Speaker 1: Right now, it is seventy five degrees sunny in Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: It's actually a beautiful day. It's not too hot, not
Speaker 1: too called, it's sunshiny, light, breeze. I'm home alone, my
Speaker 1: brother's at work, my mom's at her house. Uh, I
Speaker 1: am doing some laundry for my mom, and I last
Speaker 1: a little bits cause I'm leaving in a couple of
Speaker 1: days for Indiana. So I'm kind of just getting some
Speaker 1: last minute stuff done at my computer, doing some work.
Speaker 1: And it's actually I'm feeling good today. My mother's birthdays
Speaker 1: a couple of days ago, she turned sunny five. She
Speaker 1: made it. No, you guys know it's been a rough
Speaker 1: time period and she made it for the most part.
Speaker 1: And well, well I talk to you guys about today
Speaker 1: is well, actually I'm just gonna I'm just kind of
Speaker 1: a positive look. I know I've been. I don't always
Speaker 1: give you guys a negative post or right then I'm
Speaker 1: gona give you some positive and I want to. And
Speaker 1: today it's basically I have I'm having a good moment.
Speaker 1: And that's so important now I'm learning as I get older,
Speaker 1: it's the moments we have to just have to grab
Speaker 1: them and you live in them. You have to grab them,
Speaker 1: and it's sometimes so hard to do that. But you
Speaker 1: have so much coming out of you. I mentioned the
Speaker 1: Sandwich generation a few weeks ago. Right, you have a
Speaker 1: new name for it. I just baked out the name.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I like that. You have to find it.
Speaker 1: But I was watching TV and basically the same descriptions
Speaker 1: sound generation, but now it's a different name. I can
Speaker 1: look it up for you. Guys. While I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: like like live, like live, and it's not live. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's live. Okay, what is the name someone
Speaker 1: in the Sandwich generation? Let's see, even tells me and
Speaker 1: I'm mentioning the common terms. Okay, actually it's something Wait
Speaker 1: a minute, I got something totally different. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: this is hilarious. Okay, oh this is not what I
Speaker 1: was Okay, I see. This is why life is wonderful.
Speaker 1: You just just go along with what's going on and
Speaker 1: something new may pop up. So I'm gonna print this out.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this to you. I was looking. I
Speaker 1: was looking for the new name, and I'll type that
Speaker 1: into But I'm gonna say to print this out. This
Speaker 1: is hilarious. You don't know where life is gonna take you.
Speaker 1: Like literally, I'm looking up and I'm finding out something new.
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm saying, of course, it's taken forever to
Speaker 1: to print. Technology is not our friends. Oh, here you go,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna print that out. Okay, what is the new
Speaker 1: name used to be? Yeah? It's seriously as a name.
Speaker 1: He said it. I'm like, they say, he tell me?
Speaker 1: Did I say the name? They're giving me all kinds
Speaker 1: of stuff. If that's not the name, dang it. May
Speaker 1: I'll find it at some point. I'll see you guys know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not to that's my that's my printer. We nooises
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, thank you. Okay, I know the name.
Speaker 1: But here's what I found by accident. Where's a name
Speaker 1: for someone in Santa generation sometimes in sanad generation is
Speaker 1: typically referred to as sandwich caregiver or a sandwiched adult
Speaker 1: using people in their forties to sixties as me, who
Speaker 1: are simultaneously caring for aging parents or relatives who may
Speaker 1: need help with health, financials, or daily living, and with
Speaker 1: their own children, who may be minors in college or
Speaker 1: so finished financially dependent. Go get that. But the terms
Speaker 1: they brought up. I had no idea. Okay, Sandwich caregiver
Speaker 1: a person who gives, who was cared for both a
Speaker 1: parent and child at the same time. Sandwich generation entire
Speaker 1: geographic group experiencing this dual responsibility at least two I
Speaker 1: didn't know club Sandwich generation, those caring for grandparents, parents,
Speaker 1: and children three generations day. Then there's open face sandwich
Speaker 1: that makes you laugh a humorous twist referring to seingal
Speaker 1: adults supporting older relatives and adult siblings are dependents that
Speaker 1: I like that open face sandwich. So yeah, that's something else,
Speaker 1: isn't it. Did not know that, but it's a name.
Speaker 1: I thought, Okay, they're they're, they're, you know. And it's
Speaker 1: funny because I have a friends who are millennials, and
Speaker 1: some of them have older parents who are baby boomers,
Speaker 1: like like my parents, so they're not yet exert parents.
Speaker 1: They're they're they're like my parents, but they have them
Speaker 1: later in life for whatever reason. And it's very interesting
Speaker 1: listening to them because they're the millennials are fighting with
Speaker 1: the boomers, cause boomers are very separate entity. They think differently,
Speaker 1: whereas Gen xers, we're on our own but the ones
Speaker 1: that we don't body. We're starting to get some backlash
Speaker 1: from the gen Zers and some of the younger millennials,
Speaker 1: but we're very much we're a whole separate entity. Folks.
Speaker 1: You just you can't mess with us. That's why I
Speaker 1: got through my bad. Uh. We don't really care about
Speaker 1: anybody else, but we're like, we're handling our stuff, pre
Speaker 1: taking care of it. That's what we were taught. But
Speaker 1: it's just really interesting listening to my younger friends how
Speaker 1: they deal with their older parents, cause it's different than
Speaker 1: how I deal with my older parents. I have one
Speaker 1: friend who I like, I say names protect the inns
Speaker 1: of course, and them m might tell their business either,
Speaker 1: but it's more about this person's reaction to me is
Speaker 1: a little harsh to their parents and but and I
Speaker 1: feel like they're so stuck in their own stuff. But see,
Speaker 1: I was there at their age twenty years ago. I
Speaker 1: was there. Everything was about me everything. You know, you
Speaker 1: think you're being there for other people, you haven't. I
Speaker 1: feel like you haven't learned that yet. But you don't
Speaker 1: have any kids or anything. It's like you're very much
Speaker 1: about you and what's happening to you, What you perceive
Speaker 1: they are doing to you what you think they are
Speaker 1: doing to you, that they takes your response to them.
Speaker 1: Getting older. Being fifty plus, you started to learn I
Speaker 1: get it now because now you're closer to that generation
Speaker 1: than you are to the younger. It starts to flip
Speaker 1: in some ways. But also you just see things clearer.
Speaker 1: You go, Wow, you have some more life in you,
Speaker 1: and you just learned some things that you think were
Speaker 1: important in your thirties or not important our forties, not
Speaker 1: important anymore, or not as important anymore. Reality shifts, thoughts shift,
Speaker 1: so you start thinking differently. You're like, eh, I mean
Speaker 1: it's like it's it's no, it's not the same. And
Speaker 1: so with my mom when it comes to older pop
Speaker 1: in my life, I'm able to be calmer and not
Speaker 1: go off as much, to get angry as much, or
Speaker 1: take it personally as much. And it to be a
Speaker 1: while to get there, because when I first got back,
Speaker 1: before I was taking care of them, my parents didn't
Speaker 1: see my entrepreneurship as real. I think I don't think
Speaker 1: they really saw it as anything that was like because
Speaker 1: I wasn't rich or whatever. It takes a while to
Speaker 1: build a business and they just weren't they just weren't there.
Speaker 1: They just they just weren't. They just weren't there. Sorry,
Speaker 1: And it's they couldn't get there, So it's all about me?
Speaker 1: Or are they just they're just they're just mean to
Speaker 1: me and they don't do this. It's like, well, actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: at some level, yeah, you're right to be heard about stuff.
Speaker 1: And it's very much like not, that's not really it.
Speaker 1: They just see things differently. She started to see things
Speaker 1: through their eyes, through their limbs, going, they see things
Speaker 1: just differently. It's not really they're not trying to offend you.
Speaker 1: They're trying to understand. And then when he starts to
Speaker 1: kind of lose it a bit. As you get older,
Speaker 1: repeat themselves and stuff, you get to understand that's just
Speaker 1: their brain going. They don't want to do that. They
Speaker 1: don't want to beat themselves five times, I'm sure, and
Speaker 1: things are getting jumbled, and that's what my mom. There's
Speaker 1: times when I'm learning I can't have a regular conversation
Speaker 1: with her. It's sad to me to be able to talk.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's me just listening and trying to decipher what
Speaker 1: she's babbling on about. I hate to say that, but
Speaker 1: that's really what it is. So like babble just talking
Speaker 1: about all of this and then and I'm going okay,
Speaker 1: and let me seem like I can get out of
Speaker 1: that sentence that crazy talk somebody else she was there
Speaker 1: and go okay. So yeah, it's a trip. You just
Speaker 1: learn more stuff. So this is my younger friends. I
Speaker 1: don't really offer suggestions today unless they ask me. I
Speaker 1: just listen. So I know at that age I would listen.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have listened. I was listening, tell you what's
Speaker 1: going on. Life will go from there. So yeah, it's
Speaker 1: it's it's a trip. Getting older has its advantage. I'm
Speaker 1: doing positive. Getting older hasard advantages, and I'm learning also
Speaker 1: I gotta protect myself on some level. And stuff's gonna
Speaker 1: go down whether you are there or not. It's just life.
Speaker 1: So that's that kids. It's a sixty plus where every Tuesday,
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