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Speaker 2: Hello, and welcome to Fearless Fabulous.
Speaker 3: You.
Speaker 2: I am your host, Melanie Young. Thank you for joining
Speaker 2: me today. You can follow me on Melanie Fabulous at Instagram,
Speaker 2: and I invite you to check out Melanieyong dot com
Speaker 2: to learn more about who I am and what I do.
Speaker 2: I have been doing the show for eleven years. Sometimes
Speaker 2: I wonder if it's time to say goodbye, move on
Speaker 2: or not. But I'm constantly inspired every week to share
Speaker 2: something with you, my listeners. So I keep going. And
Speaker 2: keep going is a phrase we've been hearing all week
Speaker 2: as we watch the Democratic National Convention. Keep going as
Speaker 2: hard as the road ahead is, and the hard as
Speaker 2: the road behind us was, you keep going. It also
Speaker 2: brings up two terms that came to mind lately, but
Speaker 2: particularly last night, when I was watching former First Lady
Speaker 2: Michelle Obama give a powerful, powerful speech at the Democratic
Speaker 2: National Convention twenty twenty four in Chicago, and she said
Speaker 2: something that really drove home. Well, a couple things came
Speaker 2: up during the evening that really drove home what I
Speaker 2: want to talk about today, which is really to size matter. Okay,
Speaker 2: out is size matter? You always hear that term size matter.
Speaker 2: Size doesn't matter. You know, people measure you, people take
Speaker 2: your measurements, et cetera. And I want to talk about
Speaker 2: when size matters and when it doesn't, and to be
Speaker 2: sensitive to it because there are a lot of ways
Speaker 2: you size people up. You think of somebody as big,
Speaker 2: somebody is small, et cetera. Small is great. I'm going
Speaker 2: to start with why small is good, and I'm going
Speaker 2: to talk about why big is good, and then I'm
Speaker 2: going to tee why both need to be rethought. In
Speaker 2: other terms, I support small businesses. I love small colleges
Speaker 2: that are accessible and affordable to people who can't go
Speaker 2: to the big ones. I like small schools. My husband
Speaker 2: one to one with a large student student teacher ratio,
Speaker 2: there are fewer students, so more access to teachers. I
Speaker 2: like eating small meals. It's healthier, taking small bites, it's healthier.
Speaker 2: I like downsizing when you have too much so that
Speaker 2: you can live within your means. That's actually not small,
Speaker 2: that's rethinking abundance, which we'll talk about. I lived in
Speaker 2: a small town in the Hudson Valley, a village really,
Speaker 2: but there were small minded people in it, which was jarring,
Speaker 2: which we'll get to. Small doesn't mean bad. It doesn't
Speaker 2: mean minimum. It doesn't mean too little, too small, frail,
Speaker 2: does it mean any of that. And it certainly doesn't
Speaker 2: matter in terms of the size of your crowd in
Speaker 2: your cheers. And it really draws me crazy when I
Speaker 2: go and present both of my shows Fearless, Fabulous You
Speaker 2: and The Connected Table to potential sponsors, because obviously I
Speaker 2: do this as a labor of love, but we do
Speaker 2: try to get sponsors and paid content. And the first
Speaker 2: thing that comes out of the prospects mouth after we've
Speaker 2: made niceties and this and that's and how are you
Speaker 2: and how's business when we start to present our shows
Speaker 2: and they say, what are your numbers, how big is
Speaker 2: your audience? And I bristle are trying not to because
Speaker 2: size doesn't matter all the time. And I'm going to
Speaker 2: give you examples where size doesn't matter all the time.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter how big your audience is if it's
Speaker 2: not the right people you're speaking to. Quality is better
Speaker 2: than quantity. You can have a lot of money and
Speaker 2: you can have a very small mind or a limited
Speaker 2: way to spend it. You can have a lot of
Speaker 2: money and lack large generosity. You can be a diminutive
Speaker 2: person with an amazingly large, mighty strong will and big ideas.
Speaker 2: You can be a small person and people besize you
Speaker 2: up and think that you can't do the job you're
Speaker 2: too frail. But boy, you can knock it out of
Speaker 2: the ballpark sometimes again with your strength of will. Small
Speaker 2: is good when it is embracing, when it's beginning, when
Speaker 2: you're starting out, you take small steps so you don't
Speaker 2: bite off more than you can chew. Particularly when you're
Speaker 2: running a small business and you seek to grow it,
Speaker 2: I always advise it goes small, think big, start small.
Speaker 2: Small is wonderful when you're embracing local, supporting local, like
Speaker 2: local businesses and independent bookstores and restaurants versus buying from
Speaker 2: the large companies. When you know that that money you're
Speaker 2: spending and buying that book from the small author in
Speaker 2: the small town where she may not have any funding
Speaker 2: from her publisher whatsoever to do the marketing, you know
Speaker 2: that when you buy that book, she will get the
Speaker 2: money and not somebody else. That's supporting small and I
Speaker 2: do support small businesses. I look for small, out of
Speaker 2: the way places to visit when I travel, I look
Speaker 2: for small diners and little places and roadside stands, not
Speaker 2: the big chains. I respect small people because I know
Speaker 2: they bring a lot to the party in big ways.
Speaker 2: I don't size people up based on how they how
Speaker 2: much they weigh, how tall they are, or how they look.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't size up anybody. But we're talking about size
Speaker 2: for a reason because it's not about the size. It's
Speaker 2: how you approach things, and size does matter in those ways.
Speaker 2: Last night, Michelle Obama just laid a lot of fabulous
Speaker 2: word bombs out there that just knock get out of
Speaker 2: the ballpark. She's an amazing woman, but this one really
Speaker 2: really resonated with me because she was talking about the
Speaker 2: importance of taking risk. And she said, you know, small
Speaker 2: is not good when you're cutting back. It's small as
Speaker 2: good when you're cutting back excess. It really doesn't matter
Speaker 2: in terms of your health and well being. But it
Speaker 2: does matter when you're cutting back healthcare, freedom of choice,
Speaker 2: shutting down services that help people who are underserved. Small
Speaker 2: is not good when it's small minded. And what she
Speaker 2: said that I thought was really important was going small
Speaker 2: is never the answer. Going small as the opposite of
Speaker 2: what we teach our kids, going smallest, petty, it's unhealthy,
Speaker 2: And she said, frankly, it's unprecedential. That's the mental small,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to talk about that. So the physical small.
Speaker 2: You know, there's beauty and very small things. You don't
Speaker 2: have to have the biggest diamond, you don't have to
Speaker 2: have the biggest car, you don't have to have the
Speaker 2: biggest anything. And measuring people up by how much they
Speaker 2: have and how big their houses and how big their
Speaker 2: car is, and big versus small, it doesn't matter because
Speaker 2: what really matters is how they think and how they act.
Speaker 2: And that's when you really size somebody up for their worth.
Speaker 2: It's not their net worth in terms of what they have,
Speaker 2: but their self worth and the value they bring to
Speaker 2: the table in other ways. And it starts with not
Speaker 2: being small minded. It's about being big It's about being
Speaker 2: big hearted, being led have a large spirit and large
Speaker 2: capacity to embrace ideas and understand that we're not all alike,
Speaker 2: assuming we all should be alike. Is being small minded.
Speaker 2: Embracing and accepting and appreciating people for who they are,
Speaker 2: no matter their backgrounds, religions, where they're from, where they
Speaker 2: had money or didn't have money, how they made it
Speaker 2: or moused it or lost it. That's a large spirit.
Speaker 2: And we want people with large spirits in our orbit
Speaker 2: and in our nation, in our lives, and not small.
Speaker 2: When I lived in a small town, it was wonderful.
Speaker 2: I had lived in New York City and one of
Speaker 2: the greatest cities in the world, and yet when I
Speaker 2: lived there, my neighborhood was small, and I felt at
Speaker 2: home in my small, little neighborhood. And that was comforting,
Speaker 2: because often when you live in a very big area,
Speaker 2: even here in New Orleans, your neighborhood becomes your small
Speaker 2: area of comfort where you can nestle and hide. So
Speaker 2: even in the biggest areas, you find your little, small nest,
Speaker 2: and that's a good thing, provided that you don't bar
Speaker 2: anyone from entering or accept that other people may have
Speaker 2: other neighborhoods and nests that they live and that they
Speaker 2: think is their little place. And you don't judge them
Speaker 2: by where they live or how big their houses or
Speaker 2: what they do for a living, because you don't know,
Speaker 2: you don't know whether you know. I've heard stories about
Speaker 2: very wealthy people who made it on their own or
Speaker 2: were football players, and they made a lot of money,
Speaker 2: and they blew it all material things and didn't know
Speaker 2: how to invest well, or they inherited it and they
Speaker 2: just rested on their laurels and just used that money
Speaker 2: to build more wealth. And I've also heard of janitors
Speaker 2: and housekeepers and teachers and people who've lived on smaller
Speaker 2: incomes and smaller houses and smaller means, but knew the
Speaker 2: importance of saving, investing and putting away money rather than
Speaker 2: spending on access to look big and spend big, And
Speaker 2: they ended up financially a lot better than those other
Speaker 2: people in the long run. In the long run, they
Speaker 2: had the money to retire, and they learned to live
Speaker 2: big with less. That's been big is good learning. To
Speaker 2: live big on less very important. You know, in this election,
Speaker 2: it seems like everything is about how big is help
Speaker 2: that you know the size of your your crowd, your
Speaker 2: golf game, this, and that everything keeps being measured up.
Speaker 2: How how are your polls? Are the polls how much
Speaker 2: money you've raised? The only one that really matters, not
Speaker 2: poll You know, I understand poll numbers are important to
Speaker 2: assess and evaluate. I understand you need size of uh,
Speaker 2: you need donations to keep going. But in the day,
Speaker 2: the only one this commitders the vote, and we should
Speaker 2: all vote because we should all care. I want to
Speaker 2: go back to regular people, forget the election. I just
Speaker 2: wanted to bring it up because I thought what Michelle
Speaker 2: said was really really important. But small is important because
Speaker 2: a lot of us come from small towns and small
Speaker 2: families and small limited means not. Most of us were
Speaker 2: not born with silver cups and lots of wealth. In fact,
Speaker 2: many of us are born with no wealth but an
Speaker 2: abundance of love in our families, and that's better than wealth.
Speaker 2: And a lot of us have grown up thankfully with big.
Speaker 4: Dreams and big hopes and big ideas, because that's what's
Speaker 4: great that we instill that in our children, and we
Speaker 4: continue believing it in ourselves even as circumstances change through
Speaker 4: our life.
Speaker 2: You never want to give up hope. Having a spirit
Speaker 2: of generosity and a vision of hope and dreaming big
Speaker 2: it's really great. And when you go out into the world,
Speaker 2: you never ask for a little money. You ask for
Speaker 2: a lot of money. When you ever go out, you
Speaker 2: say I can do more. You say I don't want
Speaker 2: to do you know I can't do last. You try
Speaker 2: to do more. It's learning to do. You think big,
Speaker 2: dream big, and keep that hope that you can do something.
Speaker 2: You will keep going no matter how hard the journey
Speaker 2: may be. That's sinking big. And I think that's really
Speaker 2: really important. You want to be a thoughtful listener, a big,
Speaker 2: open mind. That's thinking big. Thinking small is a closed mind.
Speaker 2: Thinking small is putting limits on people being thinking smallest.
Speaker 2: Labeling people. Nobody wants to be labeled. I mean, even now,
Speaker 2: it's like people are peeling away, even at gender labels.
Speaker 2: Nobody wants to be labeled for anything. Nobody wants to
Speaker 2: be judged or labeled by who they are, where they
Speaker 2: came from, even what they're wearing. You know, I had
Speaker 2: to laugh today in the New York Times. You know,
Speaker 2: I love the New York Times. Sometimes I do have
Speaker 2: to eye roll, and one of the articles was like,
Speaker 2: Kamala horror, Kamala Harris wore a tan suit. What does
Speaker 2: that mean? Maybe she just wore a tan suit, but
Speaker 2: it did like nobody wears tan. It's the wrong color.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: Come on, that's small thinking. That doesn't really matter in
Speaker 2: the scheme of things, does it. It's what comes out
Speaker 2: of a person's mouth. How will they think, how will
Speaker 2: they project, and what they're going to do for you
Speaker 2: and how you're going to do for them, and how
Speaker 2: they think. It's not the suit they wear. It's not
Speaker 2: the size of their purse or the size of their wallet,
Speaker 2: the size of their bank. Well, what it really matters
Speaker 2: is how large of spirit and generous the spirit are
Speaker 2: they big hearted? That really matters. I wish we'd stop
Speaker 2: thinking about the world in terms of numbers, but we
Speaker 2: seem to be going worse, not better. Everything seems to
Speaker 2: have a numerical, transactional aspect to it. It's disheartening. It
Speaker 2: makes me sad. It makes me very sad as I
Speaker 2: see people's incomes go down or up. But the cost
Speaker 2: of living go up. It makes me sad that food
Speaker 2: is expensive and accessible nutritious food is less accessible. I
Speaker 2: had an interesting conversation with a guest who's actually going
Speaker 2: to be on the Connected table my other show today
Speaker 2: about how his organization, the Aspen Institute, is trying really
Speaker 2: hard to promote food as medicine and nutrition to help
Speaker 2: eradicate or reduce the incidences of epidemic obesity, diabetes, and
Speaker 2: of course cardiovascular illnesses and other major illnesses. And ninety
Speaker 2: percent of some major illnesses can be risk reduced, not eliminated,
Speaker 2: but risk reduced through healthy lifestyle changes. Those are small steps. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's been small. It's good taking small steps to improve
Speaker 2: your health and wellbeing and help your family. Taking small
Speaker 2: steps to say for the future, small steps to eat better,
Speaker 2: exercise time for yourself, small things. Those are great. But
Speaker 2: you said one of the big challenges, because where there's
Speaker 2: small ideas that think big, there's also big challenges. Is
Speaker 2: that accessible food that's already pre prepared, so prepared meals
Speaker 2: that are also healthy, accessible and affordable are not available
Speaker 2: and out there in the marketplace. That surprised me, but
Speaker 2: it's true. Most people are just struggling to put food
Speaker 2: on the table. They're struggling to make ends meet. So
Speaker 2: they're you know, knocking down at least one job in
Speaker 2: a side hustle. One or both parents may be working,
Speaker 2: or there may only be one parent. So who has
Speaker 2: time to cook? Who has time to go to the
Speaker 2: store by the ingredients, cook and put it all together.
Speaker 2: So they go and do the easier thing. They go
Speaker 2: to a big fast food company and just buy the
Speaker 2: super sized dinner. And here we are again with size.
Speaker 2: You go to the big change, you get the super
Speaker 2: sized thing. You pay a little bit more because it's
Speaker 2: attempting to pay five dollars for the big meal versus
Speaker 2: fifty dollars for a few smaller meals. I'm just saying
Speaker 2: that we need to rethink the numbers. We need to
Speaker 2: rethink the numbers and how we add up life and
Speaker 2: how I'll be out of your life. And I think,
Speaker 2: you know, start small, smart, small with yourself if things
Speaker 2: don't seem to be adding up in your head emotionally, financially, whatever.
Speaker 2: And I think a lot of people are feeling a bit.
Speaker 2: I think there's it's interesting. I think there's a ground
Speaker 2: swell of optimism hopefully, but I think there's also another
Speaker 2: ground swell of pessimism. And if things are not adding
Speaker 2: up in your life, because this show is about size,
Speaker 2: if things are not adding up in your life and
Speaker 2: you're feeling small and insignificant in the scheme of things,
Speaker 2: or things are not adding up in your life financially,
Speaker 2: or things just aren't adding up in terms of where
Speaker 2: you want to be in life and where you want
Speaker 2: to go.
Speaker 3: Sit.
Speaker 2: And take an assessment, Sit down and create those wonderful
Speaker 2: two through excera three lists of what is working, what
Speaker 2: is not working, where you're ambivalent, and then create where
Speaker 2: you want to be. Okay, so it's four less what's working,
Speaker 2: what's not working, what's whatever, the whatever factor, whatever is like,
Speaker 2: it's okay either way, and then think, what is is
Speaker 2: the one thing I can change that can make me
Speaker 2: feel better? They can What is the one small thing
Speaker 2: I can do that will make a big impact against
Speaker 2: size and size matters. What is the one small thing
Speaker 2: I can do today, every day, this week, once a
Speaker 2: month that will make a big impact and make me
Speaker 2: feel better, make me feel more positive. On the flip side,
Speaker 2: what is the one big thing I can change in
Speaker 2: my life that will make things better in the long run.
Speaker 2: Short run, long run size length. But that's how you
Speaker 2: have to think. You've got to think about the small
Speaker 2: things that you can do today to make big changes later.
Speaker 2: And you can stop sizing up how you're doing compared
Speaker 2: to other people, and you get sizing up other people
Speaker 2: and judging them for what they have or don't have.
Speaker 2: You can stop thinking about or being petty or teaching
Speaker 2: your children to be petty, because Petty is small. Petty
Speaker 2: is bulling, Petty is thinking small. Petty is to writing people.
Speaker 2: Petty is name calling. Petty is building yourself up by
Speaker 2: tearing other people down. That's petty. Petty is being stingy
Speaker 2: for the sake of benefiting yourself and not thinking of others.
Speaker 2: Generous and generosity and compassion and gratitude are all big
Speaker 2: ideas and big thinking, and they build hope. And hope
Speaker 2: is big. Hope is boundless. There's ever small hope, there's
Speaker 2: always big. Hope has no boundaries. And that's a good
Speaker 2: thing because I think we now live in a country
Speaker 2: where we need hope, and we needed to stop judging
Speaker 2: people belittling, And I say the biggest challenge one of
Speaker 2: the biggest challengs we have is besides watching the elections,
Speaker 2: is social media. I'm a ball actually at how many
Speaker 2: small minded, petty people are saying really mean things to
Speaker 2: people they don't even know on social media. Whether it's
Speaker 2: your accused of being as you know, I've been. I've
Speaker 2: had people level things at me as well. I think
Speaker 2: we all have. But that's like, when do we all
Speaker 2: become so small minded?
Speaker 4: The happen?
Speaker 3: What changed?
Speaker 2: What tides turn that we feel that we have the
Speaker 2: right to be small minded and level horrible things and
Speaker 2: mean spirited comments to people that we don't know and
Speaker 2: probably have never met on social media. We don't So
Speaker 2: if that's bothering you, and frankly it bothers me now,
Speaker 2: I turn it off. But you can't tune it out.
Speaker 2: You can't turn away and tune out completely because you
Speaker 2: have to be part of the change. You have to
Speaker 2: take your own small steps to be part of the change.
Speaker 2: Because we can't live in small and petty them We
Speaker 2: can't live in a small, petty world. We have to
Speaker 2: live in a big world. It's inevitable, it's here, and
Speaker 2: so think about what small steps you can do to
Speaker 2: take things that are petty and upsetting to you to
Speaker 2: help change them, whether it's on social media posting positive
Speaker 2: images and positive things and don't join the negative conversation,
Speaker 2: unfollow people that do bother you. But if you see
Speaker 2: something that is wrong, and you see and read something
Speaker 2: that is inappropriate and petty and bullying and mean spirited,
Speaker 2: speak out, say something. Don't hide from it, because it
Speaker 2: won't change unless somebody says enough enough. I'm not taking
Speaker 2: this and frankly and I try not to be political
Speaker 2: on the show, but I'm a frame of mind where
Speaker 2: I'm going to say, if you don't like what you're
Speaker 2: seeing happening either way, your choice. I'm not going to
Speaker 2: judge you. Your way of saying enough is to buy voting.
Speaker 2: And if we can do one thing in November of
Speaker 2: this year, one small thing, it is just voting. I
Speaker 2: don't really care who you vote for. I do, but
Speaker 2: I'm not going to on this show, but just vote
Speaker 2: and encourage people to vote. Because if we don't take
Speaker 2: action you, we don't speak up, and we don't think
Speaker 2: big and beyond, and we don't take small steps, we'll
Speaker 2: never make it to the big steps. We'll never make
Speaker 2: it to the long run and to the finish line.
Speaker 2: Every finish line starts with a step and hope and
Speaker 2: thinking big and not being small minded. So size matters
Speaker 2: in terms of thinking big and being generous and large
Speaker 2: of spirit and large of hope and generosity. It does
Speaker 2: not matter when it's about material things and money and
Speaker 2: size and whatnot, because you can lose all of it
Speaker 2: in a hurricane and a bad financial deal, in bad health.
Speaker 2: No matter how much you have physically and in the bank,
Speaker 2: it can all go away in a poof. But no
Speaker 2: one can really take away or should take away, your
Speaker 2: generosity and kindness and large spirit. It's something you hold
Speaker 2: inside of you, and nobody can can try to drain
Speaker 2: it from you. They can discourage you, they can make
Speaker 2: you feel bad, But your largeness is holding on to
Speaker 2: that great strength, and if somebody's eroding it, then hould back,
Speaker 2: take a few steps to the side, take a pause,
Speaker 2: rethink and resettle and realize that maybe that person is
Speaker 2: not necessarily the best person to be in your orbit,
Speaker 2: and move on, or face someone and say enough, I
Speaker 2: don't want to hear this anymore. Enough, let's settle it
Speaker 2: or get involved to help be part of a change.
Speaker 2: If you don't like what you see going on in
Speaker 2: the world. You can volunteer, taking a small step by
Speaker 2: saying I want to help. How can I volunteer? Write
Speaker 2: a small check? Even a five dollars donation is good.
Speaker 2: You don't have to write five thousand.
Speaker 3: So this is the difference between small steps, thinking small,
Speaker 3: supporting small businesses, encouraging people who have a dream and
Speaker 3: are starting small get behind them, but not being small.
Speaker 2: Minded, petty and short tempered and short thinking. Think big,
Speaker 2: be big, and be generous. I'm going to end this
Speaker 2: show because I find when I start getting discouraged, I
Speaker 2: do two things. I read poetry, believe or not. I
Speaker 2: read poetry and I read I love poetry. I'd like
Speaker 2: to be a poet. And I go outside and take
Speaker 2: a walk or swim or do something to move my
Speaker 2: body and clear my head. Some of my best ideas
Speaker 2: believe or not. When I'm swimming in the pool. I'm
Speaker 2: blessed to have a pool, and I'm grateful, But if
Speaker 2: I didn't, I would be simply walking. Your feet can
Speaker 2: take you a lot of places. So this particular it's
Speaker 2: not really a poem, it's an essay, and it was
Speaker 2: first introduced to me, believe it or not, by my mother,
Speaker 2: who felt I was being small minded as a young girl.
Speaker 2: I lived in a small town and I was being snobby.
Speaker 2: I was acting like a snob because I was in
Speaker 2: part of a group. It was snobby and we got
Speaker 2: in to fight. My mother and I got in a fight.
Speaker 2: She would have been ninety yesterday, by the way we
Speaker 2: celebrated her birthday. We got to fight, and I didn't
Speaker 2: want to talk to her. I was like ready to say,
Speaker 2: you're a terrible person. You know you're youre a teenager,
Speaker 2: you fight with your mom, and then when she's gone,
Speaker 2: you go, wow. Was that it was such a small
Speaker 2: minded fight. But she left me this quote because not
Speaker 2: a quote but a statement, because she felt I was
Speaker 2: being petty and small minded and she wanted to remind
Speaker 2: me and put me in my place. And I'll be
Speaker 2: honest with you when I read it, it changed my
Speaker 2: life in terms of how I think about things, and
Speaker 2: even today when I feel unsettled and my spirit feels
Speaker 2: a little bruised. It's one of the two poems I read,
Speaker 2: or statements I read to remind me to reset. I'll
Speaker 2: read another one another time, but this is this one,
Speaker 2: and it comes from the great aunt Landers, remember ant Landers,
Speaker 2: the advice columnists, And it goes like this, It's called
Speaker 2: what is class. Class never runs scared. It is surefooted
Speaker 2: and confident. It can handle anything that comes along. Class
Speaker 2: has a sense of humor. It knows a good laugh
Speaker 2: is the best lubricant for oiling the machinery of human relations.
Speaker 2: Class never makes excuses. It takes its lumps and learns
Speaker 2: from past mistakes. Class knows that good manners are nothing
Speaker 2: more than a series of small, inconsequential sacrifices. Class bespeaks
Speaker 2: in aristocracy that has nothing to do with ancestors or money.
Speaker 2: The wealthiest people may lack class, while individuals who are
Speaker 2: struggling to make end meat may be loaded with it.
Speaker 2: You can be descendants of nobility and lack class, and
Speaker 2: you can be descendants of coal miners in Kentucky and
Speaker 2: be full of it. Because it's a spirit and a
Speaker 2: way you approach life. Class is real. It's authentic. You
Speaker 2: can't fake class. It's in you. It's ingrained in you.
Speaker 2: You can radiate it, but you can't buy it. You
Speaker 2: can't purchase class. Class never tries to build itself up
Speaker 2: by tearing others down. Class is already up and need
Speaker 2: not strive to look better by making others look worse.
Speaker 2: There is no room for being petty and small minded
Speaker 2: when you have class. That's me adding my comment. Class
Speaker 2: can quote walk with kings and keep its virtue and
Speaker 2: talk with crowds and keep the common touch. Everyone is
Speaker 2: comfortable with the person who has class because that person
Speaker 2: is comfortable with himself. And I truly believe that when
Speaker 2: you're tearing other people down, it's because you're trying to
Speaker 2: build yourself up. And you just look closely at that
Speaker 2: person because if they're so busy tearing other people down
Speaker 2: to build themselves up, they lack class. But they also
Speaker 2: lack a sense of self worth. You have to wonder
Speaker 2: what is their problem. If you have class, you really
Speaker 2: don't need anything else. No matter what else you have,
Speaker 2: it really doesn't matter, and no matter what else you have,
Speaker 2: it won't make the difference. Class is something you can't buy,
Speaker 2: you can't fake, you can't make, and you can't take
Speaker 2: away from the person who has it. So I hope
Speaker 2: that's food for thought and striving to be better by
Speaker 2: not making others look worse, not sizing people up to
Speaker 2: make yourself look better, feel better, accepting people, and living
Speaker 2: with largesse of spirit and not pettiness of mind. Because
Speaker 2: you have the choice in life to live life on
Speaker 2: your terms and not be dictated by other people, whether
Speaker 2: it's people, societies, laws, or government. If you don't like
Speaker 2: what you're seeing, take small steps, join large groups, join
Speaker 2: small groups, but be active because you are, in your
Speaker 2: own individual way, a force to be reckoned with when
Speaker 2: you choose to live life on your terms and use
Speaker 2: your voice to speak out. I'm Melanie Young. This is fearless,
Speaker 2: fabulous you and thank you for joining me.