Speaker 1: Canst I'm so high ecstasyage cansage it. Sorryogy. When you're
Speaker 1: a grown woman with a skincare routine, a day job,
Speaker 1: and a regulated nervous system, you don't want to just
Speaker 1: hang out. You want to be corded. I was recently
Speaker 1: talking to one of my very best friends and she said, Cecie,
Speaker 1: this guy invited me over to night to hang out,
Speaker 1: and something just doesn't feel right about it. Yeah, no, shit.
Speaker 1: When you're a grown woman, you don't want to just
Speaker 1: hang out at their house all the time. You want
Speaker 1: to see that they're willing to put in in tension,
Speaker 1: thought effort into courting you. If you're a woman listening
Speaker 1: to this, you cannot feel bad for having a high standard.
Speaker 1: That is what is going to protect you. If you're
Speaker 1: a man listening to this, you need to put in
Speaker 1: effort to actively This is not a passive job. To
Speaker 1: actively court the woman that you want. Women take longer
Speaker 1: to warm up. If a man is a microwave, a
Speaker 1: woman is an oven. We need to start clocking that
Speaker 1: although we have many similarities men and women, we have
Speaker 1: many differences. The divine masculine is naturally the one who
Speaker 1: is the giver, the one who is meant to create
Speaker 1: the safe space. The divine feminine, over time will learn
Speaker 1: to trust that safe space, and that's how you create
Speaker 1: a relationship. So, baby girl, if just receiving a good
Speaker 1: morning text is still sending you into a tailspin, that's
Speaker 1: what's making you so excited. You need to raise your standard.
Speaker 1: What you want to betray yourself? You want to accept
Speaker 1: less and then start to have an autoimmune disease because
Speaker 1: you know that you're just fighting your own truest desires. No,
Speaker 1: that's not what we came here to do. Men and women,
Speaker 1: And I just saw two two too on my clock. Divine,
Speaker 1: the union is on its way for you. Men and women.
Speaker 1: We are social beings. We do want love, we do
Speaker 1: want relationship that is beautiful, But how do we actively
Speaker 1: get there? How do we create a space for one
Speaker 1: another to get there. When the divine masculine creates a
Speaker 1: safe space for the divine feminine to show up, he
Speaker 1: plans a date, He courts her. He's actively asking her questions,
Speaker 1: what do you like? How can I make you feel comfortable?
Speaker 1: The divine feminine will become so full of energy that
Speaker 1: you will not overflow into him. And that's where she
Speaker 1: really shines, she will naturally nurture him. But it takes
Speaker 1: two to tango. This episode is about raising and trusting
Speaker 1: your standard, not just in dating, but how you're showing
Speaker 1: up for yourself. We're gonna talk about the divine masculine,
Speaker 1: the divine feminine. We're gonna talk about how to actually
Speaker 1: get courted because a lot of you aren't getting courted.
Speaker 1: You're just hanging out with men and then giving them
Speaker 1: your all. And again, if you're a man listening to this, Hi, Hello,
Speaker 1: how are you doing? This is also gonna help you
Speaker 1: understand women so you can get the woman that you want.
Speaker 1: I'm rooting for everyone. I don't care if you identify
Speaker 1: as a cucumber. I want you to have love, I
Speaker 1: want you to have grace. I want you to enjoy
Speaker 1: your human experience. I'm gonna help you do that. What's up,
Speaker 1: positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing
Speaker 1: this episode, then you are meant to be here, So
Speaker 1: keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcasts. Sometimes we
Speaker 1: will laugh. Other times, baby, we're gonna cry, but we
Speaker 1: will always walk away feeling our most empowered, positive bitch self.
Speaker 1: That is Babe, in true connection with herself, himself human
Speaker 1: self again. I don't care if you're a cucumber. On
Speaker 1: this podcast, we truly unbecome who we are not so
Speaker 1: we can fully step into exactly who we came here
Speaker 1: to be. You might have noticed my hair is in
Speaker 1: and up to you today because we are embodying our
Speaker 1: natural royal divinity. You are chosen to be here during
Speaker 1: this time. It's about time that you start choosing to
Speaker 1: raise your standard so you can actually feel good in
Speaker 1: your reality. The first thing we need to talk about
Speaker 1: is normalizing the bare minimum. Them liking your story, them
Speaker 1: replying to them, saying good morning. Those things make us
Speaker 1: feel good. They are points of connection. They're also the
Speaker 1: bare minimum, the bare minimum. I recently told someone, oh
Speaker 1: my god, when you did not text me in the morning,
Speaker 1: I really didn't like how that felt. If you want
Speaker 1: to pursue me, if you want to court me, that's
Speaker 1: part of it. I am not afraid to speak up
Speaker 1: for what I need because I know that number one,
Speaker 1: I have to be my own biggest advocate. I know
Speaker 1: number two communication is key. They're not going to be
Speaker 1: able to read my mind. It's fine and dandy for
Speaker 1: me to express myself. I'm not someone in a straight jacket.
Speaker 1: If I want something, I'm going to speak on it
Speaker 1: because the squeaky wheel gets to grease. And number three,
Speaker 1: if this person is incapable of giving me what I
Speaker 1: want I need, well someone else will do. So that's it.
Speaker 1: That's it. I'm showing up as my best self. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make sure they feel cared for. I know what
Speaker 1: I bring into a relationship. I'm not going to starve
Speaker 1: myself of my own needs. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people think if they speak up for what they need,
Speaker 1: that makes them needy. Actually speaking up for what you
Speaker 1: need places yourself on the pedestal, because that shows the
Speaker 1: electromagnetic field we reside in, and it shows your higher self,
Speaker 1: and it shows your guides, and it shows God, and
Speaker 1: it shows your inner child, and it shows that other person.
Speaker 1: Because you teach people how to treat you, it shows
Speaker 1: everyone and everything that you are confident in yourself, that
Speaker 1: you are not willing to betray yourself, that you are
Speaker 1: not willing to abandon yourself for other Speaking up for
Speaker 1: what you need what you want is not needy. It's
Speaker 1: placing yourself on the pedestal. It's ensuring that your mouth
Speaker 1: gets fed. If you want a deep dive into this,
Speaker 1: be sure to order my book Show Up as Her
Speaker 1: on Amazon. The link will be in the show notes.
Speaker 1: If you're wanting one on one coaching with me, I
Speaker 1: am a reiki practitioner, a life and energy coach, as
Speaker 1: well as an intuitive channel, you can DM me on
Speaker 1: Instagram at Vibe with CC for more information on all
Speaker 1: my different packages, and the best course to go with
Speaker 1: this podcast will be the Pedestal Path Up. The link
Speaker 1: will be in the show notes, and the best workbook
Speaker 1: would be The Divine Feminine Workbook. Also in the show notes.
Speaker 1: Reading from my book Show Up as Her on page
Speaker 1: one point forty. Normalize the bare minimum. Your potential partner
Speaker 1: texting you back is normal. If they can play video
Speaker 1: games with NPC's non player characters literally fake people. Okay,
Speaker 1: on their PS five, they can take all of five
Speaker 1: seconds to text you. If they are a masculine leading individual,
Speaker 1: they should pay for your dinner. You are paying for
Speaker 1: your nails, your hair, your facials, your makeup, and so
Speaker 1: much more. The least they can do is pick up
Speaker 1: the tab. Also, if they're asking you out, they should
Speaker 1: pay for the dinner. They're asking for your presence to
Speaker 1: be with them, and not for nothing. Okay, when there's
Speaker 1: a beautiful woman next to a man, men literally look
Speaker 1: at that man differently. Women look at that man differently.
Speaker 1: You are working on yourself. You are a beautiful individual.
Speaker 1: You're putting time and attention and devotion into how you're
Speaker 1: showing up. You're investing time in your makeup, in your hair,
Speaker 1: and your outfit. The least they can do is pay
Speaker 1: for your presence, is pay for you showing up to
Speaker 1: be with them. This is not just a gift for you,
Speaker 1: it's a gift for them. It is an honor for
Speaker 1: a masculine energy to be able to be in his
Speaker 1: masculine energy. So many women nowadays are like, no, let's
Speaker 1: put the check. No, don't worry about it. La. They
Speaker 1: won't even let a man pick them up. You are
Speaker 1: robbing the divine masculine of being in his divine masculine.
Speaker 1: And look at society. What is going on? It's not great.
Speaker 1: I love everyone, but literally, what is going on? It's
Speaker 1: not great. Everyone's complaining. Okay, if you want to not
Speaker 1: only give yourself the opportunity to be corded, you also
Speaker 1: want to give to this masculine energy the opportunity to
Speaker 1: show up in his most masculine energy and body. Then
Speaker 1: you allow them to give to you. You allow them
Speaker 1: to pay for the date. Let this man feel like
Speaker 1: a man. There are so many ways that men are
Speaker 1: robs from being men. Let your man show up as
Speaker 1: a man. The least they can do is pick up
Speaker 1: the tab. The least they can do is text you
Speaker 1: good morning. The least they can do is show up,
Speaker 1: plan a date, and create a safe space for you. Now,
Speaker 1: when they're doing this for you, you do not play games.
Speaker 1: You do not act like well whatever they can give
Speaker 1: all to me and I'm gonna take all my energy
Speaker 1: and not share any of it with them. No, you
Speaker 1: lead with love. You don't play dumb. You're not stupid.
Speaker 1: You're gonna use your intuition. But you lead with love.
Speaker 1: You have pure and positive intentions. And if you don't
Speaker 1: like someone, let them go, because not letting them go
Speaker 1: up your energetic field. Not letting them go is scarcity mindset,
Speaker 1: and it's not going to allow the right person to
Speaker 1: come in. And not letting them go because you just
Speaker 1: want their attention, it's going to cause you to collect
Speaker 1: negative karma. This takes two to tango. I'm not on
Speaker 1: any one side here. I'm not on the woman's side
Speaker 1: or the man's side, because that's weird. I'm on the
Speaker 1: side of humanity. Have you heard of her? Hello? And
Speaker 1: I want everyone to be in this love embodiment. In
Speaker 1: order to be in a love embodiment, you have to
Speaker 1: start respecting yourself. You have to realize your worth and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna help you get there. They should initiate plans
Speaker 1: with you. They should try to make you feel safe,
Speaker 1: and they should try to meet your needs. This should
Speaker 1: not be glamorized. If they cannot seem to do the
Speaker 1: bare minimum, see this as a turn off. This isn't
Speaker 1: a moment for you to try to prove that you
Speaker 1: are worthy of their love. This is a moment for
Speaker 1: you to recognize who they are and place them accordingly
Speaker 1: outside of your orbit. Positive bitch tip. When we feel
Speaker 1: they are pulling away, our first instinct is to try
Speaker 1: to give more, but this actually only repels them further.
Speaker 1: This is gonna put you into a cat and mouse game.
Speaker 1: What are you doing trying to play games? If you
Speaker 1: try to play games, now prepare lock in bitch, You're
Speaker 1: gonna be playing games for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: Is that what you want to do. I'm sorry, I'm busy.
Speaker 1: I don't have time to do little mind games and
Speaker 1: try to act like a black cat or this or that. No,
Speaker 1: this is who I am. Take it or leave it.
Speaker 1: If you don't like it, great, someone else will. I
Speaker 1: was talking to one guy months ago and I literally
Speaker 1: said to him, I'm not willing to be mean to you.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do this. You like mean girls.
Speaker 1: You want someone who is gonna give you a run
Speaker 1: for your money, and it's giving mother wound. I'm not
Speaker 1: doing that. I'm a sweet girl until until you give
Speaker 1: me a reason not to be. Then you're on the
Speaker 1: shopping block. But I'm a sweetie and that's how I
Speaker 1: like to show up. I'm a lover girl. I'm something timeless,
Speaker 1: I'm something ethereal. But I'm not going to be a
Speaker 1: mean person. That's just not who I am. And it's
Speaker 1: actually so much effort for me to try to be mean,
Speaker 1: So I'm not going to do that. Instead of me
Speaker 1: having a scarcity mindset and saying but he's great in
Speaker 1: all these other ways, I said, no, you can't give
Speaker 1: me what I want, and frankly, I can't give you
Speaker 1: what you want either. This is done, so this is over.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to try to play games with you
Speaker 1: and be a mean girl. I'm going to release you
Speaker 1: back into the wild from wherever you came from because
Speaker 1: of Jesus. If giving them some of your energy wasn't appreciated,
Speaker 1: giving more of your energy isn't going to be appreciated either.
Speaker 1: If I go to a restaurant and someone says, oh, cc,
Speaker 1: do you want salmon, and I say no, I don't
Speaker 1: need salmon, and they're like, okay, do you want two
Speaker 1: pieces of salmon? What that's not gonna make me? You
Speaker 1: want the salmon more. I don't eat salmon. I don't
Speaker 1: want your salmon. If giving some of your energy, if
Speaker 1: giving one salmon up wasn't appreciated, giving more of your
Speaker 1: salmon isn't going to be appreciated either. You have to
Speaker 1: read the writing on the wall. When I think about
Speaker 1: my female friendships, one of my best friends we text
Speaker 1: each other good morning every single morning. I'm asking her,
Speaker 1: how are you feeling today, What's going on in your world?
Speaker 1: What are you eating for dinner tonight? I'm genuinely interested
Speaker 1: in my best friend. I'm genuinely interested in how her
Speaker 1: day is because I care about her. If someone isn't
Speaker 1: genuinely interested in what you're doing, they don't care if
Speaker 1: you live or die. They're not effective in communication. They
Speaker 1: go days without talking to you. That person, and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna hold your hand when I say this is not
Speaker 1: available for a relationship with you. I don't know why.
Speaker 1: Maybe they have a wound, maybe they're just not ready
Speaker 1: for a relationship. Maybe they just don't like you enough.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, and I'm not going to try
Speaker 1: to jump from branch to brands to try to figure
Speaker 1: out their scrambled brain. I'm not going to do that.
Speaker 1: You're not going to do that either. All you're going
Speaker 1: to look at is their actions. At this point, I
Speaker 1: don't really care who you are. I couldn't give a damn.
Speaker 1: I care about how are you treating me. You could
Speaker 1: be the president of the United States, you could be
Speaker 1: a multi multi multi millionaire if you don't treat me well.
Speaker 1: If I don't feel safe in your presence, Sid Norvay, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye,
Speaker 1: I'm slamming every door on your face and I don't
Speaker 1: care because at the end of the day, I have
Speaker 1: to think, you know what, one day I might be
Speaker 1: in labor and I might have to look over at
Speaker 1: my husband and say, I really need the emotional support
Speaker 1: right now. I don't want someone who doesn't even care
Speaker 1: about me. I don't want someone who can't do the
Speaker 1: bare minimum. And if they don't do the bare minimum,
Speaker 1: if they go a day or something without texting me
Speaker 1: and I notice it, I'm not gonna say if you
Speaker 1: I hate you, I'm not gonna have an emotional breakdown.
Speaker 1: I'm going to clearly express my needs. Hey, you know
Speaker 1: you didn't text me that morning and I fell a
Speaker 1: little bit off. I really appreciate a good morning text.
Speaker 1: It makes me so happy. And the next time they
Speaker 1: did give me a good morning text, I was like, yay,
Speaker 1: I love this, And I positively reinforce the behavior I
Speaker 1: want to receive more of. You do not positively reinforce
Speaker 1: behavior you don't want. If they're inconsistent and you allow
Speaker 1: them to be inconsistent and you allow them to come
Speaker 1: in and out of your life, good job. You're just
Speaker 1: reinforcing the exact thing that you don't want to happen.
Speaker 1: What are you doing? Wake up and smell the matrix.
Speaker 1: When someone's inconsistent with me, I literally say, you're inconsistent.
Speaker 1: We don't have the same communication style. I'm just not
Speaker 1: really into it. I'm not really into it. I did
Speaker 1: not come all of this way to now get treated
Speaker 1: half at Not into it, Not gonna do it. Number two,
Speaker 1: you are starving for crumbs, uh, because you have forgotten
Speaker 1: that you deserve a whole, entire feast. Some of you
Speaker 1: are so hungry, are so thirsty to be chosen. Have
Speaker 1: you forgotten that Jesus Christ has already died on a
Speaker 1: cross for you. Have you forgotten that a man has
Speaker 1: died on the cross for you? I don't care what
Speaker 1: you believe in. A man who did not even know
Speaker 1: you has given up his life for you. Do you
Speaker 1: not realize you're already chosen? What more male validation do
Speaker 1: you need? What more do you need? I find it
Speaker 1: really helpful to rely on a masculine ascended master in
Speaker 1: my life while I'm going through things. I'm talking to
Speaker 1: Jesus every day. I'm like, Jesus, fix this damn heart,
Speaker 1: open up my heart's center, help me release any sting
Speaker 1: in my heart? So that I can fully accept and
Speaker 1: receive and give love. When you are realizing that you've
Speaker 1: already been chosen by Jesus Christ, the best man to
Speaker 1: ever walk this planet, you stop broadcasting from this lack mindset,
Speaker 1: from this being wounded mindset, confused, scrappy mindset. You're like, no,
Speaker 1: I was already chosen. I don't care what religion you are.
Speaker 1: A man died for you. That's all you need to know.
Speaker 1: So maybe you start calling on Jesus. Maybe you call
Speaker 1: an archangel Michael to protect you. Maybe you call on
Speaker 1: Saint Germaine to help you transmute negative seeds of karma.
Speaker 1: If you feel desperate to be chosen, you will repeatedly
Speaker 1: manifest results where you don't feel chosen. You have to
Speaker 1: start realizing that you've already been chosen. That not only
Speaker 1: did Jesus Christ die for you, but you chose to
Speaker 1: come to this planet. You chose to condense yourself into
Speaker 1: three D form and be a human. You chose this.
Speaker 1: You gonna choose today. Men who can't give you what
Speaker 1: you want are women who can't give you what you
Speaker 1: want even in friendships. That is going to deplete you
Speaker 1: from the inside out. That's gonna cause so much cortisol
Speaker 1: in your body. They're not worth it. I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1: Is Brad worth getting ugly? No? Is your friend Michelle
Speaker 1: worth getting ugly? No? No one is worth getting ugly.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be sorry about it. That's the truth.
Speaker 1: That's the truth. I've been in those phases where I
Speaker 1: was getting ugly for people who didn't deserve it, and
Speaker 1: I didn't like those seasons. Those seasons sucked. If that's
Speaker 1: where you are at, pick yourself back up because you
Speaker 1: have the power to do so your powers in your
Speaker 1: present moment and remind yourself, why the hell am I
Speaker 1: getting ugly for someone who doesn't deserve it? Why the
Speaker 1: hell am I getting ugly in general? Let me start
Speaker 1: using the energy I was giving to them and put
Speaker 1: them on an energetic diet. And now let me start
Speaker 1: feeding myself with my energy, because I only feed my
Speaker 1: energy into things that give me a high return on investment.
Speaker 1: If Brad sucks well, then he's not going to get
Speaker 1: energy anymore. If Michelle sucks well, then they're going on
Speaker 1: an energetic dig it and I'm done. I need you
Speaker 1: to start getting comfortable with your standard because a lot
Speaker 1: of you are looking at standards like there's some monster
Speaker 1: hiding underneath your bed. They're like, oh, but I feel
Speaker 1: so bad to ask him to pick me up. I
Speaker 1: feel so bad not to pretend to get my checkbook
Speaker 1: and pay for the dinner. I feel somebody out of
Speaker 1: the stop. Stop. Stop. They don't feel bad asking you
Speaker 1: to take your clothes off. They don't feel bad to
Speaker 1: put you into a bedroom. They don't feel bad. So
Speaker 1: why are you hello? Can we wake up? You have
Speaker 1: to have a high standard, literally out of self devotion
Speaker 1: for your own body. I call it the Gods standard.
Speaker 1: Do you really think God wants you to accept breadcrumbs?
Speaker 1: Do you really think God wants you to be mistreated?
Speaker 1: Do you think God created you so you can take
Speaker 1: bullshit from random people every single day of your life.
Speaker 1: If you carry the one and you add that up,
Speaker 1: that math doesn't math to me. Does it make sense
Speaker 1: to you? When I think about my dogs, I want
Speaker 1: the best for my dogs. I want the best food,
Speaker 1: I want the best toys, I want the best bed
Speaker 1: for them. Okay, the same way I think about my
Speaker 1: baby dogs, God thinks about me. God wants the best
Speaker 1: for me. You need to start asking yourself. Is this
Speaker 1: the person God wants for me? They ignore me, They
Speaker 1: don't actually care about me. They low key suck. They
Speaker 1: do not give me what I need. When I communicate
Speaker 1: what I need, they still don't do it. That's not
Speaker 1: the person God wants for you. Why would God want
Speaker 1: you to be tortured? Yeah, doesn't make sense. And remember,
Speaker 1: every single man is your portal. Okay, no man is
Speaker 1: your friend, No man is your enemy. Every single man
Speaker 1: is your portal. Every experience you have, good or bad.
Speaker 1: If it's bad, it's teaching you what you don't want. Great,
Speaker 1: clarify what you do. And if it's good, awesome, enjoy it.
Speaker 1: But every single experience you have is gifting you either
Speaker 1: energy or lessons or a beautiful experience. Don't forget that
Speaker 1: while you're dating. Because you do have to embody the
Speaker 1: dolphin archetype. You do have to swim through some of
Speaker 1: these seasons because they're not all easy, and because honestly,
Speaker 1: as advanced as we are, we are very tribal people.
Speaker 1: We truly are. We have this attachment system. Your attachment
Speaker 1: system is not some evil demon living within your body.
Speaker 1: Your attachment system is born out of survival of the fittest.
Speaker 1: If you did not attach to a tribe in the
Speaker 1: olden days, you would not survive because you cannot cook
Speaker 1: and hunt and make a teepee or whatever you're doing
Speaker 1: and make the clothing all by yourself an unknown climate.
Speaker 1: You would die. Having an attachment system ensured your livelihood.
Speaker 1: It's from survival of the fittest. Having an attachment system
Speaker 1: is normal and it's fine. But if you're allowing yourself
Speaker 1: to just sleep with anyone, give your time and energy
Speaker 1: to just anyone, you're gonna attach to too many people
Speaker 1: and that's when you start spinning out of control. So
Speaker 1: you do need to have a high standard so that
Speaker 1: you protect yourself, so that you have self devotion. And
Speaker 1: also you remember that, well, God doesn't want me with
Speaker 1: just anyone anyway. You wouldn't give your car keys to
Speaker 1: just anyone. So why are you giving your time, your ideas,
Speaker 1: your attention, and your body to just anyone. It doesn't
Speaker 1: make sense. You have to cut the people out that
Speaker 1: you don't like, who don't resonate with you. You cannot
Speaker 1: settle because let me tell you, hi, how are you?
Speaker 1: I was in a seven year relationship. I tried settling
Speaker 1: into it it didn't work. Then I tried to do
Speaker 1: it again for like a couple months and it didn't work.
Speaker 1: Don't do it. Don't do it, okay. I am. All
Speaker 1: of my friends and family are getting married right now,
Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I'm gonna go through a breakup.
Speaker 1: You gotta understand that nothing is worth you settling. It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter what all your friends and family are doing.
Speaker 1: You're on a different journey. You're not living a normal life.
Speaker 1: You think different. That's why you're listening to this podcast.
Speaker 1: You're spiritually intuitive, That's why you're listening to this podcast.
Speaker 1: You're not okay with mediocrity. That's why you're listening to
Speaker 1: this podcast. Your life is not going to look like
Speaker 1: everyone else is, whether it comes to your love life,
Speaker 1: or your career or just coworkers. Your energy demands respect,
Speaker 1: and sometimes when people feel that, when you walk into
Speaker 1: a room, it's gonna make them want to attack your
Speaker 1: spirit because they're already jealous of your destiny. You have
Speaker 1: to remember who you are, adds tax and act accordingly.
Speaker 1: I did not get this far just to get this far.
Speaker 1: I did not break a seven year relationship just to
Speaker 1: settle with someone else. I'm not doing that. Neither are you.
Speaker 1: If you are doing that, you're in survival mode. You're
Speaker 1: not in sovereign mode. You are no longer the version
Speaker 1: of yourself that tolerated chaos. Unsubscribed from those narratives. Your
Speaker 1: reality is whatever you consent to in the present moment.
Speaker 1: What do you want to con than to today? Do
Speaker 1: you want to be the version of yourself who allowed
Speaker 1: anything in anyone? Or do you want to be the
Speaker 1: version of yourself that gets more. When you don't raise
Speaker 1: your standard, it's showing me that you don't believe that
Speaker 1: you're worthy of more. It's a worthiness wound. If you
Speaker 1: have a worthiness wound, what do you do you accept
Speaker 1: less because you don't think you're worthy of more. Where
Speaker 1: do you have holes within yourself? You have to start
Speaker 1: working on them. If you want to raise your standard
Speaker 1: for the treatment you accept from others, by the way,
Speaker 1: you have to raise the standard of the treatment you
Speaker 1: give to yourself. When I was allowing myself to binge,
Speaker 1: if I didn't work out, if I was allowing myself
Speaker 1: to drink too much on a weekend, I wasn't treating
Speaker 1: myself well. I didn't feel like I was worthy of more.
Speaker 1: And then I would get terrible treatment. It wasn't really
Speaker 1: until I said, you know what, I need to raise
Speaker 1: the standard of my own treatment towards myself. I need
Speaker 1: to be my own greatest advocate. I need to take
Speaker 1: actionable steps today to support myself out of self devotion.
Speaker 1: So that's why I take care of my body. I'm
Speaker 1: going to that workout at least six days a week.
Speaker 1: I'm making sure I'm getting my steps in. I'm making
Speaker 1: sure that my steak is grass fed. I'm making sure
Speaker 1: that I'm not putting a billion chemicals on my body
Speaker 1: every single day. I'm not going out every single weekend
Speaker 1: and downing a bottle. I am taking care of myself
Speaker 1: out of self devotion. I raise the standard of treatment
Speaker 1: I give to myself. I get that facial. I make
Speaker 1: sure that I'm giving enough time and energy towards my career,
Speaker 1: not only because I love it and because it's my mission,
Speaker 1: but it's so I can do the things I want
Speaker 1: to do in my life. I can go to that
Speaker 1: yoga class, I can get the outfit, the piece of
Speaker 1: clothing that makes me feel in alignment and well and good.
Speaker 1: So think about this, how can you raise the standard
Speaker 1: of the treatment you give to yourself. Do you need
Speaker 1: to work out, do you need more rest? Maybe you
Speaker 1: need to make yourself a really nurturing meal. Actions are
Speaker 1: energy reinforced. Show up for yourself and other people are
Speaker 1: gonna show up for you too. Show up for yourself,
Speaker 1: and you're going to start realizing, wait, if I can
Speaker 1: give this to myself, I'm not going to accept breadcrumbs
Speaker 1: from someone else. Instead of me being in this wounded
Speaker 1: energy and asking myself, why don't they love me? I
Speaker 1: have to prove myself to them more, You're gonna say, well,
Speaker 1: if they don't give that to me, I already give
Speaker 1: it to myself. Why would I even want to be
Speaker 1: around that energy? They become no longer attractive. Instead of
Speaker 1: asking yourself, why am I not enough, you're gonna start
Speaker 1: saying to yourself, actually, ill, gross, I don't want them
Speaker 1: anywhere near me. If it's not them, it's going to
Speaker 1: be someone better. This brings me to the law of substitution.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we see a specific person in our reality and
Speaker 1: we really want them to specifically so badly, but they
Speaker 1: are not capable of giving us what we want. And
Speaker 1: I've seen this so many times in my own life
Speaker 1: where my friends have been in relationships, or even I've
Speaker 1: been in relationships, and I would want that person to
Speaker 1: be someone else. I would want them to communicate better,
Speaker 1: or show up for me, or be there when I
Speaker 1: was feeling emotional, but they weren't capable of that. If
Speaker 1: I try to force that relationship, I am wasting my
Speaker 1: own time. The law substitution helps us understand that if
Speaker 1: it's not this person, it will be someone better. So
Speaker 1: maybe they can't give you the level of love and
Speaker 1: commitment that you want. So release them because someone else will.
Speaker 1: Instead of saying, oh, let me play games so they
Speaker 1: may be changed, they're not going to change. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: It's a waste your time. Allow them to be released
Speaker 1: back into the ocean so you can find your proper
Speaker 1: match that's under your divine right. The law substitution remember it,
Speaker 1: if it's not them, it will be someone better. If
Speaker 1: it's them, great, and if it's not them great. I
Speaker 1: always remind myself that if it's them great, if it's
Speaker 1: not them, great. Otherwise you're going to put yourself into
Speaker 1: an emotional state where you're anxious and manifesting negative results.
Speaker 1: Your reality is a reflection of where you are at.
Speaker 1: So if you're constantly worried, what are they doing? Why
Speaker 1: aren't they texting me? Why aren't they treating me well enough?
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna say anything. You are repelling them,
Speaker 1: and you're going to attract more of that same behavior
Speaker 1: and emotional outcome. You have to start saying to yourself, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: the law of substitution exists. If it's them, great, and
Speaker 1: if it's not them, great, I'll communicate what it is
Speaker 1: I want and if they can do it, great and
Speaker 1: if they can't, great, because either way in the end,
Speaker 1: you'll win. Either way. In the end, you're going to
Speaker 1: get what it is you want, whether it's your career
Speaker 1: or your love life. But you have to release what's
Speaker 1: not yours so you can receive what is. If you
Speaker 1: want to be courted, but these people are not courting,
Speaker 1: you cut them out, remove them. They are not yours.
Speaker 1: If you think they have the potential too, you okay,
Speaker 1: communicate your needs. I have to tell people in my
Speaker 1: past if you don't ask me out days and days
Speaker 1: and days in advance, I'm not showing up. I'm a
Speaker 1: busy person. I'm not available last minute. If you want
Speaker 1: to see me. You have to set a date. You
Speaker 1: have to take me out somewhere and we can make
Speaker 1: it happen. Number two, don't be available for chaos. Do
Speaker 1: not positively reinforce their bad behavior. If they never court you,
Speaker 1: but you still allow them to come over, or you
Speaker 1: keep going to their house at eleven PM, you are
Speaker 1: reinforcing their bad behavior. You're teaching them that's how they
Speaker 1: should treat you. So you have to show up different.
Speaker 1: For them to show up different, you have to stop
Speaker 1: accepting less and start communicating to receive more. Now that
Speaker 1: brings me to number three. If they're not available to
Speaker 1: do that to embody that it's not about you, okay.
Speaker 1: The only thing it is reflecting about you is your
Speaker 1: own belief system and what you think you're worthy of.
Speaker 1: If it's them, great, But if it's not them, also great.
Speaker 1: I'm going to release them to get more. Number four,
Speaker 1: you have to give yourself the energy you wish to receive.
Speaker 1: Treat yourself well. Number five, you're going to start encoding
Speaker 1: your emotional state, your mind, your subconscious mind, specifically before
Speaker 1: you go to sleep. I'm made an affirmation track magnetic affirmations.
Speaker 1: All eyes will be on you. I'll put the link
Speaker 1: in the show notes. If you want, you can actually
Speaker 1: purchase in our long tape of this and play it
Speaker 1: as you go to sleep. Neville Godter teaches that the
Speaker 1: feeling is the secret. He says that when you fall
Speaker 1: asleep in the feeling of already having what it is
Speaker 1: you desire, you impress it into your subconscious mind, and
Speaker 1: your subconscious mind runs the show. Fall asleep in the
Speaker 1: energy you want more of. If you want to feel
Speaker 1: loved and wanted and desired, if you don't want to
Speaker 1: beg anymore and you want to instead be courted, fall
Speaker 1: asleep to my magnetic Affirmations track. It's going to change
Speaker 1: your life. And you can purchase in hour long I
Speaker 1: think it's even over an hour, and just loop it
Speaker 1: on your phone over and over and over again. When
Speaker 1: you do this, you are impressing it upon your subconscious mind.
Speaker 1: Your subconscious mind is passive, it is feminine, It is
Speaker 1: a receiver. Whatever you tell it simply is, and then
Speaker 1: it will reflect back to you in your external reality.
Speaker 1: Your conscious mind is what you're going to use to say, Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get this affirmation track. I'm gonna put it
Speaker 1: on my phone. I'm gonna put it so that when
Speaker 1: I go to sleep, it's on loops. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to encode my subconscious mind. Your conscious mind is what
Speaker 1: you're using to actually create this circumstance, But your subconscious
Speaker 1: mind is where you manifest from. It's what actually runs
Speaker 1: the show. And your subconscious mind only knows whatever it
Speaker 1: is you tell it, So start encoding it to give
Speaker 1: you better results. Instead of being attached to a name
Speaker 1: or a story, a face, a narrative, you are stepping
Speaker 1: into alignment with just the frequency of love. And when
Speaker 1: you do that, you're courted, You're treated better. When you
Speaker 1: embody self love, all of the universe will conspire to
Speaker 1: give you even more of that same outcome. And an
Speaker 1: actionable step you can take today is using these affirmations
Speaker 1: to encode your subconscious mind. I promise you your life will change.
Speaker 1: It's simply how the energetic universe works. If you want
Speaker 1: more guidance on shifting your mindset and your point of
Speaker 1: attraction to attract a better result, you can DM me
Speaker 1: now on Instagram at vibein with CC to learn more
Speaker 1: about my one on one coaching practices. If you want
Speaker 1: a physical source, you can get my book, show up
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Speaker 1: my courses. The pedestal path pairs perfectly with this. I
Speaker 1: am sending you so much love you deserve more so,
Speaker 1: start raising your standard as always the sparkle in me
Speaker 1: honors of sparkle in you, and I will see you
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