Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. Listen. It was never love.
Speaker 1: You heard me, It was never love.
Speaker 2: Many of you think that when you meet certain people
Speaker 2: and you're you know, you're jelling with them, you have
Speaker 2: a good vibe with them, you feel connected to them.
Speaker 2: Some of you instantly, instantly believe, oh, this is the one,
Speaker 2: this is the one for me. You go off of looks,
Speaker 2: you go off of once, desires, feelings, emotions, what people
Speaker 2: have or what you think they have, their titles, their positions.
Speaker 2: You see all of these things, but they're all superficial.
Speaker 2: They have no substance when it comes to building a
Speaker 2: foundation for a healthy, strong and loving relationship. But so
Speaker 2: many people fall for the okie dope, so many people.
Speaker 2: I don't care who he is or who she is.
Speaker 2: People will always, always, without fail show you who they are.
Speaker 1: Subtle or not, they gonna show you who they are.
Speaker 2: The red flags and the signs are always.
Speaker 1: Always, always, always present present.
Speaker 2: You can say you didn't see him, you can deny them,
Speaker 2: you can reject them, you can be be oblivious to them,
Speaker 2: but they are there. People also have intuition about things,
Speaker 2: but they ignore their own intuition because they want who
Speaker 2: they want. Oh, he looks good. Oh he's fine. Oh
Speaker 2: she's gorgeous. None of that matters when it comes to
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship. People are too wound up and tied
Speaker 2: up and bound up by feelings and emotions.
Speaker 1: Oh you feel so good.
Speaker 2: Oh he makes me feel so good when we're just talking. Oh,
Speaker 2: she say the right things. It's not love. It's not love.
Speaker 2: So a lot of people build their relationships on these false, superficial.
Speaker 1: Things, and they get into relationships.
Speaker 2: Then they find themselves with people who talk down to them,
Speaker 2: cursing them out, calling them out of their name, all
Speaker 2: types of foolishness, and they think it's love.
Speaker 1: They think that's what they supposed to subject themselves to.
Speaker 3: That is not love.
Speaker 2: At all. But unfortunately, so many people think so. They
Speaker 2: lie for these people in their lives. They lie for
Speaker 2: them when they being abused, They lie when people disrespect
Speaker 2: them and do them wrong. They still try to protect
Speaker 2: these people. That's not love, it's not love. So many
Speaker 2: people have lost their lives in these relationships because they thought.
Speaker 1: It was love.
Speaker 2: They thought, oh, he will never do this to me
Speaker 2: or she will never do that to me, until they did,
Speaker 2: and now they're not here to tell the story. Many
Speaker 2: people endure abuse, but they never tell. Some people never
Speaker 2: get the opportunity to tell because they end up dying
Speaker 2: in their relationships. Some people tell when they're at that
Speaker 2: point they don't want that relationship anymore, they'll tell. But
Speaker 2: some people go through it and they pretend that everything
Speaker 2: is okay, but they're hurting their suffering, you know.
Speaker 1: And it's very heartbreaking.
Speaker 2: But it's also very true because people view love as
Speaker 2: something that is just is not If you don't know
Speaker 2: anything else in this world, you should have sense enough
Speaker 2: to understand and know that abuse in any form.
Speaker 1: Is not love. A person don't have to physically assault
Speaker 1: you to abuse you.
Speaker 2: When you allow your significant other to talk to you
Speaker 2: any kind of way, calling you names.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: Some of you get on these social.
Speaker 2: Media platforms and you degrade each other.
Speaker 1: I mean, that is not love.
Speaker 2: That is not a healthy relationship. That is very toxic.
Speaker 2: Too many people get on these social media platforms and
Speaker 2: display their business.
Speaker 1: Too many people are doing any.
Speaker 2: And everything for cliques, for subscriptions, for money.
Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with love.
Speaker 2: Nothing I remember back in the day, and it's probably
Speaker 2: still going on. People will get married in the military,
Speaker 2: they would get married legally.
Speaker 1: Married for.
Speaker 2: You know the bha baq whatever it's called nowadays, people
Speaker 2: will get married because of that. But it was not love.
Speaker 2: It was just an arrangement.
Speaker 1: So there are many.
Speaker 2: Many reasons people get together that has nothing to do
Speaker 2: with love. But some people really think they're in love.
Speaker 2: But I tell you it is not love. If it's
Speaker 2: abusive in any way, it's not love. If they're disrespecting
Speaker 2: you and doing it when no qualms, it's not love.
Speaker 2: Qualms are not your significant others shouldn't be disrespecting you,
Speaker 2: calling you out of your name, be little in you.
Speaker 2: That is not love. You should not be doing it
Speaker 2: to your significant other. That is not love.
Speaker 1: That's toxic.
Speaker 2: Some of you are in relationships that's where your significant
Speaker 2: other is taking advantage of you.
Speaker 1: You know why, because you've taught him or her too.
Speaker 2: You taught them to take advantage of you because the
Speaker 2: first time they did it, you accepted it, so therefore
Speaker 2: you taught them. Some of you try to buy your
Speaker 2: way into your relationship. You think, oh, if I shower
Speaker 2: him with this or shower her with that, they will
Speaker 2: love me more. No, they just will want more. They
Speaker 2: won't love you more. They will want more.
Speaker 1: From you.
Speaker 2: Because it's not love. It's not love at all. Some
Speaker 2: of you are literally forced into your relationships by your parents,
Speaker 2: or your friends or someone else. You don't want to
Speaker 2: be with that person. Some of you you don't even
Speaker 2: love that person, but you're forcing into those relationships.
Speaker 1: It is not love.
Speaker 2: The truth gonna come out when you don't love a person,
Speaker 2: The truth is going to come out. They're gonna treat
Speaker 2: you bad in some form or another. The truth is
Speaker 2: gonna come out. But most people in this world. When
Speaker 2: I say the world, I mean the world. Most people
Speaker 2: in this entire world are in one sided relationships. One
Speaker 2: person oftentimes really really care or in their own minds
Speaker 2: love the individuals that they're with, but that the other person.
Speaker 1: They're not feeling it, they're not having it.
Speaker 2: They're in it to get what they can get, or
Speaker 2: they're in it because they have an agenda. You have
Speaker 2: to love yourself enough to be able to see the
Speaker 2: truth and walk away. See some of you think it's love.
Speaker 2: Then you get into these very toxic relationships where and
Speaker 2: when you want to walk away, you can. You're afraid
Speaker 2: to go, you're afraid to stay. I've talked about this,
Speaker 2: you think that's good. You're afraid to go, you're afraid
Speaker 2: to stay. Matter of fact, do you think it's good
Speaker 2: being afraid at all?
Speaker 1: In your relationship?
Speaker 2: If you're want someone and you're afraid of him or
Speaker 2: you're afraid of her, you cannot think that's good or
Speaker 2: it's okay. Something is wrong with that picture. When you're
Speaker 2: in a relationship and you're doing the work, something is
Speaker 2: wrong with that picture.
Speaker 1: But see, some of you will.
Speaker 3: Do anything, anything for what you think is love, when
Speaker 3: love has absolutely nothing to do with it.
Speaker 1: Nothing.
Speaker 2: People are in terrible situations because they think it's love.
Speaker 2: You don't know what love is. When you don't love yourself,
Speaker 2: you do not know what love is. It's irrefutable. The
Speaker 2: things you think is love is not love. You think
Speaker 2: love is based on just emotions and feelings, feeling good.
Speaker 1: Love is so much more than that. But it is never, ever,
Speaker 1: ever abusive.
Speaker 2: When a person say I love you and they turn
Speaker 2: around and disrespect you from the same lips, you better
Speaker 2: check yourself. You better check yourself because you are empowering
Speaker 2: that person to treat.
Speaker 1: You that way.
Speaker 2: At the first sign of abuse, you do nothing. You
Speaker 2: continue on in that relationship. The same thing that made
Speaker 2: you smile will make you cry. I promise you. I
Speaker 2: promise you. On everything, the same thing that made you smile,
Speaker 2: that made you laugh, will make you cry. Many people
Speaker 2: or than not, are in one side of relationships and
Speaker 2: they're just settling. They're just settling. You always get what
Speaker 2: you allow. You're always treated the way you've taught people
Speaker 2: that they can treat you. If you allow it, they're
Speaker 2: going to do it. But it has nothing to do
Speaker 2: with love. You don't love yourself. If you are allowing
Speaker 2: people to do terrible things to you, you don't love yourself.
Speaker 2: If you allow people to talk to you any kind
Speaker 2: of way and treat you any kind of way, you
Speaker 2: don't love yourself. They certainly don't love themselves, but you
Speaker 2: don't love yourself either. You just think you do. Most
Speaker 2: people think they love themselves, but reality is they don't.
Speaker 2: You can see it in their choices and decisions. You
Speaker 2: can see it in what they are allowed and accept.
Speaker 2: Any mistreatment from someone who supposedly love you falls on
Speaker 2: you because you teach him or her how to treat you.
Speaker 1: You create that monster in your life.
Speaker 2: You do by what you allow, in accept what you
Speaker 2: go along with you create that monster in your life.
Speaker 2: And many people listen to me right now have monsters
Speaker 2: in their lives, and.
Speaker 1: Now you it's almost hard to get rid.
Speaker 2: Of them because what you allow on accept is what
Speaker 2: people will expect. If you have no requirements, you get
Speaker 2: what you get. If you have no boundaries, you get
Speaker 2: what you get. Because you paved the way, you set
Speaker 2: the standards, you open the door. But none of that
Speaker 2: is love. A person that loves you and you love
Speaker 2: that person, that's what it is love. You have to
Speaker 2: love him or her. He or she must love you.
Speaker 1: There is love and being in love.
Speaker 2: Both of those are necessary for a healthy relationship. When
Speaker 2: you say you love someone and all you're doing is
Speaker 2: bickering than fighting, you don't understand it. You don't understand
Speaker 2: what love is. That's what people think is love. But
Speaker 2: love is none of those things. Love isn't brutal, it's
Speaker 2: not cruel, it's not disrespectful, it's not distrusts. And then
Speaker 2: you know, people wonder, well, why my kids acting this way?
Speaker 2: Because of what they see their parents doing. They see
Speaker 2: all of the disrespect and the brutality within the home.
Speaker 2: That's why they're acting the way they do. People don't
Speaker 2: understand the devastation they cause children then they grow up
Speaker 2: to be just like their parents, a lot of them. See,
Speaker 2: at some point people have to decide to be better
Speaker 2: for themselves, not for anyone else, for themselves.
Speaker 1: You have to want change in your life for you.
Speaker 2: But like I said many times before, many people will
Speaker 2: never reach that level because they're too busy looking outward.
Speaker 2: The person they neglect the most is self when you
Speaker 2: carry you around every single place you go, because the
Speaker 2: one person you can't get rid of is you. You
Speaker 2: can't get rid of yourself, you can depart from yourself.
Speaker 2: So people spend most of their lives faking and pretending
Speaker 2: and looking outward for things that they should be looking
Speaker 2: in work for.
Speaker 1: I've told you many times also that.
Speaker 2: To be a person who enjoy good on the outside,
Speaker 2: it will take inside work first, because all of those
Speaker 2: negative things that you are creates that mindset that you have.
Speaker 2: All the bad experience that you've you've gone through and
Speaker 2: you're holding onto those.
Speaker 1: Memories creates the mindset that you have.
Speaker 2: So you take all of your junk and you compile
Speaker 2: it with the junk people bring into your life, and
Speaker 2: it just make you worse, It makes them worse. No
Speaker 2: one is growing mentally, no one is matured. Because most
Speaker 2: people think they're already matured. They you can't tell them
Speaker 2: they're not. You can't tell people they don't love themselves.
Speaker 2: They will be highly offended. But it's the truth. And
Speaker 2: as I said in the beginning of this episode, so
Speaker 2: many people are in relationships that has cost them their lives.
Speaker 2: So many people are in relationships right now listening to
Speaker 2: me that are very, very toxic.
Speaker 1: Why would you want that for yourself? You think that's love.
Speaker 2: You think you love yourself by subjecting yourself to this turmoil.
Speaker 2: It's not love for the other person or for yourself.
Speaker 2: You can take it for whatever it's worth to you,
Speaker 2: but I'm just telling you the truth.
Speaker 1: It is not love.
Speaker 2: Some people are together, and they've been together, bickering and
Speaker 2: fighting and carrying on for so long.
Speaker 1: Now there's hate.
Speaker 2: They remain together, but there's hate in their hearts.
Speaker 1: For one another because love was never there. You're not
Speaker 1: gonna push out love. When it's love, real love, you're
Speaker 1: not pushing that away. But because love was never there,
Speaker 1: now hate.
Speaker 2: Has settled in and all they do is bicker and fight,
Speaker 2: bicker and fight, bicker and fight because they.
Speaker 1: Have resentment and regret on the.
Speaker 2: Inside for that other person, and they just go like
Speaker 2: cats back and forth all the time because there's resentment.
Speaker 1: And hate build up now because love was never there.
Speaker 2: They went off of emotions and feelings, wants and desires,
Speaker 2: looks and all of those superficial things.
Speaker 1: Love was never in the equation.
Speaker 2: And many are living right now this way.
Speaker 1: No love.
Speaker 2: Care, you know, because you don't want to see anybody
Speaker 2: hurt or any of that.
Speaker 1: But you're not in love with them.
Speaker 2: Some people don't even have that because they're the ones
Speaker 2: who will kill you and have. Many people have died
Speaker 2: at the hands of the ones who say they love them.
Speaker 2: Many So I just want you to think about it.
Speaker 2: You think about it. You don't have to tell anyone else.
Speaker 2: You think about your life. What are you contributing to
Speaker 2: your situation? What did you allow and accept? How have
Speaker 2: you talked him or her? How they can treat you,
Speaker 2: Because it all goes back to you. What you're in,
Speaker 2: You signed up for what you're getting. You have allowed
Speaker 2: in some fashion or the other.
Speaker 1: So it is you who.
Speaker 2: Have to take responsibility and accountability for your life. I'm
Speaker 2: leaving it right there. Please share much love to you
Speaker 2: and you and you. If you want to reach out
Speaker 2: to me, you can always reach out to me. Go
Speaker 2: to my podcast page. I can tell you my email.
Speaker 2: I will respond. Also, check out my new podcast which
Speaker 2: is called From the Heart to the Heart by Cherry.
Speaker 1: Check it out and share
Speaker 2: Much love in every episode of the same And I
Speaker 2: pray you do it, think on it.