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Thank you for joining 13 00:00:49.719 --> 00:00:54.840 me today. You can follow me on Melanie Fabulous at Instagram, 14 00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:57.399 and I invite you to check out Melanieyong dot com 15 00:00:57.439 --> 00:00:59.240 to learn more about who I am and what I do. 16 00:01:00.560 --> 00:01:04.760 I have been doing the show for eleven years. Sometimes 17 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:07.280 I wonder if it's time to say goodbye, move on 18 00:01:07.840 --> 00:01:11.799 or not. But I'm constantly inspired every week to share 19 00:01:11.840 --> 00:01:15.400 something with you, my listeners. So I keep going. And 20 00:01:15.560 --> 00:01:19.000 keep going is a phrase we've been hearing all week 21 00:01:19.040 --> 00:01:23.680 as we watch the Democratic National Convention. Keep going as 22 00:01:23.719 --> 00:01:26.599 hard as the road ahead is, and the hard as 23 00:01:26.640 --> 00:01:30.519 the road behind us was, you keep going. It also 24 00:01:30.599 --> 00:01:34.439 brings up two terms that came to mind lately, but 25 00:01:34.560 --> 00:01:38.959 particularly last night, when I was watching former First Lady 26 00:01:39.000 --> 00:01:45.120 Michelle Obama give a powerful, powerful speech at the Democratic 27 00:01:45.159 --> 00:01:48.959 National Convention twenty twenty four in Chicago, and she said 28 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:52.680 something that really drove home. Well, a couple things came 29 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:54.920 up during the evening that really drove home what I 30 00:01:54.920 --> 00:01:59.560 want to talk about today, which is really to size matter. Okay, 31 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:02.319 out is size matter? You always hear that term size matter. 32 00:02:02.480 --> 00:02:06.799 Size doesn't matter. You know, people measure you, people take 33 00:02:06.840 --> 00:02:09.319 your measurements, et cetera. And I want to talk about 34 00:02:09.319 --> 00:02:12.840 when size matters and when it doesn't, and to be 35 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:15.599 sensitive to it because there are a lot of ways 36 00:02:16.240 --> 00:02:20.680 you size people up. You think of somebody as big, 37 00:02:20.800 --> 00:02:26.599 somebody is small, et cetera. Small is great. I'm going 38 00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:29.439 to start with why small is good, and I'm going 39 00:02:29.439 --> 00:02:30.960 to talk about why big is good, and then I'm 40 00:02:30.960 --> 00:02:32.960 going to tee why both need to be rethought. In 41 00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:39.599 other terms, I support small businesses. I love small colleges 42 00:02:40.039 --> 00:02:42.680 that are accessible and affordable to people who can't go 43 00:02:42.759 --> 00:02:47.360 to the big ones. I like small schools. My husband 44 00:02:47.400 --> 00:02:54.400 one to one with a large student student teacher ratio, 45 00:02:54.439 --> 00:02:57.919 there are fewer students, so more access to teachers. I 46 00:02:58.000 --> 00:03:02.319 like eating small meals. It's healthier, taking small bites, it's healthier. 47 00:03:03.919 --> 00:03:07.240 I like downsizing when you have too much so that 48 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:11.439 you can live within your means. That's actually not small, 49 00:03:11.560 --> 00:03:17.240 that's rethinking abundance, which we'll talk about. I lived in 50 00:03:17.240 --> 00:03:21.719 a small town in the Hudson Valley, a village really, 51 00:03:23.479 --> 00:03:26.840 but there were small minded people in it, which was jarring, 52 00:03:27.639 --> 00:03:31.560 which we'll get to. Small doesn't mean bad. It doesn't 53 00:03:31.639 --> 00:03:35.240 mean minimum. It doesn't mean too little, too small, frail, 54 00:03:37.520 --> 00:03:40.599 does it mean any of that. And it certainly doesn't 55 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:44.639 matter in terms of the size of your crowd in 56 00:03:44.680 --> 00:03:48.280 your cheers. And it really draws me crazy when I 57 00:03:48.439 --> 00:03:52.199 go and present both of my shows Fearless, Fabulous You 58 00:03:52.639 --> 00:03:57.080 and The Connected Table to potential sponsors, because obviously I 59 00:03:57.159 --> 00:03:58.919 do this as a labor of love, but we do 60 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:02.800 try to get sponsors and paid content. And the first 61 00:04:02.840 --> 00:04:08.199 thing that comes out of the prospects mouth after we've 62 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:10.680 made niceties and this and that's and how are you 63 00:04:10.719 --> 00:04:14.080 and how's business when we start to present our shows 64 00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:16.920 and they say, what are your numbers, how big is 65 00:04:16.959 --> 00:04:22.040 your audience? And I bristle are trying not to because 66 00:04:22.519 --> 00:04:27.639 size doesn't matter all the time. And I'm going to 67 00:04:27.639 --> 00:04:30.160 give you examples where size doesn't matter all the time. 68 00:04:30.399 --> 00:04:32.720 It doesn't matter how big your audience is if it's 69 00:04:32.720 --> 00:04:37.120 not the right people you're speaking to. Quality is better 70 00:04:37.160 --> 00:04:40.639 than quantity. You can have a lot of money and 71 00:04:40.680 --> 00:04:45.160 you can have a very small mind or a limited 72 00:04:45.160 --> 00:04:48.560 way to spend it. You can have a lot of 73 00:04:48.600 --> 00:04:54.639 money and lack large generosity. You can be a diminutive 74 00:04:54.720 --> 00:04:59.959 person with an amazingly large, mighty strong will and big ideas. 75 00:05:02.639 --> 00:05:04.879 You can be a small person and people besize you 76 00:05:05.000 --> 00:05:06.800 up and think that you can't do the job you're 77 00:05:06.800 --> 00:05:08.839 too frail. But boy, you can knock it out of 78 00:05:08.839 --> 00:05:16.759 the ballpark sometimes again with your strength of will. Small 79 00:05:17.560 --> 00:05:24.959 is good when it is embracing, when it's beginning, when 80 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:27.879 you're starting out, you take small steps so you don't 81 00:05:27.920 --> 00:05:30.680 bite off more than you can chew. Particularly when you're 82 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:33.920 running a small business and you seek to grow it, 83 00:05:34.040 --> 00:05:37.480 I always advise it goes small, think big, start small. 84 00:05:38.680 --> 00:05:43.920 Small is wonderful when you're embracing local, supporting local, like 85 00:05:44.040 --> 00:05:48.439 local businesses and independent bookstores and restaurants versus buying from 86 00:05:48.480 --> 00:05:52.879 the large companies. When you know that that money you're 87 00:05:52.920 --> 00:05:56.680 spending and buying that book from the small author in 88 00:05:56.720 --> 00:06:00.879 the small town where she may not have any funding 89 00:06:00.920 --> 00:06:04.439 from her publisher whatsoever to do the marketing, you know 90 00:06:04.560 --> 00:06:06.800 that when you buy that book, she will get the 91 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:10.800 money and not somebody else. That's supporting small and I 92 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:14.120 do support small businesses. I look for small, out of 93 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:17.639 the way places to visit when I travel, I look 94 00:06:17.720 --> 00:06:25.399 for small diners and little places and roadside stands, not 95 00:06:25.560 --> 00:06:30.439 the big chains. I respect small people because I know 96 00:06:30.480 --> 00:06:32.920 they bring a lot to the party in big ways. 97 00:06:32.959 --> 00:06:36.839 I don't size people up based on how they how 98 00:06:36.920 --> 00:06:39.879 much they weigh, how tall they are, or how they look. 99 00:06:41.360 --> 00:06:44.480 You shouldn't size up anybody. But we're talking about size 100 00:06:44.480 --> 00:06:48.399 for a reason because it's not about the size. It's 101 00:06:48.439 --> 00:06:54.959 how you approach things, and size does matter in those ways. 102 00:06:55.120 --> 00:07:00.000 Last night, Michelle Obama just laid a lot of fabulous 103 00:07:00.360 --> 00:07:02.879 word bombs out there that just knock get out of 104 00:07:02.920 --> 00:07:06.600 the ballpark. She's an amazing woman, but this one really 105 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:10.720 really resonated with me because she was talking about the 106 00:07:10.800 --> 00:07:13.920 importance of taking risk. And she said, you know, small 107 00:07:14.160 --> 00:07:16.839 is not good when you're cutting back. It's small as 108 00:07:16.920 --> 00:07:21.399 good when you're cutting back excess. It really doesn't matter 109 00:07:21.480 --> 00:07:24.439 in terms of your health and well being. But it 110 00:07:24.480 --> 00:07:30.279 does matter when you're cutting back healthcare, freedom of choice, 111 00:07:30.680 --> 00:07:36.519 shutting down services that help people who are underserved. Small 112 00:07:36.680 --> 00:07:41.120 is not good when it's small minded. And what she 113 00:07:41.240 --> 00:07:45.800 said that I thought was really important was going small 114 00:07:46.720 --> 00:07:50.439 is never the answer. Going small as the opposite of 115 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:54.600 what we teach our kids, going smallest, petty, it's unhealthy, 116 00:07:54.680 --> 00:08:00.240 And she said, frankly, it's unprecedential. That's the mental small, 117 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:02.639 and I'm going to talk about that. So the physical small. 118 00:08:02.759 --> 00:08:04.959 You know, there's beauty and very small things. You don't 119 00:08:04.959 --> 00:08:06.680 have to have the biggest diamond, you don't have to 120 00:08:06.680 --> 00:08:09.360 have the biggest car, you don't have to have the 121 00:08:09.399 --> 00:08:12.680 biggest anything. And measuring people up by how much they 122 00:08:12.720 --> 00:08:14.600 have and how big their houses and how big their 123 00:08:14.639 --> 00:08:20.160 car is, and big versus small, it doesn't matter because 124 00:08:20.199 --> 00:08:23.800 what really matters is how they think and how they act. 125 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:27.279 And that's when you really size somebody up for their worth. 126 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:30.639 It's not their net worth in terms of what they have, 127 00:08:30.839 --> 00:08:33.960 but their self worth and the value they bring to 128 00:08:34.000 --> 00:08:37.480 the table in other ways. And it starts with not 129 00:08:37.600 --> 00:08:42.440 being small minded. It's about being big It's about being 130 00:08:42.639 --> 00:08:47.200 big hearted, being led have a large spirit and large 131 00:08:47.240 --> 00:08:53.480 capacity to embrace ideas and understand that we're not all alike, 132 00:08:54.919 --> 00:08:58.480 assuming we all should be alike. Is being small minded. 133 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:05.000 Embracing and accepting and appreciating people for who they are, 134 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:09.600 no matter their backgrounds, religions, where they're from, where they 135 00:09:09.679 --> 00:09:12.039 had money or didn't have money, how they made it 136 00:09:12.159 --> 00:09:17.279 or moused it or lost it. That's a large spirit. 137 00:09:17.559 --> 00:09:21.679 And we want people with large spirits in our orbit 138 00:09:22.120 --> 00:09:25.080 and in our nation, in our lives, and not small. 139 00:09:26.120 --> 00:09:28.240 When I lived in a small town, it was wonderful. 140 00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:30.000 I had lived in New York City and one of 141 00:09:30.039 --> 00:09:32.480 the greatest cities in the world, and yet when I 142 00:09:32.519 --> 00:09:37.240 lived there, my neighborhood was small, and I felt at 143 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:40.879 home in my small, little neighborhood. And that was comforting, 144 00:09:40.879 --> 00:09:43.120 because often when you live in a very big area, 145 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:46.480 even here in New Orleans, your neighborhood becomes your small 146 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:51.720 area of comfort where you can nestle and hide. So 147 00:09:51.799 --> 00:09:54.559 even in the biggest areas, you find your little, small nest, 148 00:09:55.240 --> 00:09:58.440 and that's a good thing, provided that you don't bar 149 00:09:58.559 --> 00:10:01.840 anyone from entering or accept that other people may have 150 00:10:01.879 --> 00:10:03.720 other neighborhoods and nests that they live and that they 151 00:10:03.799 --> 00:10:06.799 think is their little place. And you don't judge them 152 00:10:06.840 --> 00:10:12.240 by where they live or how big their houses or 153 00:10:12.320 --> 00:10:14.679 what they do for a living, because you don't know, 154 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:18.159 you don't know whether you know. I've heard stories about 155 00:10:19.320 --> 00:10:22.919 very wealthy people who made it on their own or 156 00:10:22.960 --> 00:10:25.279 were football players, and they made a lot of money, 157 00:10:25.320 --> 00:10:28.039 and they blew it all material things and didn't know 158 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:30.919 how to invest well, or they inherited it and they 159 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:33.399 just rested on their laurels and just used that money 160 00:10:33.399 --> 00:10:38.879 to build more wealth. And I've also heard of janitors 161 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:45.320 and housekeepers and teachers and people who've lived on smaller 162 00:10:45.360 --> 00:10:49.000 incomes and smaller houses and smaller means, but knew the 163 00:10:49.039 --> 00:10:54.840 importance of saving, investing and putting away money rather than 164 00:10:54.879 --> 00:10:58.399 spending on access to look big and spend big, And 165 00:10:58.440 --> 00:11:01.080 they ended up financially a lot better than those other 166 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:04.799 people in the long run. In the long run, they 167 00:11:04.799 --> 00:11:08.559 had the money to retire, and they learned to live 168 00:11:08.639 --> 00:11:12.879 big with less. That's been big is good learning. To 169 00:11:12.960 --> 00:11:20.080 live big on less very important. You know, in this election, 170 00:11:20.159 --> 00:11:22.320 it seems like everything is about how big is help 171 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:24.960 that you know the size of your your crowd, your 172 00:11:25.000 --> 00:11:27.879 golf game, this, and that everything keeps being measured up. 173 00:11:29.000 --> 00:11:32.080 How how are your polls? Are the polls how much 174 00:11:32.120 --> 00:11:35.759 money you've raised? The only one that really matters, not 175 00:11:35.840 --> 00:11:38.320 poll You know, I understand poll numbers are important to 176 00:11:38.519 --> 00:11:42.480 assess and evaluate. I understand you need size of uh, 177 00:11:43.559 --> 00:11:46.799 you need donations to keep going. But in the day, 178 00:11:47.679 --> 00:11:50.960 the only one this commitders the vote, and we should 179 00:11:51.000 --> 00:11:54.600 all vote because we should all care. I want to 180 00:11:54.600 --> 00:11:57.759 go back to regular people, forget the election. I just 181 00:11:57.799 --> 00:11:59.279 wanted to bring it up because I thought what Michelle 182 00:11:59.320 --> 00:12:05.279 said was really really important. But small is important because 183 00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:07.559 a lot of us come from small towns and small 184 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:12.039 families and small limited means not. Most of us were 185 00:12:12.039 --> 00:12:17.159 not born with silver cups and lots of wealth. In fact, 186 00:12:17.159 --> 00:12:18.759 many of us are born with no wealth but an 187 00:12:18.799 --> 00:12:22.320 abundance of love in our families, and that's better than wealth. 188 00:12:23.879 --> 00:12:26.320 And a lot of us have grown up thankfully with big. 189 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:28.919 Dreams and big hopes and big ideas, because that's what's 190 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:33.960 great that we instill that in our children, and we 191 00:12:34.039 --> 00:12:38.320 continue believing it in ourselves even as circumstances change through 192 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:38.840 our life. 193 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:42.159 You never want to give up hope. Having a spirit 194 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:45.399 of generosity and a vision of hope and dreaming big 195 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:50.000 it's really great. And when you go out into the world, 196 00:12:50.080 --> 00:12:52.000 you never ask for a little money. You ask for 197 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:54.120 a lot of money. When you ever go out, you 198 00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:56.120 say I can do more. You say I don't want 199 00:12:56.120 --> 00:12:58.039 to do you know I can't do last. You try 200 00:12:58.039 --> 00:13:01.279 to do more. It's learning to do. You think big, 201 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:11.080 dream big, and keep that hope that you can do something. 202 00:13:11.120 --> 00:13:13.519 You will keep going no matter how hard the journey 203 00:13:13.559 --> 00:13:16.720 may be. That's sinking big. And I think that's really 204 00:13:16.759 --> 00:13:22.200 really important. You want to be a thoughtful listener, a big, 205 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:27.440 open mind. That's thinking big. Thinking small is a closed mind. 206 00:13:27.440 --> 00:13:31.559 Thinking small is putting limits on people being thinking smallest. 207 00:13:32.039 --> 00:13:38.720 Labeling people. Nobody wants to be labeled. I mean, even now, 208 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:41.039 it's like people are peeling away, even at gender labels. 209 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:43.159 Nobody wants to be labeled for anything. Nobody wants to 210 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:45.639 be judged or labeled by who they are, where they 211 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:48.240 came from, even what they're wearing. You know, I had 212 00:13:48.240 --> 00:13:50.720 to laugh today in the New York Times. You know, 213 00:13:51.159 --> 00:13:53.399 I love the New York Times. Sometimes I do have 214 00:13:53.440 --> 00:13:55.279 to eye roll, and one of the articles was like, 215 00:13:55.879 --> 00:13:58.799 Kamala horror, Kamala Harris wore a tan suit. What does 216 00:13:58.799 --> 00:14:02.440 that mean? Maybe she just wore a tan suit, but 217 00:14:02.600 --> 00:14:05.480 it did like nobody wears tan. It's the wrong color. 218 00:14:06.240 --> 00:14:06.440 You know. 219 00:14:06.480 --> 00:14:10.840 Come on, that's small thinking. That doesn't really matter in 220 00:14:10.879 --> 00:14:14.480 the scheme of things, does it. It's what comes out 221 00:14:14.480 --> 00:14:16.720 of a person's mouth. How will they think, how will 222 00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:18.759 they project, and what they're going to do for you 223 00:14:18.840 --> 00:14:20.600 and how you're going to do for them, and how 224 00:14:20.600 --> 00:14:24.279 they think. It's not the suit they wear. It's not 225 00:14:24.399 --> 00:14:27.720 the size of their purse or the size of their wallet, 226 00:14:27.799 --> 00:14:29.960 the size of their bank. Well, what it really matters 227 00:14:30.039 --> 00:14:36.679 is how large of spirit and generous the spirit are 228 00:14:36.679 --> 00:14:41.720 they big hearted? That really matters. I wish we'd stop 229 00:14:41.759 --> 00:14:44.279 thinking about the world in terms of numbers, but we 230 00:14:44.360 --> 00:14:48.240 seem to be going worse, not better. Everything seems to 231 00:14:48.279 --> 00:14:55.960 have a numerical, transactional aspect to it. It's disheartening. It 232 00:14:56.039 --> 00:14:59.440 makes me sad. It makes me very sad as I 233 00:14:59.480 --> 00:15:03.159 see people's incomes go down or up. But the cost 234 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:07.120 of living go up. It makes me sad that food 235 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:13.320 is expensive and accessible nutritious food is less accessible. I 236 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:16.279 had an interesting conversation with a guest who's actually going 237 00:15:16.279 --> 00:15:19.720 to be on the Connected table my other show today 238 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:24.600 about how his organization, the Aspen Institute, is trying really 239 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:28.440 hard to promote food as medicine and nutrition to help 240 00:15:28.519 --> 00:15:35.039 eradicate or reduce the incidences of epidemic obesity, diabetes, and 241 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:40.320 of course cardiovascular illnesses and other major illnesses. And ninety 242 00:15:40.399 --> 00:15:45.440 percent of some major illnesses can be risk reduced, not eliminated, 243 00:15:45.480 --> 00:15:50.320 but risk reduced through healthy lifestyle changes. Those are small steps. Okay, 244 00:15:50.360 --> 00:15:53.879 that's been small. It's good taking small steps to improve 245 00:15:53.879 --> 00:15:57.080 your health and wellbeing and help your family. Taking small 246 00:15:57.120 --> 00:16:01.320 steps to say for the future, small steps to eat better, 247 00:16:01.960 --> 00:16:07.840 exercise time for yourself, small things. Those are great. But 248 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:10.240 you said one of the big challenges, because where there's 249 00:16:10.240 --> 00:16:13.720 small ideas that think big, there's also big challenges. Is 250 00:16:13.759 --> 00:16:19.039 that accessible food that's already pre prepared, so prepared meals 251 00:16:19.080 --> 00:16:23.480 that are also healthy, accessible and affordable are not available 252 00:16:23.639 --> 00:16:26.480 and out there in the marketplace. That surprised me, but 253 00:16:26.519 --> 00:16:30.279 it's true. Most people are just struggling to put food 254 00:16:30.360 --> 00:16:34.080 on the table. They're struggling to make ends meet. So 255 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:36.879 they're you know, knocking down at least one job in 256 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:40.799 a side hustle. One or both parents may be working, 257 00:16:40.879 --> 00:16:42.559 or there may only be one parent. So who has 258 00:16:42.600 --> 00:16:44.519 time to cook? Who has time to go to the 259 00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:47.120 store by the ingredients, cook and put it all together. 260 00:16:47.200 --> 00:16:49.080 So they go and do the easier thing. They go 261 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:51.159 to a big fast food company and just buy the 262 00:16:51.639 --> 00:16:55.200 super sized dinner. And here we are again with size. 263 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:56.799 You go to the big change, you get the super 264 00:16:56.840 --> 00:16:58.720 sized thing. You pay a little bit more because it's 265 00:16:58.720 --> 00:17:02.000 attempting to pay five dollars for the big meal versus 266 00:17:02.720 --> 00:17:07.400 fifty dollars for a few smaller meals. I'm just saying 267 00:17:07.440 --> 00:17:11.599 that we need to rethink the numbers. We need to 268 00:17:11.599 --> 00:17:14.119 rethink the numbers and how we add up life and 269 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:15.720 how I'll be out of your life. And I think, 270 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:21.440 you know, start small, smart, small with yourself if things 271 00:17:21.480 --> 00:17:27.319 don't seem to be adding up in your head emotionally, financially, whatever. 272 00:17:27.359 --> 00:17:29.720 And I think a lot of people are feeling a bit. 273 00:17:30.359 --> 00:17:33.839 I think there's it's interesting. I think there's a ground 274 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:37.759 swell of optimism hopefully, but I think there's also another 275 00:17:37.839 --> 00:17:42.279 ground swell of pessimism. And if things are not adding 276 00:17:42.359 --> 00:17:45.599 up in your life, because this show is about size, 277 00:17:46.160 --> 00:17:48.000 if things are not adding up in your life and 278 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:51.599 you're feeling small and insignificant in the scheme of things, 279 00:17:51.960 --> 00:17:54.359 or things are not adding up in your life financially, 280 00:17:54.440 --> 00:17:56.240 or things just aren't adding up in terms of where 281 00:17:56.279 --> 00:17:57.759 you want to be in life and where you want 282 00:17:57.799 --> 00:17:58.200 to go. 283 00:17:59.640 --> 00:18:00.039 Sit. 284 00:18:01.799 --> 00:18:07.079 And take an assessment, Sit down and create those wonderful 285 00:18:07.119 --> 00:18:11.200 two through excera three lists of what is working, what 286 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:15.359 is not working, where you're ambivalent, and then create where 287 00:18:15.359 --> 00:18:19.680 you want to be. Okay, so it's four less what's working, 288 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:23.599 what's not working, what's whatever, the whatever factor, whatever is like, 289 00:18:23.640 --> 00:18:29.279 it's okay either way, and then think, what is is 290 00:18:29.319 --> 00:18:35.440 the one thing I can change that can make me 291 00:18:35.440 --> 00:18:38.000 feel better? They can What is the one small thing 292 00:18:38.039 --> 00:18:40.319 I can do that will make a big impact against 293 00:18:40.319 --> 00:18:43.359 size and size matters. What is the one small thing 294 00:18:43.400 --> 00:18:46.920 I can do today, every day, this week, once a 295 00:18:46.960 --> 00:18:51.319 month that will make a big impact and make me 296 00:18:51.359 --> 00:18:56.640 feel better, make me feel more positive. On the flip side, 297 00:18:56.640 --> 00:18:58.720 what is the one big thing I can change in 298 00:18:58.759 --> 00:19:05.559 my life that will make things better in the long run. 299 00:19:05.759 --> 00:19:10.440 Short run, long run size length. But that's how you 300 00:19:10.440 --> 00:19:12.519 have to think. You've got to think about the small 301 00:19:12.599 --> 00:19:16.839 things that you can do today to make big changes later. 302 00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:21.039 And you can stop sizing up how you're doing compared 303 00:19:21.079 --> 00:19:24.519 to other people, and you get sizing up other people 304 00:19:25.680 --> 00:19:27.519 and judging them for what they have or don't have. 305 00:19:28.839 --> 00:19:31.680 You can stop thinking about or being petty or teaching 306 00:19:31.720 --> 00:19:35.400 your children to be petty, because Petty is small. Petty 307 00:19:35.519 --> 00:19:39.200 is bulling, Petty is thinking small. Petty is to writing people. 308 00:19:39.240 --> 00:19:44.680 Petty is name calling. Petty is building yourself up by 309 00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:50.279 tearing other people down. That's petty. Petty is being stingy 310 00:19:51.519 --> 00:19:55.839 for the sake of benefiting yourself and not thinking of others. 311 00:19:55.880 --> 00:20:00.640 Generous and generosity and compassion and gratitude are all big 312 00:20:00.680 --> 00:20:03.839 ideas and big thinking, and they build hope. And hope 313 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:09.200 is big. Hope is boundless. There's ever small hope, there's 314 00:20:09.240 --> 00:20:14.519 always big. Hope has no boundaries. And that's a good 315 00:20:14.519 --> 00:20:17.799 thing because I think we now live in a country 316 00:20:17.799 --> 00:20:20.720 where we need hope, and we needed to stop judging 317 00:20:20.720 --> 00:20:23.680 people belittling, And I say the biggest challenge one of 318 00:20:23.680 --> 00:20:27.759 the biggest challengs we have is besides watching the elections, 319 00:20:28.680 --> 00:20:35.519 is social media. I'm a ball actually at how many 320 00:20:36.160 --> 00:20:42.799 small minded, petty people are saying really mean things to 321 00:20:42.920 --> 00:20:46.720 people they don't even know on social media. Whether it's 322 00:20:46.759 --> 00:20:50.880 your accused of being as you know, I've been. I've 323 00:20:50.920 --> 00:20:52.880 had people level things at me as well. I think 324 00:20:52.920 --> 00:20:56.000 we all have. But that's like, when do we all 325 00:20:56.039 --> 00:20:57.079 become so small minded? 326 00:20:59.839 --> 00:21:00.359 The happen? 327 00:21:01.319 --> 00:21:02.240 What changed? 328 00:21:02.279 --> 00:21:06.160 What tides turn that we feel that we have the 329 00:21:06.279 --> 00:21:09.039 right to be small minded and level horrible things and 330 00:21:09.119 --> 00:21:12.000 mean spirited comments to people that we don't know and 331 00:21:12.039 --> 00:21:16.240 probably have never met on social media. We don't So 332 00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:18.839 if that's bothering you, and frankly it bothers me now, 333 00:21:19.400 --> 00:21:21.279 I turn it off. But you can't tune it out. 334 00:21:21.319 --> 00:21:23.640 You can't turn away and tune out completely because you 335 00:21:23.720 --> 00:21:26.599 have to be part of the change. You have to 336 00:21:26.640 --> 00:21:29.079 take your own small steps to be part of the change. 337 00:21:29.400 --> 00:21:31.960 Because we can't live in small and petty them We 338 00:21:32.000 --> 00:21:34.559 can't live in a small, petty world. We have to 339 00:21:34.559 --> 00:21:38.680 live in a big world. It's inevitable, it's here, and 340 00:21:38.759 --> 00:21:42.279 so think about what small steps you can do to 341 00:21:43.759 --> 00:21:47.119 take things that are petty and upsetting to you to 342 00:21:47.160 --> 00:21:51.839 help change them, whether it's on social media posting positive 343 00:21:51.880 --> 00:21:55.279 images and positive things and don't join the negative conversation, 344 00:21:58.200 --> 00:22:00.920 unfollow people that do bother you. But if you see 345 00:22:00.920 --> 00:22:05.279 something that is wrong, and you see and read something 346 00:22:05.319 --> 00:22:08.960 that is inappropriate and petty and bullying and mean spirited, 347 00:22:09.759 --> 00:22:15.279 speak out, say something. Don't hide from it, because it 348 00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:20.759 won't change unless somebody says enough enough. I'm not taking 349 00:22:20.799 --> 00:22:24.480 this and frankly and I try not to be political 350 00:22:24.519 --> 00:22:28.720 on the show, but I'm a frame of mind where 351 00:22:28.759 --> 00:22:31.000 I'm going to say, if you don't like what you're 352 00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:35.759 seeing happening either way, your choice. I'm not going to 353 00:22:35.839 --> 00:22:39.240 judge you. Your way of saying enough is to buy voting. 354 00:22:39.680 --> 00:22:43.720 And if we can do one thing in November of 355 00:22:43.799 --> 00:22:51.519 this year, one small thing, it is just voting. I 356 00:22:51.559 --> 00:22:53.400 don't really care who you vote for. I do, but 357 00:22:53.480 --> 00:22:57.279 I'm not going to on this show, but just vote 358 00:22:57.759 --> 00:23:01.880 and encourage people to vote. Because if we don't take 359 00:23:01.920 --> 00:23:05.000 action you, we don't speak up, and we don't think 360 00:23:05.079 --> 00:23:07.359 big and beyond, and we don't take small steps, we'll 361 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:09.359 never make it to the big steps. We'll never make 362 00:23:09.400 --> 00:23:12.160 it to the long run and to the finish line. 363 00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:20.079 Every finish line starts with a step and hope and 364 00:23:20.119 --> 00:23:24.720 thinking big and not being small minded. So size matters 365 00:23:24.839 --> 00:23:27.319 in terms of thinking big and being generous and large 366 00:23:27.319 --> 00:23:29.519 of spirit and large of hope and generosity. It does 367 00:23:29.559 --> 00:23:32.279 not matter when it's about material things and money and 368 00:23:32.319 --> 00:23:36.960 size and whatnot, because you can lose all of it 369 00:23:37.039 --> 00:23:42.480 in a hurricane and a bad financial deal, in bad health. 370 00:23:43.680 --> 00:23:46.880 No matter how much you have physically and in the bank, 371 00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:51.079 it can all go away in a poof. But no 372 00:23:51.119 --> 00:23:53.599 one can really take away or should take away, your 373 00:23:53.640 --> 00:23:57.119 generosity and kindness and large spirit. It's something you hold 374 00:23:57.160 --> 00:24:00.960 inside of you, and nobody can can try to drain 375 00:24:01.039 --> 00:24:03.119 it from you. They can discourage you, they can make 376 00:24:03.160 --> 00:24:07.960 you feel bad, But your largeness is holding on to 377 00:24:08.079 --> 00:24:13.680 that great strength, and if somebody's eroding it, then hould back, 378 00:24:13.799 --> 00:24:16.799 take a few steps to the side, take a pause, 379 00:24:17.880 --> 00:24:21.440 rethink and resettle and realize that maybe that person is 380 00:24:21.559 --> 00:24:24.079 not necessarily the best person to be in your orbit, 381 00:24:24.119 --> 00:24:32.200 and move on, or face someone and say enough, I 382 00:24:32.200 --> 00:24:37.000 don't want to hear this anymore. Enough, let's settle it 383 00:24:37.119 --> 00:24:39.160 or get involved to help be part of a change. 384 00:24:39.160 --> 00:24:40.799 If you don't like what you see going on in 385 00:24:40.799 --> 00:24:44.599 the world. You can volunteer, taking a small step by 386 00:24:44.599 --> 00:24:47.799 saying I want to help. How can I volunteer? Write 387 00:24:47.799 --> 00:24:51.000 a small check? Even a five dollars donation is good. 388 00:24:51.119 --> 00:24:52.799 You don't have to write five thousand. 389 00:24:54.359 --> 00:24:58.799 So this is the difference between small steps, thinking small, 390 00:24:58.880 --> 00:25:03.200 supporting small businesses, encouraging people who have a dream and 391 00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:06.960 are starting small get behind them, but not being small. 392 00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:15.200 Minded, petty and short tempered and short thinking. Think big, 393 00:25:15.400 --> 00:25:20.680 be big, and be generous. I'm going to end this 394 00:25:20.799 --> 00:25:26.000 show because I find when I start getting discouraged, I 395 00:25:26.039 --> 00:25:30.079 do two things. I read poetry, believe or not. I 396 00:25:30.160 --> 00:25:35.200 read poetry and I read I love poetry. I'd like 397 00:25:35.240 --> 00:25:39.079 to be a poet. And I go outside and take 398 00:25:39.119 --> 00:25:42.640 a walk or swim or do something to move my 399 00:25:42.720 --> 00:25:44.720 body and clear my head. Some of my best ideas 400 00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:47.160 believe or not. When I'm swimming in the pool. I'm 401 00:25:47.200 --> 00:25:49.160