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<v Speaker 1>Right now, it is seventy five degrees sunny in Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually a beautiful day. It's not too hot, not

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<v Speaker 1>too called, it's sunshiny, light, breeze. I'm home alone, my

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<v Speaker 1>brother's at work, my mom's at her house. Uh, I

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<v Speaker 1>am doing some laundry for my mom, and I last

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<v Speaker 1>a little bits cause I'm leaving in a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>days for Indiana. So I'm kind of just getting some

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<v Speaker 1>last minute stuff done at my computer, doing some work.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's actually I'm feeling good today. My mother's birthdays

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of days ago, she turned sunny five. She

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<v Speaker 1>made it. No, you guys know it's been a rough

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<v Speaker 1>time period and she made it for the most part.

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<v Speaker 1>And well, well I talk to you guys about today

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<v Speaker 1>is well, actually I'm just gonna I'm just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a positive look. I know I've been. I don't always

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<v Speaker 1>give you guys a negative post or right then I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gona give you some positive and I want to. And

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<v Speaker 1>today it's basically I have I'm having a good moment.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's so important now I'm learning as I get older,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the moments we have to just have to grab

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<v Speaker 1>them and you live in them. You have to grab them,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's sometimes so hard to do that. But you

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<v Speaker 1>have so much coming out of you. I mentioned the

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<v Speaker 1>Sandwich generation a few weeks ago. Right, you have a

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<v Speaker 1>new name for it. I just baked out the name.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I like that. You have to find it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was watching TV and basically the same descriptions

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<v Speaker 1>sound generation, but now it's a different name. I can

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<v Speaker 1>look it up for you. Guys. While I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like like live, like live, and it's not live. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it's live. Okay, what is the name someone

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<v Speaker 1>in the Sandwich generation? Let's see, even tells me and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm mentioning the common terms. Okay, actually it's something Wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute, I got something totally different. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>this is hilarious. Okay, oh this is not what I

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<v Speaker 1>was Okay, I see. This is why life is wonderful.

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<v Speaker 1>You just just go along with what's going on and

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<v Speaker 1>something new may pop up. So I'm gonna print this out.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna read this to you. I was looking. I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking for the new name, and I'll type that

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<v Speaker 1>into But I'm gonna say to print this out. This

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<v Speaker 1>is hilarious. You don't know where life is gonna take you.

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<v Speaker 1>Like literally, I'm looking up and I'm finding out something new.

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<v Speaker 1>Right now, I'm saying, of course, it's taken forever to

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<v Speaker 1>to print. Technology is not our friends. Oh, here you go,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna print that out. Okay, what is the new

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<v Speaker 1>name used to be? Yeah? It's seriously as a name.

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<v Speaker 1>He said it. I'm like, they say, he tell me?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I say the name? They're giving me all kinds

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<v Speaker 1>of stuff. If that's not the name, dang it. May

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<v Speaker 1>I'll find it at some point. I'll see you guys know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not to that's my that's my printer. We nooises

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden, thank you. Okay, I know the name.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's what I found by accident. Where's a name

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<v Speaker 1>for someone in Santa generation sometimes in sanad generation is

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<v Speaker 1>typically referred to as sandwich caregiver or a sandwiched adult

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<v Speaker 1>using people in their forties to sixties as me, who

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<v Speaker 1>are simultaneously caring for aging parents or relatives who may

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<v Speaker 1>need help with health, financials, or daily living, and with

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<v Speaker 1>their own children, who may be minors in college or

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<v Speaker 1>so finished financially dependent. Go get that. But the terms

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<v Speaker 1>they brought up. I had no idea. Okay, Sandwich caregiver

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<v Speaker 1>a person who gives, who was cared for both a

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<v Speaker 1>parent and child at the same time. Sandwich generation entire

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<v Speaker 1>geographic group experiencing this dual responsibility at least two I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know club Sandwich generation, those caring for grandparents, parents,

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<v Speaker 1>and children three generations day. Then there's open face sandwich

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<v Speaker 1>that makes you laugh a humorous twist referring to seingal

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<v Speaker 1>adults supporting older relatives and adult siblings are dependents that

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<v Speaker 1>I like that open face sandwich. So yeah, that's something else,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it. Did not know that, but it's a name.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought, Okay, they're they're, they're, you know. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>funny because I have a friends who are millennials, and

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<v Speaker 1>some of them have older parents who are baby boomers,

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<v Speaker 1>like like my parents, so they're not yet exert parents.

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<v Speaker 1>They're they're they're like my parents, but they have them

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<v Speaker 1>later in life for whatever reason. And it's very interesting

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<v Speaker 1>listening to them because they're the millennials are fighting with

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<v Speaker 1>the boomers, cause boomers are very separate entity. They think differently,

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<v Speaker 1>whereas Gen xers, we're on our own but the ones

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<v Speaker 1>that we don't body. We're starting to get some backlash

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<v Speaker 1>from the gen Zers and some of the younger millennials,

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<v Speaker 1>but we're very much we're a whole separate entity. Folks.

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<v Speaker 1>You just you can't mess with us. That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>got through my bad. Uh. We don't really care about

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<v Speaker 1>anybody else, but we're like, we're handling our stuff, pre

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of it. That's what we were taught. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's just really interesting listening to my younger friends how

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<v Speaker 1>they deal with their older parents, cause it's different than

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<v Speaker 1>how I deal with my older parents. I have one

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<v Speaker 1>friend who I like, I say names protect the inns

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<v Speaker 1>of course, and them m might tell their business either,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's more about this person's reaction to me is

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<v Speaker 1>a little harsh to their parents and but and I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like they're so stuck in their own stuff. But see,

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<v Speaker 1>I was there at their age twenty years ago. I

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<v Speaker 1>was there. Everything was about me everything. You know, you

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<v Speaker 1>think you're being there for other people, you haven't. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you haven't learned that yet. But you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have any kids or anything. It's like you're very much

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<v Speaker 1>about you and what's happening to you, What you perceive

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<v Speaker 1>they are doing to you what you think they are

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<v Speaker 1>doing to you, that they takes your response to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Getting older. Being fifty plus, you started to learn I

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<v Speaker 1>get it now because now you're closer to that generation

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<v Speaker 1>than you are to the younger. It starts to flip

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<v Speaker 1>in some ways. But also you just see things clearer.

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<v Speaker 1>You go, Wow, you have some more life in you,

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<v Speaker 1>and you just learned some things that you think were

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<v Speaker 1>important in your thirties or not important our forties, not

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<v Speaker 1>important anymore, or not as important anymore. Reality shifts, thoughts shift,

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<v Speaker 1>so you start thinking differently. You're like, eh, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's like it's it's no, it's not the same. And

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<v Speaker 1>so with my mom when it comes to older pop

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, I'm able to be calmer and not

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<v Speaker 1>go off as much, to get angry as much, or

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<v Speaker 1>take it personally as much. And it to be a

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<v Speaker 1>while to get there, because when I first got back,

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<v Speaker 1>before I was taking care of them, my parents didn't

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<v Speaker 1>see my entrepreneurship as real. I think I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>they really saw it as anything that was like because

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't rich or whatever. It takes a while to

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<v Speaker 1>build a business and they just weren't they just weren't there.

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<v Speaker 1>They just they just weren't. They just weren't there. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>And it's they couldn't get there, So it's all about me?

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<v Speaker 1>Or are they just they're just they're just mean to

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<v Speaker 1>me and they don't do this. It's like, well, actually, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>at some level, yeah, you're right to be heard about stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's very much like not, that's not really it.

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<v Speaker 1>They just see things differently. She started to see things

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<v Speaker 1>through their eyes, through their limbs, going, they see things

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<v Speaker 1>just differently. It's not really they're not trying to offend you.

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<v Speaker 1>They're trying to understand. And then when he starts to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of lose it a bit. As you get older,

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<v Speaker 1>repeat themselves and stuff, you get to understand that's just

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<v Speaker 1>their brain going. They don't want to do that. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to beat themselves five times, I'm sure, and

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<v Speaker 1>things are getting jumbled, and that's what my mom. There's

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<v Speaker 1>times when I'm learning I can't have a regular conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with her. It's sad to me to be able to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it's me just listening and trying to decipher what

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<v Speaker 1>she's babbling on about. I hate to say that, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's really what it is. So like babble just talking

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<v Speaker 1>about all of this and then and I'm going okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and let me seem like I can get out of

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<v Speaker 1>that sentence that crazy talk somebody else she was there

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<v Speaker 1>and go okay. So yeah, it's a trip. You just

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<v Speaker 1>learn more stuff. So this is my younger friends. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't really offer suggestions today unless they ask me. I

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<v Speaker 1>just listen. So I know at that age I would listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't have listened. I was listening, tell you what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on. Life will go from there. So yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's a trip. Getting older has its advantage. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing positive. Getting older hasard advantages, and I'm learning also

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta protect myself on some level. And stuff's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>go down whether you are there or not. It's just life.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's that kids. It's a sixty plus where every Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>blank all of a sudden, new episodes. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 1>to the show. Sometimes we have video thanks on JILJ

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<v Speaker 1>Media on YouTube, but most of the audio and I

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<v Speaker 1>will talk to you next week.