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<v Speaker 1>You are doing way too much over explaining and people

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<v Speaker 1>have way too much access to you. Simply put, you

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<v Speaker 1>need some boundaries for your mouth and some boundaries for

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<v Speaker 1>your phone. Good morning, and welcome to your message of

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<v Speaker 1>the day. Know that, regardless of when it was uploaded,

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<v Speaker 1>if you found this message or it found you, then

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<v Speaker 1>your spirit team probably has something they've been trying to

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<v Speaker 1>say and you've been ignoring them, so they found another way.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember that the cards always open the conversation, but the

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<v Speaker 1>real work happens when we lean into our intuition and

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<v Speaker 1>listen for our own confirmations. Because terror and oracle itself

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<v Speaker 1>is just a tool, and each card, much like everything

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<v Speaker 1>else in life, is subject to interpretation.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get into it. So let's talk about the over explaining. First.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me, on the surface, you do it because you're

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<v Speaker 1>afraid of being misunderstood.

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<v Speaker 2>How do I know that? Because I'm the Wizard of Oz.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just kidding. I'm forty.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, take my old school jokes and please enjoy them.

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<v Speaker 1>But no, in all seriousness, let me just fix this microphone. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>in all seriousness, I know that because that was me

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<v Speaker 1>by nature. I'm a very direct person. But somewhere along

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<v Speaker 1>the way, obviously in my childhood, because isn't that where

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<v Speaker 1>everything starts, I realized that most people are really uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>with directness. People say that they want the truth, but

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<v Speaker 1>they're full of shit because when you do give them

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<v Speaker 1>the truth without a spoonful of sugar to help the

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<v Speaker 1>medicine go down, they get mad. And like most of us,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want people to be upset with me because

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<v Speaker 1>to me, someone upset with me equaled conflict.

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<v Speaker 2>I never liked conflict. I still don't like.

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<v Speaker 1>Conflict to this day, but I have a different understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of it now. But I digress. I am a recovering

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<v Speaker 1>people pleaser. Do you see the pipeline?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>If this is resonating with you, are you starting to

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<v Speaker 1>see your own pipeline?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>So again, on the surface, you do it because you're

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<v Speaker 1>afraid of being misunderstood. But underneath that layer is you

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<v Speaker 1>thinking to yourself. You know, if I could just say

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<v Speaker 1>the right thing, given of context, soften the delivery, or

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<v Speaker 1>preempt every possible misunderstanding, I could avoid all conflict, judgment,

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<v Speaker 1>or the thing I'm afraid of most rejection. This is

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm notorious for staying on women's neck. About the

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<v Speaker 1>importance of inner work as a habit, not a one

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<v Speaker 1>time thing, not something you do for six months and

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<v Speaker 1>then drop no, no, no, as something you do regularly

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<v Speaker 1>consistently for the rest of your life. Because the habits

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<v Speaker 1>we pick up, or the way we think we need

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<v Speaker 1>to be as kids with a brain that isn't developed,

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<v Speaker 1>so we do our best to survive, is linked to

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<v Speaker 1>acceptance because as kids, we're not old enough to survive

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<v Speaker 1>on our own.

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<v Speaker 2>Duh.

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<v Speaker 1>We as children were quite literally dependent on everyone else

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<v Speaker 1>around us, so we needed acceptance, right. But a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of what we conform to as children needs to be

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<v Speaker 1>reassessed as adult women because those very habits that once

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<v Speaker 1>kept us air quotes here as kids right in our

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<v Speaker 1>own way, only hurt us now as adult women. I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to think about that for a second. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>as adults women, Now you're explaining yourself in moments when

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<v Speaker 1>no explanation is needed. A simple example I see women

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<v Speaker 1>do all the time. Excuse me, is this when they

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<v Speaker 1>meet a guy and they'll say, I want to You

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<v Speaker 1>know what, when I say it, You're gonna think to yourself, shit,

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<v Speaker 1>I do that all the time. Okay, so walk with me.

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<v Speaker 1>You meet a guy. He wants to take you out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date. He suggests Friday night. But Friday, you

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<v Speaker 1>have plans with yourself. You've got plans with yourself. You respond, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't Friday because I've had a really long week

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<v Speaker 1>and I promise myself i'd rest. And I know that

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<v Speaker 1>might sound boring, but I really just need it and

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<v Speaker 1>it Hello, why the fuck are you explaining all that

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<v Speaker 1>to a man you just met. Oh, Friday doesn't worry

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<v Speaker 1>for me, actually, but how about Saturday?

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<v Speaker 2>Is enough? That's enough? That's enough? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Another example, a friend of yours hits you up asking

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<v Speaker 1>if you can help her do our favor, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>last minute. Here you go, Oh my god, girl, I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to help, but I'm really busy today. Plus

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<v Speaker 1>my car is doing this weird thing when I started.

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<v Speaker 1>Plus I have to go to the floors before they close.

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<v Speaker 1>I can get some flowers from my mom and beloved,

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<v Speaker 1>A simple shit, I can't today, girl, Sorry about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Is good enough? Is good enough?

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<v Speaker 1>Which brings me actually to your phone, the stuff with

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<v Speaker 1>your phone. This is another one that I work through

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<v Speaker 1>with my clients all the time. Your need to respond

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<v Speaker 1>to everything immediately equals allowing people to have access to

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<v Speaker 1>you whenever they want. More than that, you've trained people

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<v Speaker 1>to believe that they can have access to you whenever

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<v Speaker 1>they want. And it's not just your text messages, It's

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<v Speaker 1>not just you answering the phone. So many women have

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<v Speaker 1>all of their cye canty, all of their social media

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<v Speaker 1>notification sign and then wonder why they feel so drained

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. So pulled on, tugged on from all

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<v Speaker 1>these different directions, will know shit. Someone texts you, you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you have to respond right away. Someone dns you,

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<v Speaker 1>even a stranger, you feel like you have to respond

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<v Speaker 1>right away. Let me tell you something.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen to me. Hey, gime here, listen to me. Toggle

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<v Speaker 1>all social media notifications too off. Then learn to put

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<v Speaker 1>your phone on D and D between certain hours of

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<v Speaker 1>the day. The majority of things people are messaging you

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<v Speaker 1>throughout the day. I promise you are not urgent.

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<v Speaker 2>You know it. I know it.

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<v Speaker 1>Every it's not urgent, and a lot of it is

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<v Speaker 1>actual bullshit. If you're going to keep it a buck

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<v Speaker 1>with yourself, and if you want to keep it a

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<v Speaker 1>buck fifty with yourself, A lot of it is disruptive.

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<v Speaker 1>Your friend sending you a TikTok that is rage bait

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<v Speaker 1>talking about girl. Look at this is disruptive. It's disruptive

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<v Speaker 1>to your nervous system. It's disruptive to your emotions. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a disruptive to your thought, Like what you were thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about that? It's disruptive. Some guy who follows you on

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<v Speaker 1>ig sliding into your DMS to make a comment about

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<v Speaker 1>a story that you posted is disruptive.

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<v Speaker 2>Who is this? Who is this strange man in mind?

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<v Speaker 1>You right, it's disruptive, it's distracting, and it's signaling to

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<v Speaker 1>people that they can have access to you whenever they

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<v Speaker 1>so please. Because you respond right away, people can bet

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<v Speaker 1>on you responding right away all the time, no matter

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<v Speaker 1>what it is. So I personally don't have social media

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<v Speaker 1>of any kind anymore. But when I did, every single

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<v Speaker 1>of my notifications were turned off. Every single one of

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<v Speaker 1>my notifications were turned off. I turned them on once

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<v Speaker 1>some years ago, and when I tell you, I almost

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<v Speaker 1>had an aneurysm from all the notifications I were coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>I said to myself, Oh, hell to the No, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not going to that is not going to be a thing. No,

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<v Speaker 1>cut that shit rad the hell off my phone. If

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<v Speaker 1>it's not on D and D, it's on silent eighty

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<v Speaker 1>five percent of the time, and even when it's on

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<v Speaker 1>ring mode. I respond to messages within two timeframes, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>one around noon when I'm taking a break from my stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>My stuff is what I've got going on for the day,

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<v Speaker 1>and then again around six seven pm when I'm done

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<v Speaker 1>my stuff for the day. Right, no one knows it

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<v Speaker 1>about me, so no one is feeling some type of

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<v Speaker 1>way or getting their panties in a bunch. Also, let

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<v Speaker 1>me just add the women in my life, my friends,

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<v Speaker 1>my homegirls, are very self sufficient women who operate in

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<v Speaker 1>the same way. They have their own lives, with their

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<v Speaker 1>own career. They got their own shit going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>they got stuff happening. So not at a ten times

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<v Speaker 1>when they send me a hit girl, just checking in

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<v Speaker 1>on your message, I promise you they forgot that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>They forgot that they even sent that shit. So by

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<v Speaker 1>the time I respond, they're like, ohit, I forgot I

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<v Speaker 1>sent that. Hey, right, Also, everybody knows if it's urgent,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll call twice in a row or they'll add a

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<v Speaker 1>nine to one one at the beginning of the text. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying you know, sometimes if I have nothing

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<v Speaker 1>going on, I'll answer outside those timeframes. But the point

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<v Speaker 1>is it's on my terms because this is my life.

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<v Speaker 1>And on the flip side, I heavily respect other people's

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<v Speaker 1>terms because it's their life. This is what boundaries look

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<v Speaker 1>like in action. So many women think that they need

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<v Speaker 1>to say to people, this is my boundary, This is

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<v Speaker 1>my boundary, Hey, boundary, Hey, this is my boundary. Stop

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<v Speaker 1>because that's another explanation or justification that people don't need,

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<v Speaker 1>nor do they care the majority of the time, nor

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<v Speaker 1>do they care about the word itself. And you only

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<v Speaker 1>say it because again, you fear being misunderstood and you

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<v Speaker 1>want to make sure everyone is comfortable with the choices

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<v Speaker 1>you're making for your.

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<v Speaker 2>Own well being.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't realize that you're handing people a sense of

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<v Speaker 1>authority over your choices that they have no business having

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<v Speaker 1>in the first place. Listen to me, Listen to let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell you something. Your personal decisions for your own

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<v Speaker 1>wellbeing are not a Reddit thread. Okay, they don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to be openly discussed, they don't need to be think pieces.

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<v Speaker 1>Knock it off, right, You're not a child anymore. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to be accepted by everyone around you and

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<v Speaker 1>everyone you come into contact with, and everybody who says, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>how you doing. Your world is no longer as small

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<v Speaker 1>as it was when you were a kid. So you

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<v Speaker 1>can expand your world now, you really can, and you should,

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<v Speaker 1>so that you can align yourself with people who get it,

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<v Speaker 1>who don't need your over explanations because well, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>they're secure within themselves, and people who don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>have access to you and demand because they know that

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<v Speaker 1>you're a person with your own life, because they too

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<v Speaker 1>are people with their own lives. We really are who

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<v Speaker 1>we hang with, you know. But that's another message for

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<v Speaker 1>another day. When the cards say that it is so

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<v Speaker 1>on that note, I shall end this here. I really

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<v Speaker 1>hope this helped you connect some dots for yourself today.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, today's message came from the Queen of

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<v Speaker 1>Swords and the four of Pentacles. Oh and in case

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<v Speaker 1>you are new here, my name is Cynthia b I'm

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<v Speaker 1>an accountability coach and mentor who teaches women the lost

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<v Speaker 1>art of self mastery. It just so happens that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>also deeply in tune with all things magical and mystical

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<v Speaker 1>that are rooted in spirituality. I mean, what kind of

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<v Speaker 1>places what I be if I didn't honor the range

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<v Speaker 1>of my dualities?

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't offer private readings in case that's what you

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<v Speaker 1>think you need, because when it comes to one on

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<v Speaker 1>one work with women, I prefer to do the kind

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<v Speaker 1>that involves unearthing the roots and planting new seats. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you're interested in that kind of work, then please,

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<v Speaker 1>by all means audacity redefined dot com is where you

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<v Speaker 1>can find me Until tomorrow, go make the day work

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<v Speaker 1>for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Much love,