WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.399 Hello, it's the Minnesota goodbye, Bailey and I are doing 2 00:00:03.439 --> 00:00:04.080 it today? 3 00:00:04.320 --> 00:00:05.879 Who so not solo? Duo? 4 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:06.400 Duo? 5 00:00:06.639 --> 00:00:09.080 Yeah, just think girls, we should probably talk about like 6 00:00:09.480 --> 00:00:13.720 ovulation and periods and crying. 7 00:00:14.480 --> 00:00:17.519 Everyone turns it off right away and like, okay, I'll 8 00:00:17.559 --> 00:00:21.760 listen when Dave's back. Nevermind, Well, we have lots of emails, 9 00:00:21.760 --> 00:00:24.399 so thanks to everyone who emailed, and we'll start with 10 00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:26.960 this one. They say, don't say my name. So longtime listener, 11 00:00:27.039 --> 00:00:30.839 first time writer. About a week away from our due 12 00:00:30.920 --> 00:00:33.439 date and we still haven't for sure picked out a 13 00:00:33.479 --> 00:00:36.159 name yet. We are down to three names and one 14 00:00:36.240 --> 00:00:38.479 name keeps coming up as a favorite, but are not 15 00:00:38.560 --> 00:00:40.880 really sure if it's a good name. Feel like there's 16 00:00:40.880 --> 00:00:43.079 a lot of pressure to choose a name, pressure anywhere 17 00:00:43.079 --> 00:00:45.560 from family and friends not liking it to kids bullying 18 00:00:45.600 --> 00:00:46.200 in the future. 19 00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:47.159 So here are the. 20 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:52.920 Names Grayson, Body, and Maverick, with Maverick being one of 21 00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:56.119 our favorites. What do you think? How does one pick 22 00:00:56.159 --> 00:01:00.640 a good name? Would love a sticker available? So interesting? 23 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:03.960 I don't have that experience. I don't think Bailey, you 24 00:01:03.960 --> 00:01:06.239 ever picked out a name besides well for your cat, 25 00:01:06.280 --> 00:01:06.840 for my cat. 26 00:01:07.040 --> 00:01:11.959 Yeah, gosh, I mean, honestly, if you like Maverick the best, 27 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:14.319 then go with Maverick, because like mav is a cool 28 00:01:15.000 --> 00:01:16.560 is a cool nickname for Maverick. 29 00:01:16.640 --> 00:01:19.200 I assume it's a boy. Maybe it's not. 30 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:21.480 I don't know, but I mean, I know a Grayson 31 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:24.159 who's really smart. I know a handful of Grayson's, not 32 00:01:24.200 --> 00:01:26.280 a handful like two that I really like and enjoy. 33 00:01:26.359 --> 00:01:29.159 Grayson's a good name, good solid person body. I don't 34 00:01:29.159 --> 00:01:31.400 know any but that's a cool fucking name. I think 35 00:01:31.400 --> 00:01:34.400 it's neat. And then yeah, Maverick is cool. It reminds 36 00:01:34.439 --> 00:01:36.799 me of you know, top Gun. Granted, I doubt your 37 00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:38.840 kid is gonna get made fun of for top Gun 38 00:01:39.200 --> 00:01:44.200 because that's not really in their uh their wheelhouse as babies. 39 00:01:44.519 --> 00:01:47.560 Right, I was gonna say I I would go with 40 00:01:47.680 --> 00:01:50.680 what keeps coming up. If Maverick's what keeps coming up, 41 00:01:50.799 --> 00:01:53.760 I think you're good. I don't really foresee any of 42 00:01:53.799 --> 00:01:56.719 those names having like kids bullied them. 43 00:01:56.959 --> 00:01:57.640 I don't know, I don't. 44 00:01:57.719 --> 00:01:59.959 I don't know how anyone would make fun of those. 45 00:02:00.200 --> 00:02:03.400 But I also am not a four year old kid. 46 00:02:03.200 --> 00:02:05.680 That bully body. 47 00:02:05.959 --> 00:02:09.960 Yeah, more like booty, you know, And I mean that's 48 00:02:10.199 --> 00:02:13.919 it's weird because like, regardless of their name, it's this 49 00:02:14.000 --> 00:02:16.319 is sad, little more bid, but it's likely they'll get 50 00:02:16.319 --> 00:02:18.439 bullied anyway for whatever their name is. I mean, my 51 00:02:18.520 --> 00:02:20.479 name is Bailey, and people would call me broccoli and 52 00:02:20.520 --> 00:02:23.080 then laugh about it, and I'm like, what what is happening. 53 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:25.280 It's not even it's not like my name is like 54 00:02:25.400 --> 00:02:26.479 butt cheeks or something. 55 00:02:26.560 --> 00:02:27.439 So I don't really know. 56 00:02:29.360 --> 00:02:32.039 In that vein, I say like, once it comes out, 57 00:02:32.520 --> 00:02:35.599 then you'll know, yeah, because sometimes people are like, yes, 58 00:02:35.719 --> 00:02:39.039 I'm held up, I'm it's Maverick on and that's cool, 59 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:42.199 like awesome that you have, like you know, the decision 60 00:02:42.240 --> 00:02:43.840 and this is the one that you want, you want 61 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:45.680 to go with. But then the second it comes out, 62 00:02:45.719 --> 00:02:47.960 you'll be like, this isn't a Maverick. Yeah, And that 63 00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:50.400 happens to people all the time. I like, my sister 64 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:52.000 had two names and she was like, well, it's gonna 65 00:02:52.000 --> 00:02:53.159 be one of these, and I'll find out when I 66 00:02:53.199 --> 00:02:54.039 see your face. 67 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:57.479 Right, yeah for sure. Okay, Well thanks for that one, 68 00:02:57.520 --> 00:02:59.960 and we'll move on to this. This says, Hey, Jenny 69 00:03:00.039 --> 00:03:02.879 and Bailey, it's Cyrus again. I was listening to the 70 00:03:02.919 --> 00:03:05.560 Minnesota Goodbye where you guys had been reading messages from 71 00:03:05.560 --> 00:03:08.520 a listener's group chat about the morning show. With that, 72 00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:10.759 a possible show idea dawned on me. What if you 73 00:03:10.800 --> 00:03:14.000 guys made a Dave Ryan show Discord. I assume most 74 00:03:14.039 --> 00:03:17.599 of you know nothing about Discord, correct, However, based on 75 00:03:17.680 --> 00:03:20.759 Bailey being a diehard D and D player, I'm guessing she. 76 00:03:20.800 --> 00:03:23.479 Does, I know a lot about Discord. 77 00:03:24.919 --> 00:03:27.280 And he goes on to kind of describe what Discord 78 00:03:27.400 --> 00:03:30.400 is like. You can have a general chat channel bot 79 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:34.800 moderators are available to filter out language and stuff like that. Uh, 80 00:03:34.840 --> 00:03:36.759 And then it says I could be completely wrong or 81 00:03:36.800 --> 00:03:38.960 over my head, but I just thought it could be 82 00:03:38.960 --> 00:03:41.240 a fun way for both of us, the listeners and 83 00:03:41.240 --> 00:03:43.280 you guys to expand and grow into an even closer 84 00:03:43.319 --> 00:03:43.919 knit community. 85 00:03:43.960 --> 00:03:44.599 Love you guys. 86 00:03:45.120 --> 00:03:47.479 And I actually only know about Discord because of Drake, 87 00:03:48.080 --> 00:03:51.719 because Drake is such a big namer. So I learned 88 00:03:51.719 --> 00:03:52.800 what Discord was. 89 00:03:52.800 --> 00:03:55.919 And I always refused to join Drake's Discord because I 90 00:03:55.960 --> 00:03:57.479 knew would be a bunch of weird dudes. 91 00:03:58.400 --> 00:04:01.280 Yeah, what do you do? What do you use Discord for? 92 00:04:01.560 --> 00:04:04.039 We The first time I started using Discord was in 93 00:04:04.120 --> 00:04:08.400 twenty twenty when obviously like everything shut down and I 94 00:04:08.520 --> 00:04:11.439 coach a high school speech team and we needed to 95 00:04:11.680 --> 00:04:15.159 somehow stay connected because speech wasn't like it didn't go away, 96 00:04:15.199 --> 00:04:18.160 it was just virtual. So we created a discord page 97 00:04:18.199 --> 00:04:20.560 so that we could all like communicate with each other. 98 00:04:21.160 --> 00:04:23.959 And it also like practice because you can do like 99 00:04:24.120 --> 00:04:26.439 video audio channels and so it would be kind of 100 00:04:26.480 --> 00:04:30.439 like you could zoom in different like channels on the 101 00:04:30.480 --> 00:04:31.279 discord page. 102 00:04:31.279 --> 00:04:33.639 But it was essentially just like a message board. 103 00:04:35.079 --> 00:04:38.199 And I mean I was super into message boards in like, 104 00:04:38.279 --> 00:04:39.879 you know, middle school, so I was like, oh, this 105 00:04:39.959 --> 00:04:43.480 is second nature here, and now I have them for yeah, 106 00:04:43.519 --> 00:04:46.720 like different Twitch streams or my D and D group 107 00:04:46.759 --> 00:04:50.800 has it. I'd say, like the only thing with making 108 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:52.920 a discord because I think, like, yeah, that's a good idea. 109 00:04:53.399 --> 00:04:55.959 It's very like community based, and it totally makes sense 110 00:04:56.879 --> 00:04:58.879 in order to you know, like you know, create a 111 00:04:58.879 --> 00:05:01.319 community and all be in one place so we can communicate. 112 00:05:01.879 --> 00:05:04.240 The only thing is that sometimes you cannot guarantee that 113 00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:07.199 it's going to go well because I'm in some discords 114 00:05:07.199 --> 00:05:10.079 that like it was started with like the best intentions 115 00:05:10.120 --> 00:05:14.040 in order to create you know, some community community, but 116 00:05:14.639 --> 00:05:18.000 if people aren't like posting on it regularly, then it 117 00:05:18.120 --> 00:05:19.879 just becomes like a weird little ghost land. 118 00:05:20.079 --> 00:05:20.879 Yeah. 119 00:05:21.240 --> 00:05:25.920 So yeah, I feel like there's definitely like a learning 120 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:28.759 curve or like an age curve with discord, where like 121 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:32.360 any of our listeners who are maybe like over forty 122 00:05:32.439 --> 00:05:35.040 seven would be like no, pure right. 123 00:05:35.160 --> 00:05:37.959 Yeah, but it's a great idea. So thanks for sending 124 00:05:37.959 --> 00:05:40.279 that along. Way I wrote it down, Yeah, we'll definitely 125 00:05:40.360 --> 00:05:43.680 consider it. I think there's just so many avenues of 126 00:05:43.759 --> 00:05:46.800 things that we try to get like a connection with, 127 00:05:46.839 --> 00:05:50.480 whether it's Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, like so many things 128 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:53.759 that it's it's really hard to add another one in, 129 00:05:54.000 --> 00:05:56.639 Like now there's the new social media platform that's trying 130 00:05:56.680 --> 00:05:59.839 to take over Twitter, Blue Sky. Yeah, and it's like, sure, 131 00:06:00.079 --> 00:06:03.000 did I start a username? Honestly, I did it based 132 00:06:03.000 --> 00:06:05.879 off of my website, not off of radio, because I 133 00:06:05.920 --> 00:06:07.879 tried to just get Jenny, and of course I was 134 00:06:07.920 --> 00:06:09.560 taken right away, and I was like, man, I thought 135 00:06:09.560 --> 00:06:12.439 I was like before that, I thought before everyone and 136 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:13.079 I wasn't. 137 00:06:13.160 --> 00:06:15.319 But anyways, but we'll consider it. 138 00:06:15.560 --> 00:06:18.040 Okay, next email says, Hi, my name is Haley, and 139 00:06:18.079 --> 00:06:20.279 I just wanted to write into comment on Jenny and 140 00:06:20.319 --> 00:06:22.720 how she talked about being pressured to get married and 141 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:25.279 have kids. First of all, I want to say, Jenny, 142 00:06:25.319 --> 00:06:28.160 you seem like such a kind, genuine, and thoughtful person. 143 00:06:28.240 --> 00:06:30.000 You are all so much fun to listen to. That's 144 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:30.519 very sweet. 145 00:06:30.519 --> 00:06:30.800 Thank you. 146 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:34.160 I wanted to share my thoughts and experiences on being 147 00:06:34.480 --> 00:06:37.199 a mother. I feel like women don't talk about the 148 00:06:37.240 --> 00:06:41.079 difficult parts of motherhood enough. Being a mom is crazy. 149 00:06:41.199 --> 00:06:44.040 I have three year old twins, oh my gosh, and 150 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:48.319 it's stressful, chaotic, overwhelming, and exhausting. Sometimes it feels lonely. 151 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:50.600 I work as a nurse thirty hours a week, and 152 00:06:50.639 --> 00:06:52.639 that's all I can handle at this point in my life, 153 00:06:52.639 --> 00:06:55.319 since my husband works such long hours, which leaves me 154 00:06:55.720 --> 00:06:58.639 with most of the responsibilities at home. As much as 155 00:06:58.639 --> 00:07:01.360 I love my kids, sometimes I wish I could work more. 156 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:03.800 I really admire a stay at home moms because I 157 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:06.600 truly believe that is the hardest job in the world 158 00:07:06.639 --> 00:07:10.160 and it requires tons of patience. I love my kids 159 00:07:10.319 --> 00:07:12.439 so much, I wouldn't trade them for the world. They 160 00:07:12.439 --> 00:07:14.800 are so much fun. But I will say I understand 161 00:07:14.839 --> 00:07:17.639 more so now that I have kids, why people choose 162 00:07:17.720 --> 00:07:21.959 not to have them. Shit's scary, she says. Your life 163 00:07:22.000 --> 00:07:25.160 is not your life anymore. It is consumed by tiny beans. 164 00:07:25.319 --> 00:07:27.720 One thing I enjoy doing for myself is working out. 165 00:07:27.759 --> 00:07:30.160 It's definitely harder to find the time to exercise when 166 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:32.600 you have kids. I managed to make it a priority, 167 00:07:32.639 --> 00:07:35.680 but sometimes I feel selfish for doing so. I always 168 00:07:35.759 --> 00:07:37.839 knew I wanted to be a mom. I struggled to 169 00:07:37.839 --> 00:07:40.240 get pregnant when my husband and I first started trying. 170 00:07:40.680 --> 00:07:43.319 While I was struggling trying to conceive, someone said to me, 171 00:07:43.759 --> 00:07:45.560 if it doesn't work out for you to have children, 172 00:07:45.639 --> 00:07:47.519 I want you to know there are so many other 173 00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:51.000 things in life that make it wonderful and fulfilling. Also, 174 00:07:51.199 --> 00:07:53.759 kids are cute when they're little, but sometimes they grow 175 00:07:54.439 --> 00:07:56.959 up to be a holes and who wants to deal 176 00:07:57.000 --> 00:07:59.920 with that. This was something I desperately needed to hear 177 00:08:00.000 --> 00:08:01.560 at that point in my life, so I thought i'd 178 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:03.519 share it with you, Jenny. I hope you know that 179 00:08:03.560 --> 00:08:06.480 whatever you decide to do with your life and your body, 180 00:08:06.519 --> 00:08:08.959 you are more than enough just the way you are. 181 00:08:09.319 --> 00:08:11.959 Best wishes to you, Haley. I'm going to say that 182 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:13.639 one more time. When someone said to her, just in 183 00:08:13.680 --> 00:08:16.720 case anyone else needs to hear it. It says, if 184 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:18.680 it doesn't work out for you to have children, I 185 00:08:18.720 --> 00:08:20.560 want you to know there are so many other things 186 00:08:20.560 --> 00:08:24.000 in life that would that make it wonderful and fulfilling. Also, 187 00:08:24.079 --> 00:08:26.160 kids are cute when they're little, but sometimes they grow 188 00:08:26.199 --> 00:08:27.680 up to be a holes and who wants to deal 189 00:08:27.720 --> 00:08:30.000 with that? So maybe someone else needed to hear that 190 00:08:30.120 --> 00:08:32.879 today because that's nice. Well, thank you, Haley. That is 191 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:36.440 that's nice of you to email and about that one. 192 00:08:36.600 --> 00:08:39.080 Yeah, that's super valid too, because I feel like that 193 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:40.799 all the time, where I'm like, Okay, if I don't 194 00:08:41.279 --> 00:08:43.360 have kids in my life, well I still have well, 195 00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:45.159 I still have value, which I think is a thing 196 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:49.799 that all women worry about. Yeah, but I really like 197 00:08:49.879 --> 00:08:52.440 my life the way it is, So if I had 198 00:08:52.440 --> 00:08:55.840 a kid, my life would definitely change. And people are like, oh, 199 00:08:55.840 --> 00:08:58.159 if you have kids, like, your life doesn't have to change. 200 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:00.759 It will just like alter a lie little bit, it'll 201 00:09:00.799 --> 00:09:03.159 shift or whatever, but you can still be the person 202 00:09:03.200 --> 00:09:04.639 you want to be. And I'm like, no, because I've 203 00:09:04.679 --> 00:09:07.039 seen my friends have kids and I've known them in 204 00:09:07.080 --> 00:09:09.080 one way and now I know them in a different way, 205 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:12.080 and your life changes if you go, go go, then 206 00:09:12.080 --> 00:09:14.519 your life slows down because you're forced to slow down. 207 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:17.679 So like, that's not what I want to. 208 00:09:17.919 --> 00:09:22.399 So yeah, I trust me, Bailly and I both like 209 00:09:22.960 --> 00:09:25.320 you have a niece and I have a niece and nephew, 210 00:09:25.360 --> 00:09:27.480 and you know, I've grown up like babysitting in stude. 211 00:09:27.519 --> 00:09:29.840 I love kids. I don't get me wrong, I love kids. 212 00:09:30.200 --> 00:09:32.759 I just don't know for sure still if it's for me. 213 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:34.360 So anyways, it's just. 214 00:09:34.279 --> 00:09:35.720 Such a weird thing to have to think about all. 215 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:38.320 It is a weird thing, and it sucks for I 216 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:41.879 think a lot of women who don't have that innate 217 00:09:42.120 --> 00:09:47.120 maternal desire because your society does expect that from women, 218 00:09:47.360 --> 00:09:50.159 I think, whereas like they don't expect it as much 219 00:09:50.159 --> 00:09:52.559 from men. Obviously, they expect you to be a good 220 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:54.559 dad if you guys decide to have kids, but it's 221 00:09:54.559 --> 00:09:57.000 just not questioned as much with men. 222 00:09:57.159 --> 00:09:58.519 So okay. 223 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:01.279 Here is another one, says Hey g sang Lucas again, 224 00:10:01.639 --> 00:10:04.600 writing in you guys were talking about tipping for servers, 225 00:10:04.600 --> 00:10:06.799 and it brought up another thing that the service industry 226 00:10:06.919 --> 00:10:08.200 scarred me for life. 227 00:10:08.480 --> 00:10:09.399 This one is for Jenny. 228 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:11.360 I used to work in the service industry, from server 229 00:10:11.480 --> 00:10:14.759 to bartender to bar manager. My question to you, Jenny 230 00:10:14.840 --> 00:10:18.679 is how bad do you analyze a restaurant? From customer service, cleanliness, 231 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:21.000 timing of food, receiving drinks, et cetera. 232 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:23.480 To answer your question, Lucas. 233 00:10:23.279 --> 00:10:27.600 I would say that I actually I might judge of 234 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:32.200 like what's happening, but I also give so much grace. 235 00:10:32.279 --> 00:10:34.799 I guess you could say, yeah, just because I have 236 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:37.159 had really bad days where I've had to go in 237 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:39.000 and put a smile on my face and work for 238 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:42.159 that damn tip. And I probably wasn't the greatest server, 239 00:10:42.519 --> 00:10:44.879 but you know there are days also where someone is 240 00:10:44.919 --> 00:10:46.960 so slammed and they just like can't get to I 241 00:10:47.000 --> 00:10:49.080 just had a server nightmare last night. Actually, and I 242 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:50.919 don't know why that shit still happens to me, but 243 00:10:51.000 --> 00:10:53.879 it does. Was like the most intense work nightmares I 244 00:10:53.960 --> 00:10:54.600 still get. 245 00:10:55.080 --> 00:10:55.679 It's wild. 246 00:10:55.720 --> 00:10:57.399 I couldn't like get my socks on, to put my 247 00:10:57.399 --> 00:10:59.519 shoes on to start my shift. That was what was happening. 248 00:10:59.519 --> 00:11:02.480 I was like in the Bubba Gump's kitchen. So anyways, 249 00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:05.200 I would say that I do analyze it. I give 250 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:07.480 a lot of grace though, but yeah, you're right. I 251 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:10.360 am curious when someone doesn't greet the table for like 252 00:11:10.519 --> 00:11:13.039 fiveish minutes, because I was under the like you greet 253 00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:18.200 within like sixty seconds kind of mindset. So anyways, this person, Lucas, 254 00:11:18.279 --> 00:11:20.559 keeps going on saying, I can say ever since I 255 00:11:20.600 --> 00:11:24.000 got out of serving back in twenty fifteen, I now 256 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:26.720 sell appliances. Hope your fridge is going well. I helped 257 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:28.240 you in the store that day you came in last 258 00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:30.360 year to buy one. Oh thank you, Lucas. Yeah, I 259 00:11:30.360 --> 00:11:33.600 got a new fridge from Warner Stallion last year and 260 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:37.039 he was very, very helpful. I rarely ever want to 261 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:39.399 go out to eat anymore, he says. The moment I 262 00:11:39.440 --> 00:11:42.159 step in anywhere, I see how dirty tables are, then 263 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:44.879 see if anyone is not being helped. Then get to 264 00:11:45.240 --> 00:11:47.240 how long does it take for someone to greet us? 265 00:11:47.279 --> 00:11:50.679 So I've chosen to sacrifice the heat of my food 266 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:54.279 and do takeout rather than sit there and analyze everything. 267 00:11:54.279 --> 00:11:56.320 Don't get me wrong, It's not all places are dirty 268 00:11:56.360 --> 00:11:58.600 or dysfunctional. But I even see if the server will 269 00:11:58.679 --> 00:12:01.360 keep our drinks filled and also bus our tables, if 270 00:12:01.360 --> 00:12:04.240 we show we're doing it, if we show we're done 271 00:12:04.320 --> 00:12:07.600 with something, I know this is much more analytical to 272 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:10.279 most people, but being in the industry for a long 273 00:12:10.320 --> 00:12:11.759 time did some shit to me. 274 00:12:11.840 --> 00:12:14.039 Any who keep up the great content, I have more 275 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:14.399 to send. 276 00:12:14.440 --> 00:12:19.600 And if emails are light, lickety dart dart lick right. 277 00:12:20.480 --> 00:12:23.039 And that comes from Lucas. Lucas, you are a critic. 278 00:12:23.440 --> 00:12:25.639 You are a critic of the service industry, and I 279 00:12:25.720 --> 00:12:26.360 love it. 280 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:29.360 I mean, at least somebody's got to be so Lucas 281 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:31.240 is here to step up. I did not work in 282 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:33.559 the service industry, but I did work in retail, and 283 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:35.480 I feel like that walking into any store if someone 284 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:38.759 doesn't go hello, yeah, like are you kidding me? Right? 285 00:12:38.840 --> 00:12:41.440 Who is anyone here? Or like stand at the counter. 286 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:43.240 And wait and you're like ignored it and stuff. 287 00:12:43.279 --> 00:12:45.200 I will tell you I have been going to the 288 00:12:45.240 --> 00:12:48.120 same Caribou to get coffee since I moved into my 289 00:12:48.320 --> 00:12:51.120 house three years ago. It's the same one whatever. I 290 00:12:51.159 --> 00:12:55.159 go on Friday mornings to treat myself and I don't 291 00:12:55.200 --> 00:12:57.159 really care. It's early in the morning. Some people aren't 292 00:12:57.159 --> 00:12:59.000 morning people. They got stuck on that shift. It is 293 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:01.080 what it is. And usually people like don't even say 294 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:03.080 anything to me because I order a head, grab my drink, 295 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:03.639 and I walk out. 296 00:13:03.720 --> 00:13:03.960 Yeah. 297 00:13:04.000 --> 00:13:06.080 Well, there's like a new guy who's been working there 298 00:13:06.120 --> 00:13:08.240 the last few months. And I always say good morning 299 00:13:08.240 --> 00:13:10.759 no matter what, even if nobody responds to yeah. And 300 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:13.879 today he looked at my drink to say my name 301 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:16.799 and everything, and like, I think he's recognizing that I 302 00:13:16.840 --> 00:13:18.200 come in every Friday. 303 00:13:17.840 --> 00:13:20.639 Now and he's like, well, like, how's your day, Like 304 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:21.240 have a great day? 305 00:13:21.279 --> 00:13:23.480 And I was like, oh man, you aren't my new 306 00:13:23.519 --> 00:13:26.840 favorite person here on Friday mornings. 307 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:29.759 It doesn't take that much, right, right. 308 00:13:30.519 --> 00:13:34.320 Another one comes in from our good friend Charise. It says, hi, 309 00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:37.399 Jenny and Bailey, it's Charise, and I need some advice 310 00:13:38.000 --> 00:13:40.919 against my better judgment. I listened to my best friend 311 00:13:40.919 --> 00:13:45.200 and put myself back on a dating site. I have 312 00:13:45.279 --> 00:13:47.720 had a few guys contact me and ghost me within 313 00:13:47.759 --> 00:13:50.240 a couple of days. Classic I did finally meet one 314 00:13:50.240 --> 00:13:52.480 guy in person, and we've hung out a few times already. 315 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:55.080 He's nice and funny and sweet to me. The only 316 00:13:55.159 --> 00:13:58.240 issue is he's always tired from work. It's kind of 317 00:13:58.279 --> 00:14:00.519 hard to make plans with him because he's always so 318 00:14:00.639 --> 00:14:03.320 tired after work. He immediately passes out when he gets home. 319 00:14:03.720 --> 00:14:05.600 I don't think he's seen anyone else. But I could 320 00:14:05.639 --> 00:14:08.240 be wrong, but I just don't get that vibe from him. 321 00:14:08.480 --> 00:14:10.679 He's a full time delivery driver by the way. I 322 00:14:10.799 --> 00:14:13.000 like him and would love to keep seeing him, but 323 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:16.080 I don't know about the always being exhausted. I keep 324 00:14:16.120 --> 00:14:18.480 asking myself, is this really worth it? Or should I 325 00:14:18.519 --> 00:14:21.080 just cut my losses before I get too attached. Any 326 00:14:21.080 --> 00:14:22.759 advice would be greatly appreciated. 327 00:14:22.759 --> 00:14:25.799 Thank you. What do you think, Bailey Man? 328 00:14:26.080 --> 00:14:29.320 I gosh, if he's always exhausted, obviously, if you've only 329 00:14:29.320 --> 00:14:31.440 gone on a handful of dates with him, like, what's 330 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:34.480 another few dates? Because like you don't have to marry him, 331 00:14:34.480 --> 00:14:38.440 it's early on, so like i'd say see it through 332 00:14:38.559 --> 00:14:41.639 just like a little bit longer. But if he's like 333 00:14:41.639 --> 00:14:45.480 like constantly exhausted and that's going to, like, you know, 334 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:48.519 color your relationship for the rest of time, ugh, I 335 00:14:48.559 --> 00:14:52.639 would not be into it. I feel like having energy, 336 00:14:52.759 --> 00:14:55.200 like when you're with someone that you're supposed to be 337 00:14:55.279 --> 00:14:58.240 interested in, is so important. Like if I show up 338 00:14:58.240 --> 00:14:59.720 to your house to go on a date and you're 339 00:14:59.720 --> 00:15:01.960 not excited to see me, why the hell am I there? 340 00:15:02.559 --> 00:15:08.039 So I totally gets you there, but I mean there's 341 00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:10.080 time for him to turn around. I mean, yeah, I 342 00:15:10.080 --> 00:15:11.480 feel like it'd be weird to be like, hey, do 343 00:15:11.559 --> 00:15:13.759 you take a nap today? Maybe you should, Hey, I 344 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.679 bought you some Celsius energy drink or whatever. 345 00:15:17.159 --> 00:15:21.559 But like, if he's into you, he should be awake 346 00:15:21.759 --> 00:15:22.159 for it. 347 00:15:22.480 --> 00:15:23.320 Yeah. 348 00:15:23.480 --> 00:15:26.159 Yeah, that's how I feel, Jenny, how do you think I. 349 00:15:26.120 --> 00:15:27.799 Agree to an extent? 350 00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:30.399 But also, since we do mornings, I am a tired 351 00:15:30.440 --> 00:15:34.480 girl in the afternoon, right, but I make listen. I 352 00:15:34.519 --> 00:15:36.960 can't speak for delivery drivers because they work like twelve 353 00:15:36.960 --> 00:15:40.320 hour shifts sometimes, like they work really long shifts, and 354 00:15:40.399 --> 00:15:43.200 so I know that it's exhausting and they're doing like 355 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:45.639 physical work. I sit my ass on a chair and 356 00:15:45.720 --> 00:15:46.720 talk to the microphone. 357 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:48.120 You know, big difference. 358 00:15:48.320 --> 00:15:53.279 Yeah, there, Physically we don't work hard, but mentally it, yes, 359 00:15:53.399 --> 00:15:54.559 we work a little bit harder. 360 00:15:54.679 --> 00:15:56.879 Well, not harder, we work hard mentally, yes. 361 00:15:56.960 --> 00:15:59.240 So I would say, like, I've definitely been that tired 362 00:15:59.279 --> 00:16:02.240 person in a really before, but I make an effort 363 00:16:02.279 --> 00:16:04.799 to you know, get my nap in or do what 364 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:06.559 I can to make sure that when I'm hanging out 365 00:16:06.559 --> 00:16:09.279 with that person, I'm going to be like up. 366 00:16:09.159 --> 00:16:11.320 And bubbly and whatever bank your sea. 367 00:16:11.600 --> 00:16:14.120 Yeah, So I don't know, maybe there's some solution that 368 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:16.080 maybe he gets a quick little nap and before you 369 00:16:16.080 --> 00:16:17.919 guys hang out and then he's got more energy. But 370 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:21.240 I would say if it's a constant, like this is 371 00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:24.960 what Dave says, you can either bring energy into a 372 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:26.879 room or suck it out. Yeah, and if you're constantly 373 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:28.600 hanging out with him and he feels like an energy 374 00:16:28.639 --> 00:16:31.600 suck because he's so tired, Yeah, then that might that's 375 00:16:31.639 --> 00:16:33.559 just not fun. And we know Scheries. She is such 376 00:16:33.559 --> 00:16:38.240 a lovely kind right, and she's always smiling and stuff. 377 00:16:38.240 --> 00:16:41.840 So it's like you want someone who mimics your personality 378 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:43.200 to an extent because. 379 00:16:42.960 --> 00:16:44.759 If you're the only one bringing the energy, then like 380 00:16:45.320 --> 00:16:47.120 that's that's exhausting for you. 381 00:16:47.240 --> 00:16:49.080 So then you'll end up leaving after all these. 382 00:16:49.039 --> 00:16:52.039 Dates being like, oh man, yeah, I had to bring 383 00:16:52.120 --> 00:16:53.039 so much to that. 384 00:16:53.879 --> 00:16:56.399 So yeah, that's what that's what I would think he 385 00:16:56.440 --> 00:16:57.279 needs to rally. 386 00:16:57.480 --> 00:17:00.480 Yeah, Okay, we'll just do one more then we're going 387 00:17:00.480 --> 00:17:01.840 to wrap it up for today. But I know we 388 00:17:01.879 --> 00:17:03.720 have more we'll get to next week and Vant will 389 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:05.960 be here next week with us. Dave's going to be 390 00:17:05.960 --> 00:17:08.720 off for the week because he is in Colorado to 391 00:17:08.759 --> 00:17:11.480 celebrate Thanksgiving with his spam. So this says, Hey, guys, 392 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:13.720 I'll skip all the details because it would take a 393 00:17:13.759 --> 00:17:16.519 novel to explain, but cut into the chase. I am 394 00:17:16.559 --> 00:17:19.519 in a position where I need to choose between the safe, comfortable, 395 00:17:19.839 --> 00:17:24.160 nice guy or the toxic, fun bad guy. 396 00:17:24.759 --> 00:17:25.880 A couple of things to note. 397 00:17:25.960 --> 00:17:29.680 Nice guy is exactly that nice, but boring in every 398 00:17:29.799 --> 00:17:30.640 other aspect. 399 00:17:30.799 --> 00:17:32.480 This is the juiciest thing I've ever ready. 400 00:17:32.680 --> 00:17:37.319 The risky guy is hot, so good in bed, passionate fun, 401 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:40.880