Speaker 1: I made a discusion.
Speaker 2: Pay sunny Sun.
Speaker 1: I had a vision. Nice, let's help everybody. You have
my mic near me? What's up?
Speaker 3: I forgot we were doing a podcast. Yeah, I started chatting.
Speaker 1: Just stay chit chatting, and like, yeah, the mic is
like a foot away from me. Hello.
Speaker 3: I was like, I want I have some of this stuff.
I want to tell our audience. That's I was like,
kind of tm I, but then we just started tm iing, right,
we had a tm I off, Yeah, we did. Okay,
so mine is that and this is going to come
into play later. This is you'll see why this has
to do with our show today.
Speaker 2: But so I'm sporadic on.
Speaker 3: The what do you call it the GLP one, right, microdosing?
I mean the dose that the last dose I took,
I did three milligrams, but like then before that, I
went like three or like a month.
Speaker 1: I don't know the point.
Speaker 3: Really, you went like a month without and tell you
why though. So I was like I got really constipated.
And I was like, I mean, you get a little
constipated on the GLP one, but you don't get like
you can't go for a long for many days. You
just get you get a little constipated and then and
then you eat a bunch of fiber and then you're fine, right.
But for some reason, the last like two times ago,
when I took it, I was like, I am not pooping.
So I was so scared to do the golp one
again because I'm like, I gotta get this going. I
gotta get this literally going before I do that again,
because I can't go into another like full week of
not going to the bathroom. And I was taking I
always I'm somebody who's never been very regular, so I
always take senna like a natural.
Speaker 2: I always take I've taken that same since.
Speaker 3: I was literally the first time I started was I
was pregnant with LB, and I was like, I didn't
go to the bathroom for like eleven.
Speaker 1: Days when that's pregnant with elbe Yeah, me too.
Speaker 3: Then I got into a little bit of like low
dose of like laxative like every day, and I was
totally fine, and I know the directions they don't take
it for more than a week, will fuck off because
my body needs it. But anyway, even that was not helping.
So I'm like, well that's like fucked up. So then
last week I was like I remembered that doctor knock
around the last physical I had, he prescribed me a
weekly dose of vitamin D.
Speaker 1: Right me to describe you that, Yeah, he's given me. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So you go and you refill it once a month
and there's four pills and you take it once a week.
So the first week I took it, I remember thinking
to myself, I hope there's nothing like constipating about this.
Then I think I was fine, And then in my mind, coincidentally,
I was like, all of a sudden constipated, But I
know I didn't think it was from that. All of
a sudden, I was like, oh, it's time to take
my vitamin D. And then I was like, wait, just one,
I'm going to google this. Yeah, And I googled can
Vitamin D make you constipated? And the answer was only
in very high doses, like if you take eight let's
just say eighty I use or something, I don't remember
what it was. You're fine, just anything over that can
cause constipation.
Speaker 2: Then I go, well, let me go see what.
Speaker 3: The bottle says, and I swear to you it's like
one hundred thousand. I don't know, it's something really hits
crazy it's like ten thousand a day or right, I
think crazy, It's like, okay, it's at least fifty thousand.
It's some astronomical number that I was like, oh my god, no,
under I mean I have a sensitive system anyway. Things
make me constant, traveling bananas like banana chips. I've always
been like, can't eat plantains. Certain things throw me off.
I stopped taking it. So it had been like a
week and I just didn't take it and I'm fine.
Speaker 1: So it was that interesting.
Speaker 2: So what do I do do?
Speaker 1: I interested Diama, interesting. That is such a good impression.
Speaker 3: So what do I do do I just like sign
up for a lifetime of Osteo's process or maybe e
strigen bones every couple of years.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe you should take like a mir relax or
something while you're taking around the days that you have
to take the vitamin D.
Speaker 3: The vitamin D, though, is lasting because it's good for
a week, so you know what I mean, Like, but
is it?
Speaker 1: Oh hm? I thought it was like when you take
it like those like for the day or so.
Speaker 3: For the week, I'm constipated. And I was like, this
is just not good. I can't This is why I
was like, I can't do the GOLP as regularly as
I would like because it's causing But that wasn't the
side effect from the GOLP.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my friend that's on that's taking the GLP. She's
saying that a lot of people are getting constan she
it's the opposite for her, Like she was nauseous.
Speaker 3: She has had diary. It was given her diarrhea and stuff.
Oh I pray for diarrhea. I know, Lord bring me
the runs. Yeah sorry, but yeah, maybe you should ask
doctor knock around what he suggests. I guess I'm gonna
bet he's gonna say, well, take some mar relaxe or.
Speaker 2: I hate that stuff.
Speaker 1: I know. I feel like I'm always training for a
for a call office. I know, right, because I would
take my relaxe like, but you got to take it regularly.
You had just like take it and then it's not
you know, you have to take it regularly.
Speaker 3: I just remember being young and seeing my parents, well
my stepfather taking meta musle every day and thinking it.
Speaker 1: Was so gross. Yeah, how mule with your meta musle? Disgusting.
Howard Stern takes it with he puts it over, he
sprinkles it over his yogurt. It's like, hey, I have
my meda musical. Every morning, I put it on, I
sprinkle it over my yog I mix it in. Yeah,
and there's all kinds of things you could probably do.
I guess because vitamin D is good for you, you have
to Yeah, I know it is, but like, also pooping
is good.
Speaker 3: For you today, I'm true to your mental well being.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 3: So when I was okay, so I know that our
podcast has had enough UTI talk, but remember I then
I got one and then I got another one, and
I was like Jesus Christ, I think I had forgotten
to do my estrogen yeah thing for a little bit.
So I was like okay, So I got one, but
then I got another one and I thought it was
a continuation of the first one, but then the doctor
was like, nope, the brand new. It's just a new one.
So that was mad about that. So then I took
the antibiotic. Then I got a freakin' uh what do
you call it?
Speaker 1: YaST infection? Well, that's that's what happens. They should give
you the dflucan. This is like a medical show today,
Female Medicai, Female Health Stephanie. I was just like, why
what come on.
Speaker 2: God, why.
Speaker 1: I always have them give me the diflucan when you're
taking like any like antibiotics and stuff like that.
Speaker 3: So is diflucan just the anti fungal. It's the one pit.
Speaker 1: You just take the one pill and it'll prevent a
yeast infection when you're taking medication. So why did I
thing to ask for that? Yeah, you need to ask
for that or call doctor, knock around and ask him.
Speaker 3: Well, I just I went. I finally was It's like
a use. Infection is a little bit different tm I. Again,
when you're older, it's not the exact same. When you
are in symptoms, it's more kind of an itch burning thing.
And then you're like, oh my god, could this be
am I just wearing? Like did I just wear some
irritating underwear? And then you're like, nope, I just took
an ant to So I had to go get the
old monast at the worst.
Speaker 1: I hated that. Not a couple of days in a
row three day. Oh here's the thing. I don't want to.
Speaker 3: Sound like a really hack comedian, but so it comes
in different things.
Speaker 1: It's like there's like a one day, three day.
Speaker 3: And a seven day right, and aren't you just like,
why would you want to take the seven day?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: Who's like, you know what, this is pretty fun. I'll
do it for seven days. But then also, no, who's
going to buy just the one day because the one
day You're going to be like, well, what if I
do the one day and it doesn't work, I go,
I have to do another one day.
Speaker 1: So then you split the difference and do the three day. Yeah. Yeah,
but is.
Speaker 3: The seven day for if you're like, well, I just
have a really bad used infection.
Speaker 1: I never understood why they had the one, three, and seven.
That was just that's ridiculous. But next time ask me,
because I think I have extra diff lucan.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, hopefully I'll have a break because when we
were both getting all the UTIs it was a few
years ago.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Then I had a couple of good years. Smooth sailing, Yes,
smooth sailing. I'm going to be seeing doctor knock around
in a couple of weeks. Yeah, so you've got some lumps.
I do have a lum. I have a cut, not
my lady lumps.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I have this this like it's like a pie size
lump on my neck and I've drained it before, but
it comes back. So I looked it up and it's basically,
what do you how do you say that word? Subacious? Subacious?
I said, It's like a it's a nodule thing that
needs to be like taken out properly by a dermatologist.
So otherwise it's just going to keep coming back. And
that's what happened on my neck. So I'm making an
appointment for that. But then in the meantime, I have
this lump on my back. It's like the size of
a nickel. I think I just showed it to Stephanie
and it's like right to the right by my spine
and it's hard, and I kept thinking it was like
a clogged poor pimple or something. But it hasn't gone away.
I've had it for a while now, months, so and
I kind of forgot about it until recently I like
itching my back and I'm like, I felt it, and
I was like, oh, that thing's still there, so now
I got to get that checked out. So now that
thing makes me worried.
Speaker 3: So I felt I've just felt it, and it seemed
it definitely just felt like a cyst. Does that thing
do people just get cysts. Yeah, that it's what the
thing is on my neck, right, And it seems kind
of like maybe that's just a thing you get.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it could it could be, and people do get
it on their back as well as their neck.
Speaker 2: So I looked it up.
Speaker 1: There's icy pictures of it. It's it's everything they describe
is what does.
Speaker 3: Most cis are benign, bow growing and harmless, requiring no treatment. Okay,
only if they They only become dangerous if they grow
very large, become infected, rupture, or cause pain by pressing
on your organs.
Speaker 1: Now, but I mean I would definitely have him looked
at it. Well, I definitely am. Yeah, I'm going to
get both things checked out. So but I'm going to
go to a dermatologist for that.
Speaker 3: And it says do not attempt to squeeze or pop
a skin cyst too late.
Speaker 1: Too late? Wait, what did you just say?
Speaker 2: You what I said?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go see a dermatologist because I don't think
doctor knock Around's going to do anything about it. Don't
you think? I think I feel like he's just going
to go go see a dermatologist or something. I mean,
he can look at it. But yeah, whatever, let's talk that.
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you've been watching.
Speaker 1: Well, I've been watching. I watched the We can talk
about Temptation Island or do you want to? Do you
want me to spoil it?
Speaker 3: I mean we told people to watch it. Were they
able to watch the entire season in three days? Maybe? Not?
Speaker 1: Maybe?
Speaker 3: But well, do you have any overall thoughts about it?
Without spoiling it. You know, there's a dendum too, because
I read the spoilers and then something happened since the spoiler,
since the end. Oh really, what happened? One of the
couples that broke up got back together.
Speaker 1: Okay, that sounds that sounds about which couple? Do you know?
I want to say that, Yeah, there was two? No,
I think, Wow, I don't want to ruin it, but
just fast forward this one part. But like I believe
only one couple stayed together. Yeah, okay, so there was
the let's talk, there's the four couple. Mike and what's
her name? I don't remember her name, but yeah, he
was just an asshole. He was an asshole, and it
really came back to bite him in the ass because
he was miserable throughout the whole thing. When the first episode,
or the first two episodes, I was like, Oh, this
guy's gonna be cheating left and right. Nah, he was.
He was crying throughout the whole thing, was missing his girlfriend.
And you know, those bonfires are pretty brutal, you know,
when they show you your love of your life on
the other side of the island with all these dudes
or all these women and then they take things out
of context or you don't know the context of why
they're saying this thing, or what they're doing with this
other person, they're getting close to another person. It really
fucks with you. It fucks with your brain.
Speaker 2: I will say.
Speaker 1: Mark Wahlberg is an incredible He should be like a
therapy counselor he's he gives great advice.
Speaker 2: He's so good.
Speaker 1: I told you really, God, he was.
Speaker 3: The first the hole I worked at the dating show. Yeah,
and he was the first host I ever worked on
a show.
Speaker 1: With and he was amazing back then. Yeah, he is.
He's he gives great advice and he's been married forever.
Speaker 3: When they fired Chris Harrison from The Bachelor, they fucked up.
They should have brought in I mean, Jesse Palmer is great. Yeah,
Mark Wahlberg would have been great. He would have been great.
He would have been perfect for that. Yeah, he's he's
such a great guy. We should have him on. Maybe
we'll give it a little while and then we'll have
him on so people can watch it. So yeah, so
the all right fast forward more because more spoilers coming. Okay,
So the puffy big black hair guy, yes, puff head
Puff head they break up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well he just went buck wild as soon as
he he was. It was crazy, Like the first episode,
these couples are like, we're gonna be strong. We were
best wear each other's best friends, and we're going to
be married and blah blah blah, and and then as
soon as they like separate and go, they're different. They're
separate islands like this guy, this this he looks so
young too, by the way, he looks like a kid.
And she knows he's wearing like this like obnoxious like
pearl necklace kind of like like it looks like you
bought it at a drug store. Dude, get your hair
cut and get a different necklace. But anyway, yeah, he
just went buck wild and that was that. And his
girlfriend was like miserable for the first couple of days,
and then she was like, oh hell no, and then
she was like got her groove on, and then she
would just like fuck off. I bet they. I bet
it was them that got back together. No, I don't
think so.
Speaker 3: No, so so I remember she and some of her confessionals,
they were the ones that had been together a long
time but were super codependent. Yes, And she was going
around going like, yeah, I've only had one penis.
Speaker 1: Right, she was putting him down. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So there was another couple where the guy where
she was complaining because he'd put her down before, and
then when they were talking to him, he was like, yeah,
I don't know why I've done that, Like, I guess
I just don't know how much.
Speaker 2: That upset her. And right, the things that he was saying,
it did.
Speaker 3: Seem a little blown out of proportion because it seemed
like she was trapping him be like do I look
fat in these pants or whatever? No, but I want
your honest opinion. And then if he was let's say,
he was to say like, well some other pants might
look cute or whatever, then oh my god, do you
think I'm fat? Like it's one of those things where like, yeah,
I guess I gotta know better how to respond.
Speaker 1: To think she asks me yes, yeah. And I think
he wasn't very experienced being in a relationship. I think
it was his very first relation, like real relationship. Also,
those two were complete opposite. This guy was like fun, happy,
go lucky, easy going, wanted to do adventures, live life,
and she was one of these like tell your face girls,
like hey, are you having a good day. Yeah, well
tell your face, because she was just like miserable all
the time and just just everything was just like so
serious and they were not matched. Good. Well, I think
they're the ones that get back together. They were the
ones that stayed together. They did. That was the one.
Speaker 2: Well again, I can't tell you. I can't tell. So
it's the other blonde whities.
Speaker 1: Oh I hope it's not the other whitey couple that
look alike that broke up, because that was a good
decision that they broke up.
Speaker 3: Okay, well which ones were they? Blonde, blue eye girl,
all them saying what was their thing?
Speaker 1: White boy their thing? She was really really pretty and
out of his league. He was a blinker. He blinked
a lot. Oh okay, he had like a glitch going on,
like I don't know if it was nerves or something,
but yeah, he was the blinker. I don't know if
you noticed him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So what was the issue? One that was
like hard on? That was the she said, he makes
me feel bad about myself.
Speaker 1: She wanted spark in her life and he wasn't giving
her spark. I guess that was there. They didn't really
have that one issue that stood out kind of thing.
I think he cheated on her once. Maybe that was
their issue.
Speaker 3: Oh and then she didn't trust him anymore. Yeah, but
then he was like, I haven't even really done anything wrong.
Speaker 1: Right, yes, yes, So they got back together.
Speaker 3: That's stupid, Well it wasn't. The black couple. Yeah, did
not get back together.
Speaker 1: Yeah. She left with the other guy. Yeah, the hot guy. Yeah.
Felt they broke up.
Speaker 3: Okay, they broke up, Yeah, the hot guy in her Yeah,
they were a cute couple. I mean, she was so
out of the league of the guy that she came
in and she came in with And I got to say, like,
I mean I didn't watch every episode, but when they
were showing him when he first met the women that
were tempting him, he was being a dog. Yeah, he was, Oh,
I'm going to hook up with this one. I'm going
to hook up.
Speaker 1: With that one. Ye. And it's like it's not really her.
Speaker 3: Fault that none of those girls ended up wanting him really, right, right,
So he came in all cocky, right. His girlfriend saw that,
and that put it in her head that he didn't
give a shit about her. So she went in and
did her own experience. Fell in love with this other guy,
broke up with him, left the island with this other guy,
and it's like that's what you get, dude. But then
what really happened is he was all bark and no bite.
He was like talking like yeah, this chick's hot, this,
this and that, and then when he went he didn't
do anything. He didn't cross the line. He never kissed anybody,
He didn't do shit. All he did was cry, like
my heart broke for him a couple of times, was like.
Speaker 1: Because the girls didn't want to or is it because
he felt guilty? He was feeling He noticed early on
that she liked this one guy and he kept seeing
this guy in these videos at the bonfire, so it
was in his head that he was losing her and
so he was just not up for He just wanted
friends in the villa. There was other girl in the
villa that would have hooked up with him, but he
wasn't that kind of guy. He was always the fun, happy,
mighty jokester. Even one of the girls was like, if
that's what you want to be, cool, cool, but like fine,
we could just be friends, but if you want more,
then you got to be more, like you know, right
into it, right, So that's that's what happened with them.
But yeah, it was just interesting that the girls were
the ones that broke up with these guys, not the guys.
All the guys wanted to stay together, well except for
the puffy hair guy that was they were mutual, but
the other guys wanted to stay with their girls and
the other girls were like no bye.
Speaker 3: So that I found interesting. Yeah, it is interesting, but interesting. Interesting, interesting.
Speaker 2: That guy's a freaking cut it and he's the cutest.
You guys don't know.
Speaker 3: She's doing an impression of Dylan from Love on the Spectrum.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's freaking adorable.
Speaker 1: He's so cute. He's so cute, Tristine. I just loved
watching him on his date and the way he talked, Oh,
nice to meet you. I'm not like, I don't know,
I am a tate people all the time. So yeah,
he's just was so cute. It's with love.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I loved him. I love my favorite.
Speaker 1: I think him and Logan, Hell Logan. I loved Logan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, so I watched the thing. No, I listened
to a date, not a date?
Speaker 1: Do you want me to watch it or listen to it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I want to tell everybody though, okay, okay,
it was it was a forty eight hours. It's I
found the podcast, so I don't know if you can
watch it, but I just need you to listen, even
listen to the pod. Okay, I should try to go
back and watch it. Though it was called I cannot
find it.
Speaker 1: I tried, okay, well, but also there's a whole bunch
of forty there's forty eight hours. The first way you
know this forty eight hours.
Speaker 3: This is forty eight hours. This is like on your
podcast app. Okay, okay, so go to forty eight hours
on your podcast app.
Speaker 1: And the latest one.
Speaker 3: There'll be some new ones, but it's from four days
ago when we're recording this, and it's called Witness, okay,
and it's about it's about this couple that foster kids,
like a foster home. They've fostered like ninety kids, and
a little boy dies in their care and they.
Speaker 1: The older brother of the little boy.
Speaker 3: So it's the little boy who dies is like like
one and a half, let's just say, and the older
brother was three at the time or three and a half,
because he's then he's four, and he said that the
guy who the husband foster dad was the one who
did it, and it does seem way, although I just
want everybody to listen to it because one of the
theories is that the kid did it. Oh and I
kind of felt like that might be true, but like,
I feel crazy and all alone in this. But I
posted it on threads and somebody wrote I feel the
same way, So then I felt a little bit like, Okay,
we're good. Okay, I really I was like, as soon
as I listened to it, I was like, I need
a little nut.
Speaker 1: I need I know, I feel like I left you down.
I know it's all wrong because I like to watch it,
so I was luck looking for it and then I
was going to ask you, and then I completely forgot
about it. Yeah, but I'll listen to it, okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like, where do you find where do you
watch your forty eight hours on?
Speaker 2: Like Hulu?
Speaker 1: I don't really watch forty eight hours, but you can
find it on Paramount, on Paramount pas him. Paramount has
all the forty eight hours, Hulu has the twenty twenties,
and then Peacock has the dateline.
Speaker 3: I could probably also because I pay for regular cable
like Spectrum.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I could probably.
Speaker 3: Just watch it there. Yeah you can record, Yeah, I
could just go for it's like on demand, right right.
I pay for too many services, but it's because for
the Bachelor, I need to be able to watch ABC
United airs.
Speaker 1: Right right. Yeah, you know, Oh, I get it. I
get it. It's like a lot of money just for that.
It is all a shit. It's all expensive now, all
these apps, these these streaming stuff, you know. Yeah, should
we talk about Hers? Yeah, let's talk about hers speaking
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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well I wanted to I wanted to ask
you or tell you that I was so the other day.
Speaker 1: Maybe like.
Speaker 3: I've been feeling really tired since San Francisco, Northern California,
wherever I was, and then I just was taking like
walks with the dog and I was like, I'm having
like kind of shorter breath and feeling like a little
bit light headed, and I was like, what is going
on with me? And I swear to you, I figured
out that I'm just having anxiety and normally, you know,
like okay, I'm feeling anxious about this thing. And then
I realized, what's going on in my life right now?
Well I have to have I still haven't we still
haven't confirmed committed.
Speaker 1: To committed to college to Chapman, right and.
Speaker 3: It's just like I think it'll be great. Everybody says
it's great. I started freaking myself out, not okay. So
I was looking. I go on Reddit and I'm in
and no on Facebook and read it. But I was
on Facebook and I joined imaturely joined the SDSU Parents
Facebook group. When he got into SDSU, I got excited
and I was like, I have questions, let me join
this group. I think Robin turned me onto it because
her kid went there, so I was like, I think
she sent me a link, and I was like, oh good,
I'm gonna like if I have questions, I'm going to
ask these people. But then it was coming up to
good Facebook feed and somebody literally was like, Hey, my
kid got into Chapman and sd My kid's deciding between
Chapman and SDSU. Oh what do you guys think?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 2: I should have been keeping in mind.
Speaker 3: That this is literally a Facebook group of people who
have a kid at SDSU, so they're gonna be a
little bias. And there were some parents that were like, listen,
I've had a kid at both they're both grade schools.
But a couple of them were like, yeah, my kid
was deciding as well. But Chapman's really small and there's
like nothing to do there, and the town is cute,
but it's like a little walking town and there's some
cute stores, which, like I said, it was adorable. But
they're like, but there's nothing really to do, so if
they want to go do something they have to like
definitely need to be able to drive, which I'm like,
uhh okay. And also they were just like, it's just
a very small school. Well, it is a small school.
There's only like nine thousand kids there, or like eight
or nine thousand, which is pretty small, I guess if
you consider the fact that got's to spread across all
the different majors.
Speaker 2: On the other hand.
Speaker 3: Xander's done really well at a small school, so like
he's thrived at a small school. I feel like he'll
find his people, and I think he's going to be
with at Dodge College with all creative types, and I
think it will be fine. But I just started getting
anxious about it, and then I was like, oh my god.
And then so then I went I went to talk
to him because, like I said, we haven't committed yet,
and I was just like, hey, like, is there any
part of you that thinks that Chapman might be like
too small or have you been.
Speaker 2: Worried about that?
Speaker 3: Because we still could go see SDSU this week And
he was like, well, not really because I have a
really busy week with school because he's behind and a
lot of things. And he goes he's like, I have
so much going on at school, I just don't know
when we would go a STSU. And then he goes,
is it like a money thing? Can we not afford Chapman?
Speaker 1: Oh no?
Speaker 3: And I was like, no, that's not it. I go
in fact, SDSU is probably gonna end up being more
right right, And he was like, oh, okay, well no,
I'm fine with the size of it.
Speaker 1: Seems fine. And just because your mom is getting anxious
and was on all the Reddit pages, but it's.
Speaker 3: Like pretty kind of bad anxiety. And then I was thinking,
my anxious about that? Or is it just a lot
of change? And I'm just going to miss him so much.
This is a kid who has he hasn't slept at
a friend's house since I want to say, like like
maybe young grade school.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just like yeah, yeah, Sunny never did and.
Speaker 3: Never the last time he slept at someone's house. You
will probably remember this story. Oh my god, he had
this friend. This was fifth grade and this kid, remember
he went for a sleepover over there, do you remember.
I was kind of freaking out because I was like,
this family, there's something a little bit.
Speaker 1: They're very religious, and.
Speaker 3: I was like, and they do not know right right,
not that there would be any reason that any genitals
would be exposed, but I was like, ahh yeah, but
they were like, we wanted to sleepover. But then remember
that he was going to stay there, but the parents, no,
the kid and the mom got in a huge fight,
and the kid was screaming at the mom. Yeah, and
then she was screaming at him, and then Xander was
like hiding behind the couch, texting me please come get me.
Speaker 1: You remember, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's right. That was
the last time had a sleepover. I'm pretty sure. Wow.
And before that they weren't great, like he would go
but he didn't love it, right right, No, I mean
I've got to say I don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, yeah, he's never had a sleepover, I can
say foreshore right no, and he's never gone away to camp.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: He seems pretty chill about it though, so he's okay,
like that he's going to be living with other people.
I've never had a kid go away to school, I know.
Speaker 1: Well I'm not ready, Okay. I think it's completely normal.
First of all, because any parent, you know, when your
child is going to go off to school and live
on campus at the school, of course, like that's gonna come,
especially how we are as moms, Like it's going to
come with some anxiety, it's normal. But he's gonna be okay.
Speaker 3: He's such a he's so well adjusted and like is
such a like social. I do feel even though he
doesn't spend the night at people's houses, he's very social,
makes friends very easily.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he just chilly. He likes his house, he likes
his bed. Well, here's a nice thing. He's not that
far and I think that will give him in you know,
knowing that you're not saying that he's going to live
at home and go to school there, but you know,
he's not that far from home, so on weekends he
can come home, you know, things like that.
Speaker 3: It's not like I want him to go away. I
want him to have that experience.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he feels he wants to do it right,
he's not the one expressing anxiety.
Speaker 2: Look.
Speaker 3: I felt the same about Lbie going away. And then
I realized, oh, she's always home. Yeah, she's not always home.
Speaker 1: I mean she is.
Speaker 3: She she doesn't live at my house anymore, right, So
I have that's been an adjustment.
Speaker 1: But then I got two more at home. Yeah, so
I never have too much time to miss her, right right. Yeah,
you know.
Speaker 3: How it is because they come home frequently, right, And
you're lucky that you still have one home, because it
is it is a shock to the system when both
are gone, when everybody's gone.
Speaker 1: That's just like, uh okay, So like I don't have
to make dinner tonight, Like I don't have to ask
them what they want from the grocery store. You know,
it's just it's and then you know, you're like, what
are they? Are they okay? Are they? You know? I
still see them on my uh find my friends. So
you know there's times where I see Sonny out with
his friends and then like is he going to get
home because he walks everywhere, Like what if he's like
drinking and stuff and then he's going to stumble home.
I don't know, you know, those are the things that
go through my mind. Or is he going to pass
out somewhere. I don't worry that much about Natalia because
first of all, she's not a really big drinker like
she like experimented in high school. And second of all,
she's always with people like her best friends or her
roommates or her boyfriend. She's always with people. She never
like like where Sunni's like on his own kind of thing,
and then walks back to his apartment at the end
of a night. You know, I don't know. I think
it's it's totally normal and you're gonna have you go
through it, but it's so good for them, for them
to have that experience.
Speaker 3: Do you ever feel just this I don't even know
how to explain it. And we've talked about this before,
but we spend all these years, right, twenty years, Yeah,
I mean it's not even just eighteen, but let's just
say eighteen years. Yeah, full time parenting more than one kid, right,
you know, not that there's anything no shade to people
with one kid, but like that's your focus, but like
multiple kids, multiple needs of multiple kids, all day every day,
even when they're in school. You're like, you have to
beat your own call. The school could call you and
go everything's fine, but bloobbity blobberity block. Right, how many
calls have we I've taken a million, and you do
all that and like you make the adjustment to parenthood.
For me, it was a little bit later in life,
you know, So I had this whole life before that
I was so used to. Then bam, you've got this
different life and your whole meaning everything is about your
kids as much as I would and you and we
would do shows and make fun of being a bad
mom or being the mooch mom or whatever, not caring
that much.
Speaker 1: The truth is that we cared too much much, and we.
Speaker 3: Think about our kids all the time, and then like
we're just supposed to not like now it doesn't move out, No,
it doesn't stop, I know, but it's like crazy that
all of a sudden we're just supposed to have a different,
our own life.
Speaker 1: I didn't sign up to have my own life. I
don't have one.
Speaker 3: Yes, I know, my kids have kind of been my life,
right It is written books about it, we do a
podcast about it. And it's like they're not supposed to, I.
Speaker 1: Know, just go do their own thing. Yeah do I
think they are? Now?
Speaker 2: The hell I know it is.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, it's like it's an adjustment period. And
then you do, know, you get used to a whole
nother set of worries, you know, like I was saying,
like you just it just doesn't ever end.
Speaker 3: You know, You're all always going to get the phone call, like,
can you renew my prescription?
Speaker 1: Nike? I need to make an appointment. My eyes, my
contact lenses are they in net? Like blah blah blah.
Can you come up and make dinner for me and
my roommates? Yeah, it still goes, still goes on.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Alby's on a trip right now, and
she is not responding to my text. Though I know
she's fine because I can see where she is, think, think,
thank god I live through sixty.
Speaker 1: I know she's fine, but I'm like.
Speaker 3: What, why are you not like seeing my text and
going hi, momma.
Speaker 2: I'm fine.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's fine, like just no response, like, oh, you're
just doing your own.
Speaker 1: Thing, right. Sonny does that to me sometimes, like hello,
or he'll answer my text like twelve hours later or
the next day. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And for some reason, for this whole time, she's in
Oregon visiting friends, and for some reason, she has her
her notification silence. Oh really, bitch, why not for your mom?
Speaker 2: Though? Supersede everything.
Speaker 1: I hate that when people have that on, like, really
are you doing? That's so important? I sent her a
darts game.
Speaker 2: Oh you do that in game pigeon?
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute. No, she didn't play. She didn't play.
Did she even answer? No?
Speaker 3: Then I just sent her before when I was before
I drove over here, I just said checking on you.
Speaker 1: Nothing. Ah, that was when does she get back tomorrow? Okay?
Speaker 3: Oh right, and I'll be picking her up at the airport. Everybody,
I told you that. I I'm sure I told you
this that I was like supposed to drive her. She was,
she came home, and then I was supposed to drive
her to the airport. And then I had this moment.
I was going to have to leave to take her
at like six forty five in the morning because her
flight was early.
Speaker 1: And then I was just like, why am I going.
Speaker 2: To do that?
Speaker 1: Take an oper? Take an uber?
Speaker 3: I just sent some money. I just sent her some money.
I was like, hey, and I texted her at night.
I was like, you know what, can you just take
an Uber?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I had to take.
Speaker 3: Xander to school in the morning too. I wanted to
walk the dog. I was just like, why we no
bwing adults here? Right to take an uber? It's forty
bucks and I'll pick you up.
Speaker 1: And if she was like, of course, don't even worry
about It's totally fine, yeah, I now. It just it's
an automatic thing, like when Sunny comes to town, I'll
be picking you up. I'll be taking you to the airport.
But then there all are times where you're like and
he says it too, He's like, I can take an uber.
I'm like no, And also, did you have to go
to lax No, okay, it was just gonna be burbing.
But I just and normally I would and I have
taken her and picked her up many times, but I
just had like a it's early, yeah, no, and she's fine, Yeah, welladay,
the uber can take her there and then they're on
their own. I gotta then drive home exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, pick her up, it's better. Plus
I just spent plenty of time with her. We'd just
gone to lunch. We just we went on a target run.
She we you know, she's been home a bunch. So
I was like, yeah, anyway, yeah, you got.
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