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Speaker 1: My path is simple. I live by one rule. Creativity

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is an addiction that means awareness has got to be

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a part of everything that I do and breathe unplugged

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because we will always say yes to creativity totally on

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kat because we all make mistakes.

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Speaker 2: So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Hey,

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it's arrow.

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Speaker 1: This is dfrag where you ask the questions and you

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question the answers. Now, before we hit the path and

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we go on our transition walk, I just wanted to

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kind of just go through some of the daily writing

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as to what inspired what we're going to be talking about.

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For about two or three years now, I've always tried

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to speak of a cleared heart and not a clean heart.

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Speaker 2: I did not even think of this.

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Speaker 1: This was a seed that was planted inside my heart

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when I began the journey with Julia Cameron with the

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artist Way, when she inspired us to clean out our closets,

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and I thought, wow, that's an interesting way of putting

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your life back together and to understand your life. But

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the word clean was always a heavy word to me

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because a lot of people don't like cleaning. So as

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a creative I began this journey of saying I don't

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want you to clean out your heart. I want you

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to clear out your heart. And that's what we're going

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to talk about on this episode of d FRAG. Remember

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it's asking the questions and then questioning the answers. It's

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getting to know the truer self that's inside of you

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and getting a grip as to who you are because

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how many times, seriously, look at yourself in the mirror,

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how many times have you only assumed as to who

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that person is. All Right, we're gonna hit the path

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here in a couple minutes. I'll see out there. All right,

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we're out on the trail. This beautiful forest in South Charlotte,

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North Carolina. It's been with me since nineteen ninety two,

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but we didn't take it seriously until nineteen ninety seven

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when we planted seventeen hundred trees.

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Speaker 2: Man, what a challenge. I mean, I had many.

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Speaker 1: Battles because a lot of people who lived within this

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connected forest didn't want to keep the trees. They wanted

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to mow them down. They wanted to have huge yards.

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They wanted beauty, they wanted those magazine yards, you know

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what I mean. Beautiful force here in twenty twenty three.

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So when we take a transition walk, we are literally

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walking through this force. And we do this because a

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transition means is that we're transitioning through our thoughts, through

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through our habits. We're getting ourselves ready for what is

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going to be upstream. And so to transition means that

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it's not that I'm physically letting go. I'm clearing. Okay,

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that's our subject today on d FRAG Clearing my heart

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versus cleaning out my heart because I am a daily

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writer and because I am a stream thinker, and I

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question myself at all times, and then I question the

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answers because that's part of the d FRAG process. Do

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I even know what the hell I'm even talking about now?

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I can't tell you. I took one of my messages

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to a preacher friend at the Essential Job Cure Almighty.

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You know you talk about moments where he goes. You know,

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sometimes you just need to keep what's given to you,

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you to yourself, because you know, preach your people, no judgment,

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no judgment, but preacher people will take what you think

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was a moment where you feel incredible, and all of

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a sudden, they're going to turn that monkey upside down

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and make.

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Speaker 2: You feel like total crap. They do, they do.

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Speaker 1: It happens all the time, and I don't know why

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I do that all the time where I feel like

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it's like, wow, man, the universe said something to me

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today and blah blah blah blah blah blah, will let

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me tell you what it was, not what you think

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it was, and you just go, oh my god, I've

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been deflated. So in a situation, how do I clear

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my heart out of that? I don't want to clean

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my heart, nor do I want to sit there and

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play up to the preachers and get somebody's, you know, approval,

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because maybe one day I will receive a message that

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means something to somebody else. But I really did clear

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the situation. Let me give you the definition between the two.

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A cleared heart is arranging your heart, putting things in order.

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I've said this so many different times on DFRAG, and

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that is is that I don't have multiple personalities. I've

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just got different files. Like your computer. If it's going

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to be food, I'm gonna put it in the foody file.

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If it's going to be a rock star, it's going

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to go into unplugged and totally uncut, you know what

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I mean. So it's not that I have multiple personalities,

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and I think that's the same thing when I say

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I want to have.

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Speaker 2: A cleared heart.

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Speaker 1: You put things in order so that you can better

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understand the journey that you're traveling on. Instead of being

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cluttered or cloudy, as I always call it. You've cleared things,

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You've got an open space. I look at it as

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being like this. How many households anywhere in the world

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are perfectly clean. There's cleared out spaces for the watching television.

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The kitchen is a little messy, but there's cleared out areas.

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washroom and the garage.

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Speaker 2: But to physically go in there and clean it out.

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We talked about this a little bit ago. People don't

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like to clean. It means work. I mean a lot

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of work.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about you, where you are anywhere in

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the world, But have you ever paid anybody to come

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and clean your house four or five hours later, they're

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still working in.

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Speaker 2: An area where you thought.

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Speaker 1: Man, I take about fifteen to twenty minutes, and I

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call it clean. Not these cleaning people. They take it seriously.

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When they get in there to clean, they get in

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there to clean. So there is a difference between clearing

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your heart and cleaning your heart. Now, I hope I

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don't step on anybody's feet on this subject that I'm

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about ready to bring up, but I need to understand

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the process of the progress that has been unfolding for

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the past year. It's hard to believe this is happening

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on the one year anniversary of the Oscars. During a

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live show on Netflix last night, Chris, one year after

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being slapped by Will Smith on Global Television, decided it

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was time to talk about how it affected him or

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infected him, and why it was that he was able

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to steer clear of everything negative that happened about the situation.

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You have to go back and see it, because I

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would love to hear your interpretation now during this process

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or this performance, because I don't think that Chris was

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in performance mode. I think he was trying to explain

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to a lot of people of every nation, of every

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generation that when something big and heavy and extremely negative

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takes place, you don't have to come out and start

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pointing fingers right away. You walk away, You clear the room,

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you don't clean it. You don't get rid of the situation,

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but you clear the mind, you clear the heart, and

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you get yourself prepared to receive a better understanding of

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a situation. Chris Rock last night said something that I

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had never heard of. But god dang it if i

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haven't googled it a thousand times and I'm still not

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finding any answers out on it. And I'll bet you

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that we're going to be growing into a brand new

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period because of the way that Chris Rock has presented

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this to not just this nation, but the entire world.

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He said that Will Smith has selective anger. Stop right there,

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because we've all been there before, and we all know

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what happens when we have taken our anger out in

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areas and situations that had absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 2: To do with the outburst.

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Speaker 1: Now, I've studied anger for many years because I've gone

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to my psychotherapist, my psychologists to study my own personal anger,

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because of the situations in my own personal life.

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Speaker 2: And the one thing.

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Speaker 1: That everybody has always told me about anger is that

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it's not a solution. It's only a symptom. Anger is

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a choice, It's an emotion. A lot of our motions

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are made by choice. We decide that we're going to

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walk in this direction. So the question is is that

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d frag, am I walking with a false heart? In

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other words, when people see my upbeat self, am I

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hiding hatred or a disliking of something? And Stephen Ferdick

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of Elevation Church pretty much pretty much said something that

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really hit me in the heart. It was almost like

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the higher energy of the universe said, dude, you okay,

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we're gonna take what you put in there and we're

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going to clear out. We're going to clear out the

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area that seemed to be heavy because you saw it

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as being a negative, when in fact, being positive in

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a negative situation is actually walking in faith.

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Speaker 2: It's trusting faith.

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Speaker 1: In other words, I don't have to wear the weight

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of the world in my conversations with the everyday people.

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Speaker 2: That I meet.

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Speaker 1: In other words, if I'm having a bad day, I

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don't have to take it to them. Make choice. Okay,

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so selective anger, Let's get back to that. Through the

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interpretation that I received, it was one of those moments

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where something uncomfortable was taking place. Chris Rock had said

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something that didn't sit well with Will Smith at the Oscars,

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and in that moment, Will Smith selected his anger and

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took his anger out. But as Chris Rock explains in

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the special, he says, this happened long before Chris Rock,

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because Chris Rock grew up respecting the rapper turned actor.

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He had all high hopes supported him from the very beginning,

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only to have things come to this. So was he

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clearing out his heart when he shared this message last night?

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Or was he cleaning out his heart? I don't think

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he was cleaning it. What I believe was that he

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was allowing the world to see that I took the

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time to listen, to experience, to listen even more to

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put faith in the moment of walking forward and not

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take it out on people. I found it to be

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in the interpretation that he was growing with what took place,

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and that somewhere along the journey, what he went through

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a year ago at the Oscars is going to change

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a lot more lives than the moments that were infected

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that night. And to have the courage and the confidence

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to hold back was a great performance of clearing the heart.

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Sure it happened, It's a mainstay in that man's soul

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and he is going to never forget it, nor is

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the rest of the world. But are we going to

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in our own personal lives and interpretations, are we going

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to allow enough room.

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Speaker 2: To clear ourselves of it?

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Speaker 1: Ultimately, it's your choice to forgive Will Smith, your choice

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to understand how Chris Rock has handled this entire situation.

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Speaker 2: He is a man of piece that really.

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Speaker 1: Really looks like it and has always come across clearing

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the heart, taking the experiences that we have in our

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own personal life and asking the questions and then questioning

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the answers. If Chris Rock is a journal writer, a

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daily keeper of thought, it would be a blessed gift

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to be able to sit down and study his pattern

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because it was a moment that wasn't played out the

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way the rest of the world would have played it out.

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He took his time, he had a lot of anger,

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but he walked in faith, and he put faith ahead

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of all curves in the highway.

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Speaker 2: And while clearing his.

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Speaker 1: Heart, he was able to receive a message that he

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shared to millions of people globally last night. Don't stop,

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keep walking, don't react until you have received clear your heart.

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What's your living room look like? Is it cleared out

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just enough to sit down. Is there enough room so

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the neighbors can come over? What about your bathroom? How

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many dirty closed around the floor? If I ask you

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to clean it, it'll piss you off on it. What

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happens if I say can you just go in there

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and just clear it out a little bit?

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Speaker 2: I think you get it. Hi'm Maril and that's Steve Rayd.