> 00:18:33.480 and I allow myself the room to breathe and to 373 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:36.559 not rush the process and not tell myself I need 374 00:18:36.599 --> 00:18:38.759 to rush into a relationship because I'm this age and 375 00:18:38.799 --> 00:18:40.599 I have to get going in this that and learn 376 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:43.759 the lessons from the people that I date. I know 377 00:18:43.960 --> 00:18:46.279 that all of that, all that time that I've put in, 378 00:18:46.319 --> 00:18:48.279 all that time that I've waited, all that time, and 379 00:18:48.319 --> 00:18:52.599 I've been patient and reminded myself that I am deserving 380 00:18:52.680 --> 00:18:55.480 and I will get it. All of that that is 381 00:18:55.559 --> 00:18:59.359 going to make it so my marriage will be as 382 00:18:59.359 --> 00:19:02.240 good as it possibly can. Okay, And I'm not saying 383 00:19:02.240 --> 00:19:03.599 that you can't ever just like all of a sudden, 384 00:19:03.720 --> 00:19:05.359 just get into a marriage or get into a relationship 385 00:19:05.359 --> 00:19:07.039 and it be like flawless and perfect and amazing. I'm 386 00:19:07.039 --> 00:19:11.960 sure that happens. But realistically, all of this time, these lessons, 387 00:19:12.680 --> 00:19:15.720 all of this is the reason why I'm gonna have 388 00:19:15.799 --> 00:19:18.960 a beautiful, deep, meaningful relationship because I've learned so much 389 00:19:19.000 --> 00:19:20.920 about myself and I've learned what I do want and 390 00:19:20.960 --> 00:19:22.960 what I don't want, But that wouldn't have been possible 391 00:19:22.960 --> 00:19:25.920 if I didn't have this time, right, and sometimes we 392 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:27.960 just want to rush things. We want the relationship, we want, 393 00:19:28.000 --> 00:19:30.559 the money, we want the success instantly, all at once. 394 00:19:30.640 --> 00:19:32.559 I think about this when it comes to friendships as well. 395 00:19:32.680 --> 00:19:35.039 The relationship that I have with my best friend Joyee 396 00:19:35.519 --> 00:19:38.279 is different than when it first started, and I think 397 00:19:38.319 --> 00:19:41.920 about how she's obviously been somebody who I've really been 398 00:19:41.960 --> 00:19:44.640 going to when it comes to losing my mom, and 399 00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:46.759 I feel so blessed and so grateful that I have 400 00:19:46.839 --> 00:19:50.519 somebody who I feel so comfortable with calling and just 401 00:19:50.599 --> 00:19:53.119