WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.040 --> 00:00:19.679 Canst I'm so high ecstasyage cansage it. Sorryogy. When you're 2 00:00:19.879 --> 00:00:25.839 a grown woman with a skincare routine, a day job, 3 00:00:26.280 --> 00:00:30.839 and a regulated nervous system, you don't want to just 4 00:00:31.039 --> 00:00:36.399 hang out. You want to be corded. I was recently 5 00:00:36.439 --> 00:00:40.479 talking to one of my very best friends and she said, Cecie, 6 00:00:40.759 --> 00:00:44.719 this guy invited me over to night to hang out, 7 00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:50.240 and something just doesn't feel right about it. Yeah, no, shit. 8 00:00:50.960 --> 00:00:54.240 When you're a grown woman, you don't want to just 9 00:00:54.320 --> 00:00:57.960 hang out at their house all the time. You want 10 00:00:57.960 --> 00:01:00.479 to see that they're willing to put in in tension, 11 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:06.120 thought effort into courting you. If you're a woman listening 12 00:01:06.200 --> 00:01:08.799 to this, you cannot feel bad for having a high standard. 13 00:01:08.920 --> 00:01:11.599 That is what is going to protect you. If you're 14 00:01:11.640 --> 00:01:14.439 a man listening to this, you need to put in 15 00:01:14.680 --> 00:01:18.879 effort to actively This is not a passive job. To 16 00:01:19.079 --> 00:01:26.480 actively court the woman that you want. Women take longer 17 00:01:26.560 --> 00:01:29.200 to warm up. If a man is a microwave, a 18 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:33.079 woman is an oven. We need to start clocking that 19 00:01:33.480 --> 00:01:36.760 although we have many similarities men and women, we have 20 00:01:37.079 --> 00:01:44.159 many differences. The divine masculine is naturally the one who 21 00:01:44.359 --> 00:01:47.719 is the giver, the one who is meant to create 22 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:51.120 the safe space. The divine feminine, over time will learn 23 00:01:51.200 --> 00:01:54.040 to trust that safe space, and that's how you create 24 00:01:54.280 --> 00:01:59.840 a relationship. So, baby girl, if just receiving a good 25 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:02.560 morning text is still sending you into a tailspin, that's 26 00:02:02.560 --> 00:02:07.000 what's making you so excited. You need to raise your standard. 27 00:02:07.680 --> 00:02:11.039 What you want to betray yourself? You want to accept 28 00:02:11.199 --> 00:02:14.280 less and then start to have an autoimmune disease because 29 00:02:14.319 --> 00:02:19.719 you know that you're just fighting your own truest desires. No, 30 00:02:20.360 --> 00:02:24.479 that's not what we came here to do. Men and women, 31 00:02:24.520 --> 00:02:26.879 And I just saw two two too on my clock. Divine, 32 00:02:26.879 --> 00:02:30.199 the union is on its way for you. Men and women. 33 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:32.879 We are social beings. We do want love, we do 34 00:02:32.919 --> 00:02:37.080 want relationship that is beautiful, But how do we actively 35 00:02:37.719 --> 00:02:41.080 get there? How do we create a space for one 36 00:02:41.120 --> 00:02:45.159 another to get there. When the divine masculine creates a 37 00:02:45.199 --> 00:02:47.680 safe space for the divine feminine to show up, he 38 00:02:47.879 --> 00:02:52.319 plans a date, He courts her. He's actively asking her questions, 39 00:02:52.400 --> 00:02:55.319 what do you like? How can I make you feel comfortable? 40 00:02:55.719 --> 00:02:59.159 The divine feminine will become so full of energy that 41 00:02:59.240 --> 00:03:02.560 you will not overflow into him. And that's where she 42 00:03:02.719 --> 00:03:07.199 really shines, she will naturally nurture him. But it takes 43 00:03:07.400 --> 00:03:13.800 two to tango. This episode is about raising and trusting 44 00:03:13.960 --> 00:03:17.280 your standard, not just in dating, but how you're showing 45 00:03:17.360 --> 00:03:20.360 up for yourself. We're gonna talk about the divine masculine, 46 00:03:20.479 --> 00:03:23.479 the divine feminine. We're gonna talk about how to actually 47 00:03:23.599 --> 00:03:27.120 get courted because a lot of you aren't getting courted. 48 00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:29.520 You're just hanging out with men and then giving them 49 00:03:29.560 --> 00:03:33.840 your all. And again, if you're a man listening to this, Hi, Hello, 50 00:03:33.879 --> 00:03:36.479 how are you doing? This is also gonna help you 51 00:03:36.599 --> 00:03:40.639 understand women so you can get the woman that you want. 52 00:03:41.039 --> 00:03:44.159 I'm rooting for everyone. I don't care if you identify 53 00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:46.960 as a cucumber. I want you to have love, I 54 00:03:47.000 --> 00:03:49.039 want you to have grace. I want you to enjoy 55 00:03:49.120 --> 00:03:53.400 your human experience. I'm gonna help you do that. What's up, 56 00:03:53.439 --> 00:03:55.800 positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing 57 00:03:55.800 --> 00:03:57.840 this episode, then you are meant to be here, So 58 00:03:57.960 --> 00:04:01.400 keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcasts. Sometimes we 59 00:04:01.439 --> 00:04:04.960 will laugh. Other times, baby, we're gonna cry, but we 60 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:08.599 will always walk away feeling our most empowered, positive bitch self. 61 00:04:08.919 --> 00:04:12.520 That is Babe, in true connection with herself, himself human 62 00:04:12.599 --> 00:04:15.319 self again. I don't care if you're a cucumber. On 63 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:18.439 this podcast, we truly unbecome who we are not so 64 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:20.800 we can fully step into exactly who we came here 65 00:04:20.839 --> 00:04:23.360 to be. You might have noticed my hair is in 66 00:04:23.399 --> 00:04:26.319 and up to you today because we are embodying our 67 00:04:26.519 --> 00:04:31.360 natural royal divinity. You are chosen to be here during 68 00:04:31.560 --> 00:04:36.279 this time. It's about time that you start choosing to 69 00:04:36.439 --> 00:04:39.920 raise your standard so you can actually feel good in 70 00:04:39.959 --> 00:04:43.439 your reality. The first thing we need to talk about 71 00:04:43.560 --> 00:04:48.959 is normalizing the bare minimum. Them liking your story, them 72 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:53.319 replying to them, saying good morning. Those things make us 73 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:57.519 feel good. They are points of connection. They're also the 74 00:04:57.600 --> 00:05:03.199 bare minimum, the bare minimum. I recently told someone, oh 75 00:05:03.240 --> 00:05:05.759 my god, when you did not text me in the morning, 76 00:05:05.879 --> 00:05:08.600 I really didn't like how that felt. If you want 77 00:05:08.639 --> 00:05:10.720 to pursue me, if you want to court me, that's 78 00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:13.160 part of it. I am not afraid to speak up 79 00:05:13.160 --> 00:05:16.439 for what I need because I know that number one, 80 00:05:16.480 --> 00:05:18.759 I have to be my own biggest advocate. I know 81 00:05:18.879 --> 00:05:21.360 number two communication is key. They're not going to be 82 00:05:21.399 --> 00:05:24.000 able to read my mind. It's fine and dandy for 83 00:05:24.040 --> 00:05:27.279 me to express myself. I'm not someone in a straight jacket. 84 00:05:27.639 --> 00:05:29.720 If I want something, I'm going to speak on it 85 00:05:29.759 --> 00:05:33.439 because the squeaky wheel gets to grease. And number three, 86 00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:36.399 if this person is incapable of giving me what I 87 00:05:36.439 --> 00:05:41.439 want I need, well someone else will do. So that's it. 88 00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:44.519 That's it. I'm showing up as my best self. I'm 89 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:47.120 gonna make sure they feel cared for. I know what 90 00:05:47.240 --> 00:05:50.560 I bring into a relationship. I'm not going to starve 91 00:05:50.680 --> 00:05:53.040 myself of my own needs. I think a lot of 92 00:05:53.079 --> 00:05:55.639 people think if they speak up for what they need, 93 00:05:56.079 --> 00:05:59.519 that makes them needy. Actually speaking up for what you 94 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:04.040 need places yourself on the pedestal, because that shows the 95 00:06:04.079 --> 00:06:07.240 electromagnetic field we reside in, and it shows your higher self, 96 00:06:07.240 --> 00:06:09.279 and it shows your guides, and it shows God, and 97 00:06:09.319 --> 00:06:12.240 it shows your inner child, and it shows that other person. 98 00:06:12.319 --> 00:06:15.240 Because you teach people how to treat you, it shows 99 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:19.199 everyone and everything that you are confident in yourself, that 100 00:06:19.279 --> 00:06:21.800 you are not willing to betray yourself, that you are 101 00:06:21.839 --> 00:06:25.800 not willing to abandon yourself for other Speaking up for 102 00:06:25.920 --> 00:06:28.639 what you need what you want is not needy. It's 103 00:06:28.680 --> 00:06:33.439 placing yourself on the pedestal. It's ensuring that your mouth 104 00:06:33.959 --> 00:06:37.639 gets fed. If you want a deep dive into this, 105 00:06:37.920 --> 00:06:40.040 be sure to order my book Show Up as Her 106 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:42.600 on Amazon. The link will be in the show notes. 107 00:06:43.000 --> 00:06:45.639 If you're wanting one on one coaching with me, I 108 00:06:45.680 --> 00:06:48.160 am a reiki practitioner, a life and energy coach, as 109 00:06:48.160 --> 00:06:50.759 well as an intuitive channel, you can DM me on 110 00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:54.519 Instagram at Vibe with CC for more information on all 111 00:06:54.560 --> 00:06:57.439 my different packages, and the best course to go with 112 00:06:57.639 --> 00:07:00.759 this podcast will be the Pedestal Path Up. The link 113 00:07:00.800 --> 00:07:02.959 will be in the show notes, and the best workbook 114 00:07:02.959 --> 00:07:05.800 would be The Divine Feminine Workbook. Also in the show notes. 115 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:08.439 Reading from my book Show Up as Her on page 116 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:12.279 one point forty. Normalize the bare minimum. Your potential partner 117 00:07:12.319 --> 00:07:15.279 texting you back is normal. If they can play video 118 00:07:15.319 --> 00:07:19.519 games with NPC's non player characters literally fake people. Okay, 119 00:07:19.920 --> 00:07:22.360 on their PS five, they can take all of five 120 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:26.279 seconds to text you. If they are a masculine leading individual, 121 00:07:26.560 --> 00:07:29.199 they should pay for your dinner. You are paying for 122 00:07:29.240 --> 00:07:31.839 your nails, your hair, your facials, your makeup, and so 123 00:07:32.000 --> 00:07:34.079 much more. The least they can do is pick up 124 00:07:34.079 --> 00:07:38.240 the tab. Also, if they're asking you out, they should 125 00:07:38.480 --> 00:07:42.680 pay for the dinner. They're asking for your presence to 126 00:07:42.800 --> 00:07:47.639 be with them, and not for nothing. Okay, when there's 127 00:07:47.680 --> 00:07:51.240 a beautiful woman next to a man, men literally look 128 00:07:51.279 --> 00:07:54.040 at that man differently. Women look at that man differently. 129 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:58.160 You are working on yourself. You are a beautiful individual. 130 00:07:58.240 --> 00:08:01.199 You're putting time and attention and devotion into how you're 131 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:04.199 showing up. You're investing time in your makeup, in your hair, 132 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:07.560 and your outfit. The least they can do is pay 133 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:11.759 for your presence, is pay for you showing up to 134 00:08:11.959 --> 00:08:15.040 be with them. This is not just a gift for you, 135 00:08:15.199 --> 00:08:18.279 it's a gift for them. It is an honor for 136 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:22.160 a masculine energy to be able to be in his 137 00:08:22.519 --> 00:08:26.920 masculine energy. So many women nowadays are like, no, let's 138 00:08:26.920 --> 00:08:29.839 put the check. No, don't worry about it. La. They 139 00:08:29.879 --> 00:08:32.519 won't even let a man pick them up. You are 140 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:36.600 robbing the divine masculine of being in his divine masculine. 141 00:08:36.720 --> 00:08:41.360 And look at society. What is going on? It's not great. 142 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:44.799 I love everyone, but literally, what is going on? It's 143 00:08:44.840 --> 00:08:49.159 not great. Everyone's complaining. Okay, if you want to not 144 00:08:49.200 --> 00:08:54.240 only give yourself the opportunity to be corded, you also 145 00:08:54.320 --> 00:08:56.759 want to give to this masculine energy the opportunity to 146 00:08:56.879 --> 00:09:01.440 show up in his most masculine energy and body. Then 147 00:09:01.480 --> 00:09:05.240 you allow them to give to you. You allow them 148 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:08.200 to pay for the date. Let this man feel like 149 00:09:08.279 --> 00:09:12.679 a man. There are so many ways that men are 150 00:09:12.799 --> 00:09:17.000 robs from being men. Let your man show up as 151 00:09:17.159 --> 00:09:21.080 a man. The least they can do is pick up 152 00:09:21.120 --> 00:09:23.759 the tab. The least they can do is text you 153 00:09:23.840 --> 00:09:27.120 good morning. The least they can do is show up, 154 00:09:27.399 --> 00:09:30.639 plan a date, and create a safe space for you. Now, 155 00:09:30.720 --> 00:09:34.080 when they're doing this for you, you do not play games. 156 00:09:34.399 --> 00:09:38.120 You do not act like well whatever they can give 157 00:09:38.120 --> 00:09:40.440 all to me and I'm gonna take all my energy 158 00:09:40.480 --> 00:09:43.279 and not share any of it with them. No, you 159 00:09:43.440 --> 00:09:47.320 lead with love. You don't play dumb. You're not stupid. 160 00:09:47.360 --> 00:09:51.080 You're gonna use your intuition. But you lead with love. 161 00:09:51.639 --> 00:09:55.480 You have pure and positive intentions. And if you don't 162 00:09:55.639 --> 00:09:59.440 like someone, let them go, because not letting them go 163 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:04.639 up your energetic field. Not letting them go is scarcity mindset, 164 00:10:05.240 --> 00:10:07.080 and it's not going to allow the right person to 165 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:10.039 come in. And not letting them go because you just 166 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:12.360 want their attention, it's going to cause you to collect 167 00:10:12.639 --> 00:10:18.159 negative karma. This takes two to tango. I'm not on 168 00:10:18.320 --> 00:10:20.399 any one side here. I'm not on the woman's side 169 00:10:20.480 --> 00:10:23.799 or the man's side, because that's weird. I'm on the 170 00:10:23.879 --> 00:10:27.919 side of humanity. Have you heard of her? Hello? And 171 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:31.759 I want everyone to be in this love embodiment. In 172 00:10:31.879 --> 00:10:34.120 order to be in a love embodiment, you have to 173 00:10:34.240 --> 00:10:38.240 start respecting yourself. You have to realize your worth and 174 00:10:38.279 --> 00:10:41.720 I'm gonna help you get there. They should initiate plans 175 00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:44.200 with you. They should try to make you feel safe, 176 00:10:44.279 --> 00:10:46.840 and they should try to meet your needs. This should 177 00:10:46.840 --> 00:10:49.039 not be glamorized. If they cannot seem to do the 178 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:53.159 bare minimum, see this as a turn off. This isn't 179 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:55.120 a moment for you to try to prove that you 180 00:10:55.159 --> 00:10:57.600 are worthy of their love. This is a moment for 181 00:10:57.639 --> 00:11:00.279 you to recognize who they are and place them accordingly 182 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:05.399 outside of your orbit. Positive bitch tip. When we feel 183 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:08.000 they are pulling away, our first instinct is to try 184 00:11:08.039 --> 00:11:11.799 to give more, but this actually only repels them further. 185 00:11:12.240 --> 00:11:15.000 This is gonna put you into a cat and mouse game. 186 00:11:15.519 --> 00:11:18.120 What are you doing trying to play games? If you 187 00:11:18.200 --> 00:11:21.639 try to play games, now prepare lock in bitch, You're 188 00:11:21.639 --> 00:11:23.720 gonna be playing games for the rest of your life. 189 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:26.879 Is that what you want to do. I'm sorry, I'm busy. 190 00:11:27.000 --> 00:11:29.840 I don't have time to do little mind games and 191 00:11:30.240 --> 00:11:32.840 try to act like a black cat or this or that. No, 192 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:35.039 this is who I am. Take it or leave it. 193 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:38.440 If you don't like it, great, someone else will. I 194 00:11:38.600 --> 00:11:41.159 was talking to one guy months ago and I literally 195 00:11:41.159 --> 00:11:43.879 said to him, I'm not willing to be mean to you. 196 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:46.559 I'm not going to do this. You like mean girls. 197 00:11:46.919 --> 00:11:49.320 You want someone who is gonna give you a run 198 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:52.440 for your money, and it's giving mother wound. I'm not 199 00:11:52.519 --> 00:11:58.039 doing that. I'm a sweet girl until until you give 200 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:00.240 me a reason not to be. Then you're on the 201 00:12:00.240 --> 00:12:03.159 shopping block. But I'm a sweetie and that's how I 202 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:07.279 like to show up. I'm a lover girl. I'm something timeless, 203 00:12:07.960 --> 00:12:11.840 I'm something ethereal. But I'm not going to be a 204 00:12:11.879 --> 00:12:14.120 mean person. That's just not who I am. And it's 205 00:12:14.120 --> 00:12:16.399 actually so much effort for me to try to be mean, 206 00:12:17.240 --> 00:12:19.960 So I'm not going to do that. Instead of me 207 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:22.480 having a scarcity mindset and saying but he's great in 208 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:25.919 all these other ways, I said, no, you can't give 209 00:12:25.960 --> 00:12:27.600 me what I want, and frankly, I can't give you 210 00:12:27.679 --> 00:12:31.759 what you want either. This is done, so this is over. 211 00:12:32.480 --> 00:12:34.440 I'm not going to try to play games with you 212 00:12:34.519 --> 00:12:37.440 and be a mean girl. I'm going to release you 213 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:41.399 back into the wild from wherever you came from because 214 00:12:41.399 --> 00:12:45.360 of Jesus. If giving them some of your energy wasn't appreciated, 215 00:12:45.840 --> 00:12:49.080 giving more of your energy isn't going to be appreciated either. 216 00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:52.480 If I go to a restaurant and someone says, oh, cc, 217 00:12:52.600 --> 00:12:54.360 do you want salmon, and I say no, I don't 218 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:56.840 need salmon, and they're like, okay, do you want two 219 00:12:56.879 --> 00:13:00.120 pieces of salmon? What that's not gonna make me? You 220 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:02.879 want the salmon more. I don't eat salmon. I don't 221 00:13:02.879 --> 00:13:06.000 want your salmon. If giving some of your energy, if 222 00:13:06.039 --> 00:13:10.080 giving one salmon up wasn't appreciated, giving more of your 223 00:13:10.120 --> 00:13:15.200 salmon isn't going to be appreciated either. You have to 224 00:13:15.399 --> 00:13:20.679 read the writing on the wall. When I think about 225 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:24.279 my female friendships, one of my best friends we text 226 00:13:24.320 --> 00:13:27.720 each other good morning every single morning. I'm asking her, 227 00:13:27.759 --> 00:13:30.399 how are you feeling today, What's going on in your world? 228 00:13:30.639 --> 00:13:33.960 What are you eating for dinner tonight? I'm genuinely interested 229 00:13:34.320 --> 00:13:37.320 in my best friend. I'm genuinely interested in how her 230 00:13:37.399 --> 00:13:40.919 day is because I care about her. If someone isn't 231 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:44.159 genuinely interested in what you're doing, they don't care if 232 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:49.440 you live or die. They're not effective in communication. They 233 00:13:49.440 --> 00:13:52.600 go days without talking to you. That person, and I'm 234 00:13:52.639 --> 00:13:55.639 gonna hold your hand when I say this is not 235 00:13:55.919 --> 00:13:59.919 available for a relationship with you. I don't know why. 236 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:02.679 Maybe they have a wound, maybe they're just not ready 237 00:14:02.679 --> 00:14:05.320 for a relationship. Maybe they just don't like you enough. 238 00:14:05.639 --> 00:14:07.679 I don't know why, and I'm not going to try 239 00:14:07.720 --> 00:14:09.919 to jump from branch to brands to try to figure 240 00:14:09.960 --> 00:14:13.200 out their scrambled brain. I'm not going to do that. 241 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:15.559 You're not going to do that either. All you're going 242 00:14:15.600 --> 00:14:18.879 to look at is their actions. At this point, I 243 00:14:18.879 --> 00:14:22.039 don't really care who you are. I couldn't give a damn. 244 00:14:22.240 --> 00:14:24.360 I care about how are you treating me. You could 245 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:26.720 be the president of the United States, you could be 246 00:14:27.039 --> 00:14:31.639 a multi multi multi millionaire if you don't treat me well. 247 00:14:32.080 --> 00:14:39.000 If I don't feel safe in your presence, Sid Norvay, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, 248 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:41.399 I'm slamming every door on your face and I don't 249 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:44.159 care because at the end of the day, I have 250 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:47.320 to think, you know what, one day I might be 251 00:14:47.399 --> 00:14:49.879 in labor and I might have to look over at 252 00:14:49.879 --> 00:14:52.360 my husband and say, I really need the emotional support 253 00:14:52.440 --> 00:14:56.080 right now. I don't want someone who doesn't even care 254 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:58.559 about me. I don't want someone who can't do the 255 00:14:58.559 --> 00:15:03.200 bare minimum. And if they don't do the bare minimum, 256 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:05.519 if they go a day or something without texting me 257 00:15:05.879 --> 00:15:08.440 and I notice it, I'm not gonna say if you 258 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:11.279 I hate you, I'm not gonna have an emotional breakdown. 259 00:15:11.960 --> 00:15:14.840 I'm going to clearly express my needs. Hey, you know 260 00:15:14.919 --> 00:15:17.320 you didn't text me that morning and I fell a 261 00:15:17.320 --> 00:15:20.600 little bit off. I really appreciate a good morning text. 262 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:23.080 It makes me so happy. And the next time they 263 00:15:23.080 --> 00:15:25.039 did give me a good morning text, I was like, yay, 264 00:15:25.159 --> 00:15:29.360 I love this, And I positively reinforce the behavior I 265 00:15:29.399 --> 00:15:33.639 want to receive more of. You do not positively reinforce 266 00:15:33.720 --> 00:15:37.320 behavior you don't want. If they're inconsistent and you allow 267 00:15:37.399 --> 00:15:39.639 them to be inconsistent and you allow them to come 268 00:15:39.679 --> 00:15:41.879 in and out of your life, good job. You're just 269 00:15:41.919 --> 00:15:44.320 reinforcing the exact thing that you don't want to happen. 270 00:15:44.440 --> 00:15:46.679 What are you doing? Wake up and smell the matrix. 271 00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:50.240 When someone's inconsistent with me, I literally say, you're inconsistent. 272 00:15:50.320 --> 00:15:52.559 We don't have the same communication style. I'm just not 273 00:15:52.679 --> 00:15:56.080 really into it. I'm not really into it. I did 274 00:15:56.120 --> 00:15:59.080 not come all of this way to now get treated 275 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:02.879 half at Not into it, Not gonna do it. Number two, 276 00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:07.000 you are starving for crumbs, uh, because you have forgotten 277 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:13.600 that you deserve a whole, entire feast. Some of you 278 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:19.440 are so hungry, are so thirsty to be chosen. Have 279 00:16:19.600 --> 00:16:22.559 you forgotten that Jesus Christ has already died on a 280 00:16:22.559 --> 00:16:25.919 cross for you. Have you forgotten that a man has 281 00:16:26.039 --> 00:16:29.279 died on the cross for you? I don't care what 282 00:16:29.320 --> 00:16:32.440 you believe in. A man who did not even know 283 00:16:32.639 --> 00:16:35.639 you has given up his life for you. Do you 284 00:16:35.759 --> 00:16:40.440 not realize you're already chosen? What more male validation do 285 00:16:40.519 --> 00:16:46.159 you need? What more do you need? I find it 286 00:16:46.320 --> 00:16:51.519 really helpful to rely on a masculine ascended master in 287 00:16:51.600 --> 00:16:54.480 my life while I'm going through things. I'm talking to 288 00:16:54.559 --> 00:16:57.399 Jesus every day. I'm like, Jesus, fix this damn heart, 289 00:16:57.519 --> 00:17:00.600 open up my heart's center, help me release any sting 290 00:17:00.840 --> 00:17:03.080 in my heart? So that I can fully accept and 291 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:09.519 receive and give love. When you are realizing that you've 292 00:17:09.519 --> 00:17:13.119 already been chosen by Jesus Christ, the best man to 293 00:17:13.160 --> 00:17:18.240 ever walk this planet, you stop broadcasting from this lack mindset, 294 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:23.000 from this being wounded mindset, confused, scrappy mindset. You're like, no, 295 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:25.640 I was already chosen. I don't care what religion you are. 296 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:28.599 A man died for you. That's all you need to know. 297 00:17:29.160 --> 00:17:31.359 So maybe you start calling on Jesus. Maybe you call 298 00:17:31.400 --> 00:17:34.359 an archangel Michael to protect you. Maybe you call on 299 00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:38.839 Saint Germaine to help you transmute negative seeds of karma. 300 00:17:38.960 --> 00:17:42.559 If you feel desperate to be chosen, you will repeatedly 301 00:17:42.599 --> 00:17:46.240 manifest results where you don't feel chosen. You have to 302 00:17:46.240 --> 00:17:49.680 start realizing that you've already been chosen. That not only 303 00:17:49.759 --> 00:17:52.960 did Jesus Christ die for you, but you chose to 304 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:56.319 come to this planet. You chose to condense yourself into 305 00:17:56.359 --> 00:17:59.160 three D form and be a human. You chose this. 306 00:18:00.160 --> 00:18:03.079 You gonna choose today. Men who can't give you what 307 00:18:03.119 --> 00:18:04.880 you want are women who can't give you what you 308 00:18:04.920 --> 00:18:08.359 want even in friendships. That is going to deplete you 309 00:18:08.400 --> 00:18:11.880 from the inside out. That's gonna cause so much cortisol 310 00:18:11.960 --> 00:18:15.519 in your body. They're not worth it. I'm not sorry. 311 00:18:15.680 --> 00:18:18.519 Is Brad worth getting ugly? No? Is your friend Michelle 312 00:18:18.559 --> 00:18:21.799 worth getting ugly? No? No one is worth getting ugly. 313 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:24.440 I'm not gonna be sorry about it. That's the truth. 314 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:27.559 That's the truth. I've been in those phases where I 315 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:29.839 was getting ugly for people who didn't deserve it, and 316 00:18:29.920 --> 00:18:33.680 I didn't like those seasons. Those seasons sucked. If that's 317 00:18:33.720 --> 00:18:37.000 where you are at, pick yourself back up because you 318 00:18:37.000 --> 00:18:38.559 have the power to do so your powers in your 319 00:18:38.559 --> 00:18:41.519 present moment and remind yourself, why the hell am I 320 00:18:41.559 --> 00:18:43.720 getting ugly for someone who doesn't deserve it? Why the 321 00:18:43.759 --> 00:18:46.559 hell am I getting ugly in general? Let me start 322 00:18:46.680 --> 00:18:48.640 using the energy I was giving to them and put 323 00:18:48.680 --> 00:18:51.079 them on an energetic diet. And now let me start 324 00:18:51.079 --> 00:18:54.799 feeding myself with my energy, because I only feed my 325 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:57.519 energy into things that give me a high return on investment. 326 00:18:57.839 --> 00:18:59.920 If Brad sucks well, then he's not going to get 327 00:19:00.200 --> 00:19:02.759 energy anymore. If Michelle sucks well, then they're going on 328 00:19:02.799 --> 00:19:06.680 an energetic dig it and I'm done. I need you 329 00:19:06.759 --> 00:19:09.359 to start getting comfortable with your standard because a lot 330 00:19:09.400 --> 00:19:12.039 of you are looking at standards like there's some monster 331 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:14.839 hiding underneath your bed. They're like, oh, but I feel 332 00:19:14.880 --> 00:19:16.279 so bad to ask him to pick me up. I 333 00:19:16.279 --> 00:19:20.440 feel so bad not to pretend to get my checkbook 334 00:19:20.599 --> 00:19:22.279 and pay for the dinner. I feel somebody out of 335 00:19:22.319 --> 00:19:27.839 the stop. Stop. Stop. They don't feel bad asking you 336 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:30.160 to take your clothes off. They don't feel bad to 337 00:19:30.359 --> 00:19:33.279 put you into a bedroom. They don't feel bad. So 338 00:19:33.519 --> 00:19:39.720 why are you hello? Can we wake up? You have 339 00:19:39.880 --> 00:19:43.559 to have a high standard, literally out of self devotion 340 00:19:44.200 --> 00:19:49.400 for your own body. I call it the Gods standard. 341 00:19:49.640 --> 00:19:53.680 Do you really think God wants you to accept breadcrumbs? 342 00:19:54.200 --> 00:19:56.720 Do you really think God wants you to be mistreated? 343 00:19:57.160 --> 00:20:00.440 Do you think God created you so you can take 344 00:20:00.519 --> 00:20:03.440 bullshit from random people every single day of your life. 345 00:20:03.839 --> 00:20:05.640 If you carry the one and you add that up, 346 00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:08.640 that math doesn't math to me. Does it make sense 347 00:20:08.720 --> 00:20:11.599 to you? When I think about my dogs, I want 348 00:20:11.599 --> 00:20:13.759 the best for my dogs. I want the best food, 349 00:20:13.799 --> 00:20:15.920 I want the best toys, I want the best bed 350 00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:19.319 for them. Okay, the same way I think about my 351 00:20:19.599 --> 00:20:23.519 baby dogs, God thinks about me. God wants the best 352 00:20:23.519 --> 00:20:26.559 for me. You need to start asking yourself. Is this 353 00:20:26.720 --> 00:20:29.920 the person God wants for me? They ignore me, They 354 00:20:29.920 --> 00:20:33.720 don't actually care about me. They low key suck. They 355 00:20:33.759 --> 00:20:36.000 do not give me what I need. When I communicate 356 00:20:36.039 --> 00:20:40.359 what I need, they still don't do it. That's not 357 00:20:40.440 --> 00:20:44.759 the person God wants for you. Why would God want 358 00:20:44.759 --> 00:20:49.279 you to be tortured? Yeah, doesn't make sense. And remember, 359 00:20:49.640 --> 00:20:53.839 every single man is your portal. Okay, no man is 360 00:20:53.880 --> 00:20:56.240 your friend, No man is your enemy. Every single man 361 00:20:56.319 --> 00:20:58.880 is your portal. Every experience you have, good or bad. 362 00:20:58.960 --> 00:21:01.319 If it's bad, it's teaching you what you don't want. Great, 363 00:21:01.400 --> 00:21:04.720 clarify what you do. And if it's good, awesome, enjoy it. 364 00:21:05.079 --> 00:21:07.759 But every single experience you have is gifting you either 365 00:21:07.920 --> 00:21:11.680 energy or lessons or a beautiful experience. Don't forget that 366 00:21:11.720 --> 00:21:14.440 while you're dating. Because you do have to embody the 367 00:21:14.440 --> 00:21:17.079 dolphin archetype. You do have to swim through some of 368 00:21:17.119 --> 00:21:20.400 these seasons because they're not all easy, and because honestly, 369 00:21:20.799 --> 00:21:23.480 as advanced as we are, we are very tribal people. 370 00:21:23.759 --> 00:21:27.119 We truly are. We have this attachment system. Your attachment 371 00:21:27.160 --> 00:21:29.920 system is not some evil demon living within your body. 372 00:21:30.160 --> 00:21:33.519 Your attachment system is born out of survival of the fittest. 373 00:21:33.799 --> 00:21:36.400 If you did not attach to a tribe in the 374 00:21:36.480 --> 00:21:39.920 olden days, you would not survive because you cannot cook 375 00:21:40.359 --> 00:21:43.839 and hunt and make a teepee or whatever you're doing 376 00:21:43.920 --> 00:21:46.559 and make the clothing all by yourself an unknown climate. 377 00:21:46.599 --> 00:21:50.720 You would die. Having an attachment system ensured your livelihood. 378 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:54.319 It's from survival of the fittest. Having an attachment system 379 00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:57.799 is normal and it's fine. But if you're allowing yourself 380 00:21:57.839 --> 00:21:59.960 to just sleep with anyone, give your time and energy 381 00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:02.640 to just anyone, you're gonna attach to too many people 382 00:22:02.680 --> 00:22:05.240 and that's when you start spinning out of control. So 383 00:22:05.319 --> 00:22:07.759 you do need to have a high standard so that 384 00:22:07.839 --> 00:22:10.759 you protect yourself, so that you have self devotion. And 385 00:22:10.799 --> 00:22:13.319 also you remember that, well, God doesn't want me with 386 00:22:13.440 --> 00:22:16.039 just anyone anyway. You wouldn't give your car keys to 387 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:18.920 just anyone. So why are you giving your time, your ideas, 388 00:22:18.920 --> 00:22:22.000 your attention, and your body to just anyone. It doesn't 389 00:22:22.039 --> 00:22:25.119 make sense. You have to cut the people out that 390 00:22:25.240 --> 00:22:28.319 you don't like, who don't resonate with you. You cannot 391 00:22:28.359 --> 00:22:31.200 settle because let me tell you, hi, how are you? 392 00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:33.640 I was in a seven year relationship. I tried settling 393 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:35.759 into it it didn't work. Then I tried to do 394 00:22:35.799 --> 00:22:38.559 it again for like a couple months and it didn't work. 395 00:22:39.920 --> 00:22:45.160 Don't do it. Don't do it, okay. I am. All 396 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:47.799 of my friends and family are getting married right now, 397 00:22:47.880 --> 00:22:49.880 and I was like, yeah, I'm gonna go through a breakup. 398 00:22:50.720 --> 00:22:55.000 You gotta understand that nothing is worth you settling. It 399 00:22:55.039 --> 00:22:57.000 doesn't matter what all your friends and family are doing. 400 00:22:57.160 --> 00:23:01.799 You're on a different journey. You're not living a normal life. 401 00:23:01.839 --> 00:23:04.119