Speaker 1: Tersea.
Speaker 2: What's the information on this that you could there's something
Speaker 2: you can really pinpoint to marrying your best friend if
Speaker 2: that's what you want to do. Why you'd want to
Speaker 2: do that, I don't know.
Speaker 1: But what's the right one sign?
Speaker 3: A Harvard professor said, there's one sign that will let
Speaker 3: you know if your relationship is going to last, and
Speaker 3: that is yeah, okay, we're going straight into it. It's
Speaker 3: a Harvard professor. He studied love for twenty five years.
Speaker 3: I don't know what that means. I guess just relationships.
Speaker 3: But he says that the one sign that your relationship
Speaker 3: will last a lifetime is if your best friends.
Speaker 2: Oh, mister Harvard professor, you wasted your time.
Speaker 3: The people who on their wedding invitation it says today
Speaker 3: I marry my best friend. Those are the ones who
Speaker 3: will make it. Sandy, you and I will not make it.
Speaker 2: No, we've made it for seventeen years. But I for you.
Speaker 2: That's the key. Then weird because I didn't marry my
Speaker 2: best friend. I didn't want to marry my best friend.
Speaker 2: I think we're all agree with jab You and Mary
Speaker 2: your best friend, did you?
Speaker 4: Nope? No, we're not best friend. I'm not it's probably
Speaker 4: closer that she is my best friend. I'm definitely not
Speaker 4: her best friend. I just don't have I just don't
Speaker 4: have any friends. So she's the closest to qualify, I guess,
Speaker 4: but no, I know because I don't. I'm always surprised
Speaker 4: when people say that because a relationship girlfriend, a girlfriend
Speaker 4: is so different than a guy could ever fulfill. Would
Speaker 4: you agree, Tricia, Oh, yeah, definitely, there's there's a there's
Speaker 4: a whole different level there.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 4: So I in our case, you know, no.
Speaker 2: One of the most one of the most attractive things
Speaker 2: for me. There was a lot of attractive things when
Speaker 2: we first start dating. But one thing that I remember
Speaker 2: that really stands out is I was I really really
Speaker 2: liked the fact that she had a group of laws,
Speaker 2: long time girlfriends, like that she did things with that
Speaker 2: she made a point to hang out with. I was like,
Speaker 2: I like that because I don't want the responsibility of
Speaker 2: being this chick's best friend. I want I want someone
Speaker 2: else to bear the burden of being Trisa's best friend.
Speaker 1: I bear the burden.
Speaker 4: I want it to be me. And those studies have
Speaker 4: been out there that you know, like you know, and
Speaker 4: I'm talking about just the typical male female relationship. There's
Speaker 4: a lot of different avenues we could go down with this.
Speaker 4: But they say the guys need their boys time to
Speaker 4: be happy. The girls definitely need their girl time to
Speaker 4: be happy. I think that's that's important.
Speaker 2: Taposed to see her friends in Dallas and like, well,
Speaker 2: they used to all live here, and they just gather
Speaker 2: in Dallas. In fact, you're doing that in a few weeks, right,
Speaker 2: And when she comes back or while she's there, she's
Speaker 2: full of energy and just energized again to come back
Speaker 2: to the the You know, everyone's got the grind of
Speaker 2: being a parent and work and bills and all the things.
Speaker 2: So I think it's good to re energize.
Speaker 1: It's a good thing.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 3: And also, like the girls and I, we will never
Speaker 3: run out of something to say to each other. We'll
Speaker 3: be together for five days and we will talk about
Speaker 3: all the things. One thing we could talk about for
Speaker 3: four hours. If Sandy were my best friend, I'd be
Speaker 3: with him for about an hour and a half and
Speaker 3: I'd be like, well, all right, I guess we've said
Speaker 3: all the things and that'd be it. Chat time would
Speaker 3: be over with Sandy.
Speaker 2: Jabe, Tricia's friend, Sean is visiting and she lives in Vietnam.
Speaker 2: She's from Austin but lives in Vietnam. And she was
Speaker 2: here for two or three nights, and so Triciaan and
Speaker 2: I sleep in separate bedrooms. In the room that Sean
Speaker 2: was in was right next door to mine. Those two
Speaker 2: sat and talked. It got to the point where I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, are these two ever going
Speaker 2: to stop talking?
Speaker 3: So then we got tired of We went to sleep,
Speaker 3: and we woke up the next morning and continued talking.
Speaker 3: He's like, I went to sleep listening to your voices,
Speaker 3: and I woke up listening to your voices.
Speaker 4: It's unbelievable how much talking they do.
Speaker 2: Guys. We're like, eh, we're all squared away in the
Speaker 2: first ten.
Speaker 4: Minutes or so.
Speaker 1: I know, what do you guys do on guys weekend?
Speaker 4: Can we just hang out silently?
Speaker 1: Hang out?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and watch whatever's on TV?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so watch what's on TV?
Speaker 3: Oh, tell JB about your Sandy used to make fun
Speaker 3: of me for my girl's weekends with the going to
Speaker 3: the spa and laying in bed together and watching movies
Speaker 3: and going to dinner.
Speaker 1: Sandy, tell JB how you think you slowly.
Speaker 3: Now understand why a girl's weekend can be better than
Speaker 3: a guy's weekend.
Speaker 1: After you had yours with Marlin, I don't remember you
Speaker 1: he goes to Dallas.
Speaker 3: You'll remember when I start talking about it, to have
Speaker 3: a weekend with his buddy Marlin. And you did all
Speaker 3: the girl things. Y'all went to dinner, then y'all went
Speaker 3: to a movie together. Then you came back and you
Speaker 3: floated in the pool.
Speaker 1: Then you went inside and you watch TV.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you did all the things that you chicks do,
Speaker 3: just with less words.
Speaker 1: And you were like, I think I understand the girl's
Speaker 1: weekend now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was pretty great all this since I quit
Speaker 2: drinking though, because before it was your I mean, you'd
Speaker 2: do all those things.
Speaker 4: We were too busy.
Speaker 1: You got massages too, right, Yeah, I believe.
Speaker 2: So, Yeah, that was a total chick weekend. You're right
Speaker 2: and right, but I don't think. I mean, there's probably
Speaker 2: someone appalled right now saying, well, I'm married my best friend,
Speaker 2: my best friend.
Speaker 4: You know, it's funny because i've been We just had
Speaker 4: our twenty seventh anniversary, and I do get asked, you
Speaker 4: know about long, you know, longevity of the marriage. I
Speaker 4: was telling you guys yesterday, how my daughters thinks it's
Speaker 4: weird that her parents are still together. Yeah, but no idea,
Speaker 4: it's abnormal. And I do get asked, and like when
Speaker 4: I tell people when they're earlier in their relationship, they're like,
Speaker 4: how do you know? How do you know it's the one?
Speaker 4: And one of the things I'll tell them is do
Speaker 4: you look forward to seeing them every day? Like, so,
Speaker 4: it's been twenty seven years of marriage, I look forward
Speaker 4: to seeing her every day. I can't wait till she
Speaker 4: comes home. Right now. If you pull up to the
Speaker 4: house and see their car and go, oh, maybe probably
Speaker 4: not the one, you know what I mean, You're just like,
Speaker 4: it's just this little barometer before you go down the
Speaker 4: path of marriage, like you should. You should look forward
Speaker 4: to seeing them all the time and checking in with them,
Speaker 4: and and you know, and if you once like are
Speaker 4: dying for space from them, that's probably not good.
Speaker 2: That's not the one. But I think that for me anyway,
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't don't. I won't say I don't
Speaker 2: look forward to see attritionia, but I.
Speaker 4: Don't dread it.
Speaker 1: True love tale is old as time, But I don't.
Speaker 2: I really don't like I was dated girls and stuff
Speaker 2: for a while that I just kind of dreaded, like
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the dread comes later in marriage when it's a
Speaker 4: couple's date and you're crazy about one of them, you're
Speaker 4: That happens a lot.
Speaker 3: I will say though, that Sandy and I from the
Speaker 3: beginning of our relationship, like at least it seemed like
Speaker 3: when we were no parent no kids, childless, like one
Speaker 3: of us was gone every weekend. I was gone to
Speaker 3: see a friend or he was gone to see a friend.
Speaker 3: Like it was one of those absence makes the heart
Speaker 3: grow fonder kind of relationships. And even now he'll be like,
Speaker 3: when you're gonna go see your friends, it's been a
Speaker 3: while since you've gone to see your girlfriends, And I'm like,
Speaker 3: don't you want to go visit your parents? And ohbaha
Speaker 3: for a week or so, Like we still need a
Speaker 3: little time away from each other.
Speaker 2: Everybody does. I think by how did you do JB
Speaker 2: when you spent the summers working in Colorado? Was that
Speaker 2: how did you handle it?
Speaker 4: I didn't. I didn't love it. That's it was too
Speaker 4: long to be gone. Yeah, yeah, for for five years
Speaker 4: it was begin gone a month and then they add
Speaker 4: brought back to women's tour. I was doing a Tour
Speaker 4: de France podcast, but we would do it from Colorado,
Speaker 4: and then I was gone six weeks. That's a long time.
Speaker 4: I did not enjoy it. I'm not doing that anymore,
Speaker 4: and I'm really I'd be leaving. I'd be leaving now,
Speaker 4: you know, to get out there before the tour to
Speaker 4: start and all that and be gone for six weeks.
Speaker 4: Uh huh. Didn't like it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people are like, Wow, I'd love
Speaker 2: to have six weeks in Colorado, but you're working down
Speaker 2: the dusk right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, in a way, in a way from my wife
Speaker 4: and daughter for just too long. It's way too long.
Speaker 2: I get it. I get it. So well. Congratulations all
Speaker 2: of you out there that that married your best friends.