Speaker 1: My path is simple. I live by one rule. Creativity
is an addiction that means awareness has got to be
a part of everything that I do and breathe unplugged
because we will always say yes to creativity totally on
kat because we all make mistakes.
Speaker 2: So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Hey,
it's arrow.
Speaker 1: This is dfrag where you ask the questions and you
question the answers. Now, before we hit the path and
we go on our transition walk, I just wanted to
kind of just go through some of the daily writing
as to what inspired what we're going to be talking about.
For about two or three years now, I've always tried
to speak of a cleared heart and not a clean heart.
Speaker 2: I did not even think of this.
Speaker 1: This was a seed that was planted inside my heart
when I began the journey with Julia Cameron with the
artist Way, when she inspired us to clean out our closets,
and I thought, wow, that's an interesting way of putting
your life back together and to understand your life. But
the word clean was always a heavy word to me
because a lot of people don't like cleaning. So as
a creative I began this journey of saying I don't
want you to clean out your heart. I want you
to clear out your heart. And that's what we're going
to talk about on this episode of d FRAG. Remember
it's asking the questions and then questioning the answers. It's
getting to know the truer self that's inside of you
and getting a grip as to who you are because
how many times, seriously, look at yourself in the mirror,
how many times have you only assumed as to who
that person is. All Right, we're gonna hit the path
here in a couple minutes. I'll see out there. All right,
we're out on the trail. This beautiful forest in South Charlotte,
North Carolina. It's been with me since nineteen ninety two,
but we didn't take it seriously until nineteen ninety seven
when we planted seventeen hundred trees.
Speaker 2: Man, what a challenge. I mean, I had many.
Speaker 1: Battles because a lot of people who lived within this
connected forest didn't want to keep the trees. They wanted
to mow them down. They wanted to have huge yards.
They wanted beauty, they wanted those magazine yards, you know
what I mean. Beautiful force here in twenty twenty three.
So when we take a transition walk, we are literally
walking through this force. And we do this because a
transition means is that we're transitioning through our thoughts, through
through our habits. We're getting ourselves ready for what is
going to be upstream. And so to transition means that
it's not that I'm physically letting go. I'm clearing. Okay,
that's our subject today on d FRAG Clearing my heart
versus cleaning out my heart because I am a daily
writer and because I am a stream thinker, and I
question myself at all times, and then I question the
answers because that's part of the d FRAG process. Do
I even know what the hell I'm even talking about now?
I can't tell you. I took one of my messages
to a preacher friend at the Essential Job Cure Almighty.
You know you talk about moments where he goes. You know,
sometimes you just need to keep what's given to you,
you to yourself, because you know, preach your people, no judgment,
no judgment, but preacher people will take what you think
was a moment where you feel incredible, and all of
a sudden, they're going to turn that monkey upside down
and make.
Speaker 2: You feel like total crap. They do, they do.
Speaker 1: It happens all the time, and I don't know why
I do that all the time where I feel like
it's like, wow, man, the universe said something to me
today and blah blah blah blah blah blah, will let
me tell you what it was, not what you think
it was, and you just go, oh my god, I've
been deflated. So in a situation, how do I clear
my heart out of that? I don't want to clean
my heart, nor do I want to sit there and
play up to the preachers and get somebody's, you know, approval,
because maybe one day I will receive a message that
means something to somebody else. But I really did clear
the situation. Let me give you the definition between the two.
A cleared heart is arranging your heart, putting things in order.
I've said this so many different times on DFRAG, and
that is is that I don't have multiple personalities. I've
just got different files. Like your computer. If it's going
to be food, I'm gonna put it in the foody file.
If it's going to be a rock star, it's going
to go into unplugged and totally uncut, you know what
I mean. So it's not that I have multiple personalities,
and I think that's the same thing when I say
I want to have.
Speaker 2: A cleared heart.
Speaker 1: You put things in order so that you can better
understand the journey that you're traveling on. Instead of being
cluttered or cloudy, as I always call it. You've cleared things,
You've got an open space. I look at it as
being like this. How many households anywhere in the world
are perfectly clean. There's cleared out spaces for the watching television.
The kitchen is a little messy, but there's cleared out areas.
You can get things done in the kitchen, even the
washroom and the garage.
Speaker 2: But to physically go in there and clean it out.
We talked about this a little bit ago. People don't
like to clean. It means work. I mean a lot
of work.
Speaker 1: I don't know about you, where you are anywhere in
the world, But have you ever paid anybody to come
and clean your house four or five hours later, they're
still working in.
Speaker 2: An area where you thought.
Speaker 1: Man, I take about fifteen to twenty minutes, and I
call it clean. Not these cleaning people. They take it seriously.
When they get in there to clean, they get in
there to clean. So there is a difference between clearing
your heart and cleaning your heart. Now, I hope I
don't step on anybody's feet on this subject that I'm
about ready to bring up, but I need to understand
the process of the progress that has been unfolding for
the past year. It's hard to believe this is happening
on the one year anniversary of the Oscars. During a
live show on Netflix last night, Chris, one year after
being slapped by Will Smith on Global Television, decided it
was time to talk about how it affected him or
infected him, and why it was that he was able
to steer clear of everything negative that happened about the situation.
You have to go back and see it, because I
would love to hear your interpretation now during this process
or this performance, because I don't think that Chris was
in performance mode. I think he was trying to explain
to a lot of people of every nation, of every
generation that when something big and heavy and extremely negative
takes place, you don't have to come out and start
pointing fingers right away. You walk away, You clear the room,
you don't clean it. You don't get rid of the situation,
but you clear the mind, you clear the heart, and
you get yourself prepared to receive a better understanding of
a situation. Chris Rock last night said something that I
had never heard of. But god dang it if i
haven't googled it a thousand times and I'm still not
finding any answers out on it. And I'll bet you
that we're going to be growing into a brand new
period because of the way that Chris Rock has presented
this to not just this nation, but the entire world.
He said that Will Smith has selective anger. Stop right there,
because we've all been there before, and we all know
what happens when we have taken our anger out in
areas and situations that had absolutely nothing.
Speaker 2: To do with the outburst.
Speaker 1: Now, I've studied anger for many years because I've gone
to my psychotherapist, my psychologists to study my own personal anger,
because of the situations in my own personal life.
Speaker 2: And the one thing.
Speaker 1: That everybody has always told me about anger is that
it's not a solution. It's only a symptom. Anger is
a choice, It's an emotion. A lot of our motions
are made by choice. We decide that we're going to
walk in this direction. So the question is is that
And I talked about this on a recent episode of
d frag, am I walking with a false heart? In
other words, when people see my upbeat self, am I
hiding hatred or a disliking of something? And Stephen Ferdick
of Elevation Church pretty much pretty much said something that
really hit me in the heart. It was almost like
the higher energy of the universe said, dude, you okay,
we're gonna take what you put in there and we're
going to clear out. We're going to clear out the
area that seemed to be heavy because you saw it
as being a negative, when in fact, being positive in
a negative situation is actually walking in faith.
Speaker 2: It's trusting faith.
Speaker 1: In other words, I don't have to wear the weight
of the world in my conversations with the everyday people.
Speaker 2: That I meet.
Speaker 1: In other words, if I'm having a bad day, I
don't have to take it to them. Make choice. Okay,
so selective anger, Let's get back to that. Through the
interpretation that I received, it was one of those moments
where something uncomfortable was taking place. Chris Rock had said
something that didn't sit well with Will Smith at the Oscars,
and in that moment, Will Smith selected his anger and
took his anger out. But as Chris Rock explains in
the special, he says, this happened long before Chris Rock,
because Chris Rock grew up respecting the rapper turned actor.
He had all high hopes supported him from the very beginning,
only to have things come to this. So was he
clearing out his heart when he shared this message last night?
Or was he cleaning out his heart? I don't think
he was cleaning it. What I believe was that he
was allowing the world to see that I took the
time to listen, to experience, to listen even more to
put faith in the moment of walking forward and not
take it out on people. I found it to be
in the interpretation that he was growing with what took place,
and that somewhere along the journey, what he went through
a year ago at the Oscars is going to change
a lot more lives than the moments that were infected
that night. And to have the courage and the confidence
to hold back was a great performance of clearing the heart.
Sure it happened, It's a mainstay in that man's soul
and he is going to never forget it, nor is
the rest of the world. But are we going to
in our own personal lives and interpretations, are we going
to allow enough room.
Speaker 2: To clear ourselves of it?
Speaker 1: Ultimately, it's your choice to forgive Will Smith, your choice
to understand how Chris Rock has handled this entire situation.
Speaker 2: He is a man of piece that really.
Speaker 1: Really looks like it and has always come across clearing
the heart, taking the experiences that we have in our
own personal life and asking the questions and then questioning
the answers. If Chris Rock is a journal writer, a
daily keeper of thought, it would be a blessed gift
to be able to sit down and study his pattern
because it was a moment that wasn't played out the
way the rest of the world would have played it out.
He took his time, he had a lot of anger,
but he walked in faith, and he put faith ahead
of all curves in the highway.
Speaker 2: And while clearing his.
Speaker 1: Heart, he was able to receive a message that he
shared to millions of people globally last night. Don't stop,
keep walking, don't react until you have received clear your heart.
What's your living room look like? Is it cleared out
just enough to sit down. Is there enough room so
the neighbors can come over? What about your bathroom? How
many dirty closed around the floor? If I ask you
to clean it, it'll piss you off on it. What
happens if I say can you just go in there
and just clear it out a little bit?
Speaker 2: I think you get it. Hi'm Maril and that's Steve Rayd.