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I listen, I went on a trip and mister Manhattan
planned a beautiful, wonderful, serene, romantic, wonderful trip in Italy
and it just went all wrong. Oh my god, it
went all wrong. Listen. It's the thought that's count that counts.
I'm so grateful that he even attempted to plan this trip,
but we fully got catfished by a luxury wellness retreat.
What it's so funny, Mike, Listen. The pictures were so great.
We were so excited.
Speaker 2: Did you come back with a timeshare of Italy? Yeah?
Speaker 1: No, I'm part owner of the Tuscan Hills. Yeah. No,
Tuscany can be a real nightmare if it's done the
wrong way. Let me tell you what. No, we got there,
and you know, we pulled up and it was an
old castle that was restored. And I walked into the
lobby and I always know, oh, if a hotel is
good by the lobby or not. And I was like,
uh oh, but you know, I was keeping the faith.
And we had five days planned of massages and facials
and we were gonna turn our phones off and do
this whole thing. They had thermal baths and pools and
all you know online. It literally looked like it was
something you would see on Succession. It was so pristine
and beautiful, and it said that the chefs were all
Michelin Star chefs, and and we got there and we
got into our room and our room was okay, And
then we went to our first massage and it was
the worst massage I've ever gotten. In my entire life.
Like it felt like someone blew up hospital gloves and
was just like white dunked them in oil and was
wiping them on my back like it just she had.
She was using no pressure, and I was like, go harder.
It was supposed to be a lymphatic dage, drainage massage.
It was supposed to be getting every you know, getting
all the swelling and inflammation and everything out of my face.
She barely touched me, Like there was a point where
I was like, is she blowing on me? Like what
is she doing right now? It was bad and I
got out of the massage. And here's the thing. The
whole trip was a gift, right, and when you're getting
when you're receiving a gift, you have to be grateful.
And I was just like, yeah, it was a good massage,
and mister Manhattan was glaring at me, and I was like,
oh no, what's wrong. He's like that was the worst
massage I've ever gotten in my entire life. And I
was like, oh, thank god, me too. It is really bad.
And I think the problem with that is that the
whole trip was supposed to be massages and facials, and
you know, all of these wellness treatments, and I'm like,
I can't imagine having to do that again, because when
you're getting a massage that you don't like, it is
a form of torture. And if they're not willing to
make any adjustments, you are just at their mercy sitting
there in a broom closet while an Italian woman tells
you that's enough pressure. You don't need more pressure, you know.
And then we're like, you know what, maybe the food'll
be great and it'll be fine. And we went and
we ordered a Greek salad and palmodaro and those are
two things that are almost impossible to fuck up. And
the pomodoro was atrocious, Like it literally I would have
been happier if someone gave me a cold can of
Chef boyardy and a fork, Like it was so bad.
And we just looked at each other and we're like,
oh no, oh no. And it was kind of like
that point where neither of us were willing to admit
defeat yet because we had we were so excited about
this trip and like, what kind of asshole can't enjoy
Tuscany at a wellness retreat, you know, Like, what kind
of monster, am I that I can't like this? And
so you know, we made the fatal flaw of taking
a three and a half hour nap on day on
which I knew was going to completely fuck us up
and make us so jet lag for the whole trip.
And I've been to Europe enough to know that, like,
if you do that, you ruin your whole trip. But
we were so gassed, we were so tired, there was
nothing to do. The Wi Fi wasn't working, We couldn't
even watch TV. It just was kind of a mess.
So we took a nap. We woke up for dinner
pretty delirious and out of it. And we went to
dinner and I had risotto and it was it was horrible.
It was like little rocks with water on it. Like
the risotta was undercooked. It had the consistency of spit.
It tasted like all of my enemies got into the
kitchen and spit in a bowl. And then I had
to eat it. And he had a beef ragu and
there was no sauce. It was just shredded beef and noodles.
And then he finally drank enough to be like, I
don't fucking live like this. He's like, what are we
in fucking poonta cop And I was like, oh thank god.
He was like, you know what if we go to
Milan a couple days early, And I was like, what
if we go to Milan tomorrow? Like, let's get this
isn't gonna get better. When you were in a vacation
and it starts off bad, or you're at a hotel
and the amenities aren't great and the food's not good
and the services are bad, they don't get better on
day two. They don't get better because you yell at them.
It just creates an environment where everyone at the hotel
is scared of you and no one's enjoying anything. So
we you know, we pitched a little bit of a fit.
They took us on this tour. It was like this
impossibly long tour of the property and they wanted to
show us all the thermal spas, and the thermal spas
were filled with Russians and I just was like, what
is this? Are we bobbing for Babushka's here? Like what
is happening? And no shade to Russians at all? But
if you're there, I don't want to be there. There's
shades to Russians at all, but wherever they vacation, I
don't want to be no, that is that's rude and
a horrible thing to say. But I just it was,
I don't know it. We got catfished, you know. He
was like, this was a diamond hotel, and I was like,
in what year, you know, and he was like, well,
I guess two thousand and nine. I'm like, yeah, that
was sixteen years ago. Two thousand and nine was a
global recession. Of course, this was a diamond hotel during
a global recession. Like, I don't know, sixteen years ago
was so long ago, you know. It was like that's
like when Sully landed in the Hudson, and which, by
the way, would have been more relaxing landing in the
Hudson with Captain Sully than being in Tuscany. Like, I
just it was. It was tough. So we pitched a
fit and we're like, we're just gonna go to Milan.
We had a rental car, but poor mister Manhattan he
was so jetlagged and fucked up. We went to bed.
He couldn't sleep. He woke up at one am. He
was up since one am. I woke up at one
am also, but then I took his annex to go
back to sleep. So the next morning he's just wrecked,
like so tired, so crabby, rightfully, so that this thing
that he had spent so much time planning just to
go the way he wanted it to go, and you
know it was. It was a really rough start to
the trip. And so I then drove five hours north
to Milan, and I was going so fast on what's
a like a kilometers? It was like eighty kilometers. This
is what you're supposed to I was going one hundred
and forty. What's a kilometer? It's none of my business,
that's what a fucking kilometer is. I was flying to
Milan and he was just sleeping.
Speaker 2: You're going like seventy Is that.
Speaker 1: One hundred and forty kilometers? Is seventy miles an hour
something like that? Yeah, which I don't think that's true
because a five k is three miles, So if you're
going one hundred and forty, I think I was going
at least one hundred and ten. And do it, do it?
Speaker 3: Figure out how many miles an hour is one hundred
and forty kilometers per hour?
Speaker 2: Eighty six eighty six.
Speaker 1: That's all I was going. God damn, it felt faster
I was. I felt like I was flying like a
bat out of hell.
Speaker 2: I was like, you're going four or five late to lax.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, So anyway, I wasn't going that fast,
but it felt like I was because I was really blessing.
Speaker 2: Around as European pussies.
Speaker 1: Pussies, So yeah, I flew out of Tuscany. And listen,
Tuscany is beautiful, I'm sure in the summertime. You know,
here's the thing with Italy. It needs sunshine, you know,
because all of the old infrastructure is probably beautiful when
it's sunny, but when it's cold and rainy, it just
looks like a crumbling dump. And I know that this
is not this is not a popular opinion, and nobody's
gonna agree with me, and everyone probably thinks I'm a
fucking brat, and I know that this is not This
is not how anyone wants to hear me talk about Italy.
But I just think central Europe in the middle of
winter is not the place for any of us. So
I'm just trying to do you all a favor and
keep you from making the same mistakes that we made.
So we get to Milan, and Milan's you know, Milan's Milan.
It's a city. They try and lump it in there
with London and Paris, and they shouldn't. Whoever they is
that's lumping that in there, they shouldn't do it because
it was a pretty gray, tragic city. And you know,
the other thing was we just weren't finding great food,
which I think is our fault. We didn't do research. Obviously,
that's our fault. It's Italy. There's some of the best
food in the world there. We went to a beautiful
dinner outside of the Duomo, which is this you know
church that's in the middle. You know, you can go
see the Duomo and then you can leave Milan. That's
you need a day in Milan. But we had the
rest of our trip. And like keep in mind, this
trip was supposed to be five days in the you know,
Tuscany in the countryside and then five days in Milan.
Like that was supposed to be the split on it.
It wasn't supposed to be one day in the Tuscan
countryside and then you know, nine days in Milan. So
we get to Milan and we are just battling the
gnarliest jet lag, like we are not, okay, I And
here's the thing. I think trips that go wrong are
better for couples early on, because it's like, yeah, we
can go on a trip and it can be magical
and we can kiki and like mister Manhattan, by the way,
and I have done that already. Like we went to
Paris and it went perfectly. We didn't get jet leg
we had the best meals, we had a great hotel,
we had a wonderful time. Like that told me nothing
about him or his character this trip, this trip did
Is he prepared for adversity?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Is he ready for anything to go wrong?
Speaker 2: Ever?
Speaker 1: Not really, No, he was you know, like I said,
that's my little Gemini, his.
Speaker 2: Little It's more than twenty seven that I'm familiar with.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, no, I know.
Speaker 2: What twenty seven looks like when I hire them at
the office.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, No, not ready for adversity. But once
we got past the jet legs, so we watched The
Beast in Me, which is a show on Netflix, which
we we just binge watched that for three days in
Milan in the apartment, like we barely left. We went
out to get a little pizza. We went out for
a dinner here or there, but we barely left. And
it was just tough because it's like we could have
done this in my bed and not paid any money
to do it. You know.
Speaker 2: So Branos is free on HBO Max.
Speaker 1: I mean you don't. And that's the other thing about Europe.
You don't get HBO Max, and you don't get Hulu
and some of the shows that you get for free
here on Amazon Prime, you have to pay for it there.
Like we were trying to finish watching American Horror Story
and we couldn't because we had to pay for it there.
And I was like, what is this fucking dump of
a country, this prison of a country that I'm stuck in.
And here's the thing. Milan got bombed a lot during
the war because they were on the wrong side, obviously.
And when a city gets bombed a lot during the war.
The cities that I've seen Munich specifically, it's like they're
rebuilt really fasten with no character. So there's not like
a ton of character in Milan. There's not a ton
of I mean there's a ton of history, but it
just wasn't like the most exciting place to be, so
we bounced. We ended up going to Florence for a
day and then tra la la Christmas come early. Mama
got a fucking stye. I got a stye in my eye,
so my eyes welted shut. I'm dealing with the chaos
of traveling. When we were taking the train to Florence,
this is the trip did become at some point just
an example of Murphy's law, like if it could go wrong,
it would go wrong, and it was gonna go wrong.
We were going from Florence to Italy and our train
was delayed four hours because somebody committed suicide in front
of a train. And I had never been more jealous
of a singular person in my life before. I was like, God,
that could have been me. If I would have just
if I would just, if I wouldn't have taken my
legs apro this morning, that would have been me. But yeah, somebody,
you know, tragically took their life and also took our
day away from us because we just got stuck on
a train, and I was so excited to go to Venice.
I you know, not to say Venice Beach is even close,
but Venice Beach is somewhere that I lived for ten years,
and it's supposed to be a replica of Venice, Italy,
so I was so excited to see it. We get
there late, the sun's going down, it starts raining. We
get on a boat ferry to our hotel. When we
were in Florence, mister Manhattan bought me this beautiful, beautiful
leather jacket. It's stunning. It's what's it called. It's not
copenhangen leather. What's it called? Well, I can't think of
the word. It's a beautiful like carmelly leather. And I
know you guys are like screaming into your fucking cars
right now, being like it's called blank and right when
I wrap this podcast, I'll remember what it's called. Anyway.
We go to this hotel called the Venice Venice. It
is created by it was designed and owned by the
people who own Golden Goose, and it is just this stunning, stunning, gorgeous,
while curated hotel. We're so happy to be in a
five star hotel. I'm like, there are a few things
that a five star hotel can't fix, like the all
the trauma of Milan and the jet leg and getting
catfished by Fonta Verde. All of that just kind of
washed away. When we get into this five star hotel.
I wear my new leather jacket for the first time.
Speaker 2: We go.
Speaker 1: We sit down where there's maybe like ten people in
the restaurant. It's not really busy, and we're having like
this great cheese plate and mister Manhattan's having wine, and
this bus boy, I think, comes over and there were
these flower arrangements right over my shoulder, sitting on a ledge,
and I had the thought. I had the thought, he's
gonna go to pull these and he's gonna spill it
all over my fucking coat. And it fucking happened. And
at this point, I'm like, this trip has become the
law of attraction. If you think it's gonna go wrong,
it's gonna go wrong. If you think it's gonna go right,
it's gonna go right. But it went wrong, and the
dirty flower water soaked my brand new leather jacket and
my cashmere sweater and my jeans, and I'm just soaked,
and mister Manhattan is dead behind my eyes, just drinking wine.
He's like, fucking of course that just happened. So the
hotel's like frantic. They're like, you know, we'll just like,
you know, we'll have our cleaning service. Well, we'll dry
your jacket, it'll be fine.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 1: So I give the cleaning service my cashmere sweater and
my jacket and they returned my jacket and it's morphed.
It's morphed from the water because it was so much
water and it's dirty.
Speaker 2: And how shrunk did that sweater come back?
Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing. It's cashmere. So Kashmir, you cannot
hang dry cashmere because it will stretch to the floor.
So when they gave me my cashmere sweater back, it
was a sweater dress. And I was like, what the
fuck is this? And I hate to be this person.
I hate to be the person that goes to the
hotel and it is like you just ruined like eight
hundred dollars worth of shit. But they're like, Okay, we
can send it to our insurance and then in four
to six months you can get one hundred percent of
the value back for these clothes. Or you can just
take the clothes and we'll give you half the value
of the clothes off the room. And I was like, okay,
just give me the clothes. Back whatever, But I just,
you know, it was just it just became it just
became a trip of Murphy's Lot. And then after, you know,
after when we were leaving Venice, our train from Venice
to Milan got canceled. We had to like rush to
get on another train that left, like you know, we
had to we had to get out of Venice and
then get to the main train station and listen, you guys.
It was just tough. You know, when you vacation and
then afterwards you're like, I need a vacation. Like I
came back and I just felt battered. I really just
felt battered. But I will say this, through it all,
we had really great sex, like really really great sex,
and I think, you know a few things came up
that like ultimately made us stronger. I do think when
shit hits the fan, like you really do get to
a crossroads in a relationship where you're like, Okay, how
are we going to deal with this? Like how are
we going to move forward from this? And like one
of my fatal flaws that came up and keeps coming
up and will never stop coming up is when things
go wrong, my fight or flight is always flight. Like
the second I could tell he was mad about the
trip not going the way he wanted it to go.
I was like, are we even a couple anymore? Like
are we even dating? Should I leave? Should I fly
back to Los Angeles?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Do you want me to leave? Because I don't want
to be in a situation where I'm making some like
my presence is making someone else uncomfortable, So I always
think the solution is to just leave. And he's very confrontational,
and he's like, no, we need to like talk this
shit out. You can't just run away every time something
goes wrong. And I think ultimately it was a real
character building trip, not only for the relationship, but I
think for myself it's like continuing this relationship is continuing
to illuminate things in me that need attention. And I
hate it because honestly, I'm just like I've done all
this work out myself. I know better, and I still
can't act better. And you know, I think I just
get scared when like someone's mad or angry. I just
want to leave because it really reminds me of my
mom and it feels unpredictable, and I get scared and
I revert back to feeling like a kid, and that's
really just it's really a shame that, like at the
big old age of thirty six, that's how I'm still
dealing with things. But what's really great about mister Manhattan
is that he kind of just stares down the barrel
at me and he's like, no, we got to talk
this shit out, like you know, like I've never once
second guest you or this relationship. He's like the fact that,
like things go slightly wrong for a few days and
you want to run away is not great. And I'm like,
you're right, so I do think you know it was?
It was it was a trip. It was a trip.
The one thing I will say that Italy is doing
better than us, the one and only thing because honestly, honestly,
fuck Italy. No, I'm just kidding that is that food
is the price it should be over there, Like a
cappuccino is two dollars and fifty euro not sense, but
like two fifty uh, groceries are normal prices, Like you
don't realize how like actually robbed we're getting at the
price we're paying just to stay alive in this country
until you go to another country that's doing it right.
Meals are not more than fifty sixty bucks. Like if
you drink wine, fine, whatever, it's a little more. But
like I ordered Taco Bell from Postmates when I got
home and it was fifty dollars, and I was like,
do you want to shit in my fucking mouth? Like
what are you telling me? Taco Bell is fifty dollars.
Speaker 2: You ate Taco Bell outside of the Taco Bell parking lot.
Whatever happened to you is your own fault, Like you
can't do that.
Speaker 1: That's true, that's true. But I didn't have the time
or that I didn't have the emotional bandwidth. No, I
know Taco Bell should be DUI checkpoints, but I really
just wanted what do I eat? The gordida, the chilopa,
beef chilupa suprema. I just re all I wanted. So
I got to beef chilupa Supremes and mister Manhattan got
like a crunch wrap supreme and something else and it
was fifty dollars and I was like, hey, do you
want to knock me out cold when you deliver that,
because that's fucking crazy. That's a crazy price. Like in
Italy you get real food that's not poisonous shit and
it's a reasonable price. So that is a real crisis
and we need to fix it, and someone get on
that job. Someone get on that.
Speaker 2: Anyway, as a fat guy, that had to do with
your delivery, because I know what the drive through cost
of things on.
Speaker 1: No, I know, I'm sure it was, but also it's
like it's just ridiculous, like we just get robbed, but
it's still expensive. I went to a drive through recently
and it was way more than I remember it being.
Like when I was in college, I would get a
double from McDonald's, a double cheeseburger, a fish filet meal
and they used to have like these cinnamon roll things,
oh and whatever Kenny was eating, which was a ton
of shit also and it was like fourteen bucks like things.
Shit has changed, Shit has gone down in this country
that I do not approve of, and we need to
fix it. The price of fast food is fucking killing us.
And like I think they did just release something recently
that are like families are opting to eat in more
than eating fast food, and I'm like, yeah, cause fast food. Yeah,
fast food used to be the option for low income
families that couldn't afford to make meals, and now now
it's like nobody can afford anything. Like I don't know.
I just saw something recently that like a family of
four is spending over one thousand dollars on groceries a month,
which feels unattainable, like unsustainable. I'm just like, how does
anyone I don't know. It just it's the food situation
in this country is a crisis. So somebody salt that
and call me anyway. I feel like I'm just getting
to the point where I realized, like, you know, people
are like these people with their VR headsets are sitting
on their couch and they're like, I can see Venice
from here. I'm like, yeah, I would do that. I
would much rather be on my couch looking at Venice,
Italy through a VR headset than having to like weather
the storm and go out in the rain and be
amongst people who don't speak my language. I don't speak
their language. I'm in their country. I don't know what
the fuck's going on. I just think I just think
traveling has become really difficult for me. I think I
travel so much for work and nobody wants to fucking
hear this. I'm aware that this is not a take
that anyone wants to hear. They're like, oh, boohoo, you
went to Italy. You don't like get you fucking dumb
hunt like grime A River. I understand that this is
not a hot take. I just think I'm getting to
the point in my life where I've seen enough. I've
seen enough of the world that I can't keep up
with the jet lag. It fucks me up both ways.
I it's too much of it's too much of a gamble.
And I really just am at the age now where
I like my routine. I like waking up in the
morning in my bed, having my candles, having my water,
having you know, just the things that you let slip
by the wayside when you travel you don't drink enough water,
you're dehydrated, you don't sleep as well as you would
at home. Like there's there's no sort of routine. And
I really just love my routine. When I came home
and I was like, I get to sleep in my bed,
I get to wake up and eat my food. I
get to hang out with my dog, Like there is
nothing better than hanging out with this dog and just
cuddling him, even though he fucking hates it and just
cuddling him so hard and watching something in my bed.
I'm just like, I'm tired. I'm sick and tired of
having to go out in the world, and I don't
want to do it anymore. That said, I'm sure Italy
in the summer is great, and I just went at
the wrong time. But whoo we did I get my
ass kicked by that trip.
Speaker 2: It's a nice one. Most of the time you travel,
you're getting paid, and now when you're traveling, you're not
getting paid. So to get over that type.
Speaker 1: Of thing, you are losing money. Yeah, I'm losing money
to be in this place that isn't really the return
on investment is not that high. And listen, Italy's a
weird place. You know. It was under the reign of
Mussolini for a long time. When I was at my
apartment in Milan, I looked up and there was swastikas
on the ceiling and they were part of the architectural design,
and I was just like, what in the fuck? I
don't want to be here, Get me out of this place.
This feels creepy. And anyway, it's a communist dump, and
don't go. Just kidding.
Speaker 2: Unless anyone wants to pay her to go, she will.
Speaker 1: Be happy to do it right, and then I'll be back.
I'll be back in no time.
Speaker 2: Florence, Milan, Rome in the summer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, in the summer. Here's the thing. I need the sunshine.
I think I just it wrong. I honestly think if
I would have gone to Rome, it would have been fine,
if I would have gone somewhere further south, like Tuscany.
We started off south and then we went too far north,
and then it was like a completely different climate. So anyway,
we fucked it up. It was it was nobody's fault
but our own. But anyway, I'm all that said. I'm
happy to be back here. I'm happy to be back
with Biggie and in my home and in my bed.
And you know, I got home yesterday and I called
my massuse and I had her come give me a massage.
And none of this is relatable, but I really just
needed to be touched. And yeah, yeah, I really just
I really just needed to be touched. But then I
accidentally I was so gassy for my flight I farted
on her. I know, I know, I just felt it.
I just felt it cooking my tummy was rumbling the
whole time, and then she really was getting in there
on my glute and I was like.
Speaker 3: That.
Speaker 1: She started laughing. She's like, honestly, I've been massaging you
for seven years, it's the first time. That's pretty impressive.
And I was like, I am so sorry, I am so,
so so sorry. Okay. So, while I was in Milan,
I picked up a book and I started reading a
book called The Monk who Sold His Ferrari. Have you
ever read this book, Mike, No, Okay. So it's about
a guy who is a really high powered lawyer and
just basically burning the candles, burning the candle at both
ends and wearing himself out, and he had a cardiac
event in the courtroom. He had to get taken out,
and he basically just revamped his whole life. He went
to the Himalayas, he found these monks who told him
like the secret of life, and he came back and
he shared it with another lawyer that he used to
work with, and the other lawyer wrote this book and
it's not the best book in the world. It's not
super well written. There have been like six million copies sold,
so it's obviously the message is very profound. But in
terms of you know the right lawyers, yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly.
So the message is is really profound. The book itself
is not. But there was a portion of the book
that I wanted to share with you guys that really
resonated with me. And it says success on the outside
means nothing unless you also have success within. There's a
huge difference between There's a huge difference between well being
and being well off. I have learned that self mastery
and the consistent care of one's mind, body, and soul
are essential to finding one's highest self and living the
life of one's dreams. How can you care for others
if you cannot even care for yourself? How can you
do good if you don't feel good? I can't love
you if I cannot love myself. And this is something
that first of all, it's not revolutionary or you know,
a breakthrough thought, but I think a lot of us
think we're gonna get this thing, and then we're gonna
be happy. And then you get the thing and you're
not happy because the goalpost moves and you just want
something else, and it becomes this hamster wheel of life
where if you're not grateful for what you have now.
More won't help. And I think that something about I
consistently struggle with because in the career that I'm in,
I always want more. I want a Netflix special, I
want to make a movie, I want to make a
TV show, I want all this stuff. And I'm like,
when I get that, I'll be happy, and when I'm
working on this, I'll be happy. But it's like life
is happening right now, like all we have is today,
All we have is this day. Tomorrow's not guaranteed. Three
hours from now is not guaranteed. You could go outside
and get hit by a bus. So all I'm saying
is like, finding the happiness and the gratitude for your
life right now and the things you have right now
is what we all really need to do. And I'm
not trying to be preachy. I'm literally saying this out
loud so I can remind myself that, like I don't know,
it's great to have goals. We all need to have goals.
We all need to be striving for something. I think
having a purpose in life is what gives us the
energy to wake up in the morning. I think, you know,
when I wake up and I know I'm doing this podcast,
I get excited because I feel like I have something
to live for, quite frankly. But so I'm not saying
don't have goals, and I'm not saying don't you know,
don't want things for yourself. But what I'm saying is
like just a little gentle reminder to be grateful for
what you have. Now. I am so grateful for my
life today. I really am, Like my health, my home,
my partner, my family, just my dad, just my dad,
really my dad, my sister. Everyone else can kick rocks,
but like, no, I really, I really do have a
ton of gratitude, and I think sometimes it's easy to
slip out of that. Like I just was telling you
guys about how I spent ten days in Italy and
it felt like a prison camp. Like I was not
in gratitude. I did not wake up and be like
what can I be grateful for today? I was living
in a prison of my mind and like the chaos
I created, and that's one hundred percent my fault. Like
I could have enjoyed Italy, Like what kind of monster
can't enjoy Italy? So I'm not saying that I have
a perfect practice, but it just was an interesting thing
to be reading while simultaneously not practicing it in Italy.
Oh my god, So I want to do Word of
the Week even though nobody wants it. I don't really care.
Speaker 2: We saw in the comments people wanted to bring Word
of the Week back. Really between everyone saying hello to me, Hi, everybody.
Speaker 1: Hi everyone. I know you guys were so excited Mike
is back. I'm so excited word of the Week is
back and that Mic is back. But word of the
Week is really Oh, it's so special to me. I
want us all to just be vocabulary sluts, you know,
like I want us to use words at parties like
pedantic and everyone be like, what the fuck did you
just say? Pedantic? Intellectually, showy, or overblown. A pedant is
a person who makes a great display of knowledge. To
be pedanticed Wait, that's not the right to be.
Speaker 2: To use that word in a crowd.
Speaker 1: Yeah, is to use that word in a crowd that is,
Oh my god, let's all be pedantic as fuck, you guys.
To be pedantic is to act in this way pedantic pedantic. Wow.
It's one of those words that if you say it
too many times, you're like that's not a real word
at all. Pedantic can also mean over concerned with formal rules.
I found Dreams's pedantic manner quite condescending. All Right, you guys,
let's be the pedantic condescending fucks at party? Shall we
intellectually showy? Mike? Are you gonna be pedantic this week?
Speaker 2: Always?
Speaker 1: Always, Mike is always pedantic? Okay, you guys, that's our word.
Pedantic is the word of the week. The monk who
sold is probaby.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: This is another thing that came up when I was
you know, I went down this little path of like,
I don't know, there's something that we all trick ourselves
into thinking that we're gonna get a thing and we're
gonna be happy. And then, like I've already said this,
we get the thing and we're not happy. But Jim
Carrey said, I think everyone should get rich and famous
and do everything they ever dream so they can see
it's not the answer. And I have so many friends
that have gotten everything that they want in life. They
are so successful, they have top podcasts, they're in movies,
they have everything, and they're fucking miserable. So what I'm
saying is the work is inner work. It's not outer work,
and I think we can do both. We can do both.
There can be a balance, but let's all focus on
the insides and making sure we're right with ourselves. Meditate,
if you can, pray, if you believe, do the things
that make you feel good, because life is short and
I really do want you guys all to feel good.
And with that, I think that's a perfect little segue
into our guests. Today, I am doing a quick little
health corner with one of my dear friends, Stasha Patwell.
She is a personal trainer and comedian and she has
transformed my body, mind and soul over the years. And
I hope you can take some of the knowledge that
she gives us here today and make yourself slightly better
with it. With that, enjoy the episode. Okay, you guys.
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Thank you so much. My palms are sweating previously because
you gave me some drugs.
Speaker 4: I gave me drugs.
Speaker 1: It was like cracked out instant coffee.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It tastes like heaven tar.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, but you like it right now?
Speaker 5: You care what things taste like if you know it's
gonna get you fucked up.
Speaker 1: Ex No, I was trying to get turnt, but I am.
Do you usually sweat and shake? Is that norbal? I'm
sweating and shaking?
Speaker 5: No, but you know what, I have a high tolerance like.
I also chew ten to fifteen pieces of nigra a
day and I give one piece to like a grown
muscular man and he's like in the fucking bathroom throwing up.
Speaker 1: So it makes me pew.
Speaker 5: I know that's like a normal response. So I understand that.
Speaker 1: Like I have, you know, I help for you know,
a health and wellness girly.
Speaker 4: You really just are on the ref around the edges.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're You're rough on the edges, which I think
is why a lot of people like working out with you,
because it's like very no bullshit, You're funny, you keep
it real, and you know, working out sucks.
Speaker 5: Yeah's the worst.
Speaker 1: It's the worst. But in the time that I've known you,
we've been friends for like seven years about that's so crazy.
You have had such a glow up, like just body
mind soul blow up. Like I you know, when I
met you, you were a broke waitress. You couldn't you
didn't have two nickels to rub together, relax. You were
you were You were firing off crazy emails to your manager.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I was like threatening lawsuits for like people who I
worked for at a restaurant.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you were like is this bad to send? You're like, yeah, don't.
I was like, I already did it.
Speaker 1: Okay, so basically, all right, you weren't a broke waitress.
You were a wait.
Speaker 4: I said, I made it. I'm not mad, it is true.
Speaker 1: But then during the pandemic, something really special happened. We
stopped being friends.
Speaker 4: I really glowed off. We were a hang out.
Speaker 2: First.
Speaker 5: Well, no you did this, No I did it.
Speaker 4: I did it.
Speaker 2: But what you.
Speaker 1: Started doing, which I thought was brilliant, and I was
watching from Afar, was these Zoom workout classes and it
started for mostly comedians and all of the comedians that
were hold up and mentally ill during the pandemic, we're
able to work out with you. And I was watching
it from Afar being like, this is a business.
Speaker 4: This is a business.
Speaker 5: We better make up.
Speaker 1: But she's doing this for free right now, I was like,
we have to do an amends justice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 5: Really, well listen, I will say, okay, yeah, it's not
a smart business move to give away your business for free.
Speaker 4: For two years.
Speaker 5: But what I will say that it showed me is
that like, this is what I would be doing for free,
because I did it for free, you know what I mean.
This was like me bringing like all of the parts
of me together, and it was natural for me to
do it when I had nothing to do and I
wasn't getting paid for it. So anytime I have imposter syndrome,
which still happens, you know, I just remember.
Speaker 4: That, like, well, this is what I did for free,
for free. Yeah, and I'm good at it, So you.
Speaker 1: Are really good at it. And I'm not trying to
blow smoke up your ass. I know, I'm really not.
I was in a place during the pandemic where I
couldn't really get it together with working out, and I
feel like your workouts are so hard. Yeah, they're so
ferociously hard, but you are just kind of a breath
of fresh air where you're like, I know this sucks.
I know this fucking sucks, But does it suck more
to do this for an hour or to hate yourself
suit And that sort of perspective is really helpful and
very necessary, and it's like grown your business into an empire.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Well, I think what the thing is is that I
give people permission that you don't have to like it.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean it? And why would you
like it?
Speaker 5: Like working out is fucking hard and it sucks, and
I don't like I don't wake up in the morning,
like I can't wait to work out, Like Okay, it's
become more natural to me now because it's my job
in my life. But like, I'm not like some Pollyanna
who like can't wait to work out at all, But
I am like a sober alcoholic who needed to find
a way to like not want to kill myself. When
I first got sober and I started teaching spin, and
it like became a drug for me. I mean, granted,
I was like smoking unfiltered cigarettes out in the fucking
parking lot before I would teach.
Speaker 2: Spin, and.
Speaker 5: Yeah it was like an extreme sport, yeah, but exercise.
Really it just changed my fucking life, you know. And
and AA did too, because it like started a spiritual
journey for me. But I think I think why people
find working out and getting in shape so hard is
because they think that they have to like enjoy it
and they have to like it and it has to
they have to be one of those people that's like okay,
and it's like and if you're not like that, it
feels like, well this doesn't apply to me. But if
you have permission that you don't have to like it
and you don't have to be perfect about it. It's
okay to suck at it for a long time. Then
you don't fucking feel like a failure, like you're doing
something wrong and it's like not really available for you.
And so it gives people permission to suck at it
for a long time and not like it, and then
you're like, Okay, well, I can keep showing up. It's
easier to be consistent if you don't feel like a
fucking failure because you're not enjoying it.
Speaker 1: Right, you know. Yeah, And I think one of the
things that's so special about your program is it's all online.
It's all zoom, so people do the workouts in their house.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And for me, I don't like going to gyms. I
don't like the guys that creep on you. I don't
like people yelling at me to get off machines. I
don't like the vibes and gyms, And so I think
it gives you, like the space to just really work
on yourself without having to like go out into the
wild and feel like you're being judged. And you know,
you've created a program where it's like you just need
a few dumbbells and resistance bands and a bench and yeah,
you can get someone in shape.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and if you like going to the gym, like,
you can take my class to the gym too, you know,
because now as my workouts have progressed, like I do
use heavier and heavier weights now and if you have
them and are available for you, So some people do
take the like their phone to the gym and just
like watch my class at the gym, and that way
they have access to like more equipment if they want.
But yeah, you can absolutely do it from your bedroom
and most people do.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean I was in the best shape of my
life when I was working out with you, doing the
one on ones, which I don't think you offer those anymore, right, No, no,
you do all yeah school thoughts. Yeah, but when I
was doing the one on ones, but that was all
resistance bands. Yeah, fifteen pounds was the highest weight I
had and I was shredded. So it really is a
miracle if you just come and it's not even like
you're not saying you need to work out twice a day,
six days a week. No, you're like, you need to
work out three to five times a week if you can,
but three is the minimum, and then it's the ten
thousand steps today and.
Speaker 4: The food and the food.
Speaker 2: The food.
Speaker 1: This is where I always get.
Speaker 4: I know. I know you lose. So I know I
know because.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I have no joy in my life except
for pizza.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but like being hot brings you joy, so does pizza. Yeah,
and you can eat pizza too well.
Speaker 4: Listen.
Speaker 5: I think I think why the program works so well
is because, yes, it's a fitness program, okay, but relate,
it's an accountability program. And like we don't like so
I have little groups. You're put into accountability group of
five other women every day of to send in your
your steps, your food diary where we give you personalized
macros and a sweaty selfie after you've worked.
Speaker 4: Out and what that does.
Speaker 5: And we call you out if you don't send in,
and we're not like assholes about it, but we're like
there to make sure you don't ghost yourself.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 5: And the accountability is really what works. It's not like
people are perfect about it. Most people are not perfect
about it. I'm not perfect about it. You don't have
to be perfect about it, but you do have to
be consistent, and what helps you stay consistent is accountability.
And there really is not another program out there that is.
It holds you so accountable because like quite frankly, on
the back end, it's like so annoying to hold like
hundreds of women accountable every single day. It's like hard work.
But that's really what doesn' When you were working with
me one on one, it's like I was making you
send in your food diary to me every single night.
Speaker 4: You know, and that's what that's what keeps you going.
Speaker 5: It's like, Okay, you're not a failure because you fucked
up your fucking food diary today, but you're gonna try
again tomorrow, and you just keep you just keep showing up,
even if you're like a C student. It's like Season
d's get degrees, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So the program, just so everyone knows what it is,
it's personalized macros which you're supposed to try and hit
every day. That's my most challenging thing. Ten thousand steps
a day, a gallon of water a day, which is
hard for some people, like really fucking hard, and then
three workouts a week. And that's the program.
Speaker 5: And it's called So my business is called School of
Thought and the eight week Accountability Thought two I can't
spell thot, so it's like supposed to be fucking funny,
you know whatever.
Speaker 1: School of Whores.
Speaker 5: Was the second runner, and the eight week accountability program
is called Thought Certification, and you know, going with the
school theme. Originally it was called Junior High. And then
I got accused of being a pedophile by like three
people on the internet, and I was like, okay, one
person accusing me, it's like whatever, but three people, all right,
I'll change too many.
Speaker 4: There's too many.
Speaker 1: So so thought your eyes for the hot one?
Speaker 4: Yes, so yeah.
Speaker 5: So thought Start is an eight week accountability program and
then once you've done the first eight weeks, we have
an ongoing program and we call that PhD and so
we have a lot of women who have been doing
the program now for like four years. And it's really
because it fits any wherever you are in your fitness journey, like,
however fit you are, however fit you're not. The accountability
and like the community now that we've built is what
keeps people coming back. Because my classes are kind of
fun because I do talk a lot of shit, and.
Speaker 1: She talks a lot of shit, and she says funny
things like imagine the hottest guy you've ever seen behind
you and you want him to fuck you, Like.
Speaker 5: Don't to tell you, you know, but but now that you
know the program has been around for like almost five years,
we have like.
Speaker 1: It is five years because it started, and it's so crazy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we just have like in a really amazing community
and we people have now become like best friends in
real life. Like I've met my best friends now from
my program. Like so it's and you know, we just
had our first retreat in Mikono's in September and like
we had fifteen girls come and it was like it
was so crazy because we've been seeing each other online
for a couple of years and then we met in
person and it was like, oh, we're.
Speaker 4: Like already friends. That's how you do it now.
Speaker 5: Now you meet online and then you meet in real
life after, you know. So it's it's just become it's
it really feels like it's kind of become like a
real school, you know, where everyone is friends and it's
like really all walks of life and we have like comedians,
we have stay at home moms, we have business women,
we have lawyers. We it applies to everybody because everybody, listen,
I started teaching my class like second week of COVID
because I needed accountability, because I was like, even though
I had just started training people in a gym a
couple months before the pandemic hit, I was like, I
probably needed to teach a class because like, I don't
want to fucking get out of shape now, and I
don't trust myself because I fucking hate working out and
I'm living in this teeny studio apartment and I'm just
going to be like fucking watching friends all day if
I don't like force myself to show up for somebody
else right now.
Speaker 1: And you know, the fact of the matter is like
where alcoholics and isolation can kill us. So it was
like your way to stay out of the world.
Speaker 5: I was like protecting myself, you know. And that's something
we learned in AA too. It's like doing it for
other people before you learn to do it for yourself.
And that's kind of like the entire basis of my
business is like you know that feeling you get when
you first get sober and you don't want to drink
because you don't want to go to the meeting the
next day and like tell everybody that you fucking got wasted.
It's sort of the same thing with thought certification. It's like,
all right, well, I don't want to fucking tell the
group I did two hundred steps today, so I guess
I'll go for a fucking walk.
Speaker 4: And it works like.
Speaker 5: That, sprinkling of public shaming.
Speaker 4: Is a good thing, you know, it helps you.
Speaker 5: It's like, you know, all those times when I was
younger and someone called me chubby, or someone called me
fat bitch or something what someone said, and.
Speaker 1: You're like, mom, please start.
Speaker 5: But like though, it's like, you know, nowadays people get
so like I'm triggered. It's like sometimes those triggers actually
help you become a better version of yourself.
Speaker 1: You know, if you're easily offended, this workout programs for you,
for you.
Speaker 4: Not for you.
Speaker 5: Yes, you need to be someone who's okay with getting
your caddy mouth and like crazy things coming out of
my mouth. Yes, one hundred percent. I am definitely not
for everybody at all, and I'm fine with that. Like
I am not like the clean girl esthetic like pilates.
Speaker 1: Go like that drinking diet.
Speaker 5: I'm drinking diet folk. I fucking hate every second of it.
So if you can relate to that, then you might
enjoy my.
Speaker 4: Class for sure.
Speaker 1: So we're going into we're rounding our way into the
new Year, which is crazy, and this is the busiest
time for you because everyone is like New Year, knew me.
Yeah yeah yeah, and yeah yeah yeah. That's how I
feel about it too. I gave up on New Year's
resolutions when I gave up on life, which is about
four years ago. But how I like want to know
how busy is it for you in the New Year,
and how do you get people to stick around or
is it just like if they don't have the will,
they're not going to do it.
Speaker 5: I mean, I it's I think for any fitness business
that New Year is the busiest time of year. Yes,
I think, but we do have like really good numbers
all year.
Speaker 4: And I think it's just because.
Speaker 5: Once you get a taste of the accountability and how
much of a difference it makes, because listen, the whole
thing is like you don't have to be perfect year round,
Like you're gonna have seasons where you do go really
fucking hardcore and you're nailing your macros, you're nailing everything
and you're changing dramatically. Yes, but not all seasons of
your life are like that. Sometimes everything is a fucking
shit show. Sometimes you go through an international divorce and
have to move across the world into under your couch,
which is where we're doing this podcast. Sometimes life is
throwing shit at you and it's like, but my still,
I woke up.
Speaker 1: This morning to you giving me creatine water. Yeah, and
Jeff Yeah.
Speaker 5: But like it's learning how to integrate taking care of
yourself no matter what the fuck is happening. So like,
you don't have to be perfect all the time. Last
week I got one workout in. Okay, Like I probably
did the least amount of workouts out of everyone in
my program last week. Okay, who gives shit, I'm a
fit lady. This week I'm gonna do four.
Speaker 4: It's all good.
Speaker 5: But like I think a lot of times when people
like aren't perfect, like they fall off, they're like, well,
fuck it, what's the fucking point? And then they give up,
and it's like, no, don't bench yourself, no matter what,
don't bench yourself. So like, even though I only got
one workout in last week, I got over ten thousand
steps every day. I nailed my macros. I would say
at a fucking eighty percent. I drank all my water,
I meditated every day. I was pretty good most of
the time. I wasn't great, but I was pretty good.
And and I didn't let myself feel like a failure
because I have now rebranded my identity. I'm a fit
lady now, so it's not like, oh, I fuck up
a workout and my workout isn't great and I'm a
fucking fat piece of shit and I fucked up and
I should just give up. What's the fucking point. It's like, no,
all right, I had a like rough week whatever, of
course I did. I just went through a crazy international
move divorce, like with an eighty pound dollar. Like I
just went through a lot. Everybody, it's a big okay,
actually really good. I got one workout in and we're
being honest, you know, and then you just keep it moving.
So like you know, yes, if you change your your
body will change dramatically if you do my program. The
proof is in the pudding. I mean you can look
at all the transformation pictures. Yeah, your bodies can change.
But the most important thing we do a lot of
mindset work. In my classic I force people to meet
mantras in class. Yes, they work and listen. I was
a fucking suicidal alcoholic, like overweight, broke waitress, like hate
og hater, like from Irish Italian, like, hey, it's so
easy for me to hate everything. And practicing mantras meditation
listening to Abraham Hicks that shit changed my brain. And
now people, and you know a lot of people are
at first when I'm doing mantras in class are like oh,
but it's kind of like the more stupid you think
it is, the more you need it, you know, And
the point is to rewire your brain and to like
brainwash yourself. So like I remember when I first started
doing mantras, I mean this was probably seven years ago,
probably right around the time I met you, and I
was on a very high dose of anti the highest
dose of antidepressants, and I had just done transcranial magnetic
stimulation for my depression because I the fucking psychiatrist gave
it to me for free because he was like this,
you got this is fine? I mean, yeah, that was
a mess that flight risk. Yeah, And I was like,
all right, well, if I'm not going to actually fucking
kill myself, because I actually don't have the fucking balls
to even kill myself then I need to figure something
out because if I'm going to stay here, I got
to be able to play this game. So I was like, well,
I'm doing the meds. I'm doing the fucking magnet to
the brain, like I have to go from every angle.
So I started listening to Abraham Hicks, which is very
fucking woo woo, and I have listened to it every
single morning since first thing when I wake up. And
then I started meditating, and then I started writing mantras
all over and putting them on post its and putting
them all over in my apartment, and I had a
whiteboard in front of my on top of my uh
sink in the kitchen, and I wrote miracles are happening
on the whiteboard and there were no fucking miracles happening
in my life, like it was a disaster. And I
made a deal with myself. Every time I passed that whiteboard,
I have to repeat that mantra three times out loud.
And I was like, this is so fucking stupid, but
I'm just gonna try it, because fuck it.
Speaker 4: At this point, I'll try anything. I don't care.
Speaker 5: So every time I saw it, and it was a
studio apartment, so I see the whiteboard all the time,
and I was like, miracles are happening, Miracles are happening,
Miracles are happening. I was like, this is like embarrassing,
but whatever. So one day I was like taking a
poop and I'm Brittany sure. I was also having a
cigarette taking boop, which is like one of the greatest
choice of life. Yeah, you haven't lived until you've smoked
and taken a shit at the same time as and and.
Speaker 3: I guess I haven't lived because I try it said that,
and so I was saying boop, and all of a sudden,
I had the thought, without seeing the whiteboard, miracles are happening,
which is money that I was.
Speaker 4: It was like a very good poop.
Speaker 5: But I realized in that moment, I was like, oh
my god, I just I just brainwashed myself because I
just had the thought miracles are happening without seeing it.
It just came into my head out of nowhere. And
that's when I was like, oh my god, this shit
fucking works, Like I just I did it.
Speaker 4: I brainwashed myself.
Speaker 5: So then I was like, Okay, there's something to this,
because that's really like at the end of the day,
It's like you're when you change your thoughts, that's how
you change.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: A belief is just the thought you think over and
over again.
Speaker 2: And when if you think I'm not saying miracles are
happening next time I'm.
Speaker 5: Taking he's like if I took one thing. Yeah, And
when you change your beliefs, that's when your three D
reality changes, you know.
Speaker 4: So it really is.
Speaker 5: Important to while you're getting fit to also work on
your mindset, because if you change your body but you
have not changed anything up here, you're going to go
right back to your old habits and you're going to
gain the weight back. You're gonna you have to start
identifying as a new person, you know, you have to
literally change your identity while you're changing your body, so
that you can hold on to the manifestation, like hold
on to the transformation and hold on to the manifestation
whatever you're calling in your life right now.
Speaker 1: So I just read something and I want to share
this with you. It said consistent exercise can cause the
brain to forget traumatic memories. Trauma doesn't just live in
the mind, it lives in the body, and the body
remembers everything. Regular exercise can help rewire emotional pathways and
soften old wounds. What's your experience been like with that?
Speaker 5: Well, you know, now I've people are really talking about
fashia all lot weight and that it's like quantum and
that fascia holds your Fascia is like the organ around
the muscle, and they're saying, it's like this electric electric
system that holds all your memories and holds all your emotions.
And I mean, listen, I do believe that. You know,
if you are not expressing your emotions or you know,
expressing how you feel, energy is not created or lost.
It doesn't just disappear. You're like holding onto it in
your body like you know. And I was just telling
you last night how like your body is talking to
you and you have to really learn, like you know.
In July, when I knew I needed to leave my marriage,
I started getting this really intense pain in my right
hip and it was like out of nowhere, and it
was like debilitating, like it was.
Speaker 4: It was really really killing me.
Speaker 5: And and I didn't know how I did it because
I didn't do it working out. It just kind of
came out of nowhere and it was in my right hip,
which is your masculine side. Your right side is your
masculine side, and your hip, which is like moving forward,
making decisions. And I remember thinking like it's because I
need to leave him. My body is like talking to me,
and I kept being like like I'm trying to stretch it.
I'm trying and nothing is working. And I remember thinking like,
I bet you anything, I fucking leave him and it
goes away.
Speaker 4: And that's exactly what happens.
Speaker 5: I left him in a week later the pain was
magically completely gone. So yeah, I mean, your body does
hold your emotions and it does hold memories, and I think,
you know, working out is kind of starting to work
out is kind of like the first like peeling the audience,
like the first layer, you know. But yeah, I mean, yeah,
we hold everything in our body.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the body keeps the scores a really great book
if you haven't read. Yeah, Okay, tell everyone where they
can follow you, where they can find you if they
want to start working out with you. I think we
have a discount code for.
Speaker 5: The show, so we're everything discount to my programs for
women only, but we're giving a ten percent discount to
your listeners for the January fifth Thought certification, which is
an eight week accountability program.
Speaker 4: So the discount code I believe.
Speaker 5: Is britt b R I T T all lower case.
But we can go to my You go to my
instagram at Stasha patwell s t A s I A
p A t W E l L or Stasia Patwell
dot com and there's all the information about my program there.
And if you want to just like try a free class,
you can go to my Instagram bio and we'll send
you one.
Speaker 1: Okay, amazing, Thank you so much for joining us. Thank
you so much for having me tactics. You want to
see what I'm running to in the.
Speaker 4: Okay, like, alright, see you, but you're no, I'm just
gonna move over you now.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, you guys, thank you so much
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