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<v Speaker 1>Tersea.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the information on this that you could there's something

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<v Speaker 2>you can really pinpoint to marrying your best friend if

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<v Speaker 2>that's what you want to do. Why you'd want to

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<v Speaker 2>do that, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But what's the right one sign?

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<v Speaker 3>A Harvard professor said, there's one sign that will let

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<v Speaker 3>you know if your relationship is going to last, and

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<v Speaker 3>that is yeah, okay, we're going straight into it. It's

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<v Speaker 3>a Harvard professor. He studied love for twenty five years.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what that means. I guess just relationships.

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<v Speaker 3>But he says that the one sign that your relationship

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<v Speaker 3>will last a lifetime is if your best friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, mister Harvard professor, you wasted your time.

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<v Speaker 3>The people who on their wedding invitation it says today

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<v Speaker 3>I marry my best friend. Those are the ones who

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<v Speaker 3>will make it. Sandy, you and I will not make it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we've made it for seventeen years. But I for you.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the key. Then weird because I didn't marry my

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<v Speaker 2>best friend. I didn't want to marry my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we're all agree with jab You and Mary

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<v Speaker 2>your best friend, did you?

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<v Speaker 4>Nope? No, we're not best friend. I'm not it's probably

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<v Speaker 4>closer that she is my best friend. I'm definitely not

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<v Speaker 4>her best friend. I just don't have I just don't

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<v Speaker 4>have any friends. So she's the closest to qualify, I guess,

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<v Speaker 4>but no, I know because I don't. I'm always surprised

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<v Speaker 4>when people say that because a relationship girlfriend, a girlfriend

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<v Speaker 4>is so different than a guy could ever fulfill. Would

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<v Speaker 4>you agree, Tricia, Oh, yeah, definitely, there's there's a there's

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<v Speaker 4>a whole different level there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 4>So I in our case, you know, no.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the most one of the most attractive things

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<v Speaker 2>for me. There was a lot of attractive things when

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<v Speaker 2>we first start dating. But one thing that I remember

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<v Speaker 2>that really stands out is I was I really really

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<v Speaker 2>liked the fact that she had a group of laws,

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<v Speaker 2>long time girlfriends, like that she did things with that

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<v Speaker 2>she made a point to hang out with. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I like that because I don't want the responsibility of

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<v Speaker 2>being this chick's best friend. I want I want someone

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<v Speaker 2>else to bear the burden of being Trisa's best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>I bear the burden.

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<v Speaker 4>I want it to be me. And those studies have

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<v Speaker 4>been out there that you know, like you know, and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm talking about just the typical male female relationship. There's

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of different avenues we could go down with this.

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<v Speaker 4>But they say the guys need their boys time to

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<v Speaker 4>be happy. The girls definitely need their girl time to

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<v Speaker 4>be happy. I think that's that's important.

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<v Speaker 2>Taposed to see her friends in Dallas and like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>they used to all live here, and they just gather

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<v Speaker 2>in Dallas. In fact, you're doing that in a few weeks, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And when she comes back or while she's there, she's

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<v Speaker 2>full of energy and just energized again to come back

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<v Speaker 2>to the the You know, everyone's got the grind of

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<v Speaker 2>being a parent and work and bills and all the things.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think it's good to re energize.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a good thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Well.

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<v Speaker 3>And also, like the girls and I, we will never

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<v Speaker 3>run out of something to say to each other. We'll

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<v Speaker 3>be together for five days and we will talk about

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<v Speaker 3>all the things. One thing we could talk about for

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<v Speaker 3>four hours. If Sandy were my best friend, I'd be

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<v Speaker 3>with him for about an hour and a half and

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, well, all right, I guess we've said

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<v Speaker 3>all the things and that'd be it. Chat time would

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<v Speaker 3>be over with Sandy.

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<v Speaker 2>Jabe, Tricia's friend, Sean is visiting and she lives in Vietnam.

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<v Speaker 2>She's from Austin but lives in Vietnam. And she was

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<v Speaker 2>here for two or three nights, and so Triciaan and

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<v Speaker 2>I sleep in separate bedrooms. In the room that Sean

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<v Speaker 2>was in was right next door to mine. Those two

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<v Speaker 2>sat and talked. It got to the point where I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my god, are these two ever going

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<v Speaker 2>to stop talking?

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<v Speaker 3>So then we got tired of We went to sleep,

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<v Speaker 3>and we woke up the next morning and continued talking.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, I went to sleep listening to your voices,

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<v Speaker 3>and I woke up listening to your voices.

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<v Speaker 4>It's unbelievable how much talking they do.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys. We're like, eh, we're all squared away in the

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<v Speaker 2>first ten.

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<v Speaker 4>Minutes or so.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, what do you guys do on guys weekend?

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<v Speaker 4>Can we just hang out silently?

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<v Speaker 1>Hang out?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and watch whatever's on TV?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so watch what's on TV?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, tell JB about your Sandy used to make fun

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<v Speaker 3>of me for my girl's weekends with the going to

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<v Speaker 3>the spa and laying in bed together and watching movies

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<v Speaker 3>and going to dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Sandy, tell JB how you think you slowly.

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<v Speaker 3>Now understand why a girl's weekend can be better than

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<v Speaker 3>a guy's weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>After you had yours with Marlin, I don't remember you

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<v Speaker 1>he goes to Dallas.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll remember when I start talking about it, to have

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<v Speaker 3>a weekend with his buddy Marlin. And you did all

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<v Speaker 3>the girl things. Y'all went to dinner, then y'all went

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<v Speaker 3>to a movie together. Then you came back and you

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<v Speaker 3>floated in the pool.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you went inside and you watch TV.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you did all the things that you chicks do,

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<v Speaker 3>just with less words.

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<v Speaker 1>And you were like, I think I understand the girl's

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<v Speaker 1>weekend now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was pretty great all this since I quit

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<v Speaker 2>drinking though, because before it was your I mean, you'd

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<v Speaker 2>do all those things.

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<v Speaker 4>We were too busy.

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<v Speaker 1>You got massages too, right, Yeah, I believe.

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<v Speaker 2>So, Yeah, that was a total chick weekend. You're right

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<v Speaker 2>and right, but I don't think. I mean, there's probably

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<v Speaker 2>someone appalled right now saying, well, I'm married my best friend,

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<v Speaker 2>my best friend.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, it's funny because i've been We just had

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<v Speaker 4>our twenty seventh anniversary, and I do get asked, you

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<v Speaker 4>know about long, you know, longevity of the marriage. I

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<v Speaker 4>was telling you guys yesterday, how my daughters thinks it's

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<v Speaker 4>weird that her parents are still together. Yeah, but no idea,

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<v Speaker 4>it's abnormal. And I do get asked, and like when

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<v Speaker 4>I tell people when they're earlier in their relationship, they're like,

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<v Speaker 4>how do you know? How do you know it's the one?

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<v Speaker 4>And one of the things I'll tell them is do

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<v Speaker 4>you look forward to seeing them every day? Like, so,

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<v Speaker 4>it's been twenty seven years of marriage, I look forward

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<v Speaker 4>to seeing her every day. I can't wait till she

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<v Speaker 4>comes home. Right now. If you pull up to the

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<v Speaker 4>house and see their car and go, oh, maybe probably

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<v Speaker 4>not the one, you know what I mean, You're just like,

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<v Speaker 4>it's just this little barometer before you go down the

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<v Speaker 4>path of marriage, like you should. You should look forward

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<v Speaker 4>to seeing them all the time and checking in with them,

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<v Speaker 4>and and you know, and if you once like are

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<v Speaker 4>dying for space from them, that's probably not good.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not the one. But I think that for me anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't don't. I won't say I don't

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<v Speaker 2>look forward to see attritionia, but I.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't dread it.

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<v Speaker 1>True love tale is old as time, But I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I really don't like I was dated girls and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>for a while that I just kind of dreaded, like

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, the dread comes later in marriage when it's a

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<v Speaker 4>couple's date and you're crazy about one of them, you're

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<v Speaker 4>That happens a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>I will say though, that Sandy and I from the

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<v Speaker 3>beginning of our relationship, like at least it seemed like

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<v Speaker 3>when we were no parent no kids, childless, like one

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<v Speaker 3>of us was gone every weekend. I was gone to

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<v Speaker 3>see a friend or he was gone to see a friend.

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<v Speaker 3>Like it was one of those absence makes the heart

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<v Speaker 3>grow fonder kind of relationships. And even now he'll be like,

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<v Speaker 3>when you're gonna go see your friends, it's been a

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<v Speaker 3>while since you've gone to see your girlfriends, And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>don't you want to go visit your parents? And ohbaha

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<v Speaker 3>for a week or so, Like we still need a

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<v Speaker 3>little time away from each other.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody does. I think by how did you do JB

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<v Speaker 2>when you spent the summers working in Colorado? Was that

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<v Speaker 2>how did you handle it?

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't. I didn't love it. That's it was too

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<v Speaker 4>long to be gone. Yeah, yeah, for for five years

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<v Speaker 4>it was begin gone a month and then they add

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<v Speaker 4>brought back to women's tour. I was doing a Tour

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<v Speaker 4>de France podcast, but we would do it from Colorado,

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<v Speaker 4>and then I was gone six weeks. That's a long time.

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<v Speaker 4>I did not enjoy it. I'm not doing that anymore,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm really I'd be leaving. I'd be leaving now,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, to get out there before the tour to

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<v Speaker 4>start and all that and be gone for six weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh huh. Didn't like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, a lot of people are like, Wow, I'd love

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<v Speaker 2>to have six weeks in Colorado, but you're working down

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<v Speaker 2>the dusk right.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, in a way, in a way from my wife

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<v Speaker 4>and daughter for just too long. It's way too long.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. I get it. So well. Congratulations all

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<v Speaker 2>of you out there that that married your best friends.