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Speaker 1: Whatever's in the ways.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Parent Experiments with Lynette Corolla aunts Susannah Brisk.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Parent Experiment. I'm Lynnette Corolla, I'm Susannah Brisk.

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And today's show we have Stephanie Wilder Taylor, one of

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our favorite authors, love her, Yeah, who wrote many books.

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One of my favorites is Sippy Cupster for Chardonnay. Yeah,

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she was on Oprah. She was an Oprah. Oprah brought

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up her book or she was on Oprah, right, Stephanie, yeah, nodding, yes, yeah.

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So today we're going to talk about all kinds of

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fun stuff like sober parenting during the holidays and Stephanie's

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recent blog about tips for a happy marriage. Speaking of that,

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Speaking of that, by the way, my goodness, I've never

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seen Susannah so happy. I've never seen a person so

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happy to see their husband. We were just doing a

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show with Mary Wiland and uh, it's fine, don't worry

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about it, and and Barry, her husband, came in and

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she I thought. I thought it was like she almost

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won the lottery, or it was like she saw the

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ghost of Tom Joad or I don't know what it was,

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but I've never seen somebody so excited to see somebody

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in my whole life.

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Speaker 2: He's been away.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty nauseating, actually.

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Speaker 2: Is it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a little bit. Yeah, really, it just makes me jealous.

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Speaker 2: Really, it's so interesting. Sometimes we wonder if people, you know,

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resent it. I mean, he's been away, you know.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I could see that v I he's been

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away for a long time with that guy Lane.

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Speaker 2: Both guys you know what, just pays the fucking mortgage.

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Speaker 1: So let's okay, all right.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, he is gorgeous, and he brought everybody cupcakes, and

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now I'm all squishy. M Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Susannah's like nuzzling up against him and like smelling his

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neck and jumping up and down. And I thought you

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were gonna knock him over when she locked out of here.

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She's like as tall as he is. How tall is he?

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Speaker 2: Six'?

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Speaker 1: Four you're like as tall as him.

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Speaker 2: ALMOST i have heels.

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Speaker 1: On, yeah you jumped on top of. HIM i THOUGHT

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i was gonna fall over on ad of the ferrari back,

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there knock over.

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Speaker 2: Him AND i KNOW i jumped in his. Arms that

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was that was a little bit, Cruel but considering, well,

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NO i work out fuck, it he should be able

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to catch. Me, YES i. DO i love my hobby

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and it's been over a. Decade so. There well that's.

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Speaker 1: Nice, no that's.

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Speaker 2: Good three days from, Now i'll be, like, listen, aushole

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why did you get back out on the.

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Speaker 1: Road, well we're going to talk about we're going to

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talk about tips for a happy. Marriage, yeah so maybe

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you can chime in on.

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Speaker 2: THAT i could seriously write a book about. THAT i

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really do feel. That.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah well so one of my favorite things is man

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great for this holiday season for the griller in your.

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we have the mangreat at home and it's. Awesome it's

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the it's a grill enhancement system and it's one hundred

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percent cast, iron one hundred percent made In, america and

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you just lay it on top of your. Grill it's

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a heavy piece of iron and it grills the. Meat

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it cooks the meat from, inside and it leaves those

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like really pretty you know marks on it on the meat.

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Speaker 2: Lines, yeah the LINE i love the lines is that

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how you get the?

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Speaker 1: Lines it's really, good it really.

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Speaker 2: Is it's for a happy. Marriage speaking Of, yeah A

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Good griller that you don't have to fight.

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great banner to order, today And mangreat wishes you and

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your loved ones a great holiday. Season Hi, Stephanie hi

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are you.

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Speaker 3: Good i'm so happy to be.

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Speaker 1: Back so we're happy to have you back because you're

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one of our favorite.

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Speaker 4: Authors, wow thank you you love for your.

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Speaker 2: Books, hilarious laugh out, loud. Funny thank. You and one

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of the things that's great about you is that because

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there's the whole thing about the mommy. Writers it's, like

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first of, all that's another whole other topic for a,

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Show but you're one of those people who are just

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funny whatever you write. About it's, like if you were

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a mom you'd be. Funny if you were a, chiropractor

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you'd be. Funny if you were a brain, surgeon you'd

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write funny stuff about. That and that's the favorite kind

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of mommy author THAT i.

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Speaker 1: Love what if she was a rodeo player, writer.

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Speaker 3: LOOK i could, YEAH i, mean you, know if she

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was inherently, hilarious if.

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Speaker 2: She's a rodeo, clown she might be.

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Speaker 1: Funny so, So, stephan what are you doing? Nowadays you

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you have three books that are available On.

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Speaker 3: Amazon, yes and, uh and THEN i have a fourth

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one coming out In. June, wow what is? That it's

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a it's another memoir with essays in.

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Speaker 2: It advanced signed copy, Please oh.

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Speaker 3: EXCELLENT i haven't even seen. It it's coming out Until.

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June BUT i just finished that. One that's it's called

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them kind of a big deal and other delusions of adequacy.

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Speaker 1: And what's it.

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Speaker 3: About it's more like of me moving TO la in

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my twenties and having a lot of big ideas of you,

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know things that would, achieve and it's kind of WHERE

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i got myself into a lot of bad situations but

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always thought that it would work out really, well and you,

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know usually.

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Speaker 1: Yeah well it did work out well for you.

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Speaker 3: Because you're in the long, run it did work. Out

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it was funny, though because my other book was, similar

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the last BOOK i, Wrote it's not me it's. You

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AND i had the funniest comments On amazon and the

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reviews just, like, wow she's so, dysfunctional just what a horrible.

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Story AND i was, like but it worked.

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Speaker 2: Out, right you.

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Speaker 1: Know. YEAH i don't. Know people feel like they have

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to write negative shit.

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Speaker 2: Online all my advice would be not to read The

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amazon reviews because those people ARE.

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Speaker 1: I have to say one thing, though to. Brag i'm

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not trying to, brag But adam has on His amazon,

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reviews it's. ALL i, mean most of. THEM i think

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it's like A i don't. Know there's like over way

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over one hundred five star, reviews which is. Nice that's. Great,

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yeah one.

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Speaker 3: Or, two well he has a few fans two.

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Speaker 1: Stars, yeah, no he got his majority is five four

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and five.

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Speaker 3: Stars, well when exciting When Sippy cups are not For

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shardenay came, out you, know people didn't know WHO i.

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WAS i was an unknown, author and so the. Reviews

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a lot of people just went crazy with the negative

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reviews because they would find something about the book that

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they didn't, like like the fact THAT i didn't, breastfeed

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well attempted. To we talked about this last. Time, yeah

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and then they would just go. Crazy you, know this

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is she's a bad.

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Speaker 2: Person this is such a.

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Speaker 3: Neggat it's such a horrible. Book it's. Dangerous don't read this.

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Book and you, know at first it hurt my, feelings

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BUT i kind of found it. Amusing, yeah you do.

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Speaker 1: CRAZY i know people are.

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Speaker 2: Crazy do you want to reach inside my bra take

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out my breast and put it in my baby's? Mouth

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what business is it of yours Whether i'm lactating or

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not or? Where?

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Speaker 1: Right, yeah it's so.

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Speaker 3: Weird this is the one part of parenting that's gotten

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really extreme because people have opinions about the way you.

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Speaker 1: PARENT i don't know what the the urge is to

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judge other, Moms, like it's hard enough to be a.

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Mom why can't you just whatever works for, them let them?

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Be why do you have to just sit there and?

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Judge why do you have to bash? Them we get

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it breastfeeding is good for your, kid but that it's

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not for, Everybody so what leave them? Alone what you?

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Speaker 3: KNOW i? Agree and you know what you know who's

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guilty of? IT a lot is people that aren't even.

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Moms and you get people who already have their ideas

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of how you should parent and what the right way

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and the wrong way is before they've even had. Kids

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AND i always just want to, say when you have a, child, right, well,

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no you still can't judge you have a. Child but

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when you have a, child you'll get. It you, know

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you'll get. That all of your ideas about you know

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how we're all turning our kids INTO tv, Addicts, well

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only time you can take a shower is when your

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child's WATCHING, tv, right then you'll see do your kids WATCH?

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Speaker 1: Tv do you watch a lot OF? Tv go, ahead

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Speaker 3: What's a lot OF? Tv is six hours a day

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a lot OF? Tv, then, yes they watch a lot Of.

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Speaker 1: My. Kids my kids WATCH tv at certain times of the.

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Day they, don't they don't watch it during the, day

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but they watch it at the end of the. Day

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they too WATCH. Tv or if they wake up way

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too early and they go downstairs and WATCH. Tv you know,

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what it's.

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Speaker 3: Relaxing And i'll tell you another thing ABOUT. Tv my,

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tv is you, know fully Reading and she just turned

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and some of the shows that she watched with like

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teaching her letters and teaching Her not THAT i didn't

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read to her all the, time because they. Did BUT

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i just think THAT tv these days can be pretty.

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Educational it's not just.

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Speaker 1: Cartoons, yeah, absolutely it's.

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Speaker 2: Not like you're letting them watch. Porn people stop the.

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Speaker 3: Judge, WELL i, am but it's.

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Speaker 2: Educational but it's only mommy and daddy, education showing them

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Speaker 1: MADE i, say you got a porn or two with your. Husband, no, no,

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Speaker 2: Footage there is no. Footage. NO i don't trust one

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person in this universe.

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Speaker 1: Back there in the. Warehouse so we caught you just.

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Speaker 3: The way you two are going at each.

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Speaker 2: Other M, Well i'm making a feature next, year so

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there'll be plenty of footage of me with another, guy

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Speaker 1: Husband so let's talk about helicopter. Parenting that's one of

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the things we were going to talk about.

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Speaker 3: Too, okay let's. Judge, yeah let's start.

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Speaker 1: Judging see those helicopter moms by the, Way Ah, god

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we were talking about that the other couple of weeks

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ago With Craig, shoemaker the comedian there's an amazing by the,

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helicopter moms that that happened out, here how they're just

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circling their kids and they can't let them go and

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do their own.

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Speaker 3: Thing and, yeah, WELL i, mean here's the here's the.

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PROBLEM i think that the times have. Changed you. Know

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it's not like we can just let our kids roam

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the streets LIKE i used to WHEN i was you, know,

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eleven and you could just run, outside go to your

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neighbor's house and. Play you, know stuff, Happens.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you'll get them. Molested and exactly, right.

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Speaker 3: We'll get them all, molested.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 3: When it. Happens so WHAT i think what happens is

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news story you, know yeah that gets. Molested, okay now

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we have to all be.

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Speaker 2: ALARMED i mean, seriously to make a song and dance

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every time somebody touches you in an inappropriate.

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their neurotic, side and then you get these people that

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then you, know you know What i'm talking About it

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spurs them into becoming paranoid about. Everything, right and then

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it's like the food their kids, eat and the and

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they can't play outside by, them you, know sells for two.

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Seconds and you know we all know people like, that

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but THERE'S i and they make us, crazy.

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Speaker 1: RIGHT i have friends who take it another step. Further

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it drives me and saying, that, well they'll their little

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kid will be playing in our presence in my living

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room and she can't just sit down on the couch

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and let her kids play with my. Kids she has

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to sit with her on the floor and, well did

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you see and ask her what she thinks about? This

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and and and you, know did you use your? Words

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and all this stuff like just.

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Speaker 3: God these parents that are way too, Involved, yes but

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inore your kids like a normal.

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Speaker 1: PERSON i, WISH i mean it would.

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Speaker 2: Be when you see somebody like for, example once somebody

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was telling me about watching a mom at the. Pool

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it was like the public pool and the mom was

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literally just like yelling stuff out at the, kid just

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couldn't let the kid just. Enjoy was all, like did

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you use your? Words arms are not for? Hitting you,

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know all the little. Slogans it was like your.

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Speaker 3: Words what about when the helicopter.

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Speaker 2: From a bird and then you spend twenty years at

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drama school learning how to use your body again because

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everybody's told you have to be dead from the neck. Down?

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Speaker 3: Yeah what about what about when helicopter parents' parent your?

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busy helicoptering their own kids that they need to tell

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you what your kids are?

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Speaker 1: Doing kids caught up in the? Helicoptering, yeah, like oh

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do you see what he's?

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Speaker 3: Doing? Oh do you want do you want your your

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child to be eating a whole? Grape do you want

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to cut up your? Grapes? Yeah, NO i don't want

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to cut up my. Grapes my kid's, three, right he

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could eat a grape right at?

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Speaker 2: This or what about all your kids eating? Dirt, yeah

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well probably they.

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Speaker 1: Won't CALCIUM i get THE i get my then the same,

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friend she'll she'll parent my daughter because then they'll she'll be, like, Oh,

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natalia you know Little Louis lucy lou was playing with.

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That do you think you could let her play with

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it for a few minutes and then we can take?

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and it's, like let them figure it, out let them

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work it.

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Speaker 2: Out That Lucy lou is way too old to be

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playing with that. Doll mm.

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Speaker 3: Hmm you know, What i'll tell you something because we have,

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twins so we have it even a whole a slightly

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different situation because at some, point if we were to

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get involved with our kids, disputes that's all we would

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be doing all. Day that would be our absolute full time.

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Speaker 1: Job that's true when you have.

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Speaker 3: Twins you, KNOW i might have felt a little differently

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because my older one's, six, maybe but now THAT i have,

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twins it's LIKE i have to just let them work it.

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Out they fight all, day, right all day, long and

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you know if you do let them, go eventually they

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do reach some kind of, agreement right because they have to.

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Do your. Kids they just turned, three so you're my

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little my little.

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Speaker 1: Girls girls and three year old.

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Speaker 3: Twins yeah, yeah and then my older one just turns.

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Speaker 2: Six how's she doing year older? One is she? Good?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Good the one that was having problems was my

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little twin, Twins, skinny she's doing.

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Speaker 2: Well she remember reading that. Blog it was very very

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touching because a lot Of we are actually going to

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do a show about special needs because Both lynette AND

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i have some experience with kids with having special. Needs

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and again we've talked about. This everybody has, something BUT

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i thought that blog was very. Touching, yeah, well she

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she was very.

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Speaker 3: Small she was born two pounds AND i had something

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called I u G, r which is intri uterine growth,

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restriction so they had to deliver me. Early so one

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of my twins was fine and the other one was,

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small and, uh you, know she's just had a lot of.

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Struggles people that have, this the kids that are small

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for their gestational age OFTENTIMES i have eating. Problems and,

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yeah she, had she had delays and she ended up

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having to have a feeding tube when she was. One

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it was the weak. Game but you know, what it's all.

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Good you, know she still kind of is what it. Is,

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yeah yesterday we weighed. Her she was twenty four. Pounds,

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wow that slob AND i love. It, yeah good for,

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you little.

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Speaker 2: Chunka, yeah her sister's.

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Speaker 3: Thirty four pounds and she's twenty four. Pounds but it's, fantastic.

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Fantastic the hardest thing really for me is that people

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will see me with my twins, together and it's the

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obnoxious comments they. Make they'll they'll go how old are?

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They And i'll, say, oh they're they're, three or you,

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know up until recently they were they're, two and they'd,

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say both of, Them, yeah they're.

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Speaker 4: Twins they're. Twins, really, yeah they're. TWINS i, go you,

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know what's so? FUNNY i get the absolute opposite. Thing they,

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go how old are? THEY i, go he's five and he's.

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Six they're not. Twins, no they're not. Twins that they're,

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not because this one's the younger ones. Bigger, yeah, really

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thank you for noticing.

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Speaker 3: THAT i so.

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Speaker 2: Relate isn't that funny they're not? Twins or what about

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when they had long? Hair it was, like oh she's so. Pretty, no, no,

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no that's a. Boy are you? Sure well it's fairly.

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SURE i MEAN i could be.

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Speaker 1: Wrong, yeah my, GOSH i get The, YEAH i get

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THE i get are they? FRATERNAL i have boy girl?

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Twins or? No are they? IDENTICAL i get, that, like

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how old are?

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Speaker 3: You?

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Speaker 1: Sir you don't, know you don't know?

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Speaker 3: What they look so much? Alike yeah and a, girl they're.

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Speaker 1: Identical penises look exactly the.

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Speaker 2: Same we're teaching how to appreciate her little. Penis.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah people don't know what they're talking.

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Speaker 1: About, no, No but, anyway so speaking of people that

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don't know what they're talking, about you had a recent

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blog just.

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Speaker 2: KIDDING i, mean.

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Speaker 3: We love, people that's the, thing bottom, Line we love.

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People people mean, well, RIGHT i mean, like, yeah they

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do mean, well it's just you know what it. Is

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it's when they argue with, you when you, know when

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you try to tell, them you know, What, yeah they're,

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twins and they're just but she's so. Small, yeah but

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they're still. Twins it doesn't change, it you, know and

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you try to just move, it move it, along.

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Speaker 1: Take it after her. Mama yeah they're.

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Speaker 3: Different oh, Okay and then they want to engage you in.

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It and then and you want to you, KNOW i

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don't know, you AND i don't feel like speaking about

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my kids too needs with, You but thank you for your.

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Observation do you ever say, that you know what When

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i'm in a bad. Mood every once in a, WHILE i. Do,

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yeah they're. Twins, yes she's, smaller that's. It, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to discuss that with.

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Speaker 1: You move, on old.

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Speaker 2: Lady i'll tell You i've done a lot of, boundaries you,

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guys and SOMETIMES i can just Say i'm not going

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to discuss.

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Speaker 1: That, yeah So, Stephanie, yes the, Holidays, yes do you

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have a hard time? Now you were drinking a. LOT

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i was drinking like a, fish and we talked about.

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Speaker 3: That CAN i stop? Drinking?

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Speaker 1: Right and so now you're. SOBER i am sober as a, rock.

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Speaker 2: Sober as a.

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Speaker 3: Judge i'm. Sober i'm still so fun, though.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah and do you miss the? Drinking you?

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Speaker 2: KNOW i tell you something? Time of, COURSE i just

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tell you something WHEN i came on here a long

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time with somebody and was, LIKE i don't even remember

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who the guest. Was AND i mentioned THAT i don't.

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Drink oh you don't. Either, no we're friends Of bill

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and what's? Up and, Uh and then it goes you

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need a? DRINK i swear to, God she's, like why

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don't you, Drink, susana you're so tense you need a? Drink,

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well that's an. Alcoholic IF i miss, drinking WELL i,

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meantime it's like it's such a broad kind Of.

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Speaker 1: So you do miss? Drinking is that WHAT i shouldn't

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talk about?

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Speaker 3: It we talked about this last. Time but WHAT i

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do miss more than, drinking you, know because the number

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one cause of, hangovers by the, way is. Drinking SO

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i don't AND i don't miss Hangover, no AND i

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miss the fact that there was a shortcut to feeling.

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Better that's WHAT i. Miss it's, like you know, what

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it's such a drag when you're tense or when you're

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having a bad day to go, like we'll do some. Yoga,

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NO i don't want to do some. YOGA i want

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to take a vica. In, yeah you, know but you.

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Can't so then you have to go all, Right i'll

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eat something, thotting Or i'll watch zone out and WATCH,

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tv Or i'll you, know but about what you?

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Speaker 2: Pray come, on, girl you hate your knees and say

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that serenity?

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Speaker 3: Prayer, yeah you, KNOW i do that.

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Speaker 1: Too did you do the twelve step thing or? Something

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you guys are twelve? Step but what is that what you're?

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Talking you don't we talk about.

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Speaker 3: The Twelfth that's the first rule of twelve step is.

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Speaker 2: We don't talk about. That it's actually the twelfth, tradition

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which is that. Anonymity anonymity is a spiritual foundation about.

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Traditions isn't that the eleventh tradition, whichever?

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Speaker 1: Whatever okay about it?

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Speaker 2: Now so, no but most people who are sober are

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singing in a twelve step, program and the twelve step

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program the whole kind of theory behind it is that

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if you replace drinking or your drug of choice or

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watching Television, lynnette or Shopping lynette with the shopping thing

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is not really your thing getting a bargain is.

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Speaker 3: More is this an, Intervention, Fornet it's.

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Speaker 2: NOT i Wish i'm trying to find out what our thing.

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Speaker 1: Is.

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Speaker 3: Addicted we see that's not talk.

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Speaker 5: About that is clearly reality television. Yea And Bruce, Springsteen,

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yeah that's.

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Speaker 2: True the whole thing with the twelve steps is that

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you're replacing. Spirituality you're you're replacing your drug of choice with,

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spirituality because for an, addict unless you can give us something,

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better we'll keep doing the.

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Speaker 1: Thing what if you're not a spiritual, Person, well.

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Speaker 2: That's why you're probably an. Addict that's the whole that's

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the whole tenet of the twelve step thing is that.

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Speaker 3: It's about, well, okay so for most, addicts they need

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to just accept the fact that there they have an.

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Addiction once you can really accept the fact that this

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is a problem for, you it's like you can kind

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of move. On they call it turning it. Over you,

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know you can turn it over and go there's NOTHING

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i can do about, this and stop fighting it so,

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hard and then you can ask help from your higher.

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Self it really be. Anything it can be the clock on.

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Speaker 2: The, wall for the for the, hundreds another.

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Speaker 3: Person so there's another program for.

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Speaker 1: You do you have a hard Time do you have

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a hard time during certain periods of times of the

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year or certain periods of times of the. Day you,

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know it's a good.

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Speaker 3: Question, yeah the holidays are are tough because AND i.

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00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:08,000
DO i remember waking up on This thanksgiving morning and, Thinking,

466
00:22:08,039 --> 00:22:10,559
GOD i really used to Associate thanksgiving with a whole

467
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,680
day of like watching, football having some, drinks and you,

468
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:18,559
know that's sometimes HOW i WHAT i associate, relaxing you, know.

469
00:22:18,799 --> 00:22:23,480
Family but then you just have to do something, else, yeah.

470
00:22:23,039 --> 00:22:25,440
Speaker 1: You, know and then once you divert your thoughts to something,

471
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:26,799
else you forget about, it right.

472
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 3: Or, No, YEAH i mean.

473
00:22:29,519 --> 00:22:33,759
Speaker 2: Briefly the thing, Is, lynette that that's a really great

474
00:22:33,839 --> 00:22:36,160
question about the, holidays because if you've ever been in

475
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,920
any twelve step Room around the, holidays they are, Packed,

476
00:22:39,559 --> 00:22:41,960
chris unless they're you, know packed with people who are

477
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:45,000
not out there, drinking because most people do go, out

478
00:22:45,079 --> 00:22:46,920
as you call it in the, program if you're going

479
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:49,799
to drink or drug or whatever is during those. Holidays

480
00:22:49,799 --> 00:22:51,839
for some, reason those are very difficult for. People AND

481
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,640
i think one it's because you see maybe members of

482
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,759
your family who push your. Buttons, yeah for. Sure and

483
00:22:57,799 --> 00:23:00,240
if you grew up in an alcoholic, home then that

484
00:23:00,319 --> 00:23:03,559
has some kind of memory for you that you also

485
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:08,000
associate with, alcoholism with your with your. Addictions so but.

486
00:23:08,079 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 3: That and Also i'll add that holidays are a period

487
00:23:12,759 --> 00:23:17,400
where people tend to feel lonely because they some, people you,

488
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:20,480
know have this image of what the perfect family should look,

489
00:23:20,559 --> 00:23:22,759
like or that they should be with loved, ones and

490
00:23:22,759 --> 00:23:24,480
a lot of people aren't with loved. Ones and then

491
00:23:24,519 --> 00:23:28,720
that makes it even harder because loneliness can make people

492
00:23:28,839 --> 00:23:30,240
want to fill that to.

493
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:36,039
Speaker 1: Leanness, Yeah, so sober parenting during the holidays is preferable

494
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:37,440
to drunk, Parenting, yes.

495
00:23:37,519 --> 00:23:41,039
Speaker 3: ABSOLUTELY i, mean you, know for, Me i'm getting used

496
00:23:41,079 --> 00:23:43,759
to it. Now i've been you, know going on going

497
00:23:43,799 --> 00:23:48,240
on two years and year and a half and, Congratulations, yeah.

498
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:49,920
Speaker 1: Congratulations you get.

499
00:23:49,839 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 3: Used to you, Know i've had my firsts and so

500
00:23:53,319 --> 00:23:55,440
you kind of know what to, expect SO i haven't

501
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:58,720
been hit by as. Many it was definitely harder the first,

502
00:23:58,759 --> 00:24:01,880
year you, know the first. Holiday first everything is harder

503
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,480
when you've just quit doing something that used to make

504
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:04,799
you feel.

505
00:24:04,839 --> 00:24:07,319
Speaker 1: Good CAN i talk really quick just what you were?

506
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:09,319
Doing you were? DRINKING i was.

507
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:13,039
Speaker 3: Drinking, yeah WELL i was drinking and then at, night you,

508
00:24:13,039 --> 00:24:17,480
KNOW i took the ON x for anxiety and, uh you,

509
00:24:17,519 --> 00:24:21,119
know IF i had a you, know dental, SURGERY i

510
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,640
had Vico in on, hand and you, know SO i

511
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:25,960
had my. Fun i'm just.

512
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:29,559
Speaker 2: That big fan of the nitrous. Myself then turn that

513
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,680
ship right up the D i thought that WAS lsd FREE.

514
00:24:33,799 --> 00:24:36,519
LSD i kept looking at the dentists, like are you kidding?

515
00:24:36,519 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 1: Me but you can't take it with, you? Right or can?

516
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 2: You you don't need to take it with. You you

517
00:24:40,519 --> 00:24:41,920
get that, experience you take the.

518
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,839
Speaker 1: Trip people take, nitrous people.

519
00:24:44,559 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 3: Buy, it, Right don't people do?

520
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 2: That you KNOW i don't have those kind of.

521
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:52,039
Speaker 1: Connections dealer down On, Crunshaw.

522
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, Exactly oh, Man, YEAH i was. Doing you know,

523
00:24:55,519 --> 00:24:57,720
WHAT i was doing a lot the mommy. DRUGS i

524
00:24:57,799 --> 00:25:00,319
call them the things that are mom's little. Helper, yeah

525
00:25:00,319 --> 00:25:03,480
the things that are easily accessible to your rent of

526
00:25:03,519 --> 00:25:03,759
the mill.

527
00:25:03,839 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 2: People.

528
00:25:04,319 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 3: RIGHT i wasn't hanging in any cool fun you, know

529
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,799
cocaine dealing mommy circles or you, know get my hands

530
00:25:10,799 --> 00:25:13,200
in any. COIN i don't know what they are, either

531
00:25:13,319 --> 00:25:15,640
BUT i just, thought how can they.

532
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 1: Know there's a friend of mine THAT i used to

533
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,839
was friends with back in the day in high school

534
00:25:20,839 --> 00:25:23,039
and after high school and college and, stuff and she

535
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:26,160
was always doing blow all the, time AND i was,

536
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,559
like you, know just wasn't for. ME i, know smoke.

537
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,279
POT i like to be a. DOWNER i don't want

538
00:25:31,279 --> 00:25:31,799
to be ALL.

539
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 3: I like to be down. TO i did coke WHEN

540
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,599
i was. TWENTY i. QUIT i knew it could potentially

541
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,119
be a problem for. ME i think the last TIME

542
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,200
i did, IT i was. Twenty and the weird thing

543
00:25:41,279 --> 00:25:44,000
IS i haven't seen it SINCE i know where is?

544
00:25:44,039 --> 00:25:45,559
Speaker 1: It but then we didn't.

545
00:25:47,039 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 2: Don't do?

546
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,559
Speaker 1: It, yeah but then we just did. It we all

547
00:25:49,599 --> 00:25:53,240
got back together again Because Van halen went back Only

548
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:57,960
rock so so we all got together and, uh we

549
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,000
went to The Van halen concert and and she came

550
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,400
and she's a mother of two and she's still doing

551
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,480
blow and she's, like you want to? Bump And i'm

552
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:11,920
like a. BUMP i was, like are you? Kidding i've

553
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,480
been seeing it all the. Time she's still doing But i'm,

554
00:26:14,559 --> 00:26:16,480
like you gotta be. Kidding her friend told me that

555
00:26:16,559 --> 00:26:19,200
she does it all the. Time how can you be on?

556
00:26:19,279 --> 00:26:19,960
Blow and really?

557
00:26:20,039 --> 00:26:24,319
Speaker 3: Should do you know what's My she probably gets cleaning

558
00:26:24,319 --> 00:26:26,160
down a lot around the, house, though do you know

559
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,599
what is probably a lot cleaner than? Mine are we

560
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,160
watching The Real housewives Of Beverly hills?

561
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:36,400
Speaker 1: Though, yes of Course i'm. UPSET i Ad adam AND

562
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,680
i Why, yeah there you? Go and that doesn't hurt.

563
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:39,200
You you don't get a?

564
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,039
Speaker 3: Hang? Okay can we please talk About?

565
00:26:41,079 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 1: Camille what's wrong with?

566
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:45,079
Speaker 2: HER i can't take the matching face. Jobs you don't

567
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:45,319
have the?

568
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,839
Speaker 1: Squirrel talk about she had a?

569
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,880
Speaker 3: Personality, YES i have been spending a lot of time diagnosing.

570
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 1: Her what is she? Is she a sociopath because she

571
00:26:55,039 --> 00:26:57,400
asks the way she thinks a person is supposed to.

572
00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 3: Act that's What i'm, thinking, right she doesn't think people, notice, right.

573
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,279
Speaker 1: Do you see when she Saw kelsey for the first,

574
00:27:05,279 --> 00:27:06,839
time CAN i get a little sugar?

575
00:27:07,559 --> 00:27:10,559
Speaker 3: Like and she thinks it's like, yes she doesn't know

576
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,039
if she's supposed to be playing with her, kids or

577
00:27:13,039 --> 00:27:15,319
how she's supposed to interact with, people.

578
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: Or how's wrong with?

579
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 3: Her and then with Her, oh come on those sound

580
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:22,240
bites where she's her confessionals where she's, SAYING i, WIN

581
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,640
i win BECAUSE i kept my cool.

582
00:27:26,599 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: Right and she's painfully. Shy she's painfully. Shy she wants

583
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:32,839
to make on a.

584
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,599
Speaker 5: BARF i can't stand.

585
00:27:34,799 --> 00:27:38,079
Speaker 1: Her she's on a reality she's the star of a reality.

586
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:39,839
Show if you're painfully, shy why do you wan ON?

587
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 3: TV i can't stand her, Either BUT i wish the

588
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,960
whole show is just About. CAMILLE i, KNOW i, know,

589
00:27:46,519 --> 00:27:48,880
seriously every scene that goes away from, Her i'm, like

590
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,519
can we get back To? CAMILLE i know her.

591
00:27:50,559 --> 00:27:52,759
Speaker 1: Craziness, NO i could care less about the maloof. Chick

592
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:56,759
she's just kind of. Boring, yeah he's a nice.

593
00:27:56,759 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 3: Guy she seems like she might even be a good. Mom,

594
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:00,880
right get out of here.

595
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 1: NOW i.

596
00:28:01,319 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 2: Know it's like a car.

597
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: Crush it, Is it's like it's it IS i watch

598
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,759
it With adam on the. WEEKENDS i watch it. TWICE

599
00:28:09,079 --> 00:28:11,160
i watch it On thursday, night and THEN i watch

600
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:12,279
it With adam on A saturday.

601
00:28:12,279 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 3: Morning what about the, guy the old creepy guy who's

602
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,920
always with her right in the hot, time and he

603
00:28:18,039 --> 00:28:19,920
was like staring at all their. Tits you know What

604
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:20,359
i'm talking.

605
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 1: About she doesn't watch.

606
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,279
Speaker 2: It i've only say it a little. BIT i got too.

607
00:28:24,319 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 3: Scared, yeah, yeah there's there's this like this old fat

608
00:28:28,279 --> 00:28:32,359
guy who's always, around who has like some kind of

609
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:36,319
young hottie, wife and they're they're just always. There and

610
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,359
Then camille had that that scene where she was, like,

611
00:28:38,839 --> 00:28:41,319
YEAH i THINK i have A jesus complex BECAUSE i

612
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,359
just love to help people so much AND i let you.

613
00:28:44,359 --> 00:28:46,720
GUYS i gave you guys somewhere to live, well and

614
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:47,839
they're always with.

615
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 2: Her what is?

616
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:49,559
Speaker 1: THAT i don't know who they?

617
00:28:49,599 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 5: Are she buys her. FRIENDS i mean it's clear that

618
00:28:53,359 --> 00:28:55,599
it's her by the, way it's her hairstylist or her makeup.

619
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,799
Speaker 3: Artist that's her best. Friend right when she SAID i

620
00:28:57,839 --> 00:28:59,960
need to go be with my true friends after having

621
00:29:00,039 --> 00:29:01,680
the people she Pays.

622
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:04,599
Speaker 1: Kyle and how uncomfortable Was kelsey when she walked into

623
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:05,759
that dress.

624
00:29:05,759 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 3: Backstage, yeah and he was, like can you please leave

625
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:09,920
so we could.

626
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:13,079
Speaker 1: Talk about unhappy marriages and keys to a happy?

627
00:29:13,079 --> 00:29:14,039
Speaker 3: Marriage she's happy.

628
00:29:14,039 --> 00:29:17,119
Speaker 2: Marriage REALITY tv show is not one of the keys

629
00:29:17,119 --> 00:29:17,599
to a happy.

630
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:21,279
Speaker 1: Marriage, no it iscommend not but watching it together is

631
00:29:21,319 --> 00:29:25,039
BECAUSE i enjoy Being but.

632
00:29:25,519 --> 00:29:28,559
Speaker 3: Making fun of other people's marriages is a. Plus, yes

633
00:29:28,599 --> 00:29:29,440
that's a good thing for your.

634
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: Marriage so we're going to see that they're going to

635
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:35,160
be separating sometime. Soon, Yes, now did you read the

636
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:38,319
article that she was in? Magazine did you smell bullshit

637
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:41,799
to that? Article because, YEAH i mean she's talking about

638
00:29:41,799 --> 00:29:45,240
how she was blindsided and he was like so cruel and.

639
00:29:45,319 --> 00:29:48,039
Hurtful it was like something wasn't right the.

640
00:29:48,119 --> 00:29:50,599
Speaker 2: KIDS i read that In people BECAUSE i read it.

641
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,799
Online she, goes the kids don't even know that daddy's

642
00:29:53,839 --> 00:29:57,039
not coming. Back, well who the fuck is going to tell?

643
00:29:57,039 --> 00:29:59,319
Them if you don't, so then who what are you

644
00:29:59,319 --> 00:30:00,400
going to? Do it's it's not.

645
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,519
Speaker 3: Here if they have ears or, eyes they probably have a.

646
00:30:03,559 --> 00:30:05,079
Speaker 1: FEELING i feel sorry for me.

647
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 3: TOO i feel sorry for all kids on all of

648
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,440
the franchises Of Real.

649
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,079
Speaker 1: Housewives, yeah how about.

650
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:13,599
Speaker 2: On, Cape john are the real Victims cape and all

651
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:15,759
of the. Shows how about any kid who's ever been

652
00:30:15,759 --> 00:30:16,599
put on a reality?

653
00:30:16,599 --> 00:30:19,319
Speaker 3: Show do you, remember like when realities first started getting,

654
00:30:19,319 --> 00:30:23,160
big the kids were never On that was like a big. Thing, Really,

655
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,640
yeah the kids weren't on reality and all of a,

656
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,400
sudden nobody. Cares they're all.

657
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 1: On, yeah it's a free for. ALL i love. Hoarders oh,

658
00:30:31,039 --> 00:30:34,000
yeah that's a good makes me clean my. HOUSE i like,

659
00:30:34,039 --> 00:30:36,200
intervention love.

660
00:30:36,319 --> 00:30:38,119
Speaker 3: IT i am so excited by the. WAY i know

661
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,200
you mentioned this on the on your other, show BUT

662
00:30:40,279 --> 00:30:41,920
i cannot wait For Celebrity.

663
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,519
Speaker 1: Rehab it's SO i, KNOW i can't. DYING i know

664
00:30:44,799 --> 00:30:47,400
it's gonna Be it's a good. Season, Drew it's gonna be.

665
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,880
Good yeah he, Does, yeah he gets into.

666
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 2: It so what are your? Tip what are your tips

667
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,559
for a happy? Marriage although after you saw me jump

668
00:30:54,599 --> 00:30:56,240
in my husband's, lap you said you would like to

669
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:57,279
come back from the.

670
00:30:57,279 --> 00:30:59,319
Speaker 3: WAR i think you were thirteen And Justin bieber just

671
00:30:59,319 --> 00:31:05,480
walked in the rooms. INSANE i think that's. Cute THOUGH

672
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:09,720
i did think it was. CUTE i, mean you, know just.

673
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 2: Because you And adam don't show. AFFECTION i finally made

674
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,039
him show affection to you one day BECAUSE i was,

675
00:31:15,119 --> 00:31:17,319
like they don't even touch each. Other and THEN i

676
00:31:17,359 --> 00:31:19,720
said something to, you AND i said something to her and.

677
00:31:19,799 --> 00:31:22,799
You when you guys hugged and, kissed it made me so.

678
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:27,359
HAPPY i literally teared up because you're so your, soulmates

679
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:30,400
AND i don't think there's anything wrong with letting people

680
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,039
see is get a glimpse of that. OCCASIONALLY i understand you're,

681
00:31:33,079 --> 00:31:35,880
protective BUT i don't have a problem WITH. PDA i

682
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,119
actually THINK pda is a happy.

683
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,759
Speaker 1: Marriage, YEAH i, don't it. Doesn't BUT i also.

684
00:31:40,519 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 3: Think that getting in the huge this is one of my,

685
00:31:42,759 --> 00:31:45,720
tips getting in a huge fight with your spouse in,

686
00:31:45,759 --> 00:31:49,000
public maybe with some domestic, violence is a good way

687
00:31:49,039 --> 00:31:51,599
to show that even happy couples fight, sometimes.

688
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,319
Speaker 2: You, know perfectly without police, intervention.

689
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,119
Speaker 1: Though but don't you think there's a problem when a

690
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:01,119
happy couple fight over the same. Day, yes but the

691
00:32:01,759 --> 00:32:04,759
problem keeps. Arising it's just going to lead to more and.

692
00:32:04,799 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 2: More but then it's really not about the peanut, butter is.

693
00:32:07,279 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 3: IT i you, KNOW i think THAT i think that

694
00:32:11,079 --> 00:32:12,920
a lot of there are a lot of stressors that,

695
00:32:13,039 --> 00:32:16,559
happen especially when you have. Kids since this is the parenting,

696
00:32:16,599 --> 00:32:19,559
EXPERIMENT i, think you, know it's it's. Tough you do

697
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:21,160
have to work harder at your marriage once you've had,

698
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:25,519
kids especially. Twins, yeah twins are like a serious marriage.

699
00:32:25,559 --> 00:32:30,440
KILLER i think. REALLY i just think because you, know

700
00:32:31,279 --> 00:32:33,680
you take a regular couple who has one, baby and that.

701
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,599
Starts that causes stress because you, know people fight in

702
00:32:36,599 --> 00:32:38,559
the middle of the. Night if your, kid you, know

703
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,680
they're not, sleeping you're not, sleeping your sleep. Deprived that's

704
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:45,480
when your worst personality comes. Out it's really. Difficult you,

705
00:32:45,519 --> 00:32:47,599
know my sister in, law my brother and sister in

706
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,759
law just had a baby and they're experiencing that right.

707
00:32:50,799 --> 00:32:52,400
Now AND i think the best thing THAT i can

708
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,720
tell them is it's totally. Normal like they're, like all

709
00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:58,119
of a, sudden we're having full on fights at four

710
00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:59,599
o'clock in the, morning and.

711
00:32:59,559 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: Because they're sleep, deprived they're sleep, deprived.

712
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,039
Speaker 3: They don't even know what they're. Saying you, know you

713
00:33:03,119 --> 00:33:05,279
just start bickering with each other because you don't even

714
00:33:05,319 --> 00:33:07,920
you don't even know which ends. Up and THEN i

715
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,039
think that if you can't recognize that you have a

716
00:33:11,039 --> 00:33:14,640
good marriage and that you love each, other then those

717
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,680
things can kind of take over and then you, think,

718
00:33:16,799 --> 00:33:18,559
oh maybe we just don't even get along with each,

719
00:33:18,599 --> 00:33:22,880
other you. Know SO i think it's important to keep reminding,

720
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,200
yourself you know that you're on the same, team, right

721
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,240
and that you're there to help each other and that

722
00:33:28,279 --> 00:33:29,960
you have each other's best interests at.

723
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:33,119
Speaker 2: Heart then AND i are nodding. EMPHATICALLY i think too

724
00:33:33,119 --> 00:33:35,279
many people have the back door. OPEN i have to

725
00:33:35,319 --> 00:33:39,000
tell you WHEN i see all the celebrity, divorces AND i,

726
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,039
MEAN i, KNOW i, understand AND i know In, hollywood you,

727
00:33:42,079 --> 00:33:44,400
know being together for a, decade which is actually not

728
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,480
even that. Long, really In, hollywood people are, really oh my,

729
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,519
god like because it's it's it's. Hard there are a

730
00:33:51,559 --> 00:33:55,599
lot of other stressors. Here but you have to be

731
00:33:56,559 --> 00:34:00,200
willing to do. It like it's not just like. Nothing

732
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:04,480
it's not, like OH i can. Devoice he's annoying, me, Right.

733
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 3: WELL i am, always aren't you always? SURPRISED i MEAN

734
00:34:07,279 --> 00:34:10,000
i read almost every. Day i'm a little bit obsessed with.

735
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:13,679
That these people that you think are happy couples and

736
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:14,360
then you hear they.

737
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 1: Separated, yeah that's why they're in the acting. BUSINESS i,

738
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,760
Know Like tony And. EVA i feel.

739
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,119
Speaker 2: Bad OH i knew they weren't going to work. Out,

740
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,559
REALLY i saw him On. OPERA i was, LIKE i

741
00:34:25,639 --> 00:34:26,480
give him maybe three.

742
00:34:26,559 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 1: Years really you could tell my body?

743
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,119
Speaker 2: Language really but, heat he's a sports.

744
00:34:32,159 --> 00:34:36,639
Speaker 3: Guy are all people that are playing sports canna?

745
00:34:36,679 --> 00:34:38,800
Speaker 2: CHEAT i didn't think.

746
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:39,760
Speaker 1: THEY i thought that.

747
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 3: HE'S i mean Not Tiger woods because he's, different, Right but.

748
00:34:43,119 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 1: BUT i THOUGHT i THOUGHT i thought he thought he

749
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,360
had it made With. Eva you, KNOW i thought he

750
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,639
felt like he got the jackpot with her because she's so.

751
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,960
Hot SO i, thought, oh they're they're gonna be, good because.

752
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 3: It doesn't ever seem no matter how good looking the person,

753
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:55,639
is does.

754
00:34:55,679 --> 00:34:58,239
Speaker 1: IT i guess. Not but he was having an affair

755
00:34:58,320 --> 00:34:59,239
with uh.

756
00:34:59,559 --> 00:35:02,280
Speaker 3: Her his players a player from his team's.

757
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:03,159
Speaker 2: Wife maybe.

758
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 5: Not he, was, okay is this culture of them like

759
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,039
he's totally making eye contact with the other.

760
00:35:10,119 --> 00:35:15,079
Speaker 3: Woman what about the body? Language but we don't know what.

761
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 1: LANGUAGE i feel bad, because you know, what she's the

762
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,000
nicest out of all of. Them, actually on The Desperate,

763
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:23,559
housewives she is she worked AT abc for eight, years

764
00:35:23,559 --> 00:35:26,559
and she she was the nicest out of all of.

765
00:35:26,559 --> 00:35:30,159
Them the rest of them are. Horrid it doesn't.

766
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 2: Wonderful oh she's a.

767
00:35:33,199 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: Bitch she's just focusing On she's.

768
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:40,599
Speaker 3: Not she's, like, okay what ABOUT i.

769
00:35:40,559 --> 00:35:41,800
Speaker 1: Can tell you stories went?

770
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:42,800
Speaker 3: There, yeah well she.

771
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 1: Is i'll say it's.

772
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 3: Going to be a good gossip.

773
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:50,320
Speaker 1: Show, yeah well they are all they're all just. Focusing

774
00:35:50,519 --> 00:35:52,239
why they're not focusing?

775
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 2: Everybody now they're.

776
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,119
Speaker 1: Not you can be and you can focus and be.

777
00:35:55,199 --> 00:35:57,239
Nice you don't have to be a. Bitch you don't

778
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:57,440
have to.

779
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,559
Speaker 2: Be BUT i, mean why do people expect.

780
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 1: People it was the nicest one out of all.

781
00:36:01,679 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 2: Of, them and she's the worst. Actress, well she's okay together,

782
00:36:06,039 --> 00:36:07,360
nice you're A i think she's.

783
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:10,119
Speaker 1: BETTER i think she's better Than Felicity hoffman Because Felicity

784
00:36:10,119 --> 00:36:12,000
hoffin is a one in one.

785
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:15,559
Speaker 2: Note when she played a man on a movie that

786
00:36:15,599 --> 00:36:18,920
she nominated for give me a. Break she comes from.

787
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:19,880
Theater she's a real.

788
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: Actress she's very what's the redhead? Too The redhead's? Awful

789
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,199
she does the. Same she speaks with why and he

790
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:28,760
whispers all across.

791
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,280
Speaker 2: Twins yeah the city is a theater.

792
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 3: Actor you, whatever she's a bit what about? Okay but

793
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:39,880
what did you talking about being surprised by people's.

794
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 1: Divorces, sorry what did you do AT abc programming and

795
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,119
scheduling for prime?

796
00:36:44,199 --> 00:36:46,039
Speaker 2: TIME i didn't know if that's how she Met.

797
00:36:46,079 --> 00:36:47,760
Speaker 1: Adam, NO i Met adam?

798
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 2: Before how did you Meet?

799
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 1: ADAM i was working at a production, Company New World,

800
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:57,079
entertainment and they were Doing Love Line Fox television BEFORE,

801
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,280
mtv and he did the pilot AND i, thought this

802
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,400
guy is so. Funny and they're, like that's Mister bertram

803
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:06,039
on K rock AND i was, like, REALLY i thought

804
00:37:06,039 --> 00:37:08,119
Mister bertram was a real shop. TEACHER i didn't know

805
00:37:08,639 --> 00:37:11,360
the CHARACTER i, did AND i Thought jimmy the sports

806
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:14,760
guy really lived with his mother and you, know and

807
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:17,440
Uh so THEN i met him AND i told him

808
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,000
he was so, funny and he did a pilot for a.

809
00:37:19,079 --> 00:37:21,119
Speaker 2: Company was it? Instant was it love at first?

810
00:37:21,159 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 1: SIGHT i thought he was, cute BUT i didn't like his.

811
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,719
Hair his hair is too. NAPPY i didn't like. It

812
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,320
and when he stared at me all the. Time we

813
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:32,239
were on our first date and he went to the

814
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,800
bar and he ordered my drink and he kept turning

815
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,880
and looking at me and smiling at, me AND i, Thought,

816
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,559
oh this guy just wants to have SAgs on me

817
00:37:38,639 --> 00:37:42,440
and move, on and he, didn't and he didn't move

818
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:42,840
on and.

819
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:43,679
Speaker 3: He didn't want to have with.

820
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,199
Speaker 1: Him well he did and he still.

821
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 2: Does from WHAT i heard.

822
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:49,159
Speaker 3: About.

823
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 1: Him what got me was that he, said, uh you,

824
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:54,400
Know i'll date you and. Everything but this was like

825
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,079
on our second date and he, Said i'll date, you

826
00:37:57,159 --> 00:37:59,679
but if you want to date other, people then, uh

827
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:01,920
you can go ahead and do, that BUT i won't

828
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,360
date you Because i'm not that kind of. GUY i

829
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,079
don't like to date a bunch of people at. Once

830
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:07,880
and then he took me on a. Date and then

831
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:09,800
the next day he called me and he was, Like

832
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,440
i'm in your. Neighborhood CAN i come? Over Because jimmy

833
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,800
lived down the street from. Me so he came over and,

834
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:16,800
no was? It, yeah that's so.

835
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,760
Speaker 2: Sweet how did you? Guys? Mate how did you and your?

836
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,960
Husband your husband wrote a dad's book, too WHICH i

837
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:28,760
think is so cool what your husband wrote a? Book nor.

838
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 3: He did not write a dad's. Book, yeah who are

839
00:38:32,039 --> 00:38:38,360
you thinking? Of you know what you're thinking Of Robert? Wilder,

840
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,639
yeah he's an. Author he's no relation to.

841
00:38:40,639 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 1: ME i thought that was, NO i wrote a dad.

842
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,840
Speaker 2: Book, Oh i'm so, sorry that's.

843
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:50,599
Speaker 3: Okay what does my husband is a, producer he.

844
00:38:50,599 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 2: Should totally write a, book because what a great marketing

845
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:54,360
angle for, you.

846
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 3: Right he could write the dad's, side and my husband

847
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:00,519
is a really good. DAD i met my husband ON. Aol,

848
00:39:02,079 --> 00:39:05,719
yeah and it was before there was like it was

849
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:09,159
before the online dating. Thing we weren't online. Dating it

850
00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:11,920
was that you remember back in the. Day WHEN i

851
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,639
first HAD, aol you could put put stuff on your. Profile,

852
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:18,920
yeah so my husband HAD i was. OKAY i was

853
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:23,199
a little lonely and like a little. Bored SO i

854
00:39:23,199 --> 00:39:26,559
would look up people's profiles and then send them random

855
00:39:26,639 --> 00:39:29,840
instant messages and see if they were, funny if they

856
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:30,760
would joke back the.

857
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:34,519
Speaker 2: Same you were already Craving facebook before it even.

858
00:39:34,519 --> 00:39:37,679
Speaker 3: Existed it, WAS i absolutely. Was it was way. Early

859
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,280
so WHAT i would do IS i would find people

860
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,079
that had anything funny in their, profile and THEN i

861
00:39:41,119 --> 00:39:44,239
would send them a message and usually they would just

862
00:39:44,559 --> 00:39:48,039
immediately go, hey, hey are you a? Chick and like

863
00:39:48,079 --> 00:39:49,639
what do you look? Like what's your height and? Weight

864
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,519
and THEN i would move. On so WHEN i found

865
00:39:52,559 --> 00:39:55,159
my husband's, profile it said he was in television and

866
00:39:55,199 --> 00:39:58,559
that his hobbies include. Sleeping so, BASICALLY i just, said,

867
00:39:58,599 --> 00:40:01,960
OH i see that you're into, television AND i am

868
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,559
interested in buying a, television you, know can you give

869
00:40:04,599 --> 00:40:07,159
me any? Tips and he was funny right off the.

870
00:40:07,159 --> 00:40:09,519
Bat he was just, funny and we kind of sparred

871
00:40:09,559 --> 00:40:12,000
a little bit and just chatted back and forth for,

872
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:14,760
months and THEN i was the one who was, like,

873
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:18,039
listen we need to meet BECAUSE i need to either

874
00:40:18,519 --> 00:40:20,760
know that you're for me BECAUSE i was already kind

875
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,360
of fallen for, him OR i need to move on

876
00:40:23,679 --> 00:40:26,119
in my brain Because i've built up this whole fantasy

877
00:40:26,119 --> 00:40:29,519
life about this. Guy and so we, met AND i,

878
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:34,119
NO i didn't like him at. All, HONESTLY i was.

879
00:40:34,199 --> 00:40:37,039
NOT i was not. Attracted BUT i went out with

880
00:40:37,119 --> 00:40:40,599
him a few times AND i got very. Tragic, yeah,

881
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,360
yeah he totally grew on. Me it was it's all

882
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,239
about you. KNOW i gave him another. CHANCE i was,

883
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:48,360
like he's really. FUNNY i THINK i got. SCARED i

884
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:49,840
THINK i had built it up so much in my

885
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:52,400
brain that you, know he was just a normal. Guy

886
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:57,360
and ONCE i got over, that and you know WHAT i,

887
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,880
mean moved past the online guy to real. Guy m

888
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:02,639
then we fall in.

889
00:41:02,639 --> 00:41:03,559
Speaker 1: Love, oh that's so.

890
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:05,039
Speaker 3: Nice been together eleven.

891
00:41:05,119 --> 00:41:08,039
Speaker 1: Years eleven. Years. Wow see that's a lesson for all

892
00:41:08,119 --> 00:41:11,039
women out there that are you, know they they meet

893
00:41:11,079 --> 00:41:12,880
a guy and then they go out and then they're,

894
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,280
Like i'm not. Attracted dump you, know they, forget but

895
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:17,400
you got to give him a. CHANCE i really believe

896
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,519
that do a couple more dates and see what.

897
00:41:19,599 --> 00:41:25,119
Speaker 3: Happens, yeah IT'S i really feel strongly that a, big you,

898
00:41:25,159 --> 00:41:27,079
know component of. Marriage if you're going to be with

899
00:41:27,119 --> 00:41:29,920
somebody over the long, term you have to be. Friends you,

900
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:31,599
know you have to have stuff in, common you have

901
00:41:31,679 --> 00:41:34,800
to want to hang out with the, person watch REALITY,

902
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,119
tv you, know do stuff that you would do on your.

903
00:41:38,159 --> 00:41:41,119
Own it can't always be about the other person and

904
00:41:41,199 --> 00:41:43,599
about you, know being somebody or not or you, know

905
00:41:43,639 --> 00:41:46,000
because the feigning interest in the ship that they like

906
00:41:46,039 --> 00:41:47,079
to do only takes you so.

907
00:41:47,159 --> 00:41:49,639
Speaker 1: Far, Yeah, stephanie do you have a cell phone on

908
00:41:49,679 --> 00:41:50,320
you by any? Gum?

909
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 2: Yeah you, know someone's cell phone is weird. Anyways but

910
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,679
what's coming out definitely is what both of you are

911
00:41:57,679 --> 00:42:00,760
saying is that you felt that he was, funny.

912
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:05,159
Speaker 1: Funny, Funny, yeah my husband's. Hilarious chicks dig funny, girl dig,

913
00:42:05,199 --> 00:42:07,519
funny but they can't be funny and. Ugly they gotta

914
00:42:07,519 --> 00:42:11,960
be funny and. Cute, yeah get funny ugly. Guy, yeah

915
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,480
BUT i know everybody always says, that you, know the

916
00:42:14,639 --> 00:42:15,800
chicks chicks.

917
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 2: Like i've never did guys for looks, Anyway.

918
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: But, realistically there's gotta be something.

919
00:42:22,519 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 3: THERE i, mean we're not dating Carrot. Top we're talking

920
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:25,239
about you.

921
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,599
Speaker 2: KNOW i was a big chubby chaser in my.

922
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:29,199
Speaker 3: Day really love.

923
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 2: It give me a big you would Like Jimmy. Kimmel

924
00:42:33,079 --> 00:42:35,840
PROBABLY i actually dated a. GUY i lived, with a

925
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:39,280
guy In australia who looked a lot Like jimmy on

926
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:40,480
his kind of heavier.

927
00:42:40,559 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 1: Side really, yeah Well jimmy did lose weight, recently but he.

928
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 2: Did but when he was kind of, chunkier you like

929
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:46,840
a bit of, Chunk.

930
00:42:46,679 --> 00:42:48,079
Speaker 1: But he was never he was never.

931
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,559
Speaker 2: Fat he was but see that, face like he had

932
00:42:50,559 --> 00:42:54,400
that face and he looks exactly like the GUY i. Dated.

933
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:57,519
There she, SERIOUSLY i never noticed that. Before that is so.

934
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 1: Weird jimmy looked Like john trav, Young john travolt the

935
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:02,639
way you got, married that is.

936
00:43:02,679 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 3: Weird Sarah sulverman was into.

937
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 2: Him, Now i'm getting freaked. Out i'm not going to

938
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:09,719
be out a Look jimmy in the eye again without

939
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:10,360
thinking about this.

940
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:14,119
Speaker 3: Guy, see women can be attracted to a, man you,

941
00:43:14,119 --> 00:43:17,159
know and overlook the chubby and the for their for their.

942
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:19,639
Humor but you don't really see the reverse of.

943
00:43:19,639 --> 00:43:22,519
Speaker 2: That, yeah you, do just not In. La, really just

944
00:43:22,559 --> 00:43:25,519
men IN la are extremely, really it's. Superficial in the

945
00:43:25,559 --> 00:43:27,440
rest of the you see a lot of people like

946
00:43:27,679 --> 00:43:30,000
you have to, see like the skinny guy dating the

947
00:43:30,119 --> 00:43:30,840
really big girl.

948
00:43:31,519 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 3: Girl maybe they're full on chubby. Chaser they're probably not

949
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:35,519
just like but she's.

950
00:43:35,639 --> 00:43:37,280
Speaker 1: Hilarious, yeah they're not saying.

951
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 3: That they're not like.

952
00:43:38,079 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 1: You, funny so funny right, Now, guys.

953
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 3: She's really, Smart like she really can correct me on

954
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:49,079
a lot of you know. Points, YEAH i love a.

955
00:43:49,079 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 2: MAN i could correct my grammatical.

956
00:43:50,559 --> 00:43:52,639
Speaker 1: Errors you, know it's. Funny we were talking about you

957
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:54,920
gotta be have stuff in. Common WHEN i first Met,

958
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,480
adam he was pretty, lazy not to say, lazy but

959
00:43:58,519 --> 00:44:01,960
he loved to, sleep he loved to, relax he loved

960
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:04,280
to WATCH. Tv and then through the years he started

961
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,639
getting more and more. Successful because WHEN i first met,

962
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,079
him he wasn't really doing, anything just love line and that.

963
00:44:09,159 --> 00:44:11,079
Way but then he started Doing The Man, show and

964
00:44:11,119 --> 00:44:13,519
then he started doing all these other, stuff and and

965
00:44:13,559 --> 00:44:15,800
he's you, know he just got busier and, busier and

966
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:19,360
then as he got, busier he got less. Lazy AND

967
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:21,000
i was, like what happened to the guy that liked

968
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:22,000
to take a nap on A.

969
00:44:22,159 --> 00:44:26,079
Speaker 5: Tuesday you know what's funny about that is is that

970
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:28,719
WAS i remember when he was talking about you BEFORE

971
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:32,239
i met, you and he was talking about how pretty

972
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:33,800
you were and all of that, stuff and one of

973
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,679
the things he said he liked most about you was

974
00:44:35,679 --> 00:44:37,239
that you were lazy like, him.

975
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:42,639
Speaker 2: So that you like to, nap you'd like to.

976
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:45,559
Speaker 1: Relax he didn't want to go out all the. Time you,

977
00:44:45,599 --> 00:44:48,159
know you guys were the same, speed at the same. Speed,

978
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,880
yeah but now that's his biggest, Complaint, like, hey, mama get,

979
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:54,280
up get, going get, moving get, working let's go to. Work.

980
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 2: NOW i relate to that so. Much what you just.

981
00:44:57,280 --> 00:45:00,800
SAID i just, want like KIND i have my husband

982
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:06,440
and then some other guy who's like, unemployed BECAUSE i

983
00:45:06,519 --> 00:45:08,519
just want somebody to like sit around and be my

984
00:45:08,679 --> 00:45:11,639
fan the way my husband had time to. Do and

985
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,400
it's like the reality is that guy has a ponytail

986
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:17,719
and a futon right and nothing to his. Name AND

987
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,880
i want that guy and my. HUSBAND i don't even

988
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:22,719
have to fuck that. GUY i just want him to

989
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:26,559
be around to like to hang so THAT i can. Go,

990
00:45:26,639 --> 00:45:29,239
look what funny thing the kids did not to go

991
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:29,960
to get.

992
00:45:30,559 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: EVERYTHING i was getting up every day and going to

993
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:34,800
work UNTIL i had. Kids and then ONCE i had,

994
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,599
kids it was, like you're forced to. Stay this is

995
00:45:37,599 --> 00:45:39,320
WHY i think a lot of moms get depressed, too

996
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:43,119
and because once you have, kids you. STOP i, mean

997
00:45:43,559 --> 00:45:46,000
you have to slow. Down you're either gonna go back

998
00:45:46,039 --> 00:45:47,679
to work or you're gonna stay. Home and if you're

999
00:45:47,679 --> 00:45:50,280
gonna stay home LIKE i, did then you're. Home and

1000
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,239
then your husband's getting up and going to work every

1001
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,199
day and you're. Home AND i was used to getting

1002
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,519
up and going to work and being on the go

1003
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:58,719
all the, time but now it's, like why can't you

1004
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:01,760
stay home with me on a two? Day you? Know

1005
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,760
and then that's when the alcohol gets, going or the

1006
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:07,559
viketing gets, popped or the depression gets.

1007
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:09,039
Speaker 2: Set, in all the raging against the.

1008
00:46:09,119 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 1: Kids and the other thing is that one thing that

1009
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:14,320
challenges moms and what challenges me is you got to

1010
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,519
find what is, interesting what interests? You what are your?

1011
00:46:17,559 --> 00:46:20,480
Interests can you do stuff while you're staying home? Mom you,

1012
00:46:20,519 --> 00:46:22,320
know you got to have that you try and get

1013
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:23,639
that balance, back you, know.

1014
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,559
Speaker 2: And if you have your own, passion you're going to

1015
00:46:25,599 --> 00:46:27,840
be less likely to look at your partner and be, like,

1016
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:30,920
oh you're you, know a fine fault with, everything because you,

1017
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,639
know take a look at, yourself like maybe your life is.

1018
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:34,320
Lacking it's.

1019
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 1: Not you can't look to your husband to.

1020
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 3: Satisfy you also have to realize too that these that

1021
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,000
it's mostly like that for a few. YEARS i think some,

1022
00:46:43,079 --> 00:46:47,039
people you, know feel so trapped because they feel, like Oh,

1023
00:46:47,079 --> 00:46:49,480
god this is my, life this is, it but you

1024
00:46:49,519 --> 00:46:52,599
don't realize that it. Is but for only a couple of, years,

1025
00:46:52,639 --> 00:46:54,960
right and then your kids go to, school and then

1026
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,440
your life, changes you. KNOW i, MEAN i know for,

1027
00:46:57,519 --> 00:47:00,840
ME i felt very like my world had come to

1028
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:03,840
a screeching. Halt AND i DIDN'T i couldn't see. That

1029
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:06,079
it was my first, baby SO i just, thought this is.

1030
00:47:06,119 --> 00:47:08,840
It my whole life has. CHANGED i Think i've made

1031
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,039
a big mistake BECAUSE i this is not WHAT i

1032
00:47:11,079 --> 00:47:13,679
wanted and then you, know it's, like now my kid's,

1033
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:15,000
six it's a totally different.

1034
00:47:15,039 --> 00:47:17,199
Speaker 1: Story, yeah is that why you started doing your?

1035
00:47:17,199 --> 00:47:20,079
Speaker 3: Blog that was exactly WHY i started doing my blood

1036
00:47:20,119 --> 00:47:23,039
when When elbie was four months, OLD i felt LIKE

1037
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,400
i have to have some. Outlets i'm just feeling so

1038
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,840
not creatively fulfilled at. All i'm just, Home i'm not,

1039
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:33,679
Sleeping i'm you, know getting. Depressed and SO i started

1040
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:35,800
writing and trying to see IF i could still be. Funny,

1041
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:37,119
yeah and that's what.

1042
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:37,719
Speaker 2: Happened.

1043
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 3: Yeah and then it was a great way to connect,

1044
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,559
too with other moms, because you, know AND i found

1045
00:47:42,559 --> 00:47:44,760
out very quickly that everything THAT i was going, through

1046
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:47,440
so was everybody, else you, Know and all of a

1047
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:51,719
SUDDEN i found this online community and that helped me as.

1048
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:55,639
Well WHEN i quit, drinking WHEN i Had, sadie and

1049
00:47:55,679 --> 00:47:58,440
when my daughter was you, know born, small all of

1050
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:00,679
the things That i've gone, THROUGH i have to say

1051
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,880
my blog helped, me you, know because there was always

1052
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:05,400
somebody out there that was doing the same.

1053
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:11,159
Speaker 2: Thing are you friends With? Deuce? No moving, On.

1054
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 3: I'm not not friends with, her but it's you, KNOW

1055
00:48:14,079 --> 00:48:16,760
i met her. Once, NO i don't know. Her Who's.

1056
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:21,199
Speaker 2: Deuce deuce is the five hundred pound gorilla of the blogging,

1057
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:24,639
world but in a positive. Way she's the person who

1058
00:48:24,639 --> 00:48:29,079
first figured out how to really monetize the parenting kind

1059
00:48:29,079 --> 00:48:29,679
of model AND.

1060
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 3: I haven't figured that out. Yet, well did you do

1061
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:32,840
Some deuce?

1062
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:35,760
Speaker 1: Tips i'll tell you what she makes money doing her blog.

1063
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:42,039
Speaker 2: Advertising see it's interesting because for, ME i always wrote

1064
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:44,719
SINCE i was a, kid it's always been what saved my.

1065
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,840
Life and WHEN i became a mom was the first

1066
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,519
time THAT i felt LIKE i was part of a

1067
00:48:50,559 --> 00:48:55,760
community of. Something and so that's the thing you were talking,

1068
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:58,440
about like not judging other, Moms LIKE i just don't get,

1069
00:48:58,519 --> 00:49:01,639
LIKE i JUST i feel like any. Mom you give

1070
00:49:01,679 --> 00:49:07,199
me any, mom AND i will, empathize. Relate they will

1071
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,199
empathize and relate to me. PERIOD i don't care who you.

1072
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:13,719
Are and that's somebody who's drowned their children in a

1073
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:17,440
pond because they were so mentally, ill to somebody who's you,

1074
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:21,840
Know penny perfect and has the casse role on the dinner. Table,

1075
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:24,000
LIKE i just feel like we get moms get each

1076
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:26,840
other in a certain, way and that's why it's been

1077
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:27,760
a big blessing for.

1078
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 3: Me but do you really get the mom that drowned her?

1079
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 1: KIDS i, DO i.

1080
00:49:32,519 --> 00:49:35,639
Speaker 5: Do, yeah you know WHAT i don't get about. THAT

1081
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:37,679
i get very fired up about this. Topic SO i

1082
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,920
was so horrified by that whole, thing as everybody.

1083
00:49:41,039 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 2: Was the most horrible. Thing it's the fact that she defended. Herself.

1084
00:49:45,599 --> 00:49:50,119
Speaker 5: Whatever if it's you're, crazy, insanity your, claim if you

1085
00:49:50,199 --> 00:49:53,000
snap out of your, insanity or if you get medicated

1086
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:57,079
for postpartum or whatever it, is if you want to

1087
00:49:57,239 --> 00:50:01,960
live after systematically each one of your, kids then you're

1088
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,239
fucked up and you're.

1089
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: Guilty as far AS i, BELIEVE i never, HEARD i

1090
00:50:08,559 --> 00:50:09,920
never heard her say.

1091
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 2: That the person That i'm thinking of, was by the,

1092
00:50:13,519 --> 00:50:16,440
way on a suicide watch after she did snap out

1093
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,840
of it and has been on a suicide watch ever

1094
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:22,719
since because she realized what she. Did and, Yes so

1095
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:26,360
in no, way please do not all fucking write. In

1096
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,400
in no way AM i saying THAT i can get

1097
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:31,840
down the woman who drowned her kids or. Anything it's obviously.

1098
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:35,880
Horrendous What i'm saying IS i understand something about being a.

1099
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:40,679
MOM i understand something about being that mentally, ill having zero,

1100
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:45,880
support being that, isolated that that could. Happen i'm SAYING.

1101
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:51,159
Speaker 5: I understand, THAT i totally AND i agree that postpartum

1102
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:53,519
is an Illins you, KNOW i had. POSTPARTUM i know

1103
00:50:53,559 --> 00:50:56,400
a lot of people who. Did but my point was

1104
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,760
that she really her and her team and her family

1105
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:02,760
and all of. That they really were defending her and

1106
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,000
she wanted to get. OFF i, mean she was on

1107
00:51:05,039 --> 00:51:08,840
suicide watch for a period of, time but during all that,

1108
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:11,400
coverage and god, KNOWS i wasn't. There just from an

1109
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,440
outsider looking in and, like here we are the parent.

1110
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:14,199
Speaker 2: Experiment we don't.

1111
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:17,440
Speaker 5: Judge Here i'm, judging BUT i just can'tge.

1112
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:18,119
Speaker 2: IT i think you can.

1113
00:51:18,199 --> 00:51:21,519
Speaker 5: JUDGE i, MEAN i just think if you snap out

1114
00:51:21,559 --> 00:51:23,639
of it and you want to, DEFEND i would just

1115
00:51:23,679 --> 00:51:25,760
Be i'm, Guilty put me, away throw me in the.

1116
00:51:25,679 --> 00:51:28,840
Speaker 1: Skill just kill, me do.

1117
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 2: IT i would.

1118
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 5: NOT i wouldn't sit by and let someone else defend

1119
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:34,159
me BECAUSE i wouldn't want to be around.

1120
00:51:34,199 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 3: Anymore AND i just just that's.

1121
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 2: Me, WELL i think they were going for an insanity,

1122
00:51:39,519 --> 00:51:43,599
defense WHICH i, mean it just it's a very complicated.

1123
00:51:43,639 --> 00:51:46,800
Issue if you treat somebody with that level of, psychosis

1124
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:49,400
when you're hearing voices that are telling you to do

1125
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,920
those kinds of. THINGS i, mean you can't imagine how

1126
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:55,239
much suffering there is for somebody who hears voices like.

1127
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 3: That my husband was wanted to try the other. Guy

1128
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:04,880
the husband was, LIKE i feel sorry for. Her this

1129
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:06,760
guy is their. Criminal you.

1130
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 2: Know he isolated, her he didn't let her family contact.

1131
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:12,400
Speaker 3: Her forced her to have more kids as.

1132
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 2: Well she kept SAYING i cannot do, This i'm on the,

1133
00:52:15,559 --> 00:52:18,119
edge and he did not. LISTEN i agree WITH.

1134
00:52:18,119 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 5: I agree with that. TOO i think they're both. GUILTY

1135
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:24,559
i think he's definitely responsible for a big part of.

1136
00:52:24,599 --> 00:52:28,199
It my just my feeling WAS i couldn't imagine being

1137
00:52:28,199 --> 00:52:31,840
a mother and snapping out of, it or being medicated

1138
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:34,880
and realizing what you've done and not just and wanting

1139
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:37,519
to defend yourself at, all insanity defense or. NOT i

1140
00:52:37,599 --> 00:52:39,400
just would feel LIKE i wouldn't want to be around.

1141
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:41,440
Speaker 3: Anyway this was an awesome closing.

1142
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 1: Note So, stephanie what are? You where can we find

1143
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:44,480
you these?

1144
00:52:44,559 --> 00:52:48,559
Speaker 3: Days, Well i'm At Stephanie Wilder taylor dot. Com mm,

1145
00:52:48,639 --> 00:52:51,880
Hmm stephanie was, Enough and you're.

1146
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:53,320
Speaker 2: Also at home working on your happy.

1147
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:56,400
Speaker 3: Marriage, Yes i'm spending a lot of time working on my.

1148
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,639
Speaker 1: Marriage and writing your next, book.

1149
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 3: My next, book And i'm figuring out What i'm gonna write.

1150
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:06,320
Next if you have ideas right into my, Book i'm taking.

1151
00:53:06,360 --> 00:53:09,280
Speaker 2: Requests you AND i are going to co write a,

1152
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:10,480
Book tips for A Happy.

1153
00:53:10,519 --> 00:53:13,280
Speaker 3: Marriage, okay all, right you've.

1154
00:53:13,119 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 2: Got better shake on. It all, Right i'm serious BECAUSE

1155
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i wanted to do that. Book there's gonna be.

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Speaker 3: A lot of sarcasm. Though, well that's the, precious you, Know.

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Speaker 2: I'll do the the well, anyway we'll, talk all, right we'll.

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Speaker 3: Talk i'm On, Twitter, yes S Wilder, tailor That's Wilder. Tailor, yeah,

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you by the, way did not follow me back On.

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Speaker 2: Twitter excuse? Me, you by the way did not respond

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to me On. TWITTER i did KNOW i wrote to

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you and you just just me.

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Speaker 3: You DID i didn't GET i?

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Speaker 2: Did yeah you?

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Speaker 3: Did, NO i?

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Speaker 1: Did, yeah you're.

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Speaker 2: Dead how do you?

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Speaker 3: Know Malibu mom won AND i didn't write. Back. Yeah

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wait a, minute BUT i went onto your. Website, NO

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i must, have because THEN i watched your funny Your Malibu.

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Mom she. Did YEAH i.

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Speaker 1: Forgot MAYBE i.

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Speaker 3: Did get just MAYBE i did get districted because BUT

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i went and checked you.

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Speaker 1: Out that's even bad you.

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Speaker 3: Out, yeah, NO i you, know it's really funny with

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with the being The malibu mom and in the. Playground

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have you met those? Girls?

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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah that's the that's what we're talking about for

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the helicopter parents because there's a line in that THAT

1181
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i said AND i improvised it as the character WHERE i,

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go does that have sugar in? It and it's, Like

1183
00:54:27,159 --> 00:54:29,920
i've caught myself saying that because you don't want your

1184
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:32,119
kids to have too much. SUGAR i never said.

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Speaker 1: THAT i have to, Say i've never said.

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Speaker 2: That.

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Speaker 1: NEVER i don't notice anything when they have sugar not.

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Sugar it's all the.

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Speaker 3: Same if it's late and if it's at, night the,

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dessert dessert to. Bed really, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Don't you notice the difference after they've had.

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Speaker 1: Sugar, No, no they don't go bouncing off the. Walls

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they bounce off the walls no matter. What after dinner

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they bounce off the. Wall so it's whether they have

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dessert or. Not so it.

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Speaker 3: DOESN'T i think we've established here That lynette does not

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care about our.

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Speaker 2: Kids you, Do, caroline don't feed into, that because, seriously

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there are some people who are, gonna you, know interpret

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that and that's that's that's just so not.

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Speaker 1: TRUE i care about my, kids that's WHY i give them.

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Speaker 3: Sugar, well you, know it just goes TO i, mean

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00:55:16,199 --> 00:55:19,159
there are many styles of parenting. Exactly you, know people

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can you can be. Lax i'm lax with my kids

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with tons of. STUFF i still Think i'm an excellent.

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Mom here you.

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Speaker 1: Go, yeah, well thank You, stephanie thanks for.

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Speaker 3: Coming thank you so much for having me. This this

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is a great. Show it was.

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Speaker 1: Fun, yeah come back. Again, okay, okay, well thank you.

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Everybody that's The Parent. Experiment I'm Lynnette, Corolla.

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Speaker 2: I'm susanna Brisk and remember they're your. Kids try not

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to f them.

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Speaker 1: Up WHAT i was in the world