Speaker 1: Who what's up, beautiful people? What is your baby mama
Speaker 1: favorite baby mama story? Peat and this is another episode
Speaker 1: of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective.
Speaker 1: Damn Son back at it again. Boom. Okay, guys, you
Speaker 1: know seven you did not I have to let out
Speaker 1: that big ass growl. Okay, but I come to you
Speaker 1: this week, guys, honest, open, and hopefully you will be understanding.
Speaker 1: All right. I have something to share with you, guys.
Speaker 1: And I really went back and forth about it if
Speaker 1: I was going to tell this story or not. And
Speaker 1: I know Shot is probably going to kill me. But
Speaker 1: I just got out of a six year relationship. I know.
Speaker 1: I know Shot is back. Dear Shot, can you even
Speaker 1: not on a mic diy here? Yeah, I just gotta
Speaker 1: have a six year relationship with my waxing technician. Yeah,
Speaker 1: with my waxing technician. I was so busy last than
Speaker 1: that Shot, I forgot to tell you how to joke.
Speaker 1: But with my waxing technician. So I've been going to
Speaker 1: the same person for six years to y'all, six years
Speaker 1: and my waxing technician moved to Florida, So like I
Speaker 1: kind of feel like I'm entering the whole. Like I
Speaker 1: don't want to say dating space because it's not a
Speaker 1: dating space, but essentially you gotta date to find a
Speaker 1: new waxing technician, because it's like, oh my god, right now,
Speaker 1: I gotta like open up and show somebody else my
Speaker 1: COOTI cait what this is crazy? I am not ready
Speaker 1: to open up and show somebody else my cootie cat like.
Speaker 1: And then it's like a vibe like I gotta find
Speaker 1: somebody who cut it the way I like, or who
Speaker 1: wax it the way I like. It's it's a thing
Speaker 1: for distance far distance relationship. No, I can't go to
Speaker 1: a waxing testation. Who lives in Florida? I cannot. I
Speaker 1: live in Philly. I'm all for making it work. I'm
Speaker 1: all for long distance relationships, but I can't make that
Speaker 1: won't work, okay, And it's really like, you know, starting
Speaker 1: to hold on for becuz it's like I gotta find
Speaker 1: somebody who wax it the way I like. Then I
Speaker 1: gotta make sure like the conversation is good, Like it's
Speaker 1: really scary.
Speaker 2: You gotta give them a minute because they might not.
Speaker 1: Exactly day. That's another thing. I'm not gonna hold you
Speaker 1: everybody can't wax dis grayed hair because I have like
Speaker 1: a very fine texture. So it's like you can't always
Speaker 1: pull the hard wax off. Sometimes you need to pull
Speaker 1: out the soft wax. Like it is the female equivalent
Speaker 1: of trying to find a new barber. Like it's hard
Speaker 1: out here for us. I don't know how y'all do it.
Speaker 1: I can't how do y'all just trust people willy nilly?
Speaker 1: And then it's like, we don't, that's why we're not
Speaker 1: getting married. And then it's like, well, where do you
Speaker 1: find like a new wax and technician? Like do you
Speaker 1: go by word of mouth? Do you go by Like why.
Speaker 2: Don't you ask him? Who? Oh?
Speaker 1: He did? He did recommend somebody. He did recommend somebody.
Speaker 1: But of course the timing didn't line up the way
Speaker 1: I wanted it to, So long story short, I finally
Speaker 1: went out and tried someone else. Okay, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: It looked like I had you back in the head
Speaker 1: like for a really long time, y'all, I was really
Speaker 1: shying weed out try. I forgot what I was gonna do.
Speaker 1: But I went out and just try somebody, y'all. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna hold you. If I wasn't gonna be in
Speaker 1: none before, I might be a none down because I
Speaker 1: just I can't I can't get comfortable with anybody else
Speaker 1: to show. And then it's like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: y'all know this, but every person doesn't wax the same.
Speaker 1: Like some people will tell you needs chess. Some people
Speaker 1: will start you with butterfly. Some people don't go all
Speaker 1: the way up and get the tail. Yet you know, no,
Speaker 1: you don't know. It's okay, don't worry about it. But
Speaker 1: long story short, I'm gone through something. Okay, I'm going
Speaker 1: through something, And if y'all see me a little bit
Speaker 1: on edge, it's because I'm handling it locked emotionally, okay.
Speaker 1: And yeah, if y'all got any tips or any suggestions,
Speaker 1: let me know. And then another thing is like, now
Speaker 1: that I am a little bit more popular, I really
Speaker 1: don't want everybody seeing my coode kit. I am struggling.
Speaker 1: And yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2: Every single day and every single time I give the
Speaker 2: nigga pep start about how she has starved, but they
Speaker 2: when it come to her cowter cat, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: You just don't know, okay. All right, So there's that
Speaker 1: all out aside, Let's get into some topic. Shaw also
Speaker 1: shout out the shot because I know his are still
Speaker 1: beating fans for ah yeah, man, Like I said, all
Speaker 1: of us side, let's get some topics. Okay, So, ladies
Speaker 1: and gentlemen, it is my favorite time of year. It's
Speaker 1: getting chilli outside, and you know what that means. Tis
Speaker 1: the season not to give them another chance. I'm not
Speaker 1: playing with y'all. No, no, no, no, no, no no oh.
Speaker 1: Y'all thought I was talking about fall. No, I'm talking
Speaker 1: about cuffing season. Boolove season. I'm talking about rap on,
Speaker 1: do the cover, snuggled up and watching movies. Don't do
Speaker 1: it with that person. Don't do what. You know who
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. And I'm not really trying to go
Speaker 1: back and forth with you because you know who I'm
Speaker 1: talking about. Remember that girl, You know that girl, Remember
Speaker 1: that girl who, like you, had so much fun with
Speaker 1: and she loved every time you came to help her
Speaker 1: out or lend her some money or take her on dates.
Speaker 1: But remember her. Yeah, but she didn't want a relationship.
Speaker 1: And I know, just because it's getting like chili outside,
Speaker 1: you'll be tempted to hit her up because she've been
Speaker 1: looking real good in her stories. Right, What you're not
Speaker 1: paying attention to is that she looks so good you're
Speaker 1: not even noticing it's somebody on the other side of
Speaker 1: that table. Every time she posts herself out at the restaurant. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: don't leave, shine, come back. And what you laughing at?
Speaker 1: Sis ain't nothing too funny? Because remember that guy who
Speaker 1: would lick you from the rooter to the cootter, but
Speaker 1: then would turn around and tell you that a relationship
Speaker 1: is just too much, that's too intimate. Remember him? Yeah,
Speaker 1: he still don't want a relationship. Don't hit him up.
Speaker 1: Don't hit him up. And when he hits you up,
Speaker 1: hit him with the same thing he gave you. That's
Speaker 1: just a little too much. I'm just trying to see
Speaker 1: where things go and have him go to health. Okay.
Speaker 1: I know that the coolest seasons sometimes causes us to
Speaker 1: fall back into old habits. And I don't know who
Speaker 1: needs to hear this, but baby, they ain't changed their mind.
Speaker 1: Okay they didn't. They've been to spin the block and
Speaker 1: play in your face, hit you with another drive by. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I know it's hard, and I know it's tough,
Speaker 1: and I know tis the season, but we ain't giving
Speaker 1: no second chances. Cut that out cut that out cut
Speaker 1: that out cut that out right.
Speaker 2: But like when you get your hoodie back.
Speaker 1: Baby, we're not giving no hoodies back. What are you
Speaker 1: talking now? You're not know? You a delusion because who
Speaker 1: getting a hoodie back? Nobody? If you think you're getting
Speaker 1: a hoodie back, you're in further than I thought you were.
Speaker 1: You really need to see kop because ain't nobody giving
Speaker 1: the hoodies back. That's that's that's the first and last point.
Speaker 1: And I hate, I hate. I can't stand seven what
Speaker 1: are you doing? I can't stand when you want certain
Speaker 1: things from certain people and I'll tell you, oh, it's
Speaker 1: not you, it's me. Y'all ever heard that before? I
Speaker 1: know you have, I know you have. It's not you
Speaker 1: with me. I'm not ready. I just got so much
Speaker 1: baggage going on. I got so much baggage. No, baby,
Speaker 1: you got so much bullshit, okay, because it's bullshit, bullshit
Speaker 1: because if I was the girl you wanted, or if
Speaker 1: you were the guy that she wanted, that won't even matter.
Speaker 1: That don't matter, baby, girl. Just sign this just like Jskie.
Speaker 1: That don't matter, baby, girl, just sign this. That don't
Speaker 1: even matter. It don't matter, It don't matter, right. And
Speaker 1: the crazy part about it is, I may be on
Speaker 1: my own when I say this, right, hear me out.
Speaker 1: Just give me a second, let me cook for a second,
Speaker 1: just just let it simmer, all right. I may be
Speaker 1: by myself when I say this, But I don't care
Speaker 1: if you have baggage. All I'm worried about is are
Speaker 1: you going to the gym to make sure you're strong
Speaker 1: enough to carry it?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: Hear me out right, If we're being honest, everybody in
Speaker 1: this world got baggage, all right. You might have a
Speaker 1: small little carry on, okay. You might have an oversized
Speaker 1: over fifty pound join that you got pay a little
Speaker 1: extra for, okay. Everybody had some form of baggage. Maybe
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't care if you have baggage.
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure you're going to the
Speaker 1: gym to make sure you're strong enough to carry it, okay,
Speaker 1: because maybe that's yours, that's not mine, it's not mine.
Speaker 1: I can't carry your baggage for you. No, I cannot, okay.
Speaker 1: And when I say, are you going to the gym
Speaker 1: to make sure you're strong enough to carry your baggage? Baby?
Speaker 1: Are you going to therapy? Okay? Are you going to
Speaker 1: the gym? Are you practicing self care? Are you working
Speaker 1: on you so that your baggage does not accidentally spill
Speaker 1: out onto me. Now, I got thongs and dirty socks
Speaker 1: and everything all, but that ain't mine. I ain't my baggage.
Speaker 1: That's not for me. Right, So I feel like a
Speaker 1: part of growing up, maturing and really saying I'm ready
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. I'm ready to be somebody's husband,
Speaker 1: be somebody's wife. It's like, yo, at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, everybody got a little baggage. It's it's not
Speaker 1: it's not unheard of like this. This is an honest,
Speaker 1: common thing like your baggage. May be you still haven't
Speaker 1: gotten over to death of your gold fish when you
Speaker 1: were seven. I know, I know, I know. Goldie went
Speaker 1: down to drain and I hate that for you. Okay,
Speaker 1: you might have something a little bit bigger than that.
Speaker 1: Your baby daddy ain't shit, and now you don't trust men.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know. But what are we
Speaker 1: doing to deal with these tragedies? What are we doing
Speaker 1: to deal with this trauma? Are you really working on yourself,
Speaker 1: cause like I can deal with whatever as long as
Speaker 1: you're dealing with whatever. Like I can assist to you, baby,
Speaker 1: I can't carry it for you. That's a little crazy.
Speaker 1: Hold on now, hold on, hold on, Carolina Cash says, yeah,
Speaker 1: but listen, some motherfuckers come with so much baggage you
Speaker 1: gotta charge him like Southwestern spirit. And you ain't lying
Speaker 1: and you ain't lying right. But here's the thing. Do
Speaker 1: you have the money to pay for the baggage? And
Speaker 1: I don't mean that monetarily like oh, like you got
Speaker 1: pay for me x Y and Z. I mean, like, bro,
Speaker 1: are you able to carry it? Like I understand that
Speaker 1: you have not dealt with the death of a parent.
Speaker 1: I understand that you have not dealt with your father
Speaker 1: not being in your life. That's cool, But what are
Speaker 1: you doing to get there? All right? Because it can't
Speaker 1: just be you know, I have abandonment issues, okay, and
Speaker 1: what are you doing to work on it? It can't
Speaker 1: just be like, you know, I have daddy issues, okay?
Speaker 1: And what are you doing for that? What are you
Speaker 1: doing about that? Because it can't be just telling me,
Speaker 1: mab You need to tell the lady, tell the parrapists.
Speaker 1: Don't just tell me, like, what are you doing to
Speaker 1: work on it other than contributing to the ever prevalent
Speaker 1: amount of piss in the daving pool. Okay, because not
Speaker 1: dealing with baggage from your childhood, from previous relationships, from friendships,
Speaker 1: because we're not gonna skip past friendships, like that's not
Speaker 1: a deal breaker. Breaking up with a friend or having
Speaker 1: a friend betray you you or abandon you is something
Speaker 1: that needs to be right up there with them daddy
Speaker 1: and parent issues because they are very important because now
Speaker 1: I'm paying for trust issues that I ain't really have
Speaker 1: no part of. Hold on a second like that, ain't
Speaker 1: got none of that mean, So I feel like when
Speaker 1: we're talking about all these things, it's like, like I said, man,
Speaker 1: are you are you seeking counseling, are you taking medication?
Speaker 1: Are you practicing self care?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: What are you doing to make sure you're able to
Speaker 1: carry the baggage? Because like I said, bro, like I'm
Speaker 1: I can assist you, but I can't carry it solely
Speaker 1: for you. And at the end of the day, you
Speaker 1: can't help nobody don't want to help themselves.
Speaker 2: So what's the is it empathize or sympathize.
Speaker 1: Empathize means I feel it. Yeah, Empathize means I feel bad.
Speaker 1: Sympathize means I feel bad for you if I'm not mistaken.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's a difference between empathize and sympathize. But
Speaker 1: you get what I'm saying. Hold on. Carolina Cash says,
Speaker 1: hell no, if they could afford the baggage, they would
Speaker 1: be on Delta comfort. Ah poo, pootopia, POOTOPI poppy, your
Speaker 1: name gonna be Poppy for the rest of the day.
Speaker 1: I don't know what that says. It says all my
Speaker 1: life I had to fight who is Kaiser says, it's
Speaker 1: all a loss, almost like dealing with the transition of
Speaker 1: a loved one. Caskie Jack says, empathy yeah, man, Like
Speaker 1: I said, like it is. It's the empathize verse sympathized conversation.
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, like like I
Speaker 1: said before, like I gotta help you, but I can't
Speaker 1: carry it for you. Next I say all that to
Speaker 1: gumes to my next point, right, And this is where
Speaker 1: I feel like the Internet place tricks on us. Okay, hey,
Speaker 1: stay strong, stay true. I feel like sometimes people have
Speaker 1: a hard time differentiating things that they see on social
Speaker 1: media and things that are happening in real life. And
Speaker 1: I know that sounds crazy to say, but there are
Speaker 1: certain people who believe that. And I'm gonna say men
Speaker 1: and women. There are certain people who believe that a
Speaker 1: majority of the nation and people in their age group
Speaker 1: are getting three hundred dollars spent on them on a
Speaker 1: first date. There are certain groups of people who believe
Speaker 1: that having the standard of I want a woman with
Speaker 1: no kids even though they have seven kids, they think
Speaker 1: that those those two people are compatible, right, right, right.
Speaker 1: And there are others others, like on the whole completely
Speaker 1: different spectrum, right. There are others who believe that you
Speaker 1: can treat people like shit okay, and still somehow deserve,
Speaker 1: maintain and keep a good partner. And I know, I know,
Speaker 1: I notice going sound crazy And some of y'all gonna like,
Speaker 1: what that don't make no fucking sense, Like you know,
Speaker 1: common sense ain't common, But you know, I digress. I
Speaker 1: say all that to say, I feel like I just
Speaker 1: want to set a few things straight because if you're
Speaker 1: believing any of those things that I just said, we
Speaker 1: need to have a conversation, okay, And regardless of where
Speaker 1: you fall on that spectrum. I feel like at some
Speaker 1: point we need to get back to being problematic, immature, narcissistic.
Speaker 1: That's easy. That's nothing. That's fucking nothing. Okay, being problematic, immature, narcissistic,
Speaker 1: it's easy. That is nothing. You know how easy it
Speaker 1: is to just go popping Nigga's tires because he ain't
Speaker 1: answering the bone? Okay? Do you know how easy it
Speaker 1: is to upload someone's intimate photos because they decided they
Speaker 1: didn't want to put up with your shit? No more?
Speaker 1: Do you know how easy it is to put somebody
Speaker 1: on blasts and put all their dirty laundry on al
Speaker 1: Gore's Internet simply because you two are having a riff.
Speaker 1: Being problematic, immature, narcissistic is easy. However, moving like an
Speaker 1: emotionally intelligent adult or baby, that's hard. That's hard. That
Speaker 1: is hard. Moving like an emotional intelligent adult hard hard.
Speaker 1: Like having the strength to look at a situation and
Speaker 1: say I was wrong, Oh my god, oh my god,
Speaker 1: having the strength to literally part your lips and I
Speaker 1: don't even got big lips, part your lips. I was wrong.
Speaker 1: I could have handled that better. I see where you're
Speaker 1: coming from. Baby, I don't think you understand the strength
Speaker 1: that takes. That takes. It takes zero effort to knock
Speaker 1: somebody windows out, It takes zero effort to knock somebody's
Speaker 1: tap out. If you're good enough, boy, okay, it is fun.
Speaker 1: But having to the strength to be like, yo, that
Speaker 1: was cool. Me what what? Having the courage to say
Speaker 1: you're right, I see where you're coming from. That's hard.
Speaker 1: That's hard. That's hard in today's society, especially because the
Speaker 1: chances of you getting that same respect back has become
Speaker 1: so slim, has become so slim, so much so that
Speaker 1: like self consciously, it'll have you doubting yourself, like when
Speaker 1: am I being stupid? Like do I have to be
Speaker 1: the bigger person? Because I know nine times out of ten,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna get it back. Like having the strength
Speaker 1: to still step out and be like, I don't really
Speaker 1: care what you do. I know I'm a good person
Speaker 1: and I know this is the right thing to do. Baby,
Speaker 1: that's not common nowadays. You can't get that from everybody.
Speaker 1: Everybody is not gonna grant you that same courtesy. So
Speaker 1: it's like when I say, being immature narcissistic problematic that
Speaker 1: is easy moving like an emotionally intelligent adult, and like
Speaker 1: having the courage to say, like, yeah, I can take accountability.
Speaker 1: I take accountability for that. That ain't for everybody. That
Speaker 1: ain't for everybody. And if you don't believe me, turn
Speaker 1: around and look at how many people have fallen out
Speaker 1: with other people And it could have all been prevented
Speaker 1: with just that one conversation. Yo, bo, were you right? Damn?
Speaker 1: I do owe you that money. That was wild of
Speaker 1: me to didn't take another shrip to Miami right after,
Speaker 1: Like small things like that, I'll pay you back, small
Speaker 1: things like I wanted to pay you back, but I
Speaker 1: didn't have the funds, so I chose to ignore you instead.
Speaker 1: That was wrong with me. I apologize. Let me make
Speaker 1: it right. You know how many friendships could have been
Speaker 1: saved with just that right there? At least one person
Speaker 1: you know, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure,
Speaker 1: Like it's really it's really harder than you think. Outfit says,
Speaker 1: we're all accountabilit He unlocks a whole new superpower. Come on, somebody,
Speaker 1: come on, yes, yes, put option Poppy says avengro level
Speaker 1: of strength you ain't never Lie who is Sauce, says,
Speaker 1: it's not hard. You just have to be ready and
Speaker 1: able to deal with the consequences. Baby, baby, Baby. There
Speaker 1: are people who haven't spoke to their siblings in decades
Speaker 1: because they weren't even able to have that conversation. So
Speaker 1: I can't say it's not hard, because in today's society
Speaker 1: it is because the chances of you getting that back
Speaker 1: it's not gonna be easy. Hey, hey, g not gonna
Speaker 1: be easy, right, And I feel like that a word
Speaker 1: that y'all know. I like to bring up that, you know,
Speaker 1: I like to bring up put option. Poppy says, took
Speaker 1: my ex seven years of radio silence to come out
Speaker 1: and apologize for what she's done. Exactly. Do you think
Speaker 1: theree and folks don't take accountabilities because of shame for
Speaker 1: their faults and having to reassess their entire life? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Like I wasn't joking when I said that shit takes strength.
Speaker 1: Like do you know how hard it is to look
Speaker 1: at yourself in particular and just be like, yeah, fucked up,
Speaker 1: I fucked up. But until you get to that point,
Speaker 1: you are not going to get better, not going to
Speaker 1: be better. Marquse g says me and my sister don't
Speaker 1: get along because she lacks accountability and stand on that
Speaker 1: boundary until she do, cause things will not get better
Speaker 1: until she do. I on my mom, they will not
Speaker 1: Outfit says On the contrary, accountability is for everybody. They
Speaker 1: flat out choose not to do that or tap into
Speaker 1: that because of a wild result they have in their mind.
Speaker 1: Hay sugarfoot. If you lack accountability, I think it comes
Speaker 1: from a few different places. But if you lack accountability
Speaker 1: to me, I honestly can't have you within a certain
Speaker 1: level of proximity to me, because accountability is very important,
Speaker 1: especially being an entrepreneur, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten something go wrong, it's gonna
Speaker 1: be your fault and could have been prevented. Like or
Speaker 1: if you can't acknowledge the part that you played in
Speaker 1: that or how you could have been counterproductive, like I don't,
Speaker 1: it's not gonna work for me. It's not gonna work
Speaker 1: for me. Shot by Delli Dell says society allows people
Speaker 1: to lack accountability and play victim. I hate society as
Speaker 1: a whole, like that's where we are, yes, But as
Speaker 1: far as interpersonal no, because you will find circles of people,
Speaker 1: usually successful, people who are fine with accountability. Usually marry
Speaker 1: people who are fine with accountability, because having that accountability
Speaker 1: and holding yourself and everybody else to a certain standard
Speaker 1: is how you maintain quality. Okay, maintain quality shot by
Speaker 1: Delhi Dell says. Some people never want to admit they
Speaker 1: are wrong. And that's the problem, absolutely right right. And
Speaker 1: not only are they not gonna admit they're wrong, they
Speaker 1: ain't gonna turn around play the victim. They then are
Speaker 1: going to turn around and play the victim. Never mind.
Speaker 1: I didn't study for that test, Okay. When I was
Speaker 1: on my way here, I missed the red light and
Speaker 1: it pushed my time back five minutes. And that's why
Speaker 1: I couldn't get into the class on time to properly
Speaker 1: prepare to look over my notes to study for the test.
Speaker 1: And that's why I failed it. Nigga, if you would
Speaker 1: have studied the day or two before, you would have
Speaker 1: been fine. But she shows not to You were standing
Speaker 1: on the couches in the club acting like a drug dealer. Remember, Nope,
Speaker 1: you don't remember that. That's not important. Oh that's not important.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, my bad, My bad because I thought
Speaker 1: they're being accountable, selling me, so selling me. And when
Speaker 1: we talk about accountability, I feel like no place lax
Speaker 1: it more war than all of our favorite places to visit. No,
Speaker 1: the dating pool, the dating pool, the dating bool. I
Speaker 1: feel like there is not a lesser resource of accountability
Speaker 1: than in the dating pool, because playing victim is way
Speaker 1: more fun. Right yeah, Because I feel like when we
Speaker 1: think about the worst date or the worst person that
Speaker 1: we've dated within the last three years, right, nine times
Speaker 1: out of ten, if you ask them what went wrong,
Speaker 1: they're not going to say themselves. They're gonna say something
Speaker 1: you did and something they reacted to, or they're gonna
Speaker 1: say that you chose to stand on a boundary that
Speaker 1: was completely understandable, but now that you chose to stand
Speaker 1: on it, you no longer served a purpose in her
Speaker 1: life anymore. So now they have a problem with it. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can't take advantage of me no more. That's not
Speaker 1: gonna work. Okay, Yeah, no, we'll need to talk no more.
Speaker 2: Nigga? What how right?
Speaker 1: I feel like if we're factoring accountability, right, have a tip,
Speaker 1: little tip, nothing too spicy, right, pro tip? If you
Speaker 1: think the dating pool has pissing it. Stop going to
Speaker 1: the community pool. Yeah, is that simple? Is that simple?
Speaker 1: If you think the dating pool has pissing it, stop
Speaker 1: going to the community pool. Right. Yeah, you know the
Speaker 1: community pool I'm talking about. Every city, state, country has one. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know exactly the community pool I'm talking about. You
Speaker 1: know the ones that just let anybody in. It'd be
Speaker 1: like guys in there with socks on in the pool. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the girls they be having any tracks and tampons floating
Speaker 1: all on the surface. It's you know, the community pool
Speaker 1: that I'm talking about. When you walk in, you smell
Speaker 1: a lot of chlorine, a lot of chlorine. Also, sidebar,
Speaker 1: did you know that when you go to a pool
Speaker 1: and you smell a bunch of chlorine, it's because it's
Speaker 1: a bunch of piss in the pool.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Google it. I'm not joking. Google it. If you go
Speaker 1: to a pool and you smell a bunch of chlorine,
Speaker 1: it's because it's a bunch of piss in it. It's
Speaker 1: the chlorine reacting with the piss. Yeah, I promise you
Speaker 1: google it.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: Listen to me. Listen to me. If you go to
Speaker 1: a pool and you smell a bunch of like urine.
Speaker 1: It's because the chlorine is reacting with the urine, and
Speaker 1: it's like, that's what the smell is. Shot by Delly
Speaker 1: Dell says, No, it's everywhere, not just a community pool.
Speaker 1: Because if there's something I don't know about I need
Speaker 1: to know. Thank you so much for saying that. Let
Speaker 1: me enlighten you. Right. What you need to do is
Speaker 1: start going to the like, you know, the pools they
Speaker 1: have better standards, better regulations, country club, gated community. Start
Speaker 1: going to those pools, you know, the pools that you
Speaker 1: gotta have wristband to get into, cheat hard lanyard something, Okay,
Speaker 1: Start going at those pools. Yeah. I really like the
Speaker 1: pools where you gotta have a risk band, and I
Speaker 1: feel like we should start having colors. Like you know
Speaker 1: some pools you go to, it's like, oh okay, cool people
Speaker 1: are here, are fine for chilling their advibes. Start going
Speaker 1: to the pools that require wrist bands, you know, like
Speaker 1: a therapy risk band. Yeah, are you in therapy? Do
Speaker 1: you see a therapist? Do you talk to somebody?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Does it go outside your group chat? Okay? Does it
Speaker 1: go outside of your SoundCloud raps? Okay? Do you talk
Speaker 1: to somebody that it's a yellow wristband. You got a
Speaker 1: yellow yellow rispand you got one. No, okay, you got red. Okay.
Speaker 1: That's the primary care physician risk band. Yup, that's the one. Okay.
Speaker 1: If you don't have a primary care physician risk band, baby,
Speaker 1: you don't have me. We can't talk, we can't speak,
Speaker 1: there's nothing to discuss, all right. You have to have
Speaker 1: a primary care physician risk band. All right. It's very important.
Speaker 1: It's very important. My favorite one would have to be
Speaker 1: the blue one. Okay. That's for emotional intelligence. Okay. Do
Speaker 1: you know when you're upset not to just shut down
Speaker 1: and not speak? Do you? Okay, that's the blue one.
Speaker 1: I need you to have that one. Okay. When when
Speaker 1: you're when you're upset, happy, or indifferent about something, do
Speaker 1: you know how to communicate it? All right? Because that's
Speaker 1: what I need to know. Do you have the emotional
Speaker 1: intelligence risk band? Okay? Stop saying the dating pool has
Speaker 1: pissing it and stop going to the community pool, baby,
Speaker 1: Stop going to the public pool. Okay. Find you a
Speaker 1: gated community, all right. Go to a place that has standards, boundaries, requirements, okay,
Speaker 1: because you're never going to be happy if you don't.
Speaker 1: And honestly, I'm not saying that you're automatically going to
Speaker 1: find your partner at these gated community pools. But you'll
Speaker 1: enjoy swimming a little bit more. I promise you that, Okay,
Speaker 1: not having to worry about if you're gonna come up
Speaker 1: with a band aid stuck on the back of your
Speaker 1: neck because somebody took one out of it. It's it's
Speaker 1: a little bit of comfort, Okay. I promise you'll enjoy
Speaker 1: your experience a lot more. Okay, Standards, you gotta have standards.
Speaker 1: The shame risk band. We need to shame wrisk band.
Speaker 1: We need the coof riskband. Okay, we need the financial
Speaker 1: stability risk band. All right, we need all of it.
Speaker 1: We need all of it. Okay, yes, yes, yes, absolutely,
Speaker 1: this is a legacy. Magic says. I hate when they say, well,
Speaker 1: people like what they like, but get mad every day
Speaker 1: messing with the same type of people. And this is
Speaker 1: what I mean. Right, And fellas, don't don't don't come
Speaker 1: for me, don't come for me. But I have I
Speaker 1: have a I have an honest question. Okay, I have
Speaker 1: an honest question. Right, how come or explain to me? Right?
Speaker 1: The process of when you're trying to impress a woman
Speaker 1: leading with your pockets and then turning around and calling
Speaker 1: her a gold digger because she expects the money that
Speaker 1: you were putting out when leading with your pockets. That
Speaker 1: make sense to y'all? Did that make sense to y'all?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: What? How does that take me down? That journey? Okay?
Speaker 1: Because I have seen multiple men when they are beginning
Speaker 1: to date someone whine and nine them right, and then
Speaker 1: get mad when the woman expects that same treatment throughout
Speaker 1: the course of their interactions. Right now, now, I want
Speaker 1: to say a few things. Hear me out hear me
Speaker 1: out right. There is a difference between getting to know
Speaker 1: somebody love bombing and tricking on somebody, all right, And
Speaker 1: I feel like, all, oh, I take that back. There's
Speaker 1: a difference between tricking on somebody and courting somebody, right.
Speaker 1: And there's also a difference between trying to impress someone
Speaker 1: with funds that you don't have access to on the
Speaker 1: regular and just wanting to enjoy yourself. Right, she'd being
Speaker 1: a fucking goofy goober. Okay, if you know your pockets
Speaker 1: don't extend to that duration on a constant rate, Why
Speaker 1: you're trying to spend money like you do. Is it
Speaker 1: because you think you don't deserve her and you're trying
Speaker 1: to impress her by overcompensating with your pockets? Is it
Speaker 1: because you think she doesn't really like you? Well, baby,
Speaker 1: if you are constantly spending money on her, she's gonna
Speaker 1: expect you to constantly spend money on her, because honestly,
Speaker 1: if you don't, Now, I feel like I've been betrayed.
Speaker 1: I'm confused. I'm confused. Markusg says, Also, I think that
Speaker 1: spending money you don't have is a foolish thing. Spending
Speaker 1: money you don't have makes you a goofy goober. Okay, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I have never understood the thought process of spending money
Speaker 1: that you don't have. Now, let's be clear, the problem
Speaker 1: is not overspending on women. I take that back. The
Speaker 1: problem is not spending a lot of women spending a
Speaker 1: lot of money on women. The problem is overspending because
Speaker 1: you don't have it like that. The problem is not
Speaker 1: spending money on women. The problem is overspending on women
Speaker 1: when you don't have it like that. Now, she's a
Speaker 1: gold digger. How how I have never understood.
Speaker 2: That you're spending money with the sole purpose of getting.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh my godshod yes. Or you feel like because
Speaker 1: you spend X amount of dollars off her, she owes
Speaker 1: you x amount of pussy.
Speaker 2: Same thing with women.
Speaker 1: What what what super weird? It is Workman nine zero
Speaker 1: one zero says The problem is just be honest with
Speaker 1: yourself and the other person. This is Lee says. Group
Speaker 1: on will solve the over spending problem. Maybe y'all be
Speaker 1: fucking sleeping on and maybe having the call and.
Speaker 2: Stuff on group Pine Stupid prizes Bro who is who is?
Speaker 1: Kaiser's All says I think there's an expectation of some
Speaker 1: sort of reciprocity. Speaking from recording perspective, At the end
Speaker 1: of the day, every man is going to spend money.
Speaker 1: The issue is due I feel use this is real.
Speaker 1: No man wants to feel like an atm and no
Speaker 1: woman wants to feel like a piece of meat. All right,
Speaker 1: So the key is just finding the balance between the two. Like,
Speaker 1: if you have somebody that is making you feel one
Speaker 1: way or the other, nine times out of ten, I
Speaker 1: don't care how fine they are, they just might not
Speaker 1: be a good fit for you. And having the the
Speaker 1: emotional intelligence stand up. Say yo, you find a ship,
Speaker 1: but you ain't for me. Good luck on your journey.
Speaker 1: That's cool, that's cool. Let's not waste no more time.
Speaker 1: That is fine with me. I don't want and I'm
Speaker 1: not going. I'm not gonna dig in your asstle too much.
Speaker 1: Paul's no, d I'm not gonna dig in your ass
Speaker 1: too much fellas. Right, But yes, we were going to
Speaker 1: discuss how is it that when you spend money or
Speaker 1: the girl is fine, but then when she expects the money,
Speaker 1: she's a gold digger. Yes, we tackle that, right, but
Speaker 1: I feel like we also have to discuss ladies. Is
Speaker 1: it that men only one set? Or is that all
Speaker 1: you have to offer? I know? Oh my god, I know,
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I darn it, I know. Here
Speaker 1: we go, let's get come on. I know this is
Speaker 1: a serious question.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: Is it that men only want sex? Or is that
Speaker 1: all you have to offer? I feel like this a
Speaker 1: good point or is that all that you've offered thus far? Right?
Speaker 1: And I know you're like to offer sex, so quick,
Speaker 1: listen to me when y'all have conversations? Are you actually
Speaker 1: the one being spicy when y'all met? Right? Were you
Speaker 1: in a provocative situation that caused him to feel like
Speaker 1: she might not be a good mother to my kids.
Speaker 1: It might be because she's dancing for dollars in the
Speaker 1: middle of this bar, but she isn't a stripper. Ah.
Speaker 1: You know what, I don't know if the way she's
Speaker 1: moving is equalities that I want in my wife.
Speaker 2: Are you going to survive the postal clarity?
Speaker 1: Ah? Yeah, yeah yeah. And and I feel like if
Speaker 1: you happen to meet a man and you are dressed
Speaker 1: like you were at the beach, but you are in
Speaker 1: the middle of a lounge right at yourself, is it
Speaker 1: that men only want sex? Or is that what you
Speaker 1: have offered thus far?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: If right, you happen to be a little bit more
Speaker 1: clever with your inn windows and he's just simply reciprocating
Speaker 1: the energy, Why then turn you know what, ladies hold on?
Speaker 1: Because this right here, I've actually had three of my
Speaker 1: male friends tell me about this this week, this week,
Speaker 1: which pisces me off. Right, So, say you an old
Speaker 1: boy talking and he makes a suggestion of the He
Speaker 1: makes some type of suggestion about you coming over to chill.
Speaker 1: You and old boy are talking. He says something about
Speaker 1: you coming over to chill and you agree right later
Speaker 1: on that night or maybe even at his house. You
Speaker 1: then turn around and say, yeah, well, I just feel
Speaker 1: like all you wanted sex, Like you didn't even offer
Speaker 1: to take me on a date or anything. Maybe you
Speaker 1: didn't require him to. No, y'all, don't see the disconnect there? Okay,
Speaker 1: why would he feel like he had to? Can we
Speaker 1: start there? Can we start there? Can we start there?
Speaker 1: Instead of saying you didn't, why did he feel comfortable
Speaker 1: enough to feel like he didn't have to? And before
Speaker 1: you say, oh, well, they only want to do what's
Speaker 1: worked for them in the past. Yeah, And when he
Speaker 1: said you say you want to come move and chewed
Speaker 1: chickle bub kitch you bub, you could have promptly said,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I would love to spend some time
Speaker 1: with you. I was actually thinking about trying out this
Speaker 1: new coffee shop, or like, hey, like, if you're down,
Speaker 1: it's actually a nice new trail that just opened up.
Speaker 1: I would love to take a walk for you this
Speaker 1: weekend if you have time, baby, baby, Why why why
Speaker 1: are we putting all of the responsibility on him and
Speaker 1: making it seem like it's all his fault and he's
Speaker 1: the only one who was trying to sletting you up.
Speaker 1: Is that really what's taking place? Or did you not
Speaker 1: set any boundary so he just came through with his
Speaker 1: You ain't give him no objection. I'm confused. And then
Speaker 1: you try to guilt the man and make it seem
Speaker 1: like it's his fault. You had ample opportunity to set
Speaker 1: what your boundaries were, you still went to his house.
Speaker 1: I'm confused. Marks says, Yeah, we know what women to
Speaker 1: try that on. I did not try I did not
Speaker 1: treat my queen that way. And I think that's a
Speaker 1: very good point. Men know who to pull that stuff on,
Speaker 1: all right, Because just like you will have a woman
Speaker 1: who say every guy that I want into he only
Speaker 1: wants to have sex, you'll run into another female who says, yo,
Speaker 1: every guy that I run into text me on a date.
Speaker 1: You see you see watch this, You see like men
Speaker 1: are only going to do what you allow. And I
Speaker 1: feel like, especially in the age of consent, men are
Speaker 1: only going to do what you allow. Why do people
Speaker 1: feel like they can play with you like that? Accountability?
Speaker 1: Do you have it like yes or no? Yes or no? Listen,
Speaker 1: there's that a word we're always running from and not ain'tal.
Speaker 1: It's accountability.
Speaker 2: Do you have that?
Speaker 1: Okay? Cause nine times out of the same you put
Speaker 1: option poppy says. Wax crying for the twelve says story
Speaker 1: speaking the fags, Juice one eleven says reality is communication
Speaker 1: is all messed up. Put option Poppy says, can you
Speaker 1: survive my post nut clarity? That's a bar. Don't encourage him, please, yeah,
Speaker 1: please do not encourage him.
Speaker 2: Up.
Speaker 1: So, now, ladies and gentlemen, we're gonna get into our
Speaker 1: edible portion of the show. So we actually did something
Speaker 1: different today. I didn't put up a prompt. But if
Speaker 1: y'all have a question that y'all wanna ask, just type
Speaker 1: it in the bar today we're gonna we're gonna run
Speaker 1: it like this. Yeah, it is what it is. Uh.
Speaker 1: But if you have a question and it's not on
Speaker 1: the day that we record, you can always email inquiries
Speaker 1: at stormypea dot com. Or if you have a story
Speaker 1: or something to shared us a little bit longer, you
Speaker 1: can just email inquiries at stormypea dot com. So why
Speaker 1: y'all gish our questions together? Earlier someone ahead asked, how's
Speaker 1: your dating life been? Bruh, I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Right,
Speaker 1: So I have made the effort to uphold boundaries and
Speaker 1: not go to community pools, not go to the public
Speaker 1: pool like we were talking about earlier. But if I'm
Speaker 1: being completely honest, right y'all, I have become like, and
Speaker 1: I feel like we talked about this before, that person
Speaker 1: who like is just sitting in the living room waiting
Speaker 1: for their future husband to break in and come find them.
Speaker 1: So for September, I have been gearing myself up and
Speaker 1: getting prepared to go outside if it doesn't include like
Speaker 1: supporting one of my friends business or me working, like
Speaker 1: actually going outside for me. Okay, And I haven't been
Speaker 1: drinking during a whole month. I haven't been like smoking.
Speaker 1: I've been like waking up early doing my devotion, and
Speaker 1: I've been really trying to get the strength to go outside, y'all,
Speaker 1: So stay tuned. I'm gonna try. And then when I
Speaker 1: say go outside, I mean like actually go outside. And
Speaker 1: I don't want to say look for somebody, but not
Speaker 1: be in my little corner hoping no one speaks to
Speaker 1: me beyond Hey, I know you're from Instagram. Hey, I
Speaker 1: listen to your podcast. So yeah, I'm gonna try. I'm trying, y'all,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try. This is Lacey said, Uh, your husband
Speaker 1: is at the Star Wars Academy. You know, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. All the guys over there are really great,
Speaker 1: but I've known all of them since about high school,
Speaker 1: so I doubt it. Maybe it's like one of their
Speaker 1: friends or something, but I doubt it. I really doubt it.
Speaker 1: Mark Kiz, you said her you was at Alyssa show. Hey,
Speaker 1: I missed you. It was so good too. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: let me scroll up. Every human is responsible for what
Speaker 1: they put out. Uh. I think that was probably going
Speaker 1: back to our previous conversation. Well, I'm gonna score back down,
Speaker 1: score back down. Give me a second, give me a second,
Speaker 1: give me a second. Ain't no rush. You move when
Speaker 1: you're comfortable. No, he's at Comic Con in La next week.
Speaker 1: Is Comic Con Ela next week. I look into that
Speaker 1: because I don't think. I don't think I knew that.
Speaker 1: I can see you're at the Jedi night why you know?
Speaker 1: And another thing right, I feel like another thing that
Speaker 1: aids me. And I Also, if y'all got questions, put
Speaker 1: them right here so I can read them before you
Speaker 1: go going. I feel like another thing that's been very
Speaker 1: interesting because we like family, we like cousins. I can
Speaker 1: tell y'all, right. Another thing that's been very interesting is
Speaker 1: to me, like I feel like once I stopped cosplaying
Speaker 1: as a bad bitch, I became so much happier, Like
Speaker 1: my life just became so much like lighter, if that
Speaker 1: makes sense. And when I say cosplaying as a Babbage,
Speaker 1: like I feel like I have gone to a mentally
Speaker 1: gifted or magnet school my whole life. Right, So I've
Speaker 1: literally been a nerd my whole life, but I haven't
Speaker 1: really I feel like it was kind of the same
Speaker 1: journey with my natural hair, Like feeling comfortable enough to
Speaker 1: wear my natural hair outside is equivalent to feeling comfortable
Speaker 1: enough to being a nerd in public, like and like
Speaker 1: sharing with my platform, like yo, bro, I do cosplay
Speaker 1: and I do fabricate, and I'm actually kind of good
Speaker 1: like or I am into Power Rangers heavy as fuck.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like once I took off my bad
Speaker 1: bitch mask and really started being myself, not only do
Speaker 1: I feel lighter, but maybe I just sade myself even
Speaker 1: more open for my husband to finding me. So yeah,
Speaker 1: We're gonna keep our fingers cross about that too. Put
Speaker 1: option Poppy says, what's your hoodie collection average these past
Speaker 1: few seasons? No, I'm not gonna lie. I actually was
Speaker 1: asking myself this the other day and I really sat
Speaker 1: down to reflect, like, Yo, do I want a boyfriend
Speaker 1: or do I just want more hoodies? And honestly, honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hold y'all. My hoodie collection is going
Speaker 1: down also because my son is twelve and we're like
Speaker 1: the same size now, so now he's still in my hoodies. Man,
Speaker 1: I know how y'all felt. Man, Man, I know how
Speaker 1: y'all felt, and I don't like it. I don't like
Speaker 1: it all right? Do you know the anguish I feel
Speaker 1: inside every time he walks bruh, every time he walks
Speaker 1: in my room with my hoodie on looking fire, the
Speaker 1: fit be fire. I'm like, bro, what are you doing? Man?
Speaker 1: I know howy'a feel. I'm sorry. I apologize, and from
Speaker 1: the bottom of my heart, if I have ever taken
Speaker 1: a hoodie from you, sure for you some draws from you.
Speaker 1: I apologize, man, Like I didn't know what it felt like,
Speaker 1: but I do now, and I don't like it. I
Speaker 1: don't like it.
Speaker 2: Sorry, you caught man.
Speaker 1: Karma, Karma karma. It is karma for sure. And like
Speaker 1: y'all know, I don't dress like a girl all the time.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'll be like comfy, this nigga be comfy too,
Speaker 1: And it's just stressing me out, stressing me out, stressing
Speaker 1: me out. I put option poppy s as I got
Speaker 1: my ship vaulted. I'm crying and thank you sinko, he said.
Speaker 1: The natural curls like great, though, I appreciate you. Hold on, y'all. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm scrolling up and down. Blurred seventeen O one says,
Speaker 1: what are the main traits you look for in a man? Uh?
Speaker 1: You know, honestly, if you thought I was gonna get
Speaker 1: up here and be one of those girls like yo,
Speaker 1: you gotta make six figures and you gotta drive this
Speaker 1: type of car, like bro, are you strong enough to
Speaker 1: carry my bag when I gotta go to these comic
Speaker 1: guns and events? Okay? Are you all right? Are you
Speaker 1: gonna love me when I come home sore? Because I
Speaker 1: actually got hit with one of the lfesabers? All right,
Speaker 1: like i'd be worried about some other stuff. Do we
Speaker 1: like each other. Let's start there. Do we like each other?
Speaker 1: Do we like hanging out with one another? Can we
Speaker 1: make each other laugh? All right? At the end of
Speaker 1: the day when we've had stressors from the left and right?
Speaker 1: Am I the first person you want to come home
Speaker 1: and talk to? That's what I want? Okay? Friends, bruh,
Speaker 1: not even trying to be funny. Can we be friends?
Speaker 1: Do you like me? For real? Like? Do you like me?
Speaker 1: Or do you like how I make you feel?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: It was good meeting you at arrange your station two
Speaker 1: blurred seventeen oh one, thank you King Scuba Uh probably says,
Speaker 1: don't give away the game? Workman nineteen, I mean not
Speaker 1: zero one? Zilla says yup. All right, guys, yeah, I
Speaker 1: feel like let's talk about what we learned today. Uh. First,
Speaker 1: I just got out a six year relationship with my
Speaker 1: waxing technician, and now I'm having a hard time trusting
Speaker 1: my cootie cat with anyone else. All Right, it's it's
Speaker 1: it's already started as a quite a journey to find,
Speaker 1: you know, my next technician. So there's that. Next, it's
Speaker 1: getting chili outside, and tis the season not to give
Speaker 1: them another chance? Okay, we are not going back and
Speaker 1: forth with what's the face and what's her name? Because
Speaker 1: you know what, they still don't want you. And I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be honest. Everybody gonna tell you that. Everybody gonna
Speaker 1: tell you that they like the perks that come with you,
Speaker 1: but they still don't want you. You want to know how,
Speaker 1: I know because they only came around because the temperature
Speaker 1: dropped a little bit. Okay, they was bored. The other
Speaker 1: person they really wanted started playing in their face, and
Speaker 1: now they came back to old, reliable. All these reasons,
Speaker 1: all these reasons.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: No, we're not letting nobody spend a block all right, No,
Speaker 1: especially not without proven improvement. Okay, have they showed have
Speaker 1: they showed you that they are genuinely interested in you? Now?
Speaker 1: Have they put for for effort? Have they listened to
Speaker 1: any of the things you said? No? All right, these
Speaker 1: want bump bellies and do the no pants stand? Stop playing?
Speaker 1: Stop playing, all right? Please? Next we talked about I
Speaker 1: don't really care if you come with baggage. I just
Speaker 1: want to make sure you're going to the gym to
Speaker 1: make sure you're strong enough to carry the baggage. What
Speaker 1: do I mean by that? All right? Going to the
Speaker 1: gym means are you going to therapy? Are you working
Speaker 1: on yourself? Okay? Are you practicing self care? All right?
Speaker 1: What are you doing to yourself? Or that sounded crazy?
Speaker 1: What are you doing for yourself to make sure you're
Speaker 1: capable of carry in your baggage? Being problematic, immature, narcissistic
Speaker 1: is easy. Moving like an emotionally intelligent adult is hard.
Speaker 1: All right. We talked about this. Popping somebody tires takes
Speaker 1: zero effort. Okay. Putting somebody bank card on out Gore's
Speaker 1: internet takes zero effort, all right. Having the courage to
Speaker 1: stand up and say to someone, you know what, I
Speaker 1: could have handled that better hard, okay. Having the accountability
Speaker 1: to say, I see where I could have handled things
Speaker 1: better hard Okay. Having the strength to say, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have this conversation with him, but they might
Speaker 1: not have a mature adult conversation back with me hard. Okay.
Speaker 1: All these things are hard, but it's worth it. Another
Speaker 1: pro tip. If you think the dating community has pissing
Speaker 1: the pool, it's probably because you're going to the community. Bull.
Speaker 1: All right, We're gonna start going to pools that have
Speaker 1: better standards bodes ones that you need a risk band
Speaker 1: and get into, like one for therapy, one for a
Speaker 1: primary care physician, one for emotional intelligence, financial stability, Like,
Speaker 1: what are the requirements to get into the pool that
Speaker 1: you're visiting? We need to talk about that. What are
Speaker 1: the requirements to get into the pool that you're visiting?
Speaker 1: All right, that's where you're going to enjoy your swim. Okay,
Speaker 1: make sure they have some because that's where you're going
Speaker 1: to enjoy your swim. And yeah, lastly we talked about
Speaker 1: you know, is it that men only won sex or
Speaker 1: is it all that you've been offering? And you know, ladies,
Speaker 1: I know, conversations like this always come off a little
Speaker 1: hornge because you jump, troll me and pick me. But
Speaker 1: I feel like some some type of accountability has to
Speaker 1: take place here, you know, like is that all that
Speaker 1: men have to offer? Or is that all that you made?
Speaker 1: It seem like was required, like you know, did did
Speaker 1: you did you did you make him take you on
Speaker 1: a date or for a walk or did you go
Speaker 1: to his house? Honestly, I feel like if you have
Speaker 1: to ask, if you have to ask, I won't say
Speaker 1: that because if women aren't requiring it then men aren't
Speaker 1: going to do it. So I'm not going to say that.
Speaker 1: I'm going to say, did you enforce that you wanted
Speaker 1: to go for a walk or go on a date,
Speaker 1: or did you go to his house for the first
Speaker 1: link like when he offered it, did you have a
Speaker 1: counter offer or did you just go? Because just going
Speaker 1: and then telling him that you feel like he only
Speaker 1: went up that's corny. That's kind of corny, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? So yeah and yeah, man, my message
Speaker 1: is always going to be the same. Follow me on
Speaker 1: the ground at stormy, p pea at chocolate chip and
Speaker 1: sip and if you don't remember anything else, please remember
Speaker 1: you need a risk band. I love you, guys, and
Speaker 1: I see you next week. Peace be