Speaker 1: This will be a little bit not dicey, but a
Speaker 1: little bit more not safer work version of the Minnesota Goodbye,
Speaker 1: which most of them are. But we're again, we never
Speaker 1: try to be like, I don't know, deliberately titillating. We
Speaker 1: never tried to be I don't know, like vulgar. Yes,
Speaker 1: I mean there's no fun like you know, sexual conversation
Speaker 1: and vulgar, and we don't want to be vulgar because
Speaker 1: you know, that's for another tab. But Jenny had written
Speaker 1: down a note that we were going to talk about sex,
Speaker 1: and what was it that inspired this?
Speaker 2: Do you remember if we had been talking just on
Speaker 2: the show about the ratio because we were joking about
Speaker 2: how it's like entering into arena and battling and stuff,
Speaker 2: because we were trying to keep it very PG when
Speaker 2: we talked about it on the show, and so we
Speaker 2: were talking about I think it said like the best
Speaker 2: amount of time was like fifteen minutes for basically for play,
Speaker 2: fifteen minutes of actual like probably penetrative sex of source
Speaker 2: if you're in a heterosexual relationship, and then five minutes
Speaker 2: of like cuddling or something afterwards.
Speaker 1: What about the pegging? How much? How much time has
Speaker 1: spent on part of the that's part of the fife
Speaker 1: very important.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So I was saying that I think that
Speaker 2: it should be a little bit higher on the ratio
Speaker 2: of the four play part versus penetration, because I just
Speaker 2: think that a lot of guys think that jabbing their
Speaker 2: dick inside a girl wow, just how you get someone off,
Speaker 2: and that's not how it works. I'm sure there's some
Speaker 2: girls who will say differently, and that's great, and I
Speaker 2: love that for you.
Speaker 3: I feel like those are the minority, though.
Speaker 2: Yes, but I think that there should be more on
Speaker 2: the four play side of things if you care about
Speaker 2: a girl getting off.
Speaker 1: I read I'm going to tell you when I was
Speaker 1: probably about eighteen or so, probably still a virgin, I
Speaker 1: read an article I'll never forget it at a radio
Speaker 1: station that said women still enjoy sex even if they
Speaker 1: don't have an orgasm, and that's stuck in my mind
Speaker 1: for many years, many years, and I thought, Okay, if
Speaker 1: I have sex, I don't need to try to make
Speaker 1: her have an orgasm because she doesn't care. She will
Speaker 1: enjoy it anyway. And then I realized, oh, they actually
Speaker 1: do enjoy it more if they do you'll.
Speaker 3: Still enjoy it, but yeah, it's not as enjoyable.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think that I learned because you know,
Speaker 1: when you're young and inexperienced as a guy, you don't
Speaker 1: really know what to do to help her achieve that moment,
Speaker 1: and so you know, you're trying different things and maybe
Speaker 1: you're doing it wrong, or you're not trying it long enough,
Speaker 1: or you maybe you rushed into it or something. I
Speaker 1: think a lot of guys think if they go harder,
Speaker 1: that's going to feel better. And I learned somewhere that said,
Speaker 1: if she's enjoying it, don't stop going. Don't start going
Speaker 1: faster or harder, because she likes it the way it is.
Speaker 1: So she's like basically conveying to you, this is working,
Speaker 1: this is working. And that's what I think a woman
Speaker 1: should say. This is working, this is working, this is working.
Speaker 1: And then you start going, oh yeah, then faster, faster, harder, harder,
Speaker 1: and it's like no, because she liked it the way
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's no. It's like such a common theme with men,
Speaker 2: like they think like, let's go faster. Whatever they might
Speaker 2: be doing, let's go faster now, whether they're using hands
Speaker 2: or they're using something else like it's like, no, it
Speaker 2: was so good what you were just doing, like so,
Speaker 2: but I will put it on like cause I feel
Speaker 2: like my younger years of sex was very much like
Speaker 2: my faults to an extent, because I just didn't express
Speaker 2: what I wanted to be fair for a while, I
Speaker 2: didn't understand what I wanted. Yeah, but I do think
Speaker 2: it is on women to let people know like if
Speaker 2: something's good or not, and to fake an orgasm here
Speaker 2: and there. I can understand, but if you're like constantly
Speaker 2: doing that, then your partner's never gonna know what you like.
Speaker 1: Well, didn't we all agree a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 1: or months ago that women will fake it because it's
Speaker 1: like I just wanted to be done, just like, okay,
Speaker 1: stop pounding away. Stop you're getting sore, so just stop.
Speaker 1: So they'll be like oh oh, oh oh oh, and
Speaker 1: he'll be like, yeah, look what I did. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it's very interesting. I still hear from people
Speaker 1: that are my age that are married to a guy
Speaker 1: for thirty years and his idea of sex will be
Speaker 1: to roll on top of her, do his thing and
Speaker 1: then roll off. That sounds awful and it's like, what
Speaker 1: do you what kind of guy thinks that's.
Speaker 3: What is this? Nineteen forty two? Come on?
Speaker 1: But yeah, we've evolved and she doesn't even want to
Speaker 1: do because it's just so bad. Yeah, that is that
Speaker 1: kind of cover everything.
Speaker 2: I think, as far as we know, I would say, like,
Speaker 2: have you ever seen the show? Tell me lies? No, Okay,
Speaker 2: I just started watching it. It's on Hulu. It's got
Speaker 2: the second season out, but I just started the first
Speaker 2: and episode four is literally like the definition of I
Speaker 2: think so many women's experience with sex right away, because
Speaker 2: it is it's that like ripping your clothes off and
Speaker 2: like getting right to the act, and like the guy
Speaker 2: like getting off really easily, and then the girl you
Speaker 2: can literally see it in her face. And I know
Speaker 2: I've had that look in my face before, like oh yeah,
Speaker 2: and I pretend like I like this, but like this
Speaker 2: is fucking miserable to me. And so there's just like,
Speaker 2: if you want to know what some women look like
Speaker 2: and feel like from having just crazy penetrative sex and
Speaker 2: not enjoying it, watch that episode.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting to me. I think that, like, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't want to sit here and talk about sex.
Speaker 1: The whole podcast. But I think it's so interesting because
Speaker 1: it is like the spicy food scale. Some people think
Speaker 1: that ketchup is spicy. Some people can eat ghost peppers like,
Speaker 1: you know, like for a snack. And I think that
Speaker 1: sex is kind of the same way. There are people
Speaker 1: who are like, oh my gosh, I want the lights
Speaker 1: off and I want the same way and this since
Speaker 1: we're very very quiet and you know whatever. And then
Speaker 1: there are other people who bring in like a videographer.
Speaker 3: And they're photography happening.
Speaker 1: Right chocolate fountain, and they bring in a llama and
Speaker 1: they're bringing in all kinds of fun stuff. And I
Speaker 1: think that you never know when you look at somebody
Speaker 1: where on the scale they fall, because people will surprise you.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you'll get somebody and to think that they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: they think ketchup is spicy, And then they come in
Speaker 1: and they're wearing a rubber mask and they got a mace.
Speaker 1: A mace, which you look it up, a mace is
Speaker 1: a steel ball with spikes in it. Yeah, yeah, you
Speaker 1: never know. Wow, Okay, let's move on. This is from Cookie.
Speaker 1: Cookie's a big supporter of the show, and she writes
Speaker 1: in she never writes in, but she does, and she
Speaker 1: writes in she says, I want to say thank you
Speaker 1: for all the pieces of wisdom often expressed during the
Speaker 1: Morning show and here on the Minnesota Goodbye. I believe
Speaker 1: you help people learn how to behave appropriately and move
Speaker 1: about successfully in the world. We all can use a
Speaker 1: little help in that regard. Here's an example. Recently on
Speaker 1: the Minnesota Goodbye, Bailey was discussing the work ethics have
Speaker 1: sung young people that she worked with at the Renaissance Festival.
Speaker 1: Dave added how important a good work ethic is, and
Speaker 1: by having a good one you will shine above the rest.
Speaker 1: I have always tried to convey the importance of this
Speaker 1: to a young family member who is approaching their teenage
Speaker 1: years and needs a lot of improvement in that department.
Speaker 1: I played that conversation to them and it finally sunk in.
Speaker 1: You all did a great job explaining the true meaning
Speaker 1: to the concept, how it affects yourself and others, and
Speaker 1: how and why we should do better. I'm sure I'm
Speaker 1: not the only one with an example like that. I'd
Speaker 1: love to invite other listeners to write in and give
Speaker 1: examples of how your show or podcast has personally helped
Speaker 1: them learn a social behavioral life improvement. Thank you. You're
Speaker 1: doing a public service. Keep up the good work from Cookie.
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize we're doing a public service. And
Speaker 1: we tell stories and then sometimes you learn from things
Speaker 1: that we've learned. Yeah, you know, like I always like
Speaker 1: say stop at lemonade stands, and it's one of my
Speaker 1: favorites because it's simple to do and it just makes
Speaker 1: their day. So yeah, thank you Cookie. If you have
Speaker 1: anything that you want to write in that you learned
Speaker 1: on the Minnesota Goodbye, that would be awesome. Next one, Hello,
Speaker 1: My wonderfuls. This is Mike, also a big supporter of
Speaker 1: the show. I have to ask, has tacked consideration of
Speaker 1: others gone out the window at twenty somethings? Or am
Speaker 1: I just old? Went to dinner at a pizza place
Speaker 1: over the weekend and Mike is probably fifty five ish.
Speaker 1: A couple in their twenties sat at a booth across
Speaker 1: from us and watched videos on a phone with the
Speaker 1: volume up loud enough that I could hear it from
Speaker 1: ten feet away. Am I just old? Discussed love y'all?
Speaker 1: Discussed not discussed love y'all? Right? Who wants to take
Speaker 1: this one.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think kids are immature. I think even twenty year
Speaker 2: olds are immature, and sometimes they just don't realize it.
Speaker 2: I have always been very self aware of my surroundings,
Speaker 2: so I can't imagine that I would have done that
Speaker 2: in my twenties. But I also don't think I grew
Speaker 2: up in the era of sure phones as much as
Speaker 2: these people now are, so I don't know what they're
Speaker 2: used to doing.
Speaker 3: I mean, I would say you could say it about anybody, though,
Speaker 3: Like if somebody doesn't have any social awareness about like
Speaker 3: what they're doing in a public place, that's at any age,
Speaker 3: honestly that I mean. I've overheard people have loud conversations
Speaker 3: stand in the middle of the road or like in
Speaker 3: the middle of the walkway without a care in the world,
Speaker 3: or et cetera, et cetera, and they're all different ages.
Speaker 3: So just true they're twenty, I mean they it might
Speaker 3: be more annoying because they're twenty and you're like kids
Speaker 3: these days, which is also something I do all the time.
Speaker 3: But I've had plenty of annoying people of all ages.
Speaker 1: Well, I think that is it become a norm. In
Speaker 1: other words, I'll give you one that was not a
Speaker 1: norm when I was a kid, and that is swearing
Speaker 1: in public around anybody. Oh yeah, And I hear it
Speaker 1: all the time. Oh fuck you, dude, fuck this. Oh
Speaker 1: you're fucking pieces. Fuck you.
Speaker 3: Yes, I hate that.
Speaker 1: I hear it all the time. When I was hiking
Speaker 1: up Pike's Peak, there was a group of probably twenty
Speaker 1: year old twenty ones and I would pass them and
Speaker 1: they would pass me and they'd be like, fuck you
Speaker 1: in the ass, Oh fuck you, you're a bitch. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're around strangers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, strangers, and there could be children somewhere, and.
Speaker 1: It's and just openly. But when I was a child,
Speaker 1: you just did not do that. So I wonder if
Speaker 1: it's become acceptable to do that for some people, just
Speaker 1: like it's become acceptable to maybe watch YouTube videos with
Speaker 1: your volume up. Yeah, doesn't mean that it's right, It
Speaker 1: just means that's kind of the new norm.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I hope it's not with like swearing and stuff.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, because you and I wouldn't do it. No, you
Speaker 1: and I would not be like, you know, in line
Speaker 1: of McDonald's and be like, yeah, this fucking bitch over here,
Speaker 1: you know, we would not yeah, fuck you. We would not.
Speaker 2: Like to swear. Oh yeah, absolutely love to drop someth
Speaker 2: bombs here and there. But I've definitely grown out of
Speaker 2: like my heavy swearing phase of life, which was probably
Speaker 2: in my twenties, and I don't think I was doing
Speaker 2: that out in public. I probably swore out in public,
Speaker 2: but not like constantly like we.
Speaker 1: Are other people. Yeah, I will say I agree with Bailey.
Speaker 1: It's an all age thing because when my favorite recent
Speaker 1: stories was Buffalo Wild Wings a couple of weeks ago,
Speaker 1: were at the bar. There's a guy my age. He's
Speaker 1: got his speaker phone sitting on the counter so he
Speaker 1: can eat and get his fingers dirty, and he's yelling
Speaker 1: into his speakerphone and we're all looking at even the
Speaker 1: guy next to me. I look at him, and he
Speaker 1: kind of like gives me a look like you fucking
Speaker 1: tell me what's up? Oh all right? Next one, This
Speaker 1: is from our buddy Aaron in Plymouth, and he's always
Speaker 1: funny because Aaron is the one who says like on
Speaker 1: favorite musical moments high This is Aaron from Plymouth, home
Speaker 1: of the blah blah blah and blah blah blah and
Speaker 1: He's always very funny and very dry. He says. I
Speaker 1: stumbled upon the fact that there are now automatically generated
Speaker 1: transcripts for the Minnesota Goodbye in the iHeart.
Speaker 3: App Yes, I've seen those. Yeah, there're sometimes accurate. They're
Speaker 3: not always accurate.
Speaker 1: That's the thing about transcripts. They're a little bit off. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he says. I can't say I have a use for him,
Speaker 1: but they're there. Maybe they'll come in handy. But he
Speaker 1: what he wants to file a lawsuit for something that
Speaker 1: was said Aaron in Plymouth, and he asked for a
Speaker 1: staff Rider sticker, and Secretary Brie will send you one.
Speaker 1: I took Secretary Brie flying the other day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I saw pictures.
Speaker 1: It was kind of fun because Secretary Brie mails out
Speaker 1: the staff Rider stickers and she lives in Buffalo, and
Speaker 1: she said, I've run out of stickers. I said, well,
Speaker 1: I'll mail you some. And then I thought I will
Speaker 1: fly some to you, because I can fly up to Buffalo,
Speaker 1: and I get my airplane and I fly up to
Speaker 1: the Buffalo and it's a beautiful flight over Minnetonka Lake
Speaker 1: and it takes twenty minutes to fly up there. So
Speaker 1: I said would you like to go flying? I can
Speaker 1: land and you can meet me at the airport and
Speaker 1: I'll take you flying. That'd be great. So her and
Speaker 1: her husband came by and took her up flying. We
Speaker 1: flew over their house because you know, when you go flying,
Speaker 1: you have to fly over your house. That's kind of
Speaker 1: the rule. Yeah, and she's just charming and she's just funny.
Speaker 1: Did you know she's six foot two?
Speaker 3: Yes, she's very tall.
Speaker 1: I forgot how tall.
Speaker 3: She was, very very tall.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So don't worry, Aaron, we will get one
Speaker 1: to you.
Speaker 3: I met somebody at the renfest who you also took
Speaker 3: flying once. His name is Dan, and he said you
Speaker 3: took him flying like four years yars ago. It's like
Speaker 3: a good looking guy, probably like I don't know fifty.
Speaker 3: He was nice.
Speaker 1: Yes, he won it in an auction. I believe he
Speaker 1: won it in an auction for like the chan Hassen
Speaker 1: High School Boosters or something.
Speaker 3: No other really, him and his friend flying. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: met him at the Renaissance Hou.
Speaker 1: So I don't really do that very often anymore, because
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you, it's become a little bit
Speaker 1: awkward to take strangers flying. Sure, you know, we love
Speaker 1: meeting people at you know, the state fair or at
Speaker 1: a party, but you know, it's it's just become a
Speaker 1: little bit awkward. And I don't like being responsible for
Speaker 1: the lives of strangers. I really really don't. Flying is
Speaker 1: so it's so so safe, but I don't like the
Speaker 1: idea that you know, Bree is kind of like an
Speaker 1: acquaintance friend. So that's fine. Yeah, but I used to
Speaker 1: get asked all the time, hey, will you donate a
Speaker 1: flight for this charity? Auction number one? It never sells
Speaker 1: for what it's worth. It's worth about two hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty dollars in fuel and rental time, and it usually
Speaker 1: sells for like seventy five bucks. It's like, shit, no.
Speaker 1: And then I meet somebody who it's like they're wonder
Speaker 1: charming people. But I don't like being responsible for strangers' lives. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so you mean I would take flying.
Speaker 3: I want to go once the fall colors are fall coloring.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it. Yeah, next one. We've got some
Speaker 1: a variety of different ones here, let's try this one.
Speaker 1: I wanted to chime in on the Frosty discussion from Friday.
Speaker 1: I think Vanilla is a better flavor for a frosty
Speaker 1: than chocolate. However, chocolate is the primary flavor. What is it?
Speaker 1: There was a story about this and you and Vont
Speaker 1: were arguing about whether a frosty is by default chocolate.
Speaker 3: Right. It was just during Monster's the Pot, and it
Speaker 3: wasn't actually what Fonster's the Pot was about, but it
Speaker 3: turned into it and he said, Oh, a frosty is
Speaker 3: vanilla chocolate or strawberry. That's a frosty. But originally a
Speaker 3: frosty was chocolate. So if you go to Wendy's and
Speaker 3: you say I want a frosty and they say what
Speaker 3: kind of You're like, oh, I don't know, I'm ordering
Speaker 3: it for someone else. They're going to assume a chocolate
Speaker 3: chocolate because that's the original flavor.
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever had one in my life.
Speaker 3: You've never had a I don't like sweet God, they're
Speaker 3: so good. They're so good.
Speaker 1: They must be because they are you knows what they are.
Speaker 2: Just ice cream.
Speaker 1: It's like a milkshake.
Speaker 3: There's like crack in it. It's so good.
Speaker 2: They're so milchshake. So that's probably why I've never had one.
Speaker 3: But it's not like soupy. It's like creamy like ice cream.
Speaker 3: Is like more like ice cream. It's so good.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna try to zip through this one because
Speaker 1: I really like it. Katie writes, in the course of
Speaker 1: a day, while talking to my husband, I find myself
Speaker 1: and advertently referring to things I heard on your show
Speaker 1: Morning Show in Minnesota, Goodbye. I listened to all the
Speaker 1: podcasts every day because of the aforementioned references to your show.
Speaker 1: My husband reaction when I mentioned Dave Ryan or any
Speaker 1: of your names is are dramatic and exasperated. Head tilted back,
Speaker 1: eyes closed for about one point seven seconds one point
Speaker 1: seven six seconds, display a frustration. So it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: good last night. Beginning to decorate for fall in or
Speaker 1: living room, my husband said, is it even fall yet? To,
Speaker 1: of course, which my reply was an explanation about vont
Speaker 1: having the same issue with his girlfriend. He goes, Oh God,
Speaker 1: why are you going to start every conversation with the
Speaker 1: depths of hell by mentioning the Dave Ryan Show? Do
Speaker 1: they even care about your little fragile existence over at
Speaker 1: KATWB six, Yes, he said, KDW six, although I gave
Speaker 1: him half a pass since he didn't grow up here,
Speaker 1: but he's been in Minnesota for sixteen years, so it's like,
Speaker 1: come on, I think that's funny kd W six. But
Speaker 1: as a P one listener, I know that all of
Speaker 1: you over at kt KDW six do care about my
Speaker 1: existence as I care about and treasure yours. I just
Speaker 1: thought you'd like to know that conversations about anything. Dave
Speaker 1: lurk in the depths of hell. Love you guys, A dart,
Speaker 1: a lick and an All right, that's from Katie. Thanks Katie,
Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you. We got a lot of
Speaker 1: emails we did not get to, but I still want
Speaker 1: to hear yours. So send me an email, get a
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