Speaker 1: Made a decision a face sunny summon.
Speaker 2: I had a vision like night.
Speaker 3: To mat Hey everybody, it's for crying out loud. It
sure is what's happening. I've missed you this week?
Speaker 1: I missed you too much? Has happened?
Speaker 3: Yes, and really not much.
Speaker 1: I mean, what do you want from me? Like, you know,
I'm just to live in my life just a mom
just a mom.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 1: I just thought I literally just thought of something to
tell you about, you know what. I just remembered this
and part of me thinks it's like good for Patreon,
but another part of me is like, well, nobody's gonna
know who I'm talking about, right, So, Xander, this is
this is sad. This is not like funny. Okay, stops
laughing funny, It's crazy. Okay. So the other day, Xander,
like two nights ago, is like, hey, okay, I'm gonna
call this kid Ted. He's like, hey, Ted is Xander's
friend from school. They're not like they've seen each other
outside of school, right like once or twice, but kind
of a new friend from school.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: Xander's like, hey, uh, Ted is at the Bourbank Airport
and wants to know if we can come pick him up?
What so Ted is twelve or thirteen, right, I mean
the same age as Xander. Yeah, and John and I
were sitting like it's together at office, I know, and
we're like, what what are you talking? What are you
talking about? And he's like, no, seriously. Now we can
hear Ted on the phone. Xander's got it like on
speaker phone and Ted is kind of laughing. So we're like,
what is going on with this kid? Ted's going like,
I don't know. My dad was supposed to pick me up.
I think he fell asleep, like nine o'clock at night.
So we're like, is he serious? And then we're like,
where's this where's the mom?
Speaker 3: His?
Speaker 1: Uh my mom's in Oregon? Oh my god, I don't
know where my dad is, but I've been trying to
call him for like, and so we didn't know what
to do. But this kid also stays with his grandmother
part time, right, So like I know that he sometimes
because when they were going to school, I know that
he would sometimes because like his grandparents would come pick
him up or he would be coming from his grandparents' house. Right,
So we're of course John I are immediately like, well,
why where's your grandparents, right, I mean, it's not eleven pm,
it's nine pm. But more than that, what the fuck?
Where I know?
Speaker 3: Who's watching this?
Speaker 1: Not picking up a twelve or thirteen year old kid
from the airport by themselves. This kid's just sitting by
himself at the You gotta be kidding me. No, So
I'm like, yeah, of course, like we'll go get him.
But also I'm like he so he says, I don't
have my uh, I don't know my grandparents phone number
by heart.
Speaker 3: The story was.
Speaker 1: Getting gone, but it was weird, doesn't he laughing? And
then finally He's like, well, I'm laughing because I'm nervous,
like I don't know what to do. But doesn't he
have his grandparents phone number and his phone? So you
would think that John's looking at me. I'm looking at John.
We're like why why doesn't he have his the information
in his phone? And Xander's like, what do you want
from me? I don't know? Like I mean. So then
so John's like, okay, of course I'll go get him,
but like, does he even already lives? He doesn't have
his grandpas? Like where and where are we taking him?
If the dads know where to be found. The mom's
in Oregon. Where are we driving him to? And I
was like, we'll bring him to our house, right, so
uh then but John's like, I just feel weird, Like
it feels wrong to go pick up someone else's kid.
It sounds like a miscommunication. Who how is it possible
this kid was just being left at an airport. Somebody's
on their way to get him, right, Like, that's what
we're thinking. So we're like, we don't want to get
in trouble for going to pick up a kid. Somebody's
on their way to get him. There's and then they
don't know a kid went right, But he's like no, seriously,
ted saying this desander, no seriously, Like I think my
dad's asleep. So then of course I'm like, wait, is
he an alcoholic? What are you asleep when you're supposed
to be going to pick up your kid? Dad is crazy?
My mind is blown right now. And then the kid says,
hold on, I'm gonna try to call my dad's friend.
And then he says, but he knows the dad's friend.
I remember, not making this up, I guess. So he's like,
I'm gonna call my dad's friend and he said he
better pick up because he lives in his car. I
wish John was here to double you know, to swear
by this story, because so John and I are like,
our mouths can't be where. I was like, wait, wait
what I go? Wait, your dad's friend lives in his car,
and your dad, you think, is asleep and can't get you,
and your mom's in Oregon for no like, call your
fucking mom and tell her to get the fucking dad
on the phone. Right. So then John and I are
both like okay, Well, I said, I think we should
just go get him, like and let the chips fall
where they may. And John's like okay. And then next
thing you know, He's like, Okay, my dad's friend is
coming to get me. But he didn't really picked up
for another entire hour. What does his dad have to
Because we kept waiting, We kept saying, like, what's the update. Yeah,
he lives in the car.
Speaker 3: How long is it gonna take for him to get
his shoes and socks?
Speaker 1: I know, maybe he had to go panhandle for some
gas money. Maybe, I mean that sounds that's horrible. Well
I'm not trying to joke about it. I was we
were very distract, right. We were like, Okay, if he
doesn't come, we just kept waiting. We're like, if he
doesn't come in the next like fifteen minutes, we're going
to get him, right. But then then Sander's like, oh,
he got picked up by the way by his friends,
by the day, by the dad's friend. About what happened. Nope,
that's crazy.
Speaker 3: Wow, parents of the year, I know, and we worry
about like, you knowing fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1: Of a volleyball exactly exactly. You know, the bar has
been set very low. Guys, take heart. Have you left
your kid at the airport and ended because you fell asleep?
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't probably not, or don't feel bad? Yeah? Oh my.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, so then that's it.
Speaker 3: He just went home.
Speaker 1: I have no update because these two are not like.
Speaker 3: Good friends, right, So that's weird that he called Sander too,
Like if they are not, you know, talking all the
time every day.
Speaker 1: Well, I guess they talk. But m hmm, there's like
a little more to the story. I mean, the kid
seems to have a very strange home life and has
like internet uh romances often like it always has a
new no, always has a new boyfriend or girlfriend or
whatever's happening with some rando that they met online. But
I don't think they're seeing these I don't think they're
meeting up in person really, But Xander's like, yeah, Ted's
in another toxic relationship? Is Ted forty five? I don't
know what is going on with this Ted? Yeah, so
I've actually asked Xander to kind of make some distance, right, Yeah, okay,
but then what are you gonna do? You're gonna go
get the kid? Yeah, but I just don't know what.
I don't even know if it's an unreliable narrator. Such situation,
so hard to know it.
Speaker 3: But it seems to me that he must. He was
probably stranded, of course, Yeah, but something is missing along
that way. Ted should have just went to the Burbank
bar and had at the airport, had a beer. Yeah,
I know how to take the edge off from.
Speaker 1: Myself a non alcoholic. Can I get an old duels
over here? Dad's falling asleep, Mom's in Oregon. It's just
me and my thoughts.
Speaker 3: Crying into his old duel.
Speaker 1: I don't have a credit card, but uh, sure would
love some tostitos. Cayln, What are you doing.
Speaker 3: Right now? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I was writing down a little write up for the
show for later, but.
Speaker 1: Where you were already We're nine minutes in you already
know what you're going to say.
Speaker 4: Well for the first part. But during that whole story,
which did sound very interesting, Matt came in. So me
and Matt like to run down our weekends together. So
I was telling Mad about my weekend.
Speaker 3: Oh, so that was more exciting than being left at
the airport. What okay, how was your weekend?
Speaker 2: It was very nice.
Speaker 4: Actually, I did some errands on Friday and I got
Quentin Tarantino's new book. And I'm not a reader, but
I was like, you know what, I'm going to fucking.
Speaker 2: Read a book. So I got his book and I
started reading it, which I like, well, I.
Speaker 3: Gotta make a note, Sounny's gonna get all over that show.
Speaker 4: Well, it's just it's Once Upon a Time in Hollywood. Oh,
but it's a you know, it's a novel, and there's
a lot more information on, like the backstory of the
characters and the history of you know, this world that
he created.
Speaker 2: So I've been reading that.
Speaker 1: Did I tell you guys that I just saw Once
upon a Time in Hollywood? For finally, I don't think so,
what do you think about? Is that your favorite? No.
Speaker 4: I actually saw it and I was kind of I
was kind of disappointed. I mean, he's my favorite director. Yeah,
And I remember just being like really bored in the
movie theater and I was really disappointed. And then the
final scene happens, and as soon as Brad Pitt like
clicks his mouth and that dog bites that fucking Manson girl,
the whole theater just erupted. It was like one of
the greatest theater experiences I've ever had in my life.
It was just cheering in the theater, excitement.
Speaker 2: It was the best.
Speaker 4: But the whole time, I'm hearing everybody like, this is
so great, this is so great, and I'm like, I
don't get it. I don't get why everyone likes this
one so much. Maybe it's because I'm too young, Like
I didn't get I wasn't in the sixties, so I.
Speaker 3: Don't Sunny loved it.
Speaker 4: But now that I'm reading the book, I'm starting to
like get more backstory on the characters and like understand
it more. So I plan to watch the movie again
after I finish the book, so I am starting to
and I like that I can like picture Brad Pitt
and Leo in the book, but ultimately, in terms of
his movies, it wasn't.
Speaker 3: It wasn't one of my favorites.
Speaker 1: It's well acted, Yeah, it is definitely well acted, but
it's not even really a character study because you don't
really get to know these characters.
Speaker 4: It's like I know, well, yeah, and that that kind
of like I knew there was more behind brad Pitt
and Leo, and like, I know that there's something there
because he's been Tarantino has been doing all the shows lately,
all the podcast so I've been hearing him talk about
this over and over again, and there is like a
really good backstory between the two characters that well, Brad
Pitt is like a war hero and a murderer, and
he's like a cold blooded, like straight up murderer.
Speaker 1: Which.
Speaker 2: I don't think so Quentin Tarantino.
Speaker 4: He was like writing this for like five years and
then I think he just picked out all the parts
to put the movie together. But yeah, there's a whole
backstory on Cliff and being a war hero and being
a murderer and getting into like dog fighting, and Leonardo
DiCaprio's character like suffering from bipolar and being an alcoholic, and.
Speaker 3: You know it's good.
Speaker 2: It's getting He's giving me the backstory that I wish
I had.
Speaker 1: From the movie. They hinted at the Brad Pitt being
a murder, but they never n When John and I
watched it, we were like, Okay, so I did he
I got. I mean they hint at it, right, but yeah, really,
but why not why not say there's no There's no
harm in making that clear. It would make us such
a more interesting character.
Speaker 2: Yeah, read the book really.
Speaker 3: Funny because Mike August and uh, Sonny had a huge,
like kind of huge but like discussion over Once upon
a Time in Hollywood a blowout, yeah, because Sonny loved
it and Mike August like, I love Tarantino, but I
hate that's fucking movie. Like he's like he said, his
whole thing was like, Brad Pitt is not Superman. Why
is he able to just beat up what's his face? Uh,
Bruce Lee? Right? You know, like come on, Cliff Booth
is not beating up Bruce Lee like that, you know,
And that this is what Mike Augus's argument was, this
is all filtered through Sonny too.
Speaker 2: Well, I kind of thought that too.
Speaker 4: I was like that stunt man is eating up Bruce Lee,
Like how is that possible? And then again you read
like this dude was fighting in like hand to hand
combat in World War Two, so like he he knows
what he's doing a lot more than what you get
out of just watching this.
Speaker 3: And it should be Yeah, it should have been in
the movie. It should have been.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, he had time.
Speaker 3: It's a three hours, not like he ran out of time. Yeah,
I mean, Tarantino does a lot of like those long
scenes that are just drawn out, and it feels like
he's just kind of like, you know, being he can
do it because he's like.
Speaker 1: Jack and I was showing you know, yeah, yes it
was self indulgent and it was definitely there was a
lot of really cool stuff that he did as a director,
but to show you like, hey, now I'm making a
western like that's about black and white movie and it
looks real right now I'm making this movie and now
I'm making this from the you know, sixties seventies, and
you're like, okay, right, I get it. I get your good.
But how about some story? Yeah, Sprinkling.
Speaker 3: I loved the whole the whole Los Angeles, uh, you
know back in the day of what it looked like
and how he had like the Pussycat Theater now and
like and also Sharon Tape going to the Mexican restaurant.
I just which is still there that I've been to
for lunch recently. You know, all that stuff is they
went to on Sunset, Yeah, El Coyote on Sunset, yeah,
said al Coyote where they go, Yeah, I think it is.
And then they went but then Cliff Booth and Brad
Pitt and Leonardo went to in the place in the valley.
Speaker 1: Oh, they went to a Foremosa. At one point they
went to.
Speaker 3: Foremost then oh, and they went to Harry I mean
Musso and Franks, which my dad used to take me
to I was little.
Speaker 1: And eighteen dollars for a head of lettuce, right, you
know they give it's a called a wedge solad.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 1: And what they do if they cut an iceberg iceberg head,
they cut it in to like a quarter. They just
give it to you and then they give you a
side a dressing and a slice of tomato and they
charge you like eighteen dollars. I'm not exactly right, No, no,
I know, you're like, I could have just brought my
own Iceberg, right, there was no prep involved that all.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and then yeah, so I liked I liked
all that that iconic stuff.
Speaker 1: But other than that, I mean, it wasn't dang yeah exactly,
but it wasn't like amazing.
Speaker 3: I you know, I was kind of disappointed with the end,
to be honest, Like I get it. It was what
if they went up the wrong driveway or whatever, but
like it just threw me off the whole ending.
Speaker 1: Yeah, didn't build really to that ending, right, I mean
it was two different movies. It was like one movie
about these two guys and then one movie about uh,
you know, Charlie Charles Manson what so did you have
an exciting week?
Speaker 3: So they do this? Ah, this week, I basically have.
I'm getting ready for the Corolla Family barbecue that's happening.
I think I talked about it a little bit.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know I'm going, But isn't it in August?
Can you come help me? Of course of course I can.
Speaker 3: Is it August, Yes, it's like in a month, Yes,
it's August twenty second, okay or twenty whatever, Saturday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll help you.
Speaker 3: Well, the thing is is that it's at the flower warehouse.
So now this is going to be my whole It's
up it's up the street at the car warehouse where
Adam has all his It's like a junk yard basically
right now. Oh that uh huh, Like there's a lot
of cars, a lot of car parts, trash, you know, dumpsters.
It's just it looks like, yeah, a junk yard, and
it needs to And yeah, I don't do good in
that environment. Like everything is just like so overwhelming, and
I don't know where to begin.
Speaker 1: I feel like you should hire somebody to do that part.
And then you means their chick. Can't he be the
one that orders the food and like make sure there's enough.
Speaker 3: I'm doing that. Yeah, but what I gotta do is,
here's the thing too, Adam.
Speaker 1: You know, well, he's he loves to.
Speaker 3: See somebody cleaning and organizing and blah blah blah blah blah. Right,
and I feel like he'll he not that he's not
taking this series, but I feel like he'll he'll help
me more if I'm actually there, do Like, if I'm
actually there cleaning and organizing, then he'll be like, oh,
I'll tell Sean to get this done and move that
and get this out of the way. You know, he'lls
he's going to be more helpful in that area. That's
just the way I know.
Speaker 1: I know, but that's just the way he's going to
help you to prepare for got It. Isn't that sort
of like when men watch the baby and their baby
they call it babysitting, like they're babysitting their own kids. Yeah,
isn't that kind of like that? Right, He's gonna help
you get ready for the throw of barbecue.
Speaker 4: I was just gonna say, it's gonna be one heck
of a task getting that ready for the barbecue, because,
like you said, it looks like a junk yard. There
are some there are a lot of old cars there,
and I'm just curious to see how the next month
is going to go.
Speaker 3: All well, that's that's exactly what's been hanging over my head,
like yeah, So but anyway, we're planning on getting the
food and all the porta potties and all that kind
of stuff, and the night before we're having a bar crawl.
So because a lot of people fly in from out
of town.
Speaker 1: Right, they want multiple right to look forward to it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's like the rehearsal dinner before the barbecue.
We're taking everybody that from out of town and then
some out on bar crawls with all the Lackey's right Klan.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like to call hm lackeys anymore because
they've graduated from that. Maybe one still a lacky Ryan, Yeah,
he's a lacky for Is doctor Drew coming? Yes, Doctor
Dream He's coming, Doctor Drew. Your favorite lawyer is gonna
be there, yeah, Garret gos everybody, doctor Bruce.
Speaker 1: Oh please tell me A. J. Bens is not coming?
Speaker 3: No, no, okay, no, mm hmm.
Speaker 1: He was there last time.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: John almost had a fit, really really Yeah yeah I
didn't know that. Why. Well you might remember that he
basically went after my family right online, right, and and
John read all the messages that he sent to me
that were horrific, and John was just like what the
fuck like he wanted to confront him, and I was
like absolutely not, absolutely not. The guy's nuts. I mean,
in my opinion, we're not having any problem at the
Cruel Family Barbecue.
Speaker 3: No. So yeah, well he's not coming now, well, he's
not on the shows you know what I mean, he's
not right. But a lot of the comedians that are
from the shows will be there.
Speaker 1: That's exciting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Kyle Dunningan or whatever, Cutie Pie, yeah, h yeah,
and Dexter from Offspring Offspring is gonna.
Speaker 1: Oh, wasn't there. They were maybe gonna do last year,
but then they couldn't.
Speaker 3: And then Dawson, right, so what No, Like the year
you came, it was our first family so we were
deciding to do it every year. That was the inaugural
family barbecue, and so we just had uh loxy perform,
Chris Loximan his band, and Dawson perform. But then now
then last year, last year you were say Covid, Yes,
we were going to have him come and but it
got canceled. So and you know, we're trying to get
Mark McGrath to to do some Yeah remember.
Speaker 1: When we had him on the show. Yeah, and his wife, Yes,
how cute.
Speaker 3: It so fun and he's so sweet and earth And
I follow I know, and I follow his wife on
Instagram and I watched because they have boy girl twins.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they had just their their twins are really
young at the time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were born like a couple months before or
after our kids. So yeah, their kids are the same age.
And say, I've you know, like all her post and
it's really Karen McGraths. She's adorable. Yeah, they're such a
cute family. They're so cute. Yeah, they got teenagers now,
those kids are huge.
Speaker 1: I remember thinking this marriage is gonna last because they're
just down to earth normal.
Speaker 3: People, right, And you know, he was with her I
think before he got successful, because I just remember going
to the k rock stuff and he was like, you know,
the big star and every chick wanted to like be
with him, and everybody was falling all over themselves and
carrying on. And it's like, but he's got a girlfriend.
Everybody was like, right, he's got a girlfriend, and he's
been with that girlfriend for a while. And then everybody was, oh,
now he's you know, mister rock star. That's gonna go
by the wayside. And it's like here they are, twenty
years later, whatever, still going strong. It's really cute. Yeah,
I know, I'd like for we're gonna keep trying that avenue.
It'll be fun to have him come perform. Yeah, totally.
So there's that, and you know, just working on a
stuff for Corolla Drinks, a lot of licensing, a lot
of like really switching around. The fulfillment stuff is so
alcohol business is so much red tape, so many hoops
to jump through, and takes forever to get anything done.
Every state's different, the laws are different in every state.
It's just yeah, so trying to apply for licenses takes forever,
and you got to have this before you do that.
It's just a lot of that. It's constant. It just
doesn't stop. It's never you can never get it to
where exactly where you want it. We're still keeping going,
like keeping things progressing every day because it's never gonna
go okay, you know, now we're set. We're not Bacardi
right right, you know, And we don't have a sales
team out there. We don't have people boots on the ground.
It's just mostly all online for now. But but so
we'll see. Yeah, we're starting up a new LLC with
a new whiskey, not the eight one eight, right, and
with somebody that knows the alcohol and has a lot
of the connections and has a lot of the how
to get it into the We know how to do
it all. It's just we don't have the connections, and
we don't have the army of people that we need
to hire. But he knows how to navigate that and
he's good. So anyway, it's gonna be it's gonna be great.
Speaker 1: It's been amazing how when we started this podcast, we
were just knee deep in parenting all the time. Yeah,
it's hard to think about anything else. Yeah, and now
it's like, I don't even know where my kids are.
I mean, I know where my kids are. Actually they're
sleeping ten am. They still have a few more hours
to go and their sleep schedule. But it's just funny
that I leave in the morning and I don't even
think about it. I mean, yeah, John's home right now,
but even if he wasn't, I'd be like, see you later,
right same. I know a few things to do after
this too. I probably won't be home till like three.
Speaker 3: But so, do you feel like you're Yeah, do you
feel like you're in the corner office? I do.
Speaker 1: But you know, things change in a different way, and
I know you're going to know what I mean where
you have to watch your kids in a different way.
You have to watch their mental health, you have to
watch their what stuff they're keeping inside, like you have
to watch their moods as opposed to just watching their
everyday existence and making sure. But it's and it's not
just about making sure they're happy, like making them happy.
It's making sure they're not depressed, that they're not suffering
from anxiety and not telling you like you have to
be kind of vigilant. In fact, we just I just
got Sadie into therapy.
Speaker 3: Oh that's nice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's so funny because you would think of
my three that Sadie would be least likely to be
the one that would need to be prioritized for therapy
right now. But she is, like we were noticing real
just moods and not share, not talking, and you can't
get anything out of her. She never wants to do anything,
and you gotta nip that shit in the butt. You
gotta like, I can't let her slip through the cracks
because my other two are more vocal. You know, when
Elbie was having anxiety, it was real obvious it was
disrupting our lives and she was not functional. But with Sadie,
she can be real quiet about it. And then it's
like you go, huh, how long has she been like this?
You know, right, Wow, it seems like she's kind of
always like this. And then I say to John, like,
should we do something about this? And then you you know,
when they're quiet, you're like that's right, You're like, WOWE
see how it goes. Yes, you see the next couple
of weeks ago maybe when this happens or maybe when
that happens. But it wasn't happening, but we I got
her in with a therapist and I love loving this.
Oh and she's gone twice. She really likes it. And honestly,
I think it was like the idea of her being
focused on was very good for her, like the idea
that somebody was recognizing that something's going on. And I
told her, I was like, Sadie, you know it doesn't
have to be this way, like you don't have to
feel like this all the time, like I have no
joy and not want to do stuff. And that was
kind of news to her, and I said, let me
get you therapy. And then I did followed through on
that shit. Yeah, unlike myself normally actually had some follow through.
But yeah, so, and I really liked the therapist because
the therapist followed up with me, like met Sadie. The
last session that she had. I was sitting outside the
you know, sitting in the waiting room, and I could hear.
I couldn't hear what they were saying. I mean it
was hard even though I had the cup up the
glass up against the door, but I still couldn't make
out the end. No, but I could hear them laughing uproariously,
And there was a part of me when that that
was like, what the fuck, Like, how this bitch is witch? Yeah?
Esus her second meeting with my kid, and they're, Oh,
they're having the greatest time. I'm like, where's that kid
outside of therapy, Like, and why isn't she crying a
little bit?
Speaker 3: Like't you therapy? Yeah, So when they came out and
they were like both laughing, and I was like, you're like,
I'm like, wow, I go sounds like a sounds like
a real torturous hour.
Speaker 1: For you too. I mean, I was being funny and
then they both started kind of laughing, and you know,
I was like, that sounded like a lot of fun.
Happy for you guys.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like Lucy when Ethel goes off with her
new friend Carolyn goes shopping, Yeah, and.
Speaker 1: Then I was like, well, how was it, Sadie, And
she's like, great, that's.
Speaker 3: It, that's it. Don't you hate that when they come
out of therapy.
Speaker 1: I do know that they It's like in the movies,
where did you ever see? I probably didn't, but searching
for Bobby Fisher years ago, years ago, that movie searching
for Bobby Fisher, the scene stands out in my mind,
which is that the kid goes to the chess master
played by Ben Kingsley and they're like they are playing games,
they're not doing they're not actually playing chess. And then
the dad is like, well, what did you guys do?
Like you weren't even playing chess. And and because Ben
Kingsley's making a lot of money, it's like therapy is
making like he has to pay him like whatever one
hundred dollars or something, and ben Kingsley's like, well that's
you don't just play chess like they were like literally
playing a board game. And it made me think of that,
like they Citi said they played a game, and I
was like, well, like like battleship right, what do you
mean a game? And she's like, no, like a game
where like you like a answer questions, like it's funny,
you know, that's.
Speaker 3: What Brittany does. I thought that was cool though, Yeah,
I was.
Speaker 1: Like, oh that's tricky, Like that's how you get those teenagers,
Like you make it like a fun thing that you're
doing or you're playing a game, but you're really getting
to know.
Speaker 3: The kid exactly. That's what that's what she does. Like
she's got this room that's got like even for young kids,
all these little games, and then she plays games to
get to know them. And then she's got like because
she's got that certain license right the coaching, the coaching,
so she can show up and like throw the ball
with them at the park and talk to them that way,
like she'll find different ways to be able to communicate
with them. Yeah, I know, And I know it's like
it sucks because when they get out of therapy, you
want to know, like what you guys talk about is
how am I doing? Should I get a sea your today?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then they don't tell you. They're like everything
is yeah fine.
Speaker 1: But the funny thing with Sadie though, is that you
know what, let's let's do it. Let's do our ad
because it's just one, and then I'll remind me what
I'm saying about.
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Speaker 1: So when her first session, the therapist said, do you
want your mom to come in? Like do you want?
She was actually asking me if I wanted to come in,
and like with Elbie when Elbie first when she was nine,
so I definitely went in with her. Plus she was
having anxiety, so that was part of she was like,
she's just going to start talking to this lady. I
could barely take the elevator up. So but with Sadie,
you know, she's starty thirteen. So I was like, well,
it's kind of up to Sadie, Like if I'm totally
my name is Paul, this between y'all, like, you know,
but if you want me to commit, I was. I
was really trying to overcompensate in parenting, like I was
trying to show that I'm the greatest mom that's ever
mommed like I'm like, no, I'm the type of mom
that like that's up to her, like if she wants,
if she whatever she feels comfortable with. Meanwhile, inside, honestly,
I was like I'm fine, to just look at Facebook
you fix her. But I didn't want. I wanted to
appear that I'm willing to be involved but also willing
to let them do their I was like, whatever you
think is best. Yeah, and she's like, well, Sadie, do
you want your mom to come in? And Sadie's like okay,
hm hmm. So I'm like all right, So so I
go in and then basically the therapist says, do you
want to tell your mom? Do you want to tell
me what's going on or why you're here? Do you
want your mom to And she's like, my mom can,
So I say what's going on?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: And then I'm like okay, so do you want me
to go? I'm trying to be like I don't. I'm
not trying to be the mom that's taking over my
daughter's therapy session. And then the therapist is like, do
you want your mom to stay or do you want
your mom to go? And Sadie's like whatever. Like now,
Sadie's trying to be the best kid who's like really
close with her mom, like, oh, I love my mom,
she can stay the whole whatever's good for her. I'm
like no, And then I even said, I go, how
are you going to talk about me if I'm sitting
in next to you, Like, You're not gonna feel comfortable
talking about me? And then anyway, so later she called
me back in at the end of the session and
she said, this is the first session and she said,
so like Sadie and I talk about the fact. Like
she said, how involved do you want to be? And
I was like, whatever she needs, Like, if she wants
me to be coming in and checking in on her
goals and progress, I can. I could come in, but
I'm happy to like, let you guys do a thing right,
play parcheesy whenever it's good for you guys, play sorry
you know. Yeah, I just hear from the other room
go back for spaces, and I'm like, it's like a
lot of money, I know. But anyway, the point is
that on the way home I said to Sadie, I
was like, oh, you know, she said something to the
effect of how do you get along with your family?
And Sadie's like, good, really well, and I thought, well,
I want her to be able to bit like, yeah,
she hasn't learned yet that therapy is where you get
to vent about right, she will she can tell the
therapist I'm an asshole, and the therapist isn't going to
tell me that. I was trying to bring that up.
I was like, you know, she can't tell me anything
you guys talk about unless it's something dangerous. Yes, she
will get She was like, I don't have anything bad
to say about you. I'm like, you will, just you will.
I'm not that great.
Speaker 3: She listen. I think it's a yeah.
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say. Whereas Xander when he was
in therapy, he didn't want to do any kind of
therapy on the phone or on zoom because he was like,
how am I going to talk about saying? You got
things to say? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Right, not just about that. You know.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, is it the same?
Speaker 3: Well? Wait, did Xander go to this therapist too?
Speaker 1: No, But you know that's a good thing.
Speaker 3: I am very big on these teenagers starting therapy. All
of them should, yes, because here's the deal. I think
I know that my kids will always have Brittany now
and until she retires. And the good thing is is
she's young still, so I don't see her going anywhere
anytime soon. But they got used to therapy at a
young age, so they will always go back to therapy
when they need it. They're not going to be there's
so many people I know that's like, just go talk
to a therapist, don't talk to me, Go talk to
a therapist. And they don't. They don't really have therapy
in their lives. They weren't introduced to it, their parents
didn't have therapy. That's it's so important to get it
going now. Because I could see Natalia as an adult
wanting to go talk to a therapist and finding her
own and you know, in her area. Same with Sonny too,
Like they both you know, they got to the point
where it's like I don't need to go every week,
and that's fine, you don't need to go every week.
And but at least they have established a relationship and
now they know at least while their adolescents, they can
go to Brittany, they can say I want to go
talk to Brittany, because they do. Sometimes they'll go, well,
I think we should talk about it with Brittany. You
know that comes up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's great.
Speaker 1: I was put in therapy at sixteen. Maybe younger I might,
but because I just felt like I didn't realize that
my home life sucked as bad as it did in
my mind. I was made to feel like I was
the problem. So I was having a lot of trouble,
like I couldn't like a guy like I would like them,
like them, like them, pine pine for them, have these
unrequited you know things, and then if the guy liked
me back, I'd be like, oh shit, no, I'm not
into it at all, and I'd get really scared, right,
and I was like I couldn't break through, I couldn't
have a boyfriend, and I really thought something was wrong
with me. So my mom put me in therapy. Of course,
the therapist started to realize like, oh, your home life
is jacked up, like this is not good, like your
relationship with your parents. And then you know, anyway, but
that's at the stage, like you said, just knowing that
therapy was a thing to do and having a therapist
like support me and point out some things gently that
we might have been playing into it helped me. Years later,
I sought therapy for eating disorder, you know, for lots
of things. I was in therapy regarding my biological dad,
like different therapists over the years, for long periods of time,
really helped me. Yes, you see, Yeah, I don't think
I could have gotten married and had kids if I
hadn't been in therapy for a while, right, and I
would love LB ELB needs to go back. If I
had a lot of money, I would have all of
them in therapy at the same time. Yeah, John was
just in therapy for a year. I would be back
in therapy. Remember if I didn't have that crazy therapist.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I broke up. She told you, don't leave a
message call me. What did she say, don't.
Speaker 1: Well, there was a lot of rules. You had to
call her. No, you had to call her, but she
would answer the phone. You couldn't leave it. You couldn't
leave a message. You couldn't email her, but she would either.
You could text her. And then she got mad because
I tried to reschedule an appointment like a couple times,
and she was like, I don't think you Uh, I can't.
I'm taking you off the schedule.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I can't stand therapist like that. The fucking Britney's
got a place and belize probably off of the Corolla
money she's made, I swear to God.
Speaker 1: But speaking of therapy and anxiety, Yeah, so this is
this is a Geico segment. Yeah, but it's something that
I wanted to talk about anyway. Oh good, So, but
it's brought to you by Geico. Okay, So we're going
to be taking a road trip mm hmm, going to
San Francisco, right, And it's hilarious because, as I've told
you before, I can't. It's I'm having more and more
trouble being a passenger in a car, Like I always
think that John is going to shave off somebody's side
mirror a parked car. You know, I cannot handle any
kind of cliffs. I think he's going to hit cars
on the freeway. I'm always and I can't. It's really
hard for me to even uh like keep my mouth
shut when i'm when I think he's going like, I'm like, John,
there's break lights in front of you, Like I'm like,
why are you speeding up? Like it's hard. I try
to control it and I can't. And I sit next
to him all tense, and yesterday John goes, you know,
we're gonna have to do something about your anxiety. And
we're going to be driving to San Francisco and he goes,
are you allowed to take CBD? And I'm like, I mean,
he goes, maybe we should think about some CBD for
the for the road tree. He's right, right, yes, you shouldn't.
We shouldn't have to work around that. We shouldn't have
to fly to San Francisco five people because we can't.
Speaker 3: Drive for five hours, right right?
Speaker 1: I agree, especially in this day and age with Elbie's
going to be watching a movie in the car for
her film analysis class, Sadie and Xander will be, you know,
scrolling through TikTok. I mean they're going to be busy, Yes, absolutely,
And I'm going to be sitting in the front seat
next to John just white knuckling it.
Speaker 3: But listen, it's a beautiful it's a beautiful trip, and
you'll be looking at the ocean.
Speaker 4: But also, I just wanted to add we were talking
about Tarantino's new book earlier that would be a fun audiobook,
and Ryan, who works here, said he got the audiobook
and he was listening to it and he said it
was great. So just a suggestion that would be a
great audiobook, bab, you might like, oh, that's a good idea.
Speaker 1: When John and I drove to Big sur when we
were first dating, we listened to yeah, oh no, no, no.
A couple of years ago when we went for our anniversary,
we listened to a book on tape about the one
about the one about people. Oh my god, I can't
remember what it's called, but it's where people get so
outed on social media. It's basically was one of the
original things about people getting canceled. It's like when you
go viral for doing something wrong on social media. Right,
do you remember what book I'm talking about. It was
a big book for a while, and it was it
was all about the girl it started. One of the
stories was about that woman that made a joke about
AIDS when she was she was going she was she
was being totally sarcastic and she was actually going to
do some like I don't know, some job. And then
by the time she got off the plane, her tweet
had totally gone viral and she got fired from her job,
and she was like, the original canceled.
Speaker 2: Is it called so you've been publicly shamed?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes, we listened to that book on our drive.
Speaker 3: That's good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so I talked about oh you know what
I wanted.
Speaker 3: To tell you, but yeah, I want to talk about
it on Friday.
Speaker 1: I'm wondering if I should. Okay, You're like, we don't
have anything for Friday, so you got something good save it?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. So Elbie is finishing this film analysis class
that I told you about. That's like a crazy amount
of work. That was the thing where I did the
orientation and it was insane nowhere. Yeah, So we're watching
I'm watching some of these movies with her, and one
of the movies we watched was Tootsy Oh Nice. I
freaking love that movie. All these movies, this is what
I'm noticing. And this is kind of along along the
lines of Once upon a Time in Hollywood but different.
But Tutsie is one of those movies. It's like a
seventies movie even though it was made in nineteen eighty two,
where they take their time they set up the character.
It's like, it's not he doesn't just dress up as
a woman, like right at the beginning, like hey, let's
jump right into the comedy hijacking, right. They really set
it up so that, which makes it that much more satisfying.
Right where Dustin Hoffman's character Michael Michael Dorsey is going
on all these auditions and he's got a bit of
an attitude problem, if you remember, and so like he's
supposed to be playing a tomato and they want him
to like sit down and he won't sit down. And
there's another one where they want he's dying and they
want him to walk across the stage and die center stage,
and he's like, wait, but I'm dying, and then he
gets fired. So he gets fired from all these jobs,
and it leads to Sydney Pollock, who plays his agent,
going no one will hire you, and then he's driven
to like go try to audition for the job on
the soap opera. Right, it's such a good movie and
it totally holds up and l Be hated it every
minute of it. He was like so bored.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Natalia probably wouldn't like it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's any such a good movie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know. But you know it's like back then,
it was like slower times. You know, people didn't have
the attention span you know, I mean they had the
attention yeah, they don't have today. And that's you know,
that's when people made movies and it could breathe and
they took their time.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Right now, it's like it's a fast paced world. They
cut to the chase really quick.
Speaker 1: It's kind of fun though, doing this, kind of doing
it along with her, because then she had to write.
She has to do a different project for each movie,
and one of them was so I said, well, why
don't you write an essay about how Michael Dorsey the
character was a better man as a woman, because there's
a line where he says that the very endry says
to Jessica Lang, like I was a better man as
a woman than I ever was like as a man.
And I was like, why don't you talk about that,
Like about what did he learn having to be living
as a woman about you know, feminism and about what
women face in the workplace and the sexual harassment that
they receive and not being taken seriously and what does
it teach him about empathy about his own behavior when
he was a man, how he treated women. Yes, And
Albie's like, okay, okay, that's good. But it was fun
because then she was coming up with the examples and
I was like, see, that's actually a deeper movie than
you thought it was, right right right?
Speaker 3: She was like, oh what ever, it's fun to be
able to help them, like when they do assignments like
that that they they not interested and then you get
them interested. It's satisfying, you know, as a parent. But yeah,
that's nice. Like that's what other movies as she watched?
Speaker 1: Well, I think I told you last week because we watched, Uh,
what's the one based on the Harper Lee book that
you said that Sonny liked.
Speaker 3: The north By Northwest or one of those?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, that's no, the to Kill a Mockingbird, right,
to Kill a Mockingbird. Uh, she watched had to rewatch Clueless,
but Classics. She was supposed to watch The Kinge Mutiny.
Hope her teacher's not listening. John watched it for her.
Speaker 3: Oh really, John Watt.
Speaker 1: Loves those old war movies. And I'll be was like, hell, no,
I'm not sitting through that movie. I'm trying to think.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 1: We watched Titanic. Oh that's so good.
Speaker 3: She's never seen it.
Speaker 1: She'd never seen it, so she was like, good, excuse
to watch she got to pick out of this big
list of movies. So we watched Empire of the Sun. Hm. Oh,
dear lord, that's more.
Speaker 3: God, I know I don't like it.
Speaker 1: That is like watching paint dry, right, it's Spielberg, but
it's so friggin more it's terrible, right, And John loves
that movie, so he really wanted her to watch it,
and we both suffered through it. Oohs, like two and
a half hours. They're all these movies are like epics,
I know, right, I know.
Speaker 3: They don't make epics anymore either. Let's Quentin Tarantino.
Speaker 1: Yeah there's been Titanic is three hours to right, It
kind of flies by, yeah it does. These thirteen year
olds are watching it like, you know, thirty times, I know.
Speaker 3: But the thing is, it's like, yeah, they don't make
these kinds of movies anymore. And that's why the oscars
are not that great, because they're always you know, these
little independent movies and sometimes people see sometimes they don't.
Most of the people see them from their screens. No,
you know, in the middle of the country, I don't
know if they're watching you know, these small independent movies, right, Well,
like the Titanic, the whole everybody loved, right, they don't
make those kind of movies.
Speaker 1: Boat sinks.
Speaker 3: The boat sinks.
Speaker 1: You forget though, Like what a major disaster that was
right for the time, right, Like it was one of
the biggest disasters they'd ever had at that time. Fifteen
hundred people died I know, one hundred people at one
time in one accident.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Sonny talks about it a lot. Yeah, and then
he looks up like conspiracy theories, like the Titanic wasn't
supposed to It wasn't really the Titanic that sunk. It
was something else. Have you heard that conspiracy? That was
a different boat? But what Yeah, Morgan, the Stanley Morgan
dude is the guy that owned the boat for the Titanic.
But I don't know. Did somebody did a switcher roo
at the I don't know.
Speaker 1: Do you know what he's talking about?
Speaker 3: No, Kaylin No, yeah, taking a debt?
Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Kaylan, Thanks everybody.
Speaker 3: You're a parent now, don't live it up. It's go
Speaker 1: Let ange