Speaker 1: Made a decision a face sunny sound, I.
Speaker 2: Had a vision.
Speaker 3: My Hey, everybody, welcome to Patreon.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm good, Oh my good Patreon. So
come on, Steph, I got a barn Burner. I want it.
I've honestly been debating. I didn't even tell John that
I'm going to read this because this could this this
is some Cray Cray ship right here. Really yeah, okay,
so tell me, all right, remember the mom and I
don't remember what I freaking called her kid or what
nobody what I named her, but the mom the our
family hates your family. The mom who's child, she's insane,
outed Xander, right, who took it upon herself to tell
the new kids, I think you should know. She I
think you should knowed the new kids end of in
third grade, and then again in fourth grade, and then
she was spoken to by the teacher and by the principal.
The second time it happened, she was spoken to by
the principal because they take that stuff really seriously. They
don't play good with like outing kids. And you know
that's good. So, as you might recall from another Patreon,
I wrote her an email because Xander was like, I'm
so looking forward to school. I can't wait to see
all my friends. The one thing that makes me really
nervous is I'm scared that I can't remember what I
called her Tammy. I'm scared big mouth is gonna say
something again. M hmm, And I said, I just got
so mad. And now I have never obviously never said
anything to the daughter, and I had never said anything
to the mom all the last couple of years. But
you might recall that she told she her daughter said
to Xander that the reason she's not very nice to him.
This was like a year and a half ago. It
was at the end of third grade. The girl said
to Xander, the reason that I'm not very nice to
is because our family hates your family. And Xander told
me that, and I lost my mind and wanted to
say something, and he was like, Mom, please don't say anything.
It's just gonna make it worse. So I never did,
but I did not speak to her for like, I
haven't really talked to her. And it's clear that I
do not like this woman. But she's also incredibly crazy
and has done way lots of other stuff at the school.
She's the one who got eighty six from driving on
field trips. She just can't follow any rules. She's just
very inappropriate. And she's the one who stormed into the
principal's office to try to get a teacher fired and
demand it, and then wrote an email and tried to
sign it from all the parents and we all had
to go no, no, no. Yeah. So lots of stuff
like that, super helicoptery, et cetera. Okay, So but I
never said anything to her. Why because even though yes,
am I fairly confrontational person I can be, but because
I respected my kid. Also she's crazy. I was like,
no good can come of arguing with her. This woman said,
it's just not going to help anything, and it's gonna really,
in the end hurt my kids. So I'm not gonna
have a problem with her. So I've kept my mouth
shut and I just don't talk to her, Okay until
I wrote her that email that I read to you
guys on Patreon a few weeks ago, where I was
like look, and a lot of people said that the
email was to the point and direct but respectful yet
very I was like, listen, bitch, better talk to your kid.
I was just like, look, this is what happened two
years in a row. My kid's concerned about it. Can
you talk to your kid?
Speaker 4: Don't?
Speaker 1: I just don't want to have this again this year. Okay?
So she never wrote back to that. Right then school
started last Thursday.
Speaker 5: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: I'm already starting to like shake with anger just about this. Okay.
So then school started. So I and as you know,
Sadie is not a lover of school, right Xander, Great,
could you know a little nervous about starting fifth grade?
But he's fine. Sadie cried herself to sleep every night.
She was really bummed about the class that she was
put in. She doesn't have her friends in there. Super
sad I haven't seen you since then, but she literally
cried herself to sleep three nights in a row before
school started. And there wasn't anything I can do. You know,
as a mom, like your heart breaks for your kids
when you know that there really isn't an answer for
Sadie that's gonna solve it. Like I can't take her
out of school. I'm not going to homeschooler. I'm not
gonna It's not that bad. She needs to learn some resiliency.
At the same time, I am sad for her. It's
just things are always harder for her in that way,
you know. So I'm already feeling bad for her. She's
already like kind of a little bit shy down the
first day of school. She's already thinking it's not going
to be that great. If you know Sadie, you know that.
I'm just prefacing this by saying that Sadie has never
been in trouble a day in her life. At school.
She has no attitude problem. She can be negative and
kind of sad sometimes, but she's not disrespectful. I've never
had to punish her for her mouth, Like, she does
not talk back. Every teacher she's ever had at every
conference is like, she's delightful, respectful, kind, you know. Helps
her peers. They can't understand why it's hard for her
with friends, because they're like, we don't see it. She's
very nice. Yeah, okay, So pick her up from school
the first day, she says, Mom, we were walking in
so I oh, so I drop them off the first
day of school. There's like a drop off lane at school.
You drop your kids off, the tas pick them up,
and then they walk them to the front gate of
the kind of right down the sidewalk. As I'm leaving,
I saw Tammy's mom, big Mouth's mom, and and Tammy
walking down the sidewalk to the school. And I don't
really look at them, and Elvie waves out the window
to Sadie and Xander. Okay, guys, okay. So they go
into they go into school, and then I pick up
Sadie and she says, Mom, this morning Tammy's mom. She said,
I guess Tammy said hello, said hi, and Xander said
hi apparently, and she said and I didn't hear her.
This is what Sadie said. I didn't hear her, so
she said it again or whatever, and then I said,
I said hello, and then she said. Tammy's mom turned
around and was like, well, that's rude. And Sadie looked
around and she was like, yeah, don't be rude. You
can say hello to you can say hello to my daughter. Wow. Okay.
Well I lost my fucking mind, Oh my god, because
I think I got hashtag triggered by the past right.
Speaker 3: Like all the and she never answered you.
Speaker 1: No, never answered me, so all of the trying, this
is what happened. I was just like, I got so mad,
and I know I overreacted and John even told John
was even like, yeah, you're overreacting, like but I got
so many and it wasn't like Sadie was traumatized by
it or anything. She was, But I was like, bitch,
do not fucking talk to my kid. No, you're no
like you have no respect for anybody, and you're gonna
talk to my kid like you don't know her. She's
my child. Is none of your business. How dare you
scold my kid of all the crap your kids pulled?
And I've never I would never ever talk to Tammy
and go hey, Tammy, I heard you did blah blah blah.
I would never do that. You know why. It's not
my business. It's my kids my business. And if something
goes on with Xander and his feelings are hurt, I'm
going to make sure it's taken care of. But through
the teacher, right the principal, and the teacher is the
one who told me that Tammy was talked to, that
the principal talked to her, and I never followed up
because I respect the teachers to haggle it. I didn't
follow up with the mom at that time. I wasn't like, hey,
I heard this happen. You know why, because I'm not
a fucking freak. That's why. Because I'm a normal person.
But this was just too far. Yeah, I don't blame you,
it was too far. So I wrote her, Okay, here's
what I wrote. But then then I got a response
from her, and it is it might be one of
the craziest things I've ever gotten in my entire life. Okay,
so I wrote, I wrote Tammy's mom. First of all,
I never received a response to my email. Now you
have to understand I'm shaking that when I'm writing this,
maybe should have paused part of my like not drinking
program is like pausing when you're agitated and restraint. But
then no, we would have no Patreon. First of all,
I never received a response to my email asking me
to speak to Tammy about how she's behaved inappropriately in
the past with regards to Xander. Yet I heard today
that you took the time to chastise my child because
she didn't say hello loud enough for your taste. There's
really no need for you to ever interact with my child,
and I will have the same respect with regards to
your child. We were alerted over a year ago that
quote your family hates our family, and I've given you
wide birth, but I will not tolerate snide asides to
my children. If you can't respect this email, and if
I hear about anything else, I'll go straight to the
new Principle and to a person who's on the board
of directors. Stephanie, mm hmmm mm hmm. Okay, so that
was my email to her. But still I'm mad. I'm
honestly mad, just like thinking about the feeling. Okay, you
want to hear the emails. You want to hear what
she wrote back. Yes, you want to hear the pound
of craziness. It came back to me, and so we're
having a meeting. I'm having a meeting with the Principle
about this. So, like, I'm scared. Anybody who is listening
to this, do not think of it as like a
law case, like keep it shut it. Even if you
think I'm completely out of line for writing that email,
you probably don't because you're normal. But even if you did,
and you're like Stephanie, really like you're being crazy right now,
just try to understand that this is like many years
kinder first, second, third, fourth, we're in our sixth year
of that woman and never having said any to her,
and you've kept it, like you said, you've never had
a confrontation with her ever. Okay, here's what she writes back, Stephanie,
I do think we should meet with the principal next week.
We really do need to air our differences and reach
a mutually beneficial agreement. In response to this email, again,
you are out of line. You were not there today.
You did not see what transpired. I did, and other
parents did. Okay, so so far, let me just interject.
What happened is that my child didn't say hello to
her child. Right. That's the whole crux. There's never going
to be anywhere else in here that she describes any
rude behavior. Okay, Sadie can tell you whatever she likes,
and clearly you believe her hook line and sinker, you
know the saying quote there are two sides to every
coin slash story, or that truth can be derived from
multiple points of view. Quote. Well, suffice to say, Sadie
wasn't the only one with injured feelings today. Sadie did
not say hello back to Tammy this morning. There was
not a soft, he low or any such thing period
we would have heard her. Sadie did not acknowledge My daughter,
didn't turn around, wave, et cetera. Her actions were meant
to be cold, and they were. This is supposed to
be a school of communication and conflict resolution. Are your
children above that? Question mark question mark? Why is it
that Xander and Elby heard Tammy say hello even though
they were much further away? Question mark question mark Tammy
individually addressed all three of your children and in turn
waited for a response from them. You might remember that
Elby was in your car right next to you, and
Xander was walking a few was a few feet walking
behind us. Xander was kind enough to say hello back
to Tammy, and Elbe waved and said hello and smiled
at Tammy as you drove off. Tammy even said hello
to you as you were pulling away from the drop
off car line. I'm unsure if you heard Tammy. Tammy
and I were less than a foot behind Sadie and
no other children were directly around us. Tammy said hello
to Sadie twice, not just once, and there was no acknowledgment.
That was upsetting to Tammy, and she started to get
teary eyed. I felt bad for Tammy, because I know
how anxious she gets around your kids. What Tammy did
not deserve to start off the school year in this manner.
I called Sadie and her actions. I said to her, well,
that was rude. Nothing more and nothing less was said.
I just called a spade a spade. There was no tone.
I was just matter of fact about what had transpired.
Sadie clearly heard that. She spun around and looked at
us again, not saying a word. Sadie could have said what,
or I didn't hear you or something. At least it
would have been some sort of communication. Oh Linnette, Oh
my god? Should I go on? Yeah, because it gets crazier, yes,
oh yeah. And also paragraph after paragraph about Tammy's about
Sadie not saying hello to Tammy. So far, no mention
of it at all about her daughter outing Xander two
years in a row, right, outing my kid going to
a strange a new kid and going, hey, I think
think you should know that your kid, that Xander is
not really a boy. Right. I know the fuck I know,
but she's okay, okay, at least okay. She could have
said what or I didn't hear you or something at
least it would have been some sort of communication. Now,
this part I'm about to read is not going to
make sense to you. But no, it also makes no
sense to me. Oh no, it makes no say, I
don't even understand what she's talking about. Because Tammy tried
to apologize multiple times after the incident, and your daughter
again would not acknowledge Tammy. I knew this was all
a power play. Sadie kept walking away from Tammy, not
looking at her, and certainly not speaking directly back to Tammy.
This might be considered bad communication skills. If the shoe
had been on the other foot, Tammy would have been
sympathetic and forgiven Sadie. Okay, well, I don't know what happened.
It needs that her daughter needed to apologize to my daughter.
Sadie's never said anything about about about Tammy doing something
thing and then apologizing whatever.
Speaker 3: Oh so wait, she told Xander that my family hates
your family, not Sadie.
Speaker 1: So it wouldn't be that. No, it wouldn't be anything
that has to do with Xander.
Speaker 3: It's all it's all been with Xander, right, it's.
Speaker 1: All in her head. I don't know what she's talking about. Also,
this was the first day of school, first thing in
the morning, first day of school. So could what could
Tammy have done to Sadie that she's already having to
apologize for her right unless it was last year, I
don't know what she's talking about. Okay, here we go.
Uh So, in the spirit of communication, blaming Tammy or
I for Sadie's actions is all in caps not appropriate.
Other parents saw Sadie's behavior at the basketball courts too. Seriously,
this was the first day of school and Tammy did
not deserve this treatment. All of this junk because your
daughter cannot be civil? Why can't she be question mark
question mark? How hard is it to say hello and
be warm? Question mark question mark? Oh my yeah, as
far as your previous email is concerned, I spoke to
Tammy about it. You never asked to speak or exchange
thoughts in your email. It was your way or the highway,
and that was the tone. She's right. Your email was
cold and borderline offensive because you made your demands on
Tammy and then what question mark question mark. I think
it's funny that you have spun this into I did
not respond to your email. You didn't want to response.
You just wanted me to muzzle Tammy. She's insane. In
response to this email, I have given you a very
wide berth throughout the years. You started maligning me when
Tammy was in kindergarten. I don't know why, and at
this point I don't care about your excuses slash justifications.
It's really tacky on your part. Again, in response to
this email, I have never said hate at this school.
If you knew me at all, that word is not
in my vocabulary. Please do not hold on because coming
up is where she calls where she is going to
claim that Sadie's bullied her. Really the mother, Yeah, apparently
Sadie bullied her by not saying hello. Yes. Please do
not flatter yourself with that kind of emotion and vehemence.
That takes way too much time and energy, and you
are not worthy. I admit I'm not warm and fuzzy
when it comes to you. I think Xander's fine. Tammy
adores Lbie. Sadie has not been in most of Tammy's classes,
so I don't have a sense what to think. I
only get what I hear from Tammy. Most of the
commentary I take with a grain of salt. However, Sadie
has been addressed as a bully many times by Tammy.
She causes my daughter a huge amount of anxiety. This
happens to be the only reason I want to have
any discussion with you. Your husband and I have had
maybe a few words total exchange over the years. Certainly
cannot have an opinion on him. So as you accuse
me of quote hating your family in this email, I
think that cries victim. I am not going to pander
to you or misaligned an ignorant commentary. Another thing that
bothers me about this email is that you called me
out as making Snyde remarks to Sadie. This is untrue.
She was mean to my daughter, and I called her
out on it. I would do that anytime and anywhere
and to anyone. It is an injustice to my daughter,
and I will stand up to that, even in a
ten year old package. Again, the actions lean toward bully.
If Sadie is going to bully me and tell you whatever,
then I have to defend my child. Sorry, call me
a mother, Oh my god, not done. You might remember
that it was Tammy that befriended Matilda back in the
beginning of kindergarten. She was being picked on because of
the bathroom issues, how Matilda dressed, et cetera. Okay, I
want to fucking punch this bitch in the face. Fish.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I told Tammy that she should go over and say
hello to your child. Tammy was pivotal in bringing kindergarten
children's opinion around. Tammy played with Matilda slash Xander, and
soon after other kids too. I told Tammy, it doesn't
matter what someone looks like on the outside. What matters
is on the inside. Okay, interjection here as to the
fact that Xander every if people remember from way back then,
didn't have a problem with the kids in the kindergarten class.
It was some older kids in the bathroom that wouldn't
let him in the bathroom. Had nothing to do with
his actual kids in his class. These kids are four
and five years old. They weren't judging him. They don't,
they don't think. They weren't thinking about what clothes he wears.
It was the older kids that there was a problem.
So we didn't no, thank you, We didn't need Tammy.
What is he the kid from wonder What does he
have a deformed face like? And she helped other kids
not be afraid? Fuck is she taking? Okay? Yeah? But
then it gets then the crazy just keeps rolling. What question? Yeah,
oh yeah, here's the end of that part. And what
matters is on the inside question new paragraph, new paragraph?
When you ret me with the phrase in capital letters,
and if I hear anything else, I'm going to tell
the principle what does that exactly mean? Are you gonna
spank me? Are you gonna get me kicked out of school?
Are you gonna malign me more than you already have?
And dare I say that quote? Telling the principle sounds
a bit infantile. I like to hash things out. I
like to own my mistakes. I don't really think the
New Principle has time for this nonsense. I'm just calling
a spade a spade. You have single Tammy out and
your children bully mine. And by the way, she just
finished telling me that her daughter loves Elbie and that
Xander's great, But now suddenly our whole family bullies. You
have twins and Tammy is a single child. Elbie's older,
but there's a sibling support that my daughter cannot enjoy.
You clearly have a problem with me, So bring whatever
your issues are to my attention. Let's communicate with one another.
Maybe if we do. Okay, so she tries to end
on this note, but wait, there's a PS. Maybe if
you If we do, then our children will too. Thanks
for your time. PS. This is the part where I
just lost my mind and forwarded the whole thing to
the principal. PS. My daughter did not lie about Xander,
Tammy answered a direct question from Bob. How is that inappropriate?
Question mark question mark? It would have been far worse
had my child lied. I don't think my daughter was
malice in any way, shape or form. Tammy was a
matter of fact that Xander was originally a girl. A
nine year old does not have the conceptual understanding of
transgender issues. Your thought process made the truth malice and inappropriate?
Exactly how does that work? Question mark question mark? Should
my daughter have lied and said no? This is another
thing we need to iron out. Thanks again.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Oh don't say I never give you anything.
Speaker 3: No, that shit had a bow on it. That was
the best ever. I can't well, I can, but I can't.
I can't believe she's I mean, at first I was
really boiling, but then I was like, all right, this
woman is fucking clearly.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know she's crazy. But here's the thing.
Speaker 3: This taking out the fact that her kid's an only
child and doesn't have the luxury of a support from
an old.
Speaker 1: And my daughter's now because my daughter didn't say hi,
And let's just assume worst case scenario. Let's just let's
just assume that Sadie completely was icing Tammy.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 1: First of all, would have good reason to, because she
is kind of she feels bad for Xander. Then Xander
is really nice to Tammy, always has been, and so whatever,
Sadie doesn't owe it to anybody. And you know what,
you know, she doesn't want to say hi. She doesn't
have to say hi. That's it, you she this woman
walks her kid into school. She always like she's super helicoptering,
so her daughter is never alone, like walking, and she
just like walks her in, walks her to class. And
I told you she has to spend like a half
hour after class every day talking to the teachers about
Tammy and how Tammy's day was and like that. So
it's like a crazy person. But here's the thing that
makes my blood boil. It's like, so she gets to
just do whatever she wants and talks to my kid
the way she wants to, just because.
Speaker 3: She feels like it because she's crazy.
Speaker 1: So then I was so mad. I was mad for
days and n and then John did say he's like, okay,
you're over This is an overreaction. This has to be
like something old. And I was like, well, it's just
because I feel so out of control because we're not
Like I can't go punch her, I know, but you
want to. And I can't say anything to her because
she's so crazy that I don't want I'm not going
to have.
Speaker 3: Like a weird yeah I know, yeah, I want to
look crazy arguing with her, right.
Speaker 1: So I sent it to the principal and then the
principal wrote back and was like that we're going to
have a meeting and I was like okay, and then
she was like, so this is we don't want any
kids to feel like unsafe. You know, So is this
your claim one that your child was outed by Tammy
and be that Tammy's mom yelled at Sadie and I
was like, yep, those are my claims. So we're having
a meeting. I don't know what good. It's going to
do to have a meeting about Oh my god, can
you like record it? Yeah? Anyway? Good one? Huh?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I have nothing to say.
Speaker 1: I know all right, that's Patreon. Tell a friend. Oh like,
not too many friends, and certainly not any that go
to my school.
Speaker 3: Stay away from Tammy's bye. Oh my god, that's crazy.
I would have been so fucking pissed off if I were.
Speaker 5: I've been alone with you inside my mind, in my dreams.
Speaker 4: I've kissed your lips a thousand times. I sometimes see
you pass outside my door. Hello, is it me you're
looking for? I can see it in your eyes, I
can see it in your smile.
Speaker 2: You're all I've.
Speaker 5: Ever wanted in the house book wide. Of course, you
know just what to say, and you know just what
to do.
Speaker 1: Now. I want to tell you so.
Speaker 2: Much have you.
Speaker 1: Of you?
Speaker 4: I long to see the sunlight your hair, till you
time and time again how much I care, And sometimes
I feel my heart will overflow. Hello, I've just got
to let.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 4: Because I wonder where you.
Speaker 5: Are and I wonder what you do.
Speaker 4: Are you somewhere in Goldy someone love you?
Speaker 2: Tell me holloween your hearts before I have.
Speaker 4: I got it too, but let me start by.
Speaker 1: Saying, have you I love you?
Speaker 3: Check you Brooker.
Speaker 4: Hello, I've just got to let.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I wonder where you are and I wonder what you do.
Are you somewhere and go with me? Someone love you?
Tell me Halloween your heart before. I haven't got.
Speaker 4: A clue, but let me start by see
Speaker 1: I love you, love you,