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Speaker 1: Today we're gonna talk about. This episode is about solo dates.
Speaker 1: When's the last time you wined and dined yourself this summer,
Speaker 1: I think it's time to bring back solo dates. Okay,
Speaker 1: even if you're married, have your better half, other half?
Speaker 1: What have this half complicated situation? What do you call
Speaker 1: them situations? And what have you? Solo dates are extremely
Speaker 1: important time to spend time along with yourself and join
Speaker 1: your own company. Always took herself out to do things concerts, dinner, lunch, breakfast,
Speaker 1: what have you? You know, not all of your time
Speaker 1: needs to be spent with someone else. It's extremely important
Speaker 1: that we spend time alone, getting to know ourselves, love ourselves, like,
Speaker 1: what do you like? What do you want? You know?
Speaker 1: What are you looking for? What makes you happy? What
Speaker 1: do you find entertaining? So let's just start off this
Speaker 1: summer with planning some solo dates. Okay, and this goes
Speaker 1: for the females and the males. If you're a teenager
Speaker 1: or in your young twenties, it's time that you get started.
Speaker 1: Don't always wait for someone to go and do some
Speaker 1: things with. Enjoy doing things alone. Right, Like I said,
Speaker 1: even if you're married, leave the spouse at home, just
Speaker 1: take some time for yourself. All right, So here we are.
Speaker 1: Taking yourself on a date is a powerful act of
Speaker 1: self care, confidence building, and self discovery that involves intentionally
Speaker 1: plant enjoyable solo activities like dining out, visiting museums, or
Speaker 1: spa days to enjoy your own company. It boosts self
Speaker 1: worth and reduces dependency on others for happiness, essentially wooing yourself.
Speaker 1: Doesn't that sound really nice? Have you ever done this before?
Speaker 1: Have you ever gone out on a solo date? Okay?
Speaker 1: If not, this episode is for you. If you know
Speaker 1: someone who needs to hear this, make sure you pass
Speaker 1: it along. Okay. Here's some key tips for a successful
Speaker 1: solo date. Plan it. Put it on your calendar to
Speaker 1: ensure you show up for yourself. Dress up, get ready
Speaker 1: and put on perfume cologne, and make it feel special.
Speaker 1: Set intentions. Decide if it's for relaxation, adventure, or personal growth.
Speaker 1: No distractions, avoid mindless scrolling on your phone to be
Speaker 1: fully present. Start small if nervous, Start with a coffee shop,
Speaker 1: visit or movie, then move to dinner or trip. Solo
Speaker 1: date ideas culture or a leisure go to a movie,
Speaker 1: watch a play, concert, visit a museum or go thrift shopping,
Speaker 1: drinking food, take yourself to a cafe, go to a
Speaker 1: nice restaurant, sit at the bar for comfort, or have
Speaker 1: a picnic relaxation, have a DIY spy night, book a massage,
Speaker 1: and take a walk in nature. Walks are always included
Speaker 1: with everything because it clears your mind, you know, clearse
Speaker 1: your head. And of course, active and creativity. Oh I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: active and creative. Taking a cooking class, go hiking, or
Speaker 1: buy supplies to paint at home. See these are some
Speaker 1: of the things that you can do to just get
Speaker 1: into your own groove, get into your own self. We're
Speaker 1: gonna do solo dates that you know everyone should try.
Speaker 1: I have like five other things listed. I did see
Speaker 1: this here online that I want to share with you all,
Speaker 1: And this was already mentioned earlier. So I may go
Speaker 1: over a few things. So just bear with me, all right,
Speaker 1: but don't forget complete this episode. Listen to the entire thing,
Speaker 1: all right. Number one, take yourself to a cinema alone
Speaker 1: by popcorn. Pick the seat you actually want that you
Speaker 1: know you're going to say, hey, I want to sit
Speaker 1: right here. Take your time, look, make the right choice. Okay,
Speaker 1: you can laugh, cry if you need to. No one's
Speaker 1: talking to you, okay, so you can do whatever you
Speaker 1: choose to. Because you're by yourself, you're gonna be able
Speaker 1: to cry, to laugh. Just sit and enjoy the good movie.
Speaker 1: And just sit and just enjoy the movie. Number two,
Speaker 1: Go to a cafe on a weekday. Order a drink
Speaker 1: or one small pastry. Order a drink in one small pastry,
Speaker 1: Sit by the window and keep your phone face down
Speaker 1: for a bit. Watch people going to work, students rushing,
Speaker 1: and cars passing by. I love to just people watch.
Speaker 1: Do you all find that really? Really just so relaxing,
Speaker 1: Just to whether you're in a mall, whether you're in
Speaker 1: a restaurant, whether you at a cafe, a rest I
Speaker 1: said restaurant, or if you had a concert, if you're
Speaker 1: having dinner, if you had a movie, just a people watch.
Speaker 1: I love to people watch and I'll have a whole
Speaker 1: I'll have a whole scenario of what their life is
Speaker 1: and what type of person they are. Oh yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: like that. I'll look at the Yeah, she's the type
Speaker 1: that's really ballsy. Oh look at him, he's in a rush.
Speaker 1: I just make up scenarios I mean, it's really it's
Speaker 1: really therapeutic. Let me know if you all have ever
Speaker 1: just people watch. I don't know if I'll put that
Speaker 1: in a poll, but you never know anyway, or just
Speaker 1: leave me a comment and let me know if you've
Speaker 1: ever people watched okay, or do you enjoy it? Okay?
Speaker 1: So we had number two, let's go to a cafe
Speaker 1: and number three book a nice but affordable hotel in
Speaker 1: your city. Pick a pack a small overnight bag like
Speaker 1: you're traveling, okay, or the room service or buy food
Speaker 1: on the way, take a long shower, wear the robe,
Speaker 1: lie on the bed and do nothing. If you want, journal,
Speaker 1: if you want, watch a movie and just relax and
Speaker 1: sleep in and just have a slow night and slow morning.
Speaker 1: Have you ever done that? I've done that where I
Speaker 1: booked the room local. I know the last time a
Speaker 1: friend and I my friend and I Trina, and we
Speaker 1: had gotten a room out Marino Valley. But the room
Speaker 1: was horrible. I was just like, oh God, the bed
Speaker 1: was messed up, to TV. It was just everything about
Speaker 1: that room was. It was horrible. But that was the
Speaker 1: last time that I did that. I need to do
Speaker 1: that this summer for sure, because I'm here in Vegas.
Speaker 1: You know you can get all these good deals and
Speaker 1: just go and get a room, to get out of
Speaker 1: my house and act like you know, I've gone on
Speaker 1: a little mini overnight vacation. That's always a good time.
Speaker 1: And number four is take yourself on a Saturday breakfast,
Speaker 1: wake up early. I've done this plenty of times. This
Speaker 1: is really good, and during the weekday as well. I've
Speaker 1: done this on a Saturday, and I've done it on
Speaker 1: a weekday as well. On a Monday is always really
Speaker 1: good too. Anyway, take yourself on a Saturday breakfast, wake
Speaker 1: up early, shower where something really cute, or if you're
Speaker 1: a guy, you know, get all dressed, look really handsome.
Speaker 1: As long as you're feeling good. When you look in
Speaker 1: the mirror and you turn and spray on your little
Speaker 1: perfume a cologne, you're just like, yeah, you know. And
Speaker 1: then you go somewhere that serves breakfast, sit there and
Speaker 1: order something nice, enjoy your meal, take some selfies, videotape
Speaker 1: your surroundings if you choose to. You don't have to
Speaker 1: put it on social media. You could just have it
Speaker 1: for your own for your own records. You know what,
Speaker 1: I mean, just for your own little keepsakes. That's always
Speaker 1: a good time. A nice breakfast really sets the tone
Speaker 1: for a day. You get up, you get going. And
Speaker 1: you can also do a nice lunch somewhere if you're
Speaker 1: not an early morning person, because not everybody's a breakfast person.
Speaker 1: I get that, but do this for lunch, go somewhere
Speaker 1: really nice, and always say go to a new restaurant,
Speaker 1: something that you've always wanted to try. Don't just go
Speaker 1: to the same thing, like if you want a baked
Speaker 1: chicken or you know, barbecue and shit like that. Just
Speaker 1: go to something. Expose yourself to something new. If you've
Speaker 1: never tried sushi, go try sushi. If you've never gone to,
Speaker 1: maybe a Japanese restaurant, but do something different. Don't patronize
Speaker 1: the same restaurants you would normally patronize. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Make it a new restaurant somewhere that you've always wanted
Speaker 1: to go, like they have here in Vegas. They have
Speaker 1: a Bojangles. Now I can't wait to go. And I
Speaker 1: know that's not fancy, but that will be something that
Speaker 1: I'll do, whether it be for breakfast or for lunch.
Speaker 1: You know, I'll just go to Bojangles and just sit
Speaker 1: there because I've heard they have really good biscuits. And
Speaker 1: I know I just said, don't get the things that
Speaker 1: you have, but that's one of those things that like
Speaker 1: I have to try, you know, just like when canes
Speaker 1: is popping up or in and out in your areas.
Speaker 1: Like I've had a burger, but I just have to
Speaker 1: try this place. Like I said, try something that you
Speaker 1: haven't had prior. Okay, that's always a good thing. And
Speaker 1: you're another thing that's really really good. Take yourself out
Speaker 1: to a nice dinner if you have to make reservations again.
Speaker 1: You get all dressed up, put on something sexy, something
Speaker 1: that makes you feel really good about yourself. Go go
Speaker 1: get a new outfit just for your date night, you know,
Speaker 1: pick up some flowers along the way, or have some
Speaker 1: flowers delivered. Yes, have you some flowers delivered? And you go,
Speaker 1: oh gosh, you get your shower. Have on excuse me,
Speaker 1: I got the hiccups. Well I have the hiccups right now.
Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy? Anyway, you go and you get all
Speaker 1: fancied up, you play some nice jazz or whatever type
Speaker 1: of music soothes you, and you know you can sip
Speaker 1: on something a juice, wine, champagne, you know, make a
Speaker 1: nice little stiff drink, a little whiskey whatever, or it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be. You can have a non alcoholic
Speaker 1: beverage for those of you who don't drink. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm not promoting alcohol on here. That's just me. But anyway, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then you make a reservations. You show up, you
Speaker 1: have your your flowers that you left at home. You
Speaker 1: smell those on the way out the door, and you
Speaker 1: get in your car, you call your uber, your lift,
Speaker 1: and you go to the restaurant and you've already made reservations.
Speaker 1: And if you haven't made reservation, if there's a wait,
Speaker 1: no worries, folks, always go. It's a thirty minute wait,
Speaker 1: an hour wait, that's okay. Go sit at the bar.
Speaker 1: Look around again, people watch. If you're in the drink
Speaker 1: and drink, get you a Shirley temple no alcohols in that.
Speaker 1: If you want to get you a nice little drink,
Speaker 1: sit there and wait. It's part of the enjoyment of
Speaker 1: being out on solo dates. Okay, make those dinner reservations. Okay.
Speaker 1: And you can also number five, book a beauty appointment alone.
Speaker 1: Get your nails done, get your brows done, a watched out,
Speaker 1: and get your haircut. This is for the ladies and
Speaker 1: the men. Man go somewhere. If you're into dreads, get
Speaker 1: your dreads retwisted, get a haircut, go to the barbershop.
Speaker 1: For the women, go to the beauty shop and just
Speaker 1: don't rush home after you've pampered yourself and you've gotten
Speaker 1: And men, I know a lot of men now are
Speaker 1: into manicures and pedicures. You know, they going to the
Speaker 1: nail shop, they're getting their feet done. There was a
Speaker 1: time when I thought, I've said this probably on the show,
Speaker 1: I would never go with the man too, and that
Speaker 1: now I would love that. When I see couples, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I want a guy to sit there. Get your feet
Speaker 1: done too, baby. I may want to suck your toes,
Speaker 1: who knows, Yeah, never know. Ooh if you gotta suck
Speaker 1: toes before anyway, that's a whole different show. But never know,
Speaker 1: okay anyway, So yeah, and then what you do is
Speaker 1: after you, you know, look at yourself looking all good,
Speaker 1: you may go somewhere and have ice cream or just
Speaker 1: go sit in the park, drive around listening to music.
Speaker 1: I know gas is high right now, it's like growing.
Speaker 1: Nobody's driving around. Just wast Go sit in the park, though,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, to just sit there, enjoy
Speaker 1: some music. Go sit out at the beach, you know,
Speaker 1: or just the lake somewhere you don't have to rush home.
Speaker 1: You looking good, you feeling good, so you want to
Speaker 1: be out and about. You know, those are some ideas
Speaker 1: for some solo dates. So let's get that in this summer.
Speaker 1: Let's plan and do a lot of a lot of
Speaker 1: solo dates this summer. Okay, let's just put it in.
Speaker 1: Get the calendar out. Today's April fifteenth. So plan something.
Speaker 1: Let's just give yourself a week or two. Plan something.
Speaker 1: Think about what it is you want to do. Do
Speaker 1: you want to do a movie? Do you want to
Speaker 1: do breakfast? Do you want to go to a museum?
Speaker 1: You want to go get pampered? You can do. Oh
Speaker 1: and also we mentioned early briefly a spot day. A
Speaker 1: spot day is always a good massage. I can't wait
Speaker 1: to be able to get my finances together to go
Speaker 1: and get a forty five minute massage. Oh baby, when
Speaker 1: I tell you, I am going to enjoy every second
Speaker 1: of that massage. I've been saying that, like, you're definitely going,
Speaker 1: and you know, I was going to also tell you all,
Speaker 1: I've said this over and over again, groupon is your friend.
Speaker 1: Look around on groupon. You will be surprised of the
Speaker 1: deals they have for places that you know, sometimes they
Speaker 1: may not be doing really good with their business, so
Speaker 1: they put on groupon so that they could attract more
Speaker 1: folks in the hope that you'll be a returning customer.
Speaker 1: So go there, whatever it is you're looking for. And
Speaker 1: a cooking class that's definitely on my list this year.
Speaker 1: I wanted to do a cooking class. I want to
Speaker 1: take a I think I want to learn to do
Speaker 1: my own pasta. And also I know for a fact
Speaker 1: I'm going to make my own sushi. So I've already
Speaker 1: and again I found those coupons on groupon just haven't
Speaker 1: purchased them yet. Finances, you know what I'm saying. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to get it together, y'all. But anyway, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: going to go and I'm going to take a because
Speaker 1: I didn't do anything for my SIXTI if I just
Speaker 1: you know, I wasn't in the mood. I didn't I
Speaker 1: didn't want to be around a lot of people. I'm
Speaker 1: not adventures. I didn't go anywhere. My finances weren't at
Speaker 1: all good, you know what I'm saying, broke broke. But anyway,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna still do things throughout the year because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna celebrate turning sexy the entire year and making attending
Speaker 1: a sushi classes definitely on my list, and also attending
Speaker 1: a cooking class where I'd either do French, you know
Speaker 1: food or Italian, but definitely doing those things this summer
Speaker 1: because my finances are turning around. Baby, I'm speaking into
Speaker 1: an existence, you know what I'm saying. Things are looking up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I'm ready to start spending a little something on
Speaker 1: myself and you all should too. Okay, go to groupon,
Speaker 1: look around, see what kind of deals are online or
Speaker 1: wherever you go to, you know, save a buck and
Speaker 1: just book the spot. Go to a hotel or motel overnight,
Speaker 1: go to the next city. Book a trip alone. But
Speaker 1: you know, when you get there, don't tell folks you're alone.
Speaker 1: Don't ever tell anybody. Don't know I'm here by myself.
Speaker 1: You always gon know I'm here with family members. They're
Speaker 1: just doing their thing and I'm doing mine. But you
Speaker 1: can always just have an amazing time. Do a day
Speaker 1: trip where you can go up and do a turnaround
Speaker 1: where you go up that day and you come back
Speaker 1: home that night. But let's do more solo dates in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six. The summer of twenty twenty six is
Speaker 1: made for solo dates. Okay, don't take the girlfriends, don't
Speaker 1: take the homies, don't take your husband, your wife, girlfriend, boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, just the children, the grands. You know, you're
Speaker 1: your best friend. Like no, solo trips is where it's at.
Speaker 1: It's for your sanity. It's for you to enjoy your
Speaker 1: own company. If you can't leave the house and go
Speaker 1: out and have an amazing time and return home. Like
Speaker 1: all that was so beautiful because, like I've said before,
Speaker 1: the best part of doing solo things, I was talking
Speaker 1: to my neighbor that lives hearing the complex. Her and
Speaker 1: I were hanging out in the community center yesterday. The
Speaker 1: best part about solo dates is you don't have to
Speaker 1: worry about anyone who's ready to go or the people
Speaker 1: who are wanting to stay longer. It's like, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: done with this, I'm out of here, and that's that,
Speaker 1: you know, or somebody going hey, I'm a little short.
Speaker 1: You got this? Or can you cover this? And splitting
Speaker 1: bills and I didn't order this? And who ordered? No,
Speaker 1: that's just for the birds. Man, Get out there and
Speaker 1: do so. Low dates. Let me know what you're planning,
Speaker 1: or if you're already in the habit of having solo dates,
Speaker 1: let me know that as well. Please please leave me comments. Okay,
Speaker 1: I love you guys, more importantly, love your damn self.
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