WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:05.000 Sorry. Right as we were getting ready to start the show, 2 00:00:05.040 --> 00:00:06.919 something drops. It was that which one of you two? 3 00:00:06.960 --> 00:00:07.960 Is that? 4 00:00:08.080 --> 00:00:11.359 Okay, there you go. It is Arena. Hey, everybody, it 5 00:00:11.400 --> 00:00:16.519 is Relationships Is a Bitch. Mike here with aj and 6 00:00:16.920 --> 00:00:24.679 our guru Arena for episode thirty six. Guys three six 7 00:00:24.839 --> 00:00:27.960 coming to you right before fourth of July and actually 8 00:00:28.039 --> 00:00:32.439 two days after you got our last episode. So we're 9 00:00:32.560 --> 00:00:36.320 rapid fire this week with lots of big stuff going on. 10 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:40.799 Don't forget. Like always, Relationships Is a Bitch is brought 11 00:00:40.840 --> 00:00:44.039 to you by the Gemini near Me app powered by 12 00:00:44.320 --> 00:00:47.439 Arena AI. And Arena AI never drops the mic or 13 00:00:47.520 --> 00:00:51.759 fiddles with anything while while she's answering you as opposed 14 00:00:51.759 --> 00:00:55.479 to the real McCoy and what and what she just did? 15 00:00:55.560 --> 00:00:59.479 But I wanted to start off today talking about weddings. 16 00:01:00.039 --> 00:01:03.280 Yeah, well we have to a big, big wedding. 17 00:01:03.920 --> 00:01:05.879 There is a big, big wedding to talk about. But 18 00:01:05.879 --> 00:01:09.799 before we talk about that big big wedding, Aja, I 19 00:01:09.959 --> 00:01:13.519 know that you have to have been to some big 20 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:15.000 Hollywood weddings. 21 00:01:14.680 --> 00:01:15.439 You know it's funny. 22 00:01:15.719 --> 00:01:19.599 Well, yeah, I was at the drummer for bon Jovi. 23 00:01:19.760 --> 00:01:21.640 Tico tourist is a friend of mine. I went to 24 00:01:21.719 --> 00:01:25.439 his wedding, which was on the beach in New Jersey 25 00:01:25.879 --> 00:01:29.319 with the fireworks of the ocean and bon Jovi playing, 26 00:01:29.359 --> 00:01:32.280 and I'm dancing with Cindy Crawford and Naomi Campbell. 27 00:01:32.599 --> 00:01:34.840 That was phenomenal back and I think ninety six. 28 00:01:35.680 --> 00:01:39.040 But it sucked because I knew that Chico's wife, the 29 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:44.760 supermodel Ava Herzekova, was cheating on him with Leonardo DiCaprio. 30 00:01:44.640 --> 00:01:46.680 And I didn't. 31 00:01:46.840 --> 00:01:49.239 I waited until the wedding was over. I waited like 32 00:01:49.280 --> 00:01:51.680 a month, and I said, listen, bro, I know this. 33 00:01:51.920 --> 00:01:53.920 I feel awful telling you this, but I know this 34 00:01:54.000 --> 00:01:56.560 is going on. And then they split up. 35 00:01:57.040 --> 00:01:57.599 Oh god. 36 00:01:57.599 --> 00:01:59.959 And then he spent about four months on my buddy's cat, 37 00:02:00.480 --> 00:02:02.519 even though he had a big loft and soho. He 38 00:02:02.560 --> 00:02:05.760 stayed with us, you know, got back to drinking. We 39 00:02:05.840 --> 00:02:08.719 cleaned him up. It threw him for a loop. But 40 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:10.639 what a beautiful wedding that was, man. 41 00:02:11.439 --> 00:02:14.039 I bet now is it a myth? Did they ever 42 00:02:14.199 --> 00:02:17.439 do the If anyone here knows of any reason that 43 00:02:17.520 --> 00:02:19.960 this man and this woman shouldn't be joined, you know, 44 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:23.560 we meant they should stand up and speak now or forever. 45 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:25.599 Hold your piece did that ever really go on? 46 00:02:25.960 --> 00:02:27.759 No, I didn't. Well I didn't go to the church. 47 00:02:27.840 --> 00:02:30.400 We just went to the party after it at the 48 00:02:30.439 --> 00:02:33.120 house at the mansion in New Jersey. But yeah, I 49 00:02:33.159 --> 00:02:35.000 asked one of his friends. I said, look, I know 50 00:02:35.080 --> 00:02:37.120 this is going on. She goes, just wait till the 51 00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:40.120 wedding's over, because you know they spent the fortune. 52 00:02:39.800 --> 00:02:42.159 On Yeah, the flower, the flower is the caterer. I mean, 53 00:02:42.199 --> 00:02:45.680 you can't the fact that he's he's like banging whoever. 54 00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:48.680 You leave that out of it until yeah, it's a 55 00:02:48.680 --> 00:02:50.879 big party, the band has been hired. You know. Yeah, 56 00:02:50.919 --> 00:02:52.080 you can't do we can't back out. 57 00:02:52.439 --> 00:02:55.159 I went to a huge wedding with I forget his 58 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:58.919 last name, very a billionaire, the guy that that the 59 00:02:59.039 --> 00:03:03.159 stock you know, the what's the called the Intercontinental cable 60 00:03:03.199 --> 00:03:06.039 that gave access of the Internet to Europe. I forget 61 00:03:06.080 --> 00:03:08.840 his last name, but his daughter, his son married my 62 00:03:08.919 --> 00:03:13.400 wife's friend benly Hills Hotel, gigantic wedding, three day affair, 63 00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:17.599 big party in bel Air, his mansion. That was sensational. 64 00:03:17.840 --> 00:03:20.680 But this Lawrence Sanchez and Jeff Bezos thing is on 65 00:03:20.759 --> 00:03:22.439 a whole, It. 66 00:03:22.400 --> 00:03:25.400 Is totally off the hook. Well, you know, I don't 67 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:30.280 think you could attend the wood ceremony in Palm Beach 68 00:03:30.360 --> 00:03:34.599 Gardens a couple of years ago. That was just a 69 00:03:34.759 --> 00:03:39.639 slightly lower scale than the Bezos bash, but people in 70 00:03:39.680 --> 00:03:41.439 these parts were talking about it for months. 71 00:03:42.240 --> 00:03:44.719 Mike, I'm not a big fan of big weddings. I 72 00:03:44.719 --> 00:03:47.639 have a reason for that. I think you're self employed 73 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:51.120 on that type of ceremonies, because, yeah, it's very good 74 00:03:51.159 --> 00:03:54.719 for everybody who has attended their cash, but sometimes you 75 00:03:54.879 --> 00:03:55.800 see people. 76 00:03:55.599 --> 00:03:56.719 Whom you don't even know. 77 00:03:57.240 --> 00:04:00.919 So in our case, it existed on something cash, especially 78 00:04:00.960 --> 00:04:04.879 when I can't invite my own mom who's living overseas. 79 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:08.000 And I wanted it to be natural. I wanted to 80 00:04:08.039 --> 00:04:10.800 be authentic, I wanted to be home. I wanted to 81 00:04:10.840 --> 00:04:14.240 be friendly, and there were like seventy people. 82 00:04:13.960 --> 00:04:16.279 And I think it's more than enough. Of course, not 83 00:04:16.360 --> 00:04:17.240 in the bestest case. 84 00:04:17.360 --> 00:04:20.160 He has a wider group of people around, so that's different, 85 00:04:20.680 --> 00:04:23.560 but we will talk about that. I'm not sure Italians, 86 00:04:23.920 --> 00:04:27.480 with their passion to life and their desire freedom, were 87 00:04:27.639 --> 00:04:29.439 very pleasant and happy about it. 88 00:04:30.120 --> 00:04:36.560 Well, let me tell you something about Italians. Italians. Have 89 00:04:36.639 --> 00:04:40.639 you ever been to like a big connected Italian wedding, 90 00:04:40.800 --> 00:04:44.360 like you know, ring kissing going on, and all the 91 00:04:44.879 --> 00:04:45.680 big envelopes. 92 00:04:45.879 --> 00:04:48.160 You get the envelope, the big en envelope. 93 00:04:47.720 --> 00:04:51.040 I mean, I mean, there's a custom in America, I 94 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:55.199 think mainly Italians where you make your way around the 95 00:04:55.240 --> 00:04:57.439 tables to see all your guests at some point and 96 00:04:57.759 --> 00:05:01.319 everybody hands you an envelope, a care or check, but 97 00:05:01.360 --> 00:05:03.920 the mobsters give you cash and it's called a busta 98 00:05:04.160 --> 00:05:06.800 because it's like a bag. The bride holds a silk 99 00:05:06.879 --> 00:05:08.839 bag and you put all the checks and the cash 100 00:05:08.879 --> 00:05:11.319 in the bag. And after the wedding you counted and 101 00:05:11.360 --> 00:05:12.920 then you go to the bank and you deposit it 102 00:05:12.920 --> 00:05:15.160 and you go on your honeymoon. But yeah, that's it's 103 00:05:15.199 --> 00:05:17.199 a very different kind of thing. But I had a 104 00:05:17.199 --> 00:05:19.800 big wedding when I was first married, two hundred people, 105 00:05:20.199 --> 00:05:22.040 one hundred and fifty. And then I got married the 106 00:05:22.040 --> 00:05:24.959 second time in a restaurant, you know, maybe forty of 107 00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:28.279 my friends, forty of my family. Both of them were great. 108 00:05:30.120 --> 00:05:32.199 It was that was New York City, a boom in Soho, 109 00:05:32.279 --> 00:05:34.480 which is where I was back then. We had loved it, 110 00:05:34.519 --> 00:05:37.319 I mean, I loved each one. But the big weddings 111 00:05:37.399 --> 00:05:40.079 I think they're over, are they. I haven't been in 112 00:05:40.120 --> 00:05:43.120 touch with people in New York or New Jersey. Do 113 00:05:43.199 --> 00:05:45.199 they still do the two hundred people weddings? 114 00:05:45.240 --> 00:05:46.480 Oh yeah, oh yeah. 115 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:50.680 Oh yes they do and a few of them for sure. 116 00:05:50.839 --> 00:05:53.839 For sure you. 117 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:55.959 Had you had a big wedding the first time, did you. 118 00:05:57.160 --> 00:06:00.439 We had a big wedding both times. All times have 119 00:06:00.519 --> 00:06:04.360 pretty big weddings. Because my second marriage was my wife's first, 120 00:06:04.439 --> 00:06:07.360 and so that was a That was an interesting wedding 121 00:06:07.399 --> 00:06:12.480 in Jackson, Mississippi, where all the Italians descended on Jackson, 122 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:18.279 which was interesting. But my wife, the first time she 123 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:22.800 went to an Italian wedding was just like, She's like, Mike, 124 00:06:23.160 --> 00:06:25.959 I don't I don't understand. What's what's with the starting lineups? 125 00:06:26.680 --> 00:06:29.480 I go, I'm like, what are you talking about? It's 126 00:06:29.519 --> 00:06:34.959 just Italian weddings arena. Oftentimes, they will do a thing 127 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:39.439 where the band leader will announce the wedding party, so 128 00:06:39.519 --> 00:06:42.800 each of the bride'smaids and groomsmen get their names announced 129 00:06:42.800 --> 00:06:44.920 and come walking up and then finally they do you know, 130 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:47.680 the big crescendo when they introduced the bride and groom 131 00:06:47.759 --> 00:06:51.279 for the first time as they're entering their reception. Well, yeah, 132 00:06:51.439 --> 00:06:55.360 my wife calls that the starting lineups, and she thinks 133 00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:59.040 it's the tackiest thing ever, and that from start to finish, 134 00:06:59.360 --> 00:07:03.600 Italian wedding things are just unbelievably tacky, you know, you know, 135 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:07.399 and may your first son, first child be a masculine 136 00:07:08.199 --> 00:07:12.920 So but this was a different kind of Italian wedding, 137 00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:13.519 right you know. 138 00:07:13.800 --> 00:07:17.800 You know, guys, I'm sure nobody did, including our listeners today, 139 00:07:18.040 --> 00:07:18.800 what I did? 140 00:07:18.920 --> 00:07:21.279 You know how many people I had on my original 141 00:07:21.319 --> 00:07:26.680 wedding for the first marriage two true which is yeah, 142 00:07:26.680 --> 00:07:28.399 which is me and my ex husband. 143 00:07:28.399 --> 00:07:30.120 Do you know how many people I had on my 144 00:07:30.240 --> 00:07:34.399 original wedding in the second case hopefully lost? 145 00:07:35.160 --> 00:07:40.040 Well, well said, oh, because you were, because you were 146 00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:42.720 officially married before we did the ceremony, right, Well. 147 00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:47.360 There were different reasons for both, you know occasions, and 148 00:07:47.399 --> 00:07:50.560 definitely for the first time, it was kind of I 149 00:07:50.639 --> 00:07:52.439 had to do what I had to do because my 150 00:07:52.680 --> 00:07:54.800 first husband kind of pushed me and he said, oh 151 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:57.800 we do it now, we do it never, And I said. 152 00:07:58.120 --> 00:07:59.279 How romantic of him. 153 00:08:00.720 --> 00:08:04.680 It was a lot of beautiful moments. But that's that's 154 00:08:04.680 --> 00:08:06.839 why I believe in carmac relationship. 155 00:08:06.920 --> 00:08:09.839 And we have to develop gratitude to whatever happened to 156 00:08:09.879 --> 00:08:10.360 you in life. 157 00:08:10.639 --> 00:08:12.720 He gave me a lot of spiritual knowledge. That was 158 00:08:12.759 --> 00:08:13.639 the way to survive. 159 00:08:13.720 --> 00:08:15.680 But do you remember, okay, but you were, I'm sorry. 160 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:18.560 Remember the stress of putting together in the mere at 161 00:08:18.560 --> 00:08:20.959 the weddings, and the bands and the food and the 162 00:08:21.040 --> 00:08:23.800 caring hole. It was so stressful. This went on for 163 00:08:23.839 --> 00:08:26.240 at least a year to get everything done right. 164 00:08:26.759 --> 00:08:32.639 Look, the dumbest, the dumbest thing ever is the dragging 165 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:37.039 of the husband to all of these places to make 166 00:08:37.080 --> 00:08:40.360 the decison. Could I give a flying f about what 167 00:08:40.519 --> 00:08:44.840 are china or silverware or whatever looks like? But you 168 00:08:44.919 --> 00:08:47.240 have to go. You have to go. It's like your 169 00:08:47.279 --> 00:08:50.000 first test, as it would be, husband, is you know 170 00:08:50.159 --> 00:08:52.159 are you obedient enough. 171 00:08:52.039 --> 00:08:55.159 To you know? 172 00:08:55.240 --> 00:09:00.519 I can't take it. The silverware somewhere china you very 173 00:09:00.679 --> 00:09:03.399 rarely used. It stays in your cabinet, your hutch, whatever 174 00:09:03.440 --> 00:09:05.840 you call it. It's just a waste of money. Like 175 00:09:05.879 --> 00:09:08.799 the first time I got married, wonderful, My in laws 176 00:09:08.840 --> 00:09:12.039 were great, beautiful wedding. My wife's parents paid for it. 177 00:09:12.399 --> 00:09:15.519 And then the second time my wife got well, we 178 00:09:15.519 --> 00:09:17.759 were dating and she was pregnant, and in the car, 179 00:09:17.919 --> 00:09:20.480 I said to her we got to get married. And 180 00:09:20.519 --> 00:09:22.679 then instantly, in like two weeks we were in New 181 00:09:22.759 --> 00:09:25.320 York City getting married. It was it was so easy. 182 00:09:25.440 --> 00:09:27.000 But the first time, what stress? 183 00:09:27.159 --> 00:09:27.639 My God? 184 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:31.240 And my wife still will do something like you're with 185 00:09:31.360 --> 00:09:35.080 a couple whatever, somebody's over and you're talking and and 186 00:09:35.159 --> 00:09:41.759 somehow the like China pattern comes up and it'll be like, Mike, 187 00:09:41.799 --> 00:09:45.120 you remember what China pattern we have? Right, And it'll 188 00:09:45.159 --> 00:09:48.120 be like, uh, yeah, Shanghai. I mean, what the fuck? 189 00:09:48.519 --> 00:09:50.519 How do I know what China pattern we have? And 190 00:09:50.559 --> 00:09:54.039 she'll give me. How could you not pay? But we've 191 00:09:54.080 --> 00:09:56.799 had it for twenty six years. I mean we eat 192 00:09:56.840 --> 00:09:59.360 on it every Thanksgiving and every grade. You don't know 193 00:09:59.399 --> 00:10:02.480 what the no, I didn't know it and I didn't 194 00:10:02.480 --> 00:10:05.440 pay any attention the day you picked it out and 195 00:10:05.759 --> 00:10:08.039 asked me to not an approval like I gave a 196 00:10:08.120 --> 00:10:11.320 flying yet. But I mean, it's just it's just the 197 00:10:11.360 --> 00:10:15.039 price you pay of you know. But actually the one 198 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:17.960 person I can't that I know that I can't picture 199 00:10:18.039 --> 00:10:20.399 tolerating any other is Kenny. 200 00:10:20.519 --> 00:10:21.080 Of course not. 201 00:10:21.879 --> 00:10:24.480 But you didn't make him do any of that, right, No, No, 202 00:10:24.679 --> 00:10:27.279 I think, yeah, I was born in a woman's body, 203 00:10:27.399 --> 00:10:30.039 but I think I think a lot like a man 204 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:32.440 because I can't explain it. 205 00:10:32.519 --> 00:10:35.840 I never cared about it. Good I was eleven years old, 206 00:10:36.120 --> 00:10:39.639 I have been on the wedding of my aunt. I 207 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:40.480 looked at all this. 208 00:10:40.639 --> 00:10:43.879 It was in the Crimea, it was organized in the castle. 209 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:46.600 It was so beautiful and. 210 00:10:46.559 --> 00:10:49.799 So hot and so tiring in the middle of the summer. 211 00:10:49.960 --> 00:10:52.279 I looked at it when I was eleven years old, 212 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:56.279 and I said, what's that? And after I went to 213 00:10:56.320 --> 00:10:59.279 the second wedding when I was thirteen years old, and 214 00:10:59.320 --> 00:11:01.919 it was so hot and I was sweating, and I 215 00:11:02.000 --> 00:11:03.039 was so tired, and. 216 00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:05.519 I had no idea what these adults were doing. 217 00:11:05.320 --> 00:11:09.679 While they were drinking for three days, frozen and changing outfits. 218 00:11:09.879 --> 00:11:12.240 And when I was a child, I already put it 219 00:11:12.279 --> 00:11:16.200 into my mind that for me, marriage it's kind you know, 220 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:18.039 the whole process of it. 221 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:18.720 It's tired. 222 00:11:19.159 --> 00:11:20.960 So you know, if you want to get married, you 223 00:11:21.039 --> 00:11:23.000 have to get very tired for a few days. 224 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:23.720 And I don't know. 225 00:11:23.759 --> 00:11:26.879 It was everything against me, like inside is against me. 226 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:29.639 I can explain it. I look at the magazine. We 227 00:11:30.159 --> 00:11:32.960 are beautiful, it's sunning. I know days of your life. 228 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:34.039 You remember it forever. 229 00:11:34.120 --> 00:11:38.120 It's nice. I'm happy for people, but I never pictured 230 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:38.919 it for myself. 231 00:11:39.440 --> 00:11:42.480 No were you were you in love? You were in 232 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:45.600 love the first time you got married, right of course 233 00:11:45.679 --> 00:11:50.679 every time. Okay, well, okay, I was assuming the second. 234 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:52.840 I didn't know if there was some kind of. 235 00:11:53.879 --> 00:11:57.840 Uh and this way, when you're twenty three and when 236 00:11:57.879 --> 00:12:01.639 you're thirty five and you're meetings, they are not two 237 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:05.399 different loves. Yeah, probably two different loves what you see 238 00:12:06.320 --> 00:12:08.759 under the determination of what love. 239 00:12:08.720 --> 00:12:11.320 Is for you. When you're twenty three, you're waiting for 240 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:15.600 the Prince Charmond, who are illusional. You don't know the life, 241 00:12:15.639 --> 00:12:16.679 You don't know yourself. 242 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:20.159 You just dream about getting married, having kids, you know, 243 00:12:20.279 --> 00:12:22.600 live with this partner all the rest of your life. 244 00:12:23.240 --> 00:12:25.600 When you were thirty five and you're meeting your partner, 245 00:12:25.639 --> 00:12:28.559 and actually I wasn't dreaming about getting married again. I 246 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:32.000 was dreaming about meeting my destiny. And I prayed for that. 247 00:12:32.080 --> 00:12:34.600 I manifested that. I'm probably you know, like I did 248 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:37.840 a lot of things. And I consider Kenny to be 249 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:41.440 my soulmate and in my other half, and we are 250 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:44.519 happy to get thank God. So I never when I 251 00:12:44.519 --> 00:12:49.600 looked at him, it was quiet. It was understandable. It 252 00:12:49.679 --> 00:12:51.320 was mutual, reciprocal. 253 00:12:51.519 --> 00:12:51.679 You know. 254 00:12:51.759 --> 00:12:54.279 It was not like, wow, you know we have to 255 00:12:54.279 --> 00:12:58.320 get married now. No, it was like kind of thank 256 00:12:58.320 --> 00:12:59.000 god we met. 257 00:12:59.320 --> 00:13:02.000 Well, do you believe I'm sorry, go ahead, not just 258 00:13:02.039 --> 00:13:02.519 real quick. 259 00:13:02.720 --> 00:13:05.600 You know, when we were younger, we all got married, Me, Mike, 260 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:06.639 and Kenny the first time. 261 00:13:06.679 --> 00:13:08.480 But I was eighty six. You were like eighty six 262 00:13:08.559 --> 00:13:09.200 or eighty five. 263 00:13:09.639 --> 00:13:12.200 Six, all of us the same year, and I remember 264 00:13:12.440 --> 00:13:15.759 our parents were pushing for it. Like, my daughter turned 265 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:18.600 twenty one today, the last thing in my mind is 266 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:20.559 her getting married or me trying to tell her you 267 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:21.320 ought to find a man. 268 00:13:21.919 --> 00:13:23.440 Why did our parents think that way? 269 00:13:23.639 --> 00:13:30.240 Happy birthday rocks. Yeah, well mine wasn't mine. Mine wasn't. No, No, 270 00:13:30.360 --> 00:13:32.240 my father was like, what the fuck are you doing? 271 00:13:35.759 --> 00:13:39.240 He was very much like that, Oh really, yeah, I thought. 272 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:40.759 It took me to the city to get a ring 273 00:13:40.799 --> 00:13:44.120 and the diamonds Center downtown on Canal Street. He was like, yeah, 274 00:13:44.120 --> 00:13:47.320 you gotta do that, and I just followed along, and uh, 275 00:13:47.360 --> 00:13:49.200 you know, last of five years, she was a great 276 00:13:49.279 --> 00:13:52.039 She's a great chick. I still talked to Jennifer she's wonderful, 277 00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:54.759 But I don't know. They just felt like it was 278 00:13:54.799 --> 00:13:58.080 time to get married. That that other generation. Maybe not 279 00:13:58.120 --> 00:14:00.480 your dad, but most of those older people wanted their 280 00:14:00.559 --> 00:14:03.159 kids to get off and start having a kid married. 281 00:14:03.480 --> 00:14:06.080 Well, we were all too young. And now it's the 282 00:14:06.159 --> 00:14:09.759 pendulum swung probably too much the other way where now 283 00:14:10.159 --> 00:14:13.679 it's getting delayed so late that it's really having an 284 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:19.639 impact on population. But you, you were definitely in a 285 00:14:19.759 --> 00:14:23.360 much better position in life to choose a husband the 286 00:14:23.399 --> 00:14:25.799 second time around than you were the first time. 287 00:14:25.879 --> 00:14:29.480 Right here, Sure, yeah, I think it was nice, smooth 288 00:14:29.559 --> 00:14:32.360 and quiet, and I'm happy that it was so and 289 00:14:32.399 --> 00:14:36.039 no pressure. And you guys were what married first time? 290 00:14:36.159 --> 00:14:39.000 Eighty five eighty six? So I was born at eighty seven. 291 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:41.879 But I saw the part of the culture because my 292 00:14:41.919 --> 00:14:45.159 mom she was married when she was eighteen. My oh, 293 00:14:45.240 --> 00:14:50.279 my grandmother seventeen, my mom eighteen, So kind supposedly I 294 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:53.720 should have been married by nineteen because in my culture 295 00:14:53.720 --> 00:14:54.480 it's all the same. 296 00:14:54.559 --> 00:14:54.720 You know. 297 00:14:54.799 --> 00:14:57.000 I came from South so a few great and people 298 00:14:57.039 --> 00:15:01.519 are very traditional, and you know, I unfollowed old traditions 299 00:15:01.559 --> 00:15:04.360 about the kids, about the marriages because I got the 300 00:15:04.360 --> 00:15:08.759 worst first time after nine months, and I think it's 301 00:15:08.759 --> 00:15:13.039 more important to find your person that matters all the celebration. 302 00:15:13.159 --> 00:15:16.519 You can celebrate life every day for yourself, yeah, for sure. 303 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:19.960 But I understand when people do it because they believe 304 00:15:20.039 --> 00:15:24.240 they do it once. That not always happens, you know. 305 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:28.159 But I like the believer. I like the idea that 306 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:30.399 people have their focus. 307 00:15:30.799 --> 00:15:33.679 No, it's why I see these videos on Instagram. 308 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:35.480 I don't know how I got to this, but you 309 00:15:35.559 --> 00:15:40.279 go countries like India or Pakistan, and these these older 310 00:15:40.360 --> 00:15:44.279 men will have like ten year old brides Muslim countries, 311 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:51.120 and there's a crazy channel on Instagram where these young 312 00:15:51.200 --> 00:15:53.879 girls will faint because they don't they don't see the 313 00:15:53.919 --> 00:15:55.720 men until their wedding day and all of a. 314 00:15:55.679 --> 00:15:58.480 Sudden, oh, she turns to a right, there's. 315 00:15:58.360 --> 00:16:02.799 This old man and she goestans like it's such a sin. 316 00:16:03.039 --> 00:16:06.159 These young girls are getting married to old men ten 317 00:16:06.240 --> 00:16:07.120 eleven years old. 318 00:16:07.840 --> 00:16:10.440 You want to hear something, So I don't guys, I 319 00:16:10.440 --> 00:16:12.559 don't know if you believe in your past life and 320 00:16:12.600 --> 00:16:13.919 so on incarnations. 321 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:16.200 But I did a lot of regressive hypnosis. 322 00:16:16.240 --> 00:16:19.240 I did a lot of things to investigate my own path. 323 00:16:19.720 --> 00:16:23.440 So I was kind of believing in mister destiny when 324 00:16:23.559 --> 00:16:26.279 before to meet Kenny. But I was scared of marriage 325 00:16:26.279 --> 00:16:29.440 because I had my first disp even working with people 326 00:16:29.480 --> 00:16:29.840 and so on. 327 00:16:29.960 --> 00:16:31.840 We still have our pains. So I had mine. 328 00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:34.799 I go to India. I go to one of the 329 00:16:34.879 --> 00:16:38.480 temples and I couldn't walk in. The guy tells me 330 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:40.840 who was the driver of the bus? Walking walking? I 331 00:16:40.840 --> 00:16:41.519 can't walk in. 332 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:42.360 I feel bad. 333 00:16:42.399 --> 00:16:44.399 He said, we need to put this little thing on you. 334 00:16:44.600 --> 00:16:47.080 Let it protect you from evil. I said, and I 335 00:16:47.120 --> 00:16:49.720 felt so. I can't explain what happened to me. I 336 00:16:49.840 --> 00:16:54.639 was shaken that night in India. Sorry it was Sri Lanka. 337 00:16:54.679 --> 00:16:59.039 It was an idea. So I see myself like in 338 00:16:59.120 --> 00:17:01.879 past life. I was married when I was ten or 339 00:17:01.879 --> 00:17:02.679 eleven something. 340 00:17:02.720 --> 00:17:04.319 Oh, I didn't see. 341 00:17:04.359 --> 00:17:08.400 I never saw my suppose and it was long celebration. 342 00:17:08.960 --> 00:17:11.319 And I feel that the guy doesn't want to get 343 00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:14.039 married too, so we both never met. We don't want 344 00:17:14.079 --> 00:17:16.880 to get married, and I was forced to be married. 345 00:17:17.200 --> 00:17:20.519 So if you believe in past life or something like that, reincornation, 346 00:17:20.920 --> 00:17:22.720 I believe that our fears. 347 00:17:22.279 --> 00:17:25.480 Sometimes come from the post experiences that we don't even 348 00:17:25.519 --> 00:17:26.799 acknowledge in this life. 349 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:30.000 You know, and I felt some kind ofternal from marriages 350 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:32.160 for a long time and big celebrations. 351 00:17:32.359 --> 00:17:33.640 Maybe that's a part of it. 352 00:17:33.720 --> 00:17:36.640 I didn't decode it yet fully, but I hope I 353 00:17:36.640 --> 00:17:37.640 don't need it anymore. 354 00:17:37.680 --> 00:17:39.880 So I don't care. 355 00:17:40.000 --> 00:17:44.480 Well. I wonder what that means happened in Jeff Bezos' 356 00:17:44.880 --> 00:17:48.920 prior life, because it's just so weird to think about 357 00:17:50.279 --> 00:17:55.079 people with so much money that are that are so famous, 358 00:17:55.160 --> 00:18:01.319 that are just you know, so for I just to 359 00:18:01.559 --> 00:18:04.720 turn your wedding into a spectacle, I just don't get. 360 00:18:04.759 --> 00:18:06.400 I don't know why would they want that. 361 00:18:06.839 --> 00:18:07.240 I don't know. 362 00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:11.279 I think it looks so it looked tacky, especially I 363 00:18:11.319 --> 00:18:12.000 was invited to. 364 00:18:11.960 --> 00:18:14.440 Weddings from famous people, and I would tell you, my wife, 365 00:18:14.519 --> 00:18:15.839 why am I gonna go to the I'm not gonna 366 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:17.200 go to I don't know these people. 367 00:18:17.400 --> 00:18:19.680 They just want more people at their at their wedding 368 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:21.160 to seem like it's a bigger event. 369 00:18:21.400 --> 00:18:23.559 I'm not gonna go. I gotta get a gift, I 370 00:18:23.559 --> 00:18:24.960 gotta travel. No, I'm not gonna go. 371 00:18:25.160 --> 00:18:27.279 But these people there, I know there were people there 372 00:18:27.319 --> 00:18:29.440 that they don't even know. Don't tell me they knew 373 00:18:29.559 --> 00:18:31.279 their friends, But I mean, they knew them, but they're 374 00:18:31.279 --> 00:18:33.359 not friends with everybody who went to their wedding. I 375 00:18:33.400 --> 00:18:34.279 refuse to believe that. 376 00:18:35.359 --> 00:18:36.599 How many hundreds of people too? 377 00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:39.400 It was two hundred, it's two hundred, two hundred, Yeah, 378 00:18:39.480 --> 00:18:42.279 it's two hundred. I could believe they're acquainted. 379 00:18:42.599 --> 00:18:45.119 Yeah, that's what I mean. Not close, but they've met. 380 00:18:45.559 --> 00:18:49.680 You know, I just thought it was very tacky when 381 00:18:49.720 --> 00:18:53.559 you consider he's spent fifty million, and his ex wife, 382 00:18:53.960 --> 00:18:57.440 who got thirty eight billion in the divorce, spent I 383 00:18:57.440 --> 00:19:01.880 think nineteen billion dollars on charity the last few years. 384 00:19:01.599 --> 00:19:04.839 Like she gave up half of what she. 385 00:19:04.880 --> 00:19:06.240 Really that's something else. 386 00:19:06.279 --> 00:19:09.799 And this guy's throwing a fifty million dollar wedding to 387 00:19:09.880 --> 00:19:13.000 a woman who well, I know Mike knows more about Lauren, 388 00:19:13.039 --> 00:19:15.880 But I knew Lauren when I first ran around Hollywood. 389 00:19:15.920 --> 00:19:18.839 When I first got here, she was beautiful, sexy, she 390 00:19:19.000 --> 00:19:21.880 was everywhere, always on the move. Fin I'm trying to 391 00:19:21.880 --> 00:19:23.960 find a guy. I knew I wasn't going to get her. 392 00:19:23.960 --> 00:19:26.920 She wanted a different type of man, and she got him. 393 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:29.519 Inn She steadily worked her way up the chain. I 394 00:19:29.559 --> 00:19:32.359 thought Patrick Whitezub would be the tippy top for her, 395 00:19:32.759 --> 00:19:34.440 but no wanted. 396 00:19:34.119 --> 00:19:37.440 More well and shocking that that wasn't enough. So the 397 00:19:37.480 --> 00:19:42.359 first time I met her was our sons went to 398 00:19:42.400 --> 00:19:47.440 the same high school, which doesn't start until freshman year, 399 00:19:47.480 --> 00:19:51.480 and people come from all over LA to go to 400 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:54.839 this school, Loyola, which is an all boys high school. 401 00:19:55.319 --> 00:20:00.279